How Dating Works For African American Men Living in Uganda| EP. 192

[@zranweadeyein2194]

Great discussion. I'm glad to see brothas from the US getting together and talking about their experiences abroad. At around the 39 minute mark Jason talks about switching to native language in his presence being disrespectful. I think that is common in our community, but people usually aren't talking about you. Nor are they always purposefully trying to exclude you. Probably due to our traumatic experiences in America, from outside and within, we're sometimes concerned about the "set up" "okeydoke" etc. I would suggest that if he has time, to engage a local language tutor. Adding someone who has lived abroad and has status to your expat transition team could be helpful. Learning some basic conversation: greetings, market transactions, basic action verbs, and the like could help with any insecurities. My tutor here in China was able to translate meetings at the bank and other government offices and give me cultural insights as a local intermediary. Overall, it's great to see brothas understanding that it's TEAM sport. Thanks for reading and continue the great work. Cheers

[@ruqayyahcurtis7504]

Oshay is too mesmerized by beauty! That is a weakness that will knock you out. ❤❤❤

[@RyanFagan_RealEstate]

These are my favorite podcasts on the internet I’ve learned so much and it’s a big reason why I came to Kenya 🇰🇪

[@kimerapatricia3371]

This show is captivating! 😂 Joan is right. Ugandan women are taught how to treat men at a young age..

[@jaynewanjira3541]

Agreed. Kenyans too. At least old school Kenyan women. But I think it's with a lot of African traditional women that teach their African daughters that. They prepare them early. I grew around aunts, my mother's sisters who treated their husbands really well. My mom too did the housewifely thing even though she was working too. So I grew around that in Kenya. And I am old school so when I dated a black American man he was shocked at how I catered to him, but it was very natural cause I have never known anything different. So you are very right.

[@gerrytushh]

Yes, Ugandan girls in central and some other regions of the country traditionally start "pulling" (prepare their "body" for sex) at 12 or 13 years of age

[@jaynewanjira3541]

One of your guests that said when she has Ugandans in his house and they switch to a Ugandan language, while they do that cause they have been speaking that language for decades as kids, you don't get to tell them to speak to each other in English cause they are not used to speaking it with each other as friends even though they know how to speak English. Like for example we have slang in Nairobi Kenya and as a 70s baby we were among the first sheng as we call it or street slang growing up. And being in America and having ex boyfriend visiting me, my childhood friend calls my phone and I pick up and I switch to the slang cause that is what am comfortable speaking to her in since our childhood. Has nothing to do with anything. Just like many black Americans have their street slang and if a person from another country is not familiar with black American street slang they will not get what you are talking about. Imagine me telling you that everytime your boys come over or call you, that you have to speak in proper English so I can understand every word. That wouldn't make any sense. So your guest requiring her girl friend or friend to speak English with her Ugandan friend and not their street language or Ugandan language is weird. I don't agree with that. Just let people be the same way you want to be let to be as an American. Geez. smh. Not everyone is talking about you every time like fr.

[@kdunc41]

I have a fiance in Uganda. I will be heading there in August. I hope to see you guys.

[@Assata_X_The_Writer]

Beautiful studio makeover.

[@CD-ew8wz]

Great stuff..... I didnt plan on watching the whole thing, but I did. We all see the world not how it is, but how we are. BUNANGE!!! Learning the lanuage should always be your top priority. Make it happen.

[@gerrytushh]

Right on, you're getting the language thing. It's actually "BANANGE"😅 ✌🏽

[@trueserenityone]

As an African American married to a Ugandan I will say there are definitely some challenges as far as ways of resolving conflict and doing business with one another. Two completely different cultures trying to blend. My husband will be coming to the US and we will return to Uganda together. I was there for a month in Feb 2021 which I was able to observe some of the cultural differences. I have mad respect for Ugandans but i also feel they need more exposure to the world outside of Uganda in order to build a different perspective on things and to be more open minded. I was cracking up so many times listening to Oshay and Master Gabs.. 😊😂

[@imhotep1613]

This is interesting. I am an african from Congo living in north America and I would really like to see Ugandans getting themselves some exposure to the outside world as you mentioned. Now My question is : Are you including Americans ( Blacks & White) to that outside exposure as well or its just ugands ? Are Black Americans more exposed to the world compared to the rest of africans ?

[@trueserenityone]

@@imhotep1613 I can't speak for all Africans, but yes, absolutely Ugandans need more exposure. I see a lot of narrow mindedness that prevents them from seeing things in a different perspective. They hold on to how they were raised and tend to not be open to anything different which keeps them boxed in. My husband is open minded like me and that's why we can communicate so well. Neither one of us are religious tho we both were exposed to the same religions. He has moved away from those beliefs that no longer serve him and remains open. The only way we can learn to work together is to remain open minded and agree to disagree to come to a common ground.

[@imhotep1613]

@trueserenityone unfortunately you haven't answered my question . Would you mind reading my previous comment again and looking for the word " African Americans "

[@trueserenityone]

@@imhotep1613 if you’re asking for my opinion if “Black Americans “ are more exposed I would say yes to a degree because environments and culture differ greatly and the exposure to different things is limited to a large degree more so in Africa. For example, my step son is enrolled in a brand new medical billing program that has just arrived in Uganda but I completed this same type of course in the early 90s. I am constantly showing my spouse things that has never been seen in Uganda 🤷🏽‍♀️ so that’s my answer to you sir.✨ Be blessed

[@imhotep1613]

@trueserenityone I see. Honestly, I'm speechless about your claim saying that Black Americans are more exposed to the outside world than Ugandans 🤭🤭. I don't want to offend you but I think you are getting confused with interacting with people from different nationalities living in the USA as America is a multicultural country with being cultured in terms of knowing more what's going on outside of your country or your country . Are you serious? With these same black Americans asking us ( africans) if we live on trees , alongside lions, etc. These same black Americans who can't differentiate a country from a continent? These are some black Americans who can't name more than 5 countries in the world ? In which world do you live in to have the courage to compare us ( africans ) in terms of being exposed to the outside world with African Americans ? If you knew what we think about you ( AA ), you wouldn't have had the courage to write that comment . Anyway ,I'm laughing 😃

[@priscillarwandarugali3958]

We live in a communal society and unlike other countries where people are only accountable to themselves. We are accountable to eachother. Marriages are communal and most traditional marriages are conducted between families and not the individuals in love. So you don't get to pick and choose when your community will be involved.

[@switzjon8405]

America is a culture of individualism. Some have witnessed the horrors of collectivism. Outside of the West we need to understand Collective is what most of the world practice.

[@hellmanksingh7967]

Empathy helps to build trust and understanding.

[@jesse-mb5go]

Great video. I love Kenganda shows, very insightful

[@carlforpresidentanthony4574]

great show

[@Kenganda]

hey bro thanks!

[@trueserenityone]

I love the new set up! Great show Kenganda 🇺🇬

[@Kenganda]

thanks so much

[@medjayalbaobab2003]

"ANOTHER ONE"✅ Thanx for the positive vibes,I needed this specially today because I'm mentally exhausted from learning on daily basis about young people that I used to be good friend with getting slaughtered in that senseless civil war and it's making me feel guilty to have fled overseas because I could financially whereas others couldn't.I mean it's though right now but you already know. Anyhow thanks again to bro Oshay and all the Kenganda team.Keep it up with the good work peace✌🏿💯❤️🌍

[@Kenganda]

when u coming down negro!

[@eujinlee9936]

It is true that a lot of African American men lose their temper over nothing, they need some inner healing

[@elijahlaticbe]

so true, I had a roomie who would loose it over nothing

[@roberthicks5550]

Being tried all the time would do that. Trying to push my buttons to get a reaction out of me it is bound to happen.

[@Hadda23]

They are bitter and angry just like their wn

[@ApoloKabali]

I believe their growing up in United States has everything to do with their growth and understanding and hopefully as we get more used to each other they will temper down.

[@switzjon8405]

@@Hadda23check history. If you don't understand that. You're not paying attention

[@nyfbby10]

The Black American culture is too emotional and can't handle conflicts in a mature constructive manly way. They get extremely emotional like women I dont think thats gangster. A real g should keep emotions in check .

[@jthommy81]

Well we dont like people taking from us. Yall should try that in Africa

[@poloststyles2669]

Black American culture is revered around the world. We don't need a jealous immigrant to tell us what's a real G is. We created the term 😂😂😂😂 you immigrants are funny. Using our lingo and dressing like us but you will never be us.

[@elijahlaticbe]

Yo right about that

[@Silverbackugx]

We also have guns and don't do much talking, and that slapping BS that Africans do will get knocked TF out . lol

[@LMXSS]

If you come to Uganda don’t come with that American way of thinking Uganda is welcoming to all people from any culture. Black Americans coming to Africa is a great thing. Pay attention anytime African Americans are doing something positive it’s shadowed by bad stereotypes, mostly from what the media has exposed the world too. You can’t possibly speak on someone’s culture and don’t understand

[@hellmanksingh7967]

Facts from Oshay. If you a decent foreign dude. You gonna be temporary showered with validation and affection( not love) from the attractive Ugandan 🎉and Kenyan girls just for return of validation and monies that’s all. If foreigners start being indifferent towards them ladies, we gonna have a sub cultural shift!!!!

[@africaine4889]

They are just going to stick with their men that's all

[@Mwomwa]

We have decent women in Uganda and Kenya who actually end up dating and getting married to foreigners but sadly most foreigners start dating through the night life...most decent african women are not found in clubs. The character development there is massive.

[@LorenzoWere]

Majority of black Americans have never even flown on a plane....it's everywhere. I met black american in Oakland californi who has never been to a beach, yet, they live right next to the ocean

[@garyjohnson691]

Stop exaggerating

[@Arias74-i4g]

This is a whole lie.

[@LorenzoWere]

@@Arias74-i4g This a fact....most poor black americans in oakland only see water in Lake Merrit...never been to ocean, never gone to SFO, or even oakland airport which is dying, that they wanna change their name to san francisco because nobody uses it. I know because i went to school in US berkely, lived on MacArthur ave....but had to high tail out there dure to too much shootings. I know very well. I know all beaches in bay area, from SF, pacifica to stinson beach in marin county, never seen black people or kids in any of those places

[@MrThornberry]

Its facts. And I'll add that I know people born and raised in the islands that can't swim. Explain this.

[@TheBigAkh]

​@@LorenzoWereman I'm from Oakland, North Oakland and you a damn lie. You are putting 10 on 2.

[@littlemisstricky]

Loved seeing Gabs on the dating show.

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Always

[@ruqayyahcurtis7504]

That's not true Joan! Women are women. I've lived all over the world. Culture is different, but females and males have very distinct mindsets.

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Facts

[@ApoloKabali]

That is what they all say until they come to Uganda, and get culture shocked, especially American who are always bossing others and demand everybody does what they want.

[@kennethstrait1352]

My first time listening to the Pod. Terrific insights and information!

[@etouetiu8190]

I love the fact that your guest today is really interested in staying in the country just by speaking those luganda words its progress❤❤❤

[@NoExcuseENT]

Great conversation.

[@imhotep1613]

So, is King Obutunda still in Uganda ? It's been a long time since he last posted a video on KZbin. Big up to him

[@trueserenityone]

I was thinking the same thing.. I'm glad he's back in Uganda tho

[@OshayDukeJackson]

​@@trueserenityonehe just left

[@crewstoic7827]

Respect to Mr Jackson for building a platform that magnetizes such a skilled cadre. I bet Ms. Joanita could start and manage a profitable Agency of project managers and Virtual Assistants who would add real value to her clients.

[@coolbreezeinpuertoplata4470]

ODJ Looks like your girl Joanita is feeling the Detroit playa, watch out fam 😂

[@hannahcabana5403]

😂😂😂

[@joanitamaaya]

Neda sebo!!! 😂No sir!!

[@OpinionatedNomad]

​@@joanitamaaya tell the truth 😂😂😂.

[@bobbyvee1829]

I must say African women are beautiful 😍 my wife is from Mozambique 🇲🇿

[@SuzeeBee73]

They don't have AC in the studio???

[@Kenganda]

WE BROKE LOL

[@joanitamaaya]

We turn off anything that makes a sound during the shoot

[@OpinionatedNomad]

​@@Kenganda 😂😂😂 no way

[@ladyshakari]

Great podcast. I understand better now. I dated an African guy who was always offended because I insisted on paying for my meals and other things, he didn't like that at all. He said I was too independent, it was the same when i dated latian men. The culture is different.

[@eujinlee9936]

Latian?

[@papd3532]

There is no nationality called African . African is a race of Black people . Dating an Afro Jamaican is completely different from dating an Afro-Brazilian or Afro-Mexican . Dating a Southern Black America is different from dating a Black Californian . Dating a Black Ugandan is completely different from dating a Black Eritrean . Dating a Hausa Nigerian is completely different from dating a Igbo Nigerian .

[@legrindem-her]

Can we focus on the intent of the message. So there’s a typo… Also some people believe Africa should be one country though it’s not that yet.

[@papd3532]

@@legrindem-her Africa population 1.46Billion with 1.3Billion Black . India 1.42Billion . Africa continent 12 times the size of India .

[@papd3532]

@@legrindem-her Africa population 1.46Billion with 1.3Billion Black .

[@vanessanabulya5849]

I feel like coming to Uganda and communicating that your from the US right away puts you in the position of being taken advantage of honestly. The people that you associate with as well play a big role in how things turn out. Otw, there are all types of women in Kampala. There are some of us don't ask for stuff cz we can manage on our own. Enjoy your stay🎉

[@emmett_n]

Love these couch talks 🛋️

[@219tfair]

Interesting show. Good to hear the perspective of American foreigners in another country. One thing that I found contradictory is the brotha from Detroit was talking about his willingness to lean Ugandan culture and language but then he seem to want to “Americanize “the women that he dates letting them know oral*** is a priority and didn’t seem willing to accept that its against their culture. To me when you absolutely want to embrace that culture, you don’t force someone to compromise to your culture. I think that it’s lowkey taking a shot at their culture when you do that. You are no better than the entitled Americans who travel abroad.

[@decemberholiday3488]

😂😂😂 that gawkgawk mfn gawk is important 🥰🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 30:17

[@UmmYasmin91]

very lol they not like us sister lol

[@KisemboBushirah]

❤❤I love this episode

[@yon1623]

31:58 he capped like a mofo 🧢 and his freind bailed him out with a corny line.

[@gelilabogale9590]

😂

[@BerkinMusa]

He didn’t say he get the same quality…. If you a cool dude getting girls is easy

[@MsAmani-ln3wj]

28:44 though. Lol. I can't. Random as uck! lol

[@trueserenityone]

🤣🤣🤣

[@SophiaClarke-qm8fl]

Great discussion, people.

[@Silverbackugx]

J,,,👀 Brother this has been up for Ten days and you didnt tell me. I think I learned more hanging out for one afternoon and trading experiences or "unlocking cheat codes" as you called it, then I could have learned in another year of navigating Uganda like a Paladin. I look forward to meeting again at a designated command post to exchange information again to help us settle.

[@ruqayyahcurtis7504]

Thats right guys don't expend too much energy to please others! Let it come naturally and with ease. That is wisdom and maturity. ❤❤❤

[@kcchristop]

If you like to understand what someone is saying! You take an extra effort to learn their language! You cant dictate how or when people should speak their language in their country!!

[@ApoloKabali]

Nothing shocks me about Americans anymore ,black or white they demand we do things their way in our own countries.

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Claps 👏👏👏

[@switzjon8405]

39:10 depends on the right woman. If she rocks with you. Doesn't matter the part of the world

[@cc-92]

Man I related to so much in this video! I just did 2 months in Nairobi

[@mmg_777]

I enjoyed this program Kenganda respect 🇺🇬👍

[@switzjon8405]

20:12 My man gets philosophical with his questions.

[@gizzanubian2970]

Datt brother sound like the Karen’s in Mexico that don’t want natives to speak they language, he should went to England where they speak his native language

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Agree

[@Elisbaan]

The phat bold malatoo said "he has a daughter" imagine if his daughter listens to this podcast

[@eyewano1088]

You got it! How one sounds, moves, dresses, their body language has nothing to do with their smartness up there...I mean in some cultures but unfortunately that's the yardstick in the west. That's how we beat them in studies. All of a sudden they look around to see who got a first class and it's this person who never said a thing in class...who seemed so confused and insecure!

[@dwightwilkinson]

I like the young lady on your show she is pretty and sounds very intelligent

[@nakittoshamsha1327]

Yeah she is

[@PapBob-jg7rd]

At least 70% of black adults are single in America . Washington DC has the lowest Black marriage rate at roughly 19% adults . Less than 24% of Black millennial(28-43) are married . Roughly 40million adults in America live alone and at least 125million adults in the US are single . Before 1965 more than 80% of Black adults were married .

[@CHANDSOME]

Where are you getting these stats from??

[@thesaint5183]

🧢

[@carolinasoulman1378]

Those sounds like fabricated statistics

[@Moon-vw4gf]

This isn’t true.

[@PapBob-jg7rd]

@@CHANDSOME publicly available .

[@gheechiedan9299]

Good show !

[@roseofmaafa1148]

There was way too much Americans gonna kill you exaggeration

[@MaishaMojaMedia]

Doesn't matter where you live. Women are the same everywhere. If you have money and resources you can get most of the women you want especially in countries where poverty and indigence is common.

[@cherylallen9640]

I enjoyed the talk

[@JosieThirtyEight]

Oh yes a little idle chit chat about your man goes on in US too...however I learned w/my 1st husband what goes on good or bad between us is our own business to celebrate or resolve! Never let friends/family in on your relationship, especially single ones...if need be, seek professional counseling if only for yourself in helping you to understand/deal w/ your man!

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Omg why are so many married women paranoid around single women? Most of your husbands are hitting on married women too.

[@sophiemclarke6556]

I have learned from this episode that the women are been over looked in Uganda. The government, please mobilise them, and they will improve their country tenfold.

[@OpinionatedNomad]

I find that African Americans usually get very offended when it's Africans speaking a language that they don't understand compared to other races doing the same thing. Don't get me wrong, it's very rude and disrespectful regardless of whether you are not talking about the person or not. It's up to the traveler to learn the language or a few phrases not locals. Interesting discussion. Thanks

[@Jay-Kay-Buwembo]

Think it's hella naive to got to Africa and have issues with people speaking their language... 🤷🏿‍♂️ 😪 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@hellmanksingh7967]

Are we staying with him or are we not? Yup confirmed, Ugandan ladies cannot generally make an independent decision 🎉🎉🎉

[@UmmYasmin91]

I thoroughly enjoyed this episode!!

[@makonnenwallen3408]

😂😂😂 sir, you never hear what the father of the nation (Museveni) said? The mouth is for eating food. Not for sex 😂😂😂😂😂

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Agree

[@Babanla420]

Wait…. Did Oshay thought she was with him for his looks?? Brother Pls. That’s why she feels comfortable asking him for money in that manner.

[@musokescovia9630]

😂😂😂😂

[@Flower-ck2bs]

Jason, do not point your shoe to anybody. American respect? And even a women with no or Some little economy it does not make her bad. But men generally see only one thing, because They do not want to be alone a second. About ghanaians, They are the strongest people I met, proud africans. What about women and their experience?

[@sheilaaciro6336]

I like this Guy I’m in uk

[@switzjon8405]

24:03 That's with any woman though. They all can make you feel special until you find out YOU AIN'T.

[@nakittoshamsha1327]

I will be patiently waiting for my future husband from here

[@BookOfJames144]

When everyone rub they nose they sense the cap 😆

[@lyndaslocs]

He acknowledged that he is handsome.

[@Lorenzo_Wyche_Restaurants]

Oshey carry a lot of feminine energy.. that controls your mindset not being from america

[@tavaineclarkerealitytv]

But Nubia and Africa is unique 👌 60 nation on continent of Nubia

[@trevasimon8714]

Nubia was what they called Sudan back in the days probably - 1000 years ago.

[@DHard-mc2uw]

Detroit in the house!

[@cherylallen9640]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@kylereese4542]

I got a girl pregnant when i was in Uganda 😶

[@tavaineclarkerealitytv]

Barmeny not Germany

[@bruceblack534]

How do I get up with your WhatsApp group?

[@Kenganda]

Right now the whatsapp group is only for those of us who live here. We have a larger whatsapp group for the friends of Kenganda Nation.

[@Silverbackugx]

​@@KengandaI live here and never heard of the "in country" Whatsapp group

[@Kenganda]

@@Silverbackugx it just came about a few weeks ago. I don't know why you were not added. Give me your email and I'll send you the link.

[@nakittoshamsha1327]

Help me as well 😢😢😢to find my soulmate am a Uganda but I need a black American ma 😢😢

[@Silverbackugx]

@@nakittoshamsha1327 Why do you want a Black American man?

[@lucywaithira3050]

It's the oral sex statement for me🤦😂 some of our culture teaches us that its immoral but its upon an individual to unlearn that...

[@Jay-Kay-Buwembo]

Look up the stats for oral sex and mouth and throat cancer!

[@eyewano1088]

It is indeed rude to speak a language that people around you do not understand. Very rude.

[@MrThornberry]

Not when it's the language spoken in the country.

[@nakittoshamsha1327]

Any black American man pleaee 😢😢😢😢

[@tavaineclarkerealitytv]

Nubia not Africa

[@lyndaslocs]

Shark tank.

[@OpinionatedNomad]

😂😂😂😂

[@junenothere]

I. Love this. One. this. Interview. , But you. Guys. Not. speaking the truth , what people. Saying. Is. Something. else . hmmmm

[@moneylineparlay105]

Germany is great for black men

[@jking5147]

How so?

[@moneylineparlay105]

@@jking5147 it's the Thailand of white women for black men

[@OpinionatedNomad]

Bw too

[@junenothere]

But i. Like how. You boys lieing

[@kingjah4001]

How Priggish art thou Gabs agabe....Humble thyself...!

[@gttandpawpawfam3192]

Trump for sellout

[@cherylallen9640]

Africans is. to. Much. Lol

[@ruqayyahcurtis7504]

That's not true Joan! Women are women. I've lived all over the world. Culture is different, but females and males have very distinct mindsets.