How much Do Japanese Girls Cheat?

[@takashiifromjapan]

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[@cindymmm11]

Why ask people questions in Tokyo. Ask questions in fukuyama , Matsuyama or smaller cities. It bring the beautiful culture of Japan.

[@nhdj964]

この動画を作った目的はなんなのでしょう？

[@Maj33y1]

Thank you Takashii San !! I made a mistake before >< so i correct it now hihi

[@Guilherme.Soares.96]

So Going To A Brothel Is Not Crossing The Line But Not Letting Them Know Is ?

[@prescottosegie]

Ima check out this Tokyo guide takashii I appreciate the information

[@_mariochristopher]

It would be interesting if you asked these questions to women outside of Tokyo in smaller cities or in the countryside.

[@LukasVokrinek]

My thoughts as well.

[@Chazzmatazz]

It's been suggested by several Japanese posters in other videos that this is very much a Tokyo thing.

[@j5679]

Wouldn't get my hopes up honestly.

[@sepp0]

@@Chazzmatazz A lot of the negative parts of Japan are inflated in Tokyo compared to the rest of Japan

[@juanpAAA2059]

True

[@iiizeroiii1636]

I think the reason this guy is the best interviewer is cause he's respectful and doesn't get in peoples faces and make them feel uncomfortable. Brilliant interview technique imo.

[@Anon999-qk3ue]

Yeah he's a breath of fresh air from the typical bullshit cringe you see on Tiktok and stuff nowadays

[@gothxm]

I love that classic school of journalism/reporting media before we got these modern adjective-laden monstrosities.

[@gothxm]

​@@giannilyanicks1718lmfao why is that relevant to the original comment?

[@Jurarigo]

Yes, he's also very non judgamental. He may show surprise with some answers, but don't judge the interviewee for them.

[@Neonlight.]

@@gothxm people just spamming in every comment thread

[@tio38236]

To explain a bit: the term used in the video for 'cheating' is '浮気' in Japanese. 浮気 means 'in love with another one', that's why some of them think prostitution is not 浮気 as it does not include emotional feeling to the prostitute. There is another term in Japanese that has similar meaning, which is '不倫'. 不倫 means 'having sex with another one', but Takashii did not use this word because 不倫 is a term that is only used on people who are married (which most of the interviewees are obviously unmarried). Therefore, there is no such exact word that can perfectly match the term 'cheating' in Japanese as in English.

[@galoreinoso]

Damn, Japanese cheating "culture", for lack of a better word, is so complex they even have two words for cheating.

[@xoFoCuSox]

Thanks for the clarification!

[@abcdefghilihgfedcba]

Yeah no that meaning of uwaki seems completely made up to me. Never heard that before.

[@Joopis]

Okay wait, sorry kinda unrelated, but maybe you can help me figure this out. When they were saying yes and no, were they saying "wake" "wakejanai"? What is the kanji for this?

[@peite7878]

Isn't 浮気 more meaning 'fleeting force' -the force of horniness and/or feeling of love that leads people to be infidel? That's how I have always thought about it

[@NinhDung1215]

It's hard for me to understand why someone would feel okay with cheating. Cheating goes against my values, and it's a reflection of their character. In my culture, people who cheat are looked down upon

[@leonhart110_]

Agreed.

[@daifoc]

Yeah I agree with you. But lets think: Isn't that their society has accepted that everyone is free to have a porn actor mindset? Like look at most p actors, they can have a partner and it's ok as long as there aren't feelings for their job partners. Is the same for these actors or is it different? Like I really wonder if its just that, normalized in a society (Overall Tokyo)

[@MckieDs595]

Understand that the world is massive. Your culture isn’t the only one on the planet, nor should you be expecting them to have the same values as your culture.

[@Tiger_cat92]

I respect you sir. Cheating is the enemy of true love relationships. Nowadays, only gentle high status families have true love relationships end with marriage.

[@kpez3810]

@plantedfood4901people in the east saying the exact same thing rn LOL

[@DarkChocolate325]

"Don't cheat on me, just go to a brothel. As long as you pay, it's fine." A COMPLETELY different society over there...

[@elmalanmalan2175]

People don't pay for Love

[@RadenWA]

@@elmalanmalan2175they pay for lust.

[@Xynic48]

Japan has a history of prostitution, like the Oiran or even Geisha to some extent But that girl's opinion definitely dont reflect everyone's. Many do see it as cheating.

[@sckb4]

maybe she worked both sides from experience

[@nsglcck]

It’s ok if you’re in a competition with your boss. 😂

[@filchijap]

When I was living in Japan, I’ve been told by many Japanese friends that Tokyo is the worst place in Japan for them. When I asked why, they said the stress and quality of life is the worst. Also they said Tokyo could be a very materialistic place compared with many other parts of Japan. I guess if we interview people in Los Angeles compared with interviewing people from Hawaii or Pennsylvania, the answers might vary greatly.

[@joeb4142]

Good point.

[@M.Đ-z4u]

We talking bout Japan not fucking America

[@MrPenguin4538]

Yeah I was in Aichi and it was extremely different. Nagoya had mostly gothic fashion but where I lived was like super refined or whatever you want to call it. All the girls dressed up always

[@Wingnut353]

@luvl1344 the same thing happens with political polling certain groups of people pretty much just don't answer polls.

[@laufcra]

@luvl1344 Are you trying to say that its a selection bias? As in, the kind of women that would answer this person's questions are the kind of women who would admit to cheating?

[@Some_Guy_87]

Takashii single-handedly destroying everyone's illusions about Japan. :D

[@Lipurshan]

Thank God

[@qtaro-7097]

me after watching all those wholesome romantic shoujo animes: So that was a fucking Lie

[@Yami69]

Not if you want to go to Japan to sleep with a lot of japanese girls.

[@kopanoelnkitsengmatlala1687]

i am just as hurt thought the culture is still familly oriented and shames such behaviors

[@BBFunimation]

yup but atleast we know the truth

[@gregkisinger9142]

I'm an American and this is the fifth video I've seen of yours and it's very interesting. Thank you for sharing this information and please thank your participants for sharing.

[@dreadogastusf3548]

The answer that made me laugh most. "Who cheats more, men or women?" "Women are better at hiding it." She did not say yes or no. She seemed to mean, ~You won't know, if we do cheat~

[@a_mes1772]

It could be that men don’t put as much effort into hiding it 😂 not that I think either statement is true

[@letgo4331]

Women naturally have more options than majority of men, that means more possible temptation. I see guys defending cheating and saying "men are only as loyal as their options" without realizing the average attractive woman has a ton of options.

[@lordfarquaad1701]

@@letgo4331yup.

[@gregmasters8558]

@@letgo4331 women only have options until they hit the expiration date. That is why you see powerful rich old men with like 20 of these useless beautiful women in their prime getting used of their bodies full potential.

[@spawncampe]

It's hard to know statistics if they're hidden

[@tommasiello]

The level of nuanced insight into Japanese culture has been incredible. There is so much more that we non-Japanese folk will ever see or know. Thank you so much Takashi-san.

[@TAREEBITHETERRIBLE]

*N YAH DAT TAKASHII-DESU, **_WAKARIMASKA??_*

[@RobertTaylor-gz2fu]

7:35 - As long as you pay, it's fine!

[@vifcoz]

Recently, foreign men have been discriminated against by Japanese people. It seems that all foreigners are discriminated against, but especially among ASEAN and South Asians who are short, poor, dark-skinned, and weak in sports, some commit suicide.

[@jeremiahgrayest]

​@@vifcozsource??

[@giannilyanicks1718]

don't go in japan for dating then. just seek an expatriate japanese girl living in in your country

[@askntk6217]

I'm Japanese, but please don't take the opinions in this interview as general... This interview is taking place in a nighttime entertainment district. This may sound discriminatory and rude, but I personally feel that many of the people who come to such places are vulgar. At least no one I've ever met would approve of cheating! If a friend says it's OK to cheat, I question their sanity. Of course, there may be some people who are okay with cheating, but it's probably not the norm. I'm very shocked. Please don't apply this to all Japanese people. Honest people don't cheat. Even if they did, it wouldn't be something they would say so brazenly. This is an act that I deeply regret and am ashamed of.

[@cocaineminor4420]

I believe this women only represent Tokyo and not the whole of japan

[@cocaineminor4420]

City areas usually have this kind of women Not so surprising But I'm not saying all though.

[@azul9400]

this makes more sense… I was so shocked by this video as an English person…

[@cellophaneoxygen]

thanks for clarifying, i was kinda weirded out by the outlook of the people in this video lol

[@marvin9409]

There are tons of housewives who cheat a lot. Japan on the surface level seems pretty great, but if you dig deeper you see the darkness in this society and the problems. And cheating is easily on the worst problems there. Don't try to find excuses or sugercoat it.

[@layla-pz2qo]

i do believe that in a relationship, contentment and respect is so important.

[@Alybonato]

For sure!

[@AleaRandomAm]

Wow we got Sherlock Holmes in the comments

[@stephsteph4503]

One of the many reasons I divorced my ex husband (he was Japanese) is that he thought going to the brothel after work was not cheating, even after I told him from the start of our dating my beliefs. I no longer live in Japan, but their ideas on cheating is so incompatible with mine.

[@Raphanne]

What I don't like is also that even if you manage to find a good guy, his work place might go for a night out with escorts or prostitutes, even in a professional setting. It's so normalised there. It's incredibly disrespectful for everyone involved, in my opinion. You don't respect your employees, their families, and the young women you treat as object of entertainment. When my husband has to work with Japanese companies, I'm always wary of the situation.

[@sunoo_love923]

@@Raphannetrue I’ve heard a few stories of foreign expats with Japanese wives saying how they had to decline such offers from their Japanese colleagues or bosses lol

[@jshawney3355]

If you knew that about him from the start, why did u marry him?

[@The_Love_Doctor_Sean]

Yes go back to the West and enjoy the divorce rates

[@icsg7287]

​@@jshawney3355apperantly reading is hard for you

[@_PM__]

It's interesting to see how, in Japan, men and women seem to separate emotion and sex when it comes to relationships. In most other countries, the physical aspect of a relationship is what takes it from casual to serious, at least in theory. I would have liked it if Takashii had asked them if, once married to someone, their opinion of visiting a brothel changes, or if they still think it's ok, as long as their spouse lets them know.

[@honkhonk6359]

I think it’s been like this for most of history in fact. Romance and romantic love are Western cultural constructs drawing on traditions of chivalric romance in the Middle Ages which were then heavily propagated amongst the emerging middle classes during industrialization. People only started getting into relationships solely out of love during the Victorian era it seems, when productivity afforded greater levels of wealth and leisure to do so. Beforehand the primary motive was survival and the bearing of many children to compensate for a high mortality rate. Other cultures have industrialized but in this regard the West is still ahead of the curve. Arranged marriages are still commonplace in India for instance, and it is customary for wealthy Chinese men to take mistresses.

[@jmbickham]

I’d like Takeshii to have asked about brothels after marriage and in a few more detailed scenarios that I’ve heard of. One is during pregnancy… as it seems pretty culturally common in Japan for couples to not have sex during pregnancy… how do women feel about their husbands going to brothels then? What do women think about brothels in the scenario where they are no longer interested in sex at all (after children, after menopause or even just low sex drive from when young), but their partner is still interested in regularly having sex?

[@cooliipie]

Because they don't have a history of love. It was always arranged marriages, aka sex with no emotion...

[@jacksalami9945]

I have western mates who are married to japanese woman & these married japanese womens opinion is exactly the same regardless if married or just in a relationship, they are all cool with their men visiting hookers

[@The_Love_Doctor_Sean]

Does not change for marriage

[@umiumisuki]

My Japanese husband has been cheated on by his Japanese ex-girlfriend. He said that he himself would never cheat on his partner, as he knows from his own experience how much it hurts the other person who is being cheated on.

[@pkmkb1]

do you live in japan ?

[@christiannilsen2835]

Cheating is the biggest betrayal of trust. Letting someone else touch your body is not for me. Bye bye

[@deanl0]

You open up the door to get to another place it could be seen as playing with fire.

[@christiannilsen2835]

@@deanl0 yes, the result of Narcissistic abuse is the worst pain. Severe trauma and PTSD that affect friendship and future opportunities that suppose to be positive that can take years to heal

[@MihaiCostiug]

Generally everyone is free to have whatever relationship they want, but the argument "I'd rather have him go to a brothel than fall in love with someone else" makes me deeply sad. Why should you even have to make that choice and accept one of the options?

[@elliesart_]

Also like if you DO fall in love with someone else I imagine it's not something you choose. And often the current relationship was bad to start with. Going to a brothel is an actual CHOICE you can easily avoid Pretty sure this mentality men & women have in Japan also shames men, acting as if they don't have any more brain cells than their penis o.o like bruh, any gender can avoid it, just be in a communicated open relationship if you want yknow (Also treating prostitutes as if they're objects to be paid for and not actual people is so gross ugh)

[@bluegamer4210]

culture maybe

[@MrJamChin]

The thing i think people are not understanding from this video is that culturally it seems that Japanese have a clear divide between love and sex. Which there is a distinction between love and lust. The difference between them and the west is that they accept this divide where the west doesn't. Them having brothels that mainly cater to lust probably has saved many more relationships than it has ruined. For example men will have higher sex drives younger where their partner might not want to do it 24/7, and the same goes for older women when their sex drive increases.

[@letgo4331]

@@MrJamChin That's like saying the women cheating saves more relationships than it has ruined. At least Japan seems to have less double standards in that regard. No offense but realistically I can imagine a lot of women not being satisfied and that being a driving factor in the cheating

[@senju2024]

That is Japanese Culture. It is simply not that bad of thing here. Especially if your company boss takes you out for a good time, then that is completely acceptable. When you say you going on your yearly company trip, your wife will know that all your coworkers and boss will most likely visit a brothel as part of the package and culture.

[@cydu]

I am Japanese and heres my thoughts. They hate cheating, but "since everyone around me thinks okay i dont want to be odd one out, so it will be fine" is what they think Edit: for those who think why do they cheat, when they hate it? It's the same thing as, why do you tip when you hate it?

[@Manabu-v1]

the odd one is not you bro, but them

[@bloopbloopbloopbloopbloop]

I'd love Takashi to tackle that point of view! If conformity is important in the culture, I wonder how many people can think they can live differently

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

So they can't think for themselves? Sounds like a recipe for disaster

[@cydu]

@@thelegacyofgaming2928 they are easily peer pressured. Like if society say this. They get pressured into doing that

[@shanishine38]

​@@cyduthank you for giving this info.

[@Hashiriya714]

Non Japanese / foreigners / otaku weebs dreams of seriously dating and marrying a native Japanese person from Japan shattered like a shattered broken window on boulevard of broken dreams LOL. Takashii did a video last month when he asked Japanese men on cheating. I'm glad he asked both genders and see both sides' perspective on it. There are many other KZbin videos from other Japanese KZbinrs on this same subject.

[@NanatsukiBenio]

i'm married Japanese girl for 11 years... never cheated on mine, never been cheated....

[@orangelightening]

@@NanatsukiBenioyou’ve never been cheated on as far as you know 😂

[@robqwert2696]

😂😂😂@@orangelightening

[@ronaldnixon8226]

@@NanatsukiBenio 100% you've been cheated on buddy.

[@olegnaumov225]

Not every1 cheats@@ronaldnixon8226

[@hey_its_khea]

It's hard for me to understand why someone would feel okay with cheating.

[@ryutenmen]

The problem with your view is that you are seeing these things in "black"(is ok to cheat) or "white"(is not ok to cheat). I'm pretty sure those young japanese women dont like either, even if they say that are ok with it, meaning to tolerate it. Unfortunately for them they cannot force the men to not cheat, so they make this compromise in the idea that, as they said, there are no feelings involved. They are ok with "cheating" if the man is telling them and if there's no feelings into that "cheating".

[@takashiifromjapan]

At end of the day it really depends on the person. but what’s your opinion of this dating/cheating culture in Japan?

[@mostertrucks]

its a little different but the ways they rationalize it make sense ...

[@vaibhavgeek]

Your interviews are from same area (my guess is centre of tokyo - Shibuya or Shinjuku) you should ask this question to folks in rural areas as well. This is forming a biased and one sided image of japan / japanese culture imo

[@caiozgt]

Disgusting. But this happens in the whole world these days. Is not about the country, is a problem who infected the whole society.

[@nicholasfilipovich871]

The next time ask man or woman about girls paying for male prostitutes and if that's considered cheating and if (when talking to girls) they would do it or have ever considered doing it.

[@chrisb778]

A western girl would not accept her man to go to a brothel. Japanese culture is odd for me. Very restrictive, and anything goes at the same time.

[@ptomm7875]

I have been living in Japan for 8 years and my wife has a few friends like this. I gave up trying to understand things like "it's acceptable to go to a brothel" but "dinner with someone" isnt

[@Multihenya]

Fr it’s crazy 🤦‍♂️

[@furzekake1]

yeah. wtf is up with that logic. you can penetrate this woman all night long but you cant sit at a table with her. lol

[@K0BRAKID]

lol that's just a good example of "culture shock". They're probably over there thinking the same "I just don't understand what's the big deal". Cultures are so interesting..

[@badtoro7037]

Yeah basically eating for them is more intimate than sex... Makes me see sushi in whole new way 🤔

[@KlutzyBoss]

'' but "dinner with someone" isnt'' Only if they hide it ahahaha

[@MattGelgota]

It’d be cool to hear what different generations think about this issue too.

[@CelideeBudoromyi]

Agree

[@dougules]

Yes, let's hear from some older people on this subject.

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

They think the same. Japanese culture is very unchanged

[@jaredmackey4511]

It’s been this way for a long time. I would say even more so in the past when women were in the home more. It wasn’t uncommon for a man to just up and leave for a while or for good. It happened in the states too. The privacy laws in Japan still allow for you to disappear in a way. My in-laws couldn’t find a family member because they wished to remain anonymous.

[@seriousjan5655]

Everything in the Universe is in form of some fort of a spectrum.

[@godwin8355]

As a Japanese, I want to say that girls in Shibuya do not represent average girls in Japan.

[@AmiyaRanjan-u4i]

I don't know can they live in india 💀💀?Bcz we have super conservative society. cheating is considered as sin

[@XermaFed]

Hmm yeah I think that is a good point to consider as well, perhaps these girls only think the way they do because prostitutes is famous in that area

[@vkm9156]

Though the terminology changes.

[@DiscoPuffin22]

@@AmiyaRanjan-u4i probably not? LOTS of women wouldn't survive living in India

[@StephenChowKINGOFCOMEDY]

😏😐😐I believe this video more than you, more than half of Japanese cheat , kimochi kimochi kimochi. They love it 😏😏😏😏😏

[@kneegoblin4352]

Damn bro. Seeing people being so open and shameless about betraying their partner like that makes me sad.

[@Beh672]

Feel like it's pretty commun in that generation. Being faithfull is a quality instead of being something basic, it's really sad... At least people aren't all like this, but see more people like that than not, which is sad

[@playmakersmusic]

The same as in the West, modern feminism and all that.

[@MegaCynar]

​@@playmakersmusicthis isn't feminism to blame. Don't bring that incel garbage into it. Some people just suck.

[@omegab4k4]

@@MegaCynar No. is the feminism.

[@restart6358]

​@@playmakersmusic if some dumb girl call themselves feminists they aren't, they are just man haters but hide behind "feminism"

[@notapplicable5403]

You should interview mixed couples (Japanese/foreign) and see if the foreigner has those worries or if they would be okay with paid services as long as there’s no emotions. It’d be interesting to see the difference in dynamics the 2 different upbringings might present

[@notapplicable5403]

@@MrSteveH damn my wife is Japanese and I’m Filipino American, so that’s a bummer to hear, but I think my wife and I are on the same page and communicate very well so hopefully that won’t apply to us

[@dekxu6673]

@@MrSteveH very broad and inaccurate generalization. This only happens if you don't bother to care about the relationship. it's just like any other relationship

[@dekxu6673]

@@notapplicable5403 why would you believe a random generalization on the internet about your own relationship dawg

[@A1steak]

I don’t think Japanese girls would date loser white guys these days. They are too poor and not respected

[@Delta1nToo]

@@MrSteveH most married couples in general get divorced

[@wendytsui0]

Excellent interview.

[@Aventusdemarley]

I was shocked that they are just okay with their partner going to the brothel. Thanks for this eye opener Takashi. I really appreciate it bro and you are so good interviewing, very respectful, keep it up.

[@DaesiBob]

I think most of them aren't, just just a lesser evil than them having a second girlfriend/boyfriend to compete with potentionally risking to lose the relationship. One of them admitted that while she said it was "not cheating" she still didn't like it and didn't want to admit it because of a fear of seeming clingy = fear of being ditched. I think overall the dating culture in the big cities is very toxic for everyone and causes a lot of hurt on both parties, but Japan being Japan you don't really talk about negative feelings and try to blame yourself for being emotional about it in the first place.

[@francescojolo]

A lot of girls said "yes It is cheating" with the head but "no its not cheating " with words

[@rw9931]

Translating Fuzoku(風俗) as prostitution is kinda wild. You gotta explain what kind of Fuzoku they are referring to. Like this girl at 3:00 is depicting the non-sexual situation, like eating & drinking with women at a nightclub/bar sort of situation. According to your definition, Hooters and strip clubs would also be prostitution. Also I think you should interview women in other places under the sun too. I'm a Japanese women myself and these women who are roaming around in this part of Tokyo at night are a different kind of breed imo. It would be biased to, for instance, catch a bunch of young people roaming around Las Vegas, interview them, and conclude that Americans are unchaste and slovenly, wouldn't it😅 なんか、コメント欄に似非ニッポンエキスパートが湧いてますわ…。

[@juicedgoose]

Thanks for explaining. It seemed very shocking and bizarre but makes sense now

[@zzBaBzz]

Welcome to Westernization, aka killing the Japanese language and culture on purpose. Fuuzoku only means customs, like in a certain area of the country and so. But thanks to the foreign owners of Japan (Japan was sold to foreigners by "Meiji"), the language has been "reformed" (dumbed down and perverted) three times in huge ways... And one of the goals was to make good meaning words bad （八方美人）, bad words good　（凄い）, attach meanings to words that have never been there （付き合う・彼氏彼女）etc. That is step 1 of destroying a nation - destroying their language.

[@sdjslkdjlsskldjslkdjsl8262]

yeah I'm sure nothing indecent ever goes on in that job. lol

[@billfrehe6620]

@@zzBaBzz How is this the fault of the West? Japan is its own country, nobody in the West is telling you how to run things.

[@billfrehe6620]

Thank you for the context. It makes far more sense when you explain it. I don't feel like we have a similar word in English for such a big catch-all as the term Fuzoku.

[@joyl7842]

You can see the gears in their heads working overtime thinking about the deeper side of the interviews. It's obvious that the cheating/prostitution thing is an issue. Great topic of choice Takashii.

[@mikeysmoooth5322]

Yeah, exactly they are hesitating thinking about how they truly feel

[@Hello-hello-hello456]

Yes the interview really mobilised their thoughts and they'll probably evolve their opinions by thinking more deeply on it.

[@yume7335]

It's actually obvious that it is not an issue until foreigners took an interest in it... I always find it funny how the west judge other cultures..

[@lukabuncic1932]

its not the we judge its more that we are shocked, i think my girlfriend would chop my dick off if i went to see a prostitute lol and rightfully so in my opinion, i think in western cultures feelings in a relationship are tied to sex and i couldnt truly love and respect my girlfriend if i would sleep with other women

[@20628]

@@yume7335 where are you from? genuinely curious

[@yoyiyoyi7216]

Great video and effort

[@dani_zi]

I'm a man and I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends because I respected them and didn't want to hurt them. How can you be truly intimate with someone if you're cheating?

[@Lark_48]

True bro its just that not every humans being are sensitive to these things

[@SodiumSyndicate]

Sure, but those girlfriends cheated by whoring before marriage with you.

[@shanishine38]

Please don't change. 🙏🏽

[@MasterofTheUniverse1337]

As a Men myself I would also never Cheat because Its Disgusting to even Think about that, this World is insane to normalize Cheating or Betraying .

[@MasterofTheUniverse1337]

@@sonbon9762 Right this whole World is too Perverted, Immoral and insane Just to Fix this Madness, this World needs a Hard Cleaning and Restart!.

[@fluffington1606]

Life is complicated but sometimes very simple : if I want short term relationships, meeting girls, then I don't put myself in a couple status. Follow your own choices even if you come to regret later but don't hurt someone's feeling and more importantly don't make them waste their time and lose opportunities that might not present themselves again when you're having fun in the backstages.

[@viennaz3522]

I totally agree

[@BreezyE-d3n]

The irony is women avoid single men but are highly attracted to men in relationships. So being honest can leave u being alone.

[@coyotefire69420]

@@BreezyE-d3n While there is some truth to "Nobody wants a job that nobody has" I find the idea of women not liking single men ridiculous. How did people find their partners? Most were single at the same time.

[@bluegamer4210]

do whatever you want

[@smollilbean]

​@@BreezyE-d3nit's true that there are women that specifically kinda "Target" men that are taken and in serious relationships. But you're implying that most single women don't like single men is ridiculous and obviously far from reality.

[@Joeoi]

One of the best interviews in Japan you made

[@412emilio]

This is wild. I think in the USA cheating with a prostitute would be considered one of the worst cheating you could do in a relationship

[@linyep]

Same here in Australia

[@brynedolor8015]

I agree 💯

[@boomnailedit1609]

Yeah, they seem to value the emotions more than the physical. But it is foreign to me to have one without the other. Interesting.

[@Adam-f8r4h]

We get our morals and values from Christianity, as this country, as well as most Western countries and nations, were founded on Christian principles. We're not a "Christian nation" per se (obvious to anyone living here), but our ethics, morals, and code of conduct for the majority of the country descends from the Christians who settled the territories, states, towns, and so forth. That's why cheating with a prostitute here is one of the worst ways to cheat versus in Japan, where their morals and ethics descend from a completely different background.

[@AsianBhai71]

It's as prohibited in Bangladesh 😑

[@aoisonne1461]

As a Japanese man, it is very bizarre to me lol... My wife would cut my jewels off if I went to a brothel, whether emotional attachments were involved or not. That being said, when I was in Tokyo in the early 2000s, I used to work as a host to help pay for college, and I remember more and more frequent were married women showing up for a "fun time" ... after being dropped off by their husband who went his own separate way to a next-door brothel. I was very confused by it, but I never said anything. After all, they were clearly opened with the arrangements. I also remember a few years ago, I was staying at a friend's home in Tokyo for a night. I accidentally overheard he and his wife talking. She handed him allowance money and said, "I'm tired. Go find a prostitute. I'm going to bed." as if it were a completely normal thing. Wow... Overall, however, I still really don't think this is the norm. I've talked with quite a bit of people on this subject when I went to go visit my hometown in Ehime. They are people who I know closely, who are willing to give me honest answers. Whether man or woman, every single person I spoke with do not agree with the statements made in this video and in fact really hate how people in Tokyo and Kyoto view things this way. Thus, it is likely that majority of Japanese people in smaller cities or rural regions do not share the sentiments in this video.

[@cocaineminor4420]

Same thing goes for every country The cities are the worst for sure.

[@cocaineminor4420]

​@@sonbon9762I mean it's a city so of course there's many people in city areas.

[@Lady_Graham]

Yeah it’s very strange. Like if your partner wants intimacy you literally are there for that reason lol Also congrats on your English it’s really good 👍

[@bsuong]

A lot of times i feel social media is giving out the wrong messages....

[@pagodebregaeforro2803]

​@@cocaineminor4420worst? Depends for whom. I find them better, less conservative, people must be free.

[@roc_cave2107]

I just dont get it. What is the point of being in a relationship if both of them are just gonna cheat? Is being in a relationship seen as prestigious?

[@restart6358]

Japanese people are just insane, harem animes now make sense

[@elshaddollworld3941]

for women over there it kind of is, their families pressure them into a relationship, because if they hit late 20s or get to their 30s with no mate it is gonna be hard for the girls to get into a relationship since men prefer to get them young and healthy to get kids, dare i say way too many relations in jap dont love each other and it is all about the looks, men want kids to get the family name going and women want stability (they do care a lot about the man having a good job and being in a good position as women usually will stop working once they marry)

[@GWT1m0]

Being in a relationship is more than having sex.

[@bbbbbbb51]

​@@GWT1m0thanks for stating the obvious.

[@miguelorozco4445]

seems like it aint obvious for the japanese women in this video@@bbbbbbb51

[@VarsVerum]

After watching all these interviews about how casual Japanese people are with cheating, suddenly I realize why NTR is such a popular genre in the doujin scene. Don't ask me how I know this I just know.

[@Otakusama08]

I see....You are men of culture as well

[@tuapuikia]

Let me Google what is NTR

[@propottylegend9439]

I thought u were talking about actor Jr. NTR😅

[@DarkStarJu]

I really feel like being honest is the top priority, anything else can be overlooked or forgiven bc your word about how you truly feel can be trusted. I appreciate the insight of this video because it reiterates the fact that theres no one clear cut way to perceive things or live life.

[@chvrogoldo8973]

It's incredible how beliefs and morals can differ throughout cultures , this is so impressive and should stay like that ! EACH CULTURE SHOULD PRESERVE ITSELF FOR THE SAKE OF DIVERSITY !

[@akaku9]

Preserving culture is a good way to get left behind. Evolve and mingle or stagnate and rot away.

[@chvrogoldo8973]

@@akaku9 globalism ? Do you even know that without diversity there is no change or evolution ?

[@feylights166]

I think there is a lot of nuance and deeper issues here than what we are able to see in these videos. It sounds like emotional cheating is harder to accept than sexual (which in some ways makes sense, but also depends on how you view sex). It would be interesting to hear about married couples (especially with motherhood). Also would be interesting to hear from gays/lesbians. It's cheating if he hides it, it's okay if he pays someone...sounds to me like they're saying it's okay as long as he comes back to me. We also need to be careful about making general assumptions. While there may be a "cheating culture" in Japan, it doesn't mean all Japanese do it, nor is cheating unique to Japan.

[@lilliancastillo8579]

That's true, but I think people are just fascinated by the WAY that Japanese people cheat

[@feylights166]

​​@@lilliancastillo8579mmm, yeah, perhaps you're right. The "it's okay/expected as long as..."

[@Knight766]

The problem is that women assume that men think and feel like they do, which they don't. Men have a much higher ability to engage sexually with different women without becoming emotionally involved, this has to do with brain chemicals such as Oxytocin and Vasopressin

[@katsuyaki7605]

The girls seem pretty open to the idea of their boyfriends having a physical relationship with other women as long as it doesn't involve an emotional relationship, as well. And they admit that they don't like this, but that they don't want to be seen as clingy. No mention about the risks of Mr. Boyfriend bringing home an STD, developing an emotional relationship with a girl he's cheating with, or of him getting the other girl pregnant. Also, the focus is solely on the actions of the guy -- while the girls are seemingly O.K. with the guys cutting loose, does that men that guys can expect their girls to also be as casual with their extra-curricular activities, too?

[@perspectivism2006]

I was curious about the question you brought up at the end. I wish he asked that. Would have been interesting, and insightful to hear what they had to say.

[@robqwert2696]

this separation is pretty moronic. The more i learn about Japan, the more dumb their social rules seem

[@katsuyaki7605]

@@perspectivism2006 I don't think I'd be O.K. with that degree of casualness in a relationship. Kinda negates the whole point of being in a relationship in the first place.

[@BladeBloodTear]

Things like STDs and pregnancy wouldn't really be a thing at a brothel because the girls there would have to be tested constantly and you'd have to use a condom. Their job is to have sex and if it is a legal establishment there would be rules and procedures for these kinds of things. That's part of why I think they'd be okay with their men going to brothels. It is probably seen as safer overall than going to some random woman. Other things you have to worry about less is getting into fights with the brothel girl since their boyfriend should be seen as just a client and the boyfriend would always have access as long as he has money. If he becomes upset that particular girl isn't there, then it becomes more emotional cheating which all of them pretty consistently say they are not for.

[@AT-rr2xw]

I was curious about that as well. He asked about women cheating, but not about women going to brothels. Sure, we can assume that that is less common, but that is an assumption as opposed to an answer.

[@melt2716]

I honestly think "going for dinner with a girl without telling me is cheating" is a weirder sentiment than "seeing a prostitute isn't cheating as long as you tell me."

[@defridox999]

Japan's culture is really weird

[@jiangnanhuang9334]

I guess the point here would be wether you are honest to your partner or not

[@saphired02]

Because if you go to have dinner and put enough effort to hide the fact that you went to dinner they see that as emotional cheating. Why wouldn't you tell your partner, hey I had dinner with so and so. Where as if you slept with a prostitute and all you wanted was to get off with no feelings attached and your partner knows about it that's less of a betrayal because you were more honest. If you see it from some peoples perspective it makes sense in a twisted way. I also do think hiding a dinner date is cheating, but I also think hiring a prostitute is cheating.

[@LincolnClay98]

Yeh, what a bunch of mentally ill weirdos

[@Fadzlyck]

Japanese people always seem to be ahead of the times. A failing society with sky high divorce rates. Japanese people can compartmentalize much better than the rest of the world. Emotionally cheating is way worse than physical cheating and Japanese seem to know that well in advance

[@paulnewman4274]

This was an eye opener

[@ohyeahpaulchin]

We saw you shooting in Shibuya a couple weeks ago, but it's still wild seeing my wife and I walk into the background of this video at 10:19 hahahaha

[@ArtherCat]

Are you the guy in the green?

[@birdineye4738]

Damn this was very real, the last women stating "both cheat a lot, but women hide it better" is the best way to put it.

[@MasterofTheUniverse1337]

True and Its so Sad.

[@lukesouthwell1102]

Cheating: yep Tattoos: absolutely not

[@brickwall5418]

You're still living in 2003. In 2023, Japanese girls have tattoos.

[@IQuickscopeCA]

"i think sexual urges and relationships are different" i bet she doesnt tell him she does it, we could always see how he feels about that statement

[@Japanunlocked]

Your explanation at 3:20 about the Japanese tea ceremony was so clear and detailed. I appreciate the effort you put into this!

[@timikoykka6179]

One of the most horrible things you can do to someone, is to be relationship with that person and not really care about that person...

[@dameanvil]

00:00 🇯🇵 Japanese friends discussing cheating and visits to adult establishments, seeking clarity on whether it constitutes infidelity. 00:41 🥀 Unhappy in current relationship, struggling to endure it. Met at a club, initial interest faded quickly. Partner's persistence led to difficulty refusing a relationship. 01:23 🔄 Views on visiting adult establishments: belief that it's not necessarily infidelity, though reasons may vary. 02:03 🛡️ If partner wants to visit adult establishments, likely to result in separation. Personal stance: such behavior is unacceptable. 03:54 🌍 Foreign viewers express surprise at the acceptance of partners visiting adult establishments in Japan. Considered unique to Japanese culture. 04:33 📈 Discussion on whether Japanese women are more prone to infidelity. Opinion leans towards not being significantly different from men. 06:24 🗣️ Observing friends' infidelity experiences: some intervene, others refrain, depending on closeness of the relationship. 07:46 🗣️ Openness about desires for visits to adult establishments: seen as acceptable if communicated honestly within the relationship. 09:19 💬 Varied views on infidelity: some advocate stopping a friend, while others prioritize personal enjoyment in life. 10:31 📊 Discussion on male infidelity: perception that both genders are capable, with women potentially better at concealing it.

[@coaiemandushman1079]

A comment that is qctually helpful? I didn't know these were still a thing...thanks!

[@christiandiegomusic]

I like how you put emojis with your time stamps, that’s cool

[@MASTERCRAFT938]

Thanks :D

[@JW0121]

@@christiandiegomusicSorry to break your heart but this is AI generated tool lol. Its called Herpa Ai or something , look it up u can summarise a video with one click. Alot of people on self help videos post these EXACT same format comments with the emojis which is a dead giveaway its not them doing any typing

[@jovna5315]

Excellent comment.

[@LIVEvil789]

I'd be curious to know if/how much other cultural norms affect each other. In the case of the first girl, it sounds like another cultural norm there is influencing her decision making; the "honne/tatemae" concept. She could have just told the guy she's not into him, sparing them both. Instead, choosing to live the lie and let bad feelings and behaviours fester. Choosing not to tell the truth has only made him lonely and likely hurt, and her, a cheater. It's such a toxic mentality. I feel like all these issues, (the cheating being ok if "you don't love them", affection not being publicly acceptable, work culture and honne/tatemae) all contribute to and exacerbate each other. Clearly people are craving physical affection, but it almost seems like you're not supposed to get it from someone you're close with, because then you would have to go through the awkward talk of telling your partner your true feelings and risk upsetting them, and you don't want to rock the boat (collectivism mentality+honne/tatemae). This definitely doesn't help the declining birthrates.

[@vadymchyk]

Very interesting video. Thank you.

[@sydical_]

The 2nd girl in the first interviewees who said she doesnt cheat and says the things we would expect as cheating is kind of rare in japan nowadays

[@vifcoz]

Recently, foreign men have been discriminated against by Japanese people. It seems that all foreigners are discriminated against, but especially among ASEAN and South Asians who are short, poor, dark-skinned, and weak in sports, some commit suicide.

[@TheOverlord99]

@@vifcoz wtf

[@NanatsukiBenio]

@@vifcoz as a foreign man, never been discriminated by Japanese... FALSE!

[@letgo4331]

@@vifcoz Are they acting a fool?

[@derekboyt3383]

I believe it is important to establish boundaries about sex. I’m not in favor of being in a sexual relationship with someone that is having sex with other people. This is a health issue for me because there are STD’s that can destroy a life. I believe if this is communicated up front before engaging in a sexual relationship then everyone understands and has a choice. If someone then goes outside that agreement then it is cheating.

[@diddo9338]

Exactly, I was thinking about this the entire time. STDs exist in Japan but I don’t know much about their sex education. Tbh, I can see some of these women”s mindsets but on the other hand If I were in their shoes I would demand the dude get tested every time which would encourage lying. It’s kind of a fantasy scenario that the boyfriend would be honest.

[@Heopful]

Innocent young idealism if only it were so! Some say forbidden fruit may be but I say this is the sweetest. Rules like these often have the opposite effect, as you see these things go without saying, a relationship is by default 'closed' infact it is the point of announcing you're in one and conversations such as these communicate nothing but your fears and insecurities or perhaps lack of social skill/emotional intelligence, rendering the conversation completely pointless. You must recognize if your partner is unsatisfied with you and for what reason, then make your decision to try to change something or move on(usually best to move on, a relationship based on sex is what brothels are for.

[@migo70]

@@Heopful Open relationships exist (polygamy), and I think are fine if all parties involved are genuinely happy with this, but it is something you have to bring up early on, not just dump it on them later. As it's not for everyone and can be the opposite of what that person wants, save time communicate upfront. I am not for this and I am very much of the opinion that I want a monogamous relationship and do have one. If you are not happy in your relationship and you know its a monogamous one going out and cheating is not acceptable in 99% of cases imo, regardless of societal pressure you should break it off and move to find a better partner.

[@SethJV]

What a disgusting opinion.

[@ernestloh3683]

@@migo70 if the human race solves sexual health issues like STDs via advancement in medical tech, how much would your answer change? curious!

[@pieru5715]

I'd like you to ask women in Japan if they themselves are paying for sexual services, do they consider it as cheating. Most interviews I've seen revolves around men going to brothels and women being okay with it but there's also such a thing for women (host clubs, etc.). Also if they have a sex friend while in a relationship, do they consider that as cheating or not. I mean people in Japan tend to separate relationships and sex so I think it'll be interesting to hear more on this.

[@sirlancegeo]

It would have been interesting as a follow up for women who answer that they don’t believe going to a prostitute to be cheating to ask what they think about men who agree with them but would be opposed to women doing the same or similar thing while in a relationship?

[@kbtred51]

The answer is yes but it is in the city for single women with their own income. There are all sorts of arrangements and clubs. Comments are generally from Americans with no experience of anything else. I have seen an arrangement where the woman wants the experience of preparing a home meal for a man and lying in bed next to him. It need not be sexual or emotional, just fantasy. And then so many say they would damage families and relationships over maybe a $700 spend that allows for a $150k career.

[@naomihu9399]

If a woman want sex, she doesn’t need to pay… unless she’s ugly.

[@eleethtahgra7182]

@@utubbbe lol, yup. If another D enter her or she kiss another man, its cheating. Just leave. Dont bother.

[@eleethtahgra7182]

@@utubbbe and std is ramping up in usa. If one finds the one, then its fine. If not, mgtow is always an option. If one wants to leave genetic footprint, one could go to sprem bank. Inner peace is better than the hassle of 304.

[@Sweatsofficiallytheworst]

Don't know how i got here but I am...glad I'm here tho. These types of videos help me to reflect on some things...💯🧐🧐💀

[@HeisenbergFam]

Its wild how widespread this has become in Japan, its almost like its a tradition for them to cheat

[@phamphuminh2058]

Kinda is tho 😂

[@j5679]

Also explains (in part) why nobody is having children anymore in Japan. You couldn't even be sure if the child is truly yours!

[@RobertTaylor-gz2fu]

@@j5679 They must be good at using contraception.

[@N.I.S.C]

it seems marital loyalty is a western concept, im kinda shocked, it doesnt really click with me.

[@vifcoz]

Japanese men are handsome, have a good figure, and have beautiful skin. As the foreign woman said, she will try to go to the hotel right away. Japanese men seem to be attracted to them because they are very good at sex.

[@n1ngnuo]

This generation is cooked 😢

[@alonsoortigoza6058]

Been cooked for a minute. Gonna die alone chief🫡

[@Narloxs]

We're fucked bro 💀

[@WelcomeTheDamned]

Previous generation was totally oppressed and fucked in the head, leaving behind a ravaged world. I'll take cooked.

[@giorgostsak427]

I thought it was only in my country and west world post modern culture but damn it's scary to see that the problem is worldwide. I think that shows something.

[@mrkilowatt1811]

This is not a problem of this generation, it's japanese culture, watch the video better

[@christina3681]

As a follow-up question -- if people having sex with prostitutes is quite normalised, does that mean that sex workers themselves are not stigmatised? Or is it that the social stigma ends up attached entirely to the prostitute while the person paying them isn't judged?

[@emerald764]

That would be a very interesting topic for a video.

[@Hello-hello-hello456]

Women are just given the short end of the stick

[@2oqh]

@Hello-hello-hello456 they also have male prostitutes, not sure how that’s true

[@Xynic48]

Prostitution is legal in japan, but being a prostitute definitely lowers how people see you. Like any culture, japanese parents dont want their children going into prostitution. It's the same for japanese porn stars. I know multiple famous jav actresses who got disowned by their family.

[@adb888]

@@Xynic48 Prostitution was outlawed in 1956 in Japan. Sure, it still goes on, usually with full knowledge by the police and government, but it isn't legal. They even routinely visit hostess and host clubs to make sure the workers aren't soliciting there, while knowing full well that the host/hostess will arrange to go on a "date" outside of that club, and then visit a love hotel with cash being exchanged outside of the initiating club. Similarly, "soap lands" are known to the police and are illegal, but use a loophole to still "service" their clients.

[@YourCrew]

It’s interesting how the philosophy of Buddhism is embedded in the thinking process e.g. no ego, external validation involved , no clinging, fear of attachment, controling etc. just pure communcation of thinking process, emotions, boundaries.

[@afadingdream9675]

Unrelated to anything else, I love the elegant styles these ladies had. Very lovely, and the interviews were insightful.

[@namastewoke5197]

Daaammmn! 😂😂 first homegurls friend straight up called her out with the eyes 👀 !!! That is wild!! 😂😂😂😂

[@jdmj0]

I think something that isn't particularly emphasized here is that prostitution here generally means things like bjs, or massages. Those that generally do 風俗 as a job don't go as far as intercourse. I was told that the meaning of prostitution in the West includes full intercourse so I think there may be a little lost in translation here. I have many married friends whose other halves have cheated on them but don't get divorced due to it being simpler to stay married for the children. Also the societal image of being a divorcee is a deterrent.

[@g1lbert68]

Most Japanese people are just promiscuous by my standards

[@ShiruSama1]

Yeah, penetration is supposedly banned in Japan

[@AnnieIsaLau]

Oh yeah than it would be good to clarify ... not that it's necessarily better lol but there's still a difference. It's true that in western culture, when we talk about prostitution, it's full intercourse.

[@X-7-JAMES]

You always ask great questions to get to the rationale behind answers. I think my relationship style would work well in Japan.

[@milob3216]

Thank you for following up with women’s perspective on cheating. It was really interesting when it was pointed out that Japan’s strict work culture could play a part in their desire (both men and women) to not have restrictive relationships and that the Japanese have a more distinct separation between physical and emotional cheating. I appreciate your thought provoking interviews. Keep up the great work!

[@jokerpilled2535]

In that case texting someone could also be considered cheating

[@melancholicflaneur23]

ye but i found it insightful yet it was also a nonsequitur because prostitutes also have to work equally if not harder. something's gotta gv.

[@jokerpilled2535]

@@melancholicflaneur23 having sex is work?

[@kbtred51]

@@jokerpilled2535 It is literally a billion dollar service.

[@jokerpilled2535]

@@kbtred51 so is kidnapping and sex trafficking

[@commentarytalk1446]

I find their opinions and views interesting: First of all, they ALL express an opinion in a considered and polite manner even if I disagree with their views, ideas or opinions, I really appreciate the manner of their communication as thoughtful to the listener and it is impressive to say the least. It's a good feeling to experience that someone values and feels strongly about your commitment to them: It's a wonderful thing to experience apart from oneself.

[@taylors5069]

Syphilis is popping off in tokyo for a reason😬 ive always heard about this I was shocked when I first heard my Japanese friend casually talk about her friends hickey being from another man nonchalantly and i asked well what happens if he finds out and she said probably just get mad like What

[@joey199412]

For some context, Monogamy was never really a thing in Japan. It only was kinda forced upon them by the American occupation after WW2 but they never fully adopt it. In my personal experience with having lived in Japan for years (Both in the city and countryside) Affairs are not only common, but expected and accepted. Men will have affairs with women at work and do "overtime" a lot, while housewives will have affairs while the husband is at work. It's an open secret. Most people don't care about their partner cheating as long as it isn't found out in public so they don't lose face. Most husbands and wives I know have a "Don't ask; Don't tell" mindset. I never met a couple that I knew well personally that didn't engage in cheating/affairs. And it's just as common in the countryside as in the cities.

[@SonDeku-y5x]

Christ….is there any hope? Dang I just got into a relationship too with one..

[@SonDeku-y5x]

Update: I was wrong. Hopefully it stays that way

[@joey199412]

@@SonDeku-y5x Elaborate

[@SonDeku-y5x]

@@joey199412 I basically got a good one

[@red.46]

I'm a guy, moved to Tokyo recently and I have high values for a monogamous relationship. This is kind of scary and makes me think twice getting into a relationship.

[@Anonymous-bi5pv]

They don't want you anyway

[@mrlace4776]

get out while you still can

[@kbtred51]

Don't be if you want a traditional Japanese lady in a family community for marriage. If you want westernised city salarywoman then it will be familiar dating.

[@Dixter5150]

I lived there 10 years it’s like any place in the world in that regard - pick a gf who has good character and you will be fine , but if you pick some club going gyaru(they might not use that term anymore) she will probably cheat. I actually found it easier to decipher the two when I lived there than here in the US.

[@Dixter5150]

Oh , and as an example you know those two women in the beginning of the video -!? The one on the left showing midriff , that’s a cheater . One on the right probably faithful.

[@timxiix3864]

"I encourage them to keep cheating" 7:10 in my eyes this is very fucked up and disgusting. It seems like they have very low self esteem over there and no real definition of a relationship and a future partner. Some of these things they say i find very shocking.

[@LukasVokrinek]

Don't forget it's just one sample

[@chinko45_45]

I feel sorry for you that your friend is cheating on you and you don't know how much fun it is to talk about that situation🥲

[@theoDSP]

It's a cultural shock but Japanese are not the west

[@limitlesky]

Imagine if she finds out all this time she was encouraging her friend cheating with her boyfriend 🙃

[@qtaro-7097]

tbf at least they are being honest. western folks act all virtuous but they lowkey cheat too and they gaslight their partners and blame them when they were found out

[@JavierPwns]

Takashii you are a real one for having the balls to go around talking to women about this LOL

[@neilaleksandrov2655]

wow, what an insight into Japanese thinking, definitely very different from what I know

[@dey1696]

Omg this was such an interesting video!! Congratulations man, I could not stop watching it and learning from it. Prostitution seems part of Japanese culture, I knew it was popular, but I didn't know it was this popular. All over the world there is a lot of cheating in relationships, nowadays the polygamy is becoming popular. I am against prostitution but I can see the distinction between love and physical attraction that some of these Japanese girls are doing. However, I felt that most of them are ok with men going to brothel because "it has always been like that" or because "men will cheat anyway so it is ok" not because they have a mutual consensus with their partner. I had the idea of Japanese culture as a very traditional one, although it seems to be changing with new generations that are asking themselves about sex-affective relationships in new ways. I love the kind of videos that make you think hard about it. Thank you

[@capuchin44]

Takashi, please ask these questions to your typical Japanese housewives (instead of singles in the party district)! The world wants to know.

[@microangels]

These party girls are future housewives lol

[@supremebuffalo6322]

Yea, the street he was on; there's no guarantee they weren't 'Hostessing'

[@user-co5ri8dp_978]

@@supremebuffalo6322 Here in Japan, Red light district (drinking quarter) are said to be places where people who want to cause trouble to others gather. proper adult people don't go to red-light districts.

[@itzzion4774]

I live in Okinawa cheating is a big thing here from what I’ve heard from friends

[@JoseAlvarez-dl3hm]

@@microangels future cheater wives, lol

[@RadenWA]

Some context that might be worth considering in this topic : > The Japanese word for “cheating” in the romantic sense is _not the same_ as English. “Uwaki”(浮気) literally means “fleeting feeling”, mainly about being fickle. It’s almost a neutral word with no inherent nuance of “deceiving or betrayal” like the English word “cheating”, which is inherently malicious. That might be why they don’t take it as seriously and joke about it being “fun” and encourage to others, more like “experimenting around”. Technically, it is possible to be “Uwaki” with the partner’s knowledge, making it closer to open relationship. There are different words for “cheating” with heavier guilt/shame, but almost never used romantically. “Furin(不倫)”, specifically meaning “adultery” is not used casually and is even considered a crime. > Prostitution in Japan, “Fuuzoku”(風俗), technically can’t include intercourse/penetration as it’s prohibited by law. So it’s more things like hj/bj. So depending on people’s definition, some may not consider it “having sexual relation” but just “receiving a service”, and lessens many issues regarding prostitution like loss of virginity, pregnancy and STD’s Not making any moral judgements, but since people are wondering why Japan’s view on this is so different, such contexts on linguistics and culture may have a role on it.

[@28pbtkh23]

Your comment is essential to understand what these people really meant.

[@hikikhun6668]

The law doesn't matter. Prostitutes will still accept penetration. No one's there to enforce the law, except the prostitute and the client. Sure they're both going to follow rules when no one's watching, right?

[@honorpatience1301]

As always , never judge as your default setting, understand context etc . Thank you for the explanation

[@RadenWA]

@@hikikhun6668 Prostitutes don’t just happily accept penetration willy-nilly, it is a very strenuous act that potentially damages the body. Fuuzoku ultimately is a business and they can’t just let customers demand things that is beyond the agreement, especially if it may harm the worker. If you hire a private masseuse and demand her to do sexual services, what do you think gonna happen? Japan doesn’t fuck around with law, that’s why their porn continue being fully censored even though it has absolutely no purpose these days.

[@neoillogic]

@@28pbtkh23he's also wrong lol :p technically right at some points mixed in with culturally wrong.

[@alextabet9247]

Such a cool language. I would love to learn it.

[@handlawan01]

This is very informative, and I'm quite shocked at how lenient they are when it comes to cheating. Terrifying to me as someone who values monogamy

[@user-co5ri8dp_978]

This is the entertainment district/Red light district. Most Japanese people think the same way as you.

[@whatdaf-lalalala]

It's degrading and disgusting.

[@ExploreTogetherDaily]

I appreciate how honest they were. Fair play on that

[@Multihenya]

Were they really honest though?

[@RODRIGOR300]

It's so funny! What a great country! Great people! I can't wait to visit Tokyo in november!! :DD Cheers from Rio de Janeiro.

[@nyankomaomao]

No but it's the mental gymnastics she's going through at 4:37 to say "we have less cheating cases because they're not emotionally cheating" that is frankly insane to me 😅 and the girl at 7:19 encouraging her friend to continue cheating because it's fun...? Man it just goes to show how different someone's values can be when they treat sex as a casual activity, and I guess this is a sentiment shared by a good part of the interviewees Takashi found here. Personally I can't imagine sharing something so intimate with someone I don't have any strong feelings for. Would be interesting to see this survey repeated elsewhere!

[@snazzydrew]

That's probably because in the west we've tangle relationships with ownership in a weird way. We always feel our partners are "ours". Instead of a person who is choosing to be with us

[@nyankomaomao]

​@@snazzydrewhmm, I'm Asian though, like born and brought up fully in an Asian country. I think it's more of how it's only Japan who has this very "unique" view on cheating because even though cheating happens in every country, the difference is that people do shame the men and women who cheat and see them as pathetic because we know it's morally wrong since being in a relationship generally means you are committed to a partner (unless you're into open or poly relationships). I think the fact that the Japanese interviewees mentioned "cheating is wrong only if I am found out" shows that they do acknowledge it's not right or acceptable.

[@snazzydrew]

I mean I don't completely disagree. But I will say morals are relative. It's possible they just don't use the same words we do like "polyamory" but have similar ideas on open relationship while lacking the cultural communication tools to discuss it. Just look at all that Harem anime. Japan is definitely unique.

[@kevincastro8768]

@@snazzydrewIf you’re partner needs to go to a brothel to not emotionally cheat then I doubt they’re choosing you at all lol

[@snazzydrew]

@@kevincastro8768 idk I reserve judgement for other people's situations and the complexities of their relationships. If someone says it doesn't seem like cheating to them, who am I to argue with what works for them at that moment.

[@kingmicahtheinfamous4309]

This is super interesting to hear their perspectives

[@dealerofdeth]

These questions need to be asked across the island, not just in Tokyo. People def do freaky stuff in rural areas too but the percentages is what has me curious. In any case, I'm more interested in going there for the martial arts, food, and Mikado arcade.

[@rikvdmark]

I always find your channel really informative. I lived in Japan for almost a year and I know that during that time I only scratched the surface. Your channel is one of the ways I keep on learning. This video was very surprising and also not. It was like the silent part I subconsciously knew being spoken aloud. If that makes sense 😅

[@metalsloth7387]

Love your videos and am a subscriber . I was in Japan for 6 weeks in the summer with my son . Totally loved it there . We toured almost the whole country from wakkanai to Okinawa and most parts inbetween . Thanks for the interesting takes , look forward to your vids .😎🤘🎸

[@yossnour]

Hello TAKASHII, Nice videos much thanks!!!

[@playmakersmusic]

This is really shocking but I'm not surprised. Been cheated on by a Japanese girl and only found out through her IG that she was dating another person. It hurts, but now that I watch this video, it seems like it's so normalised. Thanks for another wonderful video again Takashii-san!

[@sepp0]

I dont think cheating in Japan happens that much more than in lets say the US, but I think its considered normal compared to other places. I've also noticed that Japanese girls tend to basically not show they are in a relationship on their IG compared to like the US where it would at least be posted.

[@Darkclowd]

​@@ha-yj4tc it's not celebrated or talked about openly in North America, but anecdotally speaking as a guy in this younger generation... I see it still happens a lot, from both sexes. I myself am of the belief that if one wants to sleep around they should just not get into a dedicated relationship in the first place. Can't break a promise if there wasn't one in the first place and nobody gets hurt.

[@sirbughunter]

@@Darkclowd this is a very grown-up and wise perspective on things.

[@yo2trader539]

Just casual dating.

[@Arcessitor]

@@sepp0If it's considered normal, of course it's gonna happen more. What are you on about? Trying to win a gold medal in mental gymnastics?

[@nyuchu]

"I'd rather he go to a prostitute than talk to random girls" is a WILD line

[@snazzydrew]

No. It makes an insane amount of sense. Prostitutes are professionals. Random girl might try to actually take your man.

[@aluisiomotagodinho7155]

​@@snazzydrewin my country go to a prostitute is way worse than find a randon girl in terms of cheating

[@snazzydrew]

@@aluisiomotagodinho7155 I mean Japan is just hyper clean in general so it definitely is a culture and demographic thing

[@nyuchu]

@@snazzydrew be in an open relationship or be single. this is 100% cheating and is so disgusting

[@HFlame7]

Moral of the story: explicitly define the rules of the relationship so what is and isn’t allowed are known in advance. This advice applies anywhere in the world, not just Japan.

[@gemelwalters2942]

But especially Japan or anywhere else where cheating is culturally acceptable. Let's not pretend the level of acceptance is the same everywhere.

[@angelt9862]

People lie.

[@HFlame7]

@@gemelwalters2942 the problem is, is it really culturally acceptable in Japan? What we saw in this video is from an extremely small sample size of (city) people. At least two of the ladies didn’t approve of cheating, but one of them stated she wouldn’t make a big deal out of it to keep the peace/stay together. That kind of attitude is similar to a lot of people here in the United States (sadly) in that they put up with cheating for the sake of staying together even though they don’t approve of it.

[@HFlame7]

@@angelt9862 true, but that’s nothing specific to any one country. If a person is with a liar, then they chose the wrong one (sadly) regardless of location.

[@gemelwalters2942]

@@HFlame7 It isn't, do you think Japan's population decline is only happening in one prefecture? It is a cultural problem, one that they created and this is a contributing factor. The attitude is similar in the US but not the same because the US has never prioritized things like arranged marriages or marriage to the family instead of the individual. Japan is also homogenous, whereas the US is multicultural so even if you are affected by those issues, in most cases you can marry outside of your community. You are overlooking several factors that are contributing to this issue that do not apply to the US.

[@SenjuroAkechi]

The only people shocked are the ones who don't know anything about Japanese culture.

[@jquinoa5282]

I live in Europe and about half my friends have cheated. Maybe I should find better people to hang out with lol

[@occultteachings6261]

you should. they’re scum.

[@sinistarz0253]

Wtf 💀

[@retrofilmwork]

😬

[@vtec494]

You better run before you become one of them..

[@mrlace4776]

dont think i could be friends with them anymore if I were you. integrity matters a lot to me.

[@MrShem123ist]

As someone who comes from quite a conservative background, this is shocking for me and it kinda made me sad. But I'm interested in hearing different insights. Still, you did a good job with the interview, Takashi san!

[@vifcoz]

Recently, foreign men have been discriminated against by Japanese people. It seems that all foreigners are discriminated against, but especially among ASEAN and South Asians who are short, poor, dark-skinned, and weak in sports, some commit suicide.

[@shalinivarma237]

Agreed it is depressing, and the very flippant attirude ok to go to a prostitute thought japanese would be more conservative. But those he interviewed were v young. So interesting in one way

[@MrShem123ist]

@@shalinivarma237 I would like it more if he also interviewed the older generation. I would love to hear their perspective as well.

[@AT-rr2xw]

I mean, Japan is still a rather conservative country. And, back in Victorian times, it was considered absolutely fine for men to visit brothels. So, this is not without precedent. On the other hand, Takashi did not ask if it was considered fine for women to do the same.

[@bluegamer4210]

@@vifcoz wow sounds like... every culture ever

[@97MiloProductions]

Could you do these types of questions but to foreigners residing in Japan? would be interesting to see their point or view or experiences regarding this topic, since they are currently living in the culture that houses it, could be a good outlook to see

[@JC-nx3lk]

Your videos are great. It's interesting to see that most seem to not really like prostitution all that much, but draw a distinction between the emotional and physical side of cheating, and thus find it acceptable. Very interesting. Thanks for the insight.

[@christine_15_26]

I still can't imagine how having sex with another is not considered cheating. In my opinion, I think this is one of the reasons why their romantic relationships aren't as deep compared to others. One said allowing their men to go to brothels decreases emotional cheating but this isn't true. Making love is the deepest way of showing affection to your significant other and both should be ale to connect on that level. Personally, I wouldn't want my man to go out and pay for sex. I do have a Japanese boyfriend and I asked him about this and he said that the probable reason why relationships are like this in Japan is because they can't communicate what they really want.

[@reck_er5003]

07:46 That is probably why! They themselves want to cheat as a sport or something hence, not to have a double standared they are ok with them going to brothels. Any women with a strong moral chacter who will never cheat, will never be ok with their partner going to brothel but this video just really sad to watch as a man.

[@coooolibri]

these are kids, they never had a really intimate romantic experience...

[@mohamedkamara7701]

moral is ddepending on the person@@reck_er5003

[@AJ-lj6qg]

These MFs are confused, no wonder they going extinct 😂

[@StaryzHelios]

that why birth rate in japan is catastrope nowadays

[@DCS_World_Japan]

The idea that sexual urges and emotions are different is an absolutely astoundingly shallow thought process. Even a one night stand involves emotions, they’re just temporary.

[@MasterofTheUniverse1337]

Same I can't seperate Emotions and Sex either.

[@flygirl1221]

Temporary or not very strong. I agree.

[@willywonka4340]

I dated a Taiwanese girl during my college years who thought it was forgivable for a person married to her cheated on her. But if a guy is going through the early phases of the dating proces, she'd drop him like a brick if he is unfaithful. 🤷‍♂️

[@chillin127]

Very sensible answers. Contemplative. Considerate. Whether you agree or not.

[@Aarminmusic]

"Its ok to have sex with someone else, as long as you pay" that really blows my mind to how diffrent our views are on these kind of things.

[@Hboogie182]

Society crumbles when God is taken out of the equation. They don't have any objective standards to base their morals on. It all becomes subjective without God.

[@Aarminmusic]

​@@Hboogie182 judging on how insane that statement is, i assume your American. Japan has higher standard of living, freedom, freespeach and basically everything compare to USA. Just because they are not Christians dont mean they are "bad people" or their country is non functional. America is place for drugs, shootings porn and fanatics. Think about that before you pass judgement

[@Vintage_Dollyy]

​@@Hboogie182Facts ❤

[@ohyeahyeah8150]

@@Hboogie182Which one? I have a few things to say on this, Japan has the highest life expectancy in the world, I think they’re doing just fine as a society, secondly religion can get people to do good things, but it can also get people to do bad things and most importantly it gets people to believe things with absolute certainty without evidence which goes completely against critical thinking, it takes critical thinking away from intelligent people.

[@Hboogie182]

@@ohyeahyeah8150 highest life expectancy? I think more like highest suicide rate and lowest birth rate. Religion gives people structure for morality. It is not religion itself that makes people do bad things, it is "sin" that causes pain and suffering. Sin is deadly and highly contagious. When one sin, it corrupts us and everyone around us including people who are innocent. Which is why the bible is important, so that the world can understand how sin works and providing the solution to sin. You say that people believe things without evidence but eye witness testimonies actually constitutes as evidence or else it wouldn't be used in the court of law. Yes the books and letters of the bible are written by eye witnesses, and each book/letters compliment each other.