How Does Initiating Compare To Responding? | Initiating Vs. Responding | CS Joseph

[@Skjelve]

I've been learning a lot from your lectures. I appreciate your hard work making these.

[@CSJoseph]

Awesome.

[@LBI-oe7dj]

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[@NB-qy7ku]

2:12 Initiating vs Responding 3:00 starters and Structure types are extraverts 3:07 they are also initiating because they are extraverts 3:10 Introverts are the responding types 3:14 which are the finishers and background or behind the scenes types 3:50 initiating vs responding 3:54 introversion vs extraversion 4:03 What is Introversion: need solitude to recharge mental energy 4:11 Extraversion is when someone requires being fellow human beings preferably more than 2 at same time to gather mental energy 5:23 6:31 initiating vs responding 8:31

[@Retrogamer71]

8:30. What is initiating? What is responding? 17:13

[@mauraliller6]

I'm an introvert but I have no problem at all walking up to some random stranger and asking for directions. Oftentimes, it's a lot more efficient than trying to just look for signs or pull out your map. I approach people to get the information I need so I can go on with my task. I don't do well just sustaining a conversation with a group of people unless it's some topic I'm really interested in..

[@justinjbolyard]

“I do a lot of things with my right hand” I literally said “haha” in my mind and then I actually laughed out loud when you said “Nice, INTJ’s snickering in the backround” it’s just hilarious because as I was thinking that, you were talking about it which is funnier than the pun all together 🤣 Another great video by the way sir, I can’t help but watch more and more of your videos everyday. You are a very good teacher!

[@CSJoseph]

Much appreciated!

[@asdamlarmar2638]

@@CSJoseph Why would an INTJ snicker at that? What's the reason for it?

[@GlobalResonanceDance]

TMI, oh wait, there's no such thing for informative types!

[@gehdochnicht]

I was also snickering as an INFJ. Could I be misdiagnosed then?

[@SJaye-zv9er]

@@asdamlarmar2638 Double entendre.

[@jamtongballs]

Carl Jung explains it as introversion: a person who likes to operate from the subject - the subjective experience which is from within oneself and facing the world from this internal base. Whereas extraversion is the personality in which one operates on the object - interacting with people and the environment, and without other people they lose their sense of self

[@CSJoseph]

very well said. Forgive me but I am trying to make it more relative for the lay person.

[@jamtongballs]

hey no prob thought that might be the case. nice one

[@shaneaverystarr]

At face value one would think that nobody needs this video because we can all see the difference; but you did a great job of explaining the nuances that are helpful in nailing down people who seem to be in that gray area.

[@CSJoseph]

thanks bro

[@shahrazade26]

I'm an INFP and I'm more comfortable with someone else initiating. The strange thing is that I love to talk to strangers. Not to ask for directions, though. Just small talk.

[@TheBittenBullet]

An INFP that likes small talk? Not this INFP. But I do feel a little more comfortable talking to strangers as opposed to people I know. That way if I say something stupid or awkward, the embarrassment has little effect on "m'status".

[@aquament]

I think I’m responding. With people I know, or if I’m put in a position of leadership, I’ll initiate, but the majority of the time I’m just going to keep to myself. The only real exception would be if I was in the city or something and I’m surrounded by people who are more introverted than I am, there I’ll suddenly adopt a talkative, take action persona, and will initiate just about everything. I know with one of the jobs I have, I was getting annoyed with my boss because he wouldn’t give me a schedule, I was expecting him to inform me when he was ready for me. I’m also pretty confident I’m an introvert. Socializing with groups of people give me bad vibes, even if they’re people I know decently, especially if their loud and boisterous.

[@SJaye-zv9er]

My understanding is that there is no "extro" in Latin. To be etymologically correct, you have to use "extra".

[@CSJoseph]

well said

[@mehdihassankhanloo5297]

Thank you!

[@MiAn-ee]

Dark red- plum- burgundy colors on your shirts suits you the best, better than black. Darker blueish is good too. /intj

[@CSJoseph]

ill keep that in mind

[@jennysmith9591]

You're right, and I would have sworn he was a "winter" (looks awesome in black).

[@generalpatton838]

Dude! You came up with a kickass grid "Grid For Typing Anyone." I so love that!

[@CSJoseph]

the new one is about to be released

[@generalpatton838]

On your page? Can't wait for it.

[@pavlonikolaienko2093]

It's so mind-blowing! For me, a clear ENTJ, it gives such a great opportunity to even more enhance my communication efficiency. Chase, it would be fantastic if you do another video about which general questions you can use to verify particular communication type and temperament feature if you have doubts. You are a rock star!

[@akaboo69]

I prefer working alone or if I am working with people I'll have headphones on. And yes as an ISFP one on one is very stimulating. Sometimes one on one can tire me depending on how tired I am but usually one on one is great. If I'm lost I'll ask questions I hate being lost and it causes stress. But that's me. Had a flood yesterday and long story needed help.

[@annhinz6326]

I am definitely Introverted, however, times I very much enjoy meeting people and will initiate conversation. Although if I'm tired, I detest small talk, and as a teacher, I really loathe calling parents or anyone I need to connect to. Email was invented for us! And texting!

[@sandy10777]

I’m glad this topic is addressed. My little sister & I were discussing this very thing a few days ago & this answered our questions.

[@jtpavane7265]

Glad you're diving deeper into how to use the type grid! :)

[@terryfrench4694]

Learning how to type others can be so enlightening. It almost becomes a hobby. Thanks 🙏

[@xuanius]

I think on this dimension, it varies a LOT depending on the context. In social/personal situations, I am very responding and let people approach me for conversations. My relationships usually begin as a result of me noticing someone else being interested in me first and responding to that. In group project or work situations I am super initiating, because I want to make sure everything is done right and on track. I fear that if I don't check up, everyone will fall off the wagon, go in a bad direction, or miscommunication will occur.

[@Neo_metallum]

I think your ego might be responding. A project is a more particular situation than a simple conversation with people. You may switch to your unconscious mind because you are worried things will get bad if you don't do something.

[@hazeoszee101]

Exactly. I previously operated in the same way. I would only initiate my conversation with individuals that I found interesting but would remain extremely responding otherwise. In regards to work, I would then start talking and initiating on how we should start/control the project because I wanted to get actual results without being impacted negatively. Life unfortunately doesn't work half as close as the dichotomy proposes, making the distinction quasi impossible unless you are one of the way far extremes.

[@annhinz6326]

This explains so much. Since I'm a sped teacher, I have 6 adults in my classroom and as you can imagine, I'm stressed out to the max. Adults as well as students are constantly coming to me, with questions, or look at this Ms. Hinz. I don't get my prep times like other reg ed teachers, so at the end of the day, it's me and my tablet playing spider solitaire or magic puzzles!

[@katarinabenikova6973]

Just today I needed and information, the easy way would be to pick up the phone and ask, I rather went to look for signs and I found them, YES.

[@BookofYAH777]

I gain mental energy from being alone but I won't hesitate to initiate conversations anytime I need something (I do it by sending message or calling or walking to them face--to-face). I can't decide whether I'm introvert/responding or extrovert/initiating

[@lulukrassova2196]

This is really difficult for me. I think I have to understand this in terms of comfort. My parents constantly encouraged/forced me to initiate interactions (especially with strangers like waitresses for example) as a child from a very young age. Both of my parents are extraverts. I am good at initiating conversations and I would say I tend to be the initiator because most of my friends are introverts. But I like to spend 90% of my time alone and being in a group of more than 3 people is the height of discomfort for me. I have to leave those situations for many breaks (part of the reason why I continue to smoke). I think my interaction style is mostly initiating but I would much rather respond -- when I can be the person responding I feel much more comfortable. Nerdy example coming up: I like to be the player in DnD responding to the situation, then be the DM. But I don't mind being the DM, and I am good at it, but it stresses me out.

[@naturalinstinct4950]

7:50 as an extravert I'll frequently switch to a person in one on one conversation when I "finally get bored" (by that way I can somehow gain energy) because I'm interacting with multiple people.

[@imarticulate1568]

Hey CS Joseph, i am really enjoying your videos, am on a journey to watch all your videos and taking notes, as an INFJ everything about my life is now making sense, thank you for the good work, keep it up.

[@tc9085]

This is such a great explanation of the meaning and differences between the two personality type grids; Initiating & Responding. This directly educates me on myself and my fiance! And it answers why I am the way I am! I am a responder! I am great at that! People I know love me for this, and I will let you know that, I am interested in people, what makes them tick! My fiance won"t let me in, it has been very frustrating to me. I often experience the lack of him initiating so that I may respond! Also the depiction example of the movie character John Nash plays! Through your incredible explanation, you have accurately illustrated the structure type (which I am faced with on a regular basis)! I feel ignored much of the time and it has caused me to feel neglected! Now that I have learned this important information I feel so much better! Wow, this is an answer to something I have been clueless to for 5.5 years in this relationship! I have even considered that he is not a good match to me! This is what I need is to understand myself(my structure type) and understand others! This is brilliant! With this new knowledge, Now, I mentally visualize the people I associate with and "look" at their structure type and think about past social events I have been in with friends and aquaintances, and it is awesome going over in my mind the many interactions that have had! I am looking forward to the next video, and the next and the next! Thank you C.S. Joseph for sharing this, and Thank You for what you do!

[@CSJoseph]

YOu are most welcome.

[@bafbaas1210]

I find this the hardest one followed with abstract vs concrete. Because I'm alone pretty often and do enjoy myself and being around (certain) people can tire me. But most of my friends tell me I'm extraverted and when everyone else is waiting for someone to take charge and start up I happily do it, and deep or fun talks with friends is my favourite thing. I think the inferior si kinda makes me scared of things but it feels more like a te inferior fright of being disliked.

[@lizzywhite4231]

notification squad !! so excited to watch this !!

[@nickemfive8866]

Very helpful information. So true. When I drive in unknown territory I ALWAYS look for signs! Or hope the GPS map will have even the smallest street on it, so that I don't have to initiate with any stranger. That's the last resort haha.

[@pkk1652]

Hmm. According to your typing I'm ENTJ (Which is initiating), but i get tired easily by social interaction, so that would mean that I'm often in my INTP unconscious. So the question would be - How would ENTJ with developed unconscious look like ? Or maybe i spend a lot of time in my head which is INTP because he's responding ? PS. Thanks to C. S. Joseph i look more like a good person, not to mention that i can finally understand what's wrong with me

[@CSJoseph]

watch the lecture on cognitive transitions

[@benmarxxshow]

Interesting. I am INFP, and I prefer being by myself or with another person. Hence, I've never had many friends, but I almost always have a girlfriend. As soon as a third person enters the scene, I am looking for a way to leave, as I'm immediately uncomfortable.

[@NightCloudI]

Same, i'm also an introvert but I'm not an infp

[@johnnymiller2243]

Another cool video. Thank you. I’m chuckling once again because I also wear mostly black shirts, buy five of the same shirt and share the handedness thing. I commented on a previous video that we had the exact same, previous mistypes with MBTI (INFJ, INTJ). I was pretty sure but your information helped solidify my ENTP type. I share your videos all the time. You are the bomb. Keep it up!

[@CSJoseph]

much appreciated bro

[@sweetthang0165]

This INTP was snickering too. 😂😊 So glad you're doing these lectures. This is so going to help me deal with people. Thank you.

[@chiltthruya1935]

Love how quick your videos come out!

[@Retrogamer71]

15:05 structure or starter? direct or informative? Viewer quandry: 16:16 Strong Preferences not blinkered pathology?

[@bafbaas1210]

To me a big sign that i was initiating is that whenever i'm tired i can't stop talking to be people (if i like them enough). I can't shut up, keep the conversation without reason or sense. I think it's my inner filter being unable to control my natural personality. Could that be right?

[@CSJoseph]

keep watching

[@mihai-georgegrecu4182]

Hi from Romania! Thank you for this lecture!

[@CSJoseph]

you are welcome sir!

[@k.strive46]

i've never heard the word autodidact before this. thank you.

[@duckbacon3117]

"I do a lot of things with my right hand" 😂16:48😂

[@SJaye-zv9er]

The handedness thing is cool. I'm the same way. And yeah, I laughed.

[@EnochianChronicles]

Autodidact huh? I always like learning new words. I think even in academic settings this was true for me. I would ignore my teachers and skip ahead on lectures, often being many chapters ahead of the class, mostly because the snails pace everyone else was on. Otherwise I would be forced to do other things, read, draw or perhaps write up something unrelated. I was born left-handed and forced by my teacher to use my right hand (in grade 1, due to the sinister nature of us lefties), hence I can do most things with either (but not always equally well), although I now write with my right. Took me decades to figure out why all can openers were broken (I use my left with right handed can openers)

[@someonerandom713]

I definitely see this preference shifting alongside the sides of the mind. Makes sense, great video! =)

[@thelastcrow]

I am not sure if I am an introvert or an extrovert. On the one hand, if I am in a group of more than three people I tend to be passive for most of the conversation and after a while I am drained, but on the other I can go up to somebody if I need assistance such as the example you used of if you are lost.

[@robertpotts8032]

Good stuff. Thx for clarification will definitely help with typing.

[@plasma.]

17:00 I actually did laugh and your statement made me laugh even more😂

[@g4gamer2k9]

So informative!

[@RRRsimracing]

C.S Joseph You're the dopest ! Thanks for being so systematic for I am not as much. Great content

[@aruljohnson510]

Useful videos...benefitted immensely

[@jennahumphrey1]

Really enjoying this series! 😍

[@Lady.Luck.]

I'm a responder and so is my husband but he is even more resilient to initiation than I. I feel like it forces me to be the initiator..which causes me stress

[@henkster6067]

Omw yes! I feel so stressed out to initiate a conversation and then on top of that people don't respond when I initiate things so I freak out that I just keep initiate things until they respond. Gosh! I don't want to initiate anything at all but other introverts make it hard for me to build connection. Haha guess I'll have to make more extroverted friends. Stange I find them but they are never interest based so it's never to get to know me. If I get the "tell me about yourself" I just want to die, its not an interview afterall!

[@himanshuchhatpar3552]

How TF did you know i was laughing ??

[@CSJoseph]

telepathy via understanding

[@mehdihassankhanloo5297]

The answer is by Ne Hero. It's DOPE!!!

[@MusicalInquisit]

As a "responding" person, someone ordering you to start socializing is perhaps the best way to make an enemy. He, whom I shall not name, asked something similar to, "Are you able to socialize 'properly' to other students or other people or do you just sit there, quiet all the time?" I told him I was introverted. The next B-day, he made me socialize with someone in that classroom I did not know fully. During that experience in which we sat next to Patricia (the person I was forced to converse with), she started to become uncomfortable, due to MANY reasons. I remember that day due to the vice of words that seeped out through my mouth, like a hot teapot ready to blow a gasket. My tone reached levels of anger that, despite my best control of efforts, colored my conversation with "I will murder you" vibes -- not specifically to Patricia, of course, but to HIM. I am sighing as I am writing this paragraph. Why must "initiating" people feel the need to make me chat when that is clearly not my strong suit. If I feel I want to "initiate," I will do it. Do not FORCE me to start conversing just because you feel as if I am missing something "important." I don't care that "all" of the United States jobs require conversations, I will do it if I have to. Do not force me to start "practicing." The lesson of the day: do not force a responding person to start "chatting" with other people. EDIT: forgot to put a "not" somewhere in there (added 4/19/19).

[@CSJoseph]

I disagree. Its important to get people out of their comfort zone or else they wont grow and become conceited in their lack of growth.

[@mehdihassankhanloo5297]

@@CSJoseph Exactly. 👌🏻

[@nolanbarger]

Wondering if you could make a video on a certain topic (or point me to it if you've made one already.) It would be on how to really give positive words of affirmation to each type. How do I compliment, show appreciation and encourage? And maybe a video on what NOT to say to each type. In a few of your videos you'll be talking about a type and you'll say "never tell this type xyz, they don't care about that." And it occurred to me that when I give a compliment I think maybe the other person might not value it. Like it will be some compliment that would be ideal for my type and not theirs. Much appreciated

[@CSJoseph]

you are correct and I will see to it.

[@verenamonika602]

i am infj also love to buy many of the same clothes i like wearing

[@teensytinyninja]

I’m an intp. I hated this entj for years bc i knew some information about a few situations that made him look like an idiot and a jerk. I kept bringing up these things and what I thought, expecting him to just tell me if I was wrong about something. Eventually I got around to realizing he’s not an idiot and what I thought about him didn’t make sense based off of how I’ve seen him behave. I ended up asking for more info and it cleared the whole misunderstanding up. But we operated on opposite wavelengths for two years just bc we have different interaction styles.

[@A.J.Breadman]

Wow! I am really glad this video exists. I have lately felt like people use the fact (or even people who aren't but want to be cause it's "cool") that the're an intravert to lock themselves in their house in watch Netfix all day. America's veiw of intravertedness In reality is selfish and makes life a lot harder for everyone since an Initiating person has to have someone to respond to them, and if they dont then no one cant move forward. like that example you gave. An Initiating person will go ask someone for what they need but they have to have the Responder to answer that request for them (akin to an electrical circuit or a flashlight that needs a battery). I am an Intravert and I have learned more about maturity by being out and giving away all the energy I've saved till I have to go into the Extraveted sides of my mind which then causes integration and further maturity. Extraverts should learn to intravert a little, because that will bring out the other intraverted sides of your mind and make you more mature and your mind more integrated. Also this means that Extraverts are only more "outgoing" because they have to be to stay sane. What I mean is, if a Intravert is less and less willing to interface with other people, than an Extravert is going to have to try harder and harder to engage, but this will just force the Intravert to go hide again since their energy has been drained or "givin away" to the Extravert. Starting the loop all over again. The only way to balance it is for both sides to meet in the middle. • Intraverts: recharge then go give away your energy. •Exraverts: receive that energy then go use it. Intraverts are sources, Extraverts are absorbers.

[@CSJoseph]

well said

[@brendemarco9976]

I would never dare to type myself with such a silly thing, but you definitely had me right with the hand thing🤣🤣🤣

[@brittanypage1706]

So I'm a pretty integrated INTJ. Philosophy, Stoicism and Buddhism really force you to confront yourself in a very honest way. For me I've learned to put my goals and thinking above all and doing whatever is necessary to reach my goal in an efficient way. If that means being uncomfortable so be it idc because the goal is my goal. I grew up using my ENTP unconscious because I couldn't read until 14 so social setting don't stress me out too much. Right now the challenge is using the superego is a responsible manner. My ISFJ superego is SCARY! My INTJ ego likes to find loop holes in the Canadian legal system my ENTP unconscious loves the power that comes with my legal position but that ISFJ superego is just ruthless when it comes to justice. It's honestly scary but recently it's been emerging in a none threatening way. Which I hope is a sign of balance. But man ISFJs are scary ahaha. I try my best to actually stay out of my ego to use the other parts of the mind which my super super attentive psychoanalysis professor picked up on haha but you know it's the sacrifice of individuation.

[@wolframiii7103]

After Last video (Direct vs Informative) I began to doubt if I'd be ENTP or INTP, for a day I tried to look at myself from standpoint of ENTP (never before I was driving so fast on public roads). But this video had put everything into places. Since I would initiate only if everything else fails. And that could potentially explain why I am bothered with some easy to answer questions (it makes me wonder if that person had actually tried to find an answer himself)

[@BlackMambaVids]

Keep up the good work fella

[@ganesha7912]

thanks for sharing it with us!

[@the99mistakes]

I’ve been studying this shit for years and I still don’t know with certainty (keyword) what I am. I do like this dual vector system, but it’s the speed in typing that makes me question the validity of it.

[@Lady.Luck.]

13:45 nailed it

[@xandirkuro4790]

Thanks for the video!

[@orinking8064]

"everyone and your mother" does that mean my mother should read it twice?

[@RambleMaven]

What if I prefer to work with people to bounce ideas off of but like to have a small amount of friends.

[@Retrogamer71]

Subconscious "introversion" creates a paradox if your ego is extraversion.

[@Retrogamer71]

Does this correspond to Model G. "Horse and Rider" analogy.

[@lottemaas6038]

You shoud host a podcast on Spotify🤩, honestly youve learned me so Mutch!

[@CSJoseph]

use the search function :)

[@lottemaas6038]

@@CSJoseph thank you😅😊

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

Without all that entp/intj snickering... The world would be a boring place. 😂 PS.. Customer service situations aside.. I avoid initiating (most of the time) because I don't really like being nosy... Besides, most of the time, people who want to "talk about it" (&/or themselves) are going to (verbal/nonverbal) anyway. Sooo, yeah. I find the respond option is a win win.

[@minawei7263]

''I do a lot of things with my right hand'' - C.S. Joseph Edit: Damnit. I've been labeled as a snickering INTJ now.

[@CSJoseph]

Lol

[@Gnawklol]

17:03 caught me snickering /INTJ

[@mehdihassankhanloo5297]

The Ne Hero… Is DOPE!

[@spannycat2]

I'm an ENFP but I respond most of the time. But I am really obvious about my personality in group settings and social media. So people come to me to be my friend. But I struggle to initiate one on one interactions. I'm more of a group extrovert. So I'll be the life of the party. But I feel really weird one on one.

[@SJaye-zv9er]

I would love to wait for people to come to me, but it doesn't work for me. If I find myself isolated in social situations I start wondering if the other people are avoiding me. Do they dislike me? Did I forget to shower? What does it mean? My head gets very loud.

[@cymbrium]

You da man! My INTJ also wears the same thing everyday. Also I want a free book.

[@SJaye-zv9er]

Really? I wouldn't do that unless they were my painting clothes. I often pick out the next day's clothes before I go to bed. This came up in Chase's Facebook group. Someone said that a lot of INTJs only wear black. I don't understand that. I thought it was ENTPs and INTPs who did that.

[@shoeberrypie]

Sherry Johnson INTJs can actually wear a LOT of color until they realize informing-initiating types are king in this society, vs their direct-responding They realize society hates them, and THEN they wear black

[@spring7643]

I am confused. I believe I am INFJ but it does not bother me to go up to many people and ask for help or directions. I do it all the time. It used to bother me when I was a kid, but not anymore. I like being by myself or with one other person though. Crowds annoy me because there is too much going on to focus. Is this typical for an INFJ? 🤔 12:43 that might explain it, I think I might use my Unconscious or Subconscious when I ask for directions.

[@CSJoseph]

Se inferior tends to be characterized as a form of social anxiety, yes. But Fe inferior also feels that way. I'd stick with interaction style and temperament to be sure.

[@spring7643]

@@CSJoseph What videos should I watch to learn more about it? Thank you!

[@shelbynicholson4811]

Initiating and responding means simply extraverted and introverted to me. So I need to study this, because you're saying there is more... I look forward to your definitions of movement, control, direct, behind the scenes, structure, in charge, etc, because you can't Type people without it, based on your methods. It's also fun to understand these terms, when I finally do.... I understand movement. Being INFJ, it means you like to feel progress. You don't like to stop and smell the roses, because there's work to be done. (All I could think of this weekend, while waiting for a friend to stop smelling the roses, was how you were going to throw me a bone. "Yeah, okay, we'll get going in a minute." Chat, chat, chat.) How the other styles compare to this on the same continuum I don't know but look forward to understanding. Movement has run its course through my life in a big way. I'm always waiting! And I feel bored by it. Even my fellow INFJ guru Joni Mitchell in an interview I was watching this week said she never enjoyed her garden because she was always too busy to see it. As an Introvert, I'm wondering if being a Responding type is why I'm so uncomfortable, asking questions. In class during college, we got graded on class participation. It used to anger me, because it didn't work in my favor. I generate too many questions, then I answer my own question. I need time to process questions. I work it all out with Ti Child internally. Typically I never process things externally. It's just not my style. That makes me question the purpose of Fe Parent, especially as Personality Hackers says developing auxiliary Fe is the path to personal growth. I'd like to hear what you have to reply to that, Chase.

[@CSJoseph]

Yes that is why you are uncomfortable, that and Se inferior and Fi critic. Se inferior doesn't want to look stupid for asking a stupid question. Fi critic already believes you should know the answer. Etc.

[@catalinagomez2064]

If I were in a project I'd want to know everything related to it. If my team mates talked to let's say our teacher about something they only discussed I'd be upset because they didn't tell me they had doubts from the beginning and ignored my judgement and, consequently I missed out on the details that were shared in the conversation. That's why I hated to skip classes at uni, I could never conform with the brief details that my super efficient and likely Intj classmate gave me when I wasn't present. I hate to miss out on things that concern me or my interests. I always want to know as much as I can about everything, dispose of as much information I can so that I have a better idea of a topic, issue and form better and more accurate judgements and opinions. I also hate to disturb people to get information about something. If I can google it, I will before asking anyone. During lectures I usually ended up with more questions than answers to the point it was overwhelming. I rarely shared my doubts with my teachers unless they were inviting and waited at least a minute after asking "does anybody have questions?". If they actually waited I just hoped I'd have enough time to formulate one of the several questions I had in mind. I also feel very uncomfortable speaking in public so it also took some courage to raise my hand. I remember I did it a respectable quatity of times for an introvert anyways, because I hated the fact that my akwardness could stop me from expressing myself.

[@itsmeraz3008]

What about those who don't want people to approach them? Haha. Thank you for your insights!

[@rachman.syahril]

Initiating: Asking people for directions, Doesn't rly bothered if they don't informed, usually they asked for infos in the first place. Responding: Prefers reading signs for directions, Quite bothered if they don't get informed, felt they are not important.

[@JoyBomer]

Thanks for this new series. You've mentioned a new type grid coming up, and I was wondering if it's possible to not only list the Ego, but also the other sides of the mind in the grid? I've caught myself looking back and forth to the overview of the four sides of the mind, especially when dealing with types I'm not acquainted with as much or people I suspect of acting outside of their ego so to say.

[@CSJoseph]

I will see to it

[@loref4200]

I have never thought of myself as direct before. I suppose that I typically counterbalance my directness with a question, such as, "There is no milk in the fridge. Would you like me to go get it? Or, do you want to?". Is this typical of an INFJ? (I also giggled about the hand joke before you caught it, haha).

[@spannycat2]

Ya. Same. No one complains when I do that. When I'm direct, people call me rude. I honestly think people prefer indirect.

[@generalpatton838]

That INTJ analysis is pretty accurate

[@RavinerPayne]

@CSJoesph How would Psychopaths be typed? Would they have a concrete Ego or would they operate more on the unconscious section and figuring out the shadow.

[@CSJoseph]

HPD people

[@RavinerPayne]

@CSJoseph Mmm, sorry I haven't fully studied your work enough to articulate, not that I'm sure how much of the question I would properly ask. Anyway I will try to ask after I figure out and purchase whatever sort of patreon(?) type thing.

[@hannah_marie97]

I know ambiversion doesn't exist, but I've never figured out which one I am! I am so initiating but I still need a little time to do my own thing and have some control over my environment! Some say shadow focused ESFP. It's so hard to figure out ☻️

[@CSJoseph]

The key to discerning which is which here is the preference. Ability is not preference. What you do the most is not preference. Which one you would pick if you got the choice is preference.

[@jWIL1107]

Hey CS! My study of the cognitive functions has led me to conclude that I am an INFJ, but the way you describe introversion versus extraversion gives me pause. Being around a large group of people does energize me because I can observe and stay in my head more. The smaller the group of people and the less comfortable I am with the group, the more quickly I am drained. I think it is because I have to be "on" (using Fe a whole lot) and less able to switch into Ni/Ti without seeming totally awkward. Because I gain energy getting lost in the crowd and feel drained in most one-on-one interactions (even with my closest friends/family), does this mean I am actually extroverted? I feel like a pendulum most days, needing lots of alone time and then craving lots of crowd time! Too much of either makes me depressed. UGH! The more I learn the more I realize I don't know. 😱 Thoughts?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes, that would technically mean you are extraverted. This is a common occurrence with ENFJs to think they are INFJs.

[@maylynbayani]

My husband is the only introvert in his family so he is viewed as odd by his extraverted family. His mom even believed he's on the spectrum when in truth, people just exhaust him. He basically is itching to leave early in every social gathering. He even has "me time" which means i cannot intrude in his space. Im not even allowed to talk to him. It doesnt offend me though. Im an ESTJ married to an ISFJ.

[@TheLooselois]

Phone died, being aware of the time is essential, no public display with the time was present. I let way too many people walk past before I can get the nerve to ask someone for the time. I feel quite stupid for feeling such anxiety over the smallest thing to initiate 🤦🏻‍♀️ it really should not be that difficult

[@ayoungprince6771]

If you have a direct and responding ego is it that every time you are informative or initiating with someone you are necessarily cognitive trasnsitioning to either your subconscious or unconscious?

[@_carrot__cake_]

I'm still confused and don't know what I am. When I'm alone or with only one person my energy doesn't recharge, but I do feel comfortable on my own and need a rest from people if I've been around them consistently for a few days (like when you go on holidays with your family or friends and everything you do you do together as a group). When I'm around a lot of people it depends on the group. If they are my friends - I feel this energy buzz and want to continue being around them for a while. If they are acquaintances or someone I just met - I feel weird and keep thinking of a way to be more friendly and funny and not to say anything dumb, so basically, I receive some energy but it's like nervous energy almost...? If they are total strangers and we don't talk to each other - I feel great, just being surrounded by people is giving me energy. Sometimes when I feel like crap just taking a train and sitting next to people on the train makes me feel better. BUT I like when people keep me in the loop and rarely ask anyone about anything if I don't know them very well, and before I ask I always repeat the question in my head a few times. Maybe, that's because I really don't want people to think I'm stupid and can't figure things on my own. Also maybe that's because both my parents are introverts and I grew up seeing them both never asking anyone about anything so I adopted that style as well...

[@astonish_injurer5598]

You're a pragmatic extravert, which narrows it down to ESTP, ENTJ, ESFP and ENTP. Considering you like to be informed, you would naturally prefer being around informative types, which further narrows it down to ESFP and ENTJ. ESFP is triple movement while ENTJ is triple control. I'm inclined to say ENTJ as I don't see much movement.

[@usefulbobcat]

17:01 why did you think it would be intjs who would snicker?

[@Entyipo]

Se inferior thinks about sex a lot.

[@Entyipo]

Se inferior thinks about sex a lot.

[@brijnoorsahni932]

Really good video. Are you also going to make one on movement and control?

[@CSJoseph]

Soon #trademark

[@sabrinajahan1807]

Hey, I figured out from my friends that I am informative but I have a lottttttttttt performance anxiety. There must be 32 or 64 types 😌

[@damagedguy2745]

I felt bad when I didn't get the right hand pun in the first time. Then I watched the pun over and over again, I chuckled but someone inside my chest wanted to confirm that I'm an INTJ But Why I was so desperate?

[@dexmickbear7916]

Who is more initiating: ENFJ or ENFP? Why is that the case?

[@monsenanna13]

17:03 Caught me snickering too, must be an NT thing (INTP)

[@Retrogamer71]

12:48 the locus is in the ego, mostly?

[@bingoconrad8748]

Hi there, I have enjoyed your well thought out and thorough videos. I have a question about these communication preferences. I have always considered myself to be an introvert until I saw your reference to initiating to "find missing information." In my adult life, I don't think I have ever hesitated to ask a question of a stranger for the sake of moving things forward like getting directions or how to do something. In my childhood and young adulthood, I would definitely not have been so brave as to do this and was considered quite shy and reticent. So would that be considered responding (having grown comfortable with asking questions) or an Initiating? Thank you!

[@Entyipo]

As an INTP it's very hard for me to ask questions so that would be initiating.

[@everestdog]

Is this as simple as someone is introverted vs extroverted?

[@leavemealone2006]

Hi Chase! Will the next video be about affiliative vs pragmatic? I am having a hard time figuring out if I'm an INFJ with well developed Ti or an INTJ and really looking forward to that video!

[@CSJoseph]

It is coming, I promise!

[@bobbykanae]

Is it preference or is it action? I (ENFP) prefer to be responding but I just don't trust I'll get what I want unless I act. So I find myself being initiating because I don't trust the other, despite what I really want is them to answer/come to me. I get that's probably me just going through my INFJ unconcious trap door.