How P*rn and Promiscuity Make Men Weak (Nick Freitas)

[@Mary-supremacist]

Chastity being a virtue for a man is a great innovation of Christianity. Even the pagans valued chaste women, but it was through the Imitation of Our Lord that the virtue chastity became the epicenter of true masculinity.

[@n4ughty_knight]

They didn't value them. Most oracles were female and did their work through s3x

[@sandstorm7768]

Self-control is impressive and noble. Allowing yourself to be led by your loins is not. 👍

[@n4ughty_knight]

@@sandstorm7768 Not deleting my comments is also impressive and noble!

[@johnpaulpascua3569]

Chastity and celibacy are being practiced since the ancient days. It's not an innovation but a continuation of a noble tradition.

[@taan1424]

@@Mary-supremacist of Judaism, actually. Chastity and modesty are extremely important in Judaism and Christians had adopted them when they split from the Jews.

[@believewithyourheart5627]

I’m so thankful to hear a conversation like this! Almost find it hard to believe! My husband had a porn addiction which I found out about only six months ago… since then he’s had two different relationships with younger women…. I’m honestly traumatised by the whole thing. I’m now a single mother of 4 children (thankfully one of them is 19 and has similar values to the ones you’re speaking about!) I have way more respect for my son than my husband!

[@pintswithaquinas]

I am so sorry

[@believewithyourheart5627]

@@pintswithaquinas bless your heart, thankyou

[@SnappingSatansSpaghetti]

3:20 “the more you do that (casual sex) the more you run the risk of never being able to have that (true love) with somebody”. This right here. Casual sex will kill your ability to have a real loving relationship. Wish I’d known this before it was too late.

[@Lastmashstanding]

@SnappingSatansSpaghetti same here

[@laureneonunkwo4519]

Its not too late. And also, God is the pillar that holds your life. What matters is you surrender to His perfect will now. And that you repent (or have repented)😊

[@swebilbo]

No yout wrong.

[@lynncrf]

It's absolutely not too late.

[@laureneonunkwo4519]

Calling marriage an adventure instead of "settling down" just did it for me. More young men need to hear this. I genuinely believe virile men are needed in homes being leaders and fathers.

[@IsThatRight-v2c]

Don't ever do that. Calling it what it is not will set poor expectations and cause more problems down the road. This is just one more bait-and-switch tactic. It is settling down. I had adventures _before_ marriage.

[@laureneonunkwo4519]

@IsThatRight-v2c marriage seems to me like an adventure. I mean, the term 'settling down' is good but I still see it as an adventure as Nick himself described. Its a whole new unprecendented experience. Its a vocation. I think the word adventure fits perfectly.

[@IsThatRight-v2c]

@@laureneonunkwo4519 Maybe for women. It sure as hell doesn't fit the bill for men. No wonder men are giving up on dating at light speed. Marriage seems pretty one-sided these days. What about sacrificing everything you used to love in order to give everything for a woman who will one day take half of everything you own _and_ the kids sound like an adventure?

[@ocheonuh6788]

@@laureneonunkwo4519 Hello Laurene 🙂

[@ocheonuh6788]

You're nigerian?

[@thetemplar8695]

Great video! Absolutely on point! I was all Mr Everything athlete in HS and college and made all the mistakes you all talk about (and I grew up Christian). I spent 20 years in the military, and did the whole Infantry, Ranger, Sniper, SF path and can again, relate to what Nick is saying. Drinking and “playing” is almost an expectation and again, I made the mistakes, missed the red flags, married for lust over love and of course ended because of those red flags. So thank you so much for your podcast! Love it! 👍

[@melissahaneline6544]

"I just don't think it's manly to pay women to pretend that they like you"- spot on!! I'm especially noticing the impact those words had because this young man didn't talk down to his friends, he simply shared mic-drop level truth when asked. May pornography & prostitution become unthinkable so that manliness may be brought back!!

[@Broooooo-ww7hw]

A lot of women don't like their husbands. Differences are smaller than people think.

[@melissahaneline6544]

@Broooooo-ww7hw - Too many men read dislike into behavior from their wives when what is actually happening is no more than that their wives see life from a different perspective. Curiosity rather than condemnation would help a lot. In any case, pornography is a lousy solution to any problem.

[@TPFB129]

@@melissahaneline6544 what about femininity? Why isn't that brought back? Why is IT ALWAYS men everyone blames?!

[@Eccp19]

Great video. Great masculine responses to accusations of prudery.

[@ristdownau6627]

Being a 38 yr old male the temptation is incredibly strong when wanting to be in a relationship and the loneliness that comes with being this age and all your friends are married with kids.

[@Lastmashstanding]

I am in the exact same situation. I screwed around for years and threw away opportunites to commit to amazing women. I regret it every day and it's 100% my fault.

[@StoneAgeWarfare]

Tell me about it. I'm almost 29 and I've never had a relationship.

[@luke9747]

Don't give up! God has a plan for each of you. He knows how to write straight with our crooked lives. He gave you your sexuality and it is a very good thing. Bring it to God and let it fuel you to be the man He created you to be. When you are tempted, turn it into your motivation to pray, to workout, to get on Catholic Match, become the best version of yourself. None of us are perfect and we all have pasts, but the Lord says "When the time is right, I the Lord will make it happen". I am very blessed to have found my fiancé and it was all through His love and Merciful hand

[@Maksie0]

@@luke9747 Horrible advice. There is no god out there planning for you to just stumble into your soulmate at age 45. People are, in fact, capable of dying alone. You have to go out there and actually put in the effort to meet people and pursue relationships if you want to have one.

[@StitchFae]

@@Maksie0 he literally said put that energy into taking action, after praying.

[@BlackWingedSeraphX]

Loser guys on the Whatever Podcast try to Justify promiscuity for men while shaming women for it. Both are bad.

[@sethspence5552]

@@BlackWingedSeraphX the fact you believe men and women are the same is stupid. Even in earlier Christianity men's and women's virginity is different it wasn't intill the letters of Paul that changed this.

[@CodyseusRex]

@@BlackWingedSeraphX yeah I never understood their logic on that show, they keep wanting to justify having a herim😂😂

[@reanschwarzer2187]

Agreed both are bad but unfortunately women don’t use it as much as a measurement. Today way more women are put off that I’m a guy that has not done it. That is a far worse stigma to women than the guy with 30 bodies. Sad reality but it’s true, many men would hit female celebrities types but a ton truly wouldn’t marry them due to their promiscuity.

[@sethspence5552]

@@reanschwarzer2187 because those same woman don't want to be held to a standard. Woman control sex and sexual access men control relationships and relationships access. The same equivalent is a man that gets married multiple times.

[@katiejon17]

I’ve never seen them “justify” male promiscuity, not once. I’ve seen them argue that is has a different effect on men, which is the same that’s been said here. But “justify” it? I don’t think you’ve comprehended the topic if that’s what you think.

[@australiangirl850]

2:30 "Just as you don't want your Wife sleeping around, she wants that from you" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 That dosen't exclude Porn use. But unfortunately most men have a porn addiction & they're not attractive because it shows up in other behaviours, like neglecting their relationship.

[@swebilbo]

true. real sex is better. But to boring if its with the same woman...

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

Woman logic: "Looking a Pron is as bad as being in it"

[@hugejackedman7423]

100%. So much so there is a stigma against not using it. I am 21 and can honest to God say with great pride I have not masturbated for almost 2.5 years - not having used pornography in that time either. I do not know anyone else in all my time at college and otherwise who has done anything like that - actually except one, one of the most impressive men I know. I trained with him in the army and he is the closest thing to a supersoldier I have ever seen, literally Ivan Drago and 6ft 5 too. A great man and training for special forces, as am I. There is certainly a correlation there, the power within to tame himself in such a way manifests outwardly such. Porn has completely saturated contemporary masculinity and we are all the poorer for it - for when the man is weakened the woman is defiled. We see this in allegory with Minas and his failure of dominating the bestial instincts within him - failing to tame the beast within. Perfectly this is demonstrated with the minatour roaming the labrinth of the mind until the worthy man Theseus slays it with the assistance of the heroic feminine archetype embodied in Ariadne. I worry for our women, a minefield it must be. Alas many of them too bear the buboes of this sickened cultural doctrine of hedonism perverse and profane licentiousness in their own behaviours...

[@tractorman1990]

@@australiangirl850 spot on! It’s and the immorality on social media is pathetic. It’s so hard to be pure minded when it’s in front of you everywhere and “socially accepted “. It takes intention to be pure

[@australiangirl850]

@user-tz9io1ll8p It's not the same, because Social Media can be Work, Learning & provide interesting discussions. I quite like watching podcasts. HOWEVER I agree that BOTH partners should stop following attractive to them (dosen't just mean physically attractive) alternatives, Liking, commenting, responding to or sharing stories or dming potential other partners. Or creating content for potential others. The most common behaviour I see from partnered men on social media is emotional Infidelity.

[@bigchainswangin609]

Thank you guys for this clip, I don’t blame my father for not teaching me and being around when I was a teen anymore but a lot of guys need to hear this and come to the right conclusion🙏

[@moseywhales9127]

I’m a virgin and don’t watch porn and I’m still weak.

[@Fitzgeralduh]

@@moseywhales9127 welcome to being human 👏

[@srkaz8114]

Keep fighting and keep God on His throne in your heart and you will get stronger. Never hurts to hit the gym as well- helps fight the demons.

[@joejackson6205]

@moseywhales9127 never substitute physical weakness for Spiritual strength.

[@Mary-supremacist]

Keep up the good fight. It is a struggle that all men face in this world.

[@RodrigoMera]

"But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness'". "Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me".

[@joejackson6205]

I hope Nick becomes Commander-in-Chief right after he has served as the next Governor of Virginia.

[@C12341]

@@joejackson6205 same

[@MrWeebable]

5:00 there is a legitimate fear for getting trapped in a sexless marriage with a frigid woman. You can find that out by how difficult she finds it to stay chaste with you.

[@C12341]

That doesn’t give you an excuse to pressure her to go against her morals or put her in sinful and uncompromising situations. That’s test driving a car not a human. I’m so perplexed by comments like this on a religious video. Why are you even here? A woman with strong morals and boundaries won’t bend even if she has high libido and if you get someone to do things they don’t want to do before marriage you’re akin to a grapist. You have no guarantee the person won’t be frigid other than having honest conversations beforehand but your take is perverse and disrespectful.

[@ximthedespot4673]

4:21 I know that from experience. If I knew my ex was just going to dump me I wouldn't have talked to her. We even talked about the idea of marriage.

[@NateeB1]

Big Nick Freitas fan, but I don't think this is the BEST message for sex outside of marriage and anti porn. Most men don't know what it is like to have an amazing wife let alone an amazing relationship. So, for the majority of men you miss on that one. You need to speak to the core of the problem that is watching porn, and hookup culture will just dig a deep hole for you. It physically hurts your brain to watch porn (in so many ways), and you are emotionally hurting yourself or the other person to just have sex that's not tied to a lifelong commitment. These points don't even scratch the surface, obviously, once you bring in the spiritual aspect and how both scar your heart you really get into the meat of it. I propose a challenge to any man that has a bit of spirituality to his name. Try to read Theology of the Body while living a life of having hookup sex. "Serious prayer, and serious sin cannot coexist"

[@harrisonrutledge5]

Well-said.

[@swebilbo]

Lol millions of man has had christian wifes and their life was boring as f... Especialy the sex life....

[@jgeph2.4]

This was fantastic. As someone who spent their whole life from a young age exposed to pornography to years of wicket living , it truly destroys you . Christ saved me at the age of 42 but the repercussions are for a lifetime .

[@ceresgc]

@@jgeph2.4 hello! Could you share more of your experience with being addicted and fighting the addiction? Could help young men as a motivator and point of reference

[@Samzo2002]

@@ceresgc I’m not the original pastor but I was addicted I constantly had stomach aches, I felt weak, palpitations, digestive issues, loosing weight, no strength, always fatigued these are some side effects. I’m free now 6 years I’m 24. All I’ve done to do this is I stopped being idle I constantly work every single day, working out is a good way to tire the body, when the body is tired you don’t feel like entertaining lust. Fasting works the same way the body feels weak to entertain lust. Basically keep the body and mind engaged in work every single day, never remain idle or you’ll end up relapsing. Having a spiritual practice (I believe in Christ) means I can’t do these acts anymore as it ruins you spiritually.

[@katiejon17]

As a woman, I a, curious what the lifelong repercussions are? I dated a man before I met my husband and something was off about him. At the time, I wan’t saved yet, so I wasn’t as well behaved as I should have been - if you know what I mean. This guy couldn’t perform... at all. I finally learned that he had a long-standing porn addiction and was also addicted to chronic masturbation to the point where it affected his life. When I discovered this, it all made sense - real woman, and real life didn’t do anything for him - he needed porn. I have to admit it disgusted me so much, and I felt like I had been scammed and deceived by him. I cut all ties with him and instead of him getting his life together, he just kept going in a downward spiral. It’s so horrific. Porn is so evil.

[@Samzo2002]

@@katiejon17 People that engage in that addiction are always stagnant, they never move forward in life, they’re always backwards. It also makes people avoid them they have a zombie like, lifeless type of energy and it draws people away. They also have a sickly appearance to them, they also have social phobia and are constantly self-conscious. Porn can and will destroy your life. If you can’t control this addiction, either get married or be like me, constantly engage in some type of work: going gym, prayer, working overtime etc these things tire the body out and make you just want to sleep and not entertain lust Yeah, Porn is demonic that will ruin you it also has spiritual effects. The same with sleeping around, these two things will destroy your life you’ll be worthless and useless at the end of the day

[@thomasdamico3120]

I’m shocked KZbin hasn’t taken this interview down and labeled it ‘hate speech’. This should be mandatory viewing for adolescent boys. Thank you for crystallizing the rules of engagement so articulately and unambiguously. God Bless

[@sandstorm7768]

Fantastic video. So many good points. Too many to count.

[@Kevin-sr8yx]

A certain amount of desperation is required to overcome the fear of courting a woman.

[@luke9747]

Great video

[@mx500a4]

I had some serious childhood trauma that ruined me.

[@travisschmitt5315]

Excellent video, thank you

[@Raven.Tulips]

Exactly. Promiscuity does in fact affect men and women in different ways, (and Nick said it perfectly) it remains morally wrong and detrimental to both. The consequences affect emotional well-being, relationships, and personal integrity.

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

Guys can move past it, women are forever tainted and that's a fact. I don't care what anyone says.

[@Goncalo.]

Nick is so unbelievably well-spoken. it’s like he’s reading off a script

[@brettacook2406]

Thanks men! Great direction based on proven truth.

[@alejandragonzalezperez7161]

This is a great proof and source of hope for trusting that chase men exist.

[@mmarquez7912]

Good video I love how he says his wife’s never has to worry about him fantasizing about someone else.

[@HappyEndings8]

I pray every day that I find and marry a man like this in this wretched world 🥲.

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

I just pray I don't get randomly accused of stuff and have the system believe it.

[@SulfGenesis]

I pray every day that I can grow up into a man like that.

[@anthonyfiducia]

It’s good to hear from men with experience, hope to hear more experience teaching rather then theology or religious practices.

[@spicole2937]

Quit blaming men

[@hopefull61256]

Each person needs to introspect and take accountability

[@Mike-rt2vp]

I'll think about that as I pay child support to my unemployed EX

[@spicole2937]

Thats great man do u ever talk about the women to choose in the west

[@stacybrittain9448]

How refreshing to hear men discuss chastity and abstinence to honor God and their wives. I know women who are married to men with porn addiction and their marital sex lives are an unsatisfying unsafe nightmare as he asks her to do bizarre twisted things for his porn reenactment

[@mrlolmaster1019]

Matt Fradd the aussie Ladd literally got Giga Sigma Chad on the podcast 💀

[@sirken2]

How does a young man who is waiting justify being with someone who hasn't? Like trying to find a girl who also waited now and days is like a needle in a hay stack. 33 yo still virgin and waiting for my future wife

[@brandonluker3660]

Not gonna lie, this was really hard to listen to. But it wasn't as bad as I assumed it was gonna be. I made a post.I think it was a couple of days ago or yesterday.I don't remember. I think the biggest hurdle for me to get over is what it means to be a man. Because right now it's hard for me to care about becoming one when I picture being a man is anything contrary to a little bit, I like about myself.

[@Me-jf6hk]

A large amount of women watching it now too, certain kind of people watch it and i think it devalues the actual shared experience of love making.

[@kengy1991]

Super helpful

[@Bennyboy1985]

> I don’t think it’s manly to have to pay a woman to pretend to like you. Bang on.

[@jrd3675]

Porn does nothing but destroy.

[@armorbearer9702]

The more time you spend looking for a life time partner. The more likely you will find a good one.

[@rapunzelz5520]

Any comments on this trend for sexless marriages by choice? People dont want kids, they dont want the bother, and its neither enjoyable or practical.

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

That's called being a robotic weirdo or having hormonal imbalances.

[@harrisq]

News flash…We are ALL weak men lol. Without Jesus we are but dirty rags. Like the speaker said he didn’t sleep around but he ended up in bars that’s he shouldn’t have been in. We all sin and have struggle no one is greater than the next. Give your struggles to Jesus and repent but please don't think you are worse or better than anyone else..

[@CharbelBouyounes-uu8zw]

Yeah sex out of love is different than sex out of lust !

[@stacy-annmorgan6685]

I like listening to this man. I wish more man will listen to him. There are a lot more bad men and women out here. The causality we take in relationships is why we have so much problems today. People always think they can do better. I’m 27 year old woman and have no hope in finding in a good man. Too many men want submissive wife when they aren’t being worthy of being submitted to. Sad out here. God bless all those who have been able to find a great partner in times like these.

[@bp3177]

@@stacy-annmorgan6685 don’t be discouraged. They’re men out there striving to be worthy of a good woman. We don’t see them because the culture doesn’t want us to

[@afroman5531]

Idk dating just doesn’t seem worth it in this day and age, i talk with my buddy’s and the ones that are in relationships say don’t it’s not worth it. My other friends arnt looking n I stopped dating a few years back. We’ve sat down and talked about what the benefits to getting married / being in a serious relationship we could not think of any reason for a guy to marry these days. N these are guys in their mid twenties with this mind set. I’m sure some still want to get married one of my buddies is probably gonna marry his girl but within the last year n a half he has gain +50 pounds and looks constantly stressed

[@finno-crisis]

Not this guy tho. He's so strong amirite? So strong he has to mention he was in the "special forces" because he needs you to know how cool and strong he is.

[@libertasinveritas3198]

Seems like you have some serious issues that need resolving. Work on yourself.

[@finno-crisis]

@libertasinveritas3198 well aren't you a regular therapist. Look lady, having latin as your screen name only makes you seem pretentious. You should work on being humble instead of thinking the sun shines out your hole.

[@jamestempleton553]

@@finno-crisis amen.

[@Xavier-ww9zy]

Just amen

[@phoetharhtooo]

Education is scam now. We need love& relationship education like your channel than sex education.

[@jonathonfrazier6622]

5:00 OK look. I've been with multiple women and they were all very different. A couple were awesome. A couple were just terrible and then there were the mediocres. They are not all equal in this regard and you aren't going to know til you do the deed. I would have considered it one of the great tragedies of my life if I had just married and been with one of these subpar individuals and had completely missed out on the truly exceptional ones.

[@Shoppingisfun245]

What makes it exceptional?

[@PaulBrown-fl2dk]

Wonder if Nick’s story would be the same if all the skeletons in the closet were laid bare? Guy’s a champ though

[@thenewyorkredneck4735]

Dude might be based but his lineage is destroyed. "What's the point of the rule is it brought you to this? "

[@nategraham6946]

Could you possibly have been more arrogant, pretentious, and condescending?

[@pintswithaquinas]

1000% we could of.

[@ConsulYeti]

The only critique I have of this guy is that he's ONLY had sex with one person (awesome sex) and hence has nothing to compare it to. In other words, it's one thing to say the only thing you've ever experienced is the best thing, it's an entirely different thing to have done both and then attest to the truth of what this man is saying. I have done both. Sex for the sake of sex with a stranger or someone you don't know that well may be exciting, thrilling and satisfying. But that can't hold a candle to awesome sex with the one you love, which is more intense and enjoyable. Just IMO.

[@RM-qq5rj]

@@ConsulYeti except you don't need to eat rotting food or drink sour milk to know the fresh is better and what you want to have. There's no need to try the bad to know you desire the good and that it's healthier for you too. Some things you shouldn't experience the bad to know the good is better.

[@RM-qq5rj]

except you don't need to eat rotting food or drink sour milk to know the fresh is better and what you want to have. There's no need to try the bad to know you desire the good and that it's healthier for you too. Some things you shouldn't experience the bad to know the good is better.

[@afroman5531]

@@RM-qq5rjidk been with woman I love and adore and been with girls I didn’t know their last name. N honestly it didn’t make the experience because I liked them. I think that is usually something females tend to have in their love lives

[@rapunzelz5520]

Do people think approaching marriage as STRICTLY A LEGAL CONTRACT a good idea? No romance/love nonsense, no sex, no children, just an obligation in order to financially survive. It seems that marriage by contract was how it worked in the Bible and in ancient culture.

[@libertasinveritas3198]

Can work out, not ideal, though.

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

That contract worked before one party was heavily incentivized to break that contract. Can you guess which side that is?

[@JohnSmith-yc6uv]

.....the (anti) family courts see it that way, and have for a very long time. The consequences for breaking that contract are HORRENDOUS for one side. And the state has incentive to encourage the vreaking of the contract as the state then gets a cut of all the payments that one party makes to another. As far as the CONSEQUENCES are concerned, marriage IS STRICTLY A LEGAL CONTRACT. And this is the way ATHEISTS wanted it, not christians.

[@afroman5531]

Marriage in America with today’s standards, the court set up and people today id say it’s not a good idea to get hitched in general. It’s an out dated concept that does hold the same weight or value that it once did

[@halbaloney4593]

It served as the foundation for every civilization in every part of the world for all of human history. Until yesterday, when we decided marriage was just a feeling that the man pays for. Now marriage may as well not exist, and society is crumbling around us.

[@Maksie0]

There sure are a lot of these no-fap weirdos in conservative Christian circles, huh?

[@kenu995]

To quote a favorite political channel of mine, "NaKEd lAdY pRetTy, mUsT tOuCh pEePee".

[@garybuck6535]

@@Maksie0 no-fap weirdos LMAO! Coming from a coomer basement dweller no doubt

[@afroman5531]

Well yeah if dudes aren’t getting the clarity of post nuts, then we would definitely be more inclined to make a decision we would likely regret later. Like marriage They want you to get married, why? Idk but I’ve never thought signing a contract were the other benefits more from breaking it was a good idea

[@misterauctor7353]

@@Maksie0 ???

[@rileyp1419]

@@kenu995 based Doyle viewer