How ENFPs See the 16 Personalities

[@ane9898]

ENFPs are smart people that got underestimated because of their soft shells -from ENTP

[@YouilAushana]

Yeah, I just see miserable and sore losers

[@hyjjjkyikk3158]

@@YouilAushana well I was a sore loser when I was playing chess in primary 2, I usually had an expectation that when I lose,it would give at least a good fight but lo and behold,I got dunked on real hard

[@yukhuun]

@@YouilAushanai see you at night. sleeping.

[@sViviftie]

very true.

[@nathanwood4762]

The ENFP I know is exceedingly smart. Self-effacing in personal matters, ambitious professionally. I never know what the next thing out of her mouth will be, but it's usually hilarious. She seems to lack good judgment because she always just makes stuff up as she goes. I admire her and worry about her at the same time.

[@gabri_cheesellamasneeze9006]

I think everyone needs an ENFP in their life. Gotta love em 💕 Love, ~ ENFJ

[@ayesha_shah9]

I'm an INFJ and my ENFP friend is a god's gift to me! I love em! Beautiful human beings.

[@real._.ammmxxr]

Hi INFJ🌚

[@ayesha_shah9]

@@real._.ammmxxr 🌝 you! It's you who I was taking about XD 💖

[@lovewho]

I'm loving the... well... love, in this comment! ~ Nathan

[@Morelove4ever8]

I love my INFJS . The love of my life was an INFJ! He was my favorite person on earth! He taught me so much. (He’s on the other side now)

[@Zurab_Rob]

As Enfp I love infjs you guys are chill to hang out with

[@exokitten]

I worked at restaurants for years and the vast majority of servers were ENFPs and ESFPs. I love that ENFPs really do seem to get along with just about everyone. I was often the only ENFJ in the lot and one thing I noticed was that ENFPs always had numerous “regulars” and I suspect it’s because ENFP’s are intuitive enough to anticipate peoples needs while also being really creative, friendly and engaging. Occasionally they would get distracted or would forget something and I frequently became the designated helper/problem solver for ENFPs who got behind. I also always became the “spokesperson” for the wants/needs/complaints to management for the group, but overall I really enjoyed working with ENFPs. Fun people to be around!

[@katyahope4791]

Thanks from the ENFP.

[@MrLuigiFercotti]

All those aspiring actors. lol

[@sonicxis4ever]

wow thank you for saying this! I'm an ENFP and have worked in the hospitality industry for a decade. I've always been told that I have good energy, charisma and can connect with anyone. I do have a lot of regulars at my coffee shop, and I'm never scared to initiate conversations or make small talk. My coworkers are always like "how are you so good at talking to people?" or "wow you are really on a roll". Its also true that we are good at anticipating customer's needs. I have two best friends who are ENFJs and they are amazing.

[@lovewho]

Being surrounded by ENFPs and ESFPs sounds like a fun time! ~ Nathan

[@QAIMIFplays]

I never realised that , as an ENFP I honestly just thought people were be8ng nice to me (there is a drama gong on ) but no one ever gets mad at me then I realised I get along really we,k with them and it’s just weird now I think about it

[@yeahweburnstuff]

Fellow ENFP's! Just start telling people that you are an ARTIST (of life obviously) and they will accept your eccentric (in their eyes) behaviour fully and without judgement. It's AMAZING and such a freeing label! Lol!

[@nebby8127]

I absolutely love that! Thank you 😄

[@mariagordanier3404]

Way to ruin your credibility tho! It works for INFJs also. ;D

[@yeahweburnstuff]

@@mariagordanier3404 Everyone secretly wishes they were an Artist! They admire the unbridled creativity that most people never experience in their lives.

[@piotrlatuszek171]

@@yeahweburnstuff i am both and i think most of enfps are or will bump into something from art/writing/performance/music and incorporate it in some way, we bump into lots of things and art sticks to us wery good! also i do not quite like the "artist" - from my expirience common people the more atrist see in me the less space there is in their eyes to see me

[@BetsyDudash]

I'm an ENFP, and I'm an artist --when I have time! My real job is landscape design, which is just another kind of art. Being self-employed means that I sometimes struggle to finish projects on schedule, though. . . There's always so much else to do!

[@MissRoxyful]

As an ENFP, I very much view my ENTP friends as the level of premeditated chaos I don’t wish to achieve 😂❤.

[@lovewho]

"Premeditated chaos" - I really like that phrase for ENTPs! ~ Nathan

[@johnknight9150]

(INTJ) Apart from what has already been stated here, from what I've heard from ENFPs, they enjoy the dynamic of coming up with a selection of potential ideas, and then having an Ni-dominant say "we should do *that* one". Apparently we can also follow their crazy line of thought and serve it back to them in streamlined form, but I think they might be giving us too much credit there! ;-)

[@lovewho]

It's a beautiful synergy indeed! ~ Nathan

[@Chigger]

Yes. I'm painfully aware of my realm of possibility that I tend to ignore likelihoods.

[@johnknight9150]

​@@Chigger Does that translate into something inside you wanting to resist the need to pick between choices, and hating being pressured to make a choice?

[@Chigger]

@@johnknight9150 Yes. I want to make choices on my own terms. I've spent lots of time pondering equally various scenarios with various outcomes, and it sucks not knowing how probable each one is. For me, it's better to defer to someone who has thought-out decision making as a strength rather than a weakness.

[@johnknight9150]

@@Chigger Does this ever lead to clashes? (Hopefully not enough to cancel out the benefit of a decisive friend!)

[@cerfreferf6600]

ENFP best personality! - sincerely, INFP

[@barbelarmbroster6524]

Dreamdiving with en INFP is marvelous 🤗✨ ENFP

[@fae3133]

No, INFP, you're the best personality 🖤

[@sViviftie]

thanks! I love to have INFPs around. Someone to share the magic with ✨

[@jarmoliebrand2005]

My ENFP friend is the best person in my life when it comes to being able to have deep, emotional and personal conversations. Plus, we both have autism, so for the most part, we really relate to one another. - INFP

[@er6730]

ENFP here. My best friend is an ISTJ, and we make the best team! We both secretly think the other one is kind of magic, and enjoy the magic rubbing off on us. I love to chat with ENTPs, but you got it exactly right. I find them tending towards cold and unkind. I don't offend easily, and it doesn't bother my personal feelings, it's kind of bracing and fun! However, I get extremely vengeful on behalf of others. So, brush my idea off and joke in kind of a mean way about me... It's liberating, I feel like "oh okay, we're doing this!" and I let myself debate with him in a way that I don't do with other people, because I don't want to hurt them! But then I hear him scoff at my friend's idea, and not in a "that's ridiculous" way, it's all the way over in "you're ridiculous" territory, and he doesn't even give an out for the person to save face. The only paths the ENTP leaves are "double down on my bananas logic" or "Bend down for my spanking". And then I despise that ENTP. I just do. How dare he make this person feel stupid?! It was completely uncalled for and I think it shows a disgusting lack of character. Sure, you can think it, but don't SAY it! This specific guy I'm thinking about, he's slowly learning about emotional intelligence, so I think he'll turn out alright.

[@lovewho]

I always love hearing that people have good relationships with their opposite types. After all, one of the best effects of learning about the different types is being able to connect better and value them for what and who they are ~ Nathan

[@lilamerican7296]

As an ENFP, I ADORE the fact that you made a video about my type. Also, SPOT on with the ENFJ and the ENTJ. Two of my most favorite types that I often envy. I have had mentors of these two types and became especially in awe of the ENFJ's ability to graciously conduct and orchestrate entire rooms and auras so effortlessly. My lack of tact (Fi) has been attempting to learn from the (Fe) and it's been a very slow process. ENFJ's patience and chivalry are unmatched. ENTJ's Te dom is a sight to behold and I found that while being with this person, I have an especially developed Te (as far as I can tell).

[@lovewho]

Glad to hear it! It's interesting to compare the differing ways in which ENFJs and ENTJs work and conduct a room. I think that ENFPs are totally capable of that as well, they just have to go about it in a different sort of way. For some reason, I picture ENFPs working a room by having lots of one on one interactions and building things from there as opposed to having a group of people paying attention to them at the same time ~ Nathan

[@lilamerican7296]

@@lovewho Love your content and the discord! Also, I love that vision of individual interaction so much! I can definitely see that play out!

[@MaliMaslacak526]

​@@lovewho I can confirm this as an enfp. One on one - great. A group - I'd say I suckety suck!

[@trinaq]

I love ENFP's, they always view the world in endless possibilities, and their enthusiasm and love for life is simply contagious. That's probably why ENFPs are slated to be perfect matches for INFJs! 😍💘

[@PriHL]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied I could've written this as well :)

[@kellikakes81]

Yup. Not even knowing about mbti, most of my life, I have attracted INFJs as best friends. 2 sides of the same coin.

[@Dani-dh6ni]

We love you too :3

[@BertramD.]

@@Dani-dh6ni Yes we do, oh yes we do

[@sonicxis4ever]

I dated an INFJ and I can confirm this! We could have endless conversations about life. It was amazing.

[@pedrodias5166]

I think ISFP's are quite intriguing (as an ENFP), I guess in part because they have a certain wisdom of human nature, emotions and spirituality (FI dom) but they are also very grounded in reality with their SE. They get a reputation for being kind snowflakes, but often I see them as very individualistic and profound beings without the need to overcomplicate things, they take life lightly and deeply.

[@kellikakes81]

Agreed. I have some very close friends who are ISFPs. They are non judgemental (for the most part lol) too. I feel they go with my flow. Inquisitive. They are quite intuitive, despite sensing being above their secondary function.

[@FPT84]

They have same cognitive functions like INTJ but in opposite way hence there's something special there

[@shadowboxing7029]

To whoever underestimates them as kind snowflakes would be making a mistake. Cross their boundaries (not that they're likely to let you know what those are) and you will cease to exist to them lol. My partner is one, he can get along with absolutely anyone (I think this has to do in part with how he puts people at ease, because you won't feel judged by him), though he prefers his solitude more often than not. A physical powerhouse with an appreciation for the abstract and aesthetics of all things. Every now and then he'll let an insight slip and it's so deeply profound I find myself musing on it for days.

[@MrLuigiFercotti]

I think ISFPs (and INFPs) can be not taken seriously by some. Then you find out how capable they are and have some real chops.

[@pedrodias5166]

@@MrLuigiFercotti They have a very strong individualistic identity. Authentic and sure of their beliefs

[@shadowboxing7029]

Recently came to know an ENFP at work and this perfectly explains our interactions (ISTP). He's not shy in expressing his admiration, when I strike at the heart of a matter. But it's also obvious when he gets frustrated with my close mindedness lol. I have a hard time listening without looking for a cause and effect, to determine the problem. Even when there isn't one, even when that has not been asked of me. It's a fault of mine, to not just appreciate what I'm hearing and go with it. I'm glad I met him, because it's made me realise how shut off I've become and that not everything needs a solution.

[@lovewho]

I love hearing about these examples! It's great that you've also come to realise the value of the ENFP approach. If an ISTP were to embrace that kind of openness more, suddenly their toolkit for problem solving is massively enhanced ~ Nathan

[@yeahweburnstuff]

OMG! Your description of my (ENFP) view of my INTJ husband is exactly correct on every point! Love you Nathan!

[@lovewho]

I'm glad to hear that. It's always enjoyable to me to hear from people who are in relationships with other types. That gives them a deep insight not only into their partner's type, but the inter-type dynamics as well ~ Nathan

[@Chigger]

The "ESTJ mode" happened fairly recently in my life. A few years ago, I started working on a long-term project with my INFJ friend, and I started to train my Te and Si to be stronger. Now I can get sizeable amounts of the project done with few breaks or many breaks in between.

[@lovewho]

That's awesome! I think the people often assume they need to make huge changes to themselves. Often though, it's simply a case of making small and incremental adjustments. You've managed to increase your efficiency by integrating that ESTJ approach. Very cool indeed ~ Nathan

[@Chigger]

@@lovewho Yeah, it started off as scheduling a day every so often to work with my friend, and getting the bulk of my chores done in one go so I can get some solo work done. Add that to my natural sporadic ENFP nature, and now I can switch gears much more fluidly.

[@m_n_a_b]

I also learned to do this, just as a child. My parents would not tolerate anything less than straight As once they saw my aptitude scores on 3rd grade standardized testing. So, I had to figure out how to develop Te and Si as a self survival to stay out of being perpetually grounded and having a very large, loud, muscular Dad screaming in my face and terrifying my little self. He now knows he was too harsh with how he approached me. I didn't need that intensity level. He is also ENFP, and didn't want me turning out like him in blue collar dead end jobs I would hate because I never applied myself. He was well intentioned, but took a bad approach. Other than this side of him, my Dad and I click very well. Frequently leaving our family laughing because of our antics. So, this ESTJ mode is helpful when working... but it drains me like socializing drains most introverts. I'm utterly drained after an intense focus work day. I NEED fun decompression time where I just do what I enjoy and pursue my interests. Then, times where I enjoy the company of friends. And even other times where I am just deeply introspective and don't talk to anyone while I'm alone with my thoughts and feelings.

[@Amira-z6k]

『Timestamps』 ESTP - 0:03 ISTP - 0:46 ENTP - 1:48 ESFJ - 2:45 INFJ - 3:39 INTP - 4:56 INFP - 6:00 ISTJ - 7:17 ESTJ - 8:35 ENFJ - 9:43 ENTJ - 10:47 ISFJ - 11:29 INTJ - 12:28 ISFP - 13:33 ESFP - 14:24 ENFP - 15:07

[@Amira-z6k]

No problem! I’m an ENFJ so I like being useful for others :) Would you as an INFJ do this as well?

[@DragonErin2]

​team ENFJ here too

[@rainiergeraldine4617]

Thank you very much, u are very helpful

[@Zurab_Rob]

Thanks ☺️

[@MrLuigiFercotti]

Had close friend in college who I believe was ENFP, we got along great. The shared outward focus with the combination of Ne abstraction and Se directness made for good times, and all EPs like to break the rules. ~ESTP

[@lovewho]

I think that all the ExxPs share a rebellious spirit! ~ Nathan

[@CheriFields]

I’ve got two ENFPs in my life and was glad when I saw how close your description of their response to the INTJ is to my experience. I find myself tolerating their oddities, but I’m usually confident and bold when I tell them one of their ideas is a great one, run with it. It also made sense with the dynamics between them and the INFJ because there are times my dad reminds me strongly of an ENFP only to have other things clearly not fit him. As usual, well thought out and encouraging. I love how you present each type as someone of value with great strengths to go with their inevitable weaknesses

[@sonicxis4ever]

I met someone who typed as an INFJ and then an ENFP. Not too surprising since they are both NF types; they're both warm, compassioante, intuitive and imaginative.

[@lovewho]

There are lots of strange and surprising overlaps between types. INFJ/ENFP mistypes are probably more common than we often hear about. I think ENFPs really appreciate the honest feedback INTJs give their ideas. Yes, maybe most ideas would be shot down, but when they actually think something is worth pursuing they'll tell them! ~ Nathan

[@aleaaerktyka1052]

Cool! Waiting for ISFP because I can know you'll do it without bias!

[@lovewho]

That will be a fun one to do. There isn't much longer ISFP content out there, so I'm looking forward to deep diving into it! ~ Nathan

[@Chigger]

Yes. ISFPs (in the way you annoyingly and accurately portrayed how I feel about them) need more recognition because of how great they are.

[@aleaaerktyka1052]

@@Chigger Haha, they're cool indeed but I think other sensing types can be brought more to light as well :/

[@rokusashu7441]

I love how you points out my existensial crisis abt potentially typing myself as ESTJ! I have pretty good Te for an ENFP, I dislike disorganized notes or clutters But I have no Si I have terrible sense of time and routines, following procedures makes me mentally stiffled Also I respect Si dom so much, because they can do things I can't And trends I notice when interacting with ENTPs are that they have more tendency to overthink and care about images compared to ENFPs (for some ENFPs, negative self image is ok if that's what's makes us authentic, maybe because ENTPs tend to have 3-fix and ENFP tend to have 4-fix) They like talking to depths about their interests, ENTPs like talking lengths about their theories and what make sense to them, while we like talking about what we're passionate about ENTPs cope better with small talks, some of them even enjoy it, while most of us ENFPs find it socially taxing to entertain small talks But most of the time we're like two peas in a pod

[@24hrdiner]

BINGO

[@sonicxis4ever]

as an ENFP do you ever find that you like routine sometimes? When I have free time, I go with the flow and decide what I'll do but I'll get stuck in a loop of playing my Nintendo switch and haven't brushed my teeth, done laundry or showered and they I become super organized, disciplined an structured. For the most part, I'm 80% laid back and 20% organized. The only issue I have no concept of time. I'm always late or start a task and don't complete it,

[@rokusashu7441]

@@sonicxis4ever hmm good question! I like comfort-anything as an ENFP. Like comfort food, comfort cafe, comfort game, which I can use repetitively as much as I can without getting bored. What I like about it is that I can go auto instead of being stuck with a lot of options. I like utilizing my Ne for things I enjoy (I like writing and designing) so it matters less to me what I eat/wear/play or places I go to for day-to-day. I can have organized notes about my designs (or anything my Fi deems important), but very messy sleeping/eating habit🥲 and one other thing, we might feel motivated sometimes (with diet/work out for example) but I usually never able to follow up past the first week🥲 in the positive light, that left me with a lot of hobbies/side skills/random trivias!

[@lovewho]

Such is the difficulty of personality types. They are generalised archetypes that can capture our essence or our broad strokes, but don't explain us as we are in many parts of our lives. We often have to take on different roles, for example, or act contrary to our nature depending on the circumstances. As an ENFP matures and develops, it makes sense that they'd resemble ESTJs quite often actually! ~ Nathan

[@HM-pn8iu]

Thank you. I had a terrible crush on an ENFP in college so it's interesting to hear what he might have really thought of me. :)

[@EresirThe1st]

I adore ENFPs, they're such special and enriching people

[@dustins6807]

Spot on! I like the "How ___ See the 16 Personality" series. You are very thoughtful in your approach and wording.

[@lovewho]

Why thank you! ~ Nathan

[@Mgerrilynn]

I find this pretty accurate. Here’s my evaluation of some of my personal experiences INFP- 3 of my siblings are INFP’s and I do feel in so many ways we are kindred spirits. We’re all artistic and musical. I have a couple of INFP friends. I find them super peaceful to be around. ISTJ- our accountant (typical career choice) is an ISTJ and he made me cry. He made everyone cry though and our laborers were scared to go into his office. INFJ’s- compatible with ENFP and I find this to be true. My favorite bosses and coworkers are INFJs. They have a good combination of having expectations but being flexible. But they are mysterious and don’t let you quite figure them out. They are definitely my favorite people to work with professionally. INTJ’s- most of my friends and guys I have dated are INTJs so that speaks volumes. ENFJ- my mom is an ENFJ and we are best friends and nurture the same but we can clash because she is a perfectionist when it comes to cleanliness and I am just not that detail oriented. She’s more social than me and exhausts me. ESTP-my dad. So much like him in a lot of ways but he his logic makes him frustrated with me at times and sometimes I find him a little insensitive. He is also too social sometimes and exhausts me as well. ESFJ- I find them to be super popular and have tons of friends. Perfect amount of extrovert. Not exhausting. And life of the party. ESTJ- She likes to seek thrill in her life and although I am spontaneous I’m more cautious. Example: she went skydiving, something I would never do. She’s science and math based and the rest of the siblings are arts based. Other ENFP’s- I get along with some but others are too out there for me with their over the tol eccentric personalities and styles. I find that as an ENFP I tend to be a little less risky and spontaneous as some others. But I’m also 51% extrovert and 49% introvert so idk if that has something to do with it? I find for the most part anyone that’s an N, regardless if they are are introverted or extroverted are general close friends/family. I do get along with most S’s but they generally aren’t close friends. I also find that super extroverted people exhaust me. ENFP’s need their downtime and we hobbit when we’re deep in thought.

[@NoNamedNobody692]

According to 4-Sides Dynamics: A Hybrid Model of sorts of MBTI, 8-Function Model, Kiersey Temperament Sorter, & Interaction Styles… Dual Relationships (ie Ego+Subconscious Pairings | Ex) INTJ+ESFP or ISTJ+ENFP) are more shoulder-to-shoulder / growing relationships because each type basically constantly exploits the other type’s weaknesses and vice versa due to the how the function stacks in each type align within the pair. Shadow/Mirror Relationships are often called “Golden Pairs” because the types are “Shadows “or “Mirrors” of each other due to have the same for Function Attributes in the same order, but just opposite I/E attitudes Ex. INTP+ENTJ or ISFP+ESFJ. The downside to these relationships is that the highest of highs can be naturally followed by the lowest of lows if the types in the relationship pairing aren’t careful enough / lack maturity etc. Pedagogue / Mentoring Relationships are REALLY interesting because the pairing types essentially help teach and grow each other faster than any other type pairing combination due to their function stack alignments. Ex. INFJ+ENTP | ESTP+ISFJ | INTP+ENFJ | ENFP+INTJ | Would love to see you do a deep dive on these too Nathan ❤ -INFJ

[@borahsy]

Hi!! As an enfp, entjs and isfps are both "inspiring" types to me. isfp's way of living make me see what's my 'ideal' and realize what i want and the kind of life i want to live (in a comfort character sort of way). on the other hand entjs makes me see what needs to be done to get what i want and the reality of all that (in a mentor sort of way)

[@sawaruuu]

as an ENFP, my personal thoughts on ISFJs from experience are: they need to be more SELFISH Every ISFJ I've ever met was unbelievably selfless to the point that It became frustrating to me At first, I deeply admired how selfless they are, but the more I loved them the more I wanted them to be selfish and they just NEVER ARE This is coming from my love for them, but I REALLY want them to talk back more, demand more, and just do some selfish stuff every once in a while please put yourself before others, at least every once in a while ;-;

[@shampaghosh1241]

Exactly. Same. As another ENFP!

[@er6730]

Wow, same! And I am coming at this from a selfish perspective, actually. This isfj gets herself into complete overload, she's taken on way too much, and now I am faced with the choice of abandoning her in her hour of need and missing out on her company, or of being with her and pitching in to do all the work she STUPIDLY offered to do. It's not her business, she chose to sign up for all this unnecessary work that now I'm stuck doing because I want to help her! Ahhh! I've actually distanced myself from two ISFJs for this reason. It feels like they're choosing to be a martyr and are trying to get me to burn with them. I resent it! And there's my contribution. 🤣

[@sawaruuu]

@@er6730 RELATABLE, but I can't even help her with the work she signs up for lmao I swear she even sometimes helps people she can't stand it's unbelievable I haven't talked to her in 2 years because of other issues, but as frustrating her "selfless kindness" gets, I tbh REALLY enjoyed her company so I kinda really miss her (but then I remember how frustrating it gets and change my mind, then remember how fun she is and miss her again, endless cycle) OH besides her, my grandma is an ISFJ and MY GOD, she overwork herself to the point of going to the hospital it's UNREAAAAALLL, no matter how much we talk to her and force her to work less, she pretends to understand then work behind our backs 😂😂😂💔 ISFJs get sneaky when they wanna do their work I can NEVER understand people overworking themselves, since I value my health, rest and comfort

[@lovewho]

Indeed. It's quite difficult when you are a person/type whose main approach to things is to be accommodating and agreeable. The moment they try to assert some kind of boundary it will almost feel like they are undoing a lot of their good work, which is a real shame. I agree that leaning into that side of themselves more is very healthy for them. It removes a lot of the imbalances in their life! ~ Nathan

[@riyajacob2909]

​@@sawaruuu,I find them manipulative as they expect the favour to be returned else you are cut off 😢

[@Amira-z6k]

Here’s a recommendation: I would be really happy if you would make more videos about the cognitive functions. I find the videos you have about them very useful but I can’t find videos on what it means to have something as an auxiliary function for example or how the functions of a person work together in general. I have seen your videos about the blind spot function and the dominant and inferior function and I really liked them. I know what my function stack is but I can’t truly get down to what this really means and what role each individual function plays in its certain position. So I would consider general information about that helpful.

[@lovewho]

Often that info is scattered throughout various videos. It would be a great move to put that stuff into organised videos though. I'll ponder this and see what I can do! ~ Nathan

[@eyelockianmage531]

ENFP's get on my ever-loving nerves after a prolonged exposure. It's best we're kept at a superficial distance; I believe distance optimizes our relationship and strengths. -ENTJ

[@lovewho]

I have often wondered about this notion of distance. Sometimes certain people function much better when they aren't too close or too frequently in contact with each other ~ Nathan

[@danishwithhannah9163]

ENFP! That was spot on. I love the words and analogies you use to express yourself!

[@lovewho]

Why thank you! ~ Nathan

[@themischa]

Howdy Nathan, hope you’ve been well! 🤠The INFJ vs ENFP dynamic has always been quite fascinating to me. I met a bloke fairly early into my time on the Love Who server who similarly gravitated between these two types (his username eludes me), and we had the most uncannily intriguing chemistry. Your description in this video is spot on. Shockingly, he was also diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and my behavioral observations (and subsequent self reflection) catalyzed my theory that the functions of someone typed as INFJ in a mentally stable state map quite accurately to an ENFP’s functions (their shadow, as you pointed out) during manic episodes. I don’t know whether there’s been sufficient research in psychology to support this, but all of my personal (as well as anecdotal) experience seems to reflect the idea.

[@debs4143]

As an ENFP, my favourite personality type is actually ISFJ’s, the kindest, most giving people I know are ISFJ’s, they are so thoughtful in the most caring ways, for example my friend is a baker and she makes cookies for every person in our friendship group when it’s their birthday, the last birthday we had in the group was a sleepover and she surprised everyone that came with an individual cookie with their name on it in addition to the batch of cookies she makes for the birthday girl, and of course she was an ISFJ. I realise way too often how under appreciated ISJFs can be because they genuinely just love being there for their loved ones, and as an enfp who can be quite disorganised sometimes I try to make sure I’m reliable to my ISFJ friends especially because they are so reliable to me and everyone around them 🥹

[@ellier2018]

I admire enfjs, so tactful and graceful. My Fi is very blunt and my Te can be really direct so I love learning me some Fe 😂

[@lovewho]

It's a nice tool for ENFPs to wield when the situation requires it! ~ Nathan

[@annaMallone77]

Omgg our fi and te can definately be blunt more especially when it comes to defend a loved ones 😭😂 that can be a good and a bad thing but that's a thing for sure

[@Thomas-culture-show]

I absolutely love this series of videos please keep going with the rest of the types it is just so fascinating and as an ENTP I find them very helpful. Could you do “How ENFJ’s see the 16 personalities” next My mom is an ENFJ so I think it would be fun

[@lovewho]

This is one of those series that I'm intending to do for all the types. I was planning the next one for tomorrow actually, but life is conspiring to delay me. I'll get back on track with them soon ~ Nathan

[@33anele]

ENFP here😁. I really enjoy INTJ’s. Mysterious, bit dark, smart, entertain my ideas and are able to manifest ideas…

[@feliperoa5821]

The ending phrases of your videos are gold

[@lovewho]

I'm always trying to persuade people to subscribe, or if they've done that, lure them deeper down the rabbit hole into the LoveWho Discord server... ~ Nathan

[@feliperoa5821]

@@lovewho it worked with me

[@LornaLens]

My eldest son is an ENFP, and he is a fantastic example of a gregarious and optimistic soul that runs very deep. Love ENFP'S. I would love a serious of each types view on the 16. Fantastic!

[@culturecoroner]

This was fantastic! You are amazing.

[@lovewho]

Why thank you... ~ Nathan

[@MrMand-bs9it]

Good stuff, man. My wife and I were the "Golden Pair." At least, that's what it was in my mind. Everything you said there was right on. It took a while, but we are usually in sync. And when we are, it is exquisite, even if it's something I see and enjoy more than others. However, after the birth of our first child, she became an ISFJ. Not sure if that was because of our daughter or from being married to such a hard Feeler for so long!

[@MrMand-bs9it]

I especially appreciated your focus on respect. As we respected each other more, our tolerance of each other moved from appreciation to synergy.

[@FPT84]

Is it because she has now more responsibilities and has to have routines and have things in check

[@MrMand-bs9it]

@@FPT84 Well, she went from ISTJ-->ISFJ. I'm the ENFP

[@Zevven]

​@@MrMand-bs9it damn you Ne-Fi train of thought, I also thought you said that your ENFP wife turned into ISFJ

[@mimimo555]

Thank you, thank you, for doing this!!

[@lovewho]

This was a really fun video to make. If you haven't already, feel free to check out the other ENFP videos on the channel! ~ Nathan

[@MegDD3912]

I like how you described their similarities / differences Good video!! 🙂💚💚

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! Thank you for this comment ~ Nathan

[@doxorn]

How ENFPs see... (timestamps) 0:03 - ESTP 0:47 - ISTP 1:48 - ENTP 2:44 - ESFJ 3:39 - INFJ 4:56 - INTP 6:00 - INFP 7:16 - ISTJ 8:35 - ESTJ 9:42 - ENFJ 10:46 - ENTJ 11:29 - ISFJ 12:28 - INTJ 13:32 - ISFP 14:24 - ESFP 15:07 - ENFP

[@mailill]

Thank you!

[@joshy-noha]

I love ESFP characters so much! It's like they are all that I desire to become without the curse of overthinking and inaction. I always find myself kinning ESFP characters and enjoy watching ESFP people perform as well. Always so graceful and lively with seemingly no effort and no worries, they want something and they go out and get it, meanwhile I'm here just fantasizing about how cool it would be to actually do those things but also thinking about a million things that could go wrong and how it makes me feel or if it actually feels true to myself bla bla bla. - ENFP

[@piyusha_2005]

Wonderful topic to make a video upon! This was really Innovative.. and also acurate; saying this as an ENFJ(4w3) and reached tier 6 of mbti long time back.

[@ID_Scarlet]

ENFP here my best friendships were with INTP's, I love how witty, smart and geeky these people are, they just have a way to make you feel comfortable with them. I feel like ISFJ should be more selfish and courageous and if you spot one always find a way to include them as life is better when they are around. Also in my experience ENFP friendships with ENFPs are exhilarating at first but can get a bit competitive after certain point and idk why.

[@marcellava]

Mkay, fellow Enfp here, “few” points I definitely want to poke my knife at to further elaborate his cuz he not wrong XD My interactions/thoughts on *Entp:* One friend in particular, between the both of us, there is great wit, great banter, we’ll jab at things comfortably where others may not be, however, while currently they are now more mature and know when with what to bite their tongue at, before there were 2 instances he kept stabbing at a topic that made other friend members emotionally conflicted and existentially uncomfortable, seeing their distress while they wouldn’t back down when either friend would beg to make em stop talking, both not wanting to cry in public an make a scene, I cried for them, not big sobs just silent streams, I looked at that Entp dead in the eye and just said “stop”, they did after realizing what boundaries they were crossing and after those 2 instances no more occurred *Infp:* literally one of my closest friends, we’re both only children but we treat each other as sisters, but yep you can definitely tell who has the better Si and who’s trained their Te more XD *Istj:* I do have a very deep and profound respect for a well developed Istj, simply because I can recognize that they are very strong where I am weakest in, and for that I do indeed feel a very strong attraction to them; when I started looking into more mbti stuff and looking back at my fictional crushes growing up, a good 75-80% of them were Istj, at first I was triggered by it, not anger just like a “oh god w h y _them_ ?! Brain w h y???”, but I’ve learned to recognize the why that is part and still really value their strength and the type of people they tend to be, 10/10 have earned my respect 👌🏼 *Estj:* Group projects, group projects where there is no clear leader and the rest are fellow slackers, I value my grade and that is when I rearrange my functions temporarily, I resemble this during my states of academic crisis only *Entj:* currently making friends with an entj, it’s a bit of a slow start but I’m surprised how well they took to my personality and vibe XD *Isfp:* It’s the values and decisiveness he stated that rlly makes me grateful having been raised by my isfp mom, always stringing me along adventure and new experiences, before comprehending types well enough and not know the value of my own, this is indeed the type I would’ve like to have been, heck even infp over Enfp at first I thought, I am happy where I ended up to be however *Enfp:* “Burdened by Ideas”, there was a point in my life where it *felt* like I was Clairvoyant, tho I don’t personally believe in those sorts of things, but it would happen where a daydream I envisioned or a dream I recall would actually occur accurately to some capacity, it was hard to describe this phenomenon, my theory then became, as I learned abt cognitive function, it’s my Ne cycling through various highly probable scenarios in order for me to discover how to come abt it, how to respond to it in line of my Fi, _should_ I encounter said scenario, a bit out there at first I thought and my mother said it’s just me making too many stories in my brain, that is until I started talking to a younger Enfp (childhood friend) who was now at an age when it had begun for me, and they were flipping out abt it too, he had a brief concept of mbti and I shared with them my theory and it seemed to rlly calm them, cuz it does get to a point where it becomes concerning anxiety inducing scenarios, but we just remind ourselves, “these are thoughts, not visions, consider solutions or put it to rest, but don’t linger on it” Stopping here with just these ones cuz any further and it’s longer than my essay ( o^o) *TL;DR* I’ve had particular interesting interactions with a notable few ~ Enfp

[@nebby8127]

ENTJs are pretty great. You'll get along well. Try not to take any criticism from them personally in the future. You can send criticism right back at them and be just as prickly as them, and they'll take it just fine. Be very direct and honest when needing to communicate anything that bothers you. ENTJs LOVE us. And damn, do they absolutely hate to admit it. 😂 Edit: If you become good enough friends, they'll do anything to make your ideas/dreams a reality. Since we really struggle with making that happen. They have the tools to put your dreams into action. (Obviously, I'm a super fan of NTJ types. 😅 I feel they're just as misunderstood as us)

[@micaelaquintanilla2042]

Would love it if you made a video just about the shadow functions and its implications for each type!! Love your videos :)

[@aiuchiha111]

Please make one about INFJ's. That is, if you want to :) Your videos are very informative, thank you for working so hard!

[@lovewho]

The next one in this series will be about INFJs. I was planning it for tomorrow but I've been delayed for various reasons. It will definitely be out next week though! ~ Nathan

[@aiuchiha111]

@@lovewho Oh yesss!!! Thank you so much Nathan :)

[@danaipandeleon60]

Great summary. Maybe do every 16 types on this point, since it was quite interesting.

[@kr-666]

Boy do I have some good news for you...

[@ganndalf202]

This is the first time someone said that mine and my crush's personality can be a beautiful mind melt together. I really wish for that.

[@lovewho]

I think it's total possible and achievable! Go for it! ~ Nathan

[@bebelmuniz]

That's really accurate 😯 get out of my mind! 😂

[@lovewho]

But I like inhabiting your mind... ~ Nathan

[@bebelmuniz]

@@lovewho you inhabitate my heart sometimes...

[@sheila1391]

I'm an enfp, my bestfriend is an infj, we just vibe! She just gets me. I'm attracted to intjs, I absolutely admire them, always a fan!

[@mokari9268]

Robin Williams the legendary ENFP.

[@mimimo555]

Please do one on ENFP and INFJ!!

[@lovewho]

The INFJ version of this came out recently! ~ Nathan

[@ellier2018]

My grandma is an ESTJ and despite being so different we kind of get each other. Other enfps have said they don’t vibe at all with estjs but since I was raised with one in the family I’m familiar with how they function -ENFP (Of course I still bewilder her with my chronic procrastination on school projects but still manage to get straight A’s)

[@annaMallone77]

saame here my father and sister are estj and we can really get eatch other on certain topics

[@Dani-dh6ni]

Ngl I was looking forward to this video since the entp one came out 😅

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan

[@Dani-dh6ni]

@@lovewho I really did! I love your mind it's so... alluring, and permits me to go even deeper in my own introspection, also the way you speak it's very appealing to me have a great day, thank you for all the amazing videos you do :)

[@nebby8127]

I love this! Thank you so much! 😄💚

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan

[@ashleymarie7731]

ENFP here!👋 love your videos and have gotten a lot of insight from them. ESTJs though in particular, I lived with two, horrible horrible experience I would never view them any where close to an enfp while you can appreciate the hard "work horse" mentality they are closed off to ideas/ theoretical philosophy or psychology and very judgmental "my way is the only way" type of people. its just a terrible match and not a type I can relate to or ever desire to be myself. I find interaction with them in small doses like maybe at a party or get together the best. And I really genuinely thought I got along and was very accepting with everyone🤣🤣 I learned not everyone can be close, and I learned the value of space and boundaries with certain types. love to know if any one felt the same?

[@24hrdiner]

AGREE 100% they rub me the wrong way. Very off putting. Closed minded, small minded, no emotional intelligence, stifling and boring . Get me out ASAP.

[@mariagordanier3404]

ESTJs are rigid and hard to work with, in my opinion. My mother was one!

[@FPT84]

ESTJ great for Business. They're really action oriented and work hard and meet goals. Very impressive managers and CEO's/Directors. They actually have a funny side to them but won't show to just anyone. You have to get them to warm up to you which is eeeeeasy for ENFP and when you see that side, it's quite goofy! Are they for Romance: hmm...if you want to get stuff done in life and QUICKLY then they'll help organise and get in routine etc. Forget words of affirmation but they're great listeners though! Which makes me confused.

[@ashleymarie7731]

@@FPT84 thankyou for the input! They are very action oriented, the man Estj was funny! And I made him laugh a lot. He owns his own buisness and is very hardworking, the female estj is constantly going out and reaching out to people. she doesn't work but she enjoys staying socially active so she puts that estj energy into that area. Their was a lot of micromanagement, talking badly about people constantly, very judgmental of anything anyone does. They believe they work harder than everyone else, And they would constantly say to everyone that they don't like lazy people.. there was also constant anger or problems and they wernt ok with people not doing things their way. I lived with them both on two separate occasions and it was the same result both times. It was interesting how it started to change my personality, i was becoming angry and cold. Not common for enfp 😦 I really really wanted to be close with them but it just wasn't possible, I had to know when to walk away.

[@FPT84]

@@24hrdiner Apparently they HAVE emotional intelligence but don't show it out to the world. It's used for other purposes/intentions in 1 of my experiences and it upsets me. I'm unsure if that's a 1 off though. Hmm...

[@chantalx388]

When you go to like the video several times...😅 Nathan nails it again!

[@lovewho]

Multiple likes, that's what I like to hear. I'm glad you enjoyed the video. If you use discord, feel free to check out the LoveWho Discord server. You might enjoy it on there! ~ Nathan

[@allama1222]

My sister is an ISTJ. No wonder we’re always at each other’s throats😅

[@ellier2018]

I love isfps they inspire me so much

[@shachinartlab]

I'm INFJ I see ENFP as the creative people with the guts to bend rules. While I'm a lawful neutral person my ENFP friend is neutral good

[@lovewho]

I actually did a video placing the various types into the moral alignments from DnD, even though I can't remember which categories I put INFJs and ENFPs into! ~ Nathan

[@gwendolynlee7014]

ESFJ description is spot on! As an ENTP I have the same issues with them

[@Zurab_Rob]

Ok but I’m an enfp who is real like the esfj suggest I am how I am no fake

[@Stellarfront]

I'm gonna watch 1/16th of this video

[@k4rli_475]

as a enfp (from germany) i sometimes have to become a istp in my mind

[@k4rli_475]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied i would tavel all the time if i could and when i travel i feel the most alive

[@yeahweburnstuff]

Ooooh! How do you do that? I would love to be more together.

[@k4rli_475]

@@yeahweburnstuff tbh i just copy what other people might think in my head

[@laurasusannalisaharleysantera]

Blessed and Cursed same time yes that is the feeling.

[@ruthielalastor2209]

ENFPs are generally such chill, happy people to me (INFP). We can talk imagination and humor and it's effortless. They bounce away from a conversation so quickly tho 'cause there's places to be, people to see, more conversations to start. 😂

[@Raphsophomes]

From my interactions as an isfp its a lot of "your so cool why are you so cool" and messaging me at 2am about an epiphany they had on psychedelics and they view me as like some kind of monk or authority on spirituality and idk why, im actually very grounded, although i would be careful about giving fi doms of any kind the title of "accepting of new experiences" because fundamentally these are still introverts and they are still repressing the object in favor of the subject fundamentally, even with auxiliary se they still are kinda taking bits of the object into the subject and extroverts kinda take bits of the subject into the object if that makes sense. I wish i could put a diagram but i cant im probably describing this horribly. What i mean to say is if you dont relate to this isfp its fine

[@Raphsophomes]

Like isfps aren't really adventurers typically, this sounds like an auxiliary fi to a dominant se, the isfp sounds more like an esfp. I know of 1 adventurer isfp and everyone thinks hes an istp.

[@shadowboxing7029]

@@Raphsophomes Ti and Fi can appear very similar in my experience as an ISTP with an ISFP partner.

[@neytothevay8473]

Yeah that was my thought too lol 😂 I’m an isfp and adventurous would be definitely an exaggeration, because most of the time my fi comes in the way (or maybe its just my social anxiety lol😭😥) and I get very anxious about trying new things. But thats actually my heart posture… my heart longs for new experiences and adventures. And I feel like most of the Isfp’s feel the same. It can be very exhausting/draining going outside and interact with people bc we’re literally sponges and soak moods and vibes easily in. But what’s definitely true is that we’re very much easy going, kind and patient

[@shadowboxing7029]

@@neytothevay8473 I sent my ISFP partner on a surfing trip for a week for his birthday, in another country recently. My problem solving ass had been assessing him, trying to figure out what he needed, since he was kind of shit at doing that himself (his ADHD doesn't help). He'd been looping for a while, Fi-Ni, with his Se not getting the attention it needed. He was both excited and kind of put out, having to be away from his family, at such a distance for a whole week. He came back absolutely beaming though. Showing us all the footage he'd captured while out surfing (I'd bought him a go pro and let him take my camera). It was all the sensory experience. He was much more himself than he'd been in ages. Sometimes they need a shove lol.

[@mzn245]

We are sisters where eldest is INTP , middle is ENFP and youngest is INFP 😂. I am sure what my ENFP sis thinks about me is what you said

[@lovewho]

That's a lot of Ne to have as a trio!! Sounds like it's a recipe for a lot of ideational fun ~ Nathan

[@borahsy]

My bestfriend is an ENTP and she does all the things and says all the stuff that would bother me but I never seem to be able to get offended. we both push each other to be broaden the horizon of our thinking and in a way we both learn a lot from each other in terms of emotional depth (her ne fe challenges my fi in a way nothing else can) we both act chaotic together but also call each other out for things we didn't know we were in denial about.

[@borahsy]

Honestly isfjs who express and are unapologetic about their weird sides are the absolute best and coolest people in existence

[@Huruscookbook]

He is my brother ❤ enfp

[@borahsy]

The type i considered when thinking about whether I'm mistyped is estj. Dealing with life sometimes gets me as practical and structurred as estjs. But it's not always positive. I relate to estjs in their struggles too. their si fi overwhelming confusion is very similar to my own at my lowest.

[@Milav-z9v]

[@valeries1251]

Bahahhaah yes never know what I am going to get with my brain! Everyday a different path..

[@hersheykisseys]

My bff is an ESFP ❤❤❤ and my bf is an INTP and my roomie is my ISTJ. 🎉🎉🎉

[@esoteric5679]

I want one : (

[@lovewho]

I'll find some ENFPs and send them your way ~ Nathan

[@denisesiddon7241]

Most my favourite celebrities are enfp. Find them amusing, smart and interesting- infp ❤

[@FreyjaStar]

Also I think I am writing a book with an ISFP main character. There's a lot to convince me that I'm an ENFP in this video but I still relate to having third slot Fe like the ENTP rather than third slot Te of the ENFP I'm definitely conflicted on which type I am.

[@arlettasloan6453]

First time I read a really good description of the ISFJ, I felt that this is who I would choose to be, but am not. ISTP is sexy like James Bond (Sean Connery,, Remington Ste.. err .. Pierce Brosnan). INTJ is sexy like John Cusack, however he spells his name. The kind of sexy that would be sitting across from you at the kitchen table, wearing a worn out robe, reading the newspaper and making you glad you settled down.

[@sutekh233]

Can I say it is the role of the ENFP to bring out the "soul" of the ISTJ?

[@Zurab_Rob]

No I don’t talk to istjs they hate us

[@sutekh233]

@@Zurab_Rob They don't hate us, we are the shadow of them, and they us. they see what they would want to be, and in return, so do we see that in them, it's a product of the function stack.. Can we hate our "dark side" sure, and INFJ's are our dark side, but they use it well, that is thier nature, Our's is to care and love in the external world, sometimes to our own detriment, theirs is to survive in theirs. I think we envy that sometimes, just turning inward, but it is not our natural state..

[@gigiemma3192]

INTJ are by far my favourites. -Enfp

[@Zurab_Rob]

Far better than Istjs -Enfp

[@Hadstro]

OMG THIS IS ALL SO TRUE!!

[@Zurab_Rob]

I work with an istj and we hate each other. It all started with him hating me for no reason now I avoid him and I don’t talk to him. I talk to everyone except him 😂 I weared a nasa t shirt to troll him because he is a star trek fan. But he rather is alone or with the intj coworker

[@judmm832]

I think it's good to be friend with ENFP, ISFP, ISFJ, INFP and ESFP. - INFJ

[@lovewho]

That's an epic friendship group to have! ~ Nathan

[@Zurab_Rob]

Fr

[@traditionalgirl3943]

Genius work! (ISTP)

[@pteropus66]

INFP and dedicated whirling dervish.

[@mitoroskokoros589]

so what you are telling me is my dad sees me as a perfect thinker in every manner?

[@lovewho]

Yes, and you can tell him I confirmed this ~ Nathan

[@greenlimabean]

I love being an Intp mom to my enfp daughter.

[@yeahweburnstuff]

I love being an enfp mum to an intp son 🥰

[@kattissmall8373]

I love being an INTP daughter to an ENFP mom - but most of all I love being an INTP mom to an ENFP daughter! Her best friends are INTPs, with an adorable little INFP thrown in there just to make things even cuter. My best friend’s an ENTP. Just love that Ne energy.

[@lovewho]

Based on lots of the comments I've seen on this video, it seems like there really is a lovely kinship between these two types. It's great to see, especially when it's between parents and their children! ~ Nathan

[@FreyjaStar]

When ENTPs were described as cold blooded provocateur versions of ENFPs I realized that I switch between the warm bubbly ENFP vibe to the cynical subversive provocateur vibe with an icy cold aura based on my mood but then I also think of George Carlin who is an ENFP and I can see more resemblance between myself at my colder moments and Carlin than the average ENTP troll.

[@ellier2018]

ISTPs are hot -ENFP

[@Yo-dq5sk]

Infps complain to much and have victim complexes I never get along w them. I like istj 👍. - enfp

[@annaMallone77]

I disagree but we certainely must have met different kind of infp 🥰

[@Bigfanofwine]

As an ENFP, i found out that im actually an ENTP acording to this.

[@erencangoner5120]

Bro you forgot to do the Entj video.

[@kathleenherrmann436]

Nathan (or anyone who knows) can you explain more about how the online testing is biased? I've just knows an enfp or two who have tested esfp even tho it doesn't feel true. I'm curious why that happens

[@lovewho]

Hi, basically the online tests are bad because they rely on the person taking them to be self aware. More than that, they seem to be biased towards giving people intuitive results too. If you’re interested in going down the rabbit hole a bit more then feel free to check out the LoveWho Discord server. We have lots of people who are knowledgeable about typology on there (including me!). The link for that is in the description of the video ~ Nathan

[@kathleenherrmann436]

@@lovewho yes that makes sense. It took me a very long time to figure out my type (enfp) but nailed it down several years ago. Your channel has gone a long way in helping me feel confident I've got the right one, actually. And it's not just being self aware that made that a challenge. I could see the flaw in the online testing for me bc I actually got sick in college. I've spent most of my adult life in bed, in hospitals and with a great deal of limitations when I have been able to be a bit more active. It took a long time to sort out who I am apart from that. The tests just made it more confusing rather than feeling like a useful tool. I can also see what you mean about it typing people as intuitive too often. I've seen that in friends as well. Thanks for answering my question!

[@ehmusibotuncleraymondsiol6464]

my Si is freaking out rn, why isn't there an ENFJ video before this ENFP one? -ESFJ

[@AshhoUSA]

@Nathan we should hangout sometime 😁

[@smith00775]

Can you make this for every personality type please? 🙏

[@JustinField1000]

So accurate re esfj

[@FreyjaStar]

I have a choir teacher who I think is an ISTJ and "annoyingly meticulous and meticulously annoying" describes him perfectly.