How I figured out what to do with my life 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lavendaire]

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[@kassandrajohnson9241]

"I've always been a good student, I knew how to get good grades and do well in school because there was a syllabus and homework and guidelines, and I felt like I had the rules set out and I knew how to work within the rules, but when life happened, I was like, there are no rules to life, it's too open-ended that I don't know what to do with my life." GIRL, SAME!!!

[@donutcare6929]

Yes. What scares me the most. Life have no rules or instruction manual for us to follow. You yourself need to figure it out.

[@ToriH]

SAME!!!!

[@rndmkt]

True 💯😭

[@tinafang5168]

exactly this is so relatable

[@laur7841]

That kinda reminds me of Kafka's little fable

[@AbdRahman-ly1ku]

feeling of failure is way more bearable than regretting not doing something and continue wondering what if i did it what could have happened

[@NenaLavonne]

Abd Rahman 👏👏👏👏❤️

[@carrielo5478]

really grateful for this, this quote really made my day

[@dilarakal4333]

It’s still taking me a while to learn that

[@sylviasadiah2001]

THANK YOU, I NEED THIS! Was looking for a sign until I stumbled upon this. ❤️

[@squidward9]

needed to hear this !!

[@nka30]

I’m in my late thirties and wish I had this advice in my twenties. I am now on a different path and spent many years struggling due to not finding my passion. But one piece of advice for those of you still searching, if you love your job but find that it doesn’t tick all the boxes, you can still have side hustles and hobbies or even volunteering on the side to fulfill other parts of yourself. Especially if you feel like it would be too tough to leave your job completely.

[@theluschmasterinc]

yes .. also one of the encouragement I wish I had received when I was younger would have been to explore side hustles while I had my first job because I think it was after that job that I just became more confused at people throwing jobs, learnerships and studies at me that I had no passion for .. which, I guess had me jumping from job to job .. but also, I probably had to go through those things to learn certain things about myself and the life that I am supposed to live .. thanks for sharing ..!

[@zdango9279]

I'm 29yrs. But age doesn't matter,keep on moving and be positive.❤

[@teenytinyteetee]

Thank you for this comment !

[@rndmkt]

Thanks, we'll never stop learning til the day we die.

[@huynhmai7385]

I am at the beginning of 30s now and I wish I heard these advices earlier. I am trying differnt side hustles. Hope I can figure out what actually align with me soon!

[@linty2747]

“your failures will lead you to where you’re meant to go” 🙏🏼🙏🏼 ty aileen!

[@lavendaire]

yes!!

[@NenaLavonne]

Lynne Zhang ❤️🦋

[@barryseaworth]

What if you're meant to go to a bad place? Lol

[@InnerResearcher]

Lynne Zhang amen yes!!!!

[@aanchal2303]

I failed my college entrance exams today

[@MissDarcei]

Unrelated but I just want to say I love your makeup in this video. The way the sun is hitting your cheekbones is just beautiful.

[@lavendaire]

aw thank you 😊

[@idfkidfcidgaf7711]

Hey guys!! What’s up? It’s your favourite 😍 Bald headed 👩🏾‍🦲 Bit*h✌️

[@nicoleleary1000]

"passion is the result of action, not the cause of it" - one of my favorite quotes, which seems to fit very well with this video!!

[@Possibleivlogs]

Nicole Leary this is so true! I feel like that’s where the true potential lays within people, the power to Do

[@floragcaldeira]

I find it fascinating when people know at least what makes them feel joy. I tried a lot of things, tried college, tried working, but never found joy. I'm 24 living with my parents and just failed again in life. Not knowing what you like it's frustrating. But seeing time passing with no accomplishments and no money it's even worst.

[@julinielawrence1903]

Same girl. I'm 22 and I'm not working atm but I'm using this time to study spirituality, yoga, meditation, chakras and trying to understand why we're all here. I find myself being at peace and then I started watching martial arts videos and I'm trying to get into "krav maga" (best self defense art for women) and then I'll get a part time job to work around my schedule. I have a feeling it'll bring me joy and take away all this feeling of failure. But I'll stop ranting, maybe you can look for a hobby or volunteer. Goodluck 😘

[@ame_vagabonde]

I hope you're doing better now! But if not, it's alright, because your only real job in life is to figure yourself out. That said, I really think the best advice is to try more things and keep going. There is so many things in the world that obviously we haven't tried them all. So, let's experience more things, new sports or manual activities. Have you ever gone hiking? Did you try pottery ? Sculpture? Learnt a new langage? What about teaching young people, carving wood, scuba diving, planting crops, taking care of animals, decorating a room?

[@kumadori9627]

@@ame_vagabonde thank you, this helped me a lot!

[@wenjunbleeker6020]

I'm 26 and I relate so much to what you say! I just dont know what I would like or have passion in...

[@coachbahman]

*Don’t worry about figuring it out...* Figuring life out is the fun part!

[@cheska3002]

Truth!

[@Vrinder94]

Fun? I'm not finding it that much fun tbh...

[@anthonymonterosso7472]

I hate it! Im so stressed and feeling so much pressure to figure out what i want to do. Im 21 and I have absolutely no clue! Feels like everyone around me knows what they want and I cant even figure out what things I like

[@sofiasantiago2293]

I find it fun but im not sure how to explain why I find it fun to people that don’t find it fun 😕 can’t seem to find the words

[@karstdeviz3858]

i hate it

[@TechWriterToolkit]

I love that you mentioned you were envious of other KZbinrs' lifestyles, but instead of harboring or spewing malice, you saw it as a huge clue as to what you really want for yourself. That's very mature of you on an emotional level. I think people need to learn how to transform that emotion into a positive like you did.

[@lavendaire]

your envy is really telling :) it's a clue of what you desire, and instead of letting it be negative, you can let it fuel your growth!

[@navi3430]

@@lavendaire Definitely! If you ever find yourself jealous, it is better to use that person as an inspiration for what you want!

[@ailysvt]

_"How can you be 23, still struggling in life, struggling to make money, struggling to figure out what you're supposed to do."_ To be honest, I'm so happy to hear this. Currently 23, just graduated and in lost. It make me think how if you can do it, I should be able too. I am so glad I found your channel. Been marathoning your lifestyle videos and you've inspired me so much.

[@yoongis.tangerine]

i am 23 and i am currently unemployed. i feel so so lost

[@myzone111]

Lavendaire is like an amalgamation of art, an open journal, a book club, a mentorship, a peaceful retreat, taking tea and chatting with your amazing bestie and so much more all at once dressed in love, beauty and empathy! It’s hard to express how proud and grateful I am... Thank you so much Aileen. We love you! 😍

[@lavendaire]

Aww I appreciate this. Thank you & love you!!

[@madib.2567]

Awwh. This is so sweet. I feel the same way but you said it eloquently

[@anujaramuth2416]

Thank you so much dear. I can relate to what you have been sharing. Keep shining dear ✨️ 🌺💗

[@mytelly5005]

@@madib.2567Thank you! ❤

[@kendrickear5441]

"Your failure will lead you where to go" love that part.

[@cayennebrownie3181]

your aesthetics of your videos and how they have a great purpose is amazing love you so much 💜

[@lavendaire]

thank u & love u dear

[@debramayisela]

I am 22, recently graduated. I am currently in that situation whereby I'm so confused and even starting to doubt as to whether I did the right course. However, this video has really encouraged me. Thanks Aileen😊❤

[@l0lliezoe3x]

debra mayisela same! What did you do about this x

[@foodlover3158]

I'm in the middle of questioning my life. I want my life to be meaningful. But I don't know where to start. And then I stumble upon your video. It's a mind opening one. At least, I got myself an idea what to do first. I really thank you a lot for this video. Love from Indonesia

[@miwakomint_bunny4885]

You're so right Aileen. I'm just 23 but I've been experimenting with my life for quite a years now until I realised what I really want in my life. I started my career as a supervisor in one beauty company and then got promoted as a beautician and MUA in the same company after went to several classes they held. After that I quit and started my music journey. Work in a music class as a tutor. But then quit. Work as a model and quit. Work as an actress and quit. It's just not I want in my life. And then I took over my family business and never been happier. I never realised that all I want is being close with my parents. Even my financial is way more stable compared to all the works I've done before.

[@kkyulmin]

Thank you for that! I'm 22 and due to my personal situation I'm just going to Uni this year. I have this weird feeling that it's really late for me because most of my friends are already graduating and I'm just like...trying to figure out what to do with my life, still having Uni to get started... What I know for sure is that I don't wanna work in all those boring, generic places like corporations and so on. I just feel like it's not something for me even if it's a "comfort zone" option. Just always wanted to do something meaningful and well-payed. I know that in my early twenties, I still have time to find myself and figure out what is the best for me, but it feels like everything best around is already running out of time. Trying to convince myself that it's the wrong way of thinking, so despite of it I'm going to buy a guitar this year and start learn to sing as I always wanted (I think so) and will see if it'll work out. Maybe it's not too late ;) If not, well, I'll try something different again. Btw, lately I started listening to your podcast and girl! I'm grateful. People like you gives me hope. Thank you.

[@aidanamer555]

Hi, Sherly! I’m glad you’re pursuing your educational goals. People go to university even at their late 40s. Besides, ‘it’s never too late’. Good luck at your beginnings🦋

[@julessound]

Hey girl! I’m 21 and also searching for a degree to get at the university. Even though I tried studying linguistics for 1,5 year I dropout because it wasn’t enlightening to me. My goal is to find something finally and leave from Russia but I can’t choose because of the financial situation too. Also, I have a hobby which is singing and that’s great that you decided to try guitar! Go for it ☺️ Maybe you’ll start writing your own songs someday.

[@sagejunkie7089]

I did my degree at 40 and Masters at 50! You are never too late 🧡

[@arshpreetkaur9]

Hey are you me ? Each and every thing resonates with me. It's so depressing. But now it's been 2 years. How r u and things ?

[@nesrinech3967]

I really Hope you are doing well . Wish you all the best 🌟

[@m.jenkins3012]

Her hair is giving me life ..and so is her message.

[@InnerResearcher]

M. Jenkins haha YESSS!

[@suzzshakya8968]

“Sometimes you don’t know that it’s right for you until you get there…” This hit me hard! I’ve finally accomplished my childhood dream job but now I’m unsure if I fit into this or if it’s even right for me… But I still don’t wanna give up and gonna try find my way to make it best suitable for me. 💫😌

[@samarsuwaid7578]

I needed this so much.. I just lost my job today.. I haven't been happy there anyways, but I didn't have the gut to leave my comfort zone. This talk is very helpful. Thank you so much. You are achieving your goals and keep inspiring us ❤️

[@blacklightaura6777]

Samar Suwaid something that worked for me after leaving a job I wasn’t happy at was looking at my every day passion (makeup) and doing that commercially at cosmetics counters. I would never get promoted at restaurants bc they could tell I hated it but with makeup I got promoted in less than one year!!!! Look at what you do every day that you don’t notice :) even if it’s something weird like organizing your house or something. There’s a job for that you just need to be creative about it

[@InnerResearcher]

Samar Suwaid its all for a reason❤️❤️ something even better is on the way!!!!!

[@KatrinaAglipay]

my goodness I can totally relate. I used to be a dancer then I also tried modelling. Then I worked as an accountant. I tried blogging. Until I end up as a KZbinr. Finally it just feels so right! I know I'm on the right path. Thank you for your message. It encourages me and everyone for sure. ☺🤗

[@komorebi3803]

@Simply Pinay I took a quick look at you channel. Even though it isn't the kind of content that I'm into, I just wanted to tell you that everything looks very anesthetic 🤗 Keep going

[@KatrinaAglipay]

@@komorebi3803 ohh thank you! 🤗😍

[@lyndsay_paige]

Currently on the path of trial and error. I still haven’t found what I want to do with my life yet , not sure if I ever will and it just might be going from job to job. But no matter what job I have or where I have it, I always try and find the things I liked and the things I didn’t like and grow from it. I never regret the job choices I’ve made because I’ve learned so much from each job. Thanks so much for the video and your wisdom!!!

[@myzone111]

8:15 The fact Aileen made/makes her videos from a perspective of documenting progress, I believe, is one of the exact reasons why Lavendaire is so brilliant and why we connect so much with her! She’s teaching through sharing her own process of growth, overcoming her fears, learning from her failures and celebrating her successes big and small, authentically and in real time. The way she collaborates with and interviews other Artists of Life through her podcast and videos too is beautifully done. As well as the hard work and focus, it surely must require sooo much vulnerability and selflessness to open up like this? Honestly it’s just so special, refreshing and inspiring!

[@usajohn1399]

True

[@immaculate6244]

YOU JUST SOLVED A PROBLEM THAT A 17 YEAR OLD WAS SUFFERING FROM FOR WEEKS. YOU HELPED ME FIGURE IT OUT! THANK YOU! PLEASE TREAT YOURSELF, YOUVE DONE SOMETHING THAT SOLVED WHAT WEEKS OF WATCHING KZbin COULDNT!

[@lyndsay_paige]

I just wanna add too that the hard part for me is the leaving the job part. I’m always so worried that I’m letting people down when I quit a job. I think it’s rooted in having people being disappointed in me. I just have to realize that it’s my life and those people will be okay without me! It’s definitely something that I have to let go and start worrying about myself instead of what others think

[@DearEmma-tj1zs]

Your words remind me of Steve Jobs’s speech at Stanford -- “keep looking, don’t settle “. Trust your gut, be brave, and keep exploring, as life is a beautiful journey. You are really inspiring, and now I also decide to record my own journey of growing, learning, and succeeding ❤

[@amy_lee]

this was possibly one of my favorite videos of yours! and i love a lot of your videos, it was so personal and engaging and inspirational and informative. :-) ALL AT ONCE!

[@lavendaire]

Aw thank you Amy!!

[@amwellin]

I feel my degree was useless… I literally have no passion or motivation anymore. Just graduated 2 years ago from Uni, now I’m on my own, not making much money, and LOST. Hoping ur videos could help me out. Literally my new inspiration

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[@rainmelodiess]

hi eileen! been watching your videos for a while now but i was wondering, do you make podcasts? if not, i’d totally would love it and listen to it if you started! you’re so inspiring!

[@lavendaire]

@@rainmelodiess yes i have a podcast! It's called The Lavendaire Lifestyle - on iTunes/Spotify/etc! lavendaire.com/llpodcast

[@altheapo]

Is there a specific age group for this course?

[@catherinemiles7260]

I fully enjoyed this car vlog, I love the vibe. And it was just real relaxed. Thank you for this awesome video!!! #lavylove

[@OkkyAyuPermata]

Every time I need to recharge, I always watch all of your videos because I want to pursue being a content creator and be my own boss just like you!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I agree that often it can be trial and error combined with some deep digging to figure out what your passions really are. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. The most important thing in life is to truly live your purpose and figure out what you were meant to do! Cheers!

[@SuperEnthused]

I have always said, you have to TRY things, get out there, and DO, and along the way you will learn, gain skills and find out what you truly want to do. Do something, do anything. Totally agree with your main point there and the examples you provided! I was a touring musician as well and it helped me to become who I am today as well!

[@lavendaire]

agree!

[@diligentdish]

I’ve been trying to figure out which career path I want to manifest, but you just helped me find the answer. Instead of focusing on one particular career, I should instead focus on the guidelines/criteria I want out of a career. Thank you for the enlightenment ✨

[@lindyn4]

"There will always be something that is 100% aligned to what you are meant to do You have to not give up until you find it" ...thank you girl I needed this I know am close to it but there are days I can't wait to find it.. Have I done enough to get there?

[@toughsoftieyogi]

oh my god. This is NOT a messy car vlog. This is the best vlog I've seen on KZbin. It's very, VERY informative and helpful. At 31, I'm still trying to figure out what I really want in life. I actually thought I had it figured out when I was 26. But things are changing now and I'm lost again. Thank you so much for this, Aileen. Thank you so SO much.

[@InnerResearcher]

Yes yes yes i feel the same way!!!!!!!

[@rainahigane5133]

True . Me too I'm 31 and all along I thought I am doing the things I wanna do and I already doing my passion and my purpose but.... I have empty feeling right now.

[@tetiana3933]

@@rainahigane5133 same for me

[@ahhhaha]

Literally my life rn!!! 23, a year out of graduating with a music degree, and spent the last year questioning my career path and feeling unfulfilled when I kept thinking about the commitment to music. I love music and I love playing with people, but the lifestyle was something I didn’t want anymore. Now I’m slowly trying out visual art, digital art, illustration, and finding what I like and don’t like about it, and I’m loving this process because I’m learning so many new things about myself, my wants, and my needs.

[@soph.poe13]

Your videos are just pure magic✨

[@lepastila7088]

I really needed this video! I told my boss last week that I quit. It was so scary but I couldn't stay in a place that wasn't fulfilling. Right now I have absolutely no idea what to do, what career to pursue etc. But I will try until I find what's mine. Very beautiful message, thank you!

[@purpl3gemini]

Omg this is so me. I was always the good student and kid and I still struggle living life. There are no rules and I am lost. Thanks for creating this video. It sparked some ideas

[@PahlaB]

I've come to the conclusion that failing is actually the MOST important part of the journey! If you don't fail, how will you really know what success feels like? Love this style of vlog!

[@Tuyetnguyenvhq]

Yeah, i'm having a hard time to figure out what i want to next at age 35, after 7 years working for a company.After stop, i spent a year basically not doing anything but travel and wander around and doing yoga. I'm still on the way finding my new path, by doing different things like taking course, travel more, meet more people... Dont know if it success to be honest, but i dont regret at all. Just take it on move and see how :).

[@BabyChi3]

I’m glad I clicked this video! I’m 23 and lost. But you gave me hope that maybe I can find something I like to do!!

[@InnerResearcher]

Momotan same!!❤️

[@carlycallaway199]

Lavendaire definitely deserves more subscribers! Everytime i watch a video i feel inspired!💖🥰

[@HarryHas]

My God! I can't believe how close to home this is for me. I made music all my life with a KZbin channel, hated touring or playing live and kind of kidded myself into thinking I loved music more than I did. That was until I picked up a camera and feel in love with photography and video making. 6 months in and hit 1k subs and even though I'm earning nothing yet, I know this is right. Thanks for making this as it just made me feel even more confident than I already was in what I am doing. Also to add, people think I am a lunatic when I try and explain what I am doing so I stopped trying to explain and just have to show them the results.

[@carlyburr]

I love how you have kept taking action and testing and expressing your creativity to find what finally clicked for you and felt right. 💛 taking action even if you have no clue if it’s going to work is SO important!

[@lavendaire]

yes! action will bring clarity

[@thuyvu6886]

Thank you for your sharing. I've lost for almost 2 years after working restlessly in an agency and been searching for these kind of video to find out what I want to do with my life (yes i'm really desperate). Your video is the most powerful and helpful tbh. Tysm

[@lavendaire]

Vietnamese & Japanese subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributor listed in the description 💕

[@Katerina-wj2ct]

It's incredible how people from different parts of the world go through the same things , how the sentences resemble with my thoughts is really magical, once again thank you for existing

[@mckenziekay708]

I really enjoyed this raw, in-the-moment video - I felt like I was sitting with a caring friend. Thanks, Aileen!

[@priscillajimenez27]

Despite feeling lost house still had a good head on your shoulders to be able to figure out what you want. I feel people need to be stable in their minds to be able to figure out their passions because I've met people that no matter what were so negative and never satisfied and settled for less. I'm definitely reevaluating myself and clearing my mind and prayer in order to figure out what my purpose is.

[@Grace_0128]

once again your videos always come in good time 😭 I'm in mu early twenties and I'm fretting over my future and I tend to overthink a lot so thank you for sharing with us your points

[@InnerResearcher]

Grace Lum yes me too! Such perfect timing!!!!

[@nicolealexander3479]

I'm just coming across this video because I've been feeling so lost with what I should be doing with my life. Literally typed in, "how to" and youtube filled in the rest with "know what you should be doing with your life." Among all the videos, I clicked on yours and am finding it so wild that what you're saying is resonating with me on so many levels. Thank you for following your gut, taking a chance, and making this video (and your whole channel!) - it's so inspirational and was exactly what I needed

[@InnerResearcher]

It’s no an accident that I saw this video!!! I’m a creator myself, and a girl sent me a DM saying how much my videos have helped her & told me to check you out as she thought i’d love it. Well, I LOVE YOU, and everything that you talked about resonates with me so much. I went to an acting school & thought it’s the life I wanted , but - shocker - it was not! I’m so committed to building my life as a conscious creator and I want to be a content creator like you. You inspire me SO MUCH, and it’s the only video I’ve seen of you. You’re amazing. THANK YOU.❤️❤️❤️

[@rishikatiwari478]

Must say :- your words which are really very meaningful brings shivers though out my spine cause thats the reality is......life has no rules.....but we are in the boundage of it......!!!!

[@emmad.8815]

This was so nice!! I definitely approve of the vlog-in-your-car format :)) and very helpful as well, exactly what i needed!

[@lavendaire]

^_^ glad you liked this chill chat

[@ShadeofLife30]

I have not related with anyone this much on youtube ever. Like ever. If though we are not from the same land still feels as if I understand totally what you're saying. Thanks so much for existing.

[@yvsufexe]

Wow. A youtube video hasn't felt this personal to me before. I really love the way you articulated yourself and it really motivated me. Thank you, I needed this. :)

[@Andrew_the_christ_lover]

The main thing is that just don't stop ,keep searching

[@elaura]

When I thought no one could understand my struggles when i decided I want to drop everything and pursue my dream and I found you. I cried watching this video AiLeen . I really felt like this video was a recorded message from you to me. i had amnesia for the past weeks because i was panicked that is already June and was afraid because I havent been seeing progression and failing over and over again. i know I should be prepared to faced all of these obstacles and challenges but sometimes i just want to hear some kind words and motivation to get back on track. I want to thank you deeply Ai Leen at least i know I can refer to this video when I need to.

[@lailah8691]

I’ve had a lot of talks with mentors also and they never gave me the answer I wanted. I just wanted them to tell me what I should be doing with my life bc I was lost with what I should do. I think it all comes with experience. Don’t be scared to put yourself out there try out new jobs etc.

[@sharonsharing3313]

I finally figure out “be a vblog”is my true passion for my fabulous 50+ life. Thank you for all your inspiration!

[@aramideugbomeh]

Ok, this is so relatable. I become bored with my 9-5 job so I went to learn how to bake cake. But I could not make anything out of it. I tried some other things too... I thought something was wrong with me. But I guess it's because I've not discovered what brings me joy and gives me pleasure. But few months ago I started journalling and I'm beginning to have clarity, a lot have changed for me so far. Though I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting there.

[@nadeenrajab4490]

My main struggle is to work and make money but also love what I do😧

[@ellie_sarabellum]

It sounds like such a simple desire but it's so difficult to attain. I feel you. I'm in the same boat right now in college. Hope you find what you're looking for ☺

[@nameavailable987]

Nadeen Rajab you and the rest of the world ):

[@redmosiane1071]

I'm glad the algorithm brought this to me. at that same crossroads now. entertainment is not just what you love, the "business" side of it is a lot to take on as a young person.

[@nadlycelestin2066]

Relate 💯. From rules/step in school to no rules in life: the transition is hard.

[@suesheification]

Yep. 39 and still haven't figured it out

[@a_jkpq]

Tysm for recording this vid for us... like yeah it was helpful for me. Cause now i rlly dk what to do w my life and im rlly tired to think of it. Also i liked ur accent (cuz idk english very well, now im learning it and i almost understand each word that u said) ur makeup! Ur so pretttyy!! And i think that i will like these chill, relax vids more, cause it was so comfortable just to listen!

[@andier-m9j]

When you said that you were 23 when you wanted to do this and no one supported you, I felt that so much. Even in your twenties, people will still see you as a child, especially when you declare that you're going to chase "some silly dream." I can't thank you and emphasize enough how you followed that up by saying that you believed in yourself and what you wanted to do. I just told my husband recently, "Whatever I want to do, I need to just do it. I can't expect anyone else to believe in me if I don't believe in myself." And a light bulb came on. We are the only thing keeping ourselves from doing what we want to do. It's not easy, but getting started and keeping your eye on the prize when no one else believes in you is the number one thing in pursuing a passion. Sorry, I had a moment. In short, thank you so much for not giving up on YOUR dreams because now they provide the nutrients to essential for all of US (your subscribers) to grow. Thank you.

[@lavendaire]

"We are the only thing keeping ourselves from doing what we want to do." YES. What a breakthrough!

[@junruzheng5528]

Today I had an extremely stressful day. Everyone came to me and all the pressures just flooded over me. Then I watch this video. When I saw the last sentence in the video: I am worthy. I am enough. My tears just flood over my eyes... So happy and so moved that you let me know that I am worthy and enough. Thank you!

[@LyricWalker_]

yeah I need to figure out what I need to do with my life!😂❤️

[@HangNguyen-ex4fx]

hello

[@HangNguyen-ex4fx]

ohhh.

[@miscmiscellaneous30]

Rightly said, very few of the acquaintance believe in the journey until it becomes the ultimate destination.

[@ThinkCitric]

Thank you for sharing this! 🧡 I think I feel the same when you've just started Lavendaire. Next month it's going to be a year since I left my day job and started to pursue my dream. Same as you, I didn't have any income for a whole year, and a very little proof that I'm doing the right thing for me. So far the only thing that proves that I'm on the right path - is my own feeling of joy when I push my own boundaries and create a new character or a new level. I'm just not ready to give up without a fight, without knowing that I've done everything I could. Thanks for giving me hope!

[@fizzy_momo873]

I think you’re spot on with the structured school life and understanding how to operate that to all of a sudden your now in charge of your own “life syllabus” with zero experience. It has definitely caused me some distress, depression and anxiety.

[@monique.110]

You are so right!!! It is scary to not give up when you’re still finding your calling... but we must continue on- thank you! Love all your content!

[@aiyma1706]

Namjoon and You are the people who inspire me the most lately💕

[@issy0613]

aiyma lmaoooo so we're twins!!! 😂🤣

[@gguksbananamilk871]

Same :')

[@irenerene6476]

A whole mood

[@lavendaire]

lol omg thank u

[@רויטלבא]

Namjoon - בהחלט איש מדהים

[@cheska3002]

Man, the way you explained what you wanted in your dream life and all that trial and error... I resonate with that a lot right now and I'm so glad you posted this Aileen! I thought I wanted to go into medical school first, but then when I got into a medical science program I realized I didn't love it. Then I wanted to give music a shot and thought I wanted to make music for film, but now I'm not sure. And that's okay! The freedom that comes with the KZbin life sounds amazing though- and that's the next thing to try! Thank you so much Aileen for everything you do!

[@flora...c...]

Thank you for sharing all these positivities with us!! To everyone reading this: *Hope you have a nice, positive day!* 🌈☀️

[@inkart74]

Aww you too❤

[@raymondphilip6232]

It really hit me when you said: "you know how to do it but you don't have the mental strength/ the commitment" Congratz on ur 1M subs btw.

[@payaltalekar1866]

Your story is really inspiring. Got so much practical insights from it. I love to know about journey of successful and inspiring people. Loved it..

[@Possibleivlogs]

I couldn’t agree more with trying to find what you really want to do, and experiencing all these jobs until you find what you really want to do. I feel like I’m on the exact same path as an artist and this was so uplifting. I think it’s important to learn how to enjoy the process and actively do what you set yourself out to do!

[@pamfrt6366]

Thank you for doing this! “Don’t settle for less”

[@NikkiShueMusic]

“A part of me knew I didn’t want to grow old doing this...it wasn’t aligned with my dream life”...you said what I felt about singing professionally. I quit singing a few months ago for the same reason

[@rebeccam3704]

Aileen I love how honest and open you are about yourself and life. Your grit and determination is so inspiring and you've achieved so much at such a young age. Lavendaire has been one of the most helpful and life changing places to go to in the past few years for me. Thank you for not giving up on your dream and encouraging all of us to follow ours X

[@luminescnt]

I am 29 y.o, just got back from a 3 month-long dream trip that I worked so hard to be able to afford, and now I'm back home, without a job, trying to figure out my next step. All I know is that my dream life looks so much like what yours looked like: being able to have control over my time, doing it from wherever I want, and to have a meaningful impact on the world; except that I literally have no idea what I want to do and it's frustrating. I guess I just have to try SOMETHING but I can't figure out what. Anyway, I just needed to get it off my chest. Thank you for this video, at least it's good to know that not being sure of what to do happens to everyone and that people end up finding what they're meant to do. I hope this happens to me too.

[@mindoverpose]

Take action and the universe will shift and take you through ways on your exploration :)

[@ashleysalvatore884]

Thank you for following your dreams! - maybe you should make a second channel showcasing how people can get started on KZbin and tips\courses we can do to get started and become better - all from your perspective of course 😘

[@kawaiifunko1918]

OMG this is such a powerful video for me. Right now I'm in a transition as a creative, I'm an introvert too. I was working in a corporate office, just recently in a super-dry, mundane desk job, I started showcasing my artistic, photography, and graphic design skills until the company created a new role me - but I knew it was still stunting my growth. It still wasn't enough. I just quit for a higher paying job 2 days ago that gives me more freedom, more acceptance to be creative and innovative - and pays higher!!!! Right now I'm on a new journey in my life. AND CONINCIDENTALLY, I found this video and it makes me feel at ease knowing this is the right path for me. Even when everyone else says its a huge RISK.... The payoff will be amazing.

[@Middangelcj]

Every time I watch your video, I have stronger mind to face with the challenge and the environment. Love you so much~

[@theluschmasterinc]

you know what you are absolutely right (at 9:19), I am actually at that point right now where I know what I want to do, as much as people may think that it is a joke or I am just playing myself and my whole life, but I know that I have arrived at where I need to be and I have found the platform that I want to create for - to the point that it doesn't matter to me what other job I am doing in order to finance my journey .. two years ago, I left a job that didn't quite serve my vision anymore and I felt like I reached my destination there and all the knowledge and skills I needed to learn were at capacity - because they couldn't really take me further than that - and I appreciate the time and resources that they have invested in me - but I needed to move and for the past two years all I have been doing is 'trying to figure it all out' until I dove deeper into youtube and started learning more about the platform and what it takes to become successful on it .. I then proceeded to understand that my need in life is not to just get recognition and perhaps a large paycheck at the end of the day (on youtube) but my purpose is around inspiring others to bring out the greatness that is inside of them - and that is why I appreciate your channel .. because it is somewhat aligned with what I have envisioned as my future .. I am actually quite glad that I came across your channel a couple months ago and I have to admit that there are certain aspects that you have encouraged and inspired me to go for .. so thank you for your sacrifice and not giving up on experiences that have led you to where you are today .. may God continue to bless you!! all the best for the future ..! x theluschmaster

[@林允柔-j6y]

It's such a perfect timing to see this video since I feel lost and don't no what to do with my life recently. I'm having a pretty good job right now, but it just doesn't make me feel happy and it doesn't give me the life that I want. Thank you for giving me the courage to step out and try to find my own way ❤️ Though it might take some time, I'll still try and listen to my heart. Hope I'll find it soon✨ Thank you again for what you have done, Aileen! ❤️

[@768genyen]

A shoutout to your video and the right pop ups time to show. This is like acknowledgment for me that trial, error and afraid of failure should be the ways to identify align path towards dream life. Thanks.

[@TheGanation]

Thanks so much for sharing your story! It was very inspiring but you did not mention how you supported yourself through all these creative pursuits.

[@TheBluSerpent]

I wish we could sit down and talk some time. Everything you said in this video is what I am also going through for years. I keep switching jobs and everybody keeps telling me "you cannot always do things you like in life", but I disagree. I refuse to work from 9 till 5 and 40hrs in the week, 5 days a week doing something you don't like. I'm not a demanding person, I just want to do something that I really like which I haven't found yet and nobody seems to understand that. Everybody thinks I'm complicated and too demanding and to be honest, I am still unsure what path is right for me. That's what brought me here. But it feels good to hear you saying the things that I also believe in. In a world where everyone is against you, hearing someone saying the things you also believes in is just gives me a happy feeling. You really want to help people. Well, keep it up. You're doing a great job! This is the first vid I saw of you and I'll subscribe right away to check your other vids too!

[@dawnforlife]

Oh my goodness Aileen, it's so true. Even when we fail and feel like we are starting from zero, it's not really zero. I just shared on my insta today. Thank you for this, life took many turns and I'm still trying to figure it out but with every failure, I feel one step closer. I might take longer than others being 34..but maybe I'm a late bloomer. hahaha! :p

[@ikejaeilan]

This video is pure gold, simply put. Much gratitude. Peace and love!

[@sundaybest6143]

I didn't know how important self love was until I watched your video about the "victim" theory. You really helped me a lot! Hope I can find the 100% alignment.

[@zeynepdanis9371]

I am experiencing the same thing which you said that just helping other people to get money in the office and it wasn't meaningful to you. Thank you so much for this meaningful video, you're so sweet ☺️

[@danielaconti5123]

I don't know how to look for my passion, what to try or how to know when something feels right, do you get me ?

[@KaceyCho]

I have the exact same thinking as you! Or almost 90% similar! I knew office job wasn't the ultimate path that i wanna go. And being able to create my own time is a very important criteria for myself. love u!

[@keleshalove8477]

I literally watch your videos every morning

[@jenna2117]

Hi, Aileen. First off thanks for this car vlog.! I was so impressed by your candid and sincere talks. I really want to work on what I love and what I want. Some people say things going to be bored and hard if it became your job but I’ve never had a job what I want. I just flowed my major and I thought I have to do at that time. But sadly, it didn’t fit me but I’ve worked over 6 years on that job. I hoped I could get used to it but it was getting harder and harder. Eventually, I quit the job because of some occupational sickness. I didn’t any work for almost 2 years. Getting treatment and going see a doctor.. these are only what I did for that period. I wasn’t completely recovered but I wanted to do something. Because I was worried about getting old, my career, my future. So I choose a new job that similar to my past job. Furthermore, I cost quite a lot of money to learn a new technic and prepare my new business. But there’s no joy, nothing’s changed, even it was worse than the old job. Everyday, I was like ‘I want to go back to the moment before I made this decision.’ But I realized that one clear thing is there’s no way to go back to the past and to change the things it already happened. So I made up my mind to be positive and I started searching a video which be able to help me, help me to try again. And then I met you. I met Lavendaire. This is such a lay of sunshine to me everyday. I’m so grateful for all of your videos and especially this car vlog is what I‘ve really wanted to hear. I’m still afraid to fail again but thanks to you now I know that I don’t want to settle here so I should keep searching for my dream. I’m willing to give it a shot. Actually, today, I’ve already organized something.! Aileen, thank you so much again and I just wanted to tell you the Lavendaire’s amazing effects that I’ve experienced. p.S) I’m Korean. I’m learning English but I still have a lot of things to learn. Nevertheless, I watch your video’s and translate by myself because I really want to know what you say. And now I‘m writing a quite long message to you. I know I made a lot of mistakes but I hope you hear me well.! From. Jenna:)