How Do I Let Go of Anger over Past Wrongs?

Ask Pastor John
Episode: 1433
Transcript: www.desiringgod.org/interview...

[@queendevi2492]

I find it very difficult to forgive when I have been wronged. I need God's help to forgive. 😔

[@arcade-eyes3682]

If I'm not mistaken, forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. You can use what they did as a reason to put restrictions on your relationship with that person: limiting contact with them, separating from them, not going out of your way for them etc. You shouldn't be filled with anger and hatred toward them, fantasize about revenge, talk about them behind their back etc, by letting go of your anger and resentment not taking revenge, you have forgiven them. You don't have to maintain the same level of friendship or commitment to them, this is my interpretation of forgiveness.

[@queendevi2492]

@@arcade-eyes3682 I don't have any friendship with them. It's just that I cannot forget those things.

[@reignsupreme7686]

Queen Devi that's so you remember how they are...IF a change has occurred HALLELUJAH thank you thank you Jesus BUT if not forgive but don't forget.

[@paulagonzalez1721]

I can relate to what you're saying. I have a hard time letting go as well. What I've learned while trying to forgive and move on is that forgiveness can be a process. If the hurt is deep, it will require healing. Forgiving and healing are linked but they're not the same. Sometimes, we have decided to forgive but we're still on the healing journey. Keep your heart inclined towards forgiveness and pray openly to God about your need for healing. God will always help us do his will when doing so is difficult.

[@queendevi2492]

@@paulagonzalez1721 I will try to do that. Thank you for your encouragement. God bless you 🙏.

[@deloriserodriguez6005]

NO ONE IS PERFECT BUT ONLY GOD CREATOR OF THE HEAVENS AND EARTH AND ALL THINGS MADE. THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. ❤❤❤❤❤❤ ✝️ ✝️ 🙏

[@awu3154]

I’ve been listening to the full length version of this on repeat! I’m having trouble forgiving an ex who discarded me for the fleeting pleasures of other girls. He’s not Christian. There are other ways he’s hurt me, gaslit me, lied to me, and manipulated me, and it hurts knowing he’s seducing other girls and no one knows he’s done wrong; even he doesn’t admit he’s done wrong. I haven’t gossiped about him to our mutual friends bc I know it would be wrong. I wish I could, but I won’t. Please pray for me that God would help me let go of my anger and bitterness and that I’d hand everything over to God. I want to be free from the weariness of carrying around all this desire for revenge. Lord please pick up my vengeance as I leave it at the foot of the cross.

[@AbrahamRmz12]

I’m going through the same thing. Just keep praying and it’s okay to talk to people just don’t discord as in don’t bend the truth understanding that you had some flaws in it is okay. Learn from your mistakes and understand you where not the problem since he was the one who left. One thing I’m learning is the truth is setting me free. Pray for discernment and conviction. Also pray for a heart of flesh and to remove that heart of stone

[@ryanl.8085]

I 100% understand. The girl I was dating ended up breaking us up so she can be with another guy. She manipulated and lied to me as well. I totally understand what you're going through. Try to look at the positives. Remind yourself God's got everything under control and he will provide someone who will love you and cherish you and be the man you need.

[@melaniexoxo]

So many women are going through this continually. Warning others about evil is not gossip! Silence enables him in his antics with other women. Predators victimize others if they don’t experience consequences. The difference is to not harbor this bitterness and retaliate against him. Justice is appropriate if he is harming others. You know the circumstances, but if he’s doing anything criminal, it should be reported to authorities. If you know someone that is dating him, warn them. They may not listen, but at least they know

[@valarmorghulis4801]

Ask for forgiveness also if you two were living together in fornication

[@Dfeliciano]

May you please post the link to the full sermon?

[@austinwilliams64]

It was no accident that I came across this this morning. I struggle so much with this. . -HeatherH

[@josiah3820]

Me too.

[@yvanm7999]

Me too

[@marleneflaherty4843]

me too 😢

[@shaquelaireland409]

I needed to see this. I’ve been so angry in my marriage… and I couldn’t pinpoint why or where the root was.. and now I understand. Thank you for this.

[@jacquelynnmunoz2]

Amen I felt the same way sister. 🙏

[@GeorgeJohnsonxainem3]

Yes we ought to pray for the salvation of others... Is not salvation the most profound vengeance? To those who are truly changed by the mercy and blood of Jesus Christ, is not the old life destroyed... Does not a Man perish on his conversion? All our sins warrant a death sentence... And yet we live anew in the mighty grace and mercy of our God through the blood of his son Jesus Christ... And to those who do not repent and turn to the most high God... full and unmitigated wrath... Surely we ought to pray for them.. Nonetheless, I am settled.

[@AtamMardes]

Salvation is a solution to a problem the religion scam has created. It is like someone going around cutting people with a knife in order to sell band-aid.

[@AtamMardes]

Jesus existed as a person just like David Koresh and Jim Jones, but Jesus the messiah is a fictional figure posthumously glorified by anonymous hoaxer Christian writers falsely passing themselves off as someone who existed years before them from some other place claiming to be eyewitnesses to miracles. Religion has got you by the balls. LOL

[@mr.c2485]

atam mardes Religion is not responsible for our desire to possess our thoughts. Everyone on the planet wants the same thing...soundness of mind...one that is not moved by the whims of men or the eventualities of life. Who doesn’t want to be able to say “I’m my own man” ...or woman? Religion is just one attempt to provide that kind of identity. And no...it doesn’t work..but neither does secular humanism. If we can at least agree on that much then a constructive dialogue can be had.

[@JerubbaalgodSlayer]

*”In the liberty of a laid down grudge, love can happen…”* BEAUTIFUL!👏🏾 🇨🇦

[@jenniferruth812]

Truly!

[@incorruptibleword4513]

A repentant heart is a spiritual disposition we ought to walk in even after full repentance. In this we keep a heart of flesh instead of stone. We are the clay let God be The potter.

[@puretestosterone9614]

I find it hard to forgive myself for my sins against God, and my betrayal of myself. I cannot forget my lusts and my past indulgences in my addictions. Please pray for me.

[@silas7633]

Will pray

[@lisawood7338]

I have the same problem forgiving myself. I lost my oldest son almost a yr ago and cant forgive myself for not being able to help or save him. Plus forgiving my sins as well

[@leviknight21]

​@@lisawood7338 will pray for you to find peace. Never been in the position of loosing a child, i dont have yet but they are in my plans. Seak spiritual guidence, and still even therapy for you have a long road ahead of recovery. But gods divine mercy is greater than the sum of all sins comitted in the history of this fallen world we live in and you are worthy of it. We are all worthy of it we just must pray and follow his law, for he is the way, the truth and the life.

[@mpumi6830]

Thank you Father for not leaving me with my hardened heart. Thank you that there is healing for the sharp anger and hatred that has been consuming me. Thank you for the peace of Yahshua.

[@MariaSantana-ul5wd]

Amen, let me lay down every grudge. Only God judges rightly and knows the heart. James 4:12 There is only one lawgiver and judge, He who is able to save and to destroy. But, who are we to judge our neighbor?

[@cgeb7624]

Yes, Amen

[@Ytmetzc]

Thank you so much for this. This is so timely for me

[@gabrielsherman3230]

The best thing to do is to walk away from all kinds of conflict. You're capable of taking responsibility into your own hands.

[@JerubbaalgodSlayer]

I don’t want vengeance on my enemies! I deserve it first! God’s vengeance is scary & not something to mess with. If they don’t repent I’d only want what Paul suggested in, *1 Corinthians 5:5* *to deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.* I’d leave the entire thing to God. He is Just & knows what is best. 🇨🇦

[@stephenskayla2079]

You have to put it in God's hand and do not want revenge. Do not have any bad thoughts to come upon the other that's wronged you. It's often the ones that are supposed to love you. Your own family will betray you before any enemy. Sometimes you will live to see how God handles your betrayal from another. God judges not us. When God handles the betrayal it is your christian responsibility to be there and comfort the ones you have been betrayed or wronged against. Be there for them as Christ would in their time of need.

[@Terri-1985]

These scriptures are really helping me I couldn’t find them on my own. I am grateful to you for helping me find them❤

[@peteryang2067]

Thank you I needed this so much. Uploaded with perfect timing 🙏

[@mgamog4489]

Help us Lord Jesus to not be a caused of painful slavery to others Lord. help us indeed to be a light to glorify You our Father in heaven.

[@graceswyles8337]

I badly need this. Thank you Pastor John!

[@Tanolotus]

Thank you Pastor!

[@dereksprogramming3233]

Ive struggled with anger all my life. I’ve been wronged several times. But, if I was honest with myself and the LORD, if done wrong to others in my life. So much so, that they haunt me! It’s painful but I try to put hurt and anger into perspective! God has EVERY right to punish me for all the wrongs I’ve caused to others. It’s not always easy but I try and remember this when others hurt me!

[@glamag3037]

Love it, just love it! Thank you for the lovely story and I know Christ will handled my battles. Amen 🙏

[@debbiecopening3407]

Thank you this is very timely for me,

[@georginanewby1204]

A beautiful message - thank you! Life changing

[@HearGodsWord]

Such a great sermon series

[@AtamMardes]

I'm not sure if God exists or not, but these following paragraphs pretty much disprove the God of the Bible. Humans turning sexually mature at around age 7 is expected from an unplanned, unintentional, unintelligent, unguided, imperfect, unkind, unethical, amoral, and mindless evolutionary process, but it is NOT expected from an omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient, perfect, kind, ethical, moral, and mindful designer with intentions and an intelligent plan, unless the designer enjoys watching hormone packed teenagers suffer abstinence until they finish schooling and are ready for marriage at around age 25. Lifeforms needing to kill each other for meat, & thousands of genetic diseases, are exactly what is expected from an unplanned, unintentional, unintelligent, unguided, imperfect, unkind, unethical, amoral, and mindless evolutionary process. But they are *NOT* expected from an omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient, perfect, kind, ethical, moral, and mindful creator with intentions & an intelligent plan. *FACT1-* Bible approves eating meat & it suggests what animals to slaughter & eat. *FACT2-* Bible teaches to thank God for giving you life & also for giving animals life for you to eat. *FACT3-* Bible teaches to thank God for choosing you out of many patients to recover from illness. *FACT4-* The same Bible that teaches "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", also teaches how to: buy slaves, enslave children, pass slaves on to next generation as permanent inheritance, beat slaves as long as they don't die, & not treat relatives they way slaves are treated. *CONCLUSION-* Religion fools the gullible folks to believe in its imaginary God by exploiting their hypocrisy, narcissism, gullibility, ignorance & arrogance.

[@HearGodsWord]

Which paragraphs? Where in the Bible are you getting your inaccurate facts that have already been disproved to you? Sounds like you really don't have the first clue about Christianity because you're suggesting it's a form of legalism. No doubt you'll ignore my questions in the same way you ignore everything else, which suggests you must be the gullible one because you're not even trying to understand. You've ruined your own argument and you've also contradicted yourself too. Bravo!

[@laurelwarner5073]

This was good. I battle with this. My family is unempathetic and I have a hard time letting go of the mistreatment I endured. My internet went down but this video kept going. Almost like it was meant to resonate with me. I will try to apply this teaching in my life.

[@Howtowithpaulaandjohn]

Great message. Piper 💪

[@incorruptibleword4513]

It's difficult because from a young age this world teaches us to do all for ourselves(this is good and bad) and we are commonly of low patience. So trusting another to avenge and recompense us goes against our internal programming. This where we become aware of our level of trust in God and the opportunity to grow in faith is presented. Internal programming vs the instruction of the holy spirit. The flesh wareth against the spirit and the spirit against the flesh indeed. What path will you choose?

[@shieldoflove4484]

YES WE MUST FORGIVE LET THE SPIRIT HANDLE IT ALL

[@clarkkent3730]

Simple answer... Through repentance and faith... Through fasting and prayer

[@amandatorres3982]

I’ve been trying to forgive myself

[@yaccfonoti]

Thank you for this it really helped me . 🙏❤

[@cgeb7624]

This is a wonderful explanation. I was hoping this would address our own sins and wrongs that we have done others. I suppose it does in that we need to lay them down as well but it would have been nice to hear the words. Perhaps there is another Desiring God video on that.

[@soniamanderson1461]

I repent of all my sin o Lord .

[@mr.c2485]

Sonia Manderson How long is your list? There are but seven sins that destroy. All other infractions are referred to as trespasses...not deadly.

[@soniamanderson1461]

Mr. C my list is not long I am a child of God and by his grace I try to be a joy to my Father everyday but send me the list please

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Sonia Manderson Jesus lists them in Matthew 5 6 7. Pride..Lust..Greed..Anger and Worry. They are Killer sins! I know! I have done them All!

[@soniamanderson1461]

kathleen Wharton thank you very much I dig a hold every day and kill the flesh and apply the cross to my Ego daily I have done them all I renounce them by the grace of God ,I ask for His mercy daily thanks God Bless you

[@mr.c2485]

Sonia Manderson Proverbs: 6: 16-19. These are the actual sources of the things on Kathryn’s list. Notice that the first five are described using body parts. The other two are descriptions of those parts in action as malicious thought takes over a person. Read them carefully and thoughtfully....The nature of God is hidden in them. Blessings!

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Every Person is Doing the Best that he can Do..Given his circumstances! Genetics..conditioning..environment..experiences..etc. etc.

[@lashaundapoindexter4607]

Thos is helping me!

[@jesuschristbiblebiblestudy]

Amen

[@trevorm1799]

Remembering also, that Jesus taught us to "love our enemy (adversary) and do good to those who persecute us"!

[@graftedinsavedbygrace9319]

Wow this is hard to hear. I am so guilty. Lord please forgive me

[@yourturn165]

Focus on the moment,

[@LB-vy6cg]

Amen 🙏❤

[@gloglogloglo]

Amen🙏

[@mgamog4489]

" I want you Bethlehem to enjoy this liberty, in the liberty of the laid down rage, love can happened"

[@Wholly_Fool]

Guilt strangles.

[@muneshverma7]

First view, first like, first comment 😊

[@isaacait.6679]

So basically he is saying : Drop the past and forgive OR forgive and forget

[@mr.c2485]

“Letting go” of anger implies a defensive posture...a resistance of sorts. As believers we do neither! Ours is to capture, possess, and be rewarded. Which do you prefer?

[@incorruptibleword4513]

As believers we are also to know submission before the Lord and sacrifice to him(spiritually speaking) when it is good to.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Mr. C I ask God to Bless my enemies too. This is very hard to do sometimes but it is best..given we are all sinners one way or another. I realized that when I ask God to Bless my enemy God will Teach him the Right thing to Do! And that is basically what we all want. Blessing our enemy does not mean God will go on blessing him in his wickedness. I had to think about that one for awhile!

[@HearGodsWord]

Anger is a defense mechanism so it's the opposite. How are you living like Christ if you're carrying around anger?

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Huey Leadbetter Hello Huey! Keep Gods Shoulds. LET GO of people's Shoulds!

[@mr.c2485]

Huey Leadbetter “Problems” are usually of our own making. Is trusting ourselves impossible? Does God not want us to trust ourselves....ever?

[@user-md7fm3zh7z]

How do I send a message to pastor piper

[@richellepeace4457]

I fast and petition. I place their names in a book with an diamond tipped iron pen and petition God based on righteous anger. My request is that the next 7 generations of their lineages be sold into bondage if he sees fit.... Why does anyone want the relationships on this rock, they are very substandard compared to my relationship with Yah.

[@robertafierro5592]

People stink .plain and simple. I prefer the company of animals. My best friends are my cat and dog.

[@tns147sexy8]

How about NO? 😠😟😢💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

[@mr.c2485]

Just more weight for us to carry. Get over yourself piper!

[@shieldoflove4484]

MR. C WE ARE NOT TO CARRY WEIGHT JESUS IS TO WE ARE TO RELEASE THE WEIGHT OR PAIN GIVE IT TO JESUS THIS I PRAY FOR YOU TO THE SPIRIT THE HOLY SPIRIT TOUCH YOU TO RELEASE

[@HearGodsWord]

It's the opposite of carrying weight because you're not holding on to anger, therefore it's the complete opposite. Given your constant dislike of John Piper, but you're still here, maybe you need to get over Desiring God and let go. It seems you need to get over yourself!

[@incorruptibleword4513]

If we hold onto the weight of anger and unforgiveness we block God from healing our hearts. It does not vindicate the offender to forgive them. They still owe God a debt if they do not repent and they will receive according to their works we must just trust God to repay and give up on personal recompense in order to receive healing. Let God be God and not us trying to be God.

[@mr.c2485]

Hear God's Word What makes you think that you can “let go” of anger? Do you really believe that you can make the conscious decision to forgive? Scripture is very clear. It simply says, “ love your neighbor as yourself”. If that’s true, then the only way to understand anger and forgiveness is to understand just how much you love yourself. There’s no other way. You can pray all you want...you can tell yourself that you’re in compliance...or just flat out deny your guilt, but the fact remains, you can’t do it with personal effort, and I know that praying for it won’t happen because you’re asking God to remove something that is necessary for your personal discipline.

[@mr.c2485]

INCORRUPTIBLE WORD See: my response to “ hear gods word”. Thank you

[@deeschoe1245]

Asking a pathetic conman questions you should be asking a medical professional. Cult programming at its best here.

[@roneldreyer1688]

Medical research shows how to hold onto anger ruins health