How I Turned My Self-Sabotage to Self-Love

Today, we will be sharing a real-life story of overcoming self-sabotage and embracing self-love.
That feeling of not being good enough, of holding yourself back from your own potential-it's all too familiar. We've all been there.
I found a way out, and I want to take you along for the ride. We'll talk about what self-sabotage really means, share some anecdotes, and dive deep into how I turned that negative energy into self-love.
#selflove #howtoloveyourself
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Bonne Ennui
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong

[@Psych2go]

Please tell us what you think about the video. Did it help you? Please give us feedback on what you like and don't like so we can improve. If you have good and useful comments, we will send you the t-shirts we passionately made as a thank you to 3 fans. edited: 1st pick: SiennaP

[@arjaymartin0701]

I like your t-shirt

[@Psych2go]

Which ones? 😊

[@arjaymartin0701]

Sleeve t-shirt

[@rechellethackray]

Was this due to childhood trauma?

[@majohladky3249]

This is another great video. I don't watch All of your content but the fact that you are creating a space for people where we Can healthy delve into our own psyche is making me smile. 😊 Thanks

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

I've learned recently that hating myself will not make anything better for me, so I decided to be less harsh to myself and look at myself more positively than before.

[@Psych2go]

That’s a wonderful BIG shift. What changes do you noticed lately since the new mindset?

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

@@Psych2go I'm noticing that I see the world differently, as well as life itself.

[@elsie047]

The moment I realized that I'm my biggest enemy I couldn't believe it but I'm really working on self-love. 🦋

[@anderstermansen130]

I see no reason i should love myself. Im 28 years old, i have autism, im the middle child of 3 (read: the ignored one), i have extremely limited experience with women, in any real capacity, and im tired of being lonely. What exactly of the mentioned above, should "self love" help?

[@nerd26373]

I self-sabotage on the daily. My insecurities are sky high and I have no shame in admitting it. People go through similar things in different circumstances.

[@NarcSurvivor]

It all depends on your belief in yourself. Believe in yourself. Accept your flaws and imperfections. And then you will learn to love yourself.

[@Renikee]

It is hard to accept flaws and imperfections when there are a lot and they ruin your life daily

[@I_h3art_Anne]

​@@Renikee real...

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Act I tangled in my own web of self-sabotage 0:35 2). Act II exploring the hidden roots 1:26 3). Act III the journey towards healing and self-love 3:08 4). My final thoughts 4:16 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@isabellasaystrueloveisself3411]

I relate to this so much. I was emotionally and mentally abused by many classmates 1st-8th grade and I’ve carried my trauma with me for the last few years. I’m finishing my junior year in high school and I just had a conversation with my amazing bf last night. We came up with a few coping mechanisms for the both of us and told each other that we should start learning how to love ourselves so we can both be better people for each other. I love him so much he’s helped me through a lot.

[@pancakes_go2940]

He's gonna leave you and your relationship will die

[@isabellasaystrueloveisself3411]

@@pancakes_go2940 awww it’s okay insecurity can take a toll on you I get it. I’d try and find a better coping mechanism though.

[@pancakes_go2940]

@@isabellasaystrueloveisself3411 Im sorry man I was feeling really shit when I wrote this I hope you and your boyfriend are doing well peace and love

[@isabellasaystrueloveisself3411]

@@pancakes_go2940 it’s okay sometimes I snap at my family when I feel like that. We are thank you. I hope you find what he and I have one day.

[@diremakweng6128]

​@@isabellasaystrueloveisself3411 This is the most wholesome conversation I've ever seen on the internet ❤

[@taotaoliu2229]

Over the past winter, I was feeling quite lonely and disconnected from my close friends. But last Friday, I went to Olive Garden with two of my close friends, and we had so much fun! It was a reminder that there is still hope. 💕

[@anderstermansen130]

What is an olive garden?

[@taotaoliu2229]

@@anderstermansen130It’s an Italian chain restaurant in the United States. If you’re not from that country then it’s understandable why you haven’t heard of it.

[@redheadbelle]

💗

[@Psych2go]

Having connections and spending time with good friends and love ones are ways to feel complete again. I’m glad that you had a good time with your friends. :)

[@MistyDrop26]

I never self sabotage myself because i know i am imperfect, and it's okay to have flaws. What matters more is how we manage our flaws by trying to fix them instead of letting it get into the way

[@anderstermansen130]

Its completely okay to have flaws, as long as you intend to rot up in loneliness! Because in the realm of dating, any human that are less than absolutely perfect, isnt wanted, or welcome.

[@posibeelity]

😭😭 I relate to this so much. I used to be a good student for many years, but then I reached a point where I constantly procrastinated and self-sabotaged to the extent that I failed to get into my dream school and lost many opportunities in life. I started living an unhealthy lifestyle and pushed people away when they tried to help me. I realized that I based my self-worth on my achievements and the validation of others. Every time the little voice inside my head said negative things, I would run instead of facing that dark part of myself. I recently started shadow work, but I know it's a long journey ahead. Thank you for sharing this, Nia and Psych2Go. I hope we all heal and achieve our goals in the future. Best of luck to everyone! ❤✨

[@Psych2go]

You definitely can and will! You are already half way there by doing the work.

[@rechellethackray]

Resonated very deeply. So proud of you for making the transformation. I'm 43yrs old and still at the beginning of my journey. CPTSD is crippling.

[@redheadbelle]

This is tough! I wish all the best to you! Healing can be very painful. You can be proud that you decided to do the step. I haven’t experience with it but can empathise. ❤

[@siennaprice1351]

I used to think I wasn’t good enough. That I was worthless and unlovable, and that I wasn’t strong and couldn’t do it. I now know I am worth it. I am strong, and good enough, and that I can do anything I put my mind to. The thing I struggle with the most is limiting myself. Not allowing myself to cry. Not allowing myself to ever feel dysregulating. Not allowing myself to do certain things because of society’s norms. Even though the things I do truly benefit me and I’m not even hurting anyone. I often use words on myself like “no. Stop. Don’t. It’s not ok to. You’re not allowed to. Always do this. Never do that.” I have found some great coping skills throughout my journey of healing, and really work hard to utilize those coping skills. I have so much hope and faith, and giving up isn’t in my dictionary anymore. I will learn to listen to my body. I will learn to let go of self restriction. I will learn to drop the mask and just be my authentic self!

[@Psych2go]

This is a really empowering story. Thank you for sharing!

[@Psych2go]

Wow, it sounds like you've been on a truly incredible journey. Recognizing you weren't allowing yourself to feel your emotions is a huge step. It's so important to acknowledge and process everything we experience. And the fact that you're actively working on these coping skills and self-compassion is amazing! Keep reminding yourself that you are worthy of love and happiness, and that includes the full range of emotions. You've got this! We're also giving away free t-shirt merch to those leave a thoughtful comment on our videos. Please reach out to us via email

[@siennaprice1351]

@@Psych2go thank you! I’m very proud of myself for all the progress that I’ve made in my healing! I will learn to love myself unconditionally. I’ve learned a lot from people that I truly admire. And I will continue to utilize the things that they have taught me. But I will also teach myself new things as well.

[@Psych2go]

Wow, your journey is truly inspiring! Recognizing your emotions is a huge step. Keep working on those coping skills and self-compassion, it's amazing! Remember, you deserve love and happiness with all your feelings. Thanks for sharing your personal experience here. We're giving away free t-shirts to those who engage with our content and help spread awareness about important topics! We've chosen your comment! Please email us at [e-mail] (only this email and nowhere else) to pick out your design + preferred shipping address. Thank you!

[@redheadbelle]

I love the main character because he truly wanted to embrace the shadow work and although this is a painful journey as it begins, it is totally worth it, and he tells that he feels happier and more secure afterwards. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Nia! True friends who tell it as it is without sugar coating things yet be respectful are very rare. I appreciate his friend Mia. Together they could achieve that huge change. I had to cry 😭❤️

[@gennarosavastano9424]

At 45 still struggling with it. Raised by toxic parents who as well were members of a cult. I escaped it but that trauma cause self sabotage, sometimes even can notice that while I believe something consciously, subconsciously there's opposite voice. It's like trying to give a chance to myself

[@user-ui3ex5nm3f]

its true reaching out and being honest about my demons and accepting that trauma and mental health is real and very important for self growth and no longer ashamed to talk about it made me growth so much and more secure with myself,,been working on myself for almost a year now and every day i feel stronger, surrounded our self with people who respect, understand and courage you,,stranger or not we can achieve anything ❤ 💙 💖

[@SretroOfTheNortheast]

I forgot I was subbed to you but DAMN I needed this

[@Psych2go]

Glad that we delivered the video at the right time. 🎉

[@arjaymartin0701]

I don't want anyone be alone besides not me

[@jking4854]

Without available therapy, I had to I myself work to improve my mental health and overcome my issues. It's taken time, but progress has been made. If I could, everyone can do it.

[@TheNonameHousehold]

This is going on my personal playlist♡

[@jaxjaxattaxx]

This was a beautiful video, and I cried so hard when you said “Just like how I’m doing with you” when it came to sharing your experiences. Thank you, thank you, thank you, you beautiful soul. I’m Hard Of Hearing/Half Deaf w/Autism, and I tried following along the Auto-Generated captions but they’re not the best, so I’d love future videos to have Edited Captions so many, many more of us can fully receive your beautiful message ❤

[@Lolcoca]

SELF-LOVE is something that every person feels inside but it does not summarize on a very general video even misinformed in 5 minutes !

[@S-link999]

Not going to lie, i can still self sabotage sometimes. Especially after i experience something negative.

[@Psych2go]

Negative experiences can be triggers too. Learning to reconditioned ourselves is something we do daily. Do you currently journal or use some tools to help you?

[@S-link999]

@@Psych2go yes i do actually

[@OluchukwuOkechukwu]

This is so true 😢. I've felt this too , This really brought me down a lot and i necame very down in class sometimes i procrastinated and stopped listening in class but it was by chance that i met my friend who was a therapist and he really helped me tackle it head on rn im still working on it and I'm so happy for you Neo and by your story i have more will to continue 😊

[@Anu_diaries7]

So relatable ! Thank you so much !🤍

[@neonmenace1592]

Your voice is very soothing

[@mekman4]

Thank you!

[@mishkas7282]

This is so relatable. Just what I needed to listen to right now. I’m struggling with chronic procrastination 😔

[@joju5849]

Thanks for teaching me how to have self-respect, i never had that growing up

[@KatelynIngle]

Yep unrealistic expectations from fam can mess you up big. Still fighting panic disorder OCD PTSD shadow work is so important !

[@niasiamack9333]

Thank you

[@sipika2004]

Such a sweet video ❤️

[@godisgoodalways4357]

Your not alone I’m in the same exact situation

[@stevenatkinson2360]

I felt this this one hit hard.

[@liamdylan_yw8rv7]

Dear sir, i love your voice 🙂

[@ErbyZeferino]

Thank you Psych2go for all that you haved showed me, love the advieces you show to us all and love how much you car for our community and how you help us improve our mentat health, thanks for this video has helped me alot as always love it 😄😄😄

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for sharing this message! We hope to continue build this community in a way that encourages more people to safely share their thoughts/feelings.

[@dylanguizor7155]

I really like watching the videos you make, for me so many things have become complicated since december 2023 and very few things seem doable to me, I have never managed to be at peace with myself, when I watch videos of who explains how they became happy it seems so not feasible for me, but somehow the fact of going towards those who encourage you is a good solution, because of my handicap I do not realize a lot thing about myself and there is also the refusal to accept certain things, but in any case thanks to this video I have the idea of going towards those who help and encourage me

[@_ruchi_54]

I tried to love myself instead of hating but now everyone around me tells that I am becoming egoistic and I guess that's true I don't know what wrong I am doing 😅

[@orlandocontrerascastro9472]

Greetings from Venezuela, South America. 🇻🇪✌️

[@noobzito2]

Hope you're good now!😊

[@Psych2go]

Yes, the author of this story is on their way to recovering too as many of us are.

[@noobzito2]

@@Psych2go good to hear!

[@farmoar]

@Psych2go self sabotage comes in so many forms, including ones you can't even recognize as self sabotage. "Maybe I'm ACTUALLY too broken for love and happiness; that I don't deserve it." That is an incredibly difficult thing to hear in your head, on repeat, for decades. Friends, lovers, medical professionals, family have all tried to tell/convince me otherwise, but I never believe them. Its so much worse than they know...am I just destined to continue of this Sisyphus-esque journey? Odds are, I don't get the happy ending (or good ending if you play video games). Especially when you live your life in so much darkness, that even a tiny spark is blinding, before you extinguish it hope/excitement. But if I am going to have a shot, it will be through these helpful videos. So thank you. From the bottom of my Abyss

[@redheadbelle]

Changing negative belief systems is hard work. Step by step it is a journey. You are not alone! Psych2go educates so well and relatable. Iam very glad having it discovered.

[@XBret64]

Ive been doing shadowwork for the last 4 years, its definitely not easy

[@purplevoid9032]

This is way too accurate timing for me. This is exactly what I’m trying to learn

[@grimm5748]

I get the feeling

[@Violas_mystery]

Congrats on 12M!

[@Psych2go]

Thank you!

[@redheadbelle]

❤❤ congrats! 🥳

[@iamBOXO]

IM HERE WHAT A GASS TOOK A WHILE BUT IM PRESENT AT LAAAAST

[@Mephi_uwu]

Its like orbiting a black hole, your orbit slowly decaying as you draw ever closer to the event horizon. A powerful pull that i cant escape. I feel so useless that i dont even feel like a human being anymore. The most i can offer anyone is my body and my time because nothing else of mine is worth anything. Im alone and i dont want to be alive anymore

[@redheadbelle]

This is not true! You are worth everything and deserve to be happy. Psych2go delivers so many good videos that can really help. ❤

[@Nyall_dreamshake]

Back then I didn't even know it was called "self sabotaging"

[@Paper977]

I’m here

[@TeddyRen]

He said "all tho that's never happened to me, I know that feeling very well"... What?!

[@Rmm1722]

Right

[@RayXD2.0]

Luv you psych 2

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! Love to you too!

[@jackinprogress]

It seems the axes of the progress over time graph should be switched. Otherwise awesome and helpful video! Sorry you’ve been through this too

[@thewatcher6918]

Is it possible to learn this POWER ?

[@Lavendrea]

What if we dont know how to find a therapist that'll actually help with these things... I go to ones around here but they never go into stuff like this and only scratch the very top layer, never going into what it could actually mean and how to get it fixed... I feel so lost

[@umking1952]

Hey, please add subtitle too please

[@Eddy_DAVIS2010]

Yay but I was here under one hourYeah, but I was here under 1 hour.

[@InayaArtist]

Who else cried?

[@jagjag513]

❤I❤❤😊

[@simprebecca1222]

Timestamps👇👇 0:38 Act 1: Tangled in my own web of self sabotage 1:29 Act 2: Exploring the hidden roots 3:10 Act 3: The Journey towards healing and self love "Self-love isn't about perfection, it's about acceptance" -Psych2Go

[@liamdylan_yw8rv7]

Lifesaver. Thanks 💙

[@martsharpe709]

Justed ended my two week situationship and rear ended someone I m sad sad now

[@LaraLima-wh3cm]

SECOND YAY

[@nietwojinterePL]

Thanks for this but i need answer for my question can you answer?

[@MRchat9177]

Me

[@isabellabarfuss9562]

First!!

[@Carmentoofire01]

Samo

[@nickles6971]

Hi

[@nietwojinterePL]

And any advice?

[@wanting3325]

Idk

[@MindfulDoodles-nl9oy]

Lunch time crew where you at

[@LovelyBunny-uv7gx]

OMG! 😲 anyone here? Why only me? 😂

[@MilyMiliYT]

Haha 😂

[@vrsluts1]

8 DAYS AGO???

[@ErbyZeferino]

Wrong 🤣🤣🤣

[@jwarnock291]

I’m here too now.

[@MTSyntho]

💀

[@CookiemonsterAniyah]

HEY ME 2222

[@Michele-cx6qd]

I'm so pathetic.

[@user-zg5ey5xo9i]

Me too.

[@forgesoulfire1320]

Feeling rude for getting very irritated at the reigning hypocritical people throughout the world these days. That's not a self doubt thing is it? And certainly not conceit is it?

[@teegutta4689]

HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I CAN RELATE 💯 PERCENT TO THIS TOPIC, HAVE A BLESSED DAY, TEE 💯🙏✌️💙 STILL TRYING TO STAY STRONG, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS, O.G NEED LOVE TO 💨🫂✌️🤪

[@TheMetroGnome]

Yes! Yes! Yes! 🫂

[@lenesthete_904]

Thnk u.. Just when i needed to hear the most🥺🥺🫂

[@EJS391]

Thank you