How have you endangered other people? Ask a Psychopath

We all know someone with psychopathy.
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But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
James Fallon is a professor of neuroscience at University of California at Irvine, and the author of the book The Psychopath Inside. He considers himself a "prosocial psychopath."
He joins us today on zoom to discuss what it is like to be psychopathic.

[@marijamilovanovic5153]

I remember a while ago this guy saying in an interview that he took his brother or cousin to an ebola infected cave somewhere in Africa I think and did not tell them. He wasn't afraid and he was aware he should have told them but chose not to. And brother went crazy once he found out. It's interesting his narrative has changed over time from that of 'I simply didn't care' to 'it's simply brain differences'. I guess he's been observing people's reactions to his narrated actions and changing the narrative according to his personal motivation for media exposure. And I would say from what I've seen so far, this channel does not do the effort of portraying the manipulative nuances of the matter. And for people whose natural stand is to seek good in others and try to understand, it is highly dangerous. It is almost enabling.

[@oliviadunkley1146]

I agree. Sugar coating can be a slippery slope for pulling the wool over our eyes.

[@_kikizaman_]

Yup I agree. Let me just say, I think that this channel is trying to show us that “psychopaths are normal people and can be good people just like the rest of us”, but from what I’ve seen all of them are fucking nuts. And not good people at all lol. And their self entitlement and ego is CRAZY. They think that they’re gods sent gift. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love this channel and this is not a critique of the channel itself but the people in these videos. Thoughts on psychopaths before watching these video: psychopaths are bad Thoughts on psychopaths after watching these videos: psychopaths are very bad

[@laurawhite4118]

Well I'm listening and thinking well he just thinks another way maybe he is misunderstood.its really very scary knowing they just don't care.

[@lucas.daniel]

Wondering if the person that had this idea for the channel is a psychopath themselves lol. Wouldn't be surprised. Psychopaths want to convince us they are normal and can integrate normally into society - which is true in a sense ... at least the ones with enough self control can appear normal - but they still can't ever be trusted. Their morals are about themselves only - they don't have compassion or empathy for others, which makes them untrustworthy and a danger to society. A danger to society doesn't need to be violent - they can be someone who manipulates others to get what they want. If it causes emotional/mental damage, they won't care. Physical violence isn't the only type of danger that we have to be concerned about.

[@coloradobrad6779]

@@_kikizaman_ Yes I’m using it to showcase what ‘word salad’, gaslighting, misdirection, ‘well it wasn’t so bad, we didn’t die did we’, and yes I wanted to end my life I have a parent who treated us like these individuals, all 3 kids went o the hospital. Zero remorse, just was told “That’s life.”

[@sweepphreak]

what I noticed as a danger point is I instantly feel in love with this guy and was thinking wow he would make a great friend not easily offended seems very intelligent and open to discussion of technical topics then I realized that's how charming they are I was charmed right through a computer screen you could be friends with this person drop dead in front of them and they will walk over the lifeless corpse make a sandwich and possibly remember to call 911 just to avoid being accused of some crime for avoiding to report your death

[@fran791]

Yup

[@tabathaterry2998]

Please never have children and seriously deconstruct these horrible thought processes

[@Anonymous-hg4lu]

Interesting how when he’s asked a question about if he “is” something. He always says “well people have said I’m……..” so he remembers what people say about him and perceives that as how the world sees him because he doesn’t understand how other people think. Not that he necessarily thinks they’re right about him but it answers a “normal” person’s question by tying another “normal” persons comments to that question.

[@MultiGats]

He never takes accountability, and always shifts blames on to others.

[@Stewkeithmtb]

I'm not entirely sure that isn't a perfectly 'normal' response.

[@amandaswigert5998]

I think it shows that he knows he cannot understand what others feel, so he listens and tries to gain as much information as he can to create the closest understanding of empathy he can get. And it also shows that what they say matters to him (whether or not in an ethically good way)

[@vero9348]

The Dark triad has a very poor sense of self, it also happens in autism, "a very diluted sense of self" I've been told. It's very difficult to describe oneself because you're a different person depending on the situation and to me that goes for the whole cluster B and.

[@AnnaMishel]

Psychopaths are notorious for NOT taking responsibility. Well, he does take responsibility, so it doesn’t add up. Maybe he’s just looking for attention🤪

[@angellacanfora]

Watching these interviews with him, it's as though he is an incomplete person. He's missing the heart bit. The older I get, the more I realize that empathy is everything.

[@mikhailklimov3289]

Because u need to feel it, so what? It just means that empathy important for you, not for all people.

[@rayal4395]

@@birdlover6842 dumb remark buddy, just think about what you said.

[@blueberrycherry8116]

You marginalizing him isn't very hearty

[@asdfghyter]

@@blueberrycherry8116 other psychopaths on this channel expressed a similar sentiment of being incomplete and having a dull life.

[@journeybug3050]

They know words but not the music.

[@jflsdknf]

It's fascinating that the lack of empathy makes them incapable of talking about the perspective or experience of ANYONE other than themselves. Literally all he could come up with was the man "had his hackles up" around him (rightly), then he started struggling for words, and had to turn the conversation back toward himself.

[@tabathaterry2998]

This man has probably left many bodies in his trail of terror

[@blancokitty89]

I recently reconnected with my childhood best friend who I realized is pretty dangerous! She shoplifts; she cheated on her husband with her boyfriend who she would sneak in the house at night while the kids and husband slept. She divorced the husband and moved in the boyfriend who Surprise! has criminal allegations from his ex wife that he pulled a gun on her. He has angry outbursts directed at the kids. She has triangulated me with him and others. I sadly had to block her. I could hang with a psychopath who wasn’t dangerous with strong boundaries, but not this chick. No m’aam.

[@xyst_222]

One thing I'm curious about is how would a psycopath react to a tragic event happening in their own lives or to someone in their close personal circle. For example, the death of a child, in a violent way, or a spouse or parent. This is a question that I don't see being asked in any of these videos and I'm really curious about it. It's easier not to empathise or feel remorse to something bad happening to someone outside of our "world".

[@angelkermah7984]

they wouldn’t care and would most likely have the mindset of “people die oh well”

[@VenusFeuerFalle]

psychopaths are not able to "emotional time travel", they cant imagine an emotional state in the future nor in the past, only immediate moments. A psychopath I "know" once explained it, there is no difference for him between a person missing or a person dying. If a friend moves away or leaves the house, she might as well be dead. The only difference for him is, that he will not be able to interact with the friend. Since the psychopath doesn't plan, especially not emotionally, aforehead, the psychopath doesn't miss much about the person either. Therefore, there is no emotinal reaction. MAYBE, if the psychopath decided to "rise" the child, and you killed the child, the psychopath may be angry because you distrubed his goal.

[@ericb8217]

There's a guy named David Wood who's psychopath and his brother died of a drug overdose. He was more annoyed at the people calling him to wish him condolences than his brother passing.

[@efficientgaming4603]

I myself am a psychopath and when anybody "close" dies doesn't matter how, I just don't feel anything. The only feeling I have is that I should feel something because everybody around me does and reacts to those feelings. From when I was little I watched a loooot of gore videos because I was just curious of how stabbings, beheadings, organs, getting shot look like. I always just viewed it like a medical operation, although I didn't have any interest in doing that myself because I never saw it as something useful. I'm always calm when something really bad happens like a house fire, cut open arm or breaking bones, even with injuries I have myself. When I broke my fingers, wrist or arm I just said "Oh I think my wrist is broken" or "Look, my finger is bent 90° in 2 places. Almost creates a square", got it fixed and felt nothing about it. I don't have guilt or remorse but I have the capability of feeling bad although it's very short in duration and weak. I can still feel bad for an animal or like if my mom or brother died (the only 2 people I have a connection with) but I know that I'd forget about it the next day. So I don't know if I feel bad or feel like I should feel something bad, definitely like something's missing. For you a tragic event is a statistically everyday event for me holding no weight

[@xyst_222]

@@user-xp3jf9sf6s I'm sorry to hear that. How do you know if it was just for being left alone? Did she tell you that? People react differently to tragedy and that doesn't mean you don't feel bad for the person's passing. Cheers

[@coloradobrad6779]

Wow, these are the people I 100% avoid. No remorse.

[@Vran4743]

Same

[@IndianaJoe0321]

I really relate to his comments. Maybe I need to be tested. I've dragged buddies to skydive, bungee jump, etc. but they've stopped short at the Pamplona encierro (running with the bulls). I guess I need to go alone.

[@davidaguirre6614]

not exactly a person can be a thrill seeker and not be a psycho path even though a lot of psycho paths are because it takes a bigger action to stimulate their nervous system something like a scary movie or a roller coaster might not cut it for them but the main thing about a psycho path is they view people as just a object they don't think of them as a person so they don't feel empathy for them where as people who are not psychopaths can see someone in pain or distress and feel empathy

[@mrrrokas]

I'd do it

[@squidward66]

You're fine. A true friend will say no if they're not comfortable with it, and yes if they are. If they can't figure it out, that's on them.

[@rayal4395]

Do you care about other peoples feelings, do you recognise emotions, do people call you manipulative. If answers to these are “no” then you’re a stone cold psychopath! 😂

[@DaveyEaster]

How can you ever know for sure he's telling the truth?

[@FadingAway10]

Exactly 😮

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

This man is fascinating and I do not doubt a single word.

[@c.eb.1216]

You can't. They don't mean anything anyway. He'll be defined by his actions, so watch those. If someone goes up to you and asserts that they are "a good person", take it with a big grain of salt and question their motives for saying it to boot.

[@amyapplegate4356]

Not that interesting. Stunted.

[@MarkSmithhhh]

This is insane how intelligent and well spoken he is...seems a very likeable person, extremely charming....but knowing what he is is terrifying

[@MattHalil-di9bv]

Once AI is in place and society is recorded in all angles Thea PSYCOPATHS will be held accountable. They are gifted liars and always a victim. There time is numbered

[@jflsdknf]

Yea they are geniuses at putting on learned fake personality fronts.

[@Magyarosi47]

wtf. Such a nice man on the outside. Wholesome in nature (seemingly). Comes off as totally harmless. Scary

[@bradleydeal7274]

It’s only them. If it doesn’t benefit them it’s not a concern. It does seem like a blessing in some aspects, a lot actually. But, that other half, I like the other half also. To think logically but not to be controlled by your emotions, that’s where it’s at. You can be happy with just yourself while knowing who you are, but also relating to others.

[@hillarybillary21]

He just cannot answer a question directly. He goes up he goes down, he goes back he goes forth, he’s in he’s out, he’s here he’s there, let me tell ya about my brother, let me tell you about my friend, Vietnam, my friend, a monkeys uncle….

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

So.

[@venepskeuten9206]

perhaps a tactic for fitting in conversations?

[@jflsdknf]

Tbh I got the impression he wouldn't have even had a clue where to start when it came to talking about his actual victim or their experience. Like he was incapable because that must have to draw on empathy

[@SingularityMedia]

Dancing around what he actually did. Fascinating.

[@garyshaffer1559]

I used to go into vacant houses on the south side of Chicago for bank owned properties that had been vandalized. Most hadn't been re-secured after the break in. I loved it. I was afraid and it felt great. I would have others tell me about how dangerous it was, but they always sounded crazy to me. Like I should carry a gun or something. some people don't see the danger, some just see a house.

[@desmondiaia34]

i gotta hear some of his stories

[@AN-lm6bs]

did anyone catch the clown peeking out from behind the bookcase? eerie.

[@spectazular7489]

That brother-in law remark took me the fuck out 😂😂😂. Psychopath or not, dude sound like a blast 😂😂

[@Italian69Boi]

its not brave hes right cuz in order to have bravery you would have to conquer anxiety etc and he doesn't have that

[@mojo9291]

He seems alright despite the problems he discussed here. Like, as long as you communicate to him that xyz is not okay with you, he'll respect it even if he doesn't emotionally "get it". How else would he know, given his mental situation?

[@joudisall6474]

Very interesting thanx for sharing

[@daverandall6352]

This entire interview turned into 'him'

[@menotyou6254]

Yeah dreams by Fleetwood Mac and got the better of me and I had to stop watching videos it was too loud and I don’t understand why people put music in behind it’s annoying

[@mateuszkuzma8029]

He's like all-time disassociated

[@dreamtimej]

He is vague about specific incidents.

[@dlibby4979]

I think I have a bit of it in me. I sent my younger brother out into dangerous lake water during a storm to get me a beach ball that was going by.

[@First.nameLastname]

Sounds like in dangerous situations he finds the edge of danger.

[@luckyrook1246]

So far this guy just sounds like a fun guy. I'll be your friend :)

[@a5teroth]

Has he ever asked for a reservation at Dorsia?

[@jlange73]

Is there an online test one can take to see if they have psychopathic or sociopathic traits?

[@psychopathyis3353]

yes! Go to our website psychopathis.org and you will find screening tests for psychopathy there.

[@jlange73]

@@psychopathyis3353 Thank you!

[@noelrobin8674]

@@psychopathyis3353 Not able to go to the site ?

[@_kikizaman_]

Have you found out yet?

[@YesPlease1]

@@psychopathyis3353 That link isn't working as of May 2022. Do you have other links to the tests you could share?

[@lizzyumoh]

Anyone notice the scary clown behind the shelves on the left hand side 😬

[@dtk404]

Ask a person with no emotional core how they have negatively impacted people, you get a lot of self-serving explanations why other people just don't get it. "Well I don't think it is..."

[@jla8070]

yes he never says what he actually did that was dangerous, maybe he'd be incriminating himself

[@TheFilipinaWifeLife]

This is not normal....

[@Volgotha]

This guy's a monster. This channel just makes him more dangerous by making him seem "not that bad".

[@optimised120]

How is he a monster? It’s not like he’s murdered someone 😂

[@raynebow5289]

Can you explain what you mean by the channel making him seem "not that bad"? All I see is the guy asking questions. No one is accpeting, refuting, cheering him on from the Psychopathy Is side, at least not to my knowledge.

[@FadingAway10]

What is really monstrous about him ?

[@rayal4395]

@@FadingAway10 err that he’s a psychopath! 🤷🏻‍♂️ lol

[@dixonhill1108]

He's exactly the kind of guy who'll get you killed, downhill skilling etc, takes you down ultra dangerous paths, doesn't care you can barely ski and them makes fun of you when you fall and get a broken leg. @@optimised120

[@ems7623]

I'm not hearing a real specific answer to the question. I just don't see psychopathy here

[@skyebates246]

Well he is a psychopath look into him. Look into his story.

[@niallocarroll3286]

That’s because he has manipulated you

[@hillarybillary21]

It’s his inability to answer directly which is the biggest SIGN of his psychopathy. Psychopaths take you in circles.

[@rayal4395]

Listen to these people Ems! Psychopath inmates often manipulate prison psychologists who’s job it is to detect BS! This is admitted my psychologists who have worked with psychopathic inmates!

[@vasescloths4893]

Whats up with the stupid music?

[@squidward66]

Hmmm... people did not HAVE to go with him into dangerous situations. They should have the common sense to say no if they weren't comfortable. It's not really his fault. I worry about society being given bad advice on mental health. As the saying goes, who is the greater fool, the fool or the fool who follows the fool? Also, with perception and again common sense, one gets a feeling when something is up. I speak from experience (in saying no, not in putting people in danger). The mental health industry is lost in the weeds.

[@lacheinc]

the problem is you actually think this is how the story went.....

[@dryb3301]

You think he's telling the whole truth? ???? He is a psychopath! ! He once took his brother or a friend to a cave in Africa where there were ebola infected people and didn't tell them

[@niallocarroll3286]

He’s lying. First he said he gets people to do dangerous things, saying he didn’t get people to do dangerous things… According to another post here, he brought his brother to an Ebola cave, but Didn’t tell him about it.

[@dixonhill1108]

That's exactly the type of thing they do. Went camping with someone we got really drunk and went on a really hungover hike the next morning. He knew me and the guys were hungover and pretended to get lost while in reality he just took us the long way around. 6 hours of hungover hiking while he didn't even drink the night before. @@niallocarroll3286

[@drzeworyj]

all the people who go on about empathy on this channel should realise one thing: neurologically speaking, free will almost certainly does not exist. therefore, neither does 'goodness' or 'evil'. you talking about psychopaths being terrifying, inhuman etc., isn't empathy. they never chose to be born this way. you being empathic would be you understanding that in all its implications.

[@buffhardback7595]

what is with these people and relating "downhill skiing" to severe danger? Skiing is not dangerous...

[@nathanb780]

My brother broke his leg skiing in Idaho. I think he hit a tree at high speed. So yes if your not careful it can be dangerous.

[@TomikaKelly]

Yes, it is extremely dangerous. You're moving through different terrains at extremely high speeds with little protective gear.

[@petecollins7072]

Sonny Bono would like a word...

[@emmaphilo4049]

It is, research it

[@Kami84]

Tell that to michael schumacher who is probably a psychopath as well

[@myheatgoesboomboomboom1655]

If the world made me rich by being hoenst il take the money and stil lie

[@AnnaMishel]

It’s nothing to be proud of!

[@ocinprofession]

Having empathy is nothing to be proud of either.

[@jflsdknf]

@@ocinprofession Yes it is.

[@Alkis05]

As far as I know, this guy is self diagnosed, which is very unreliable in the field of psychology. And apparently the diagnosed was based on MRI tests that are still not well established and was developed by himself. So I would take it with a grain of salt when he says he is a psychopath. So far, I have not seen a single source where his diagnostic was done by an independent doctor.

[@chainbenwa2713]

But the testing that was done was more in-depth than what is normal but yes he could be lying.

[@midnull6009]

I dont get why this is a problem. Ppl can choose to say no. You arent coercing them into it. Or am I missing something. Or is it that ppl dont know how to say no anymore. If that is the case it is their problem.

[@annenesemeiers8173]

Yes but the fact that a psychopath is so confident and does not display uncertainty and nervousness, may give a typical individual false confidence or lack of sense of danger. Social cues are powerful

[@MultiGats]

@@annenesemeiers8173 Agreed I feel he doesn't give a fair idea to people to what it is their getting into. To him it's just another thrill, another adventure but people who have normal nervous systems may get too stimulated too quickly with so much of stimuli to pick up from by their nervous system in a such a short time

[@oh_rhythm]

@@annenesemeiers8173 that's because he's a hardened thrill seeker; what does psychopathy have to do with it?

[@midnull6009]

@@annenesemeiers8173 ...you basically described social media. You also described anybody in marketing and sales.

[@midnull6009]

@@MultiGats Notice that he didn't give examples...so that vague generalized thrill can be anything from crossing a busy street to scuba diving....

[@amyapplegate4356]

He speaks a lot of words but doesn't say much.

[@c.1211]

Why is this video such a big deal. Thrill seeking is a natural human thing.

[@midnull6009]

Yeah I dont get it either. And the ppl arent forced to go with him.

[@EDayAllDay]

He never says what kinda dangerous things he does with people are tho

[@_kikizaman_]

I don’t think you understand… he took his brother to a cave that was infected with Ebola for fun and didn’t tell him. That’s not thrill seeking, that’s just being absolutely nuts. That’s what he thinks “thrill seeking” is. Ebola, so fun😍

[@TomikaKelly]

@@midnull6009 He took his brother to an Ebola infected cave and purposely withheld the Ebola information from him. (Im sure had the brother known the cave was infected infected Ebola he wouldn't have gone.) It's not that he forces people, it's that he manipulates or withholds pertinent details.

[@squidward66]

@@_kikizaman_ Strangely, I cannot remember the last time I let my brother take me into a cave in Africa. Maybe his brother needs to get help.

[@nickvledder]

I think he is just a nice psychopath.

[@jflsdknf]

No such thing, he'd leave you for dead in a heartbeat.

[@ioandes]

I don't think this guy is a psychopath

[@MrRyanCHill0]

He is not a full psychopath, just a borderline psychopath.

[@JGrowl-er9md]

You possibly already know this. The issue is that psychologists/psychiatrists who deal with criminal psychopaths have described and listed traits that identify psychopathy, and have discovered that there are people functioning in normal society who also have these traits. Hence the suggestion that these people are also afflicted by the disorder psychopathy. It's logical, but questionable.

[@Vincent-ri5cr]

Oh ok.. Guess the psychologists who diagnosed him were wrong because Ioandes thinks so..

[@ralflorenzo7552]

He is. trust me

[@Signingman]

Psychopathy is a spectrum. A diagnosis. He could be low on the spectrum, or even high on the spectrum but just not present with some obvious manipulative intent. I think psychiatrists can be wrong often, but their diagnosis addresses the symptoms not how you “feel” about a persons presentation