How I Communicate With My Deaf Boyfriend In the Dark

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[@armijolly]

“Sorry i dont want to talk to you right now” *closes eyes *

[@user-mt8ew1de4i]

PolarPeed 😂😂😂😂😂

[@beerbuntenbach6201]

Lmfao

[@beerbuntenbach6201]

*turns over*

[@brandonporter6223]

"Talk to my eyelids!"

[@k1bx1]

HDISJWKKDKAKS

[@Redziror]

Patrick: "its too dark i cant hear you"

[@Redziror]

@Rheanna SoRrY

[@Twitchte]

1.7 likes, 2 replies? Wat

[@Redziror]

@@Twitchte lol 1.8k now

[@aaliyahtoppin8032]

I feel bad for laughing at this

[@Stellab6160]

The only situation this sentence would make sense in haha

[@sierrahamilton632]

Ahhh, the KZbin algorithm has brought me some wholesome content

[@SignDuoChannel]

Glad you like our content

[@9iamante]

No literally

[@sajedehkj]

For the first time im happy if this KZbin algorithm ^_^

[@valdemarklemming1493]

same bro :)

[@Delabra87]

This was fun, enjoyable and cute to watch. Always wanted to learn sign language. Me and a friend learned a little in elementary just for fun when we would go to the library.

[@MarleyMar-ke3qw]

Here’s an advantage to being deaf: you can’t hear snoring while trying to sleep :) (Just trying to brighten your day a bit)

[@ellioe395]

Oh yeah!

[@Anna-wz6yb]

when i snored the other night the people in my house said they could feel the shaking XD i didnt know i snored that loud!!!

[@KaynaEm]

I need to find me a deaf husband ASAP! Love the positivity, Marley!!!!

[@roxanaconstantinescu1569]

I once started snoring so loud I woke myself up. And it'd be pretty cool if I could absolutely not hear anything while sleeping, or at least before I fall asleep, because even the tiniest sounds make it hard for me to fall asleep and that's annoying. Of course, I'm not trying to romanticize being deaf either! Being able to hear is a bliss and i don't know what I'd do if I couldn't listen to music or hear my mom's voice anymore or ever again!! So yeah, being deaf is definitely not something to dream of, but there's still good sides to anything, and I wanted to point them out in an attempt to make deaf people feel better.

[@davidraveh5966]

I can't sleep without listening to classical music.

[@NcMuggets]

The beginning said to turn on captions and I thought to myself “I’m not deaf, I don’t need captions” and then the video started and I was like “Oh. Right. I don’t know sign language”

[@ssfhu.1472]

SAME HAH

[@violet3436]

Julian I’m a beginner at sign language and I saw some signs i knew but I couldn’t process it cause he was going faster then what I’m used to

[@mariahendricks1378]

Julian I DID THE SAME THING!

[@o0bluemilk0o]

Sameee

[@tiana.hudson]

Even tho I don’t understand some things, I still enjoy watching without captions and trying to understand what he’s saying. I feel like im learning some sign language

[@leilanig27]

i love how he helps her when she doesn’t know the sign it’s so cute to me i don’t know why

[@sarakhali]

sameee

[@viasigaw]

Sameeee

[@lalegende2746]

That’s true love ❤️

[@karenperkins3016]

@@lalegende2746 if that isn't true love idk what is

[@ketoincontext2306]

Because everything about them is cute and sweet

[@litleegg9387]

Her: we would communicate by touch- Him: *SHOVE*

[@sofialejk5720]

Litle Egg I though he was rubbing some stuff on her 😂😂😂

[@Tw0Dots]

😂 what does a shove mean though? Oh nvm its just a super rough I love you Thats cute

[@qwqcytriqqwq5226]

@@Tw0Dots 🤨

[@Tw0Dots]

qwq Cytriq qwq ?

[@qwqcytriqqwq5226]

@@Tw0Dots I lost brain cells reading your last comment

[@CocoaSip]

I love it when I got to hear his voice a little when he said "like that" when gesturing her 🙂

[@양지혜-i3h]

At 3:51 :D

[@halcyonataractic8623]

Me too. It was cute.

[@arandomgirl306]

I can hear it at like a low whisper level all the time.

[@millionbadger7918]

His laugh lol

[@sbditto85]

In my ASL class we don’t voice so it was weird to hear people after class etc

[@Emma-qw1mo]

My older sister's deaf and to this day whenever we have a heated argument with eachother, one of us will try to turn the lights off to end the argument or block the light switch to make sure we get our point across😂😂

[@jeco5]

😂😂

[@une8837]

Awe poor baby 🥺 that’s so sad you guys are meanies 🥺😂

[@charlene.w.6124]

Sisterhood at its finest 😂

[@fluffypuppy0]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@HAngeli]

uahahaha priceless

[@swisstrader]

Think about this for a moment: what would the world for deaf people look like if we were all taught sign language in school vs learning cursive writing.

[@rai1133]

NYC Entrepreneur honestly, I think we should. (As someone who had selective mutism for a while, communicating wasn’t exactly the easiest. So cursive is less useful in my opinion. Since I’m business you probably get more deaf people then people who expect perfect hand writing)

[@heypeople8396]

NYC Entrepreneur this is honestly such a good idea! I would’ve loved to learn sign language when I was little!!

[@jeankim6576]

My elementary school taught us how to sign the alphabet in ASL. It's never been in much use, but I've never forgotten how to sign them because I learned it at a young age! Whenever I need to communicate with Deaf people or signers, the alphabet takes a while, but it works :) I think ASL should be taught through elementary or middle school at least as an elective course. I would have loved to learn more about it when I was a child.

[@MakMarie]

well ik both so... how would that play? lol

[@evatime695]

I don’t know sign language, but i’d like to try it

[@indianazones8579]

I thought the answer was glow in the dark gloves

[@asthmagoose]

Underrated comment lol

[@indianazones8579]

Asthma Goose it makes sense though. To have glow in the dark gloves

[@sahar64]

@@asthmagoose true

[@x-menlol1613]

Glow in the dark fish

[@gettingrealtiredofyourshit]

😂😂

[@sarahallen1713]

I absolutely love Ryan's patience with her and her process of still learning sign language.

[@fit_sense0395]

Me: *doesn't know what he's saying Also me: "I completely agree" Edit: I do know that there's captions

[@sinixe9073]

There are captions haha

[@elaroach]

it’s so satisfying to watch

[@bagelfish8916]

This is I love you in sign language --->🤟🏼

[@Hydratiun]

Kaitlyn plays Roblox that would be wonderful if you could actually have a conversation with it

[@rawnasimpson4697]

Turn on the captions

[@NutellaNatalie09]

Ryan talking about what sleeping in the dark is like for a deaf person was so interesting. Never thought about that before, totally made me see things differently!

[@coolmonkey619]

Omg I was going to comment that

[@joyg6921]

I'm a hearing person but I feel the same way as he does it nice to see that we have that similarity

[@Someone-tk7zh]

I felt exactly what he meant like how terrifying it is not to hear anything and because you are sleeping you cannot know what is happening around you... So so so horrifying :(

[@chanamita]

@@Someone-tk7zh I actually had that anxiety growing up because I'm hard of hearing, meaning I'm slightly deaf in my hearing. I'm around half deaf in both ears since I was born and I slept with night lights all the time, even today in my 20's I still sleep with light on sometimes. I didn't understand why I hated the dark, but I do know I feared losing both my hearing and my eye sight as I grow older. I'm Asian and have glasses, so me worried about my eye sight, and hearing and my health, you can imagine the fear and worries I have. just imagine losing one sense you rely on so much, mine is sight and I'd be devastated to lose that too.

[@Someone-tk7zh]

@@chanamita oh man... I am so sorry to read all of the troubles you have... I don't know if it helps but I hope you are going to be Ok and I hope you never lose anything else... God bless you and people like you... I hope you can get better

[@TooRizzle]

Him: walks in on gf making TikTok Her: hits woah Him: wtf is this demon language

[@chickennuggies8725]

Smiley ha

[@chaddawsome9302]

😂

[@notcherish2360]

LMAOAOA

[@allaboutart3329]

Not funny

[@TooRizzle]

All about art (:

[@heatherliketheweather]

I'm sure You've thought of this already and I'm obviously late to the show here, but my Military husband is up at unholy hours AND I HATE LIGHT TOO, and so the way we have worked around that is a RED LIGHTBULB! Red light does not travel through your eyelids unless you're right up in there because it has the longest wavelength and, therefore, the least amount of energy in the visible spectrum. SO, we have a light he can turn on that is red and it won't wake me up and if I open my eyes there is no glare or squint-inducing light, but he can move around to get ready for work! Hope that was helpful! :)

[@abigailevans6134]

love that thank you

[@TheRealJimW]

and the neighbors are like... DUDE gets some EVERY night!? LOL

[@meilinrivera1]

Somehow the red lights give me anxiety idk why might be my sensory issues 😥

[@thetongueofangels1882]

@@meilinrivera1 maybe try to think of it in a romantic sense? But i get what you're saying🙂❤

[@lauraeeeee]

Yeah I have philips hue bedside bulbs and make them red while my bf is reading me Harry Potter at night 😌

[@heowieyevebamuwheuehegegheyege]

I had the captions off for a solid 2 minutes and I was just staring at the screen confused as to why I wasn’t understanding it

[@maxpetttit4324]

Me too lmao

[@ing32]

oh thanks, now i can understand

[@hikarudoesthings9481]

Lmao i only then turned it on when i read your comment

[@DannyTrandannyhaitran]

Thank you !!!!!!

[@amberruth4164]

Same😂

[@tunikak4282]

“I’m sorry you have to put your food down.” That part just made me sad for some reason :(

[@yennilovelofi]

Same here

[@PandaJ00]

Not fully deaf but I have moderate congenital hearing loss and what I'll say is you shouldn't feel bad, sometimes small adjustments have to be made in life for your personal circumstances

[@meganfisher831]

I think he was saying it to her because he can chew/eat while talking and she can't. ;)

[@serenyaa9981]

i just realised now why he said that

[@JalilBaharuddin]

@@serenyaa9981 ya 😭

[@Zaza-ns9dd]

Me: I really want to learn sign language Quarantine: Well now is the time

[@Ms.Alaniz]

Razanne B same ! It helps if you change the speed

[@orang_water4862]

Faster or slower?

[@user2561-t3m]

@@orang_water4862 slower

[@alysonleon2868]

Yup

[@user2561-t3m]

@@alysonleon2868 you are an amazing person

[@monkeygrlfun]

Makes sense what he's saying about a sense of security. It can be scary to have one sense gone, plus another, esp3cially sleeping. So many things we don't think about as a hearing person.

[@maxwilson7001]

I know that was quite an eye opener

[@Nari_Trovi]

i kinda do tho, I don't have trouble hearing but for the longest time i didn't like sleeping in complete darkness

[@TheJackieeisbeastxP]

I seen a true crime case someone broke in a deaf womens house and she woke up to the vibrations of the intruders feet and went to hide

[@mackenziemunro378]

@@TheJackieeisbeastxP wow really

[@poggodoggo5838]

Just imagine that your a deaf dog sleeping and u suddenly felt something walks by near you and all you have is sense of smell, that's how he experience woth the lights off, i myself would feel unsecure too. He needs sight for hearing.

[@tomhardysgrandfather3960]

i just wanna know how y’all argue like does it get hella heated and serious

[@RubbelisPro]

If I remember right, they did a video on that topic. I can imagine she's a pretty understanding person, given the circumstances of their relationship, so their arguments probably don't get too hostile.

[@crazybutterfly100]

Tom Hardy's Grandfather you just sign real fast and you see lots of facial expressions, expressing anger and frustration. Lots of rolling of eyes.. at least I do that LOL

[@brandongrimaldi]

I’ve seen it at a party once.. their hand gestures become more harsh, their faces express their emotions and well in this case, they got into an actual physical fight. So although they don’t say anything, their body language says it all.

[@robertthe3rd673]

I remember a story I read about how a deaf couple was arguing and they started laughing hysterically because one of them signed "Don't scream at me!".

[@Rita-dj6sg]

@@robertthe3rd673 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jessicapelkey9731]

I wonder... Ellen do people ever assume you're Deaf when you're out with Ryan since you are signing together?

[@kikismiley11]

Now I want to know that too

[@grimmiexxlove64]

I have a deaf friend. We recently went out together and most people thought i was deaf too until i started speaking haha

[@tyrranide8708]

@@grimmiexxlove64 I always thought that was so dumb, like did they seriously expect that if one of you was visibly not hearing impaired then the other is just expected to walk around in silence and not communicate

[@oliveriochelseacollin8296]

[SPOILER ALERT] I remember there's a movie of it and that's the plot twist. My cousin told me but I've never watched it coz i forgot the title ..

[@shannong979]

I'm pretty sure she said in a video about a year ago that they do until she starts talking.

[@caitlincallan]

I like how she still learns from him and wants to make sure shes doing everything correctly 🥺

[@Deprexx]

Asian womens rly put their heart out there for you

[@samdajellybeenie14]

Well yeah she loves him and really cares about him! That’s love, dedication to someone other than yourself.

[@squirrelwithbusiness3285]

famous deprexx they don’t have to be Asian to have their heart out you know

[@Deprexx]

@@squirrelwithbusiness3285yea but white women most likely quit loving u unexpectedly, and have a racial bonus of 20% of cheating on you

[@cameronschyuder9034]

@@Deprexx That's... quite prejudiced against white women. If the white women you met were like that, then I'm very sorry that you had to deal with that. But race has nothing to do with how kind or understanding you are.

[@swaggiestdog]

“Sorry you have to put down your food” aww 🥺 I just realized how much I want more people like these two in Earth, like they are so generous and humble, it makes me cry seeing such a cute and awesome couple.. keep up the good work guys ! I love your videos already even thought I’m still new :)

[@OpalJustice]

I love that she signed, "No barking" to Java over her shoulder (2:03). That made me smile! :)

[@firerat_]

I actually really like the little sounds he make when he's talking, they are very asmr-ish

[@sheeesh2546]

haha same

[@benjaminharburn7772]

They piss me too off

[@samueloqvist4827]

they give me cancer.

[@ethani7137]

not a fucking chance could i listen to that for years on end.

[@ethani7137]

@@firerat_ not exactly rude though is it

[@shamaem2736]

I feel like everyone should learn sign language. My aunt is currently teaching my 2 year old cousin sign to the point where she sometimes only responds with sign lol Ps. If you don’t feel like you need to learn it that’s cool! It’s just my opinion thanks

[@emcasey5738]

Shamae M sign language with toddlers is good to an extent bc sometimes they refuse to verbally communicate so it’s good in moderation

[@shamaem2736]

em I agree! She definitely makes sure that there is a balance though.

[@lydiakies9053]

Oh my gosh. Yes! School would have been a lot easier for me if I'd been taught in ASL. When I was taking ASL classes after highschool, there was an interpreter in one of my math classes. Watching him made math make sense!!

[@emilyfanslow3604]

My 1 year old niece is learning sign too!

[@shamaem2736]

Emmy Fanslow awesome!!

[@em_.hay.]

2 questions for Ellen: 1) Is it strange to have arguments in silence? I guess you’re probably used to it by now but I think that must be so strange as a hearing person 2) Does your house feel very silent because Ryan prefers not to us his voice? If so, do you like to have music or some background noise just to make it less silent for you? Really love your videos by the way I really like how you both answer questions so open and honestly thank you both !

[@Yes-zp5wi]

Ryan is a very calm person as per the other videos. So imo their arguments would be a lot less aggressive so even though silent arguments may seem alien to us it wouldn't be all that different to them cause as you said one would become accustomed to it.

[@Not_An_EV]

@scftlcve it's all fun and games watching the deaf kids argue until they start making shadow clones.

[@JoanKSX]

@scftlcve Why your comment reminds me of orchestral conductors? XD

[@JoanKSX]

@scftlcve No, that's not what I mean. Orchestral musicians and conductors communicate using gestures during performances! Fast passages, musicians follow conductor's lead!

[@eligetic514]

@scftlcve the translator for deaf people in Eminem concerts thooo

[@pheonacamilleparido996]

"Sorry you had to put down your food" dangg sooo kindddd and perfecttttttttt

[@leeleeandtdtre3951]

IKR! they are just too cute!

[@PLuna-gf6sh]

Pheona Camille Parido I’m going to cry of how cute they are 🥺

[@mightbeLara]

“ sorry you have to put down your food “ omg he’s so cute !!💘😭

[@carolinavasquezmonsalvo9042]

He looks at her so lovingly sometimes, they are just so cute. My heart can't handle it. 🥺🥺❤️❤️

[@kana0kitsune]

4:04 “And that means she loves me a lot” that was so freaking cute 😭💕

[@galgreen3749]

Yeah ❤️

[@christopherforwood6592]

Hey, you are a huge inspiration, i am a sophomore in high school taking ASL, my teacher uses your videos all of the time!

[@SignDuoChannel]

Thanks!! That's so awesome, tell your teacher thanks for sharing!

[@miahefner1238]

I’m also a sophomore learning ASL!! Love this channel!

[@sarah-nt7iw]

Kinda random but by some very small chance, ms lamons?

[@myso.u.l]

Challenge accepted hehe

[@evasmojang]

I'm going to be a freshmen in August!! Unfortunately, there ARE no ASL classes at the high school (only spanish, chinese, french.) so I have to wait until I'm in like 11th or 12th grade and then I can take the sign language classes at the nearby college.

[@Funnyvids604]

This is literary the cutest thing in the whole wide world 💖

[@SignDuoChannel]

Thank you

[@Dreadtheday]

When she compliments him his eyes sparkle... I love that.

[@hellomynameisjen]

Aw I never thought about how deaf people would be afraid to sleep in the dark but that makes total sense. I love how much I've learned watching your videos! (:

[@Wra8h]

It reminds of when I read that a lot of blind people need melatonin to put them in bedtime mode

[@julesnymo]

haha it's not "deaf people" but Patrick. I'm deaf and I am not afraid of sleeping in the dark and all of my friends don't either. If a hearing person is scared of sleeping in the dark, are all hearing people afraid also? No. Something to think about :) I hope you learn something today. Have a great 2020!

[@natfingerboard]

@@julesnymo My hearing is fine and I'm afraid of sleeping in the dark lmao.... I'm fine with waking up or being awake in complete darkness but I need light to fall asleep otherwise I just feel vulnerable and can't stop imagining things, and my mind and body won't relax.

[@julesnymo]

Nathan Carrille yeah exactly. It’s different for everyone. It’s not a deaf thing lmao

[@hellomynameisjen]

PayneYance PayneYance I didn’t say or mean all deaf people. I said I didn’t think about how deaf people would be afraid of the dark - not that they all are but that there are those that could be because of the reasons Ryan explained. Hope you understand where I’m coming from. Have a great new year!

[@bethanythomas9797]

This is a beautiful relationship but I can’t imagine how sassy she must get with the sign language when they are arguing Check out my KZbin channel feel free to subscribe and if you don’t want to then that’s fine 😂 but it would be Massively appreciated

[@j0sh_u_a892]

Imagine he gets fed up and CLOSES HIS EYES LMAOOO

[@castenialometo9487]

J0sh_u_a your comment made my day lmaooooooooo😂

[@j0sh_u_a892]

@@castenialometo9487 hahaha

[@abrilzanassi]

@@j0sh_u_a892 or she would just turn the lights off lol

[@j0sh_u_a892]

@@abrilzanassi LMAOOOOOO

[@hannahcantrell430]

I feel like being in a relationship like theirs encourages more engaged communication, like no ones gonna ever be on their phones during a conversation. That’s something every relationship should practice

[@nonino1644]

Texting

[@ranahuwaidi3715]

They still could unfortunately look to their phone and welcome back at the person signing

[@yourlilemogirl]

My husband is HOH and I have CAPD, not to mention his first language is French while mine is Tex-Mex Spanish/English so our own language barriers naturally occur from time to time. We find it easiest to communicate through discord/text than speaking since I can talk too fast or he won't know how to express himself in english confidently sometimes. I feel also that the custom emotes also help convey our feelings or mood on any subject a lot :) So being on your phone isn't all bad :D

[@kater2469]

@@ranahuwaidi3715 iii

[@gritsonamission]

Marriage counseling tip: only argue in ASL... This way, no one yells at the other...

[@sgtjohnson]

I’m currently learning ASL. It’s been a real hands-on experience. Got a laugh from my prof when he asked if I was deaf. I said “I’m not deaf, but sometimes I just choose not to listen”

[@jordanweatherall6107]

😂

[@cameronschyuder9034]

"hands-on" love the double meaning. Also, I have something similar to you, except I don't choose not to listen. Sometimes the brain just doesn't comprehend speech as words, just any other sound. I know that someone is saying something, I just don't know what lol. Or I hear bits of what they are saying and try to fill in the gaps; sometimes what I think I hear is actually ridiculous which is how I know that's probably not what they actually said.

[@caspergotlost]

good ol' auditory processing difficulties

[@Technology_1000]

You see there are lot of answers to questions in life, and that answer is a good one. May use that in future reference.

[@dylanjames1690]

I have a lot of respect for his girlfriend you can tell she loves him a lot and he deserves someone as dedicated and willing as her fr

[@jaydensmith8486]

Legit the definition of dream girl

[@itsxo6776]

I knoooow, they're perfect for eachother 🥺

[@Countless4103]

This is the calmest “story telling” and couple channel I’ve visited. And cutest ngl

[@junowright6948]

I read “deaf” as dead and I was quite confused.

[@cherrypoppy1]

Juno Wright 🤣 me too !!! I was like ghosts?!

[@katyk5713]

I just laughed way more than is healthy smh

[@tabim3]

This comment is hilarious!

[@ahlogic5960]

3:48 Her: “Something very simple, like I love you-“ Him: 👊👀

[@HopeUnquenchable]

😂🤣

[@miguelbernardino2858]

Boyfriend speaks to us thru sign language: *Me not knowing anything* ah yes of course Edit: i shouldve turn on cc earlier

[@moemily6107]

RB_SPLICE thank you for telling me this 🤦‍♀️ I’m so dumb lol

[@miguelbernardino2858]

Emily Thomas i was too 😂

[@foofystar]

Emily Thomas freaking same

[@madyssonruiz1964]

literally same

[@xxxxSOSEXYxxxx]

Yeah I was in like 3 mins watching before I thought I should finally turn on the CC's. haha

[@chrislee1613]

He's 100% old old man

[@SignDuoChannel]

Thanks chris 👴🏻

[@maoriprincess_1624]

😂

[@kyleenevens5540]

I know a deaf family who has one hearing daughter and when they go out to eat and sign, people would talk about them being deaf and then their daughter turns and says “hello” and the people start apologizing because they were talking about them does anything like that ever happen to you guys?

[@crazybutterfly100]

KyLee Nevens hilarious!

[@rainpascua5351]

Another class said we cheated when they did,they were pissed off bcs we won, they called us sluts!!!! So yaah

[@James200319]

Three things - 1. You can tell the chemistry is amazing between you two! 2. I found this video by searching for videos to learn sign. 3. This video was published on my birthday. Bonus thing - I think I might try to learn ASL now.

[@aaronsharp7103]

I seriously thing this shows how love is so strong I love how hard she is trying to learn how to talk to him cuz she loves him. The world needs more love and nice people. One love guys

[@pranavantony4409]

Aaron Sharp One Love!

[@peony.turtle]

true, they both must have tried really hard.

[@hellboygustav7802]

She already learned sign cause they go back they had to do it when they were just dating back when they were teens living in their parents houses so she already knew

[@rosiebloyce4452]

Exsqueeze Me she learnt it for him, before they were dating she learnt it to talk to him

[@ss5187]

1:11 when he says "this morning started off a little rough" she was looking down in the bag the whole time but looked up and agreed how the heck did she know what he said when she didn't even look at his hands!?

[@rachel705]

once you get comfortable enough with ASL or a deaf person, u can sometimes see their signs out of your peripheral vision without focusing

[@ss5187]

@@rachel705 that is so crazy, for her to be looking down and still know what he's saying. I'm not at all saying it's impossible not sure if that's how it sounded, I'm more amazed than anything how comfortable someone can get that they just barely need to see part of a hand sign to know what their significant other is saying!

[@st-atic]

rachel Not really. It’s quite hard to decipher Signs without full concentration. I’m sure there are people who find it easy but in this case, he just repeated himself.

[@marlena7965]

even when she is looking at him she is looking at him in eyes not in his hands

[@rachel705]

@@st-atic oh i didn't notice that he repeated himself. but either way quite a lot of deaf people (mostly ones who have been signing all their lives) can decipher and pick out signs just by seeing basic hand movements. it takes a lot of skill but it can be learned. I had a sign teacher who was able to work on her computer and watch us sign at the same time. she knew exactly what we were saying.

[@ellerj641]

When I did a little bit of research a while back, I discovered there's a phobia of the dark. I cannot remember the name, but I remember reading how most people who have the phobia are deaf. This was actually reassuring for me, because I am deaf and all of my life, I have had this intense fear of the dark. I grew up being taught that only little children are scared of the dark and everyone grows out of it. I felt like something was wrong with me, as here I am an adult, and I still sleep with a light on. But after learning this and growing into my deaf identity, it does not bother me anymore, and I have learned why I am scared of the dark. Like Ryan explained, deaf people rely on their eyes and not their ears. We already don't have one sense. Taking away another is terrifying. I never go anywhere after dark, and always try to get home before the sun goes down. I am the world's heaviest sleeper, as having slept through tornados and a drunk person going through the yard and taking out a tree and fence, yet if the light gets turned off, I wake up immediately and go into a panic when I cannot see anything. I use the salt lamps with the adjustable light setting, so I have a nice low red glow in my room when I sleep. Funny thing is, my dog is scared of the dark too, so we both sleep with a light on.

[@nanwuamitofo]

I'm glad you're getting more comfortable in your own skin, your Deaf identity. Reddish, yellowish light (rather than blue light) is the right choice to not disturb your circadian clock too much. Keep well!

[@bobbie-johobbs6356]

*turn on captions* Me: psh I don’t need that I know sign language Also me: *realises I’m not american*

[@LifeAsItIs478752]

Bobbie-Jo Hobbs lol same

[@Nicolas.Fernandes]

Is it really different?

[@Nicolas.Fernandes]

@@louisehelene2006 But can you get along or understand a thing or two out of another sign language?

[@LifeAsItIs478752]

@@Nicolas.Fernandes Imagine you're listening to a German speaker. Based off your English, there may be a few words that sound familiar (ex. house and haus) but you certainly wouldn't be able to "get along". Unless you had studied a bit of German, you'd probably have absolutely no idea what was going on. Same thing happens with sign languages. Even American Sign Language and British Sign Language aren't considered mutually intelligible and they're "based" off the same spoken language. The alphabets are completely different too so it's not like you can finger spell words either. There's a few videos out there showing the differences between Sign Languages used in different countries and how different they can be, even with numbers. Although, I imagine the one advantage deaf signers would have is that they're probably used to gesturing. In the same way that two people that speak different languages can gesture to each other to try and get their point across, signers can do the same and might be better at it since they might be used to doing it with hearing people.

[@kucingmerah7563]

😂😂😂😂

[@itsYuniique]

At least they never have to worry about who’s on aux

[@markopolo2224]

lmao

[@jadeduncan5236]

😂😂😂😂

[@serenacosta9947]

😂😂😂😂

[@frosty5101]

Bro thats bogus LOL

[@guyoiii]

Actually you never know cuz deaf people listen to music through vibrations

[@maddy1255]

It's like therapeutic hearing him making like clicking noises when signing lol Edit: someone said eww what I meant is that it’s like ASMR 😂😂😂

[@sydneygehl445]

Quesadilla_Queen i agree

[@emilyfanslow3604]

asmr

[@Jessicurrrrrrrrr]

@Caramel Delight lmao

[@auromz9848]

No, seriously, it's like asmr :3 it's really Nice actually. Like when someone's voice just soothes you

[@Someone-tk7zh]

When he does that? I didn't notice.

[@BlazeDuskdreamer]

He's young but then I'm 62 so... OMG, my daughter's fiance recommended your channel and I'm loving it but reason he did is he has deaf family members and I'm writing a story about a deaf dairy farmer who marries a hearing woman. He figured I could learn a lot from your channel on how those dynamics work. But right now I'm grinning because I have the hearing wife do that same thing all the time - the I love you sign on his chest/heart. He's ill for a few days in the story and while she's nursing him and he's out of it, she does it too. Guess who taught her that sign? One of the first he teaches her. I'm totally subbed. Love the dog too.

[@inevitablewanderer3471]

I agree with what someone else said - I feel like I’m sitting and listening to friends tell me something. You guys have great vibes.

[@SignDuoChannel]

glad we are all friends here :D

[@aShamelessHigh]

friends with benefits

[@zaynab99]

how is it you can understand without even looking at this hands.

[@greenhippie5360]

They probably have a screen they can see when they're filming

[@dingding267]

I thought that too. but i think bc they are doing the same thing so they know the context and when you’ve been together for quite awhile you learn their speak(or in this case lol) sign patterns. So i think just like how you could only hear a few worlds of a convo, you know he’s example: talking about the time at work. Maybe that’s how it is.

[@richardsantmyer8074]

For ASL most of the context and expression in the sentence is in the facial expressions. When you’re fluent you can watch the signs with your peripheral vision and watch the expressions so you get the full meaning and context.

[@emilyernst3288]

My deaf ASL teacher told us we have to learn to understand signs without staring at the signer's hands. Apparently it can be considered rude if you just watch their hands. Also, facial expressions are SUPER important to understanding what's being said

[@TheICEgirl6100]

when you look at his lips and hear the small sounds you can tell what he's saying very often

[@jessicamccall7256]

His little giggles were precious aww.

[@weebshow3688]

At 3:51 when he said “like that” quietly in his own voice I kinda stopped for a moment and then thought it was so cute

[@DeathBatBabe97]

In the dark with my boyfriend, for *I love you* we grab each other’s hands and squeeze three times. Or throughout the day, if I’m busy and can’t sign, he’ll squeeze my hip or tap my shoulder three times as an I love you.

[@proteetii]

Thisnamestillsucks awww that is beautiful

[@Laweryn]

That's really cute

[@genevievecai]

that’s so cute aww

[@asatellin]

Aawww that's so sweet 😊😊😊💜

[@MissTracccid]

My bf and I are also doing the 3x squeezing hand, but we're not deaf - almost universal, it's cute :)

[@abbiet2444]

I love how she always gives eye contact when he is speaking/signing. I don’t understand how she does it because I’d have to be staring at the hand signs! But it’s really nice watching them communicate

[@CatalleyaStorm]

That's Deaf culture. You're not supposed to watch the hands you look at the face. I just had this talk to my best friend because she was staring at my hands. Our culture is different. It's culturally correct to look at the face not hands.

[@kidonaplanet4583]

Catalleya Storm hopefully you’re more forgiving of us newbies who are still learning ASL... I’m not trying to be rude I swear! it’s good to know that it’s rude though, I’ll definitely try not to next time I talk with someone with ASL

[@alyssacarter2983]

@@kidonaplanet4583 it helps that most people, even those who were born deaf, have followed lip movement and/or gone to speech therapy, and like Ryan, as you see here, moves their mouths when they talk, and a lot of the time that helps you to understand what they are saying. Even expressions or the way they do something shows you what they are trying to say. It does take getting used to and like with anything, as long as you clarify you arent trying to be rude and apologize, and keep working at it, I'm sure anyone you communicate with will understand.

[@rogerdunn5491]

Work at developing and using your peripheral vision more.

[@HopeUnquenchable]

@@rogerdunn5491What, you can _develop_ peripheral vision❓ HOW⁉️ I always assumed that it was like eyesight, and can get worse/ more limited but not better 😳

[@annikafarr5369]

Her patient is so sweet you can tell she genuinely loves him

[@sss-ee6or]

7:03 he smiled at her efforts omg that was such a cute smile , the way he looked at her😍

[@AK-jt7kh]

I know! There was so much love in it!

[@Ellemenopea97]

She said "I never did that" and then he was like "yes in the bathroom" and her face went 😳

[@dreamwitch8191]

The cutest part is when he mouthed "so" 5:58. He is able to say small words just whispering and that honestly makes me so happy and content with life.

[@alicecoakley5427]

He can actually talk, just chooses not to in videos!

[@dreamwitch8191]

@@alicecoakley5427 Omg! Adorable! I hope one day he does, I'm sure his voice is so cute.

[@maikerumendez9965]

@@alicecoakley5427 It's cool that though he is deaf. That he's able to still mouth or "talk" this has always amazed ever since this one girl on America's got talent who was able to sing a whole song though she is deaf. She went deaf after a while and wasn't born that way but it still amazes me... ☺️

[@alicecoakley5427]

@@maikerumendez9965 yes! She remembers how to talk before she Lost her hearing. I believe he was born deaf so doesn't have vocal memory of speach?

[@tired247]

4:58*

[@jenniferandrews6880]

I am just in awe of you two! My son was born 40% deaf so I learned basics when I was teaching him language, but Unfortunately I lost him at the age of 5, So I stopped learning. But I always felt the need to learn more… several years later.. while I was in prison.. I had my dad send me an asl book and I learned what I could from that book while I was there. Now that I am in the free world again, and changed my life back to the way it was before I lost my son, I have a great job now, and I just got promoted as a trainer. The 19yr old I am training right now is hard of hearing. And the skills I learned from that book have came in good use for us. I seem to be the only one in the warehouse that knows any asl however I am still a serious beginner but he commended me for my signing and it filled me with so much joy. I just found you two while I was searching to expand my knowledge of asl and watching these vids has helped me so much already I have even signed up with skill share to improve my signing ability. Thank you so so much for existing!

[@veraceful]

7:00 is so cute 🥺 reminding her the sign for nightstand

[@AndreaHernandez-jx7dx]

Ryan is interesting. He IS an old soul and yet a kid at the same time

[@tonilou]

"Don't talk when you're eating/your mouth is full" 😂 doesn't apply here

[@bonniea8189]

Lol I'm not deaf but I studied ASL for my second language in college. When my mouth is full but someone has asked me a question or I really want to add to a conversation, I start signing even when no one else around knows sign. It's kind of habit.

[@arandomgirl306]

@@bonniea8189 at least then they will stop talking and look at you all confused until you finish eating and can say it.

[@bonniea8189]

@@arandomgirl306 Haha yeah you're right

[@whatthefuckisthis7]

@@bonniea8189 learned asl a few years back at home at home and it became a habit i would bring to school and i would do that same thing until the teachers called about me using gang signs 🤣

[@bonniea8189]

@@whatthefuckisthis7 ugh that sucks, I'm sorry. Did they reverse course once you explained? Some friends of mine and I got pulled over for yelling to a car full of other friends of ours ahead of us at a stop light. The cop said we were throwing gang signs. The absolute comedy gold of the situation was that we had all just left a Renaissance Fair and were still in full costume. So I guess if your definition of "gang" means a "troupe" of reenactment nerds, then sure, we were a gang.

[@ash_fire6932]

I have been slowly going deaf on my right side and have been forced to learn to talk in different ways so your guys videos have helped me so much, thank you for what you do I love and support you guys so much ❤️

[@sonjahavukainen1859]

When Ryan talked about sleeping in the dark, I started thinking if there are special fire alarms for deaf people? You could be woken by a smell of smoke but otherwise, are there like fire alarms that blink or something?

[@SparklyUnicornDesi]

Sonja Havukainen there are ones that flash a bright light and ones that makes huge vibrations!

[@bethanyplatt3882]

There are alarms for deaf people that are really bright strobe lights and you can also get one that can vibrate the bed.

[@plasticrose6703]

in the movie hush the main character is deaf and the alarm is super loud and bright and creates vibrations :)

[@sanocha203]

at schools there are those fire alarms that are loud and flash lights

[@Denturess]

I think apart from fire other dangers could be like an intruder. And I think that security alarms are pretty loud so there are probably security alarms made for deaf people as well.

[@rb2k196]

I was best friends with a profoundly deaf girl in primary school and for the longest time, her parents struggled with her sleeping at night because she wouldn't sleep by herself due to the dark, it was difficult for them to have lights on (small house with bedrooms opposite) but once she got a guide dog when she was 9, she would sleep through the night. Something small that you wouldn't think about when it comes to having a guide dog but Gem (the dog) worked miracles

[@pixelgamingyt8839]

3:52 I HAVE FINALLY HEARD HIS VOICEEEEEEE

[@payton5930]

When KZbin finally gives you some good wholesome content 😌😮 -I subscribed

[@laurac.8790]

This videos are so relaxing, I love how most of the time they're eating in their car, I'm always like "what's it going to be now, donuts, bagels?"

[@malikmcm]

I’m kinda glad that KZbin recommended this because my high school offered ASL for the first time last year and I took it. Loved the class, my deaf teacher and learning about deaf culture. So it’s cool to see that I recognize and know the signs

[@lilhonni]

Malik McMichael / would you say that you can recover most of the information that was taught to you?

[@liangryan]

i heard ryan’s voice for the first time in this vid

[@sideeswipe]

ryan liang Wait at what timestamp did he speak?

[@georgiasmith787]

Yeah, he says “that there” referring to I love you in ASL on her arm ❤️

[@TRUkae]

3:52

[@aliviareese8409]

what i really enjoy about your videos is when you guys sign the audience is learning different signs. ive picked up a few signs from watching a few videos and I've learned a lot about the deaf community and how to probably communicate. I really love your videos!

[@dorkmyride]

Literally, my favorite part of this is when they're talking about the night-light, and she asks, "Wait, what?" and he re-signs everything.

[@viicba]

OMG Java is ginormous ! She can’t even fit on Ellen’s lap 😱

[@SignDuoChannel]

She's growing tooooo fast!

[@smolmishka609]

Video: "turn captions on" Me someone who had to learn asl because of my hearing disorder: *stonks*

[@kayak3023]

ahaha same

[@racheldesir6612]

I'm learning ASL and I'm watching your hands so hard it's hilarious. Trying to see how many words I can make out. You guys are a beautiful couple!

[@VictoriaVaden]

How is your ASL now? I am doing the same too! 🤗

[@angelltayy]

I have to be honest...I love languages but before now, I hadn’t really considered sign. You guys are so genuine and calming! It makes me so upset that some people are close-minded and really disrespectful toward deaf people and sign overall. It makes me SO happy to see y’all talk to one another, barely looking, but understanding and laughing simultaneously and interjecting naturally. after all, you’re JUST talking, like normal😂 I look forward to learning sign❤️ thank you sm for your channel.

[@missnaomi613]

I love languages, too! But I admit, I came to ASL for selfish reasons. When I was younger I frequently had a sore throat. I didn't know if it would be a lifelong issue (it's not.) So I learned ASL in college. I'm glad I did. Just realized, this may not have made sense... I'd planned to use ASL with my family during times I couldn't speak. Sadly they were resistant to learning it. I ended up using it a little, on occasion. Then when I had kids, I taught them a bit.

[@angelltayy]

Miss Naomi 613 still super cool though. you never know if you might need it! and your mind opened up to it, too

[@whit6079]

Interesting my husband is Deaf and I am hearing. He likes the light off. We also talk in the dark lol. We spell words and sign and use tactile. We shake the hand when we understand and need the next word or sign. My husband said “ what’s wrong why doesn’t she get an eye mask lol” and then you talked about it. We like it pitch black too. You remind me of when we were young. We sign a little more asl but we were young like you when we met

[@AK-jt7kh]

How did you and your husband meet?

[@whit6079]

We met in college. We both were in the tutoring lab. He was there getting help with English and I was there getting help with math. We locked eyes and I instantly felt a connection. I developed a crush on him in that moment. During that time I had no idea that he was Deaf. Weeks later I found out he was deaf. My thoughts were “ he is deaf, I have to learn sign language.” I worked up the courage to sign to him. I walked up to him when he got up to sharpen his pencil. I was like “ hi I like your shirt” and then he said “thank you” with the cutest smile. This girl who was hard of hearing said “ she doesn’t like your shirt she likes you!” In that moment I was so embarrassed and bright red. I left the lab pretty quickly after that. For a month after that We would go to the lab the same time everyday to get help on school work hoping that we would run into each other not realizing we both were doing it. Finally one day I saw an opportunity to met him officially. One of my hard of hearing friends was talking to him and introduced us to each other in the lab. She was interpreting for us back and forth. She was like “I see what is going on, if y’all want to talk you can talk back and forth on paper.” After that moment we talked for an hour on paper and exchanged emails. Texting wasn’t like it is today. We fell in love 😍 after our first date and now we have been married for 10 years. I still am crazy about him. He is amazing 🤩

[@AK-jt7kh]

Whit Aww this is such a sweet story! I love it! 💕 that first girl outing you like that though! 🤣 Did he ever talk about how he felt that first time you signed to him?

[@whit6079]

A K he said he thought wow she must really like me!! I know the first time he fell in love with me! He didn’t have to tell me either. It was our 5th date. First canyon lake, second was church, third was subway ( when we came up with our nicknames sweet and sour), fourth was boating at town lake, and fifth was playing darts at a pool hall. I remember him getting really jealous because a guy came up to me and said “how do I sign you are beautiful?” I showed the man how to sign it and the man signed it to me. My husband was so jealous and pulled me closer to him. They say a person feels the jealousy emotion before the love ❤️ emotion. I asked him later if that is when he knew he loved me and he said “yes.”The moment he knew he fell for me..

[@AK-jt7kh]

Whit Aww! I’m so happy for you guys! What a sweet story! But wow that guy is a weirdo for coming up to you with your deaf boyfriend and asking you how to sign-flirt with you. He obviously knew you weren’t deaf or he wouldn’t have asked

[@C4Iypso]

Ryan: "I'm Old" Me: "wtf i thought you were 25" Also Me: *spends 5 minutes searching about Ellen and Ryan to see how old they are* Also me AGAIN: *realizes i was right and did it all for nothing*

[@saynotohookups]

It's always good to verify info if you're not sure about it.

[@missnaomi613]

Wow, I was right. They are young enough to be my kids.

[@romanl309]

Ellen is 24 and Ryan is 27 :)

[@sarahsleamanova2072]

I thought they are younger 😅 but still young

[@romanl309]

@@sarahsleamanova2072 True :) I'm 25,so I'm older than Ellen,but younger than Ryan :D :)

[@timelessvideo]

I'm engaged to a CODA, and have been teaching myself sign for the last several years. Your videos help me so much, you're such a cute couple and, everything you eat looks freaking delicious! Please keep up the videos, they help me, and I'm sure a lot of others, out a lot. 🤟

[@lilly_colton_8648]

do you ever catch yourself signing when you’re not around him ?

[@elyjaeger8623]

I personally sign a lot when I don't have too! Also, I'm hearing and sometimes I would sign automatically whenever I'm trying to speak another language out loud like Spanish or whatever 😅

[@gytisdramblewolfskis8521]

@@elyjaeger8623 Well the signs do seem to be slightly intuitive and may help non deaf people to understand. Am I wrong?

[@elyjaeger8623]

@@gytisdramblewolfskis8521 it's definitely possible, but not always. Some signs are more clear than others :)

[@abby3147]

she signed to her dog in the beginning lol

[@rogerdunn5491]

She has stated in a couple of videos that she has done that.

[@jameygulson1838]

"Sign TRIO out!" ...so sweet! 🐾❤

[@josephwrench5150]

This is so damn wholesome. As someone who has lost my hearing in my early 20s this is something that I honestly worried about so much. Thank you for comforting me.

[@mandyshores1818]

This made me cry. We all take all we have for granted. So sweet and beautiful that you both communicate with love. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@annieyu72]

When communicating with a deaf person, I feel like you got to give your entire attention in reading their hand motion. Unlike with using voice, you can be dazing off or on your phone and still hear them. My question is, are there times you miss part of what they sign and get lost in a conversation?

[@elyjaeger8623]

Actually in deaf culture you look at their face for the most part, it's just more respectful. If you get lost, usually context helps you or of not, you can just ask them to repeat :)

[@louisrialland2527]

I dont think anyone will see this but this is really heartwarming and wholesome and it's so nice to watch you two be so understanding and do your best to help eachother.

[@IrisLovee_]

I love how chill it is when you guys just sit down and answer questions everyone wants to know. Being more educated on the deaf community is so enlightening. I commented this before and hopefully it could be answered someday hehe. What does Ryan do? It’d be so nice to learn more about what he does and how he felt when he started work and how he communicates for his job.

[@SignDuoChannel]

Hey! so glad you like our videos! it makes what we do so worth it!

[@torianderkin8910]

So I started the journey of getting my Deaf studies minor at the beginning of this year. I am absolutely in love with it and a few days ago I came across your channel. I love your guys videos and I want to say thank you for posting, spreading awareness, and making content with signs and captions. I feel as if I am learning so many more things just from your videos and it really fills me with joy!!

[@Alex_in_Wonderland111]

Someone tell Java he’s a good boy for me. That child deserves the very best

[@lhenn2497]

This literally makes me wanna cry like this bond is so sweet and pure it makes me wanna learn sign language ❤️

[@TheDanielleDenise]

First Time viewer: This makes me so happy!! You both seem like such good humans!

[@nwavincep]

I just found your channel! I’ve always wanted to learn ASL and recently, I had a student ( I teach baking at a community college) who was deaf. She was accompanied by interpreters, but having her in my class made me a better teacher! I had to re-think how I spoke to the class (she could read lips pretty well), but I also had to re-evaluate how I presented my demos to the class. I will never forget that!

[@ikbird4901]

I love this so much... imagine having so much affection fo someone to learn sign language, and change your whole life from them.

[@GhostXGrace]

I love noticing myself progress in asl as I learn in college. I’ll watch your videos and turn the volume all the way down and I really noticed it helps me learn so well. Thank you for not only being such a great example for the deaf & hard of hearing community, but great teachers for the students.

[@SignDuoChannel]

Great job! and thanks for the support

[@shannonfairywalker2466]

Ryan: I'm old Us: you're a handsome and adorable man 😂❤