How come 50% of young men have 0 close friends?

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[@Denmosocial]

Don't worry bro I'll be your friend

[@johnnysunset2740]

We are your friends too Denmo!

[@Imma1077]

I was going to say that my problem is my mental health dives off a cliff then makes a effortful climb up mount everest in cycles. When im on top, i have no problem being social but then because I then have no momentum to keep going I crash.

[@Noname-zv9cz]

"like being bullied or left out" Bro! that was me for most of my life ngl... (im 25) the worst part is being bullied by a few girls during middle school and that hit way harder than anything i could imagine. my self-esteem/confidence went down the drain after that.

[@Noname-zv9cz]

its crazy how the way you grow up (how your brothers and sisters treat you) and your middle school and high school experience really does shape you for the rest of your life, its brutal because you cant change that and makes you wish it was different or wonder why did it have to happen to you or makes you think that you are just an outcast to society and no one wants you or deserve love. BUT it only shapes your life in a negative way IF you let it!

[@raphaeltanguay2955]

none of this people are happy? is a joke? there is no link between not been happy and playing video game.

[@jlr194]

Some people don't even want to socialize these days

[@rookiej5587]

I don't. Socializing actually made me not want many friends. There's hardly good things you could talk to most people. They are superficial, shallow while also believing to be the good ones. Also, the only activity most "friends" do together is getting drunk. I'm good, sorry. I am fine with one or two friends. I'd rather focus on building a family.

[@user-np5pj8rm4q]

​@rookiej5587 man you d know that you literally do biologically right? You need to change your life to live life correctly im sorry.

[@jlr194]

@@rookiej5587 yeah getting drunk does get old, besides it makes you feel like shit in the morning and who needs that, yes, I agree you have to establish yourself first.

[@brianmeen2158]

I mean, if you are a really introverted guy then it’s hard to muster up the motivation to go out and socialize. With the way tech is it’s just too easy to sit home and zoom in on the different topics you like and there’s no small talk! If you go Out somewhere then most conversations are full of small talk.. so I get why certain types don’t like to socialize face to face

[@brianmeen2158]

@@rookiej5587yeah a very important part of many friendships is getting together at a party or bar to have drinks. I realized this after I stopped drinking - I found little reason to go around certain friends as that mutual hobby was no longer there .

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

I invited 3 of my friends and none of them wanted to go bowling. I even offered to pay for everyone

[@user-np5pj8rm4q]

Fucking heartbreaking man I'm sorry.

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

Don’t be sorry. To all the man out there, if you’re in that situation, don’t stop searching.

[@valentinesteenkamp296]

@@coolguycoolguy7267 Those are NOT your friends

[@coolguycoolguy7267]

You’re probably right valentine

[@brianmeen2158]

Yeah if you have to offer to pay for your friends just for them To go either you to do a certain activity then they aren’t really your friends..

[@MikeyMike-bj3dq]

We are so connected yet so isolated

[@Denmosocial]

together we stand divided we fall

[@joshuaortiz2031]

​@@Denmosocial Its not as simple as you say. I have social skills i am socially competent. I used to have many friends ive dated many women. I had a life many guys were envious us. But when my physical and mental health started deteriorating after my time in the military i realized how worthless most of my friends were. They did nothing to help me. They were just users. This is why i don't bother anymore with people. I dont really care about anyone or want anyone around. Most modern humans are garbage the juice is not worth the squeeze it's better to be alone.

[@anthonycanales3060]

I’m 31 and I have zero friends. Single. Work 72+ hours. People are too selfish and egotistical. Just focusing on solidarity and slowly grinding forward.

[@Qdawwg]

Long required working hours just to get by also basically kills social life. I have maybe 1 day a week or 0 to just have free time and I need that time to recover and rest mentally not socialize lol

[@Ultrawide_Gameplays_Channel]

I'm basically the same way. My social circle basically consists of chatting with register workers at stores I'm a regular at, and like schizophrenic homeless people that hang out around those business.

[@BreakingJJC]

Is weird I have friends in South Africa and Kenya and in the western world I have 0 friends most of my Kenyans and South African friend told me to come back and visit

[@MrOmegaRobloxIcon]

A big problem leading to the loneliness is that we think we have to agree with people to hang out with them. Accepting that as people we won’t see eye-to-eye on everything, even if it’s important to you, is massive in maintaining friendships and being open to new ones.

[@anonymous_g001]

Friendships hurt me far more than relationships could ever could.

[@Denmosocial]

make new friends

[@chestnutters9504]

The fuck happened to you? 😅😂

[@ehr1188]

It's basically "friendship hypergamy," and social media impacts friendships similarly to dating. Nowadays, folks size you up pretty quickly, and if you don't exude success-be it wealth, status, or popularity-both men and women do not even bother befriending you. It's quite sad, actually, since the true friendship should be deep and meaningful, not shallow.

[@Gentleman-KnowledgeSeeker]

"friendship hypergamy", is a direct accurate representation

[@zackfakhouri]

Hi Denmo, up from yesterday I took the decision to slowly build up the momentum of being a socializer. Im taking it step by step by for example, highering my voice tone when greeting, greeting the cashier and ask them about their day, greet and compliment people on the gym. Today there was this girl at the bus station i caught her looking at me 2 3 times and i looked at her and smiled but like i think she was too shy that she looked away the moment I looked. Next time I see her Imma try smile again and see if she is open and strike a conversation. One time, two times, three times, later we might go out, or not, who cares. Its about being a socializer, making people feel good and spreading the energy. I am finally freeing myself from the limitation cage called my own thoughts. Big Salutes bro

[@Youngsparky95]

I literally have zero close friends. Not even one. The friends I had all got into relationships and hang out with other guys with girlfriends. I feel so left out. I often think about ending my life. Not a single soul cares about my existence

[@jumpiko4553]

You are recognized, I am certain you will see big change soon, just set aside as much as possible to focus on making YOU happy right now. Do anything that makes you happy and betters yourself. Stop caring about people who don’t care back. You got this 🙂

[@wdl2499]

When you work 10 hours per day plus weekends, leaving home at 7 am and coming back at 8 pm, repeat that for years, you have enough interactions with people at work really so being alone at home is a bliss

[@zaygonslay]

This is me af i don't really have friends and its very depressing alot of the time. Not alone fr cuz I live with my girlfriend and have a son but that doesn't fill up the friendship void. Still alone alot and especially at work. Ive gone out of my way plenty of times and multiple different scenarios but it never works out. Seems like im destined to have no friends man

[@KaeDoggie]

At least you have a gf and and kid. I dont even have that. Its all my doing though. Been abusing weed these last several years. It makes me isolate and do nothing productive. Now im here trying to quit my bad habits and find my tribe.

[@davidisbell8096]

Hmmm I feel you on that too. If you have time, you could always try getting into an interesting hobby and meeting others interested in that hobby. I’m thinking about using social media to find groups like for example, forming bands and making music. But perhaps you could find something that suits you better like biking, hiking, guns. Best of luck to you man, hope you find your clan .🤘🏼

[@DashcamDrenthe]

I have 1 good close friend for over 10 years. I see him every 4-5 weeks. Apart from him, I have a good relationsihp with my brother. I really struggle making new friends, people don't seem to want new friends. They hang on to their old friends and don't let new people in the group.

[@abrahamspolis]

I don't go to school and I work at home. I live in a pretty small city and there are no local clubs or community to join, I really don't know what to do. Also in our country it is not normal to randomly approach strangers.

[@rvt1144]

move

[@abrahamspolis]

@@rvt1144 if only it was that easy XD

[@iw_legendary_sayain2215]

I feel like I was the last generation to be lucky enough to not have this issue. Having a few circle of friends that I’ve been friends with for over a dozen years. Is really something especially since it was spontaneous. Another close circle I have is the one since high school. We all have busy lives but we go out our way to keep in touch. And what I love about my circles is that we’re all like minded people. Which helps us keep each other happy or motivated. I’ve been to their weddings, was made a Godfather, and have seen them grow their families. I’m still single and the odd one out in this sense. But the way keep me sane and happy regardless. I hope you guys take time to cut off social media and learn to live in the moment. Make the uncomfortable, comfortable. This will help you break mental barriers. And hopefully you’ll make new friend circles. You’d be surprised what a simply “Hello, how are you?” can do! Keep yall heads up kings 👑✨ you’re loved and appreciated by this random stranger on the KZbin comment section!

[@Szpareq]

Love when you finally do those videos, not only the girl ones

[@byron9630]

Denmo, appreciate your daily vids as they hit hard. Serious and fun at the same time ! Thank you

[@damyan2825]

Thanks for continuing to make positive content. I feel like I grow every time I watch these videos.

[@commandercaleb_]

I am very blessed as I have 3 male best friends that I’ve known since early childhood. 2 since early school, and one my entire life. They are Godly young men and good people, and I’m very blessed to have 3. A good way to make friends is just find people who have similar interests, the only way to get better socially is to just talk to people. A key is join clubs and find people close to you. Get outside more, clean yourself up, and meet people. It gets better, tough times build strong men. Y’all got this. It’s hard but it will get easier.💪

[@sir.confident]

THIS guy gets me! THIS is exactly what I needed to hear. I just need to be around the right people.

[@ChrisLyon567]

being someone in that boat. No friends in 2020, no friends 2021, no friends 2022, no friends 2023 and 2024. well maybe 1 friend idk if I can use the term "friend" with her anymore as I had sort of cut her off 6 months ago. I won't talk about the details why here, but then I ended up seeing her for the first time in 6 months several weeks ago, and again this past weekend.

[@-DankPanda-]

That’s great that you reconnected with her. Whatever the reasoning be for cutting her off, I’m wishing you the absolute best of luck. Sounds like you need people in your life and I hope you can reconcile with her

[@JoeJunky123]

damn denmo you are on a streak right now. Another great video with the absolute realest real talk keep going with the work ,your words are a helping a lot of young men with opening their eyes on the actual problems

[@Camontheedge]

Honestly this video motivated me to sign up for an improv course. Keep doing what you’re doing, denmo. Thanks for being you! 🔥👀

[@radfoo72]

What I need are healthy routines. I have the creepy crawler syndrome which I think has been negatively effecting my health plus I don't like being pale so when I started this video I popped in some earbuds and went and laid in my backyard in the sun. Feels good man. Thanks for the encouragement!

[@emmanuelbett1373]

Man loneliness is addictive, I've not had any friends since moving to the UK two years ago.

[@unholydiver1095]

Women arent the only ones men nowadays are afraid to approach nowadays. I used to not want to approach anyone. Now that I do, it is seemed as very odd. Or when I walk by and see someone, they take one look at me, and then they glance down at their phone immediately right before I smile and nod to say hi. It is a breath of fresh air when someone is actually looking up and open to respond when I say hi, guy or girl. And even more so when someone actually comes up to me to say hi.

[@reginaldoppenheimer334]

Denmo I love what you’re doing mang!

[@benzinschnueffler187]

During Covid was the time where I build a great friend circle because I just skipped class and went skating with my best friend and play Warzone with my classmates who became great reallife friends after the pandemic (and we all stopped playing videogames)

[@Cee-wj8nv]

Perfect timing 🙏🏽

[@laxislife143]

I had this problem so I just got a girlfriend. Year later and I’m confident she’ll be my wife. Never lonely anymore

[@michalzyrek1457]

Before covid I had about 8 good friends. Nowadays I have 3, maybe 4 good friends that I can rely on. Its so frustrating. I break up with my girlfriend and currently living alone in small apartment. I am trying to make my mindset towards "warrior's" one but Its a hard and lonely way. I helped myself with socializing with not wearing headphones to the gym and interacting with others. And Denmo is totaly right about compliments - just try to compliment another guy at gym and you will see such a honest smile and you can instantly make a new friend.

[@-DankPanda-]

Hang in there. I feel you. Breaking up is never fun either. The warrior mindset is difficult especially when you are alone. We will make it. Keep your head high. You will have good days and bad days. Find the good in life and keep pushing forward. You got this bro

[@valemedina4473]

As a modern girl, I also don't socialize a lot, its the new normal I guess

[@Handler1300]

I was talking to this one girl it was going great, Just as we were about to make it official. She gets sent death threats claiming that she'll be "Skinned" if she Hurts me. I figured out it's this other girl who I'm friends with, Such a rough situation man.

[@wet_mouse420]

The only friend I had after high-school would get stoned and drive everytime we would meet up, so now I have no friends.

[@Retro-beat-em-up-games]

Everything you said i tried ppl don't want new friendships they are too busy with working and comfortable with their own friends

[@jc._.goated]

Keep trying

[@amanrahman8280]

I have signed in for the community need approval

[@Distressed_Asian]

"Do not, under circumstances, depend on a partial feeling." - Miyamoto Musashi

[@get_2nasty526]

Working at a job where you work better then everyone else and feeling like they are afraid to promote you because tattoos thats how i feel but i over do everyday im here and hope for results

[@BlueGamerCast]

I like talking and reconnecting but I dread hanging out I get annoyed easily

[@paperroutedash]

Family >>>> friend ❤

[@Zikriyachking]

Nice one bro

[@leodekleijn7712]

good for pointing this out

[@lollxxd6141]

Lmao i thought i was only one who was suffering through this😅😂

[@AlphaCrucis]

I've good small circles of friends all the way from kinder thru uni. I am still friends with many of them today and love many of them. But... I do prefer being alone to the point where I rarely ever spend time with anyone anymore outside of work. I always declined doing things until nobody bothered to invite me anymore. Simultaneously, I've been depressed all my life. Maybe it is loneliness, but I'm not sure. If that's the problem, it's a big problem since I don't have the desire or motivation to fix it. I feel like I get my "socializing" fix from writing comments online and get exhausted from real conversations, even if I enjoy them. My programming is definitely messed up in several ways...

[@toryntucker4819]

Are people more aggressive/hostile to other people now a days or is it just me overthinking? Great video btw!

[@benjamingraham8640]

I have two close friends don’t talk a lot text atleast 3 times a week. But I make friends where ever I go I’m a very friendly guy.

[@smspelomundo]

We're connected through wireless ropes hoping to connect with anyone who can understand us

[@MrVocalist567]

Dudes in my age group are super insecure. They have narcissistic tendencies and they only latch on if they have something to gain. People are very one-sided these days.

[@-DankPanda-]

The unfortunate reality of life after college is that it is much more difficult to make friends. In college it was so much easier to hang out with people cause you would talk to them at class and make plans for later. Here in the adult world, you’re often surrounded by people who aren’t necessarily you’re type and it just isn’t the same 😔

[@Superbustr]

Loneliness is not a result of not having a friend or not having a spouse. Loneliness is a result of spending too much time alone and isolated. You do not need friends, and more often than not you will drift apart from friends, it's just a piece of life that people need to get used to. The solution simply put is to get out (put yourself out there more), be around more people, speak to more people you don't know, and spend less time alone to feel happier. Some people may need many many hours around people to feel happy but the majority of people will only need a small amount of time in social situations to remain happy.

[@ladsfitnessaustralia4615]

As hard as I try I can't be happy and positive around people, my life is just work 7 days of the week and in today's cost of living there is no other option. If I do get a day off i'm too exhausted to do anything and need to recover ready for another week of hard work.

[@tonyh1345]

I can’t feel basic human emotions, shit’s wild. Been anhedonic for years from past drug abuse and going out, having sex, etc. isn’t stimulating. I could go through peak human experiences and would feel absolutely nothing throughout all of it. Just chasing sheckels at this point but hanging out for the sake of hanging out doesn’t have an uplifting effect on me like it does for others.

[@frediamdy]

I can relate big time

[@viktorstojanovicstt-3145]

i dont know how i always had feeling that they think im enemy when i silent but always... even if its no judgement from them i think i been judged in their heads without tell me

[@viktorstojanovicstt-3145]

even if i say i give 0 f. about it its still everytime in small portions

[@viktorstojanovicstt-3145]

only when i drunk i feel no worry

[@MCEdziits]

Everybody so busy surviving - they don't even have time to hang out.

[@dragonflicksgaming7534]

Hey jack can we get in a call i’m not from america but i got soem great video ideas but i cant upload them but i would love presenting them to you for the greater good of the modern gen

[@-DankPanda-]

I have friends. Some I’m closer to than others and am trying become better friends with those I’m not close to… but in all honesty, if I was constantly in an environment with like minded people that was conducive to me making friends around my age (26), I would absolutely love that. But unfortunately being an adult and having a full time job, I’m just not in that type of environment sadly.

[@thedarwinist672]

Don't worry about saving toxic friends. Give them a few opportunities, but don't invest more than a few days on them. I wasted decades. It's not worth it. It will ruin your life.

[@famousjames9070]

Is it just me or did this thumbnail change like 6 times

[@user-kd9dy6yv2s]

Ya i don't have any friends or life either just work gym KZbin , nonexistent social life kinda y I watch so much KZbin same thing like leaving radio or tv on for your bed he'll even during 8 hour night shift I listen to KZbin for 8 hours people like u even people playing video games cause nice to have someone talking to u

[@IchigoGyuunyu]

Been stabbed in the back or my oldest friends moved on. I'm not gonna bother anymore.

[@warmflash]

I have no friends. It’s over.

[@leodekleijn7712]

no loyalty these days

[@Retro-beat-em-up-games]

It's cool nowadays to flake on ppl and ignore ppl 😢

[@2ndviolin]

I am going to be a hermit when I retire.

[@masteryoflife5133]

Even as someone who is autistic, I desire at least some close friends or friends at all since I haven’t had any since I was 8. I am too nice but only seem to have meaningful conversations once every 2 years and usually about things I am interested in like neuroscience or psychology. I want to work on myself and other people though I so stressed at work that I feel nauseous and tense and sometimes start shaking, I hate loud noises and crowds, I am thinking of quitting my job because I am starting to feel physically I’ll even though I usually have good habits at home if I am not too exhausted that day. I do have a newsletter that is growing slower than a sloth and a website, do push ups in the morning if I don’t sleep in.

[@sleetskate]

i hsve autism and when i do try to talk to people in public i get weird looks even kicked out of a starbucks once

[@DenshaOtoko2]

I have 7 close friends maybe 12 max. But only 3 or 4 maybe 5 want to hang out still.

[@markopetrunic7598]

No one is playing cards anymore.

[@andrewandrew3713]

I hang out with around 5 people max, is that bad?

[@Zadir09]

Friends today aren’t exactly the friends of yesterday. People (Men just as much) that interesting to be honest, most people are so so easy at being influenced and it makes me disgusted with the manner in which we behave to one another (myself included) today. People can not hold conversation about anything abstract, not bad people ot dumb people; just not worth the time of making the friendship. Whatever makes you more successful and satisfied

[@bobosc20y20]

Looking at your picture rehearses the idea of you being the white version of the chocolate rain dude

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

My best friend killed him self when his POS wife wanted a divorce and he couldn’t handle that and being away from his son. I have one somewhat close friend that I regularly talk too. After that just acquaintances. Im 42 and raise my two kids on my own so not a lot of time to do much dating or finding new friendships. Life is pretty quiet welcome to the new world.

[@Pandora234able]

It’s not impossible but if you’re poorer, autistic, etc. it makes it astronomically difficult

[@mattmurdock9041]

How attractive do you have to be to have women approaching you first?

[@Retro-beat-em-up-games]

I made friends but they move out of province or lose interest in 6 months to a year

[@osiamelebogo]

Idk about y'all but i met two of my best friends last year

[@twixxtro]

shout out to the government who promotes the elimination of the nuclear family

[@flavio888]

I have Zero friend for 12 years 😑 i don't know what close friend is 😔

[@Ye7l]

I have zero friends smh

[@Nepthu]

I joined a bjj gym and made more friends than ever. Ive never been so popular. ❤

[@erembourjager]

Anyone from Philly, and like to party?

[@Crimson_Builder]

I just don't like people bro simple as that I have a loving gf and family thats all I need people wise

[@frankrizzo5262]

Pretty sure the 70% divorce rate may have something to do with men being alone

[@danb5944]

Its ok too not have freinds..you will be asked too go out usually involving drinking maybe drugs but always some drama..people are annoying better off focus on yourself your family and maybe 1 or two freinds is enough

[@kevinhernandez4830]

I’m too focused on my successes to waste my time on low class people

[@davidisbell8096]

Hahaha holy fook this is hilarious

[@TopTierThomas]

I'll talk frrr

[@silentalpha4141]

Im 31 and dont have close friend

[@doktor3196]

I got close friends so eh.

[@Lanakila23]

Reply if you like denmo and want to be friends

[@Denmosocial]

ill be your friend buddy

[@Retro-beat-em-up-games]

0 friends where do you go from here bro?

[@prplguy8509]

So true :'(

[@prplguy8509]

I am fucked

[@Drian12_1-pn3oi]

Recession and inflation on every aspect of life. At this rate WW3 happening?

[@kenandrieling5885]

Most of your friends are backstabbers

[@carnage3004]

😢

[@bennoreuter4393]

1:23 YOU don't make me feel good.

Who can you trust these days?

[@justsomemustachewithoutagu7644]

once again I'm criminally early

[@xshadowscreamx]

Just rise and grind and buy some crypto, baby. Door dash gig then hit the gym, wipe the sigma sweat off to do some other gig job after picking up that new delivery of that new poster print that you liked online. Put that print on that one final space left on the wall among all the other synthwave/videogame/vaporwave art prints.

[@mariohadzi]

Shmovid ? 4:52 :'D whaat ?

[@rik9833]

20:23 fr