Now I need advice on how to live with soul-crushing pessimism.
@chrisdavidson68384 жыл бұрын
IdoN0TneedTherapy. Therapy?
@datboi10264 жыл бұрын
just gotta liek try not to or just look at the situation and be greatful, as things likely could’ve gone mich worse. Sometimes that works, but often not. But, try to make the most of stuff. Not everything is gonna be horrible.
@sumexz64184 жыл бұрын
One step at a time
@singingtuna47864 жыл бұрын
is it not even more soul-crushing though to be optimistic about a world where everything goes wrong all the time?
@catpaws19134 жыл бұрын
Slightly Positive nihilism
@maxcoseti7 жыл бұрын
I was expecting a better video, now I'm angry
@feraudyh7 жыл бұрын
You look like Fred ⚡. Just joking.
@-anaamna56167 жыл бұрын
maxcoseti next time expect the worst .... this way u will get better than ur expectations .... result = satisfaction ... prob solved 😂
@blackchang19817 жыл бұрын
+Henri de Feraudy lmao!
@TorquemadaTwist7 жыл бұрын
maxcoseti I hope you're not still angry.
@QuantumCuttlefish7 жыл бұрын
Bruce Dunn Well, he still is. Does that make you angry?
@RJ32205 жыл бұрын
No matter how much I lower my expectations I'm still disappointed. Take this video for instance.
@wks60343 жыл бұрын
Yes. Stupid idiots making stupid shit videos.
@Prep9654452 жыл бұрын
But are you angry?
@spigbungus2 жыл бұрын
@@Prep965445 intensely
@Star-dj1kw2 жыл бұрын
😂
@villa_guz78442 жыл бұрын
😂
@brookskaniho96722 жыл бұрын
I used to be angry all the time, but then I hit rock bottom, and there I somehow came up with the idea to just be happy that I am alive and experiencing this life. So far a few months later it’s still working I try to remind myself to be happy to be alive whenever times are hard.
@tracesprite6078 Жыл бұрын
It's probably good to notice when you're feeling unhappy in case there is something positive you can do to fix the situation. However, sometimes it's just a matter of enduring a tough situation. You can still make yourself a promise that if you discover a practical solution to your problems, then you will explore it.
@weekendwarriorprospecting8177 ай бұрын
Sounds like you've given up and accepted that you should be on the bottom rung. They've battered your ambition and drive to become who you deserve to be. This is a tactic that I believe governments impose on the public to keep us down.
@inne_rzeczy7 жыл бұрын
So, secret to not being angry is lose all hope. Done.
@francisugorji7577 жыл бұрын
Prze Zając *lose. And yes pretty much.
@inne_rzeczy7 жыл бұрын
thank you!
@poemoe14937 жыл бұрын
Not hope but expectations
@inne_rzeczy7 жыл бұрын
Musical Pears do you? Really?
@benzur35037 жыл бұрын
thats the choice really, when misfortune and suffering occurs to you you can either project it onto yourself in sadness or unto others in rage. neither is capable of holding the entirety of it by itself without reprocautions.
@WaffleAbuser7 жыл бұрын
I used to be angry all the time, now I feel pessimistic all the time.
@jjc54757 жыл бұрын
WaffleAbuser welcome to reality, but better a bit pessimistic than totaly depressed.
@xxdemonxx45737 жыл бұрын
WaffleAbuser I'm still pissed off every day , and when my rage past , I'm depressed )
@GutsyGuy7 жыл бұрын
I don't understand this why these kind of videos are being made where there no education and knowledge. this is just one man's view and completely not true.
@xxdemonxx45737 жыл бұрын
Saman Shrestha I thought I learned something from it , but it looks like it lacks any point or meaning . People differ, we all are stimulated by outside factors differently
@revigres7 жыл бұрын
Saman Shrestha so is it just true that this video has nothing to offer and it's just someone else's wrong opinion, or is it just your opinion (which could be wrong as well)?
@jackfoster97603 жыл бұрын
'Anger is stronger than fear, stronger than sorrow." "Fear and sorrow inhibit action; anger generates it. When you learn to make proper use of your anger, you can change fear and sorrow to anger, then turn anger into action. That’s the body’s secret of internal alchemy.” Dan Millman
@ihy_btw35972 жыл бұрын
Nice👍
@angief63642 жыл бұрын
That's why many prefer more angry than fear or sadness in emotions, because of the false believe that fear and sadness represent weakness while angry represents strenght.
@martinjugolin2087 Жыл бұрын
@@angief6364 anger is strenght
@jasminschmalzl9734 Жыл бұрын
Love your answer :)
@rivabetzalel32786 ай бұрын
As long as action isnt throwing a chair across the room 😂
@kellykizer6718 Жыл бұрын
The anger can be worse then what your angry about.
@CrocaHead3 ай бұрын
*than
@Incred_Canemian7 жыл бұрын
So give up all hope, got it.
@whiskeyopsonps44977 жыл бұрын
Incredible Canemian That's pretty much what KZbin wants us to do.
@powerfighterrundown82477 жыл бұрын
Incredible Canemian it's more like understanding the uncontrollable
@AndrewDeer17 жыл бұрын
No, it's about expectations rather than hope. Do you see the subtle difference? If you expect something, you will be angry when you are let down. Hope shouldn't make you angry in case of fail. The true hope, at the very least. Luke Skywalker (the new hope) wouldn't make people angry if he failed, he would make them more sad (and death, in consequence... heheh)
@guadalupeponce49167 жыл бұрын
Incredible Canemian lmao!!! basically
@johnj.johnington74877 жыл бұрын
Incredible Canemian Hope of what? What do you hope is going to happen?
@mk17173n7 жыл бұрын
this video is so pessimistic that it makes me angry.
@raineodin7 жыл бұрын
Well maybe you shouldn't expect all yt videos to be optimistic then you might not have gotten angry.
@mk17173n7 жыл бұрын
this video has no basis on reality. Angry is a normal human response if it is used the right way. This way of thinking will make everyone go from being angry to depressed.
@austinhunter15867 жыл бұрын
mk17173n It's not pessimism per se, it's more realism. Being realistic that you'll lose things, your partner won't understand you and sometimes you just can't control the way things go. It's not saying never be angry, just how not to have a very bad reaction to even the most minor things.
@mk17173n7 жыл бұрын
yes but you cant think that way because it makes you passive. If everyone thought that way then no one would succeed. Life is about making mistakes and learning from them not accepting an inevitable outcome.
@killman3695477 жыл бұрын
thats because your so optimistic, join us and you wouldn't be so angry. addendum optimism is important too but balancing these two is the key to making it through this madness we call life with your mind intact
@jamesgilpatric2645 жыл бұрын
never assume that everything will go perfectly
@Author_Alyssa_Taylor3 жыл бұрын
James Gilpatric -- Much better. You're elected to give the next lecture!
@souramitadebnath5753 жыл бұрын
🙃!
@UnironicallyToast Жыл бұрын
Cant help but shake my head at some of this comments. Do you even speak english? None of you even speak like human anymore!
@Eatingapicklern Жыл бұрын
@@UnironicallyToastI don’t see anything wrong with the comments
@cultofthevoid56775 жыл бұрын
You know what makes me angry? This video.
@giveupndie45596 жыл бұрын
This made me even more angry
@nitacruise99936 жыл бұрын
Wendonely I know that shit right!😡
@giveupndie45594 жыл бұрын
fuck why am i here year later
@noochy90914 жыл бұрын
cantchoosename I don’t know. Why are you?
@13wayz704 жыл бұрын
lol same
@vegito85024 жыл бұрын
murun deep inside you're hopeful.
@chasbodaniels17447 жыл бұрын
Gee, I didn't expect pessimism to be the key to managing disappointment. Now I'm pissed off and crestfallen. Life=Ruined
@Tormentality7 жыл бұрын
If your life is ruined, you had too high of expectations for it in the first place ;) After all, who the fuck are you to think that you deserve happiness?
@chasbodaniels17447 жыл бұрын
I just remembered an early Elvis Costello lyric: "Well I used to be disgusted, but now I try to be amused."
@tylerdurden91617 жыл бұрын
Hango Maze we are all dancing, all singing crap of the world.
@SUGAR_XYLER7 жыл бұрын
happiness is just a myth
@akamba127 жыл бұрын
Remember the stoics video? In that video they kinda already said this.
@pinecsne5 жыл бұрын
....well this was not what I expected Time to crush all my hopes and never expect anything from anyone....
@darkfeather68574 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of a sermon I heard years ago and to some extent what a therapist said years before that. The therapist said, have no expectations and you will stop being disappointed. That made me furious, but he's right. The sermon was you decide ahead of time. You can decide ahead of time that there will be traffic on your way to and from work because there always is. You can either keep getting angry about it, which does no good, or you can decide there will be traffic, and while I'm sitting there, I can listen to an audiobook or something else that edifies my mind.
@k1ll3trs869 ай бұрын
No expectations is the pinnacle of individualism and turns human into a beast after throwing away everything good. Humans function good when you expect good things, therefore you are motivated for good results. What that heretic priest is telling you is that he is depressed and expects nothing of life.
@Heroasaurus7 жыл бұрын
Fred kills his wife and commits suicide. Fred was hopeful.
@brownycandy67526 жыл бұрын
you know what i dont have my phone im on my labtop so i cant send any emojis so hahahaha
@patrickwalsh89136 жыл бұрын
Bryan A hahahaha
@midnightsky72576 жыл бұрын
KourtlynLashae Caicedo hahahaha no one cares
@808Mark5 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@evapereira78525 жыл бұрын
Bryan A bruh 😂😂😂😂
@h0m3st4r7 жыл бұрын
Pessimism is the cure for anger and optimism for depression. You need both in balance to see life for what it really is and be happy with it.
@FarewellApollo7 жыл бұрын
couldn't agree more! Both are necessary to maintain a healthy mindset. When faced depression, my thoughts were "nothing will ever go my way and I shouldn't have any goals because they won't be fulfilled." After getting out of that mindset and seeing things for what they really are, I've realized how good of a thing hope and optimism can be when used in moderation. We need to use optimism when looking at our goals, otherwise we will never achieve anything and never find out what we could have done because pessimism tells us "it isn't gonna happen, so just give up" which is a very unhealthy way to live.
@wlfshertz43627 жыл бұрын
h0m3st4r I love how your profile pic says "light" XD 光明!
@FarewellApollo7 жыл бұрын
Gr8 Incarnate but there are small examples in everyday life where optimism can be very useful and get you that initial motivation to actually try and attempt to make things better for yourself. Optimism is a big part of motivation. An example would be when you want to ask someone out on a date. Pessimism would tell you "they're not gonna like you. What's the point in trying? They're gonna say no." So you would never actually find out for sure what they would have said. It takes a bit of optimism and thinking "maybe they'll say yes!" to get the courage to take chances. And even if they say no, you could at least say you tried and not have to live with not knowing what they would have said.
@FarewellApollo7 жыл бұрын
Gr8 Incarnate You're right, that is a possibility as well. Asking someone out means that you put yourself in a vulnerable position to the possibility of getting hurt via rejection. There is always a risk with that sort of thing. As with anything in life, one can become resentful towards something that has hurt and scarred them before in the past. It's really up to the individual to let something like that effect their choices or not. One must ask themselves if the risk is worth the reward. The last part of your comment rings very true. The optimistic viewpoint is a tool to be used, but not alone. Diversity is very important, and this is no exception. Optimism is one of many tools at one's disposal to build their life on. It is really up to the individual to decide what they want to use and when and where they want to use it.
@avggamer867 жыл бұрын
Kiljaz Ink "you need both in balance" i think its fair to say y'all are saying the same thing.
@aimandurrani22285 жыл бұрын
This is so true. In my 19 years of living things have never turned out the way I expect them to. No day is the same and every encounter is different. To be hopeful here doesn’t mean optimistic it means putting faith in a world that is constantly proving you wrong and it shows you it will never live up to your expectations of it. And yet you still somehow don’t accept this reality and make the lives of people around you harder than they need to be. But an addition: Don’t be pessimistic, be realistic and patient. Always
@bjewel37516 жыл бұрын
So to control anger, we need to be pessimistic about everything so when the unexpected happen that makes us mad, we were so negative about it the situation to start with that doesn’t even affect us. I understand this side of viewing it. Thank you for the video
@LolKid156 жыл бұрын
Or you do some research on ayahuasca (plant medicine) and work with our psychological issues, by going through our emotional and mental fields. And do the clearing work of the distortion energy in the emotional field, calling these energy patterns to be resolved and dissolved, as well as working with the mental field, aka the mind-field, from a similar idea of both fields having energies built into them by our interaction with our reality as well as other humans :)
@ct68529 ай бұрын
Problem with that is you can end up taking shit out on people that really don't deserve it, instead of the source.
@EL-gm2xr7 жыл бұрын
Good. Now, what's the cure for pessimism?
@FelipeKana17 жыл бұрын
Eddit Lugo Stoicism? shows us that "bad" things aren't ever truly bad
@Ajibica1177 жыл бұрын
Eddit Lugo a walk in the park.
@pumpkin64297 жыл бұрын
Kiljaz Ink A pessimist in the eyes of an optimist is a realist.
@ryanowen30267 жыл бұрын
Start humping every thing you see
@mahedelamo7 жыл бұрын
anger
@Moliminous7 жыл бұрын
You can't have a nightmare if you never dream
@10colej7 жыл бұрын
Moliminous L
@harjitbassi42397 жыл бұрын
You are so wrong, I have a nightmare without me having any sleep, you know what it is? It's called this reality I'm living in
@caycug17 жыл бұрын
Life IS a nightmare if you DON''T dream.
@Galaxia537 жыл бұрын
R Loyola
@LilMissTravelPants7 жыл бұрын
You always dream. You just don't remember most of them.
@dend12 жыл бұрын
Anger is a violent outcry to realize hope. Pessimism is the belief that hope is a lie. It suppresses anger, because anger has nothing to fight for.
@genn.6235 жыл бұрын
I agree with this video and I think a lot of people misunderstood this because this actually failed to acknowledge the philosophy which stems it- Stoicism. As an average person who practices stoicism in my daily life, I understood the message. It's not about *expecting the worst*, it's about accepting that it isn't possible to have everything under our control which means that there are simply some things that won't go the way we want it to be all the time BUT instead of trying to control those things that are beyond our control, we should focus instead of how we approach and react to these unexpected, inevitable, unfortunate scenarios that will sure come our way. This video only covered the part where we should be a bit realistic about the limits of our control and how the world works and I wished they also provided the optimistic part and the practical respond to these unfortunate events.
@TheSimcraftFixion7 жыл бұрын
Lesson: Don't expect too much! Accept that life will not always go the way you want it. 😃😃😃
@user-zy3cr9xf5q7 жыл бұрын
TheSimcraftFixion that's true!
@jgigas98347 жыл бұрын
TheSimcraftFixion People that need humble lessons the most won't understand them, this is why you "wax on, wax off" suggest to them.
@armkenz7 жыл бұрын
but isnt that surrendering and that only losers surrender? im in a huge slump of my life just because of that thought that i cant accept things anymore and ive come to tell myself that if i dont fight every single little thing to be perfect i will be a failiure
@TheSimcraftFixion7 жыл бұрын
armkenz It's not surrendering. It's acceptance. You will never be happy if you keep on wanting everything to happen the way you want it to happen.
@TheSimcraftFixion7 жыл бұрын
But you can always change for the better. 😃
@zorya52807 жыл бұрын
So instead of being angry I should be sad all the time??
@peanut48207 жыл бұрын
Not really. Just lower your expectations. Like I do!
@capper61006 жыл бұрын
Pessimistic doesn't mean sad, it means doubtful or just having low expectations for the future... you can be happy and pessimistic. I know because that's how I am... I'm a happy guy who doesn't expect much.
@rhythmf.44606 жыл бұрын
This isn't the type of anger that i experience.
@saskia41784 жыл бұрын
@@peanut4820 Where is your Avatar from?
@peanut48204 жыл бұрын
@@saskia4178 I don't even remember posting that comment, but I drew it myself
@JesusChristIsMyLordSavior Жыл бұрын
I find myself who often says, “It doesn’t matter”…and it’s a major relief every time. “They don’t care” “It is what it is”.
@cervgiovanni6 жыл бұрын
First time I've cried on the spot by a video. Allowing my feelings to flow. I'm so hopeful and full of dreams. I'm getting angry that life is not going the way i want it to go. Ty SoL. I can get to my life
@Jacob-yg7lz7 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't say pessimism. Just realism. I know that situations are hopeless, so I don't worry about them,
@AsatorIV7 жыл бұрын
But that's the thing, they are not always hopeless, but if you think of them as such, you won't be disappointed with how they turn out.
@josephsimeon61607 жыл бұрын
Realism in the way that, as the school of life has mentioned before, the understanding that everyone (hence most things we make/are in control of) is equally as crazy as us. I use this idea daily and rarely find myself angry.
@neoc11217 жыл бұрын
If you're emotionally involved, you can't just be pure realistic. But you surely can learn to look at things from a distance so you aren't involved as much.
@Bugumir6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. You have made me realize that there are worse things than being angry. Like being dead inside.
@tracesprite6078 Жыл бұрын
I think that dead feeling comes from unacknowledged anger. We can't always be blasting people with anger, but we should acknowledge our own frustration and then think about the most positive and creative ways to make things better.
@Hyderagean11 ай бұрын
@@tracesprite6078spoken like somebody who's never had soup-ripping life events happen to them before.
@Zlik.10 ай бұрын
@@Hyderageanright “find a way to make things better” sounds like that person never had issues good to them tbh.
@shaunjimbangan1166Ай бұрын
@@Zlik. What else can you do?
@BAGGStheAugmented2 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling to explain my anger to other people, and this video did it for me. This is very close to what I'm feeling inside lately. I'm not sure if this is the same for others, but this personally rings true for me.
@FreddyAtton6 жыл бұрын
both funny and accurate...HOWEVER, this video fails to mention the amplification effects of caffeine and alcohol on anger. Cut down on the coffee and don't drink if you are already mad at something because those two chemicals will make you even angrier.
@Darklogic1123587 жыл бұрын
No one really understands each other, life is really just a sequence of disappointments, and the solution is to give up hope. Thank you School of Life, I feel a lot better now.
@aarone900010 ай бұрын
Addressing your opening sentence; ..and yet people Want to live as long as possible. 😮
@tracesprite607810 ай бұрын
Just to shine a little light into the darkness, I think that the people on this page are trying to understand each other, and we are all motivated by a desire to make the world a little better. I am so sorry to think of all the disappointments that you have endured. I hope that since you wrote this post, that some good things have happened in your life.
@Thorloar9 ай бұрын
@@aarone9000 that’s just biology.
@divine.defined.sthetics98767 ай бұрын
I guess living with this setting towards life is just ugly. Would be interesting if he could give us an update from his actual life
@Kapuist17 жыл бұрын
This is what some existentialists like Camus implied with their writings - the world is absurd, so we shouldn't keep our hopes up that it's rational or "good" or "bad", etc
@Tormentality7 жыл бұрын
I just read all the comments, and this one is by far the most true and insightful imo
@mindfulmike86127 жыл бұрын
As soon as this video started i was thinking "the cure is to read more Camus". Once you realize that nothing really matters, then there's nothing to get angry about!
@Tormentality7 жыл бұрын
mindfulmike Fucking rights! Read Camus, stay mindful. Shit will work out!
@UnpredictableSB7 жыл бұрын
Didn't Camus made it very clear that that one of the 7 ways to respond to the absurd is to become an existentialist, drawing a line that existentialism is different from acceptance and absurbism. I'm an existentialist, by the way.
@Tormentality7 жыл бұрын
UnpredictableSB I don't know. To be an existentialist, doesn't one need to accept the absurd and then create a superficial reason for being? I am probably way off since I don't know the precise philosophical definitions of these terms. I was just reading wiki's definition of existentialism... I am not sure the difference between nihilism and existentialism, so this is interesting: Although nihilism and existentialism are distinct philosophies, they are often confused with one another. A primary cause of confusion is that Friedrich Nietzsche is an important philosopher in both fields, but also the existentialist insistence on the inherent meaninglessness of the world. Existentialist philosophers often stress the importance of Angst as signifying the absolute lack of any objective ground for action, a move that is often reduced to a moral or an existential nihilism. A pervasive theme in the works of existentialist philosophy, however, is to persist through encounters with the absurd, as seen in Camus' The Myth of Sisyphus ("One must imagine Sisyphus happy"),[40] and it is only very rarely that existentialist philosophers dismiss morality or one's self-created meaning: Kierkegaard regained a sort of morality in the religious (although he wouldn't himself agree that it was ethical; the religious suspends the ethical), and Sartre's final words in Being and Nothingness are "All these questions, which refer us to a pure and not an accessory (or impure) reflection, can find their reply only on the ethical plane. We shall devote to them a future work."
@EM2theBee Жыл бұрын
There's a whole school of thought that advocates practicing radical acceptance. Everything in the universe is exactly the way it is meant to be at this moment in time.
@thandanaing2975 жыл бұрын
I have no idea why people are so inclined to the words optimistic and pessimistic as if it is relaying the meaning of happy and sad. All this video is trying to highlight is to not have your head in the clouds and ground yourself on this imperfect Earth. As soon as this angry person sees that life isn't so perfect, he isn't becoming dead inside or sad, he is simply seeing things as they are without any emotional attachment or judgement on how they "should" be or how he "wants" them to be. Ultimately through this seemingly "pessimistic" choice of thinking, he finds inner happiness.
@Safamatar956 жыл бұрын
I strongly disagree with the last sentence: "pessimism is the cure for anger". Its rather: havong no expectations is the cure for anger and there is a great different between no expectations and always expecting the worst case scenario
@isabellabihy86315 жыл бұрын
I highly agree. Not having an expectation on an outcome means you're settling with the results you are getting. The video isn't quite exacting in the language. But then language is prone not to be exact. Nonetheless, I find the idea interesting that failed expectations (it will work out) are the cause of anger. Avoiding anger could mean communicating your expectations beforehand which might help to put them in perspective. Did you know: For pessimists and disaster thinkers black is a bright color. :-)
@WendWillow3 жыл бұрын
@@isabellabihy8631 I’m pessimistic and things make me more angry.
@pauljack22673 жыл бұрын
I agree
@ricardosoca73802 жыл бұрын
This is much better advice than the one offered by the video, thanks Sofi!
@pazuzu1262 жыл бұрын
Exactly, I changed from like to dislike because of that last sentence
@PsyCoCinematics7 жыл бұрын
So there ya have it, folks! Just stamp out your hopes in life and be depressed. That aughta sort all yer problems out.
@kielanderson44476 жыл бұрын
pessimistic******** lol,
@robertapascal69626 жыл бұрын
Seems quite British. Lol
@hanhdtle6 жыл бұрын
If you can cannot distinguish the difference between being realistic and being depressed then you're truly lost
@charzipuddin61296 жыл бұрын
Yeah, this was an odd one IMO. Usually they’re really good at explaining their entire message (there’s a much better term, can’t remember right now), but this time it fell flat, again IMO. While I was able to guess what they were getting at, there’s likely someone or two who can’t, so what do they do with such sad info? 😕
@nathanielbeha8336 жыл бұрын
CharziParziPuddinPie is the word you're looking for "elaborating" perchance?
@MichelleFarrismft Жыл бұрын
This was a very interesting perspective - I agree that in order to manage anger we need to adjust our expectations. Part of how I do this is to check my "self-talk" for blaming or negative statements because those are usually the culprit :) Anger can be controlled when you have the willingness to learn how to change it. That takes real courage but we also have to not punish ourselves for the struggle. Anger is a tough emotion to manage especially when you grow up with raging or abusive parents. We are not at fault for our anger - but we are responsible for it's impact on others. I hope this helps :)
@lunabeta3516 Жыл бұрын
Yout comment eas better than the video
@HelovesU-we4qh6 ай бұрын
Woe unto them that call good evil and evil good! Anger is not hope, it is a totally different emotion!
@SurvivingasMom7 жыл бұрын
I used to be angry all the time. Then I worked in death care and learned what is really important in life. Now I just let things roll off my back. Being angry isn't worth it. Plus, it is a total waste of energy.
@jesbercat79046 жыл бұрын
Surviving as Mom I take meds.... they help a lot.
@sonias97226 жыл бұрын
So what is it that is important?
@808Mark5 жыл бұрын
I've thought about doing that too, to humble my ass
@ImmaterialDigression7 жыл бұрын
"That's my secret, I'm always angry" - Hulk :D
@dayofjustice289able7 жыл бұрын
ImmaterialDigression mine too
@juddbrady18255 жыл бұрын
Have no hope, don’t expect anything to work, always expect problems and disappointment you will always lose in life what a joy it is to be here!
@kuideluАй бұрын
I have lived with many angry people and I think it's most a lack of fear than a lack of sadness. They are reckless, neglectful, and when things went wrong as everyone could have predicted except themself, instead of learning from their mistakes they feel like life is unfair because of course nothing is ever their fault ... Anger is the sword, fear is the shield.
@exbladex997 жыл бұрын
Yes pessimism can work. A lot of people also become cynical as a replacement for anger. The reality is, there's a better way: manage your expectations. Not really pessimism. Optimism with a sense of pollyanna, looking at cup half full, without the cup half full... More like the cup is 10% full and you're happy with that. Used to be riddled with anger. Then I became cynically skeptical, bitter, pessimistic, still angry. Years later now I'm an low-expectation optimist with an aggressive drive but now calm and healthily skeptical without cynicism. Always with a sense of acceptance and thinking of everything through the lens of evolution: "well this is how it turned out, because this is what survived."
@Anekantavad7 жыл бұрын
If this doesn't paste properly, please look up "A Shropshire Lad" :-) A. E. Housman (1859-1936). A Shropshire Lad. 1896. LXII. Terence, this is stupid stuff ‘TERENCE, this is stupid stuff: You eat your victuals fast enough; There can’t be much amiss, ’tis clear, To see the rate you drink your beer. But oh, good Lord, the verse you make, 5 It gives a chap the belly-ache. The cow, the old cow, she is dead; It sleeps well, the horned head: We poor lads, ’tis our turn now To hear such tunes as killed the cow. 10 Pretty friendship ’tis to rhyme Your friends to death before their time Moping melancholy mad: Come, pipe a tune to dance to, lad.’ Why, if ’tis dancing you would be, 15 There’s brisker pipes than poetry. Say, for what were hop-yards meant, Or why was Burton built on Trent? Oh many a peer of England brews Livelier liquor than the Muse, 20 And malt does more than Milton can To justify God’s ways to man. Ale, man, ale’s the stuff to drink For fellows whom it hurts to think: Look into the pewter pot 25 To see the world as the world’s not. And faith, ’tis pleasant till ’tis past: The mischief is that ’twill not last. Oh I have been to Ludlow fair And left my necktie God knows where, 30 And carried half way home, or near, Pints and quarts of Ludlow beer: Then the world seemed none so bad, And I myself a sterling lad; And down in lovely muck I’ve lain, 35 Happy till I woke again. Then I saw the morning sky: Heigho, the tale was all a lie; The world, it was the old world yet, I was I, my things were wet, 40 And nothing now remained to do But begin the game anew. Therefore, since the world has still Much good, but much less good than ill, And while the sun and moon endure 45 Luck’s a chance, but trouble’s sure, I’d face it as a wise man would, And train for ill and not for good. ’Tis true, the stuff I bring for sale Is not so brisk a brew as ale: 50 Out of a stem that scored the hand I wrung it in a weary land. But take it: if the smack is sour, The better for the embittered hour; It should do good to heart and head 55 When your soul is in my soul’s stead; And I will friend you, if I may, In the dark and cloudy day. There was a king reigned in the East: There, when kings will sit to feast, 60 They get their fill before they think With poisoned meat and poisoned drink. He gathered all that springs to birth From the many-venomed earth; First a little, thence to more, 65 He sampled all her killing store; And easy, smiling, seasoned sound, Sate the king when healths went round. They put arsenic in his meat And stared aghast to watch him eat; 70 They poured strychnine in his cup And shook to see him drink it up: They shook, they stared as white’s their shirt: Them it was their poison hurt. -I tell the tale that I heard told. 75 Mithridates, he died old.
@brettkarpf77757 жыл бұрын
Logician I'm cynical instead of angry
@Mrbrownstone10287 жыл бұрын
I'm pessimistic and angry
@contraryMV7 жыл бұрын
I relate to that. Realistic, understand how the world works and how people and things don't always cooperate ... still pissed.
@animationhub31037 жыл бұрын
Me too.
@MrSupercar55 Жыл бұрын
As someone whose anger over issues such as missing belongings, traffic and malfunctioning devices has only dug me a deeper hole every time and created more problems than it could ever have solved, I daresay this is like looking into a mirror.
@alibarznji20003 жыл бұрын
Why am I angry? That is very simple: I had dreams and they were crushed, I'm unemployed, I'm loser, I'm full of myself because I can't stand admitting the fact that I'm a failure. I used to be so caring and patient, Now I'm a mess, I sleep most of the time, I'v lost the ability to care about anything or anyone, I have existential crisis almost all the time. I don't know what to do anymore, sometimes I'm so furious that I think I might die from a stroke, just kill me and be done with it. That's how anger and depression feels like folks.
@anthonyko63667 жыл бұрын
I am angry because this was a waste of my time
@JustRed9164 жыл бұрын
You were so HOPEFUL
@mikeyd77333 жыл бұрын
Sarcasm I hope. Unrealistic expectations are the cause of anger. If you temper your expectations you will not be emotional when what is in your mind isn't reality.
@experimental2.3727 жыл бұрын
Being pessimistic is like a temporary cure that causes another disease... which is (mediocrity/settling for less) I think what the commentator of this video means is not to be attached to outcomes.
@j2times20062 жыл бұрын
You explained it better way better than he did.
@AlanisCastellanos Жыл бұрын
Thinking mediocrity and sitting for less is bad, is itself a desease. The cure for almost all bad feelings is to keep your expectations alienated with the reality, might it be lower your expectations or work harder to make them true, but none of them is actually bad they both are just ways to reach happiness
@Cris-xf4pg5 жыл бұрын
You could have phrased this in a better way, this video just made me feel like absolute shit
@DeanithForeverYoung5 жыл бұрын
I'm angry all the time , mostly at myself...Can't help it.
@sakura00557 жыл бұрын
hey
@sakura00557 жыл бұрын
I literally saw the video after 15 seconds after its uploaded, I know no one cares okay.
@theschooloflifetv7 жыл бұрын
Delighted you are here early!
@sakura00557 жыл бұрын
The School of Life I enjoy your videos! :)
@mikey100067 жыл бұрын
hai hai
@yona1an7 жыл бұрын
(Hi (sorry for my bad english
@user-mg3qc6ke7p7 жыл бұрын
really need a video on "how to stop thinking all the time"
@jadejaguar697 жыл бұрын
Даниил Инкин I'd recommend their "Why it's so hard to be present"
@DJNHmusic7 жыл бұрын
Meditation. Just beware, you might become slightly apathetic to the world around you and start doing things which actually make you happy, regardless of what anyone thinks.
@sillybillybob1237 жыл бұрын
Start by staying the fuck away from philosophy lmao
@Anekantavad7 жыл бұрын
No you don't. You need to think harder, and better. Once you eat of the Tree of Knowledge, there is no going back.
@lrcdert20107 жыл бұрын
Даниил Инкин overthinking
@girlslikemyspaghetti50555 жыл бұрын
im always angry because of how people dont leave me alone
@ajaxion1447 Жыл бұрын
And this is how my granddad painted the ceiling with his new-found mindset
@Permafry421087 жыл бұрын
You're right. Now that i gave up my optimism I don't feel amything at all and couldn't care less about life or living. THANKS!
@sol53397 жыл бұрын
atta boy
@OLR13377 жыл бұрын
Violet i could just as easily say antidepressants are a huge cause of substance abuse, so people should not use antidepressants. its called balance. you need it to function.
@BigHenFor7 жыл бұрын
Violet Sarcasm is anger. Why are you angry?
@sam29207 жыл бұрын
Light RED FIRE, being suicidal is much different than not caring about life or living. Being opposed to yourself living is different than not caring either way.
@MrMikeVee7 жыл бұрын
fuck that I'd rather be mad and full of hope,, then content and dead inside
@whiteraven907 жыл бұрын
Except you can't be simultaneously content and dead inside. Those two states of mind are only similar superficially. When you are dead inside, you are in fact still clinging to and mourning your sky high expectations.
@danielmahoney60233 жыл бұрын
I would argue that pessimism is the result of being angry and humility is the “cure” to anger.
@dr.samuraisminutelecture70643 жыл бұрын
It makes sense. If you set your ideal high, everything is unsatisfactory. To have bottom-up thinking makes you live more peaceful.
@sillybillybob1237 жыл бұрын
A life without hope leads to pessimism, depression, nihilism, and ultimately a loss for the will to live.
@rodrigomedeirosdasilva69157 жыл бұрын
billy bob I think the video is just saying that being too hopeful can be a problem, but it's not suggesting you to give up on hope entirely.
@sillybillybob1237 жыл бұрын
I understand but there seems to be a lot of hopeless people in the comments lol
@rrayeclart77167 жыл бұрын
billy bob 😂😂😂👏
@EdwardScissorsHands17 жыл бұрын
A life without all that leads to empty life. Only sorrow can make us feel life in a deep way.
@sillybillybob1237 жыл бұрын
Eduardo Felipe Hmm i agree to an extent but if you're sorrowful 24/7 then the only life choice you have are 1) should i kill myself 2) should i cry some more
@rishabhsingh91097 жыл бұрын
wish I transformed like that when I get angry
@apextroll7 жыл бұрын
I wish I didn't.
@scottmckay9535 Жыл бұрын
It isn't 'optimism' that causes anger. It's expectations of people and outcomes that cause it.
@BrentonSwafford2 жыл бұрын
I'm totally Fred, the only difference being that I rarely shout at people, but instead silently burn in rage while maintaining a deceptive smile on my face. The video totally gets me though; somewhere deep inside me I feel not just hopeful, but entitled to a world more perfect than this one.
@JustDevon7 жыл бұрын
What if I'm an angry pessimist?
@Geoffrey4547 жыл бұрын
JSR Devon what makes you angry?
@JustDevon7 жыл бұрын
Geoffrey so many things. Most of it stems from me being frustrated and disappointed by my life
@peachlife51186 жыл бұрын
I agree i personally have a hard time relating to the "anger comes from expectations" idea because I expect very little from people yet they even fail on that front sometimes. It could be an issue of being too hard on yourself and lashing out on others as a result.. you need to be kinder to yourself and realize it is not all so serious.
@ThexDynastxQueen7 жыл бұрын
WHY WAS THIS RECOMMENDED FOR ME!!?!!!
@TehOddMenOut7 жыл бұрын
KZbin knows you are an angry person. Shhh, shhh. It will all be okay. KZbin is here to help.
@mathew633man7 жыл бұрын
that vegeta picture is perfect with your comment
@NbaLive4ever2 жыл бұрын
Basically what I got out of this was keep your expectations low
@thyvevusion2187 күн бұрын
I see a lot of people hating on the video in the comments, robot didn't say "be pessimistic all the time" it said "don't expect anything from anything", instead of expecting car keys not to get lost, try putting them in a bowl, instead of expecting your partner to understand you, try to understand them, and instead of expecting traffic not to be jammed, go 15 minutes earlier and so on. Fred isn't angry because he doesn't understand how things work or he's given up on life, he's hopeful things will get better, and that's what makes him angry, this video clicked for me
@cynthiajohnson94127 жыл бұрын
Not pessimistic, accepting.
@Nattisu5 жыл бұрын
Cynthia Johnson exactly! The video has a good point but phrases it wrong
@sophieesther3 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU
@brandenburgquentinthe3rd5323 жыл бұрын
Accepting of pessimistic views over optimism, don't believe in anything as it's not 100% going to happen so never believe
@GenJotsu7 жыл бұрын
Kind of makes sense if you think about brats and their tantrums; they expect everything to go perfectly their way.
@george60m385 жыл бұрын
I want to stop rage, but I don't want to be a pessimist. I love seeing all the good things rather than bad.
@angief63642 жыл бұрын
Wow, and I though it was the contrary: Angry = pessimistic Happy = optimistic But in reality, it is: Angry = very optimistic Happy = very pessimistic
@GrahamMilkdrop7 жыл бұрын
"That should never have happened!" is the outcry of the deluded...
@m4gik4rp_nuk367 жыл бұрын
pessimism is the cure for anger? never thought of it like that. I always thought of it like- the key to happiness is low expectations
@JosePerez-li7bk7 жыл бұрын
both are the same, just a change of perspective
@michailg.skartoulis71574 жыл бұрын
I read quite a few of the comments on this video. It's normal that you find the video frustrating, funny or simply disagree with it. The reason is because it does not go deep enough to explain how and why being "pessimistic" can help you being less angry. So almost everyone will miss the point. The point lies in deep philosophical theory and practice. In Stoicism (ancient Greek philosophy about resilience and self-control) the practice of "controlled meditation of evil" (Premeditatio Malorum) is fundamental. In very simple terms it means to meditate on bad things that could happen to you or the life around you with the purpose of preparing your mind about how it will respond. Therefore, growing more mentally prepared and resilient. For example if you are heading to the airport, imagine that your flight will be delayed or cancelled. How would you respond? What are the options that you should go through? Maybe asking for an alternative flight, or getting the train to go to your destination. In a safe and controlled state, you can evaluate your options. Then if the worst actually does happen, you are more prepared to face it and be rational instead of getting angry and yelling at the airport staff. There are many resources online to read about this practice and Stoicism in general. I recommend to anyone who does not agree with this video, to spend some time going through this Stoic practice. Then, the point of this video, will become clear and understandable.
@ancienthamatendiscipline35332 жыл бұрын
In my opinion the cure for anger is taming the ego's expectations. This means understanding one thing 'it's not all about you'...
@Luke_Marto7 жыл бұрын
So is he basically saying dont hope for the best and brace for the worst, im confused
@prodtomzy7 жыл бұрын
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
@nixtoshi6 жыл бұрын
It's basically saying don't be too optimistic with your expectations so you aren't constantly disappointed. Instead remind yourself that things can go badly, which should be thought of when assessing potential outcomes (risk). Of course one of the outcomes is positive or even much more positive than you expected, but that's easy to do, most people except the good only
@shannongodbey74203 жыл бұрын
Hope for the Best, expect the Worst. Great song from the Mel Brooks movie, the Twelve Chairs
@ObiJuanKenobi37 жыл бұрын
Pessimism isn't the cure for anything. Realism is the cure. If you rationalize things then you won't get mad that it happened or sad that it will happen, you understand why it will happen and accept it
@FelipeKana17 жыл бұрын
ObiJuanKenobi3 not sure it works. realism is good after things happened and youre calming down. not so good to foresee every possible problem at every possible turn
@Gimpactx7 жыл бұрын
ObiJuanKenobi3 I would disagree even though realism is the most rational; the topic is dealing with an emotion/reaction. Specifically, I believe this addresses the deep optimistic idealism rooted behind the anger which in a practical way is effectively lessened with the counter to that optimism: pessimism(cynicism may be a better word). I personally understand the analysis, though I believe nihilism is an even better cure to anger, though a root for depression. But if you are able to go one step further(one step back) and accept the relativity in the world, along with the irony and dissonance, I believe that that is the next step in cognitive evolution. Perhaps one day we will even come to understand the works of the universe, but for now, the term 'realism' is probably more ambiguous than optimism or pessimism, simply because of our cognitive limitations and lack of knowledge as individuals. Of course, "true" nihilism remains in theory yet not in practice, and the point of the video I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem. In turn, your perspective on life can change how you are, but not what you are completely.
@FelipeKana17 жыл бұрын
Siwar Rivers I agree with you. However, I think you mixed stuff on: "I believe was not to give you a pragmatic way of solving anger, but an idealistic approach to the problem" I think the video does gives a pragmatic approach, (expect the worse, so you can be thankful for the best when it comes and not surprised and angry when the worst comes: pessimism) and the "realism" proposal is more of a idealistic approach. Also important, but belonging to another level.
@dontwatchmuhvideosanddontscrub4 жыл бұрын
"The Cure for Angry is Pessimism" *_An angry man engaged in heavy violence and the victim were awfully injured by the glass bottle scratch on the body._*
@BrianYYH7 жыл бұрын
I had such high hopes for this video...
@whosafraidoferiknrding44707 жыл бұрын
I live in an overcrowded city here in Eastern Europe. I grew up a calm, happy-go-lucky boy in a small town in Canada. I've found living in such an overcrowded city has brought out the worst in me. Quick to anger; impatient; frustrated - saying things to strangers I never thought imaginable. I attempt to combat this but it's terribly difficult.
@whosafraidoferiknrding44707 жыл бұрын
Erwin Rommel Kyiv, Ukraine
@romanfonseca73097 жыл бұрын
come on. wait all that until you live in México City
@jhgreen147 жыл бұрын
Try Egypt and it will make the Ukraine look like a ride in the park.
@whosafraidoferiknrding44707 жыл бұрын
Zagwe Yemanu I have a hard time believing someone stepping on my foot and not excusing themselves or smelling like alcohol and sweat while pushed up against me or parking directly on the cross walk so it's impossible to cross the street is 'character building' but I do appreciate you taking the time to respond to my comment.
@Anekantavad7 жыл бұрын
You might nor like it, but is it realistic to expect these things *not* to happen? "Vedius Pollio believed in a world where cups did not get broken", says Seneca in "On Anger". *Is* it realistic to expect everyone to park politely, not stagger drunkenly into your path, etc?
@larysaprykhodko29716 жыл бұрын
But with pessimism there's a new problem: Sadness.
@mdg1405 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I can say this applies to me very well: I am very hopeful of people and most things. "Can't people just help this homeless person?!" "Why do so many people litter?!" "Why is this person cutting in line?!" These are just examples of expectations that are not met. However, I think what this video does not include is that people angry all the time (like me) are really people with unmet 'life' hopes. It's easy to get over small things when the 'big' things are working out. If some of your life's hopes are met, you have a peace that can gloss over the little stuff. Though when the 'big' hopes are not met, the 'small' hopes seem bigger and a lot more unbearable. The advice I'm trying to follow for myself is: continue to work on achieving your 'big' hopes, resolve what you need to in order to be at peace with the way things are. That is the solution.
@ChakasCave7 жыл бұрын
Bill Burr brought me here
@Leezeecabe7 жыл бұрын
me too :)
@RolandMcGruner7 жыл бұрын
What did bill burr do?? Did he say this was a crock of shit or something?
@No0W717 жыл бұрын
Don't blow it Keep it simple Count your money
@marymori89597 жыл бұрын
... So the way to help pessimistic people is to tell them that life sucks and to get over it?
@Doorhenge7 жыл бұрын
You won't have to tell pessimistic people that. The video is arguing those people already have zen-like understanding of things.
@rabiabibi23462 жыл бұрын
I’d say knowing how to deal with our expectations being met is the cure not pessimism because without hope you can’t keep going
@protecriontundrastrategist736 жыл бұрын
Funilly enough, pessimism pisses me off even more than a defeat of expectations. It makes me think I have nothing to look forward to, and that is pure hell to me.
@mahedelamo7 жыл бұрын
but this is so sad. i want a partner to understand me. i dont want to lower my expectations.
@10colej7 жыл бұрын
May Ad you have daddy issues don't you. That's why you let men treat you like shit.
@Tinholl7 жыл бұрын
Kevin with hair I find it hilarious how you even came to that conclusion. Who am I kidding? You're probably a mouth-breathing neckbeard that's never talked to a girl based on that sentence alone.
@Tinholl7 жыл бұрын
Kevin with hair just so you know i am actually an autistic 11 year old. close though
@zimshadows7 жыл бұрын
It's sad, but you won't find someone who will fulfill all of your expectations. It's not about lowering the expectations, it's accepting that everyone is imperfect and everyone can make mistakes at any moment, even you.
@foxsux60007 жыл бұрын
Then you'll always be in for disappointment, rigging yourself for terrible relationships and it's why people are having shallow and superficial relationships that actually mean nothing..
@TheStanStanmanson7 жыл бұрын
Anger and discomfort drives innovation. If you were to accept things as the shit hole of disappointment they are, then they will stay that way.
@Bruckner2 жыл бұрын
Having very low expectations from others and from ordinary events will result in a blissful life.
@ginamoncada787 жыл бұрын
I'm a pessimist and I seem to have 2 dominant emotions: Anger and depression.
@bayingjase20067 жыл бұрын
Seriously? So you found this video BS? Have you found an effective way of dealing with your anger and depression issues?
@ginamoncada787 жыл бұрын
No. I can't seem to control my anger. When I feel that way I just try not to be around people. I stay at home, I don't awnser the phone, I **try** not to go online etc. When I'm depressed I do the same thing. People think I'm anti social...I'm not. I just can't be aroud people because I either come across as nasty or overly negative 🙁
@bayingjase20067 жыл бұрын
Gina I also find it easier to excuse myself from a situation rather than hurting someone else. Well good luck to us and our battle with our issues.
@harjitbassi42397 жыл бұрын
No disrespect but your advice is isn't helping, tbh it's actually wants me to take a wrong pill
@harjitbassi42397 жыл бұрын
Guess what, You feel your in a world with mindless sheep? Following the same process of living? E.g wake up, go to work, pay bills, get married, have kids, retirement, death? It's not worth it!
@rileyv.47867 жыл бұрын
The fact that this is #20 on trending shows me there's a lot of pissed off people in the world😂😂
@MythopoeicNavid7 жыл бұрын
ESPECIALLY around the holidays! haha
@iamyournytemare42533 жыл бұрын
Thats because humanity as a whole are fucking scumbag pieces of shit.
@adriantaner79503 жыл бұрын
It’s nice how these videos tell so much yet nothing at the same time
@VGWizaeD5 жыл бұрын
I struggle with anger. I'm not "secretly hopeful". I'm just angry...
@Cityj0hn7 жыл бұрын
Don't stamp on your hopes, stamp on the world. Trust me, I'm not poor like these guys.
@yahboi8277 жыл бұрын
"The pessimist looks down and hits his head. The optimist looks up and loses his footing. The realist looks forward and adjusts his path accordingly."
@divinegoddess30603 жыл бұрын
Thank you for shedding light on our "ugly" ways. Mindset is everything and accepting is enevitably intertwined with peace.
@TheBigHomie2094 жыл бұрын
The travel part hit me hard because I hate traffic and traffic makes me angry because I’m so hopeful that I’m going to get somewhere on time
@Jen18lol7 жыл бұрын
Yeah not getting how pessimism is the cure for anger
@archmagemadara69797 жыл бұрын
Jen Ye late reply, because you hope for things to go well, so when they don't go well, you get angry. If you think things will go wrong, when it happens, yoiu won't feel as angry.
@SilentChaos7136 жыл бұрын
acceptance
@peterwhitaker713 жыл бұрын
It's the same as "the key to happiness is realistic expectations". If you accept and embrace that reality never lives up to expectations, you won't feel let down so often.
@salmonline7 жыл бұрын
Expectations are like diarrhea for your tranquillity; They'll flush that shit right outta you.