How not to be Angry all the Time

[@IdoN0TneedTherapy]

Now I need advice on how to live with soul-crushing pessimism.

[@chrisdavidson6838]

IdoN0TneedTherapy. Therapy?

[@datboi1026]

just gotta liek try not to or just look at the situation and be greatful, as things likely could’ve gone mich worse. Sometimes that works, but often not. But, try to make the most of stuff. Not everything is gonna be horrible.

[@sumexz6418]

One step at a time

[@singingtuna4786]

is it not even more soul-crushing though to be optimistic about a world where everything goes wrong all the time?

[@catpaws1913]

Slightly Positive nihilism

[@maxcoseti]

I was expecting a better video, now I'm angry

[@feraudyh]

You look like Fred ⚡. Just joking.

[@-anaamna5616]

maxcoseti next time expect the worst .... this way u will get better than ur expectations .... result = satisfaction ... prob solved 😂

[@blackchang1981]

+Henri de Feraudy lmao!

[@TorquemadaTwist]

maxcoseti I hope you're not still angry.

[@QuantumCuttlefish]

Bruce Dunn Well, he still is. Does that make you angry?

[@RJ3220]

No matter how much I lower my expectations I'm still disappointed. Take this video for instance.

[@wks6034]

Yes. Stupid idiots making stupid shit videos.

[@Prep965445]

But are you angry?

[@spigbungus]

@@Prep965445 intensely

[@Star-dj1kw]

😂

[@villa_guz7844]

😂

[@brookskaniho9672]

I used to be angry all the time, but then I hit rock bottom, and there I somehow came up with the idea to just be happy that I am alive and experiencing this life. So far a few months later it’s still working I try to remind myself to be happy to be alive whenever times are hard.

[@tracesprite6078]

It's probably good to notice when you're feeling unhappy in case there is something positive you can do to fix the situation. However, sometimes it's just a matter of enduring a tough situation. You can still make yourself a promise that if you discover a practical solution to your problems, then you will explore it.

[@weekendwarriorprospecting817]

Sounds like you've given up and accepted that you should be on the bottom rung. They've battered your ambition and drive to become who you deserve to be. This is a tactic that I believe governments impose on the public to keep us down.

[@inne_rzeczy]

So, secret to not being angry is lose all hope. Done.

[@francisugorji757]

Prze Zając *lose. And yes pretty much.

[@inne_rzeczy]

thank you!

[@poemoe1493]

Not hope but expectations

[@inne_rzeczy]

Musical Pears do you? Really?

[@benzur3503]

thats the choice really, when misfortune and suffering occurs to you you can either project it onto yourself in sadness or unto others in rage. neither is capable of holding the entirety of it by itself without reprocautions.

[@WaffleAbuser]

I used to be angry all the time, now I feel pessimistic all the time.

[@jjc5475]

WaffleAbuser welcome to reality, but better a bit pessimistic than totaly depressed.

[@xxdemonxx4573]

WaffleAbuser I'm still pissed off every day , and when my rage past , I'm depressed )

[@GutsyGuy]

I don't understand this why these kind of videos are being made where there no education and knowledge. this is just one man's view and completely not true.

[@xxdemonxx4573]

Saman Shrestha I thought I learned something from it , but it looks like it lacks any point or meaning . People differ, we all are stimulated by outside factors differently

[@revigres]

Saman Shrestha so is it just true that this video has nothing to offer and it's just someone else's wrong opinion, or is it just your opinion (which could be wrong as well)?

[@jackfoster9760]

'Anger is stronger than fear, stronger than sorrow." "Fear and sorrow inhibit action; anger generates it. When you learn to make proper use of your anger, you can change fear and sorrow to anger, then turn anger into action. That’s the body’s secret of internal alchemy.” Dan Millman

[@ihy_btw3597]

Nice👍

[@angief6364]

That's why many prefer more angry than fear or sadness in emotions, because of the false believe that fear and sadness represent weakness while angry represents strenght.

[@martinjugolin2087]

@@angief6364 anger is strenght

[@jasminschmalzl9734]

Love your answer :)

[@rivabetzalel3278]

As long as action isnt throwing a chair across the room 😂

[@kellykizer6718]

The anger can be worse then what your angry about.

[@CrocaHead]

*than

[@Incred_Canemian]

So give up all hope, got it.

[@whiskeyopsonps4497]

Incredible Canemian That's pretty much what KZbin wants us to do.

[@powerfighterrundown8247]

Incredible Canemian it's more like understanding the uncontrollable

[@AndrewDeer1]

No, it's about expectations rather than hope. Do you see the subtle difference? If you expect something, you will be angry when you are let down. Hope shouldn't make you angry in case of fail. The true hope, at the very least. Luke Skywalker (the new hope) wouldn't make people angry if he failed, he would make them more sad (and death, in consequence... heheh)

[@guadalupeponce4916]

Incredible Canemian lmao!!! basically

[@johnj.johnington7487]

Incredible Canemian Hope of what? What do you hope is going to happen?

[@mk17173n]

this video is so pessimistic that it makes me angry.

[@raineodin]

Well maybe you shouldn't expect all yt videos to be optimistic then you might not have gotten angry.

[@mk17173n]

this video has no basis on reality. Angry is a normal human response if it is used the right way. This way of thinking will make everyone go from being angry to depressed.

[@austinhunter1586]

mk17173n It's not pessimism per se, it's more realism. Being realistic that you'll lose things, your partner won't understand you and sometimes you just can't control the way things go. It's not saying never be angry, just how not to have a very bad reaction to even the most minor things.

[@mk17173n]

yes but you cant think that way because it makes you passive. If everyone thought that way then no one would succeed. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them not accepting an inevitable outcome.

[@killman369547]

thats because your so optimistic, join us and you wouldn't be so angry. addendum optimism is important too but balancing these two is the key to making it through this madness we call life with your mind intact

[@jamesgilpatric264]

never assume that everything will go perfectly

[@Author_Alyssa_Taylor]

James Gilpatric -- Much better. You're elected to give the next lecture!

[@souramitadebnath575]

🙃!

[@UnironicallyToast]

Cant help but shake my head at some of this comments. Do you even speak english? None of you even speak like human anymore!

[@Eatingapicklern]

@@UnironicallyToastI don’t see anything wrong with the comments

[@cultofthevoid5677]

You know what makes me angry? This video.

[@giveupndie4559]

This made me even more angry

[@nitacruise9993]

Wendonely I know that shit right!😡

[@giveupndie4559]

fuck why am i here year later

[@noochy9091]

cantchoosename I don’t know. Why are you?

[@13wayz70]

lol same

[@vegito8502]

murun deep inside you're hopeful.

[@chasbodaniels1744]

Gee, I didn't expect pessimism to be the key to managing disappointment. Now I'm pissed off and crestfallen. Life=Ruined

[@Tormentality]

If your life is ruined, you had too high of expectations for it in the first place ;) After all, who the fuck are you to think that you deserve happiness?

[@chasbodaniels1744]

I just remembered an early Elvis Costello lyric: "Well I used to be disgusted, but now I try to be amused."

[@tylerdurden9161]

Hango Maze we are all dancing, all singing crap of the world.

[@SUGAR_XYLER]

happiness is just a myth

[@akamba12]

Remember the stoics video? In that video they kinda already said this.

[@pinecsne]

....well this was not what I expected Time to crush all my hopes and never expect anything from anyone....

[@darkfeather6857]

This reminds me of a sermon I heard years ago and to some extent what a therapist said years before that. The therapist said, have no expectations and you will stop being disappointed. That made me furious, but he's right. The sermon was you decide ahead of time. You can decide ahead of time that there will be traffic on your way to and from work because there always is. You can either keep getting angry about it, which does no good, or you can decide there will be traffic, and while I'm sitting there, I can listen to an audiobook or something else that edifies my mind.

[@k1ll3trs86]

No expectations is the pinnacle of individualism and turns human into a beast after throwing away everything good. Humans function good when you expect good things, therefore you are motivated for good results. What that heretic priest is telling you is that he is depressed and expects nothing of life.

[@Heroasaurus]

Fred kills his wife and commits suicide. Fred was hopeful.

[@brownycandy6752]

you know what i dont have my phone im on my labtop so i cant send any emojis so hahahaha

[@patrickwalsh8913]

Bryan A hahahaha

[@midnightsky7257]

KourtlynLashae Caicedo hahahaha no one cares

[@808Mark]

🤣🤣🤣

[@evapereira7852]

Bryan A bruh 😂😂😂😂

[@h0m3st4r]

Pessimism is the cure for anger and optimism for depression. You need both in balance to see life for what it really is and be happy with it.

[@FarewellApollo]

couldn't agree more! Both are necessary to maintain a healthy mindset. When faced depression, my thoughts were "nothing will ever go my way and I shouldn't have any goals because they won't be fulfilled." After getting out of that mindset and seeing things for what they really are, I've realized how good of a thing hope and optimism can be when used in moderation. We need to use optimism when looking at our goals, otherwise we will never achieve anything and never find out what we could have done because pessimism tells us "it isn't gonna happen, so just give up" which is a very unhealthy way to live.

[@wlfshertz4362]

h0m3st4r I love how your profile pic says "light" XD 光明!

[@FarewellApollo]

Gr8 Incarnate but there are small examples in everyday life where optimism can be very useful and get you that initial motivation to actually try and attempt to make things better for yourself. Optimism is a big part of motivation. An example would be when you want to ask someone out on a date. Pessimism would tell you "they're not gonna like you. What's the point in trying? They're gonna say no." So you would never actually find out for sure what they would have said. It takes a bit of optimism and thinking "maybe they'll say yes!" to get the courage to take chances. And even if they say no, you could at least say you tried and not have to live with not knowing what they would have said.

[@FarewellApollo]

Gr8 Incarnate You're right, that is a possibility as well. Asking someone out means that you put yourself in a vulnerable position to the possibility of getting hurt via rejection. There is always a risk with that sort of thing. As with anything in life, one can become resentful towards something that has hurt and scarred them before in the past. It's really up to the individual to let something like that effect their choices or not. One must ask themselves if the risk is worth the reward. The last part of your comment rings very true. The optimistic viewpoint is a tool to be used, but not alone. Diversity is very important, and this is no exception. Optimism is one of many tools at one's disposal to build their life on. It is really up to the individual to decide what they want to use and when and where they want to use it.

[@avggamer86]

Kiljaz Ink "you need both in balance" i think its fair to say y'all are saying the same thing.

[@aimandurrani2228]

This is so true. In my 19 years of living things have never turned out the way I expect them to. No day is the same and every encounter is different. To be hopeful here doesn’t mean optimistic it means putting faith in a world that is constantly proving you wrong and it shows you it will never live up to your expectations of it. And yet you still somehow don’t accept this reality and make the lives of people around you harder than they need to be. But an addition: Don’t be pessimistic, be realistic and patient. Always

[@bjewel3751]

So to control anger, we need to be pessimistic about everything so when the unexpected happen that makes us mad, we were so negative about it the situation to start with that doesn’t even affect us. I understand this side of viewing it. Thank you for the video

[@LolKid15]

Or you do some research on ayahuasca (plant medicine) and work with our psychological issues, by going through our emotional and mental fields. And do the clearing work of the distortion energy in the emotional field, calling these energy patterns to be resolved and dissolved, as well as working with the mental field, aka the mind-field, from a similar idea of both fields having energies built into them by our interaction with our reality as well as other humans :)

[@ct6852]

Problem with that is you can end up taking shit out on people that really don't deserve it, instead of the source.

[@EL-gm2xr]

Good. Now, what's the cure for pessimism?

[@FelipeKana1]

Eddit Lugo Stoicism? shows us that "bad" things aren't ever truly bad

[@Ajibica117]

Eddit Lugo a walk in the park.

[@pumpkin6429]

Kiljaz Ink A pessimist in the eyes of an optimist is a realist.

[@ryanowen3026]

Start humping every thing you see

[@mahedelamo]

anger

[@Moliminous]

You can't have a nightmare if you never dream

[@10colej]

Moliminous L

[@harjitbassi4239]

You are so wrong, I have a nightmare without me having any sleep, you know what it is? It's called this reality I'm living in

[@caycug1]

Life IS a nightmare if you DON''T dream.

[@Galaxia53]

R Loyola

[@LilMissTravelPants]

You always dream. You just don't remember most of them.

[@dend1]

Anger is a violent outcry to realize hope. Pessimism is the belief that hope is a lie. It suppresses anger, because anger has nothing to fight for.

[@genn.623]

I agree with this video and I think a lot of people misunderstood this because this actually failed to acknowledge the philosophy which stems it- Stoicism. As an average person who practices stoicism in my daily life, I understood the message. It's not about *expecting the worst*, it's about accepting that it isn't possible to have everything under our control which means that there are simply some things that won't go the way we want it to be all the time BUT instead of trying to control those things that are beyond our control, we should focus instead of how we approach and react to these unexpected, inevitable, unfortunate scenarios that will sure come our way. This video only covered the part where we should be a bit realistic about the limits of our control and how the world works and I wished they also provided the optimistic part and the practical respond to these unfortunate events.

[@TheSimcraftFixion]

Lesson: Don't expect too much! Accept that life will not always go the way you want it. 😃😃😃

[@user-zy3cr9xf5q]

TheSimcraftFixion that's true!

[@jgigas9834]

TheSimcraftFixion People that need humble lessons the most won't understand them, this is why you "wax on, wax off" suggest to them.

[@armkenz]

but isnt that surrendering and that only losers surrender? im in a huge slump of my life just because of that thought that i cant accept things anymore and ive come to tell myself that if i dont fight every single little thing to be perfect i will be a failiure

[@TheSimcraftFixion]

armkenz It's not surrendering. It's acceptance. You will never be happy if you keep on wanting everything to happen the way you want it to happen.

[@TheSimcraftFixion]

But you can always change for the better. 😃

[@zorya5280]

So instead of being angry I should be sad all the time??

[@peanut4820]

Not really. Just lower your expectations. Like I do!

[@capper6100]

Pessimistic doesn't mean sad, it means doubtful or just having low expectations for the future... you can be happy and pessimistic. I know because that's how I am... I'm a happy guy who doesn't expect much.

[@rhythmf.4460]

This isn't the type of anger that i experience.

[@saskia4178]

@@peanut4820 Where is your Avatar from?

[@peanut4820]

@@saskia4178 I don't even remember posting that comment, but I drew it myself

[@JesusChristIsMyLordSavior]

I find myself who often says, “It doesn’t matter”…and it’s a major relief every time. “They don’t care” “It is what it is”.

[@cervgiovanni]

First time I've cried on the spot by a video. Allowing my feelings to flow. I'm so hopeful and full of dreams. I'm getting angry that life is not going the way i want it to go. Ty SoL. I can get to my life

[@Jacob-yg7lz]

I wouldn't say pessimism. Just realism. I know that situations are hopeless, so I don't worry about them,

[@AsatorIV]

But that's the thing, they are not always hopeless, but if you think of them as such, you won't be disappointed with how they turn out.

[@josephsimeon6160]

Realism in the way that, as the school of life has mentioned before, the understanding that everyone (hence most things we make/are in control of) is equally as crazy as us. I use this idea daily and rarely find myself angry.

[@neoc1121]

If you're emotionally involved, you can't just be pure realistic. But you surely can learn to look at things from a distance so you aren't involved as much.

[@Bugumir]

Thank you for this video. You have made me realize that there are worse things than being angry. Like being dead inside.

[@tracesprite6078]

I think that dead feeling comes from unacknowledged anger. We can't always be blasting people with anger, but we should acknowledge our own frustration and then think about the most positive and creative ways to make things better.

[@Hyderagean]

​@@tracesprite6078spoken like somebody who's never had soup-ripping life events happen to them before.

[@Zlik.]

⁠@@Hyderageanright “find a way to make things better” sounds like that person never had issues good to them tbh.

[@shaunjimbangan1166]

​@@Zlik. What else can you do?

[@BAGGStheAugmented]

I've been struggling to explain my anger to other people, and this video did it for me. This is very close to what I'm feeling inside lately. I'm not sure if this is the same for others, but this personally rings true for me.

[@FreddyAtton]

both funny and accurate...HOWEVER, this video fails to mention the amplification effects of caffeine and alcohol on anger. Cut down on the coffee and don't drink if you are already mad at something because those two chemicals will make you even angrier.

[@Darklogic112358]

No one really understands each other, life is really just a sequence of disappointments, and the solution is to give up hope. Thank you School of Life, I feel a lot better now.

[@aarone9000]

Addressing your opening sentence; ..and yet people Want to live as long as possible. 😮

[@tracesprite6078]

Just to shine a little light into the darkness, I think that the people on this page are trying to understand each other, and we are all motivated by a desire to make the world a little better. I am so sorry to think of all the disappointments that you have endured. I hope that since you wrote this post, that some good things have happened in your life.

[@Thorloar]

@@aarone9000 that’s just biology.

[@divine.defined.sthetics9876]

I guess living with this setting towards life is just ugly. Would be interesting if he could give us an update from his actual life

[@Kapuist1]

This is what some existentialists like Camus implied with their writings - the world is absurd, so we shouldn't keep our hopes up that it's rational or "good" or "bad", etc

[@Tormentality]

I just read all the comments, and this one is by far the most true and insightful imo

[@mindfulmike8612]

As soon as this video started i was thinking "the cure is to read more Camus". Once you realize that nothing really matters, then there's nothing to get angry about!

[@Tormentality]

mindfulmike Fucking rights! Read Camus, stay mindful. Shit will work out!

[@UnpredictableSB]

Didn't Camus made it very clear that that one of the 7 ways to respond to the absurd is to become an existentialist, drawing a line that existentialism is different from acceptance and absurbism. I'm an existentialist, by the way.

[@Tormentality]

UnpredictableSB I don't know. To be an existentialist, doesn't one need to accept the absurd and then create a superficial reason for being? I am probably way off since I don't know the precise philosophical definitions of these terms. I was just reading wiki's definition of existentialism... I am not sure the difference between nihilism and existentialism, so this is interesting: Although nihilism and existentialism are distinct philosophies, they are often confused with one another. A primary cause of confusion is that Friedrich Nietzsche is an important philosopher in both fields, but also the existentialist insistence on the inherent meaninglessness of the world. Existentialist philosophers often stress the importance of Angst as signifying the absolute lack of any objective ground for action, a move that is often reduced to a moral or an existential nihilism. A pervasive theme in the works of existentialist philosophy, however, is to persist through encounters with the absurd, as seen in Camus' The Myth of Sisyphus ("One must imagine Sisyphus happy"),[40] and it is only very rarely that existentialist philosophers dismiss morality or one's self-created meaning: Kierkegaard regained a sort of morality in the religious (although he wouldn't himself agree that it was ethical; the religious suspends the ethical), and Sartre's final words in Being and Nothingness are "All these questions, which refer us to a pure and not an accessory (or impure) reflection, can find their reply only on the ethical plane. We shall devote to them a future work."

[@EM2theBee]

There's a whole school of thought that advocates practicing radical acceptance. Everything in the universe is exactly the way it is meant to be at this moment in time.

[@thandanaing297]

I have no idea why people are so inclined to the words optimistic and pessimistic as if it is relaying the meaning of happy and sad. All this video is trying to highlight is to not have your head in the clouds and ground yourself on this imperfect Earth. As soon as this angry person sees that life isn't so perfect, he isn't becoming dead inside or sad, he is simply seeing things as they are without any emotional attachment or judgement on how they "should" be or how he "wants" them to be. Ultimately through this seemingly "pessimistic" choice of thinking, he finds inner happiness.

[@Safamatar95]

I strongly disagree with the last sentence: "pessimism is the cure for anger". Its rather: havong no expectations is the cure for anger and there is a great different between no expectations and always expecting the worst case scenario

[@isabellabihy8631]

I highly agree. Not having an expectation on an outcome means you're settling with the results you are getting. The video isn't quite exacting in the language. But then language is prone not to be exact. Nonetheless, I find the idea interesting that failed expectations (it will work out) are the cause of anger. Avoiding anger could mean communicating your expectations beforehand which might help to put them in perspective. Did you know: For pessimists and disaster thinkers black is a bright color. :-)

[@WendWillow]

@@isabellabihy8631 I’m pessimistic and things make me more angry.

[@pauljack2267]

I agree

[@ricardosoca7380]

This is much better advice than the one offered by the video, thanks Sofi!

[@pazuzu126]

Exactly, I changed from like to dislike because of that last sentence

[@PsyCoCinematics]

So there ya have it, folks! Just stamp out your hopes in life and be depressed. That aughta sort all yer problems out.

[@kielanderson4447]

pessimistic******** lol,

[@robertapascal6962]

Seems quite British. Lol

[@hanhdtle]

If you can cannot distinguish the difference between being realistic and being depressed then you're truly lost

[@charzipuddin6129]

Yeah, this was an odd one IMO. Usually they’re really good at explaining their entire message (there’s a much better term, can’t remember right now), but this time it fell flat, again IMO. While I was able to guess what they were getting at, there’s likely someone or two who can’t, so what do they do with such sad info? 😕

[@nathanielbeha833]

CharziParziPuddinPie is the word you're looking for "elaborating" perchance?

[@MichelleFarrismft]

This was a very interesting perspective - I agree that in order to manage anger we need to adjust our expectations. Part of how I do this is to check my "self-talk" for blaming or negative statements because those are usually the culprit :) Anger can be controlled when you have the willingness to learn how to change it. That takes real courage but we also have to not punish ourselves for the struggle. Anger is a tough emotion to manage especially when you grow up with raging or abusive parents. We are not at fault for our anger - but we are responsible for it's impact on others. I hope this helps :)

[@lunabeta3516]

Yout comment eas better than the video

[@HelovesU-we4qh]

Woe unto them that call good evil and evil good! Anger is not hope, it is a totally different emotion!

[@SurvivingasMom]

I used to be angry all the time. Then I worked in death care and learned what is really important in life. Now I just let things roll off my back. Being angry isn't worth it. Plus, it is a total waste of energy.

[@jesbercat7904]

Surviving as Mom I take meds.... they help a lot.

[@sonias9722]

So what is it that is important?

[@808Mark]

I've thought about doing that too, to humble my ass

[@ImmaterialDigression]

"That's my secret, I'm always angry" - Hulk :D

[@dayofjustice289able]

ImmaterialDigression mine too

[@juddbrady1825]

Have no hope, don’t expect anything to work, always expect problems and disappointment you will always lose in life what a joy it is to be here!

[@kuidelu]

I have lived with many angry people and I think it's most a lack of fear than a lack of sadness. They are reckless, neglectful, and when things went wrong as everyone could have predicted except themself, instead of learning from their mistakes they feel like life is unfair because of course nothing is ever their fault ... Anger is the sword, fear is the shield.

[@exbladex99]

Yes pessimism can work. A lot of people also become cynical as a replacement for anger. The reality is, there's a better way: manage your expectations. Not really pessimism. Optimism with a sense of pollyanna, looking at cup half full, without the cup half full... More like the cup is 10% full and you're happy with that. Used to be riddled with anger. Then I became cynically skeptical, bitter, pessimistic, still angry. Years later now I'm an low-expectation optimist with an aggressive drive but now calm and healthily skeptical without cynicism. Always with a sense of acceptance and thinking of everything through the lens of evolution: "well this is how it turned out, because this is what survived."

[@Anekantavad]

If this doesn't paste properly, please look up "A Shropshire Lad" :-) A. E. Housman (1859-1936). A Shropshire Lad. 1896. LXII. Terence, this is stupid stuff ‘TERENCE, this is stupid stuff: You eat your victuals fast enough; There can’t be much amiss, ’tis clear, To see the rate you drink your beer. But oh, good Lord, the verse you make, 5 It gives a chap the belly-ache. The cow, the old cow, she is dead; It sleeps well, the horned head: We poor lads, ’tis our turn now To hear such tunes as killed the cow. 10 Pretty friendship ’tis to rhyme Your friends to death before their time Moping melancholy mad: Come, pipe a tune to dance to, lad.’ Why, if ’tis dancing you would be, 15 There’s brisker pipes than poetry. Say, for what were hop-yards meant, Or why was Burton built on Trent? Oh many a peer of England brews Livelier liquor than the Muse, 20 And malt does more than Milton can To justify God’s ways to man. Ale, man, ale’s the stuff to drink For fellows whom it hurts to think: Look into the pewter pot 25 To see the world as the world’s not. And faith, ’tis pleasant till ’tis past: The mischief is that ’twill not last. Oh I have been to Ludlow fair And left my necktie God knows where, 30 And carried half way home, or near, Pints and quarts of Ludlow beer: Then the world seemed none so bad, And I myself a sterling lad; And down in lovely muck I’ve lain, 35 Happy till I woke again. Then I saw the morning sky: Heigho, the tale was all a lie; The world, it was the old world yet, I was I, my things were wet, 40 And nothing now remained to do But begin the game anew. Therefore, since the world has still Much good, but much less good than ill, And while the sun and moon endure 45 Luck’s a chance, but trouble’s sure, I’d face it as a wise man would, And train for ill and not for good. ’Tis true, the stuff I bring for sale Is not so brisk a brew as ale: 50 Out of a stem that scored the hand I wrung it in a weary land. But take it: if the smack is sour, The better for the embittered hour; It should do good to heart and head 55 When your soul is in my soul’s stead; And I will friend you, if I may, In the dark and cloudy day. There was a king reigned in the East: There, when kings will sit to feast, 60 They get their fill before they think With poisoned meat and poisoned drink. He gathered all that springs to birth From the many-venomed earth; First a little, thence to more, 65 He sampled all her killing store; And easy, smiling, seasoned sound, Sate the king when healths went round. They put arsenic in his meat And stared aghast to watch him eat; 70 They poured strychnine in his cup And shook to see him drink it up: They shook, they stared as white’s their shirt: Them it was their poison hurt. -I tell the tale that I heard told. 75 Mithridates, he died old.

[@brettkarpf7775]

Logician I'm cynical instead of angry

[@Mrbrownstone1028]

I'm pessimistic and angry

[@contraryMV]

I relate to that. Realistic, understand how the world works and how people and things don't always cooperate ... still pissed.

[@animationhub3103]

Me too.

[@MrSupercar55]

As someone whose anger over issues such as missing belongings, traffic and malfunctioning devices has only dug me a deeper hole every time and created more problems than it could ever have solved, I daresay this is like looking into a mirror.

[@alibarznji2000]

Why am I angry? That is very simple: I had dreams and they were crushed, I'm unemployed, I'm loser, I'm full of myself because I can't stand admitting the fact that I'm a failure. I used to be so caring and patient, Now I'm a mess, I sleep most of the time, I'v lost the ability to care about anything or anyone, I have existential crisis almost all the time. I don't know what to do anymore, sometimes I'm so furious that I think I might die from a stroke, just kill me and be done with it. That's how anger and depression feels like folks.

[@anthonyko6366]

I am angry because this was a waste of my time

[@JustRed916]

You were so HOPEFUL

[@mikeyd7733]

Sarcasm I hope. Unrealistic expectations are the cause of anger. If you temper your expectations you will not be emotional when what is in your mind isn't reality.

[@experimental2.372]

Being pessimistic is like a temporary cure that causes another disease... which is (mediocrity/settling for less) I think what the commentator of this video means is not to be attached to outcomes.

[@j2times2006]

You explained it better way better than he did.

[@AlanisCastellanos]

Thinking mediocrity and sitting for less is bad, is itself a desease. The cure for almost all bad feelings is to keep your expectations alienated with the reality, might it be lower your expectations or work harder to make them true, but none of them is actually bad they both are just ways to reach happiness

[@Cris-xf4pg]

You could have phrased this in a better way, this video just made me feel like absolute shit

[@DeanithForeverYoung]

I'm angry all the time , mostly at myself...Can't help it.

[@sakura0055]

hey

[@sakura0055]

I literally saw the video after 15 seconds after its uploaded, I know no one cares okay.

[@theschooloflifetv]

Delighted you are here early!

[@sakura0055]

The School of Life I enjoy your videos! :)

[@mikey10006]

hai hai

[@yona1an]

(Hi (sorry for my bad english

[@user-mg3qc6ke7p]

really need a video on "how to stop thinking all the time"

[@jadejaguar69]

Даниил Инкин I'd recommend their "Why it's so hard to be present"

[@DJNHmusic]

Meditation. Just beware, you might become slightly apathetic to the world around you and start doing things which actually make you happy, regardless of what anyone thinks.

[@sillybillybob123]

Start by staying the fuck away from philosophy lmao

[@Anekantavad]

No you don't. You need to think harder, and better. Once you eat of the Tree of Knowledge, there is no going back.

[@lrcdert2010]

Даниил Инкин overthinking

[@girlslikemyspaghetti5055]

im always angry because of how people dont leave me alone

[@ajaxion1447]

And this is how my granddad painted the ceiling with his new-found mindset

[@Permafry42108]

You're right. Now that i gave up my optimism I don't feel amything at all and couldn't care less about life or living. THANKS!

[@sol5339]

atta boy

[@OLR1337]

Violet i could just as easily say antidepressants are a huge cause of substance abuse, so people should not use antidepressants. its called balance. you need it to function.

[@BigHenFor]

Violet Sarcasm is anger. Why are you angry?

[@sam2920]

Light RED FIRE, being suicidal is much different than not caring about life or living. Being opposed to yourself living is different than not caring either way.

[@MrMikeVee]

fuck that I'd rather be mad and full of hope,, then content and dead inside

[@whiteraven90]

Except you can't be simultaneously content and dead inside. Those two states of mind are only similar superficially. When you are dead inside, you are in fact still clinging to and mourning your sky high expectations.

[@danielmahoney6023]

I would argue that pessimism is the result of being angry and humility is the “cure” to anger.

[@dr.samuraisminutelecture7064]

It makes sense. If you set your ideal high, everything is unsatisfactory. To have bottom-up thinking makes you live more peaceful.

[@sillybillybob123]

A life without hope leads to pessimism, depression, nihilism, and ultimately a loss for the will to live.

[@rodrigomedeirosdasilva6915]

billy bob I think the video is just saying that being too hopeful can be a problem, but it's not suggesting you to give up on hope entirely.

[@sillybillybob123]

I understand but there seems to be a lot of hopeless people in the comments lol

[@rrayeclart7716]

billy bob 😂😂😂👏

[@EdwardScissorsHands1]

A life without all that leads to empty life. Only sorrow can make us feel life in a deep way.

[@sillybillybob123]

Eduardo Felipe Hmm i agree to an extent but if you're sorrowful 24/7 then the only life choice you have are 1) should i kill myself 2) should i cry some more

[@rishabhsingh9109]

wish I transformed like that when I get angry

[@apextroll]

I wish I didn't.

[@scottmckay9535]

It isn't 'optimism' that causes anger. It's expectations of people and outcomes that cause it.

[@BrentonSwafford]

I'm totally Fred, the only difference being that I rarely shout at people, but instead silently burn in rage while maintaining a deceptive smile on my face. The video totally gets me though; somewhere deep inside me I feel not just hopeful, but entitled to a world more perfect than this one.

[@JustDevon]

What if I'm an angry pessimist?

[@Geoffrey454]

JSR Devon what makes you angry?

[@JustDevon]

Geoffrey so many things. Most of it stems from me being frustrated and disappointed by my life

[@peachlife5118]

I agree i personally have a hard time relating to the "anger comes from expectations" idea because I expect very little from people yet they even fail on that front sometimes. It could be an issue of being too hard on yourself and lashing out on others as a result.. you need to be kinder to yourself and realize it is not all so serious.

[@ThexDynastxQueen]

WHY WAS THIS RECOMMENDED FOR ME!!?!!!

[@TehOddMenOut]

KZbin knows you are an angry person. Shhh, shhh. It will all be okay. KZbin is here to help.

[@mathew633man]

that vegeta picture is perfect with your comment

[@NbaLive4ever]

Basically what I got out of this was keep your expectations low

[@thyvevusion218]

I see a lot of people hating on the video in the comments, robot didn't say "be pessimistic all the time" it said "don't expect anything from anything", instead of expecting car keys not to get lost, try putting them in a bowl, instead of expecting your partner to understand you, try to understand them, and instead of expecting traffic not to be jammed, go 15 minutes earlier and so on. Fred isn't angry because he doesn't understand how things work or he's given up on life, he's hopeful things will get better, and that's what makes him angry, this video clicked for me

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

Not pessimistic, accepting.

[@Nattisu]

Cynthia Johnson exactly! The video has a good point but phrases it wrong

[@sophieesther]

THANK YOU

[@brandenburgquentinthe3rd532]

Accepting of pessimistic views over optimism, don't believe in anything as it's not 100% going to happen so never believe

[@GenJotsu]

Kind of makes sense if you think about brats and their tantrums; they expect everything to go perfectly their way.

[@george60m38]

I want to stop rage, but I don't want to be a pessimist. I love seeing all the good things rather than bad.

[@angief6364]

Wow, and I though it was the contrary: Angry = pessimistic Happy = optimistic But in reality, it is: Angry = very optimistic Happy = very pessimistic

[@GrahamMilkdrop]

"That should never have happened!" is the outcry of the deluded...

[@m4gik4rp_nuk36]

pessimism is the cure for anger? never thought of it like that. I always thought of it like- the key to happiness is low expectations

[@JosePerez-li7bk]

both are the same, just a change of perspective

[@michailg.skartoulis7157]

I read quite a few of the comments on this video. It's normal that you find the video frustrating, funny or simply disagree with it. The reason is because it does not go deep enough to explain how and why being "pessimistic" can help you being less angry. So almost everyone will miss the point. The point lies in deep philosophical theory and practice. In Stoicism (ancient Greek philosophy about resilience and self-control) the practice of "controlled meditation of evil" (Premeditatio Malorum) is fundamental. In very simple terms it means to meditate on bad things that could happen to you or the life around you with the purpose of preparing your mind about how it will respond. Therefore, growing more mentally prepared and resilient. For example if you are heading to the airport, imagine that your flight will be delayed or cancelled. How would you respond? What are the options that you should go through? Maybe asking for an alternative flight, or getting the train to go to your destination. In a safe and controlled state, you can evaluate your options. Then if the worst actually does happen, you are more prepared to face it and be rational instead of getting angry and yelling at the airport staff. There are many resources online to read about this practice and Stoicism in general. I recommend to anyone who does not agree with this video, to spend some time going through this Stoic practice. Then, the point of this video, will become clear and understandable.

[@ancienthamatendiscipline3533]

In my opinion the cure for anger is taming the ego's expectations. This means understanding one thing 'it's not all about you'...

[@Luke_Marto]

So is he basically saying dont hope for the best and brace for the worst, im confused

[@prodtomzy]

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

[@nixtoshi]

It's basically saying don't be too optimistic with your expectations so you aren't constantly disappointed. Instead remind yourself that things can go badly, which should be thought of when assessing potential outcomes (risk). Of course one of the outcomes is positive or even much more positive than you expected, but that's easy to do, most people except the good only

[@shannongodbey7420]

Hope for the Best, expect the Worst. Great song from the Mel Brooks movie, the Twelve Chairs

[@ObiJuanKenobi3]

Pessimism isn't the cure for anything. Realism is the cure. If you rationalize things then you won't get mad that it happened or sad that it will happen, you understand why it will happen and accept it

[@FelipeKana1]

ObiJuanKenobi3 not sure it works. realism is good after things happened and youre calming down. not so good to foresee every possible problem at every possible turn

[@Gimpactx]

ObiJuanKenobi3 I would disagree even though realism is the most rational; the topic is dealing with an emotion/reaction. Specifically, I believe this addresses the deep optimistic idealism rooted behind the anger which in a practical way is effectively lessened with the counter to that optimism: pessimism(cynicism may be a better word). I personally understand the analysis, though I believe nihilism is an even better cure to anger, though a root for depression. But if you are able to go one step further(one step back) and accept the relativity in the world, along with the irony and dissonance, I believe that that is the next step in cognitive evolution. Perhaps one day we will even come to understand the works of the universe, but for now, the term 'realism' is probably more ambiguous than optimism or pessimism, simply because of our cognitive limitations and lack of knowledge as individuals. Of course, "true" nihilism remains in theory yet not in practice, and the point of the video I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem. In turn, your perspective on life can change how you are, but not what you are completely.

[@FelipeKana1]

Siwar Rivers I agree with you. However, I think you mixed stuff on: "I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem" I think the video does gives a pragmatic approach, (expect the worse, so you can be thankful for the best when it comes and not surprised and angry when the worst comes: pessimism) and the "realism" proposal is more of a idealistic approach. Also important, but belonging to another level.

[@dontwatchmuhvideosanddontscrub]

"The Cure for Angry is Pessimism" *_An angry man engaged in heavy violence and the victim were awfully injured by the glass bottle scratch on the body._*

[@BrianYYH]

I had such high hopes for this video...

[@whosafraidoferiknrding4470]

I live in an overcrowded city here in Eastern Europe. I grew up a calm, happy-go-lucky boy in a small town in Canada. I've found living in such an overcrowded city has brought out the worst in me. Quick to anger; impatient; frustrated - saying things to strangers I never thought imaginable. I attempt to combat this but it's terribly difficult.

[@whosafraidoferiknrding4470]

Erwin Rommel Kyiv, Ukraine

[@romanfonseca7309]

come on. wait all that until you live in México City

[@jhgreen14]

Try Egypt and it will make the Ukraine look like a ride in the park.

[@whosafraidoferiknrding4470]

Zagwe Yemanu I have a hard time believing someone stepping on my foot and not excusing themselves or smelling like alcohol and sweat while pushed up against me or parking directly on the cross walk so it's impossible to cross the street is 'character building' but I do appreciate you taking the time to respond to my comment.

[@Anekantavad]

You might nor like it, but is it realistic to expect these things *not* to happen? "Vedius Pollio believed in a world where cups did not get broken", says Seneca in "On Anger". *Is* it realistic to expect everyone to park politely, not stagger drunkenly into your path, etc?

[@larysaprykhodko2971]

But with pessimism there's a new problem: Sadness.

[@mdg140]

Honestly, I can say this applies to me very well: I am very hopeful of people and most things. "Can't people just help this homeless person?!" "Why do so many people litter?!" "Why is this person cutting in line?!" These are just examples of expectations that are not met. However, I think what this video does not include is that people angry all the time (like me) are really people with unmet 'life' hopes. It's easy to get over small things when the 'big' things are working out. If some of your life's hopes are met, you have a peace that can gloss over the little stuff. Though when the 'big' hopes are not met, the 'small' hopes seem bigger and a lot more unbearable. The advice I'm trying to follow for myself is: continue to work on achieving your 'big' hopes, resolve what you need to in order to be at peace with the way things are. That is the solution.

[@ChakasCave]

Bill Burr brought me here

[@Leezeecabe]

me too :)

[@RolandMcGruner]

What did bill burr do?? Did he say this was a crock of shit or something?

[@No0W71]

Don't blow it Keep it simple Count your money

[@marymori8959]

... So the way to help pessimistic people is to tell them that life sucks and to get over it?

[@Doorhenge]

You won't have to tell pessimistic people that. The video is arguing those people already have zen-like understanding of things.

[@rabiabibi2346]

I’d say knowing how to deal with our expectations being met is the cure not pessimism because without hope you can’t keep going

[@protecriontundrastrategist73]

Funilly enough, pessimism pisses me off even more than a defeat of expectations. It makes me think I have nothing to look forward to, and that is pure hell to me.

[@mahedelamo]

but this is so sad. i want a partner to understand me. i dont want to lower my expectations.

[@10colej]

May Ad you have daddy issues don't you. That's why you let men treat you like shit.

[@Tinholl]

Kevin with hair I find it hilarious how you even came to that conclusion. Who am I kidding? You're probably a mouth-breathing neckbeard that's never talked to a girl based on that sentence alone.

[@Tinholl]

Kevin with hair just so you know i am actually an autistic 11 year old. close though

[@zimshadows]

It's sad, but you won't find someone who will fulfill all of your expectations. It's not about lowering the expectations, it's accepting that everyone is imperfect and everyone can make mistakes at any moment, even you.

[@foxsux6000]

Then you'll always be in for disappointment, rigging yourself for terrible relationships and it's why people are having shallow and superficial relationships that actually mean nothing..

[@TheStanStanmanson]

Anger and discomfort drives innovation. If you were to accept things as the shit hole of disappointment they are, then they will stay that way.

[@Bruckner]

Having very low expectations from others and from ordinary events will result in a blissful life.

[@ginamoncada78]

I'm a pessimist and I seem to have 2 dominant emotions: Anger and depression.

[@bayingjase2006]

Seriously? So you found this video BS? Have you found an effective way of dealing with your anger and depression issues?

[@ginamoncada78]

No. I can't seem to control my anger. When I feel that way I just try not to be around people. I stay at home, I don't awnser the phone, I **try** not to go online etc. When I'm depressed I do the same thing. People think I'm anti social...I'm not. I just can't be aroud people because I either come across as nasty or overly negative 🙁

[@bayingjase2006]

Gina I also find it easier to excuse myself from a situation rather than hurting someone else. Well good luck to us and our battle with our issues.

[@harjitbassi4239]

No disrespect but your advice is isn't helping, tbh it's actually wants me to take a wrong pill

[@harjitbassi4239]

Guess what, You feel your in a world with mindless sheep? Following the same process of living? E.g wake up, go to work, pay bills, get married, have kids, retirement, death? It's not worth it!

[@rileyv.4786]

The fact that this is #20 on trending shows me there's a lot of pissed off people in the world😂😂

[@MythopoeicNavid]

ESPECIALLY around the holidays! haha

[@iamyournytemare4253]

Thats because humanity as a whole are fucking scumbag pieces of shit.

[@adriantaner7950]

It’s nice how these videos tell so much yet nothing at the same time

[@VGWizaeD]

I struggle with anger. I'm not "secretly hopeful". I'm just angry...

[@Cityj0hn]

Don't stamp on your hopes, stamp on the world. Trust me, I'm not poor like these guys.

[@yahboi827]

"The pessimist looks down and hits his head. The optimist looks up and loses his footing. The realist looks forward and adjusts his path accordingly."

[@divinegoddess3060]

Thank you for shedding light on our "ugly" ways. Mindset is everything and accepting is enevitably intertwined with peace.

[@TheBigHomie209]

The travel part hit me hard because I hate traffic and traffic makes me angry because I’m so hopeful that I’m going to get somewhere on time

[@Jen18lol]

Yeah not getting how pessimism is the cure for anger

[@archmagemadara6979]

Jen Ye late reply, because you hope for things to go well, so when they don't go well, you get angry. If you think things will go wrong, when it happens, yoiu won't feel as angry.

[@SilentChaos713]

acceptance

[@peterwhitaker71]

It's the same as "the key to happiness is realistic expectations". If you accept and embrace that reality never lives up to expectations, you won't feel let down so often.

[@salmonline]

Expectations are like diarrhea for your tranquillity; They'll flush that shit right outta you.