What do you think of the stay at home girlfriend lifestyle?
@workmusic70394 ай бұрын
Where is the woman's independence? And, what's the difference between being a SHGF and a live-in, well///. and, what happens when he gets tired of the SHGF, or wants a newer model? Nope, this is not for me.
@LotusesGalaxyOcean4 ай бұрын
Stay at home girlfriend/fiancé before/without commitment/marriage sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen. This is because to stay at home without being potentially financially hurt you would need your partner to be depositing monthly into accounts under your name for investing and retirement. Also, that one girl seems bored simply due to a lack of discipline and motivation. She is choosing to not: make art, dance, learn a skill, read, self educate, hike, volunteer or socialize. In reality having more room for these things is good, but often people are so lazy even if they have time it never happens. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is fairly on point, but even if people have the time and resources it requires discipline to have a full balanced life, which is not valued much today.
@miriamhavard76214 ай бұрын
🙄 THAT'S how I feel about this latest nonsense. They sound like liars.
@alexajazmin75594 ай бұрын
It’s fun for about 6 months then you will go crazy or succumb to an addiction if you have no higher purpose. It really isn’t difficult to find a man to to give you that lifestyle, if you are what he wants. A lot of the time that’s just a conventionally attractive -but classy, educated, responsible, and self-assured woman that has *something* going for herself. It does feel very nice to be financially supported, especially when you’re struggling and don’t come from money. Women should use that support to fund their own endeavors and towards becoming financially independent from their man.
@noona5144 ай бұрын
Not real and not desirable. I could see if there were actual tangibles, but I'd much rather be secured with the legal title of a wife.
@Sarlee064 ай бұрын
I would not want to be completely dependent on someone who I'm not even married to. They have no obligation to you.
@WynnWynn-gl3fk4 ай бұрын
Even when married it is very dangerous and lethal literally
@absolutelyridiculous67434 ай бұрын
Lethal is a bit of a dramatic term...@@WynnWynn-gl3fk
@absolutelyridiculous67434 ай бұрын
Agreed. My husband set me up to be able to go back to school ❤ so I can earn money and have a career that isn't dependent on him. We have a 12 year old and 9 year year old, and I'm the main caretaker so HE could advance his career. Now, it's my turn and I'm so thankful and grateful
@no.63774 ай бұрын
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 that is so sweet.😍 I don't know you but I'm still happy for you. Healthy marriages with supportive partners are so important.
@nikkilong73774 ай бұрын
Even the person married to you can do wrong. It's better to always have your own.
@mishaa72634 ай бұрын
i grew up with a single mom who never taught me how to be independent so now I rely on older men like she did. It's a horrible cycle I hope to be independent soon
@DiMagnolia4 ай бұрын
Baby steps are still progress! Even just a couple hours a week of study or work will compound over time.
@petiteange08Ай бұрын
I hope you can get out of the cycle! If you can get some kind of education or find work to do when you're not with your partner, that's baby steps.
@PasCorrectАй бұрын
"SAHG" is just a rebranding of an older term: trophy girlfriend. Maybe they think it sounds more respectable to draw a parallel with stay at home parents, who actually have a full-time caregiver job. Pathetic.
@10secondsofmylife4 ай бұрын
i would just get really fat😂 also, i have never met a stripper who is in a ‘happy place’.
@sukiyu.g4 ай бұрын
I wish the economy wasn’t so fucked. Being a stay at home would be a dream for me. But obviously won’t happen.
@gojojuice4 ай бұрын
I told my boyfriend that when he gets a high paying job, i will volunteer to be a stay at home cat mom 😸.
@savannar3632Ай бұрын
There are times I feel like I want to be taken care of, but I realized during my 1 year off for maternity leave how much I cannot stand not having my own income, and how I don’t actually enjoy being off work with no end in sight. I love my days off, but damn I get so bored if I’m just off with no end in sight and not on vacation
@november1324 ай бұрын
A wife sure but never as a gf/fiancee
@rawrrrrxoluv4 ай бұрын
I didn’t know about the protests happening there but great to know! First video of yours! Love your perception of reality and agree with a lot you had to say😊
@taycharb68564 ай бұрын
Yea this whole movement is just wow... I'm a house wife. It's a privilege for this role! But I didn't get here just by existing. For 10 years me and my husband grinded! I worked overnight and a full time job during the day working opposite of my husband because we have kids. It wasnt glamorous and we almost didn't make it. Plus if you are bored what are you doing? Do you not have kids? Pets? A yard to take care of? Do you not bake or cook? What is the point in staying home if you aren't doing anything.
@cgcosh39674 ай бұрын
I’ve never wanted to be a Stay At Home Wife or Mother. There is nothing about keeping a home that interests me. I have always wanted to be gainfully unemployed. I’ve never managed to save and invest well enough to do it. I grew up around Stay At Home moms and Working moms. My mom was usually one when there was a baby/toddler/move to a new town or the other when the youngest started school. I was the kid often playing quietly behind a chair or something so I overheard a lot. Both sexes had issues when the social norm said the man must work and the woman must stay home. It didn’t allow couples to play to their strengths or cover their partners weaknesses. There was often a lot of resentment from the men that the time they spent out working wasn’t appreciated and a lot of resentment that the amount of time women spent taking care of the home and children wasn’t appreciated. There were a number of divorces within my parents peer group because of this. One of my friends was doomed to childhood poverty when her dad lost an arm. His monthly compensation wasn’t much but it wasn’t proper for her mom to work so they just scrapped by for the rest of their lives.
@MayasDream2 ай бұрын
Such an interesting perspective! When I see this type of content, what I see is a woman taking care of a man...not a man taking care of a woman!
@sct40404 ай бұрын
I hated most of my jobs (not career), but always glad I was able to build wealth with my income. I am married now, and is financially independent as well because of my own money.
@lilmorsecody4 ай бұрын
im burnt out and exhausted a lot right now but I wouldnt change it for that because I know all this burn out is from working through education finals towards my dream. I have to go through this if I want to achieve my dream, so its worth it. I wouldnt trade it to be bored and alone in an empty house waiting for a man to come home knowing I only experience a sense of growth and progress vicariously through him
@chrissylekas3 ай бұрын
I was a stay at home girlfriend for a while.. it was great. Really has to be the right dude though. Otherwise you’re screwed. I work a bit now and take some classes part time. To the girls who get bored with all the free time: GO VOLUNTEER at an animal shelter or with underprivileged youth or something, try different forms of exercise, play around with yoga and meditation, make plans with friends and family when they have time during the day, … if these things ALL sound unpleasant or uninteresting maybe also explore therapy bc it’s possible you are depressed or burnt out in some way? Anyone who just stays home and watches tv and goes on their phone is going to be miserable. Humans are meant to be around other people, so it definitely helps to have friends who don’t work a 9 to 5
@TiaSpear4 ай бұрын
I will say it's not for everyone and i know this is more for stay at home girlfriends. But I got married young, I have 2 kids. I feel I'm always busy. For my specific life I stay at home, I homeschool, I do take care of everything in the house for the most part. Financially I get military disability, but my husband work a lot as well. But a lot of women at work appreciate him for being a good man (which is him respecting me and what I do and our marriage) he doesnt go to work and complain about me and him having to work while "i do nothing" he knows how much I do. I have quite a few hobbies as well (expensive) so like every paycheck i kinda pick what next project i want to work on. Like I said though it isnt feasible or wanted in every relationship.
@SmashThatGlass.BusinessАй бұрын
It baffles me how these women convince themselves they're living their best life. Harsh truth, you're essentially an adult child to a grown man.
@x77punk77x4 ай бұрын
The rich & educated women in my region who are SAHMs sometimes get gilded cage syndrome - not really fulfilled in the domestic sphere, desperate for intelligent engagement & endeavor. Glamorizing comfortable and dull idleness in economic times like this is more than odd.
@maha_sage15 күн бұрын
Well said
@grownwomen62084 ай бұрын
I’m 73 years old & one thing I can definitively say is that you have to pay the piper. Nothing is free. The women I have seen in these relationships (and that includes married ones too) all too often pay by assuming a less-than role. Generally the one who has the money has the power.
@sallyenglish59294 ай бұрын
unfortunately, i think even if both partners work full time, the primary breadwinner still holds the power. it definitely is frustrating!
@sarahwales62764 ай бұрын
That depends on your partner/husband.
@Chloe__________xx4 ай бұрын
Exactly there’s no such thing as a free lunch.
@BD-qc8zz4 ай бұрын
absolutely ! I wasn't brought up to be taken care of by a man if anything my parents have always encouraged me to make my own way having said that I know there'z no free lunch in this world except for maybe at your parents lolz I've built a life of my dreams I work at most 3h a day and spend the rest of the day working on my passion project I don't have to answer to anyone but myself I don't have a child or partner that needs to be taken care of literally the most liberating Ive felt in such a long time but to reach this stage boy have I paid a hefty price I worked my bones off for 8-9 years with no pay and little to no social interaction I had to isolate myself to be able to live the life I am now living but easy come easy go they say well my life hadn't come easy at all so I don't expect this to go easily. At last women , men won't take care of you but will be looking for someone to be taken care of themselves the best we could do is find someone who can take care of themselves and ! it's a fantasy that we need to wake up from.
@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult4 ай бұрын
It's like we say on Brazil: You either pay with your money, or pay with your soul.
@gmfan094 ай бұрын
Being a say at home wife is one thing but a stay at home girlfriend? How is that even a thing. You’re one breakup away from being homeless. And what human wants to be completely dependent on another when they don’t have to be? Good lord
@trishc933 ай бұрын
I think it’s all social media bs… I have a hard time believing anything on the internet these days
@bageluserky2 ай бұрын
That’s what happened to me. He proposed but never intended on marrying me and left me homeless and in abject poverty with no notice last year.
@emmanarotzky65652 ай бұрын
A stay at home wife is also one breakup away from being homeless.
@gr8gatsby-4262 ай бұрын
@@emmanarotzky6565 Unless they signed a really poorly balanced pre-nup divorce should not leave you in abject poverty
@jessicagoodwin36832 ай бұрын
@@emmanarotzky6565 Divorce is at least harder to achieve and has a reasonable chance of getting you alimony and/or child support. In the case of divorce you have legal protections that should make the other party is at least somewhat financially liable for you. This isn't to discount the fact that divorce can be financially ruinous for a woman but a girlfriend has absolutely none of those legal protections which is what makes this even more dangerous.
@DDGforMJK4 ай бұрын
The SAHG lifestyle is largely one of luxury for attractive women in their 20s. That’s all. And I know they can’t fathom it now, but their looks, body, “physical currency” will change significantly in the next 20-25 years. And then what? You think he’s gonna keep busting his ass working a job HE hates (women don’t own the market on hating their jobs) to support a middle-aged woman HE NEVER MARRIED whose looks aren’t what they used to be when there’s a newer, younger, hotter, more exciting one right down the street? (No shade to middle-aged women who don’t look 23 anymore…I am one!) A lot of young women would gladly wash his clothes and blend his smoothie in the morning in her place. It’s a such a short-sighted way to live. But I get it. Working sucks…
@essoundsofsilence3 ай бұрын
Great comment 👏
@Wimograffey3 ай бұрын
You're being real real with this comment. They don't realize that once they won't be so young and beautiful anymore, these men will replace them.
@Maialeen2 ай бұрын
They don't understand the supply of younger, not experienced and not intelligent women who are ready to ruin their lives because they will believe the lies of some older guy they aren't even attracted to because they think it will give them an easier life. They'll just replace you in the unhappy transactional "relationship". This is not a woman's world so there should be straight up classes in schools that teach every generation not to fall for it. Every time, once they get older and smarter, they regret ever looking at some older man. He knows what he's doing, she doesn't.
@thickmint58752 ай бұрын
@@Wimograffey i think some of them probably do realize it but feel like this is the best situation they can get in life and so they settle
@sarasilly2 ай бұрын
Ya the SAHG thing only makes sense if you already come from a rich family and don't have to work to begin with and can fall back on your family money if needed.
@acemanifester14014 ай бұрын
We live in a man made world not a woman made world. Woman should always keep that in mind and protect themselves.
@alexandria653 ай бұрын
PERIOD.
@sakatababa3 ай бұрын
oh, i guess that is why there is over 4 times as many intentional murders of males then females per capita, globally...
@2okaycola3 ай бұрын
Women*
@sakatababa3 ай бұрын
oh, i guess readily available statistics is not welcome here...
@calisongbird3 ай бұрын
@@sakatababawhat’s your point?
@jasenkavukelic50474 ай бұрын
I work in social services and many times I've seen woman who got divorced and never worked, end up on government's help. English is not my first language so I hope you understand what I want to say.
@NekoNebula13134 ай бұрын
Yes and often girls like that come from a home where they were discouraged from being independent and educated. I came from a home like that the only thing that mattered was doing chores and cooking dinner. Sad when people only learn to be a servant and think it's normal
@ah57214 ай бұрын
Understood you perfectly. It happened to my birth mom !
@FrancesLocke2 ай бұрын
Why do so few women in those situations get alimony anymore. If someone sacrifices years outside the workforce for a relationship or to raise children that has value and should be compensated. The idea that caregiving is worthless because it doesn’t bring in cold hard cash is gobsmacking IMO. When my grandparents divorced my grandfather had to pay her alimony for the rest of his life and he never complained about it. He used to say that she didn’t deserve to live in poverty just because they grew apart.
@thelastnashie88114 ай бұрын
I’ll say I’ve never seen even one woman over 50+ EVER recommend the tradwife life. Not a single one. Even ones still married in their golden years say don’t do it. That should speak for itself
@AIRBORNE9164 ай бұрын
Those who like it are too busy enjoying their family and life to speak bad on it. You get what you look for.
@berrymckockiner58834 ай бұрын
Ok but what about men that refuse to do chores and want a sahm for that very reason
@AIRBORNE9164 ай бұрын
@@berrymckockiner5883 those men exist. there are plenty of women that refuse to work outside the home. It’s Just about the desired dynamics. Plenty would love to stay home and do chores. Assessment and selection of a partner is the most important decision of your life. Develop your self as much as possible, be upfront about expectations in the dating process and have the “awkward” conversations. If you do it right, hopefully you’ll get the partner right for you.
@subwayfacemelt43254 ай бұрын
@@berrymckockiner5883 What about them? What are you actually asking? Stop calling them men. People not keeping home are not adults. The men I know call those people "child". Move on or see if you can encourage them to grow? Nothing more rewarding to me than house chores since me/my family owns the results 100% !!
@berrymckockiner58834 ай бұрын
@@subwayfacemelt4325 men that want SAHM, we refuse to do chores. And if we don't get that, then drizzIe drizzIe and 50/50 is alI you'lI get. No more chivaIry
@buntyjoy18004 ай бұрын
"Im sat at home waiting to be replaced by a younger fitter model"
@ZovaBe4 ай бұрын
Yep. That's exactly how it feels
@samco634 ай бұрын
Exactly.
@arh12344 ай бұрын
😢
@TinkOutLoud4 ай бұрын
Pretty much. This lifestyle could be seen as a hustle. So, hopefully some of them have an older and richer man lying in wait. lol
@ufuvjviufugigib76924 ай бұрын
@TinkOutLoud this men like status not just the girlfriend. His friends will have a 23 year old by their side and he will want that too, if she is more than 30 years old the status she will give him is not that great so no, she will not have this forever
@frumtheground4 ай бұрын
I had a job where I'd sit in the parking lot to cry before entering the building to work nearly every day. My autoimmune disease was out of control because of the stress I was under so I was in and out of the hospital and right back to work constantly. My employment status was repeatedly under threat because of my disability. A bad job, seriously bad job, will shorten your life as much as a toxically unbalanced relationship. Wish we didn't have to pick between them at all. I didn't feel like I had any choice but to quit and be dependent for a time while my body recovered and it was still awful being trapped at home and "owe" someone for your basic needs. It was just as much hell.
@Tammy88234 ай бұрын
Sending you hugs. Hope you’re doing better now.
@CajonesandCannolis4 ай бұрын
i completely agree ❤and i am so sorry you had to do that- i actually had similar health issues - to the point that i couldn’t physically handle working and so i chose the route of dependency - getting in relationships with partners only on the condition they would support me financially- and holy hell it was never NOT stressful and i would tell any woman that envied me- it is ABSOLUTELY not worth it and as SOON as i can physically work i am going to.
@654ujala4 ай бұрын
Sounds like you were a public school teacher. Been there done that. Happy to be done teaching!
@frumtheground4 ай бұрын
@@654ujala hahaha no, but I know a few! Glad you're out of that environment!
@frumtheground4 ай бұрын
@@CajonesandCannolis Exactly! I hope your health and situation gets better. 💜
@karengrimes68434 ай бұрын
My mother always said “If you marry for money, you earn every penny”. I chose an education and a career.
@absolutelyridiculous67434 ай бұрын
Amen ❤
@KourtneeMonroe4 ай бұрын
So true.
@sieriamist44674 ай бұрын
and if you marry a broke lazy man you will suffer your whole life. You should marry a provider who you love and respect, and who cherishes you. Too many people just think of “love” and attach themselves to a sinking ship. It’s as equally bad as just clinging to any random rich dude for money. You need both love and capability or you’re destined to suffer.
@jbb82614 ай бұрын
Let us know how that goes for you 😂😂😂
@maloyo79014 ай бұрын
@@sieriamist4467 In the 1990s I worled with a woman who taught her then 10-year-old daughter that "romance without finance is a nuisance" with an emphasis on the '...ance" of each word. LOL!
@barbarasmith74324 ай бұрын
Working at a job you hate gets you at least health benefits (most of the time), retirement benefits, Social Security, and a paycheck. Plus, you can always find a job you like better, or at least, hate less. Staying at home gets you none of these.
@amy_aim_aimster3 ай бұрын
Yeah and it's somehow always easier to find a new job when you already have a job - the universe likes to be wacky like that. I can't count the amount of times I've gotten a job, only to have multiple people reach out to ask if they can hire me.When I wasn't employed and looking it was impossible to find anything, but the moment I found something, three more opportunities will pop up magically!
@ottitudes19914 ай бұрын
Not having to work 40 hours a week seems like a dream but I would NEVER be an SAHG. I'd prefer knowing my back is covered at all times and my survival and well being not depending on another person, thank you very much.
@tuttuttut77584 ай бұрын
I work 32 hrs a week and next year I’m scaling back to 28. No support, mediocre salary. I just cut my spending drastically and I want less stuff. Never been happier
@Mimi-hn6iv4 ай бұрын
@@tuttuttut7758 What do you do?
@lorianabanana60664 ай бұрын
Right?!! Right now my fiance is inbetween jobs (he was injured and on workers comp for almost a year but is job searching now) so I'm actually working overtime to cover our rent. But in the past he paid more than I did since I do groceries and most housework. But as much as I'd love to work less, I'd never want to be home 24/7. I'm a nurse's assistant at a hospital and I love my job but it's stressful & exhausting. But even if we got FU money tomorrow I'd still work part time. I like having my own money so if I want to spend on skincare, eyelashes, anime, art supplies- whatever I can without having to feel guilty or justify myself. Plus I like knowing that I'm not staying out of obligation or desperation. If I wanted to leave it would be hard but I could.
@samco634 ай бұрын
Exactly. Sounds amazing, but I would personally never do it. I want to know I’ve got myself if a man turns on me. Even the sweetest guys can cheat and leave. I’ve seen it. Never in a million years have I thought particular men would cheat - they appeared to dote on their wife. One guy, started cheating and became abusive as soon as she got breast cancer…this was the seemingly kindest most amazing man…
@Ryan-cb1ei4 ай бұрын
SAHG is a major red flag to any guy, like what even is that. That’s a free ride 🙄
@mw63464 ай бұрын
My mom quit high school at 17. Got married and worked while my dad went to college. After he graduated, she became a stay at home mom. 20 years later, the marriage ended, and my mom had to work in fast food to survive. I'm proud of her for doing what she had to do, but it taught me a deep lesson. I will NEVER not work. I don't care what the situation is i will always provide for myself.
@clarity29744 ай бұрын
No alimony?
@mw63464 ай бұрын
@@clarity2974 this was in Texas in the 90 so no alimony. She did get some child support but it wasn't enough to survive.
@TinkOutLoud4 ай бұрын
Did she ever get a GED or anything?
@bmo64_3 ай бұрын
There’s a reason why women before us fought so hard for their freedoms and rights!! It damn sure wasn’t for us in the future to not put them to use!
@de50722 ай бұрын
@@bmo64_they fought for our right to choose.
@ThunderPrincess25004 ай бұрын
As someone who was a SAHG/SAHwife in her 20s, this is the most dangerous trap for women. My boyfriend/husband was kind and supportive, and didn't want me to have to work a job I hated. But looking back in my 40s, I can never get those prime career building years back. And when my marriage ended, I was left at square one career wise. While I fortunately had a university degree to fall back on, big gaps in a resume are red flags that make you almost unemployable going forward, mean losing ground as your profession moves forward without you, and mean losing years of building your own independent financial nest egg for retirement and emergencies. I am fortunate to have built back up some of that, but will forever be behind where I could have been if I had made better choices when I was young.
@MyMindGeek4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I really needed to hear this !
@fvoconnor4 ай бұрын
Same story here... I can't get a job and I used to be an executive.
@AbbygaileHearne4 ай бұрын
@@fvoconnorDAMN
@carpediem22364 ай бұрын
Layoffs and medical emergencies will put you behind as well.
@LuvBlackDaria4 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@saraht13674 ай бұрын
The jobs I've hated have actually still given me skills, taught me how to work with different personalities, pointed me in the direction of my strengths/weaknesses and helped me figure out what I do/do not want to do for work and in life. For me, its been a huge part of character development.
@lowkey_babe773 ай бұрын
Agreed
@2okaycola3 ай бұрын
Yep
@thewildmustangisfast22 күн бұрын
I subscribe to your comments.
@Sheisme1204 ай бұрын
As a fiancé myself, I find it absolutely insane how anyone would choose to give up their independence for a man, especially for a man who hasn’t even married them. Even if you’re engaged to him, he can back out at any time and leave you destitute.
@The-Oneness114 ай бұрын
Well I was a stay-at-home wife for a couple of months while pregnant and for a couple months after my child was born. To be honest I wanted to have a job but I just couldn't find one. Actually that was one of the best times in my life though. Even though we didn't have very much money, I felt very comfortable being at home taking care of domestic tasks and raising our child. Eventually I did find a job though. I had to for monetary reasons. I kind of believe that some people who are at home are doing so because they have difficulty finding a job.
@LoveAndSnapple4 ай бұрын
Because people don't want to work in this capatalistic nightmare and any repreive from not having to participate would feel like heaven.
@femdivinemind77774 ай бұрын
He can after you marry too. Plenty wives found that out the hard way.
@hannah600004 ай бұрын
@@femdivinemind7777 Marriage grants more protections. I thought this point was obvious from the original commenter.
@femdivinemind77774 ай бұрын
@@hannah60000 it's doesn't always and more often than people realize it actually can backfire massively
@nuthingness4 ай бұрын
My mom was a stay at home wife for most of her life. When my dad passed away she didn’t have any money and now I am responsible for taking care of her.she also doesn’t speak English so she depends on me for everything. I don’t want to be like her.
@ihanakaunotar27414 ай бұрын
Damn she really wasn’t very smart at all.
@proinseasnihanluain47354 ай бұрын
@@ihanakaunotar2741 it's not that she wasn't smart- older generations in a marriage had very specific roles. She didn't learn certain skills but that doesn't mean she wasn't smart. The lady is likely a genius in other areas.
@jarkachalmovianska78124 ай бұрын
@@proinseasnihanluain4735 she could have learnt english in all those years...
@honestyisadyingvirtue4 ай бұрын
this is so sad, and I hope you don't get upset for me saying this, but you aren't responsible for Squat. momma can learn English and get a job. She can start low like everyone else, but to make your kids responsible for caring for you is just subsequent child abuse. I am not rich, but I make damn sure I have life insurance so if anything happens to me my kids and husband will be taken care of. Unless she is 70 or 80, She can still find work. It may be hard but it's out there. my mom still works at 67 as a caregiver. She just made you her new husband but what happens when you want your own life?
@puppibanana4 ай бұрын
Let me guess, your mom is Asian right?
@syenite3 ай бұрын
Whenever I see these Stay and Home GF vids all I can think of is the statistic that a woman is six times more likely to have her partner file for divorce in the month after she receives a cancer diagnosis than if the situation was reversed. Twenty percent of women who are diagnosed with cancer are abandoned by their partner in the month after that diagnosis, compared to 3% of men. Divorce rates go DOWN when a man in the couple gets diagnosed but go UP when a woman is diagnosed. That's all I can think of when I see these women on social media talking about how wonderful it is to have a man provide everything.
@reinepoaty67474 ай бұрын
The woman at 1:17 is Haley Khalil, she’s a comedian. That clip is actually a skit.
@livwake4 ай бұрын
That one did stand out as especially nutso, good to hear 😅
@Geospasmic4 ай бұрын
I was gonna ask if it was a horror short 😅 Gonna check out more of her stuff.
@thatElene4 ай бұрын
People are boycotting her. She said something very inappropriate a few days ago
@JuliaMarieH4 ай бұрын
The first one also looks like a skit
@Emm3254 ай бұрын
She’s HILARIOUS in her “stay at home gf” skit, this creator should’ve given context and credit.
@therealsamsclub23254 ай бұрын
I commented on that same post of Kendalkay asking if she was getting some sort of education, job training, or had a side business just in case she lost her job as a stay at home girlfriend. She got very offended and said I was being rude and disrespectful. I let her know that if caring about people’s wellbeing, wellroundedness, and financial safety was rude then she must have lived a very privileged, conflict-free life.
@amyeastman87642 ай бұрын
She’s not even with that guy anymore. No more slow life for her! They broke up awhile ago
@therealsamsclub23252 ай бұрын
@@amyeastman8764 that’s hilarious. Honestly a bit of schadenfreude for me 💀
@mariesabine2385Ай бұрын
@@amyeastman8764Yeah- apparently, he never really got over the fact that she had done OnlyFans in the past, even though she deleted it for him.
@lexigurlx4 ай бұрын
I remember when UK blogger Summer Hawkins (Sumerica) was glamorising being a stay at home girlfriend, and looking after her boyfriend. Then she got pregnant soon afterwards the relationship broke down got kicked out and was more recently complaining that the ex boyfriend wasn’t visiting the child. Ladies don’t put all your trust into these men have your own independence!
@QCL20234 ай бұрын
The first red flag is that this man is okay with a woman being a “stay at home girlfriend”. If you aren’t caring for children, wtf are you a stay at home anything??
@thewizard5554 ай бұрын
@@QCL2023 cooking 3 meals , washing clothes , doing dishes , cleaning and moping floor , dusting , caring for him when comes back , being his *therapist ,cook, cleaner and escort* . even without children in equation this is a lot of work , *i would rather put this hardwork in getting a high level job and hire a maid to do these homework* than doing all these chores myself and being called lazy (even though i am doing all these work) & wasting my years not building a carrier ,for my husband to replace me with new young chick in my later years & end up broke , traumatized and no education , no job experience
@SmallBobby4 ай бұрын
She didn't realize someone like him would definitely leave her a single mother. That sucks.
@이지민-j5w4 ай бұрын
@@SmallBobbyshe should drag him to court
@HerWanderlust2 ай бұрын
Managing the home.
@Financiallyfreeauthor4 ай бұрын
So I was raised in a cult where it was expected that I would dedicate my life to serving my husband selflessly. That didn't work out for me as not even arranged marriage would get me a husband in the cult. Years later I married a wonderful man (who taught me about feminism lol) and over the course of the last 11 years we've done a lot of trading back and forth who is the primary worker. First I provided for us while he retrained, then he provided for us when our kids were very little, then I found work I was passionate about and he became a stay at home dad for a while, now he's applying for jobs again and I'm doing work I love from home. Things change and shift.
@Colouringvibez4 ай бұрын
My mum always says "There is nothing more powerful than a woman with her own money."
@itoro224 ай бұрын
My momma said the same thing too.
@Tomi-vw3fb3 ай бұрын
Real. Even when already married, it's very important to have our own money.
@TheBlackDorothyZbornak3 ай бұрын
You dont think they get paid for their content??
@Claudiaaliru3 ай бұрын
@@TheBlackDorothyZbornakThey do, it's just that many young women who ain't in the creator space but aspire to be SAHGs are being influenced to uphold this lifestyle and go through this kind of relationship 😊
@sakuraesther63093 ай бұрын
@@TheBlackDorothyZbornakThey do the US pays content creators
@GoddessMarcy4 ай бұрын
I got married with a man that told me I didn’t need to worry about anything just stay home. That was a dream and I jumped on the opportunity. This man become my worse enemy. I haven’t never have an enemy before so that was crazy see how power imbalance can be a hell. He didn’t knew but I never stopped working so when things went way south I was able to live and build a new life. But my situation was analogue to human trafficking. I was enslaved, humiliated, violated, food denied, isolated, gaslighted and more. I’m good I’m my own boyfriend and providing stay home girlfriend experience for myself now working from home.
@aubreyplazasuncle4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry
@projectjupiter55233 ай бұрын
i am so sorry that happened to you. you are so amazing for getting out and managing to support yourself while facing such awful treatment. i hope you heal from all you've been through and continue to live a great life, free from anyone who would try to harm or control you 💖
@politereminder62842 ай бұрын
Glad you got out. I was offered the same, and I turned it down. I've been broke, but I've kept my dignity and my self ownership. 👍
@simonecomtesse27724 ай бұрын
My mom stayed at home but she didn’t like it. She had no education because she married so young which she regretted deeply. She told me from the beginning: never never never ever be financially dependent on your husband. 🙏
@nele90454 ай бұрын
What about finding meaningful things to do/work/going back to school after having children? What about marrying a man who values the work his wife does that is not paid, like child rearing, keeping house etc; and views the money he earns as belonging to the family and not solely controlling it? Women make the majority of purchases for their family. As in every partnership, personal or business, those have to be agreed upon and negotiated. 🤷🏼♀️
@baileymoran85854 ай бұрын
I had to rely on my husband for two years when I had major medical issues, and nobody prepares you for how difficult it is to let someone finance you as an adult. I have seen nothing but horror stories about how women go without just because they don’t outside the home. They get shamed for needing a new pair of shoes because while their husband buys himself a new boat he can barely afford. I remember friends with moms who didn’t work being terrified over finances when their dad would be out of work. These were also the kids who would say ‘I would want to learn ballet and play soccer but it’s too expensive,’ and never got to go in the field trips because of the cost. It’s such a rare luxury to even be able to be financed and not have it be traumatic. I got very lucky. My husband was great. He took on the extra hours and when he noticed that I was afraid to ask him for things he started just randomly getting me things on my Amazon favorites list when he had the extra money. He would insist I go out to eat and when I ordered some cheap side dishes he would insist ‘don’t look at the price! Get the seafood pasta you like here, if you want, and then we will split the lava cake!’ But I have not seen any other examples where this has worked in the woman’s best interest, in my personal life. I’m sure that I’m not an isolated case but it’s rare. People also don’t prepare you for how it feels to let someone pay your way in life. I have paid what I can in bills since I was 18. I’ve paid for things I wanted when able, since 15. You don’t realize how deep every ‘when you have your own money you can buy whatever you want but I earned this money and I get to spend it how I choose’ lecture affects you. You realize how many dates flipped out because you wouldn’t sleep with them, throwing the $25 they spent on your meal back in your face like you used them for a dinner at a cheap, chain sports bar. You don’t realize how many people have lent you $50 when you were short for bills, insisted you take their offer, and then hold it over your head in every disagreement long after you paid them back. I have even had friends offer to let me stay with them while between apartments, back when I was single, usually after a sudden break up when I couldn’t handle living with an ex anymore. I’d tell them I’d cover groceries and throw in for bills and rent, they would insist ‘save your money.’ But ‘nothing is free’ would come up in really gross ways that left me sleeping in my car, and then getting a cheap motel for a week or two. If I didn’t have the money to do that then I would have really had a worse time with these former friends. I stopped accepting these offers from dudes the second time it happened, but the fact it happens at all really reminds you that you always pay some way. These are the things that pop back into your head the moment an emergency leaves you unable to provide for yourself.
@RealSigmaQueen4 ай бұрын
@@nele9045Except generations of women found this type of man to be the exception not the rule. And these “trad wives” and “stay at home girlfriends” are portraying home making and child rearing as living the “soft life” and devaluing this type of unpaid labour even more. Do you know it’s mostly men who watch this content? It makes men feel entitled to all the financial assets as solely their own. There are even religious groups that coach men on how to hide and register assets so their wives and children get nothing in a divorce. Choosing marriage with traditional gender roles is fine. Just make sure it’s an informed choice and you’ve thought through the potential outcomes.
@ST-rj8iu4 ай бұрын
@@nele9045 My mother was married in 1972 and was 19. Your concepts are of an older person. School costs money. Hindsight is 20/20. Did you miss the marrying young?
@javanjunkindahouse66254 ай бұрын
Interesting. So my friend met and married very young and she didn’t need to work after awhile as he was pulling good money in logging. They owned a small company. I used to feel jealous sometimes as I’ve worked hard my whole life and with no support. Fast forward to now, we have entered our fifties and she had to go back to work - as a car detailer - as her husband had heart surgery and let go of the company and took a less paying job to lessen stress. Also ability was hindered as well. She never lorded her money over me but she couldn’t understand when I would say I simply cannot afford to quit working or go on a trip etc things were easy for her until they weren’t. She has told her daughter to make her own way and do her thing and never give it up for a realationahip
@EllieofAzeroth4 ай бұрын
0:18 it's giving kidnapped. These are skits, right? They're probably skits but yikes
@iyasugames4 ай бұрын
I dated a girl who wanted to be a stay at home girlfriend. She made crafts that she sold on ebay, then played video games and watched tv for most of the day. After a year, she decided to go back to school. I don't think it's a long term solution for many people
@subwayfacemelt43254 ай бұрын
@K.C-2049 100% !!!
@Ryan-cb1ei4 ай бұрын
Not married and no kids, it’s the most ridiculous thing ever. As a man it’s clear they just want a free ride. Such a big red flag. Plus, they’re doomed to have no purpose and have a midlife crisis lol, just like you essentially said.
@M.Swigglez4 ай бұрын
@@Ryan-cb1eino it’s not. Not everyone makes their purpose having kids. With today’s prices many decided to not have kids, that’s better than seeing kids dead on the news cuz parents cuz fed up.
@Ryan-cb1ei4 ай бұрын
@@M.Swigglez I don’t think you understand what I said. I said there’s no point in being a stay at home GF or even a wife if you don’t have kids. That’s when it’s just a free ride, like what else are you even doing.
@Chloe-dv9ns3 ай бұрын
@@Ryan-cb1ei i dont think it's a free ride.. more like you become a pet of sorts. A woman is exchanging her independence and freedom for some leisurely time at home. i get why guys think this way, but do you really not see how incredibly imbalanced this dynamic is for the woman?
@angelinebiswas76114 ай бұрын
Also, where does it leave the woman once she’s 40 and realizes she has no retirement saved, no money of her own other than her husbands, etc… it’s a very rude awakening
@benatural13064 ай бұрын
This part! Missing out on years of compounding on retirement for your future.
@redjoker3654 ай бұрын
fr, if you want to be a stay-at-home-spouse, that's fine, but you need to insist on some serious safeguards, like the breadwinner's income gets split into 3 accounts: a joint household account that covers the bills and household purchases and the kids, and a personal allowance account for each spouse. The stay-at-home-spouse also gets money put into a spousal IRA at the same rate as the breadwinner spouse. If they have problems with that, don't give up your career, and I don't recommend marrying them at all. Especially don't do SAHGF because there's zero legal protections, unlike for a wife who has some minimal protections
@bageluserky2 ай бұрын
For me? It left me homeless with no job, friends or family and I lost everything I own. I’m still living in a shelter and it’s hell on earth. I can’t find work often bc I have an emotional support animal and the shelter requires that she stays either me at all times. I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get out this situation.
@flavialm14 ай бұрын
As the daughter of a stay at home mom, and that is now married eith children, and that still work, first thing my mom said to me when I got married, " don't leave yoir work, if you get pregnant I'll take care of your children so you can work, just have your money". My father was never abusive. The opposite of that, he is a tedy bear, but as my mom explained to me, when times are ruff, you can't help, that takes a toll on you, when you want to get something for your children or you, it comes down to how much your partner belives that is needed, you offend can't pick whatever you want because if is too expensive you have to eater convince him the difference is worthy or kust get a cheaper one. When you have your own money, you get the bills paid, and you can get whatever you want with the extra money, no explanations needed, that is freedom. Not to mention the constant fear off the partner leaving you, then you won't be able to just go back to the workplace as you been out for years, you would be luck to get something ober minimum weigh. It's better to stay in a job you hate and work to get a better one.
@baileymoran85854 ай бұрын
I remember friends with SAHMs who could never go on the field trip because they didn’t have the $30 fee. They wished they could take ballet and martial arts so I would teach them what I learned for free, in my back yard, as practice. If dad got hurt they were scared they would be homeless. I also unfortunately saw many examples where a woman who wasn’t working was being abused. My aunt was in that position. She left law school for her first husband and then one night, my dad and uncle had to drive several hours away to rescue her and bring her back to our house, when I was too young to understand. She finished school there and made sure she was the breadwinner, who owned the house, when she met her current husband. She retired early, in her mid-late 40s, but everything is in her name and my current uncle is the type that wouldn’t hurt s fly. People get a kick out of her telling them ‘no I am not a housewife. I had a very good penchant and made smart investments. But since I have a husband who appreciates me I might as well bake him a pie now and then.’
@sieriamist44674 ай бұрын
Seems nuts to me that you would be in constant fear of your partner leaving you. Why even get married to begin with?
@flavialm14 ай бұрын
@@sieriamist4467 That's the entire thing, this is a fear any stay at home mom has, because there's always the chance, doesn't matter how how will you get along, how much you love yourselves, how much you trust him. If you work and can support yourself, yeah you don't want your marriage to end, but you don't need that to live. Plus what happens if the husband gets in an accident, gets permanently disabled or pass away? Those are legit fears.
@jbb82614 ай бұрын
Nah, this isn’t it. Children need their mom. Not their grandmother raising them because of some weird paranoia mom has
@flavialm14 ай бұрын
@@jbb8261 They need their father to, both parents are equally important, but people don't go pressuring men to stop working
@Financiallyfreeauthor4 ай бұрын
Once you have kids that life of leisure is so over. Stay at home girlfriend is one thing, being a stay at home mom is a whole different animal.
@jenniferRainwaterАй бұрын
Yup! LoL
@prettybird3674 ай бұрын
The girl complaining about being bored could volunteer if she’s looking to find meaningful occupation. Only boring people are bored, she has the opportunity to do so much in the creative/charitable/self development spheres that most people never have the time or financial stability to. Staying home isnt the problem, being lazy and have an underdeveloped interior life is.
@Mariamk19954 ай бұрын
This. there are so many wonderful non profits I’d love to volunteer with if I had the time and energy, but working full time during normal business hours and commuting to and from the office make it impossible, unfortunately.
@amandaford87304 ай бұрын
YUP I'd like the *idea* of being a SAHG if only because it'll give me extra time to indulge in my hobbies and volunteer work.
@Z-ef1rr4 ай бұрын
YES!! I was just like her. Boredom leads to depression, then you get stuck and codependent on your partner. I finally snapped out of it and found my community and started volunteering.
@Mari-py9ne4 ай бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking, even if you don’t want to start new hobbies as she said, you can still do volunteer work, which would give you meaning, connection with other people, where you can build friendships etc. It’s such a privilege to be able to live without having to work, so I have like 0 sympathy for her when she said that she feels bored..
@SmallBobby4 ай бұрын
She's not bored, she's boring. She's the bore.
@BubbleGum-uc4rx4 ай бұрын
There was a girl on TikTok buying her own roses and flying herself out and telling the world she was being provided for them come to find out she was a travel nurse taking care of her boyfriend. It was all a lie
@dephitaputrimawardi9503Ай бұрын
wow...
@alien-rag-doll4 ай бұрын
So I actually have a lot to say about this topic I was with the guys for three years, I ended up getting pregnant and we had a baby I offered to do the stay at home, mom thing, especially since he had just got a really awesome promotion at his job. Long story short it was good for a while, but the power imbalance definitely made me uncomfortable and he became more and more controlling and when it came time that my daughter and I had to leave, I literally had nothing of my own. Even when I did work, I wasn’t able to put money away or for myself. He took that as me “having 1 foot out the door” I wouldn’t recommend this anybody unless they prefer being completely powerless
@dragoneyr16324 ай бұрын
It used to be that men gave the money to the woman for her to spend. He got the money, she got to spend it responsibly. Do you think if he would have done that, that it'd have made a difference?
@prettyglowin6944 ай бұрын
@@sieriamist4467 Most men are who to be "a bad mate". Better safe than sorry.
@EmilyWhite2013z4 ай бұрын
@@sieriamist4467 sometimes men fool their partners. I’ve never had it happen to me, but I’ve witnessed it happen in person. Where initially a man appears to be a loving kind person, and then years go by and they slowly morph into an abusive monster unrecognizable from the initial person. We need to stop victim blaming. Just like a frog would jump out of a boiling pot, if an abusive person showed their colors immediately most people wouldn’t enter into a relationship with them. The slow descent into abuse is how they keep their victims from realizing how terrible their situation is.
@dragoneyr16324 ай бұрын
@@prettyglowin694 Most men *That women choose to say yes to having a relationship with or more
@prettyglowin6944 ай бұрын
@@dragoneyr1632 it depends on the woman's standards. A woman may choose to give a man a chance and then leaves when she realizes it was a mistake, and another woman rarely gives any man a chance due to her high expectations. I think more and more women globally are choosing the latter these days. A lot of women would rather be single cat ladies than with a man that's not right for them. For most men on the other hand, they would rather be with a woman they don't want than none at all....at least he gets sex, companionship, someone to cook and clean for him and oh ...pay 50/50 too. if I were a man I would rather "settle" for a woman I didn't want as well. Women have nothing to gain from settling since we are used to doing everything independently anyways.
@flohough18704 ай бұрын
Thank you for making this video and pointing out that these women ARE making their own money, just not in a traditional way. I'm currently a SAHW but that was after working 30 years! I have my own money, retirement, etc. For the most part, it's totally unrealistic.
@teschchr1224 ай бұрын
When I was younger I stayed home with my kids for several years, hardest job I ever had! Once our youngest was eight I started my career. Now I’m 62 and unfortunately home because of illness but my husband has been there the whole time. I feel very lucky
@karenmassey83544 ай бұрын
How did you meet your husband and what drew you to him and him to you?
@sieriamist44674 ай бұрын
You are lucky and so are your children.
@HappyTraditionalWife3 ай бұрын
@@sieriamist4467Anyone can do it..unless you have a man that won’t allow you to fullfill your dreams
@mollytaylor21224 ай бұрын
To me it's really striking how many elements of the old-school stay-at-home-women scenario have been stripped away. I could totally see this being fulfilling if you had young children you were caring for, and neighbor friends in similar situations to visit with, and family in town, and you worked in your garden every day, and had chickens and a goat to tend to, and had a side hustle doing weaving to sell at the village market. But they don't.
@ubiquitousflow4 ай бұрын
I think everyone wants to feel taken care of. Who doesn't dream of a good vacation or staycation? The problem I have with the SAHG content I've seen is how selfish/small it all seems. With all the wealth in time, they never volunteer if they're bored. It's all wrapped up in doing things or buying what they couldn't afford on their own
@ifeoluwaogunkola83284 ай бұрын
I agree. I think I love nice things, but at 22 years old, I’ve already come to the conclusion that these things do not lead to a life of happiness. A fulfilling life is not one that only consists of vapid, mindless pursuits. When you are in this isolated state of being you begin to wonder “why does my life matter?”. The subconscious begins to pick up on that fact that if everything is done for the self and the self only, no goals, no drives, no deep fulfilling life long relationships, life becomes very empty, which then leads to depression, because to an extent, your greatest fear is likely true.
@tiedtruth10714 ай бұрын
@@ifeoluwaogunkola8328good for you figuring that out so young, i was 35 and had a ton of stuff but little purpose. Embrace the desire to remain humble and willingness to participate in things greater than ego.
@LotusesGalaxyOcean4 ай бұрын
Yes, you would never see one of them learn to tile a mosaic or craft stained glass and then do a massive piece for free for public use as a public service. They have no interest in anything usually than lazy consumerism or things that appear aesthetic. You can use resources and time flexibility in all sorts of marvelous ways that are meaningful. They are just boring and lazy. Audrey Hepburn spent that later parts of her life doing philanthropic work and that sort of person is such a contrast to this.
@teremertz4 ай бұрын
@@LotusesGalaxyOcean I do wonder how much of their vapid boredom is played up for social media. I am pretty sure they have a much fuller day than portrayed
@subwayfacemelt43254 ай бұрын
@@teremertz Maybe they're just dumb? Stupid is as stupid does? I don't know anymore, I just found out Forrest Gump wasn't a documentary (sadface)...
@ke62644 ай бұрын
This was never attainable to like 90% of women because most boyfriends are not gonna pay for their girlfriend to just sit around all day and do nothing but drink coffee and journal and exercise
@emmatessier6002 ай бұрын
I can imagine that some of the boyfriends in these situations have the complimentary desire to be a "provider" even when there are no kids involved, but a lot more are being taken advantage of (like Caitlin said happened to her...). Guys need to say no to this unless it makes them happy and not just vicariously
@Maialeen2 ай бұрын
It's not available to even more than that. These are influencers making money online by lying. They aren't gonna be penniless.
@jvc89472 ай бұрын
They will pay for wives and their children to do it. Sometimes the old way is the better way. You just have to pick the right partner and be on the same page.
@Maialeen29 күн бұрын
@@jvc8947 A man can leave, the marriage can go sour, you may want to leave but you are left trapped, something can happen to him. Women need their own money. That's the end of it.
@kyliewakeley2014 ай бұрын
The thought of this terrifies me. Not having my own independence is not something I could ever give up, no matter how “in love” I was. Scares me for these girls that they’re so wrapped up in someone else, how do they survive when it inevitably comes crashing down. 😞 Ladies!! Always have your own money and know how to look after yourself!!
@yourancientancestorАй бұрын
I knowww even just logistically it gives me panic like the concept of relying on another person sounds suicidally stupid to me
@caltheantirobot2 ай бұрын
One of my first jobs was with a temp company and there were a lot of women that were also working there because they had 20+ year gaps in their resume and suddenly needed to work. It made a big impression on me. My brother is a software engineer and his wife doesn't work. I know he has a huge life insurance policy in case anything ever happens to him and is very devoted to his wife. Another one of my first jobs was at a mental health non-profit. I asked everyone who had been around a long time how they managed given the intense work (and wages so low that they qualified us for social programs) and all of them had rich husbands and would just stop working or move to part time whenever it got too much. I think this is also why a lot of rich men's wives work in non-profits, volunteer, etc, just to have something to do (also feel like this is a factor that drives down wages but that's a different rant.)
@Hakumokuren4 ай бұрын
I tried the stay-at-home girlfriend lifestyle (went on holiday for a few days to weeks). It's nice if it was just occasional but not a lifestyle for someone such as me. Experiencing complete dependence feels hollow and deepens the insecurity. The lifestyle feels like being someone's assistant 24/7 with a sense of fear for my future if my partner left me. It works for some people, and I am happy for them, but if it's out there on social media, it makes me question whether the wanted attention is just to fill a void.
@bluevillsplash4 ай бұрын
Yes. Filling voids
@laridion79014 ай бұрын
Btw, staying home or working a job you hate are not the only options for a person.... find a job you LIKE. 🎉👍
@juliveg4 ай бұрын
The woman who is “bored” is choosing to be bored. She admits she’s just lazy. She’s financially well off enough to make that choice. I think most of us would love for being bored all day if we feel like to even be an option. She could also save a lot of money quickly and ensure her independence that way.
@no.63774 ай бұрын
The human condition is a bit weird. Being bored for extended periods of time is actually painful for most people, hence why most of us are addicted to our phones. 😅😅
@Tati.Kurzboeck4 ай бұрын
That was also, what bothered me. This woman has no hobbies, at all. No wonder, she´s bored out of her wits.
@subwayfacemelt43254 ай бұрын
@@no.6377 Indeed, rats would prefer to shock themselves with electricity, than sit in a cage with nothing to do. I'm pretty sure they self-delete somehow with the electric shock machine.
@cniknik98633 ай бұрын
@@no.6377 yes. Hasn't 2020 quarantine taught us nothing. Hobbies, activities, keeping up socialization with real life people, exercise etc. These are the things that keep us sane.
@jynclr4 ай бұрын
Am I one of a few women who DON'T want a man to "take care of" my "every" need? Listen, NO ONE can be your "everything."
@cloudmist264 ай бұрын
Same here lol Every time i hear a CC talk about how women are 'biologically wired' to want a man to take care of them I'm like, welp, I guess I'm not a real woman then 😅
@projectjupiter55233 ай бұрын
yeah lol i don't want that and have never thought about it 😂 tbh i'm gay so unless i give up on love, a man literally cannot be everything i want/need
@emmatessier6002 ай бұрын
I wonder why Caitling mentions her experience of having been "taken advantage of financially" and then doesn't go into the fact that some of the women pursuing this (being "taken care of financially") are also looking to take advantage of some young man.
@roxyhart56924 ай бұрын
I hate the notion that "everybody hates their job". I like my job. A lot. It's not my dream job, but it's fun. Would I rather come and go on times I'd like, be able to sleep in etc? Sure, yeah. But that doesn't make me hate THE WORK itself. If it's true that most people hate their jobs, that's sad. I've worked with many different things in my life, including retail, and had a lot of fun.
@kayellejay96084 ай бұрын
I agree. I like my job. There are some difficult parts of it (I'm a teacher), but i enjoy it. I think a lot more people are indifferent toward their jobs, than actually hate it. We are just taught that careers are supposed to be our childhood dreams come true, when for some people they are really just a way to earn money.
@krng27123 ай бұрын
I second this: Too much negativity of "everyone hates their job". I almost feel that individuals who feel this way very strongly need to find a new mental/emotional approach or drive on life. What makes one think this way? It's too presumptuous to think everyone thinks so. (To note, this may not apply to those who are unfortunately stuck due to unlucky unforeseen circumstances; i.e. stuck at a subpar job due to location of spouse's career; need to support a sick/disabled family member and can only work subpar job, etc. Then sure it's understandable. But this still shouldn't make one sour and assume that's the circumstance/feeling of another.)
@rubydefelice30344 ай бұрын
If you’re bored, you’re boring! Volunteer and give back, mentor someone, build your friggin skillset (learn a language, learn to cook, learn how to garden, learn how to code, learn business, learn about history)
@Onyx-Rose1504 ай бұрын
I was kinda thinking the same, but there is the aspect of men that would want an actual SAHG often have a tendency to be controlling. I mean the ones that are working with social media probably aren't in that situation, but women just commenting are likely to be. That's the paradox. The visible SAHGs that are bored should go volunteer, the invisible ones may be afraid to lose their only support even if it's a subconcious/repressed fear.
@brigittebazel27544 ай бұрын
I know for myself I feel much more sane when I’m being productive. I’m lucky enough to work part time but when I have too many days off I start to feel less mentally healthy.
@MeOhMeYNot2 ай бұрын
I wish I had time to be bored. I’ve simply too many passions and hobbies (on top of my work, the chores etc) to find a moment to be bored 😩
@missnars874 ай бұрын
I think if you’re self motivated it’s an amazing lifestyle. I would go back and do my masters, I’d volunteer and do charity work, I love cooking so I’d do some cooking classes, grow my own vegetables, workout; spend lots of time with elderly family members helping them… My days would be packed!
@LotusesGalaxyOcean4 ай бұрын
Agreed. I think that sort of thing is the point!
@justinaacorn57214 ай бұрын
You will have to justify your existence! Your partner will expect you to do certain things for them and be available so doubtful if you can just take random trips, education and he pays for it all...who will keep the home?
@LotusesGalaxyOcean4 ай бұрын
@@justinaacorn5721 Google the hourly wage of: a babysitter, tutor, personal assistant, cook, housekeeper, publicist and so on…. Add it up and it is a shocking number. And several of those things that women tend to do for men have zero to do with a house at all. Not to mention that is not an exhaustive list. It only becomes justifying your existence if accommodations for your financial well being are not the norm from day one. If you are going to be at home and doing “unpaid labor” then he should be depositing monthly into a retirement and an investment account under your name. The actual tea is that many men who want to get married cannot actually afford to do so. And I am not being snobby about corporate jobs. There are blue collar men who run their own small companies that make absurdly good money. There was one thing that I considered in my calculations that shifted my views to this. I calculated how much around the clock care from a nurse was. I thought of all the things that it actually is important to be able to afford it would be that for medical emergencies. Most men could not because that is not the goal they have financially. And that is not what I would call acceptable. To me this is not about a luxury car or trip to paris, but having certain resources on tap.
@giseleb78074 ай бұрын
People say all of these things because they’ve never been in this position before. Lets wait to see what you’ll do when you’re a SAHG 😉
@sheh.91634 ай бұрын
Until he starts monopolizing all your time, men like that tend to want to control your time so that you have no time for anything but catering to him
@Alchemyandco4 ай бұрын
I am a stay at home daughter 😂 I’m 26 now. I have spent my twenties “finding myself “ and self- development. I went to college and am now going back to college in a career I’m interested in after my business failed. But mostly I have just been incredibly bored and wasted time I could’ve used to develop my career and also my dad had hoped I’d be married to wealthy guy by now. Being dependent on someone strips you of your power. I’m so glad I woke up early enough to be independent because imagine if I got married then regretted it later when he leaves me for the new hot 24 year old 😢
@taythemay44514 ай бұрын
I'm a “housewife” on unemployment because I got laid off, and my new job doesn't start till August. I'm just enjoying the boredom. I'm too broke to go anywhere. But I couldn't do this forever; I'd go crazy. I'm worried about when we have kids. I am afraid of sending my kids to daycare because I was abused as a child. So I know I'll stop working until my child is old enough to advocate for themselves. But at least I'll be busy with kids. I married a reasonable man so I think I'll be okay. Fingers crossed. Right now I'm looking at my boredom as a luxury for sure because I know it has an endpoint.
@benatural13064 ай бұрын
You can still work part time while taking care of your babies to prevent gaps in employment. This will protect you and your children (just in case).
@Financiallyfreeauthor4 ай бұрын
You will absolutely not be bored once you have kids to care for! It's a very engrossing and full time job for sure.
@HerWanderlust2 ай бұрын
There’s so much…You could build your own business, learn a craft or do art, build a garden…💞
@petiteange08Ай бұрын
You can still work part time or volunteer, so you keep your skills fresh for when your kids are older. Some women I know are unable to return to the same position as they used to have before maternity leave because they have employment gap. Anyway I hope everything works out for you in the futur when you do have kids!
@SereneQueen114 ай бұрын
Growing up, my mum always told me “NEVER rely on a man. Focus on education, skills. So you can be financially independent even in marriage”. My ex was wealthy and we had fun, but I didn’t have power in that relationship
@dlilwon4 ай бұрын
The Haylee Baylee/Kalil one is actually a parody skit. Her content mocks SAHGs. Just an FYI
@user-nn9bk4ur3x4 ай бұрын
Nah, I could not. I actually enjoy my job, the money i make and my independence As a divorced woman i know the value of all the above. Lets talk about your necklaces Beautiful Where are they from? Love them all ❤
@XPrincess304 ай бұрын
What job do you do?
@abundance12324 ай бұрын
Social media in general is one big lie. Chew the meat and spit out the bones. It’s all content and all content is entertainment. Period.
@longlongie59384 ай бұрын
If you're so bored that you view job as an entertainment, something is deeply wrong with you.
@livwake4 ай бұрын
I work full time and I view a lot of chores as entertaining, or at least better than sitting around all day especially since you get a sense of achievement
@longlongie59384 ай бұрын
@@livwake been there, enjoyed certain chores on my shitty job because they were more bearable than the others. Was later diagnosed with heavy psychotic depression.
@livwake4 ай бұрын
@@longlongie5938 been there done that already on antidepressants lol
@coolchameleon214 ай бұрын
forreal 😂 can’t relate
@kassandrarodriguez80573 ай бұрын
I believe anyone who is bored doesn't realize how much there is out there to learn....it is a luxury to be "bored"
@Shomig994 ай бұрын
I was a spoilt Daddy's girl growing up. He bought me my first car and paid my rent for the first couple of years after I moved out. But I've never accepted money from a man or looked to a man to support me. My dad always told me that he'll support me till I could support myself so I would never be beholden to a man. I'm now in my 40's and my dad hasn't supported me for a couple of decades now, but I've never needed a man financially.
@RachelJayne924 ай бұрын
I’ve been very sick, and on and off work for years at a time for over a decade. (I have multiple sclerosis, as well as other things). Being forced to stay home 24/7 is horrendously boring, even if you are asleep a lot of the time. Now that I am currently able bodied, I couldn’t imagine doing that voluntarily for a long period of time. I’d have to get a part time job, or volunteer (if money wasn’t something I needed).
@92ChatNoir924 ай бұрын
Being a stay-at-home girlfriend must be a very lonely existence
@seltzermint5Ай бұрын
I know a woman who is a a "SAHW" no kids...she was an attorney who retired at 41 and her life seems really boring. She hangs out with other retired women who are 60+ and not to sound ageist (which I may, sorry, I'm almost 50 myself) but I feel like you can only get so many lattes and go for so many fitness walks and Pilates classes...just not my vibe in my 40s!
@gial5338Күн бұрын
I think it depends. I mean, not because the trend sais "stay at home" means that you don't go outside in your free time to go yo the gym, or go to the store, or hang out with friens at the end of the day, talk with your neighbors. If you really don't get out of your house at anymonent, that's worrying, in that case I would think that you were kidnapped by your partner and that he doesn't let you go out for any reason.
@kimvilleneuve25434 ай бұрын
I would work a job I hate. I have been married for 39 years and I have my own money and bank account. Along with a joint account with my husband. Independence is a great feeling.
@seltzermint5Ай бұрын
I agree. I'm on my second marriage (11 yrs so far) and very happy but I love my independence so much. When my first marriage ended (9 yrs) it was so nice to just move in separate directions with very little stress or tension, having my own income and everything. For me it is also a big factor that I've always been childfree by choice.
@LadyDeutza4 ай бұрын
The girl who is bored is because she has no real interests or passions of her own. Other people would actually do something with that time or ENJOY relaxing and watching shows, playing video games, etc.
@autumnvelvet4 ай бұрын
Technically, I am a SAHG but im on a disability pension. I pay what i can towards rent and other bills. Its definitely not glamourous, like influencers like to make it out to be.
@RachelJayne924 ай бұрын
That’s a hard life. Hope you’re okay. ♥️ Being at home on a disability pension, or just sick and unable to work, is so much harder than people think it is.
@igeorgoudi4 ай бұрын
I hope your condition is stable and you are in not so much pain.
@AerynKDesigns4 ай бұрын
I agree, as as SAHW whose disability pension was denied :( Not glamourous, but it's a life for sure.
@coolchameleon214 ай бұрын
i’m currently trying to get on disability because i can’t sustain employment, not even part time. it terrifies me to be reliant on the government for such a small amount of money. i wish i could handle working full time. a lot of people think that living on disability is some free-for-all, luxurious lifestyle..but it’s the opposite. i wish i could work
@igeorgoudi4 ай бұрын
@@coolchameleon21 I can totally agree with you that relying on the governement(s) is frightening even in my country. Whoever thinks that disabled people live lavishly or in luxury might as well confuse them with lazy people. Lazy people have choices but refuse and if they can afford it sure they could as such and we shoudln't judge them. But, disability is not a choice and it is long term.... and governments spend if not zero very little money to help them. I hope your living codntions imrpove
@absolutelyridiculous67434 ай бұрын
Hear me out...why can't people like the woman who earns 4k for a post go out into her community and volunteer? Why stay home and be bored? Give back! It's also fantastic content. Win win.
@Chelseabee554 ай бұрын
It makes me sad that she just sits there and watches TV most of the day. If I could be a SATG I would spend so much time volunteering and working on my hobbies/interests. This sounds like her mental health is going to suffer if it isn’t already
@tashakayden24344 ай бұрын
Exactly. Staying home doesn’t mean to stifle your growth.
@tagzntoons2 ай бұрын
She’s a loser to just sit there and watch tv all day. Her choice her mental health is trash
@nomnomnom2984 ай бұрын
Grew up in really toxic household where there were constant fights and arguments as far as I can remember. Got physical and scary at times. But neither parent could afford to separate because needed both incomes to have roof over our heads. Growing up in that, all I ever wanted was to be completely independent and be able to support myself no matter what so that I would never find myself in a situation like my parents. And that’s what I focused on. Never dreamed of anyone else taking care of me because learned from very early on that that can be a trap. Nope, no thank you. And best part of this is that when I choose to be in a relationship, it is because I want to and not because I need to. Makes me appreciate my relationship more.
@Myownboss354 ай бұрын
I understand it if a married wife/mom with young children wanted to be a stay at home mom but being a stay at home girlfriend is just lazy.
@KanezaMac4 ай бұрын
I was a stay at home wife for six months when we moved to our first home. I was looking for a new job then. I finally got a full time remote job and omg! It feels soooo good to be back to work! That $&@! Was booorrriinnggg. I would rather atleast work part time than nothing at all. Seeing money come in my bank account feels too good to let go of. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very blessed to have a husband holding us down but we’re a team and I wanted to contribute too. Also, I’m not stupid 👀 you NEVER know ladies! Oh! And another thing! All of my friends were working so I didn’t get out much! One of them said I could come over and watch her work lol but… 😬
@sarahwales62764 ай бұрын
I cannot relate to people who are bored at home. There is so much to do, I don't have enough time in my life to everything I would want to do, I'm flat out from morning until night at home, I can't understand people who are bored if they're not working for someone else.
@KanezaMac4 ай бұрын
@@sarahwales6276 I guess it’s because we don’t have kids yet. Were D.I.N.K.S. As the kids say lol
@happilieverholli99944 ай бұрын
@@sarahwales6276 💯
@sarahwales62764 ай бұрын
@KanezaMac Neither do I, I would struggle to find the time.
@RatsPicklesandMusic4 ай бұрын
Part of the reason I'd love to drop from my full-time (40 hr) job is because I want to become a photographer. But getting to that goal while working full-time is... Damn near impossible-feeling... I don't want to do nothing. I want to do something I want to do...
@rubigee43974 ай бұрын
This is in line with the “Trad Wife” trend. There was a woman on TT who was “trad wife” and was left with NOTHING after her husband left her.
@psychedelicpegasus75874 ай бұрын
Quite a few of those trad wives have spread white supremacist, racist rubbish. I think the person you're talking about also has this background. No sympathy, really.
@olgaabuz6276Ай бұрын
What was her tt name?
@Fashionarily4 ай бұрын
Not going to lie. I’m starting to get bored too but coming from years of constant hustle culture, I cherish the boredom. Been living this SAHG life for 4 years. I do not create content about it or anything like that. I just live my life. Since I seem to be getting bored, I’m going to learn 3 languages. Starting with Spanish. I’m older with years of military service, an extensive work history in healthcare, and a software engineer. I needed a break nonetheless. I would only suggest this life if your partner is paying you a salary weekly and you have developed a work history with critical skills should you need to jump back into work.
@sarahwales62764 ай бұрын
I can't fathom that concept, there is so much to do in life! I have horses so that may be why but I have so many interests that I can't pursue because I am so busy.
@Fashionarily4 ай бұрын
@@sarahwales6276 I hear you and totally see your point of view. I lived such a chaotic life and accomplished so many cool things. In my lifetime I’ve lived about 6 different lives already by the age of 37. No lie…😂 So to go from doing everything under the sun to completely slowing down and taking it easy, it can seem somewhat boring because my nervous system is so used to being overwhelmed. Maybe bored is not a good word to use in my case because like you mentioned, I also have so many interests and I do pursue them. But because I’m not stressed out while doing them, it seems “boring.”
@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult4 ай бұрын
Yeah but these young women are in their 20s with very little work experience. They'll have a rude awakening yrying to go back to the workforce.
@Fashionarily4 ай бұрын
@@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult Yes you are correct. That’s why I would only suggest doing this if one has critical or specialized skills AND get paid a weekly salary from their partner. No exceptions. If none of that applies, do not do this. Period
@fishiemittens4 ай бұрын
In the early 2000s, MTV had a doc, "I'm dating someone older". There was a model in her 2os dating a millionaire in his late 40s. She ended up talking about how lonely it was all the time and how they barely spent any time together. Rarely ever ate dinner together. He would get home late all the time and be grumpy, then want to go right to bed when she wanted to go out. They eventually split up. I remember at 18 thinking it seemed very glamorous and I wished I had that life, but at the same time, it seemed so boring and lonely and sad.
@BethVonBlack4 ай бұрын
Most of those TikTok videos were created purely as clickbait (be under no illusion - these women earn plenty of their own money being content creators) I'm a stay at home wife (we are childfree) and I cannot work while we're living abroad in Dubai - it's been two years of not having any income of my own (I was on disability benefits back home in the UK - I paid towards some household bills - and so had some money of my own) and it's absolutely miserable. For two years I've had to ask to buy things with my husband's salary. It's utterly soul-destroying. Fair enough if you're lucky enough to be with a rich man who can send you an allowance or whatever, but we don't have that luxury. Back home I sold foot pictures on the side as a way to bring in 'pocket money' so I could buy bits of makeup or a pair of shoes. I NEED some form of independence, or I'll go mad. Here in Dubai, I go to the apartment building's gym 4 times a week, I can't leave the apartment because it's too hot (Dubai) and everything costs a fortune here - I watch A LOT of KZbin. Being a SAHW is miserable in the long run and I doubt many people would be loving that life after a few months. I would never choose to be a SAH girlfriend - security (one of Laslow's highest needs) is the one thing we all need and we know how insecure relationships are. I pity any woman who is fool-enough to rest her security on a boyfriend. Husband, perhaps, but boyfriend? Absolutely not.
@baileymoran85854 ай бұрын
I’m on SSDI. Now I work for myself part time now, in accordance to what I am capable of doing, but for two years I was dealing with surgeries and PT, learning to walk again. Nobody prepared me for how much it sucks having to ask someone to buy you something. I have never looked down on someone else for being in need and being incapable of paying their way for various circumstances. But it’s so ingrained in society to earn your right to exist, and do so with labor and money, that you judge yourself when financially relying on others becomes a necessity. I felt guilty for it, especially since I couldn’t do much for a lot of it. I truly felt like I had no right to live in my own house that we bought when I was the breadwinner in our relationship. When I asked how I could possibly earn my keep my husband said ‘you woke up from the coma when the doctors said you had a 10% chance of survival. Your heart stopped 3 times and you are learning to walk again, when you were expected not to. You earned your right to be anywhere you want.’ It hit me, and not in the sentimental personal sense. It made me mad that we cannot even nearly die without worrying about being a burden. Meanwhile plenty of people who do work and earn money are a burden in some way. Unpleasant and toxic people who make everyone else’s life harder for being in it exist, and while we may vent about them or do our best to avoid them, or even cut them out of our lives, they never get labeled as burdensome. Just rude, argumentative, selfish, or difficult. But the moment you cannot earn your keep with a job and money, you get shit for it. Every day I think of saying ‘fuck of’ and going back to work full time against doctor’s orders just because the western world doesn’t teach us how to feel valuable unless we are working and paying taxes.
@sunnybonkozz5284 ай бұрын
As a foreigner, how social are the people in Dubai?
@QCL20234 ай бұрын
You sold feet pics for “bits of makeup”? Eek. 😟
@tjaspire4 ай бұрын
@QCL2023 Yeah, that was weird. Girl, get some professional skills. 😂
@gia67214 ай бұрын
Why didn’t you work even back in the UK? I get you might have a disability (??) based on what you have said, but many jobs are disability friendly or you can even have a part time work from home type of job. Selling feet pics to be able to afford makeup sounds absolutely miserable to willingly live like that, so I’m genuinely curious
@GaryThaSnail7772 ай бұрын
I have been a SAHM for 4 years. Before that i worked every day a full time job. I just went back to work a week ago and now my husband stays home because of an injury. It was EXTREMELY isolating at times. I didnt have family or friends that would come visit or even call most times. I got really depressed at times. I was so beyond grateful to be able to be with my babies and not have to put them through daycare or anything and im not saying it was all bad AT ALL. but i did lose myself i dont know who I anymore or what I want or what i like to do. But im hoping i find me again someday soon.
@yo-314 ай бұрын
Cannot stand this type of video even if it is sarcastic, fake... etc
@wadana21164 ай бұрын
Having your own will always be undefeated. So many of these stay at home gfs only show the pluses and not the negatives. You are beholden to the whims of your partners. Hopefully these sugar babies are being productive with their free time or saving money.
@michellewasthere4 ай бұрын
Many of us know nothing of how it feels to be provided for. We're the ones working 65hrs/wk in thankless lower paying jobs in toxic corp America. Mentally physically exhausted. That's my world anyway. 😆 Hats off to all who have better options! 🍻
@ashleylaurenmarie4 ай бұрын
I like a happy medium. My mom was a single mom and my grandmother was a stay at home mother so I've seen both ends of the spectrum. I seen the pros and cons of both lifestyles. I've been hyper independent my whole life because that's how my mom raised me but now I'm a stay at home wife. My husband started a business specifically for me so I can work "for him" but I'm basically his boss because he has no organizational skills which is absolutely necessary for our business. So it's a way for me to keep my independence while also not having to run myself into the ground working for someone else.
@wilson89794 ай бұрын
And also, I can bet you all these woman who are in the position come from a family with money, you don’t just stumble on a rich man out of thin air. You need connections to be in that position. My advice to these young woman is to have their own income in some way. Work in some way, have an education and spend time on building relationships that are not centered on your boyfriend. You need a support system when things don’t work out. Do not have kids ladies. That is what will trap you. You will end up struggling as a single mom
@nosiphodywili354 ай бұрын
Hayley being included here is honestly a joke.
@zed30634 ай бұрын
The one saying she’s bored and too lazy to do anything about it is so so irritating.
@happilieverholli99944 ай бұрын
Why? Everyone is different. At least she’s self aware. You get one life. You might as well live it the way you want.
@Chloe__________xx4 ай бұрын
Why? It’s actually the core of adhd. Difficultly starting the things we need to. Some people really struggle with it.
@LotusesGalaxyOcean4 ай бұрын
She is choosing to have an empty unfulfilling life. That is her choice and no one is stopping her from changing it. Yes, I agree irritating indeed. She could be volunteering or learning new interesting things. She lacks discipline.
@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult4 ай бұрын
I disagree with Caitlin, I don't think she was being honest, I think she was gloating. Most SAHW spend most of their days doing housework,.not being bored.
@giseleb78074 ай бұрын
No one is here to live for you and your standards. If she doesn’t want to do anything, why do you care? Its giving jealousy
@riri9453Ай бұрын
I was a stay at home mom for a few years and I was never bored. Dropped off the kids, went to the gym, went out for lunch with the girls then picked up the kids. Cooked dinner and stayed at home in the evening. I wasn’t waiting for my husband to come home. Loved it