How Instagram Became The Ultimate Matchmaker For Sugar Daddies And Instagram Baddies

[@Saddles_N_Sauvignon]

Unfortunately this is VERYYYY common… especially right now in this economy. I work in the luxury travel/hospitality industry and I’ve seen it first hand more times than I’d like. What’s even worse, is these girls look down on hard working staff, are high maintenance and very rude. They tell us outright they are “influencers” and demand extra attention or stuff for free. The sugar daddies are usually a bit rude as well since their ego is inflated for having a hot young girl on their arm. It’s a dark world behind closed doors masked by private jets, designer clothes, luxury handbags, exotic cars ect…. They never truly look happy either, they spend tons of time posing to get the perfect shot, then edit the hell out of it then go back to laying around. It’s a very fake happiness and the girls never seem THAT into the guy, more like they just tolerate it.

[@randomlyswatching9481]

Unfortunately these are the people the alpha beta guys speak about and then paint us all with that brush 😐

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

Those men aren't that into them either

[@purplelove3666]

​@@randomlyswatching9481but isn't that who they want to be with?

[@esikazemese]

@@purplelove3666 That's what they think, but psychologically these things come from really deep insecurities and self worth issues. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel bad for them at all. I don't have time to feel sorry for people who treat others like shit.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for this perspective!

[@pearlhappyhour]

I have a family member who does this kind of work. She's never had a job ever but she's always in dubai and Bali. She always comes back with designer goods and money and always not feeling well. She always has some type of infection and illness that keeps her indoors and two months later she's going back to dubai. It's sad because she's beautiful but miserable.

[@lenau.39]

This is the part I always wonder about..the health issues..I can only imagine how much of what theyve earned has to spent on various therapies

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

That’s so heartbreaking 💔

[@janqtjaybee3209]

Omg... another victim to "the game". Only this case doesn't involve others with guns or extreme violence. You pull your own trigger.

[@Definitelynotabot4]

That's so sad tbh I hope she breaks free before this causes irreversible damage mentally and physically to her

[@R_S747]

That's heartbreaking

[@shiina29]

I truly believe unwanted sex is traumatizing, and getting paid doesn't change that. But by the time you realize it, it's too late and the damage is done.

[@justynawisniewska1213]

Same, that's why I don't subscribe to the rhetoric that sex work is work like any other and that it can be liberating in any way

[@emma1540]

I agree, sometimes even just an experience being young saying yes (like a pushy boyfriend type) without truly wanting it is damaging years and years later. I feel like the money on top would make the feeling that much more traumatizing.

[@KaiAstraStylist]

Check out r/sexworkers. Most sex workers are extremely selective about who they see, and they do have regular customers they are happy to see. Of course trauma can come with it, but that can happen anywhere. There are also survival sex workers who are a bit less selective but until everyone is paid a good living wage and given free medical care then people are 100% allowed to do any type of work they feel they need to do to survive. I have met many women who have used sex work as a launch pad to escape abusive partners or family, get an education and start amazing professional careers outside of sex work. For many people it is empowering. Your feelings and opinions won’t ever change that. Almost all adults have trauma. Its not for you me or anyone to judge if someone for choosing the trauma of sex work over the trauma of being homeless or in danger.

[@Mimimadonna]

You wouldn't know until you've been through the experience

[@serenth8310]

​@@Mimimadonnayeah you wouldn't know eating shit is disgusting until you've tried it 😂😂😂😂

[@kellymaps8128]

The ladies and gents who do that often think that the money can repair their trauma endured… unfortunately it rarely does and cost thousands in therapy as well as broken relationships. Being pimped out isn’t worth it

[@xmochix604]

Even after the money spent in therapy, some will never heal. Trauma can be that deep.

[@hmjjj3422]

Wish I knew this years ago

[@kween4u268]

@@hmjjj3422same but we should just be lucky we’re alive, many people havent been as lucky

[@JoseTorres-ry9qe]

They still chose. Do NOT disassociate responsibility for consequences. REMEMBER: "my" body, "my" choice

[@sweetlady1616]

@@JoseTorres-ry9qeyou’re a man. you don’t get to speak on this issue.

[@xmochix604]

The sad thing about this is that they get stuck in this cycle. They go there for the money, get traumatized so badly, comes back home, buy a bunch of material goods to soothe them because they’re so broken now, goes broke again, and back to Dubai.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

So sad

[@thesequelvintage]

Honestly remove Dubai and it sounds the same as a normal work week/weekend cycle for most people lol

[@JoseTorres-ry9qe]

Sounds like a voluntary problem.

[@24wallachian]

The saddest thing is that when they one day stop selling their body, the flow of money will stop but the trauma will remain.

[@sweetlady1616]

@@JoseTorres-ry9qeyou should consider yourself lucky that you’ve never experienced the desperation that is required to subject oneself to this kind of trauma.

[@mindingpeople]

Cannes is known for it. Look for all the models on the red carpet which you've never heard of. All the billionaires and millionaires are always going to Cannes with their yachts and it is known as an event that is great for 'networking' if you want to be there to entertain. Also, most of the times the outfits are more risque than at other known filmfestivals.

[@blythegirl4348]

Yes, I saw a lot of influencers on the red carpet and they weren't there as actresses!

[@Victoria-jd1dx]

I have a Facebook friend who I believe is doing this. Works as a “model” for a yacht company, is at Cannes every single year and always traveling around the world the rest of the time, but never posts anything but pictures of herself (never travel companions).

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

😮

[@BexEtcArt]

The way you wrote that made me think of nature documentaries when all the animals or sea creatures come for their feast at a certain time of year… the shoal of fish never had a chance

[@breana301278]

Let me just say.. I started following you back when you were doing luxury content. Like you, I was influenced to spend way too much money. I love your channel even more now since you’ve made this pivot. Great Job! I love it when my creators grow with me.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou that really means so much to me ❤️

[@jameshatton4211]

I like to read the comments for some context? Often i wonder why I haven't come across someone's content before? This could be partially to do with it? And knowing now what you said, I would agree that she has made q wise choice also? I mean don't get me wrong, it's great watching Grand Designs prior to covid and inflation......and find such opulence amazing? But right now even considering such content could almost come across as being repulsive. If this is something she has foreseen herself; that's +1 for wisdom. As a 42 year old male who lives in possibly the most narcissistic place in Australia (the Gold Coast), that the behaviour is on full display and openly public for all to see and it's rather unattractive in opinion? What this does to men psychologically is that we now dismiss women that portray the characteristics described? Definitely not wife marital. Definitely not the type of behaviour I want being passed on to my potential children (If I even have kids seeming I'm 42 already?) It's so superficial and so unrelated in every possible way, but somehow all the women *ARE* actually influenced by everything? The behaviour is becoming embedded in society locally evident by just the sheer numbers of chicks getting botox and it looks disgusting! This is why I can't wait to leave this place I was born to go flee to the countryside where I might find a chick who is "not as contaminated by society"? Lol Alas utopia is just a fantasy

[@marcelacarvalho3015]

Oldest job in the world but now with the advance of technology

[@blythegirl4348]

And of course a lot of plastic surgery!

[@BlairinBelgrade]

Actually the oldest profession in the world is a woman being a midwife.

[@wavygravy30]

Oldest exploitation.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

True!

[@GengoSenmon]

@@blythegirl4348 Hate the plastic surgery trend. I assure you the vast majority of men agree. Luckily, the natural look is gradually being more sought after and encouraged by men. Women below 30 (and especially below 20) should never be getting their faces jam-packed with botox and fillers...

[@marinabudik3282]

as a psyhologist I can only say that it will take years to fix mental health issues automatically arise once women engage into specific activities. And this is not a guarantee that the "fix" will bring as it was before. In real lfe "the fix" only allows to function in society. Also this is a positive scenario. The negtive one which I see frequently is actually slow deterioration of a personality including high adiction to alcohol or substances. Ladies, dont trade yourself. Your mental health will be with you all your life. It is not worth any kind of money. Traumatic things cannot be erased from memory or paid to disappear.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

It’s so sad Thankyou for watching and sharing your thoughts!

[@Woo_Woo_Woman]

Promiscuity in general brings such issues.

[@frederickcampana5717]

@@marinabudik3282 some will not even get the fix to move on with their life. A video of a woman propositioning herself and agreeing to do things once flown out surfaced during her trip to Dubai. She jumped to her death while there once the video got out.

[@TavistockLiesBrainwashing]

As a psychologist you should know psychopaths don't experience trauma

[@mothernaturesapothecary]

@@TavistockLiesBrainwashingas a psychologist they should know how to spell psychologist😂😭😭

[@haleytruslow7200]

The more I learn about the top 1%, the more grateful I am to not be a part of it.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Same

[@ladyblue6351]

Fully agree

[@imanbooklife]

I see them as the low 1% the saddest form of life , and I don't think they can see clearly anymore

[@alisonmercer5946]

And people who arent there would love to be. Probably at least 50 percent

[@prettyxbonez96]

I have escorted and saved the money while working a normal job. I also visited my therapist regularly.... I don't feel bad about it one bit. I also hated the luxury lifestyle to many snobs and exploitation, and abuse. Never uploaded anything it's no ones business. Everything is done discreetly and secret. Ijs been through hell working normal jobs as well

[@Gna_d54]

This has been very obvious for over 10 years but no one talks about it. When the topics started coming up that conversation got drowned by Only Fans commentary but tons of influencers (especially young women with obvious plastic surgery, who travel to expensive places, and they don't obviously have a high paying job) who don't openly advertise themselves as sex workers through something like OF are just the most traditional form of sex worker either serving random wealthy men or as sugar babies.

[@nottheone582]

the thing with coming from true wealth (the kind they try to portray they have) they usually aren't quite so loud about it. I know some very wealthy children of bankers, investor class, shipping families, and none of the kids have public instagrams. they don't want to be known because that makes them a target for scams and kidnapping.

[@MuseSunflower]

They are definitely under cover sugar babies and escorts. I was wondering if you'd touch on the "dubai porta potty" ... I remember seeing so many videos of those girls stating their contracts and them agree to some very heinous things for money. It's crazy that type of world and those fetishes even exists Good rule of thumb for every woman to remember is there's no such thing as getting paid to exist just for being pretty. Status and money often brings out a weird power dynamic in rich men.. There are things they want in return and it can be a very slippery slope letting go of your morals and sanity in order to maintain the lifestyle they promise

[@annan.3283]

I always think of a porta pottie when I see a woman vacationing alone in Dubai.

[@MuseSunflower]

@@annan.3283 same 😆

[@missd2657]

I fell into "dubai porta potty" rabbit hole once and oh my god. My innocence was lost 🤯🤮

[@missd2657]

@@annan.3283 I always think, I bet she has had to consume a lot of All Bran 😂

[@Ju5tBU]

@@annan.3283so do I. I have a friend (it’s not my friend I just know here) who goes there 2ce a year always alone on the pic. She loved luxury brands so that’s probaly what she’s doing there

[@Kaylor_Ryan]

They are called yacht girls and yes they did what you think they did and probably more disgusting things.

[@IAMQUINN444]

🎉 let people live 🎉

[@LollyGagger-tl9ub]

You are one of them

[@IAMQUINN444]

@@LollyGagger-tl9ub I sure freaking wish I was probably triple my hourly rate right there!!! You’re probably just jealous. The green glow can never hide for long..

[@IAMQUINN444]

@@Kaylor_Ryan and they probably fucking loved it, especially being paid. It was just a cherry on the top of the all of it for them ❤️ People who haven’t actually been in the industry, can’t even fathom what I’m about to say … most and I’m gonna say most like 95% of the older men who like to see sugar, babies or escorts or providers.. These men strictly get turned on by pleasing the woman. So yeah, you can be even more jealous. Those girls get paid to be pleasured adored worshiped and then they’re giving money cars bags trips. I’m sorry that sounds pretty freaking nice to me because none of my boyfriends have ever treated me like that in IRL. … life is about moments being in the present and experiencing and you can’t experience things if you’re too too busy judging whatever everybody else is doing OK I’m done with my rant on this girls video …. And one more thing if it wasn’t for Instagram, it would be somewhere else it would be the mall it would be the grocery store. It would be the park. It would be down the street because the before social media that’s where it was men will always try to look for younger women younger women will usually be persuaded by money and power… I don’t know why this is a topic .

[@purplelove3666]

​@@IAMQUINN444so you don't mind being a potty face?

[@denedennie1516]

Instagram has forever been the escort playground. Forever. I remember when the super curated pictures of women with expensive purses, in hot places like Monaco, with 100000 roses bouquets started trending - they were ALL escorts.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Little did I know 😯

[@evda4919]

Unfortunately Dubai is the main place people go to Uk influencers- potty pot girls which is really sad i actually saw a girl doing a course on how to get money but through having a pay pig What Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton did is Escorting paying for the time of beautiful woman on your arm, like that man said he’s been thinking about Paris it’s like he’s showing off a trophy. There are people that do escorting that don’t want to have Suga daddy relationship sometimes the person just wants a pretty girl to join him for dinner it’s definitely a pride thing however I still think its very tricky line as some won’t stick the agreement and will demand more or pressure the woman for a bit more money

[@kiterafrey]

Agents showing up when women are going on dates with men really bothers me. I WANT to believe that those agents are trying to protect women. HOWEVER, having had a job in media working with models and actresses, even small time new local faces, the stories I've heard and things I saw lead me to believe that some of those agents were acting more as p!mps, ensuring only what is paid for happens and their talent aren't overused.

[@pardonmaman]

Hey! As a Slavic woman I always thought that it was a common knowledge that instagram is used this way OFTEN. Me and my friends get messages from foreign men on a daily basis with different suggestions and we are really used to it. Also I have few friends who live in Dubai, and it is quite a hard work for them to prove that they don’t do escorts, just because they are pretty Slavic women, they get literally bombarded in dms. Sorry if I wrote something wrong, this is my second language as you might guess)

[@nevergiveup9937]

It is so disgusting that they assume you work in that industry because if your background...

[@Nuuur_9]

​@@nevergiveup9937 they assume that of any woman on Instagram that looks good without necessarily showing her body. They see beauty, they're in the dm about 'how generous they can be'...

[@nikkimunir]

Just wanted to say your English is fantastic! Wouldn’t have known it’s your second language. Sorry that people assume that your friends want to do that type of work. Stay safe out there!

[@rina-nv5yr]

Same here, and it’s not just Dubai and such, you can get a lot of this kind of “attention” in asian countries too, like Korea, China etc

[@Ju5tBU]

They probaly are tho. Many Slavic women are money and status ornienated as that’s why so many men write, because they know money talks. Especially when you’re american and the girl is from Eastern Europe. For me it wasn’t common knowledge lol

[@EconDude]

Not to be a broken record in these comment sections, but this is just another, albeit extreme and literal, example of social media telling women that all they have are their looks, and telling men that all they need is a lot of money. As long as you get a lavish lifestyle, you can literally buy and sell any level of relationships.

[@purplelove3666]

So people don't have a brain to use,they just listen to a screen?

[@KaiAstraStylist]

You should do a deep dive on yaughting. Ive seen a lot of videos on some of the biggest celebrities being involved/escorting. Even kendall jenner, hailey bieber and Ariana grande

[@JT-ki1fz]

Meghan Markle……

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for the recommendation!

[@alnsubuga]

@@CaitlinPawlowskiYachting has quite a history! Ages ago I read about Hollywood stars and wannabes in the 50’s and 60’s visiting Cannes and St. Tropez for similar reasons.

[@andreoschadlin]

Yes, just doing a search on "Yacht Girls" here on KZbin can provide some great deep dives into the "lifestyle".

[@GrungeGalactica]

I’ve seen some stories that kylie & kendal were invited onto some millionaires yatch to party when they were like 16yo?! I would be way too scared to go out on the open ocean with a strange man. Even tho they’re famous unsafe af.

[@nikkismith2858]

There was an articles doing the rounds about about how all these successful women attended yatch parties Years ago to start their careers and emily radawojki was one of them also the hadid sisters I was surprised as they came from money and reality tv as well- I think the jenners were there too which doesn’t surprise me with Kris as a mum but 16 is so young

[@khadyadjisall5708]

@@nikkismith2858greed has no limit. The Kardashian’s became an overnight success because of a particular tape. Now do you think they would mind being pimped out ?

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Omg ewwww

[@perthfanny3017]

​@@nikkismith2858 it's called yachting

[@Hannah_BananaStand]

@@CaitlinPawlowski my friend used to work on super yachts. She told me they would go from port to port (Mediterranean) dropping off and picking up fresh escorts and that when she had to clean the rooms there was always blood and 💩on the bedsheets. 😬

[@tyslawa17]

In Poland we even had a movie „dziewczyny z Dubaju” (which was available on Netflix) about polish girls who traveled to Dubai for obvious reasons. They wanted to make money and in many cases it ended badly. Stories were inspired by true events.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oh wow I might try to jump on my vpn and watch this

[@vivienkoles1880]

I think we had a book about this topic in Hungary

[@missphantomhive2796]

I think the movie is called “Girls to Buy” (English dub). Watched it on Prime

[@rao8559]

@@missphantomhive2796 funny how To buy rhymes with Dubai

[@elprzemo666]

This was bullshit movie. Not based on any real stories or characters. This crap was produced to turn attention away from proustition of young women.

[@missd2657]

I guess a Birkin and a Van Cleef necklace doesn't seem so classy when you had to take a sh*t on some bloke to get them.

[@qwertyyxoxo]

nope, even worse.

[@cambowsher0613]

More like they are shit on

[@frankievalentine6112]

Haha but c'mon, in all fairness there's far less shitting going on that most of these commenters think. It's not all about shitting, most of these dudes want sex.

[@theHappyTrucker]

These women seem to get caught up in this cold, materialistic world. They often become jaded and mean. I don't really understand what their end goal is. I could sympathize with someone in poverty doing this and selling a few Birkin bags to fund a down payment on an apartment building or something, but they just seem to gather more trinkets without building any independent wealth, all whilst become bitter and used. In a real world sense, their collection isn't any different than my old michael kors level bags. I'm glad I was able to grow out of that phase and enjoy more meaningful things without going down that path. It's the difference between a life in the light or a life in the dark. And how they get their living is done in the dark. Not great for feeling peace in one's soul. It's sad too because it is natural to want to be flashy in your 20s. I think biologically, it's very much a building phase for one's life. If they had just given themselves more time to mature, they would have maybe realized that it's not worth it.

[@annan.3283]

I would love to hear from a retired sugar baby. lol but I assume if they are charming enough to keep these rich men paying them they have to be able to fake it to get a husband.

[@nikkismith2858]

There were loads of articles that the jenners, hadid sisters and Emily ratajodski were yatching to establish their careers. I was surprised about the hadid sisters as they came from wealth but it’s about building careers - like the old Hollywood casting couches as the yatch owner/ party host have connections think like Harvey Weinstein

[@theHappyTrucker]

@annan.3283 they had one on bancroft TV that seemed pretty happy. Had a very long term sugar daddy. I think that's less damaging for a woman than straight up prostitution.

[@theHappyTrucker]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/el7Nn6J_hp2jeKMsi=IYXcRBA-8ioZYqFs. She seems like a sweet person with a good attitude, which is probably why she found such a good situation for herself.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thanks for sharing your opinion 🙏

[@DannMacDougall-wp2or]

Unfortunately increases the risk of becoming trafficking victim.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

💯

[@Ineverusemychannel]

Many of them already would be categorized as trafficking victims. There are many stories of people being flown out and their passport being “secured” until they’ve completed all activities required for compensation, or pictures and videos secretly taken as leverage for a sugar baby to return. There’s also a reason the rich people choose private jets and yachts - their guests have no way out until their work is done. These things happen less as you go up in social rank but for the average small influencer who tries it out, they’re actually pretty likely to experience this sort of abuse. It’s just shameful to talk about and they’d be blamed for what’s done to them.

[@solochica81]

@@IneverusemychannelLord 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@anniewlo]

Patriarchy and misogyny are HORRIFIC. #MeToo. Why can we as women not revolt and march to fight back NOW!?!?!

[@heerocolin]

@@anniewlo They have literally self selected themselves (not other actual trafficed victims mind you) into it. It's misogynistic to say women have zero agency or self control.

[@hj3130]

The way the job market is looking and cost of university (a joke and the lack of job opportunities) and living costs, I see why. Being morally sound is great, I seek that but normal life is HARD! Those who have the ability to turn a blind eye, I wouldn't judge them honestly. Both decisions have repercussions.

[@DuchessOfWales]

Most intelligent comment on here! When you surrender your @ss to the bank for life, psychosocial outcomes are comparable to fast money "solutions". The acid test: can u sleep at night?

[@BeautifulEarthJa]

When is enough enough tho? And what are they giving up in return? Needs to be considering beforehand.

[@BeautifulEarthJa]

Also, I was shocked to find out a lot of the yacht girls are rich women...

[@ameliae3709]

I recommend a series called Mood on BBC it’s all about getting into the escort industry through social media and what you show online compared to what you really do for the money in private and what your morals really cost

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oooooo Thankyou for this recommendation!

[@nevergiveup9937]

Some celebrities will not even hide that they're sugar babies. Think of Yung Miami from City Girls for example. How many songs does she have where she openly talks about demanding payment for dating/intimacy?

[@chrislstahl4239]

Lugners guests over the years: 2023: Jane Fonda 2021 & 2022: NO OPERA BALL 2020: Ornella Muti 2019: Elle Macpherson 2018: Melanie Griffith 2017: Goldie Hawn 2016: Brooke Shields, Mr. Probz 2015: Elisabetta Canalis 2014: Kim Kardashian 2013: Mira Sorvino, Gina Lollobrigida 2012: Brigitte Nielsen, Roger Moore, Gina-Lisa Lohfink 2011: Karim el-Mahroug, Larry Hagman, Zachi Noy 2010: Dieter Bohlen 2009: Nicollette Sheridan 2008: Dita Von Teese 2007: Paris Hilton 2006: Carmen Electra 2005: Geri Halliwell 2004: Andie McDowell 2003: Pamela Anderson 2002: Claudia Cardinale 2001: Farrah Fawcett 2000: Jacqueline Bisset, Nadja abd el Farrag 1999: Faye Dunaway 1998: Raquel Welch 1997: Sarah Ferguson 1996: Grace Jones 1995: Sophia Loren 1994: Ivana Trump 1993: Joan Collins 1992: Harry Belafonte

[@Definitelynotabot4]

Damn girl the FBI has nothing on you😮😂😂

[@Slaintewaaas]

@@Definitelynotabot4 it is public knowledge and gets reported by the press every year. His Opernball dates are listed on his Wikipedia page :-P

[@elipotter369]

Kris Jenner was also there with Kim K

[@erichkitzmueller]

Exactly. For decades, he invited celebrities to the Wiener Opernball as a very effective way to get media attention and therefore promotion of his businesses, especially the Lugner City shopping center. I've never heard or read from anyone here in Vienna assuming anything more than that, and Luger was the undisputed king of the gossip column in Austria.

[@GirlInAguaCaliente]

I was just searching for a comment on this. Every year he brought a celebrity guest to the opera ball. They had to be at a press conference in his mall, sign autographs for fans, then go to the ball, sit in his booth, give an interview and maybe dance with him, or something like that. His personal relations were a completely different tv show 🤣 He was famous for dating young gold diggers in reality tv, giving them animal names and marrying some of them. He died a couple of days ago. He was disgusting but not for sugar daddying KK

[@jennifyliving5511]

Would also be interesting to see how many of these women are going into debt, spending all their cash, and neglecting healthy financial habits.

[@nottheone582]

most if not all of them... i met a few in tulum and they were shocked a woman of their age was buying property, had a stock portfolio, made $$$ in bitcoin. they didn't believe it was possible without a man. I feel bad for them

[@haley_144]

Your last comment is key. It's ultra dangerous... I've heard some nasty stories of rich guys sweeping things (dead girls they drugged) under the rug. You don't wanna be some rich guys kink and end up dead 🤢😵😰

[@ronnie-lynn]

Your partners fetishes can really affect and damage you. My ex in the last few years of our relationship (I was severely depressed and drinking to cope with my depression & his addiction) he was using a lot of drugs and his kinks and fantasies that he pushed on me were/are so devastating/damaging, that it’s been nearly 4 years since, and I’m still not ready to date. I still have SO much healing to do. I can only imagine the damage done in these type of relationships. 😏❤

[@Anonymous-cl2es]

I've been in a similar situation. I have zero desire to date again

[@Kezguitar]

Maybe they are using “kinks and fetishes” just as an excuse to abuse people. It sounds like it.

[@Jewellianna]

This was an amazing deep dive!! I can’t imagine some of the things you found😭😫

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou! ❤️

[@1588chrissy]

Dubai Porta Potty… its degrading as hell

[@lalaland8185]

Caitlin this is an insane research video. Fully agree with your comments, the biggest risk being young girls looking up to this lifestyle without knowing what's really going on. Hats off to you!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou very much!

[@sams3015]

I think most dangerous thing about online is it can take something that might be a fantasy or day dream and can pull you down a worm hole. I’m a gay guy and I see a his happen in our community way too often because apps like Grindr or even places like Reddit can normalise risky fantasies or behaviours and connect you with people who pressure you to make those things actionable in real life…so totally can see how someone flirting with the idea can find their self in the middle of it before they know

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for this perspective It’s scary for sure!

[@LilyValerieSchoner]

Just a little information about the invitation from Richard Lugner to Vienna. He invites one celebrity every year since the 90s and the last guests were Priscilla Presley and Jane Fonda. There is a certain agreement what they should fulfill infront of the press. Richard Lugner pays for these celebs so he can stand in the media. He always wants to be in the center of attention. So I don’t think that he is a sugar daddy to these celebrities (it’s something different when it comes to his (ex) wives though. Greetings from Vienna

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Ahh Thankyou very much for this education!

[@frankievalentine6112]

Do you know him personally? No, I don't think Jane Fonda would participate in sugar daddy behavior, but it's obvious he's picked some "dates" who were younger and more impressionable in years past. Just bc he may not be looking to be lecherous with all of them doesn't mean he's not like that with some of them. In fact, having the older actresses would be a great cover. It worked to convince you, after all. When you get into more seedy worlds, you have to keep your mind open and remember this stuff is hidden in so many different layers, on purpose.

[@esmeralda8305]

I believe this is a fully operating under-the-rug type of industry and celebrities and influencers are aware and very involved. I saw a post the other day by Rosalia that made me think of this; she was wearing a tshirt with the words "FOR RENT" on it and I had read somewhere before that these celebs hide certain messages within their posts that their target audience (rich old men) will understand. This video is not far fetched AT ALL.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Omg wow!

[@primaveradel78]

I read that pink hair is a signal too

[@Kelly-pp1et]

This has been well known for years now and discussed by many KZbin creators.

[@elleash3040]

“Yatching”

[@gnuwaves743]

This comment is so necessary

[@Kelly-pp1et]

@@gnuwaves743 yes it is when we are talking about authenticity.

[@Lunaxklk]

I think "Moon" has a video on this topic yeah and it is way darker than she describes here

[@Kelly-pp1et]

@@Lunaxklk exactly. She’s acting as if she discovered the conspiracy theory of the conspiracy theories. I love Moon.

[@ynat2198]

Bless you for doing these deep dives 😢 i hope you take some time to yourself, do something you enjoy that makes you happy and relaxed, because this ish is STRESSFUL to find out about.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou ❤️ you are too kind!

[@kathleenwang3931]

oh yeah I heard of that malaysian business man or con artist. he gifted this crystal piano Miranda kirr in the documentary. sketchy stuff that celebrities do that the public doesn't know about. he also invested the movie the wolf of wall street

[@blythegirl4348]

Aren't these people concerned about STD's? Pregnancy is not a big deal but getting a life changing illness is forever. These people are taking risks with their health and wellness. I wonder how much crime (rape, sodomy) goes unreported in places like Dubai and Bali? It's all very hush hush but one would wonder why a woman would sell her soul for a little bit of money. In the end it's just "stuff". A handbag will not make you happy. Designer clothes go out of fashion really quickly too. It's so sad that this is what some people do with their lives. I feel very glad that I grew up in a world before all of this nastiness was occurring.

[@beewest5704]

Some even disappear.

[@pisceanbeauty2503]

I’d say pregnancy is a concern as well, especially with how abortion law is going in the US.

[@blythegirl4348]

@@pisceanbeauty2503 Yes, that is true. I would think that these women would use abortion as a form of birth control too. I don't think they value human life. Personally know women who have had two abortions. They killed their own children.

[@cambowsher0613]

⁠pregnancy is a big deal for most people!!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

A lot of them are forced to take an std test before payment and certain obligations begin 😯

[@jacks16390]

Does anyone remember all those corny ceo romance novels that were popular a few years ago? 50 Shades was probably the most popular but a bunch of others were always being sold (often for free or very cheaply in a bundle) on Amazon's Kindle store. They still get written and sold as kindle books but now everyone's more interested in reading about faerie princes 🙃. I thought about that while watching this and wonder if those sorts of novels were purposely being favored in the publishing market as some sort of propaganda. Idk, just a thought 🤔

[@KkReactionsReviews]

There are videos where girls who worked in escort talk about their experiences. And some things that they tell are terrifying. You can’t stay mentally stable at this job. If you are a celebrity you may be paid for just a companionship I guess. But if you are not… you can put yourself in danger.

[@meags-b1v]

Your edits humour is shining in this upload 🤣🙏🏻

[@Yocyndie]

Real crisp, clean, and quiet with it too!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou my editor is incredible 🙏

[@j____397]

I’m from Vienna, this ball happens every year and Richard Lugner invites a different celebrity every year. It’s a tradition, nothing more. He doesn’t invite them to do weird stuff with them.

[@GengoSenmon]

Very astute observations. The obvious tip-off's are the complete lack of sponsors, affiliate marketing, and bf/husband in the photos, despite a persistent luxurious lifestyle.

[@nurlindafsihotang49]

From asian attorney, becareful what you drink in these billionaire's party. If you feels iffy after it, run back home. I've even had stabbed myself with a pen so i would not lose conciousness, and i am the attorney that knows where the bodies are buried! Imagine those who dont have the protection and knowledge to protect themselves. All those glitter might camuflage the hyenas surrounding you!

[@yaniwet]

This in not speculation, this is 100% true.

[@Aav329]

Unrelated to the main topic, but can we talk about how terrible that guys cosmetic procedures were? The overinflated lips and abnormal butt.

[@notimportant123]

How are we missing the whole yacht girls thing with all those famous girls? Hailey Bieber, the Hadid model, a Kardashian I think

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Potentially a video in the pipeline Thankyou for bringing this up ☺️

[@tonyabillings201]

This is a legitimate issue. Young girls are so impressionable and these women are being very deceptive- nothing good comes of this ever. Great job on yiur research

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for watching x

[@ronque23]

I recall Vice interviewing some service staff on these yacht parties and the like. They’ve seen some crazy stuff. They say many of the women don’t go back after the first trip. But that some are so traumatized you’d think they would never go back and months later they do. Guess the fast money compared to working for a living doesn’t compare.

[@prettynpetty8342]

As someone who lived in Dubai, which is becoming the poster city for these types, this is a Dubai I don't recognize. I was there before it boomed in popularity (literally JBR was still being built). It's quickly becoming a playground for very depraved people to come and purge. For a devoutly religious city, the goverment needs to crack down on this. I really admired Dubai and UAE in general because of what the Emirate locals have built in the past 40 years. It's incredible. They built a megacity from nothing and encouraged many families to live there and build wealth. Now, it's becoming a shiny gutter. It really makes me sad.

[@petalz9701]

Idk.. I don't think the problem is just the depraved people when princes of Saudi Arabia are paying thousands for young women, so it seems to be normal in these places

[@MissXqzu2]

You mean what the modern slave labourers have built in the past 40 years

[@isleeptillnoon5256]

They "built"....? Yes, literally off the blood and lives of indentured workers from impoverished nations.

[@nicolenotizieeamici]

I mean it was built on slave labor and god knows how many deaths … it is the Mecca of capitalism … not so religious of them ah ???

[@Cassandralynn83]

I’ve seen that crap on my feed. I would find all that crap exhausting. Being around self-absorbed humans would be energy draining.

[@randomlyswatching9481]

Jho low funded wolf of wall street(producer) and dated paris and another one i remember. All with Malaysian money. He was Chinese 😂.even MS and Deutsch were involved

[@nikkismith2858]

There are many Chinese men in Malaysia. The capital was built by a Chinese man Yap al loy in the 1880s.

[@frankievalentine6112]

Dang girl this actually makes so much sense. Can't believe I never picked up on it before. But that's the nature of trafficking, it happens right in front of our eyes without anyone noticing.

[@mothercat6083]

I recently heard of Dubai “portapotties” for the first time the other day, I was SHOCKED what people are willing to do for a quick pay day. the crazy part is these portapotties are usually black women, which has to be some sort of racist element. It’s horrible if u ask me

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

It’s heartbreaking 💔

[@AgentOffice]

It's not racist they're more used to black women in Africa

[@lololuv2012]

This is as old as time, it’s huge with top models and actresses, honestly I think that is sick because they usually are pimped out.

[@katerinafar]

Muhaha so that's why I'm blocking some old men all the time 😁 everyone is thinking he is like Iain Glen in his sixties but no

[@riatruthseeker9489]

I'm gonna guess that the messages you're receiving from potential "sugar daddies" are actually just scammers that want you to send them money to prove you're "trustworthy" and get "paid" 😂

[@katerinafar]

@@riatruthseeker9489 why no, no one ever wanted any money :D I don't look like I'm willing to give some DDD

[@serenth8310]

​@@riatruthseeker9489nah. There really is that many desperate horny men out there. It's not humbling women online to pretend that's a scam...

[@amandab.8843]

Comment for the algo! People need to be aware of the strings attached to these arrangements!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for watching and for your comment 😊

[@sandraankenbrand]

Its prostitution, just sugarcoated... And if a men is into that, he's got the power and willing to use it also - its a business deal. He won't fall in love... and one day yr exchanged against the younger or less difficult version. So when in yr 40s latest and haven't anything for yrslf its hard to find a décent job and a nice guy won't want yr past... so yr left with the rich 70yr old You still can sell yr Birkins though

[@anakk47]

Ah that’s how Miranda Kerr bought her Malibu house. Makes sense now.

[@Anonymous-cl2es]

😮

[@biljam972]

What seems scary to me is actually when I wonder, are those celebrities and Instagram ladies even in position to refuse some of these offers? Imagine, if the offer is from someone who is extremely rich and powerful and he wants that specific woman. Can she even say "no"? I am pretty sure there are rich men who don't ever take "no" as an answer and that's the most disturbing part.

[@wisehippo3072]

Of course they can refuse. Those Dubai richmen live in Dubai and not on the same block in the same city in the same country they fly those girls from. Who freewillingly agree to everything for money. Lots and lots of money. Nice try, but if someone chooses to fly from the US to UAE to do that, that's on them. Of course they can refuse, but they don't.

[@adamh5466]

Yes they can. Or they can just not answer. One of my dear friends is one of these 10/10 models. When she was younger she was approached regarding this industry. She said no and that was the end of that.

[@biljam972]

@@adamh5466 good to know

[@cole_black]

This as always existed. Even in the time of magazines, Vogues, Playboy, etc

[@anadeealupu1458]

There's also Naomi Campbell and the diamonds 💎 scandal and many many many others. It's very common in the modelling world. One girl that I went to high-school with and who is now a famous model and actress, had to guard herself in many instances. Her agent hooked her without telling her to some yacht party in Italy. She was told she is going to a casting. As soon as she stepped into a car that had a driver that was incredibly nervous and found out she's actually going on the yacht of an arab guy, she managed to keep her calm and stopped the car to use the toilet at a gas station. She called the police and managed to flee that situation, changed agent etc. She's doing well now, but what normal people don't know is that models can face bad situations against their will.

[@nurlindafsihotang49]

She is lucky. Many get drugged and shoved into the car.😢

[@randomlyswatching9481]

This is how it is in those circles. also in Dubai. Now these people give rise to stereotypes like women will flock to you after 40 because you become rich and because these women are young they like old men who can "provide" and rest women afrer thirty are all cat women...😂😂😂 Yk This is why those stereotypes come and alpha beta guys forget these people are not common people.

[@kyladanae]

Someone should do a deep dive on Alicia Keys

[@marielou3556]

Didn't you dive into the world of Dubai Porta Potty Parties?🙈🤮

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

I indeed did 🤮

[@schneeroseful]

Richard Lugner is the host of the Vienna Opera Ball and always had the most trending female celebrity accompany him. After the divorce of his wife of 18 years, his Girlfriends get younger and relationships shorter

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thanks for this knowledge I didn’t know this was a yearly occurrence 🙏

[@EmotionGamingRO]

Why would you follow these people? No seriously.. why?!?

[@rimimukherjee4]

I left Instagram last year and never looked back 😤🙏🏼

[@Anonymous-cl2es]

Good for you!

[@dieSchreckschraube]

While I think your general idea here is spot on, I'm fairly certain that Richard Lugner had no intention of paying Kim Kardashian for intimate acts. The Vienna Ball is a yearly event with a long tradition and lots of prestige. Lugner showed up every year with a different high profile celebrity guest that got paid good money to be there. Amongst the guest over the years also where also several women over 60, like Jane Fonda and Sophia Loren. It's a pure prestige thing to have a celebrity there with him, and he usually was accompanied by his wife on top of the celeb. The ball has a long tradition and certain rules, I think he was just mad at Kim for not dancing with him and not heeding the customs and traditions of the event. While I don't think Lugner was the greatest person or anything, I don't think he wanted to bed Kim. (I'm from Germany, so I get lots of news from Austria, which is why I'm familiar with the whole thing.)

[@poshvuli]

We need more deep dive vlogs like this. It's interesting yet kinda scary how social media facilitates sex work and it's normalised which is gross n dangerous eg: trafficking people 😮

[@laurafergs88]

As a relative of someone who has worked in the sex industry, the women who know what they're doing and how to do it safely aren't pretending they're not a part of the industry. That awareness means there's less of a chance (not none, obviously) that unclear expectations or entitled people make the transaction unsafe. But I imagine that the ambiguity of the situation is part of the appeal for their clientele - the illusion that their money and power is what gets them attractive women, without acknowledging that, at the end of the day, they're buying sex and companionship. And people who are in denial about their reality are liable to do unsafe or disrespectful things in order to maintain that illusion - and that applies to the sugar babies AND daddies. Edited to add that I think the "gifts" instead of money is part of that ambiguity. If real money doesn't change hands, there's plausible deniability about the nature of these relationships. Which is a big ick, to me

[@ewelina8592]

Sugar babies were always there but Instagram is definitely “the place” now when I was younger it used to be “model agencies”/ being hostess in the shops, meeting face to face. Now men just scroll online and if they like who they see they just write a message. Also it used to be a dinner and maybe little shop, now girls get cars holiday jewellery bags, pretending that they work for it all by themselves which most of us know it’s not true but a lot of young girls watch it and want that lifestyle as it all looks like a dream 😢

[@TheAmelia1986]

I love the Billion Dollar Whale! It's funny and entertaining. Jho Low isnt a billionaire. He just spent government money on celebrities n models to make him tolerable.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for watching I might have to give that a read

[@parris145]

Emily Rata.. _ ratted Miranda Kerr out on Jho Low in her book. She basically said she was making out with him and went home with him.

[@frankriquelme4623]

Most have Sugar daddy’s to afford this lifestyles , heard of girl going to Dubai to eat poo and get crapped on for 30k great lifestyle🤣

[@patrickols]

I just find it so funny how they make the words “sugar babies” trying not to sound like it’s truly is “prostitution”

[@Spiritueli]

the hard core truth about this world is ... if you don t belong to the tribe, by birht, you gonna have to sell your soul and be curropt to the core, to get anywhere. you see, that way, they will always have the upper hand over you, why ... bcs the power, thats why

[@patrickols]

I just find it so funny how they replace prostitution with sugar babies or daddies trying ti make it sound anything but what it truly is

[@kategnidenko4651]

I'm not an influencer or Instagram model, I even have a private for friends and family profile, and I twice got dm from guys who called themselves sugardadys. It's disgusting. Just because I'm a Slavic woman?! And lately I got a proposal for coworking from artist profile and then they started to ask my personal photos but my profile is more on architecture, nature, cooking, and when I rejected the artist profile was deleted, I think that was broken to catfish girls online.

[@angelwings1979]

I watch a lot of content aimed towards men or whose main audience is men and this is openly talked about, in detail. So no you’re not crazy. It’s very sad to see young people thinking that money will buy you happiness and it doesn’t matter what you have to do to get it. That at the end of the day the money will make everything better. Unfortunately, that is simply not true and it’s a vicious cycle. It’s the same story regarding selling sexual favors it’s just been given the social media treatment of making it seem more glamorous but effects are still the same.

[@poorvachakraborty6126]

Hi, I have my grad and post grad degrees in media studies and I have been working in influencer marketing for the last 3 years. From a professional and academic perspective, your research, analysis and overall content is gold. Kudos to you. Sending lots of love from India ❤

[@suzannebernert]

👋

[@ReeCrowsFray]

I always found it weird that Logan chose Dubai. I did chalk it up to getting more money from the elite there and the fact that it’s a country that has a zero tolerance for drugs and alcohol (if you’re following the majority of the religions and cultural values) even though I know Dubai isn’t necessarily like that. She did throw herself into the culture but then again, there is always that potential for the type of money that’s gained in darker spheres.

[@schneeroseful]

It is not that weird if you want to cut your substance of choice out completely. In the Western World, avoiding alcohol is almost impossible. Plus they do have Zero income tax. But yes, for her even going to dinner with those men is easy money She does seem to be doing a lot better now.

[@mariadaly4673]

I really enjoyed this and your honesty. I think you are right this kind of content women and men are selling is potentially very dangerous and damaging. As a mom of 2 I already see how influenced my children's have become. I do think each to their own but don't glamorise it for people who think this is an Instagram lifestyle instead of heavily paid work for want of a better word.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for watching ❤️

[@scelatantra7932]

When I arrived in Dubai was no JBR.. If I put my story down on You Tube I could never go back.. my story would be on Netflix.. I can tell you far more about Dubai the escorts .. not just the Instagram girls!!!

[@scelatantra7932]

It would have 10 million views why don't I because as a Dubai resident I would be toooo scared

[@samco63]

I don’t think you’re crazy, I think you’re definitely onto something. I feel like it’s a world we’ll never completely get to understand

[@AnthonyKellett]

The only surprise for me, in this video, is that you're only just discovering this sordid business. One of the appalling aspects, of being exposed to certain wealthy circles, is witnessing this repulsive practice. As you're now no doubt aware, you've omitted some of the more obscene practices. What's also vile is the way these girls present a lifestyle that's a complete lie, insofar as they omit key aspects that would otherwise demean themselves. The reality would have the more beneficial effect of dissuading many young girls from aspiring to follow in their footsteps. I applaud you tackling (and thereby highlighting) this subject. I wish more "influencers" would draw attention to this, together with the false lifestyle claims that even less degenerate social media users portray. I've watched them in Casino Square, Monaco, posing in front of exotic cars with which they've no connection, whatsoever. Clearly, they're attempting to deceive some audience, wheresoever that may be. All that said, can I please point out that the awful trade, you highlight, is not solely limited to "old men". They may be more prevalent; but then more centimillionaires and billionaires do tend to be older, obviously. Nevertheless, the common determiner is money, not age. Jho Low is only 42, even now. So, only around 27 when the Paris Hilton phase began. Not all of us 'oldies' stoop to being "sugar daddies", even if we've dated women younger than ourselves. I can't imagine certain celebrities, around my age, being viewed as such, because they're dating younger women. Can you imagine Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Keanu Reeves, etc, being referred to that way, if they dated younger women. Is Leonardo DiCaprio a sugar daddy? Personally, I can't see it. Just a few personal thoughts on the subject. P. S. Did some "pretty Low" things! 😂🤣

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for this perspective and your response to this subject Absolutely agree with your take

[@lastilnovista]

sex work exists everywhere. i don’t know why this is supposed to be some kind of shocking revelation.

[@youheartmel]

oldest job in the world

[@Ju5tBU]

It’s not revelation it just showing what some people find as inspiring content to be connected with dark reality.

[@kathleenmoortel5449]

I know for sure firsthand what you are saying happens because I have gotten dms from guys reaching out to me to be their sugar baby and I have blocked the requests each time.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

🤮

[@youreincredible1648]

I think its alot more common than we think. And linked to trafficing, we dont like to think about it as its sad and some voluntarily go into it. But they are just taking risk , to an extend risk taking is healthy, but some do not make it out alive, or are forever scared.

[@ariannagonzalez2618]

I was a stripper for 6 years. I noticed all the escorts at the club, had instagrams like this. So I just assumed all girls who post like this are started at the club, and started escorting. They all the the same too very cookie cutter style etc. it’s weird.

[@AriVovp]

Good for them, making good money

[@missnatcula]

Forced to live in a mans world.

[@vmtvf]

Just wear a proper covering top next time, instead of zooming and fixing, it’s distractingly annoying, especially when you're mentioning girls 'using' their bodies for whatever. Thanks for the video!

[@AerynKDesigns]

I'm sure you're right, and I'm sure it's happening, but I couldn't' care less what consenting people do with their own bodies. I'm fat and disabled, ain't no one looking for me to stand around and be pretty, but get your bag. I couldn't care less. What's the issue is when it's *not* consenting because it's used for trafficking or illegal activities.

[@Ca11MeMayb3]

🙄🙄🙄

[@Luci_pur]

Thank you!

[@DoraWinifred]

Even though there is consent it’s pretty dark and a form of exploitation.

[@gg_ingy]

Saw more videos on this and for example one of these women went to "the desert" to deflower a 14 year old little brother of a rich guy, and another did sexual acts on a camel Oo

[@xyz-jv9df]

The point is that just bcuz it's not sex trafficking, doesn't mean it's harmful either. It might be legally ok, but that isn't what v are discussing here. We are talking about d repercussions of being an escort, even if it's totally of one's own choosing. . . We are talking about how far can one seperate sex from their mental health n spiritual body, widout any negative impact.

[@pisceanbeauty2503]

We need a Nelly Bly type to go full on undercover in this world and give us a full expose’!

[@Mindyourbusinesstoday-k3x]

You just sound jealous

[@ediesaffron3593]

You definitely aren’t a crazy conspiracy theorist, you’re 1000% on point! This happens WAY more often than we think!