How Do I Know If I’m Loving My Wife Well?

Ask Pastor John
Episode: 1113
Transcript: www.desiringgo...

[@mpumi6830]

The fact that there's husbands asking these questions is encouraging. :)

[@bobbyrice2858]

you know you are loving your wife will WHEN your wife FIRST submits to you. Here's a tried and true method of how you get a good husband. The old Texas saying goes "keep his belly full and nut-sack empty and he will give you the WORLD." Today's Women are entitled self-absorbed arrogant selfish and Prideful. They think as long as he Puts forth cash they can do and act however they want AND Denie him BASIC essentials and honestly MEN put up with it today. More Men need to establish boundaries and make it clear what they need. Our list is small compared to a Womans List.

[@troymilliken6792]

Every husband should listen to this.

[@JohnDretired]

Yes, and every woman should be worthy of it. Look around you; they are perishingly rare these days.

[@seymoneraimer7780]

I am not married yet! My forever love truly loves me as Christ love the church! It's beautiful💙

[@chriscross4004]

How many marriages could have saved by observing those two verses he is quoting here!

[@mattr.1887]

You don't save marriages by quoting the Bible.

[@Alex1233192]

So true, good message for singles as well.

[@bel7133]

This is my marriage. I am the "let's". But it only causes verbal attacks and put downs. I am so broken, I never thought that every area of your life could be chewed up and spat out. It's so painful and every attempt of trying to get help and much prayer and drawing closer to God. Has only made thing's worse. I have 4 beautiful children. I am a failure.

[@autumxxleaves4186]

Bell 1611 no your not a failure, you have the guts to try and try again and again. Your strong enough to do it sometimes knowing you’ll get hurt 💕 as a sister in Christ I love you sooooo much and even if it doesn’t work out, God will take you somewhere in life you never thought you’d be . In fact I know you’ll be happy and content in ways you never thought u would be. Trust me, it’s worth it to trust God.

[@bonginkosicyrilnkosi4553]

You are NOT a failure. We we will all pray for You.

[@bel7133]

@@bonginkosicyrilnkosi4553 Thank you =)

[@tuaregcreative]

In the same predicament, resentment has set its roots in my marriage but when i get reminded by the holy-spirit of the grace and undeserved kindness Jehovah has extended to me from birth...i just push on. We are living in fallen system...i mean everything is infiltrated by the devil...wait for Jesus' system.

[@Maralifeadventure]

NO, YOU NOT A FAILURE!! To have kids and to keep trying, you are more than a conqueror, whatever situation comes your way just keep fighting, don’t let an inch of it cast you down, and make you doubt yourself negatively. I might not understand much of your situation right now but I know as much as you keep pushing forward and have faith( which is difficult at time) God will and alway see you through. Even be with you through those struggles, the enemy can throw his darts at you but Almighty God is sufficient enough to sustain you. Will keep you in my prayers!

[@felipeaguiar8800]

Thank you pastor John!

[@TJ-kk5zf]

Guidance, protection and correction when necessary.

[@DoNotAlterDNA]

At least you have a wife

[@sarafernandez6837]

Thank you for this !

[@bobbyrice2858]

you know you are loving your wife will WHEN your wife FIRST submits to you. Here's a tried and true method of how you get a good husband. The old Texas saying goes "keep his belly full and nut-sack empty and he will give you the WORLD." Today's Women are entitled self-absorbed arrogant selfish and Prideful. They think as long as he Puts forth cash they can do and act however they want AND Denie him BASIC essentials and honestly MEN put up with it today. More Men need to establish boundaries and make it clear what they need. Our list is small compared to a Womans List.

[@jesus_is_god_and_you_know_1669]

Don't love your wife more than you love Christ though!

[@silverlemniscate]

Men aren't capable of even loving a wife without loving Jesus Christ first...

[@yeahyeahyeah2935]

silverlemniscate so very true!

[@framboise595]

@@silverlemniscate Men are not able to be in control anymore because they "love" their wives too much . They are like fallen Adams who listen to their wives instead of listening to God.

[@silverlemniscate]

@@framboise595 I'm speaking in the context of Christians, you speak of the world, in both we are correct.

[@mattr.1887]

So non-Christian men don't love their wives?

[@austinrichards1987]

Lol what?! So men have COMPLETE responsibility and are expected to basically be Jesus when most women today come with various degrees of baggage and poor decisions? Yeah it's a rare woman that's worth all that.

[@yeahyeahyeah2935]

Likewise, rarely does such a man to deserve submission is even harder to find.

[@fidelitacadayona1551]

@@yeahyeahyeah2935 nah women with a chaste past and completely virgin is harder to find. There are many good men there's just too much garbage women who can't see these men.

[@haas4262]

Like we’re worth the love of Christ? That’s the point dude. Nobody’s worthy! That’s why this kind of love for a wife points us to Christ and becoming more and more like Him

[@austinrichards1987]

@@haas4262 I don't like it..... but you're not wrong.

[@valorietompkins4697]

AND SIR YOUR INTERPRETATION OF THE BELIEVERS THAT. THEY BELIEVE LOVE YOUR WIFE LIKE CHRIST SO LOVED THE CHURCH BUT SOMEONE MUST BE OVER THERE HEADS OF AUTHORITY TO GUIDE AND LEAD THAT PARTICULAR HUSBAND TO MENTOR HIM EVERYONE SIR WAS BOUGHT UP DIFFERENT ON HOW TO LOVE A WOMEN THEN TO BECOME HIS WIFE TOTALLY ON GRACE WHAT A FEELING THIS IS THE DAY THAT THE LORD HAS MADE LET US REJOICE AND BE GLAD IN IT...ADAM AND EVE FOR IT IS WRITTEN BUT NO COMPARISON SO TO THEY OF WHOMEVER THEIR WASNT NO EVIDENCE OF FORBIDDEN FRUITS THAT TRULY SIR IF IT WAS THOSE OF WHOMEVER DIDN'T EAT THE FRUIT OR ETC AND IF THEY WERE AFRAID FOR MANY REASONS DURING THAT TIME..SIR ON THEIR SIDES THEY HAD MUCH FEAR OF CATASTROPHIC EVENTS THAT HAPPENED IN WHOMEVER LIFES SIR BUT SIR THEY MUST LIVE ACCORDING TO THY SCRIPTURES AS WELL THE WAIT NO SEXUAL ORIENTATION BEFORE MARRIAGE SIR PIPER OF WHOMEVER BELIEVERS AS THE HRAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD THE GENTLEMAN HAS AND SHE FEELS SECURED BY THE HUSBAND NORMALITY....THE ENTIRE FAMILY MUST HAVE SCHEDULES AS AGREED BY THE PARTY SHE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO PUSH SIR EXACTLY FOR THE GENTLEMAN SHOULD BE OF MUCH MATURITY SIR THE COMMANDMENTS OF FOLLOWS....NO ONE IS CHRIST JESUS CAN'T AND WILL NEVER BE BUT IF THE ENTIRE FAMILY SIR IS BRILLIANT FAMILIES THAN NO ONE IN AMERICA CAN TAKE THAT AWAY FROM SUCH FAMILIES OF WHOMEVER SIR TRANSLATIONS WITH THE ETC PRIVATE.. MEANING HUGE GENIUS ROBOTICS OF KINGDOM BUILDINGS... AWESOME IN AGREEMENT OF THE PROFESSOR BELIEFS..SIR GREAT SERMONS CLASS SIR GOD BLESS YOU

[@lbee8247]

Valorie your use of all CAPS and not punctuation made your comment impossible to understand.

[@escajedac2740]

Ephesians 5:25-33 Rebuilding of what was destroyed Life long charter 1st Peter 3-7

[@artistrobert]

Always such a blessing to come back to this message, thank you Pastor John and team! Be blessed!

[@michelleeriksen6816]

AMEN!! The one and only boyfriend I had, drove me crazy with absolutely no signs of showing leadership for a future covenant with me. I had to push him to. It was crazy!

[@AGODLYMINDSET]

The first problem is your looking for a boyfriends to walk in a husbands role… That’s not if GOD, he doesn’t call boyfriends to GODLY headship, he calls husbands! The word of GOD says he who finds a good thing attains favor of the lord, proverbs 18:22… Second is he a man of GOD? If not why would you put yourself through yoking up with an unbeliever or a man that’s not of the faith?

[@ggccministry8494]

Love Pastor JP!😍

[@stephenskayla2079]

Love her like Jesus does. Do unto her as you would your own self. Love her as Christ loves the Church just as Christ is head of the Church.. You'll find a woman that you can trust to allow you to lead, guide you during this life going to help you in this life in order to get you to your eternal life.

[@johnnynesbit8289]

Guess this won't be something for me to worry about. Women aren't interested in me I make too little money

[@hannastocksick7395]

Oh wow!... Thank you Lord for John Piper! So many times I've tuned in to his podcast and God has guided and cared for my broken soul through him! But Piper, how different is it for us women married to unbelievers?

[@bobbyrice2858]

you know you are loving your wife will WHEN your wife FIRST submits to you. Here's a tried and true method of how you get a good husband. The old Texas saying goes "keep his belly full and nut-sack empty and he will give you the WORLD." Today's Women are entitled self-absorbed arrogant selfish and Prideful. They think as long as he Puts forth cash they can do and act however they want AND Denie him BASIC essentials and honestly MEN put up with it today. More Men need to establish boundaries and make it clear what they need. Our list is small compared to a Womans List.

[@davida6146]

Instead of asking Pastor John... why not ask your wife...?

[@thelastdracolich1237]

She is the best one to ask pastor john can tell you anything.

[@Zoe_Langa]

@LITTLE BOOTS I'm sorry. I will pray for you and your marriage

[@Zoe_Langa]

@LITTLE BOOTS have you brought this up to him? And have you talked to God about this?