How narcissists KNOW if they can manipulate you

[@irene-jo3qh]

You really mastered their art you see right through them .Youre on point

[@TtBarnes-o9k]

I'm sorry but this hits hard . This is spot on what I went through with her . I noticed at the beginning but as you said I rushed into it because I thought quickly that this was a sign maybe of this amazing lifetime together . Shortly after there was so much I stuck around for and at the end now im heartbroken . But my thing is I knew something was off during the love bombing but I also never knew about love bombing so I just thought it's either a little crazy or she's really into a future with me . If anyone sees signs like what she's talking about please listen to her. Save yourself the heartache . I was with my daughters mother for 12 years and it didn't hurt nearly as close leaving her as to leaving my recent ex of a year and a half . It was a different type of burn and im still dealing . Be smart in these streets you nice hearted warriors .

[@randyscrafts8575]

In another video this girl described my mother. In this video she described an ex-girlfriend and the only girlfriend I'd ever had love bomb me. This girl is spot on. It was a train wreck I didn't see coming. I made it out. I used her abandonment issues against her making it her decision to dump me therefore avoiding triggering those abandonment issues. It took a few weeks but it worked.

[@charlesgroenendijk]

Damn you're good...

[@Ay-B]

Thank you!! I needed this. I want to break no contact (again), but im trying to be strong. You're right - no loyalty, no regard for rules. He's probably got someone else.

[@cynicalafflictional1725]

One day At a time. You don't need someone around if they are hurtful. Stay away from the toxicity. You win your Peace and you win their absence from attempts at ruining your life. Don't give them any chance.

[@BriJo91]

I feel this.. you always end up regretting it. Don't do it

[@laurienordin2076]

thank you for all your wisdom!! Wow!

[@MissionForward3]

110% Your best video ever, Danielle. This is how it starts. If you fall for it and stick around too long, the trauma sets in and you're trapped. I luckily began to question things and began to start being more observant. I recognized that something was wrong. I just didn't have a name for it. It wasn't until about 12 years into the marriage before I began to notice her incongruent behavior. Because of your channel and many others like it, I discovered that I had let myself fall victim to a covert narcissist. I got out when I recognized the discard phase where I let things progress up to the divorce by letting her feel like the winner. I was overly generous but it seemed like the best way to escape. Even so, her smear campaign extended to the only remaining family I had leaving me no option but to go no contact with them, too. I'm totally alone but happier than I've been in 25 years. I understand now that there was nothing I could have done to change the outcome. I do wish I could have understood the game being played a lot sooner so that I would have reacted better in some situations. She was exceptional at passive aggressive provocation.

[@JacobCarlson-uq1my]

Fascinating

[@helensophia2900]

Amazing content 🙏

[@karenkennedy6331]

I realize now how my narcissistic husband love bombed me at the beginning, he knew what he wanted, it’s not love! He knew I am a good person, an empath, and would not be cruel to him, or abandon him,. He has deep emotional trauma from childhood, and is really not going to change and has hit rock bottom, old and handicapped now, still cruel to those around him, thinking he is a good person, he is not!

[@veritas1177]

"Guess I'll just roll with it" 😅 Man, that's exactly how the grandest love scam of my life started.

[@LittleMew133]

I feel like I'm so immuned because I'm the least "roll with it" person ever. My brain constantly seeks out challenges xD So whenever someone drop a "too good to be true" gift on my lap, I don't buy it.

[@user-zr4ci7oc9t]

it's so hard to think that person I knew will never return. It was my first relationship when I met him when I was 20, it moved fast but again, I just thought we had a strong connection and he was a 'gift' to my life after trauma. I really loved how he made me feel, I loved him and thought our relationship was perfect. it was just a smoke screen. It's been 6 months since we broke up and one month of no contact. The worst part is a month or so into our relationship, he put his hand on my heart and said he was really sorry for the way people had treated me in the past, that what I went through was horrible, and that I could feel safe and let my guard down because he will NEVER hurt me. it felt like the reverse of a broken heart, that was the first time I'd felt that emotion and the last, it felt like my heart was breaking but was being put together. it's difficult to describe but I needed someone to say that to me my whole life and didn't know until it happened. it's like you've been deprived of something your whole life as important as food and water, but since you don't physically die you just sorta get used to not having it, and when you do, it's insane. in my case it was emotionally neglectful and abandoned in childhood so when he was with me 24/7 I couldn't believe it 8 months after saying that he was strangling me, hitting me, and calling me names, the relationship had turned for the worst. to be hurt that badly I don't know if I can get into a relationship again. but when people touch me, even just briefly, it feels like being electrocuted in the best way, so even though I tell myself I don't want a relationship and can't trust someone, I can almost guarantee the next time someone shows me attention and affection I will fall hard but that's what I'm working on. when you go through this narcissistic abuse you have to hold onto your soul for life and hope eventually you'll get out. It's nightmarish to fully comprehend that this kind of person will never, ever be back. the most difficult thing to grieve is the person who never existed

[@BriJo91]

You nailed it. I believe I've dated three of these people and I really needed to read this. Thank you❤

[@cb9825]

Usually people who say "trust me" are not to be blindly trusted 😢

[@OlBlueshound]

My ex partner narcissist of seven years works in an aged care facility and she watches very carefully for her new potential boyfriend through her work. She always targets the son of a resident who is doting on his parents and caring for them and very soft and kind and thoughtful. She did it to me and she has just done it again. When I asked her to be fair and join in my life and share the work at her house and maybe even helped me at my house sometimes ,and make some decisions towards our future. She went straight off with another residents son. She had no intention of growing or working on our relationship she just took me for everything she could get and then moved on to a new man and she's done that multiple times. I'm very sad because I truly love to but as Danielle says what I was in love with was just an illusion the only time I saw the true person behind the illusion was when she brought her a new boyfriend to our favorite spot and was hanging all over him and kissing him knowing that I would pass by there and see them. It actually creeped me out that I could have been with such a low life. Best part is I'm free of her now. I just need to heal now and maybe one day I'll find someone that is honest and true.

[@cowboynohorse]

Get out of there, go no contact, shut it down. I love this!

[@dahliafiend]

Thank you. I really let down my guard because she was an older woman a mother who was vulnerable. I didn’t think it was possible for her to be as cruel and awful as she’s proven herself to be. It was and remains shocking.

[@Den-pf5wz]

Thank you for this pointed reminder of how one can fall into the narc’s trap and the difficulty to get out. As a survivor of this type of relationship over and over, folks have a hard time processing why i got involved and the long extricating process. Your videos are a good “ tuneup” that no contact and realize there is much better out there is very timely particularly at this time of year(Christmas). The narcs i was with created that Rockwell optics around this season but the undercurrent was go into debt to spoil, spoil and spoil with lavish gifts. Thank heavens i woke up. Thanks Danielle, your information is solid gold and cuts thru the psycho babble bs espoused by many windbags.

[@EdelweisSusie]

As someone who wants to enter the dating pool in 2024 and been victim of such a man as you mention here, would you do a video about what questions to ask so I don’t get sucked in again because I’m terrified - and my heart couldn’t take getting destroyed again. Thank you. Happy Christmas.

[@Mayfloweralways]

It doesn’t matter what you ask. It does matter how you respond. 1) keep your sense of healthy skepticism. This could be a mask. Let it play out over time. 2) don’t be forgiving over early red flags. Like- he take a long break between contact. No matter what the excuse. He plays hot and cold. He plans lazy dates. Like you coming over or anything involving access to a bed. 3) Don’t be afraid of him leaving. Be grateful he showed you he’s not the right guy. But you can only do this if you do not see sky rockets and stars and start to chase. Take a healthy step back and treat the dates as his trial period. Not as your chance to get him to like you.

[@carparthero]

@susannefiztpatrick9955 here's 3 questions to ask yourself when you are unsure about someone who is currently (or going to be) involved in your life: assuming you are treating said person in good faith, the way you would want to be treated: 1) what value do you bring to my life? 2) if the situation was reversed, would you do as much if not even half for me, of what i have done and/or would do for you? 3) if i stayed to myself, what would i miss about you? 4) *bonus* how do i feel when i am around you. do you make my life better or worse? if you actually have to ask any or all of these questions out loud to the other person, they probably are not a good fit for you. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[@EdelweisSusie]

@@Mayfloweralways Thank you so much for taking the time to give such valuable advice. I've taken a screen print of it so I don't forget it!! I didn't realise my ex (sadly, The Love of My Life) was a Narc until I found Danielle's channel - then I learned about love-bombing; him having three different lives (ie a home life, work life and a secret life); constantly moving the goalposts; not getting divorced, just staying separated. It all makes sense now. Older and wiser. So grateful to you. x

[@EdelweisSusie]

@@carparthero I'm so grateful for your advice, thank you so much - it's really opened my eyes to all the 'red flags' that I missed when I was with my ex and for which I now feel a right fool for not having spotted. When I found Danielle's channel and realised my charming ex was a Narc, all the love-bombing, constant phone calls, wearing different masks, moving the goalposts, never moving the relationship forward etc suddenly made sense, like the pieces of a jigsaw fitting into place. I will do exactly as you say - just praying I can find a nice, decent man to practice all this on (ha ha). Happy Christmas. x

[@BriJo91]

Same thing. I don't think I can handle one more. I'm pretty sure it'll do me in. I'm terrified to even give anyone a chance because I thought I really asked and did all of the things but oh my gosh I was 100% wrong. Love bombing is like a drug.. I genuinely don't even remember what I was feeling when it happened.😢

[@janedoe5229]

They target sweet, kind, helpful, empathetic, and forgiving people. Then they know that no matter how much they abuse you, you will forgive them, be kind to them, give them the benefit of the doubt, and hang in there. And give more.

[@kaitlincox9714]

So absolutely true. You are amazing. Thank you

[@oftin_wong]

If they are your parent ...its slightly different So much of the advice is for couples

[@godisamulti-racialhermaphr7560]

Sworn to fun, loyal to nun!

[@spectershore4482]

"They are morally bankcrupt"🤭🤭🤣🤣🤣

[@douwe4549]

Whenever i feel weak and want to break the no contact, I listen to you, i am instantly cured, pff another narrow escape..

[@LittleMew133]

I cannot believe how easily people believe in the nicety facades at the beginning...

[@JacobCarlson-uq1my]

So it sounds like they have an instant radar for vulnerable soft people?

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

"New Money Suit and Tie I Can Read You Like a Magazine" Taylor Swift's "Blank Space" Song and Video circa era 2014 "Got a Long List of Ex-Lovers They'll Tell You I'm Insane"...."Cause I Got a Blank Space Baby and I'll Write Your Name."

[@matikramer9648]

I get Been there, done that But people don't get Even caregivers don't get, because they were never couched about it... But I get... And in my private opinion that's a real dirt, human excrements are cleaner than that... Everyone that reads it, please get help and get out, if you can before it is too late.. Have pitty on yourself and mercy for yourself, and get out... Good luck to all

[@pauline1140]

So true

[@heatherbowman9450]

580th like❤💚💖💝 0:22

[@arrmaxx8534]

1st. Love your channel

[@nicholecornes1915]

Stop!!! Dont do it! They are evil

[@aleciawimer8506]

Don’t go to bars!!! Trust in Jesus Christ and meet people in a sound, Baptist church. Still, go slow and use wisdom.

[@oaw972]

yeah churches aren't always the best either. A lot of pretend Christians out there.

[@BriJo91]

😂oh yeah the Baptist Church sounds like a great place to choose between a bunch of narcissists.. what happened to the USA 🙄🤯🥱

[@janedoe5229]

I have met narcissists at church. They quote scripture, lead worship, lead Bible studies, etc. They loved being super spiritual and being admired.

[@thetruther954]

I think I took pity on you once before and showed a good young stud can be screwed up too, has no idea what he's doing. Give up on this treachery you find in this young man who said he loved you. He may have let himself get frightened, but there is a chance he still does. Was he a football star? Going around telling all the men he could find how he made it? No? Then give the guy a chance. He may still love you, buried deep inside.