how I realized that I may be the reason why I'm single at 30...

Welcome to the safe space. Being vulnerable has helped me to rediscover myself. One of my biggest struggles has been my dating life especially while living in Los Angeles...I think I may be the reason though.
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[@offendedcitizen4075]

Girl, keep living. You have a lot to learn! #1 people get married for a variety of reasons most bc it sounds good😊 Every woman has the "30 yr old "married, children,career, nice house, $$ decent living - purpose filled life I had.those dreams too keep having them. Don't listen to friends that say "girl go w flow, get yours. I did that to and wasted my time getting hurt, not sticking to my standard my expectations being involved w a man and what I wanted. Always know there are friends, including family, who will talk you out of your dreams and building something good w someone trust, and believe 👍 Ask those important questions the 1st 2nd conversations a person will be most candid bc they want to make a good impression it dont have to be 21 questions, or put on trial -- but do have your key expectations what your looking for when asked what are you looking for in a man? Not saying being direct enough like I wanted my friends said i ran them away?? not doing so, guys disappeared weeks a couple months to learn I was a distraction "in the meantime " while the one he wanted got their shit together. I'm saying this to say yes, including myself, I am the reason I'm single today bc I'm not going to stay or be w a man that treats me like sh#t says disparaging remarks about me my family or anyone or anything I cherish and allow to crush and rip my soul out me? This is what most everyday women are dealing w who are in relationships or married who didn't ask the important questions that make us feel safe, giving our time to a man. Remember this, a lot of men were raised by a single mom, and this doesn't .mean their less of a man, but whatever you're looking for - a wise and mature woman can identify these areas we have to nurture and cultivate w the right man. It sucks being single 😕 I need a ride to work when I put the car I the shop,carry groceries in, etc. Pick up a hobbie work on life goals🎉 Affirm yourself and choose friends and relationships that reflect the direction of your life that includes asking the right questions to a man.

[@missjadabeta]

🥺 this comment. Wow. Just wow. Thank you for that perspective. I really do have a lot to learn..it’s hard but you made some great valid points that I definitely can take heed to.

[@Michelle-zl1fp]

Hey! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. My thought is NOOO don’t go with the flow- going with the flow a lot of the time gets one into situationships or you are in a non-committed relationship for a long time. If you want a relationship and that’s your goal, you have every right to express this to a man when you meet him and he starts showing interest in you. If the man says no or decides it’s too much and he instead wants to be casual or he just wants to see where things go or take his time, then he is not the man that will give you a committed relationship anytime soon and can potentially be a time waster - I’d say thank you for letting me know and keep it moving so you don’t waste your time and you continue looking for the man that will be your future, future husband, father of any potential children etc.

[@missjadabeta]

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[@sandracrump]

This video is so beautiful and so many can relate! Dating is a struggle for sure we are all learning and growing

[@missjadabeta]

It really is but I truly believe my time will come and the right one will find me. 🤞🏾

[@ewonation1]

Nothing wrong with wanting him to explain his intentions and how he plans to handle that situation. He might not have the perfect answer but he should be able to communicate his intentions. As a man I can tell you he’s thought about it already. Just make sure you are not being selfish with your request and you being considerate of him too. With you texting him that may have been a lil much to try to cut it off. If you were at a place where you needed answers just ask the questions but don’t be drastic like that lol. Be sure you say what you mean because you don’t want to come off like you playin games or seekin premature reassurances. Being secure about what you want and expect only gonna scare off the one that can’t fit the bill. Thanks for sharing!💙

[@Munditochulo]

Seem down to earth sane and most importantly seeking actual love ! As a cancer I wish u the best just remember love isn’t a race when true love comes its from above

[@TheBlissCatalyst]

30 is not old at all you still got plenty of time!😊

[@KompletterGeist]

terrible advice

[@jasontriple_b]

No she doesn’t time is ticking she has to find someone asap

[@neptunes297]

​@@jasontriple_b 😂😂😂

[@Jankyito]

I think for your example, tou feelings were completely justified. As a man, I would feel some type of way as well if i was litterally planning to fly out to go see a woman and she tells me that she is currently sexualy intimate with someone else. I think where the fault comes in is not letting that guy have a chance to prove himself to you. Not asking him like hey, im flying out to see you, this is a big investment, I wanna be exclusive with you before i make this investment. Anyways, you shouldn't feel to bad about this circumstance unless there is something youre not saying in the video. That relationship wouldve been a huge investment with a long diatance partner you barely know enough about whos also sexually active and at least talking with other women at the same time. The level of risk in this situation was pretty high, he mightve been a good guy but the situation you two were in wouldve made things extremely difficult. At the end of the day i always give the same advice about relationships. Whether its friendships or something more, relationships with other people requires dedication and time. You cant expect to make close friends if you arent talking and actively participating in your friends lives. You cant expect a relationship when you arent actively spending time building a bond with someone else. Bonds take time to build and sometimes we want things way to fast without the sacrifises needed to get to that point.

[@missjadabeta]

You made such a valid point. 🙏🏾

[@donnayabutler1716]

Hey love, so thank you for sharing your story with us I honesty believe there is nothing wrong with the way you go about your dating life. You have every reason to want to ask a potential partner about their clear intentions with you. Honey there is no perfect cookie cut mold we all can fit into. We all are built uniquely and you are special the way you are. How you think, communicate, love yourself enough to share yourself with others who are WORTHY of your time and love, and I got all that from watching a 9 minute video of you simply opening yourself up enough to share your journey with us. You are too special, TOO Divine to be with someone who can’t even match the energy and passion you bring into your connections. You deserve to be loved and valued the same or better yet even better than what you already give out. Never settle for what you truly want, because it exists and is looking for you too🎉

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

I'm actually happy you asked him what he had going on outside of you. I wish i did that in my past. I only did that once and was shamed for it. No, you're not wrong since you needed to know where you stood and you were honest about your feelings and that if you've moved forward with him, you were going to date him with intentions. Intentions with progressing and building something more meaningful with him. If he's screwing other ppl, who's to say he wouldn't keep them around if you were fully in the picture as a "just in case". He's already been connecting with someone else and they're more than likely close to each other. This happened to me some years back and guess what... The guy went towards the other woman he was sexually entertaining and knew longer. Losing me wasn't a loss for him since he didn't view me as a gain in the first place. I'll say live your life, learn from this, don't stop asking questions, and allow men to invest in you by showing up for you. Damn just making plans. Show up

[@XxCOOKEExxMONSTARxX]

Fear is a killer. Listen to those closest to you, I agree with them as well. Plus you’re not ready for Ld because you worried about who and when someone has to move-in and out already when that’s supposed to be an exciting thing to think about when 1. You let it blossom into a relationship with them first 2. It’s been a healthy relationship

[@mysterio1570]

Is being single really that bad. Its not a curse. Its the real life, because you can always go back to that state. Having constant Romantic partners all the time. Most people don’t have romantic dynamics to the point where they have constant suitors in their lives all the time.

[@missjadabeta]

Honestly being single has been peaceful and I love that for me. I truly enjoy my own company. Of course I long for companionship but yeah I think societal pressure is what I’m feeling. Maybe bcus my family is constantly asking me when I’m going to get married lol u know that type of thing.

[@eileenlass7748]

I think you were very wise to ask for clarity before making that investment of time, money, and trust. If he's sexually active with one woman and "conversing" with others, I'm glad you didn't go to him to "be intimate" with him!

[@missjadabeta]

Yes, I agree!

[@av.benils.ozyurukll.m524]

Read trough the comments and everything I felt compelled to say was already said! 😂 The only ‘novelty’ I can maybe add is : If you are truly obeying God’s word with regard to the whole ‘witchcraft’ thing, he also is pretty clear on adultery… I myself realized that part once I already had engaged for a prolonged time in what the Lord defines as ‘sexual immorality’ even though I didn’t feel ‘immoral’ in any way shape or from… Outside God’s boundaries we are in the wilderness and it’s mostly the women who pays the price for it. So I’m not inviting you to hypocrisy or changing your ways, that’s a personal choice. I solely feel compelled to kindly remind that intimacy which is blessed from above has conditions. So if God puts conditions you having standards is not just normal but further required!!! I pray that the godly man you deserve might enter your life to stay for eternity in the right season 🤲🏻❤️💋

[@fisher326]

When you not a virgin til marriage, this is what you become.

[@flokaineyunggoldmouth1087]

Your beautiful

[@Gabriellecrio]

Sis if you’re delivered from witchcraft, stop seeing yourself “as the cancer ♋️ that you are”. You need to give that mindset to God. Devil leaves in stages sometimes. Get rid of all of it. Also any man sleeping with someone and dealing with you should stop repent and be with YOU ONLY. This is not God plus Lust. You didn’t miss anything. I feel that it was your search for love that Satan manipulated the first time cos all your spells were to manifest LOVE. It’s okay to want love and you should pray and confess the word of Word in the name of Jesus Christ. Don’t date a worldly man. Worldly men feel PRESSURED for doing the right thing a good man comes to ASSURE YOU. Be for God fully and be wise in Him

[@mikep.473]

No it’s not you It’s understandable to be in the place where you are mentally but I think you should maybe try having the intention conversation sooner so you know how to move with someone

[@erdooinspiringwomen]

Thank you for being open! You will marry soon and right. New subscriber here❤

[@missjadabeta]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[@PaijeFraser]

Your were using wisdom, not self Sabatoge. No their advice isn't sound, that will get you hurt 100 percent of the time. Seek God he will teach you how to use discernment and guard your heart ❤. Your expectations are called self respect.

[@Munditochulo]

Well high expectations will lead to no where ppl are not perfect and not every single man is making 600k im not saying settle for an idiot but stop following what these women glamorize on the net

[@iknowmorethanyou5695]

Your prime is fading quick. Relationships have sacrifice. I think people forget the sacrifice part and expect everything to be 100% compatible perfection.

[@missjadabeta]

I agree that there must be compromise in relationship, yes. I just tend to not want to waste time if I feel we aren't on the same page. But I get what you are saying.