What Husbands Need from Their Wives (Nick Freitas)

[@emd5095]

My marriage was a disaster at one point. What could be wrong was, porn addiction, emotional affairs, physical affairs, neglect, isolation, workaholism etc..& I started because I swore to God I would live out my vows. It was excruciating at times...then one day it all came crashing down around us. All that was left, was he & I. We had a choice, stay & say yes the the impossible road or part ways. We both chose yes. At times I thought I'd die from the crushing effects of it all. Through hard work, the mercy of God & time. We are happily married, truly everything we both ever wanted & it all seems like a lifetime ago. I don't know if it will work out for you, but I did offer up ever sickening second for anyone else going through what we went through & I still do. I pray for all of you & your spouses & your Marriage. ❤️❤️❤️

[@happyappy19931]

❤

[@sandrakozlowski6921]

Right after he said what men wanted I paused the video and went to my husband of nearly 40 and told him thank you for being such a great provider and keeping us all safe. He was so touched. He just had a triple bypass 3 weeks ago and I saw a smile I hadn’t seen in long time❤️❤️. Thank you!!! Our marriage was a fighting disaster for both of us for 36 years. You name it, it happened. I was so tired of fighting. We were both at fault but I felt I was more at fault. I read about how I was to be Christ to my husband and was saved at 62. I talked to my husband, he came to Christ. We both agreed that Christ was to be the head of our marriage and our desires come after him. Our unsaved children ask my husband, what happened? The Lord opened a door for him to witness to them. I tried to model submission instead of the feminist “I am the boss”! Two of our children are leaning toward Christ, the oldest is a hard woke atheist but I won’t stop praying!

[@brianna0516]

I would not be where I am in my faith (and I still have a long way to go) if we had an “easy/normal” marriage. God allows us to suffer through our own choices to give us the grace of seeing that we need to die to self, love Him first (and most), then the rest falls into place. ❤🙏

[@serenababy6358]

Thank you. I needed to read your comment. It gives me hope.

[@emd5095]

❤️ I'm praying & sacrificing for you, believe me when I say it. ❤️

[@mamasadembou3604]

Thank you so much for this; I found it very encouraging! My husband was fired 6 months ago, due to no error on his part. He’s a foreigner in my home country, and even though he has applied to all jobs, a local has been picked every time. And at the same time I got offered a job I didn’t even apply for. So I’m currently working (was a stay-at-home mum before) - only 12 hours out of the house and the rest at home - I still do my best to maintain the peaceful environment at home, but it’s so hard. We have a 3 year old and 1 year old twins. But it just meant so much to hear you talk about how much it means to a man, to have his wife stick with him no matter what - makes me feel like I’m doing something right! He has not been idle at all; he’s such a hardworker - just no luck yet.

[@kaylac1993]

When he was saying how his wife created an environment the kids want to recreate it really struck something in me. I’m a sahm of 2 with 1 on the way and this is something I am going to keep at the forefront of my mind. Loved this whole clip!

[@kimberlyjoan8]

It really stood out to me as well! I am a SAHM of 4, and I think I have allowed myself to get lost in all of it. I want to do better at creating something my kids will want to replicate as well. That also means that I need to be better at fostering an environment that they are at peace in now.

[@RagnarLothbrok2222]

@@kaylac1993 God bless you and your family!

[@dianareed3364]

This is the best clip about marriage I've seen in KZbin in a long time. Thank you!

[@StephTellnTruth]

I love how Nick explains everything. So beautiful and helpful to so many. He needs to write a book on marriage. So many would buy it

[@Ana_Cecilia615]

Simple and to the point!

[@teresamagnusson]

What could husbands possibly need from their wives? They're so strong and independent, they don't have needs.

[@rebecca120xmany]

@@teresamagnusson I don’t think that’s true. Everyone has needs; God designed husbands and wives to complete each other. It’s not dependence; it’s not independence - it’s INTERdependence.

[@Ana_Cecilia615]

@@rebecca120xmany They're being sarcastic. You missed the humor.

[@terrao4971]

@@Ana_Cecilia615 Not going to lie, I totally missed the humor lol! Sarcastic or not - I’m glad Rebecca responded because I love what she said 🥰

[@historyb5786]

I got a great wife. She married me even though I was in a wheelchair and helps me do everything

[@AxllsFly]

@@historyb5786 sounds like you and your wife have a beautiful marriage. Many blessings to you both

[@StephTellnTruth]

I truly believe people with physical handicaps have spiritual superpowers and tend to be such amazing people. They are kinder, more compassionate, more humble, more grateful. I think that people who get paired with handicapped people are the lucky ones. God Bless you and your wife!

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

That's awesome.

[@happyappy19931]

I married my husband who was in a wheelchair as well. I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s amazing. Kudos to you both as well.

[@FindTheTRUTH337]

@@historyb5786 🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@QuantumPsych0s1s]

Peace is the result of Loyalty, Respect, Honor and Commitment.

[@edenelston7668]

Add forgiveness, trust, humility

[@alinabushong3724]

I wish a man spoke about me the way these guys spoke about their wives

[@sam12587]

Same.

[@jessicarobinson9248]

Apologies in advance for if this comes comes across really blunt or weird… First off I really feel for you. I’ve always known that my vocation was marriage and I spent years in my twenties watching friends fall in love, marry, have kids, the whole deal. Then I woke up one day and thought “people try and meet their future husband/wife at the bar… why don’t I go to the place that best embodies my deepest values. So I went Church hopping in my city and after visiting several parishes I found one that had lots of people my age, very serious in their faith but also really fun and I had a group of solid friends. After a year of friend zoning the guy I met on day one we starting dating and the rest is history. So… I am assuming that this is new advice to you since I know literally nothing about your situation… it just took me a while to feel okay about being really upfront about pursuing my vocation. It initially felt like “husband hunting” at Mass (and just FYI I was also there at these parishes to worship and pray the mass - don’t get it twisted! 😂) but it’s essentially like being on Catholic Match and searching your area but in person, face-to-face, and you find out with your eyes who is practicing the faith and who is not. All that being said… sometimes God’s silence on the matter is a “not yet” and sometimes it is a “no”. The world definitely pushes the idea that romantic and sexual love is the be all end all of life, but we know that Jesus is the one who knows us completely and loves us unconditionally… and who can ultimately satisfy the desire of our hearts like St Augustine said “our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee”. Maybe it’s “not yet”. Maybe it’s “no. I have something else for you”. There was a blog post that really met me when I was in the single season of my life, I’ll try and find it because it really captures and articulates this sense of Christian identity and purpose that we all have. Praying for you and wishing you well! Keep talking to God even if it involves some choice words❤

[@joniatoms9798]

They essentially ARE!!! Wait for the right man❤❤❤❤

[@Neoteny-j4z]

@@alinabushong3724 G-d bless you, Ma'am.

[@ashleygrant3131]

I wish my girlfriend acted and conducted herself in such a way as to allow me to speak of her the way they do, and to be speaking honestly when doing so😢

[@virginia4605]

I think this conversation is one that should be incorporated in pre-Cana courses. Couples could benefit so much and this could lay the groundwork for future understanding and collaboration between husbands and wives.

[@PizzaRoyalty]

I have been married for 34 years. My mother gave me some great advice as a young unmarried woman at the time… that has carried us through so much. A. Never embarrass your husband in public by putting him down and in private in front of the children. Talk about what is frustrating you openly in PRIVATE. Respect is so important. (He did the same for me) B. God must be the center and head of the marriage (that came from my grandmother) C. Sex is important (Don’t use it as a weapon against your spouse, it is a God given privilege and joy of the marriage) D. Prayerfully guard your marriage and pray together E. Laughter is wonderful and self deprecation can be great medicine.

[@edenelston7668]

@@PizzaRoyalty your letter A makes me cringe. So many wives are disrespectful and rude to their husbands and it's miserably unattractive. It's the kind of thing that makes ya go, "poor guy." All good points 👍🏼

[@psyche8187]

I’ve been married for a long time. And honestly, if you just follow this advice as much as you can, you will be 98% of the way there. Wise lady!!

[@PizzaRoyalty]

@@psyche8187 Thank you

[@PizzaRoyalty]

@@edenelston7668 Thank you

[@HappyToBeKLB]

Great list ❤

[@PianoMyHeart]

as a woman, those sound like perfectly reasonable things to want.

[@yaelfinney5783]

Great message. I have been married 11 years and my husband has not been able to express this to me. Thanks for your input.

[@velvetindigonight]

There is a book called ‘The Spiritual Tasks of a Homemaker’ which I love and I believe takes this even further and deeper… When I was a ‘House Mother’/Manager in a Camphilll Community for adults with learning disabilities it filled in the blanks for me… we were ‘Spiritual Mothers’ too… even if we had not given birth to our ‘Villagers’/Residents… Everything can be ‘elevated’ if we wish? It’s a vocation … Thought provoking content and confirmatory too Thank you

[@jojobinks1051]

We need more men like you! Love what you’re saying about your wife. May you and your family be blessed!🙏🏾

[@kaseyripley9194]

I love hearing this. My husband and I both have failed marriages with non believers before we married each other. Funnily enough we were best friends for years before either of our divorces. We remained friends for several years after before we started dating and then eventually got married. He has a lot of problems from PTSD, several tours overseas, but he does everything for me and the children, and I have a lot of my own issues. We work together to overcome them. You're right, love is a choice, but it's also a verb. You can say "I love you" all you want, but until actions say it, it's just empty words. It's not always easy, it's not always fun, but it's so rewarding that it's more than worth it.

[@Mickshickle]

Things husbands need from their wives: 1. men want to be respected… Admired for our character and our capabilities…our competence. 2. We want to be appreciated. Acknowledged for the sacrifices we make to provide. 3. We want to be desired. 4. We want to be loved. That love is tied to Loyalty.

[@MMJ501]

Literally all stuff that a woman need 😂

[@V01CEofReezun]

​@@MMJ501sure, if you want to continue to minimize, dismiss and invalidate men's needs in relationships, as has been done by pop culture for the past decade and is the trendy thing to do nowadays.

[@PeppermintandTea]

I’m a Catholic woman who’s had 8 children. I went through my conversion after I was married. I spent over 20 years trying to be a good wife and mother and make a good home for my family. Unfortunately my husband is an alcoholic and very abusive. It came to the point where I was told every day that I was stupid and he wished I was dead. One day I was able to pack as much as I could into rubbish bags, and myself and my children left. I’ve been on my own for 6 years now looking after my children. It’s quite sad to listen to these men and realise how much I wish I had this kind of relationship and marriage.

[@OscarSchneegans]

Why would you curse 8 children with an alcoholic father?

[@natalierose7620]

Love this!! God bless you both and your households. Thank you for honest, real, meaningful conversation that blesses the listeners!

[@andreawindell8508]

This made me cry I had no idea 😢 this needs to be broadcasted everywhere! 🎉❤

[@JC-cu2xf]

As a woman and a wife, I want to thank you for telling,informing,reminding, teaching, what ever the word is men that being faithful is an absolute choice and that things like that don’t just happen. I don’t think that is taught anymore and maybe hearing it from another man will change things.

[@suzanneadalsteinsson6140]

Love and much respect and support for our Catholic men! We give big kudos to you guys as strong fathers and husbands, leaders of the family - a tremendous blessing to Holy Church! God be praised 🙏🙏💫🌟

[@joniatoms9798]

Amen!!!

[@JohnTheRevelator11]

Yes amen!

[@taurusgemini555]

100% agree on all points. Also agree on the boxing/fighting …both men and women, for your stated reasons. That’s intended for destroying enemies, not for sport. And have to say, -didn’t see any ink on either of you. So refreshing not to see graffiti on your bodies. Maybe it’s out of shot or hidden, but huge THANK YOU!!!

[@dianaf.s.1345]

I agree with you Matt… As a Catholic woman I think it’s disgusting to see women beating each other up. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@aenigmatica8]

Me too!! Or men. So sad. 😞

[@Argre]

Some men have a need for physical combat, and some women do too. Fewer, but some. People who don’t understand may not have that thing in them. It’s not a flaw to be fixed or suppressed, nor does it imply a cruel character. It’s about pushing a physical, emotional, and mental envelope and wanting to feel that in your body. It’s good for it to happen in a ring with rules, sportsmanship, and camaraderie. I train jiujitsu and interact with people who do MMA and they are some of the kindest and most grounded people, and are also safe to be around. They have nothing to prove because they’ve already confronted their demons a thousand times on the mat or in the ring, and they understand the consequences of physical violence and when and how NOT to use it. Not to mention the close physical contact required to gain skills requires careful training with trusted teammates and releases oxytocin, the hormone of trust and bonding, and helps one learn when and how to be gentle, depending on the skill and strength level of your partner. It’s not for everyone, but no one is being forced into an MMA ring, nor is it easy, so man or woman if they’ve put in the work consider they may be getting something positive from it.

[@michellemybelle9591]

It's not even a catholic thing. I'm not catholic and don't agree with it either.

[@kayleehon6676]

Man when he was talking about those 4 points.. my wonderful husband makes me feel overwhelmed with love and safety every day that I can’t help but gush over him in exactly those way he described. What a blessing God has given me that I dedicate my life and being to honoring.

[@SnS91099]

I agree Matt! The idea of making money off of intentionally physically abusing someone is sickening!!

[@chuyaencarnacion6228]

Thank you for reminding me of how to better myself as a wife. 🙏❤️

[@sidneybuckaloo]

Women are people with wants and dreams. Not all women are the same. Some women are Joan of Arc on the inside. Why are we always trying to break down what women enjoy as not womanly? Women are not a monolith. We are human just like men.

[@sandstorm7768]

My first thought was Joan of Arc as well. I also think of Prophetess Deborah from the Old Testament. A female prophet! I feel like she's never talked about.

[@sidneybuckaloo]

@ 100%!!!! God did not make women to be who men want them to be. God made us individually just like men. I’m honestly exhausted by all of the “women should be” conversations. Women are who women are. Whatever a woman does is womanly.

[@A-gor]

This is quite the point. I think the idea or the heart behind it is to protect women from societal expectation and or desires fostered on them by society that hurts them in the long run. Now, the same thing applies to men as well. It wasn't just directed at women. There will always be exceptions. They're likely speaking generally. I think their heart is love, and from my experience, they're mostly correct generally, though there are people like Joan of arc, who was pretty cool 😊

[@A-gor]

​@@sandstorm7768 Women like that are pretty rare, though. Joan or arc now, not the prophetess. Prophetesses are plenty in the Bible and in history. And what's out of place not wanting women to go bleed and die? Sounds like a pretty loving thing. Maybe I'm missing something, but war isn't a place for a lady. I mean, isn't that, like, a thoughtful thing?

[@karenbecker4339]

Joan of Arc literally never physically fought. She was a great military strategist and leader providing moral support and encouragement.

[@dremichel5698]

What if you DON'T feel safe? Emotionally? If you are in an abusive relationship... How can you encourage them to WANT to be a safe place and protect you and your kids' emotions?

[@TeresaAman]

You can’t make someone safe. You can detach however, to stay safe. This gives them room to grow. While it’s rather unlikely that he will grow or change…you can at least work on your codependency and boundaries to feel safer overall.

[@ccarlton4511]

Right.... and when you do "everything you're supposed to" but still experience crippling loneliness... yeah, as a "proverbs 31 gal" this is not what I signed up for. Maybe I would swoon more if I actually felt safe and connected. 😢

[@StephanieDiNapoli]

I had the same thought “what if my husband isn’t safe?” He is the person with whom I do NOT feel safe, emotionally, so I am working on myself, finally. What’s difficult for me too is a lack of understanding as to why God doesn’t intervene and bring healing, it’s heartbreaking for my children.

[@believewithyourheart5627]

Excellent question

[@jessicathemom]

@@dremichel5698 you can “encourage” an abuser. Nor anyone with a severely exploitive, dishonest , or manipulative personality . The best thing you can do out of love for an abuser is to stop enabling their behavior by lending your life, time, attention or investment in them. They have a whole world that has normalized abusive behavior. Be the one who doesn’t. Sleeping with demons isn’t the kind of martyrdom Jesus called a single person to

[@peggybruening4415]

LOVED THIS and needed to hear this❤ Thank-You…

[@CamperVan-K]

What a wonderfully balanced and adult conversation - even though there was a disagreement about the point of view from these two gents, they handled it very well. I wish politicians were like this! I would change the word 'appreciated' to 'admired'... when you admire a man, you can feel something change in him. It's women that need the appreciation. As long as she has a tiny hint of that, she'll go a mile with a smile.

[@raedorin979]

It's also good to recall that when you say sickness and health... you could end up with a very sick wife or husband and you'll never get exactly what you thought in that circumstance.

[@copperhead2694]

I get what he is saying about , what men want . Problem is the man he describe are not what the women are getting. If women got the man he is or the man he is describing, then good woman would do all those things, and gladly gleefully do it without hesitation, and without having to be reminded. But let’s face it that’s not the majority of what’s out there, unfortunately for most women and the men who are like this man in the video, or who he is describing, it’s probably less than onepercent and it usually takes them several years of maturity and experience to get there . Very rarely are you gonna find these qualities in a guy in his 20s which is the age most people get married in the first place .

[@swoosh8474]

I long for a wife like that. And I long to be the best husband and man I can be for her...

[@Argre]

As a woman, I have no problem with Nick saying both partners should be in their best shape. Why would you want to be common and chubby when you could be capable and attractive? If it’s within my power to improve I figure that’s good for me and everyone I come in contact with. It’s just a more enjoyable way to live.

[@JohnTheRevelator11]

Because you shouldn’t be focused on self to the point where your beauty is causing other brothers and sisters to stumble

[@sarahs3988]

The problem lies in the fact that thw man needs to be willing to make that possible, and understanding if its not. I've had many children and no time for myself. Its come dowm to weight gain for each pregnacy amd no time to help lose it. A husband needs to provide that time for his wife. And not have that be her only free time either.

[@Argre]

@@sarahs3988 That is a very frustrating situation that I think many share. 💖 I have prayed God will give you a path.

[@Argre]

@@JohnTheRevelator11 So you think being your best self internally and externally causes others to sin? And my next question is-whose issue is that to deal with?

[@xprimox]

A cultured perspective is important to understand things that are different from your reality

[@truthdeception4818]

I wish Nick would have continued talking about women that have/had to fight and not in the UFC ring

[@MrsLilD76]

Don’t forget, wives also need to stay fit and healthy for their husbands ❤

[@mgrz98]

Thank you Matt!

[@d3adp94]

We are the only few men left that enjoy being married and honor our wife and family. To be fair to young men, be careful vetting. A lot of modern women are not worth your time and effort.

[@whatever1068]

@@d3adp94 a lot of men are not worth the time and effort of women.

[@kristincusick1342]

I could say the same for a lot of modern men too. Neither side is bringing much to the table.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

If modern men give up on modern women because of your negative attitude, we will cease to exist. God calls us to forgiveness and the only way forward is if women AND men are willing to learn temperance, forgiveness in this day and age.

[@TheChampFighter]

​@@kristincusick1342More so for men than for women, Kristin. This is the case in both first-world and third-world countries.

[@Bodine22infp]

Both potential spouses need to vet carefully, but if you take marriage prep seriously, you learn a lot about your fiance in the process. I'm recently married, and we both do our best to cherish each other. A biblical view of marriage helps tremendously, and I believe the Catholic view of marriage as an idelible sacrament helps most of all.

[@fswan1944]

Every single woman, married or not, needs to read Fascinating Womanhood. It is the most practical map to a beautiful marriage.

[@andrear4954]

Yes I love that book! Also Fascinating Girl and the older FW pamphlets are amazing, I try to recommend them to every Christian girl I know to understand biblical femininity, also Man of Steel and Velvet for biblical masculinity is great for men ❤

[@TheConfusername]

What if you're single and not interested in being married?

[@andrear4954]

@@TheConfusername if you aren't interested in marriage or biblical femininity then don't read it, it wouldn't apply to you 😊

[@LCoClark]

@@TheConfusername I would honestly hope that a man or a woman who is legit not interested in being married would spend time watching videos on topics that more accurately reflect the values they hold, the calling on their lives, and the things they want to create for their lives.

[@liebherrl2599]

That book changed my life and marriage! ❤

[@amandagarcia3373]

I loved everything about this conversation ❤️

[@Evangelina098]

Just me sitting here taking copious notes! Wish me luck finding myself a good man to take care of. ❤

[@RagnarLothbrok2222]

If you are listening to this, you are well ahead of your peers! 👏🏻 God bless!

[@Ant794]

In all honesty I just ain’t found a woman I like enough to get married, so Im just gonna focus on work and stuff until that happens. If it doesn’t it’s not that big a deal cause I’ll be in the new Jerusalem whether I have ten kids or zero.

[@ericacbrown5873]

@Ant794 prayer is key. Just be very specific on what you are looking for in a woman. Pray that to God, and in due time, God will introduce you to her. 😊

[@username00009]

@Ant94 would the type of woman who you would like enough to marry see you as the type of man who she would like enough to marry? The work starts with ourselves.

[@Ant794]

@@username00009 Maybe, who knows🤷🏼‍♂️ If she doesn’t then I just won’t get married which is okay🤞🏼

[@01happykat]

@@Ant794 It took my partner and me a LONG time to find each other, but we had both done considerable work on ourselves to be the person we wanted to attract by being that person first. We are both trustworthy, honest, kind, emotionally stable, responsible, respectful people of faith. We also had become clear on what exactly we needed in a partner. Voila! We met! It's been amazing! It happens, but you have to commit to being someone you'd actually want to be with.

[@oambitiousone7100]

People fighting for sport sickens me. Period.

[@threearrows2248]

4:14 Sticking with your husband and continuing to serve and love him through his sin is also important. Bc Lord knows we're all sinners. I'm not talking about abuse. But to stick through it when your husband is trying his hardest to serve the Lord and his past or shortcomings pop up is certainly an expression of biblical love.

[@Tetradepodmelontea]

Abuse, cheating, marriage rape and disrespect is the end of relationship. Other sins like occasional laziness, swearing, bad money management, bad eating habits and mental problems can be managed without hurting the goals of family, if man is working on himself in right direction.

[@Sara-x6t3s]

Better to just leave the sick creep. All they do is use, use, and use. Sorry men who use porn are no longer capable of love, obviously. If they were they would not be able to use porn.

[@loric1909]

@@Tetradepodmelontea unfortunately that's not what the Bible says. It says the only reason to divorce is sexual immorality. My Christian husband can be extremely abusive emotionally and mentally and has threatened physically through intimidating actions but I searched the scriptures and there is no way out. He has apologized and acknowledged his wrongs and talked about his own family trauma. But then it comes out of nowhere. I don't trust him. He also can't provide financially even though Ive let him know stability is one of my needs. I don't feel loved. But God never said I can leave him

[@righteousrebellion90]

I was just speaking about this very thing a few weeks ago to my husband. Like, how can men watch women fighting and punching each other and not bat an eye...how can it be acceptable and okay? Didn't men use to give their lives on battlefields to protect women and children, but can now sit there and watch a women get beat up? I just don't get it. Also ufc in general, I had someone say to me, a lot of those guys give glory to Jesus and are Christian....and I'm just like how exactly does punching peoples lights out for money and fame glorify God exactly? I really don't get it. I also agree with wives and husbands staying fit. We should give grace for when life happens though...illness, pregnancy and postpartum...etc...but overall yes we should take care of ourselves, we are temples of the Holy Spirit afterall. I'm grateful for my husband, when he first met me I was in amazing shape, I was into bodybuilding in the gym nearly everyday. With children it progressively got harder to go to the gym, although i still ate healthy. Pregnancy and postpartum was tough on me. Now three years fast forward after my last child ive gotten back into the gym and gotten fit again. Never once did my husband make me feel bad about myself, even though I wasn't in the best shape, he really fostered an environment of grace and love and acceptance for me, and I think this really helps bring out the best version of people when there in a good environment. Glory to God.

[@yellowknight97]

Matt's point about UFC is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!! Especially as it applies to women. We're raising generations of girls that are confused about their feminity and are pushed to be manish. It's sickening.

[@frankmurph32]

The number of women in the comment section making this video about them just goes to show exactly what Nick said with the first 2 minutes about the world not caring about what men need.

[@GrowLegacy]

Aside from staying fit because "last man she gets to have sex with"..... also... fitness will help protect and provide better. Like... if someone is eating a bunch of processed things, bad diet, not exercising, etc.... health issues will become hurdles to living a long life together

[@MichelleAntonia]

I think being honest about who we are and what we want is the path to better relationships, of any kind. Not every woman needs to be protected and provided for, many just need respect as an individual. I have never wanted the traditional things from men, and most reject that unfortunately. Few want to get to know and spend their life with a woman that does not need them for those things. But I will not be who I am not, God made me this way and I will not be something else just because that's what society or men expect of me.

[@CatholicSamurai]

Matt needs to get Mrs. Timothy Gordon (Stephanie) on the show. She gets it 100%

[@delanysmith6474]

The road you describe runs both ways. If men don't also provide what women "need" to thrive in a marriage (& I'm not talking about a plethora of money & riches), you can forget your woman from providing it for you. After ten years of giving, giving, giving in a "one-way" marriage, I'm done making someone else happy, when I myself am not having my needs are not met. Full stop.

[@1kstodd]

At no point did they ever diminish women’s needs. They were just explaining that in today’s culture men’s needs are usually dismissed out of hand. You just proved their point. You first dismissed what they said and then started talking about your problems. Instead of empathizing with others and their own stories you had to make it about you. I would recommend you rewatch this clip with the idea that not everything is about you. If you can, try not to project all of the hardships you’ve gone through onto what other people are saying. Peace be with you.

[@mackie9255]

Yeah, Nick mentioned in the video that not all men are worth the effort. As a woman, I think our society spends PLENTY of time ruminating on what women “need” in marriage. How about we let men talk about their needs for a few minutes without making it about ourselves? Not everything applies to you.

[@delanysmith6474]

@@1kstodd You, Sir, need to go back and read the latter portion of my comment. I said I WAS meeting the "needs of men" that were mentioned in the video. You may now go crawl in a corner and hide since YOU. WERE. WRONG. Good day.

[@delanysmith6474]

@@mackie9255 😂😂😂😂😂

[@edward97073]

Not to cheat .

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

No porn or cheating and have a healthy sex drive only to your wife… That’s the dream man

[@ellenstanton2043]

Without first listening, I am gonna say positive feedback. A lot. Married for fifty years.

[@Fhjklp]

That’d be nice to have a husband like that. I was a girlfriend then a wife like they described and then I found out my husband had been cheating on me the whole time we were dating. With a deployed Marine’s wife, nonetheless. She was his neighbor and she invited him over for dinner so innocently while we lived apart and they started a long-term affair. She didn’t admit it to her husband until after she had a child with him so he wouldn’t leave her. Don’t trust military wives, even the ones who weren’t strippers before because even the ones that claim to be Christian and work at the base hospitals are loose and immoral.

[@legislatedanarchy1380]

Women are supposed to love and obey their husbands the way the Church loves and obeys Christ.

[@tanjasmit7535]

Beautiful conversation between two Godly men 👌🏼🇿🇦

[@GodSaveTheClothes]

Absolutely love this

[@youtubeKathy]

well. sometimes you can do everything for a man and he still treats you like an adversary. until you leave, then he finally tells you how great you are. 🙄

[@hopefulforhumanity5625]

I am a woman, and I also dislike seeing women fighting in a ring. Unlike Matt, I kinda like MMA fighting for men.

[@Argre]

Me too, but women who want to go to the effort to train and fight certainly should. Whatever the thing is inside that makes a person want to engage in combat is not absent in some women. The same harm that would happen in a man if he tried to suppress that drive will happen in a woman. Which is also not pretty.

[@mitty2575]

We all to put God 1st, we are all imperfect and need to love ourselves and only God can provide what we all need 1st, in order to give to others.

[@Bk2thedirt]

I 💯 agree with Pints! I believe the boxing sport is NOT GODLY! Woman and men need to be prepared absolutely, however showing our youth that it’s ok to beat up on someone else as a sport is demonic.

[@epayne]

I don't like watching men fight in the same way 😂

[@sophiayork3447]

I love it!

[@sandstorm7768]

1. Why shouldn't women fight in combat sports? I've been hearing this claim lately yet never hear an actual arguement attatched to it. 2. What does this mean of your opinion on Joan of Arc? The female saint who is noble and revered for fighting in warfare? Should she have never done the thing that she is famous for? Was she wrong to fight for her country?

[@Madbird95]

Yeah, there’s no explicit command in scripture for women not to fight- which means a blanket ban on it is pretty sketchy. There are however very few examples in scripture of a woman fighting. Only the tent peg assassination comes to mind.

[@apebass2215]

Joan of Arc was not a warrior, she was a mascot.

[@nickjohnson1424]

Huh, that’s beyond stupid. She fought in several battles/war.

[@gunsgalore7571]

I think that a blanket ban is definitely not helpful. However, as a man I also see something in women that is worth keeping out of harm’s way. Don’t know exactly what it is, but good men do not like to see women in the line of fire if it can be avoided. We have an instinct that wants y’all kept safe. I don’t know what that is, maybe recognition of y’all’s roles as mothers or something, I really don’t know for sure. But it’s there, and if I’m a guy on a battlefield, and I see a woman and a man lying injured, I’m gonna save the woman first. Not saying it’s right. Just saying that’s how it is.

[@BuiltRight]

@@sandstorm7768 Please review Deuteronomy 22:5 Deu 22:5 - The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God. The word for pertaineth to a man is gheber, and literally means a warriors garb. The meaning is clear, it is more than dressing as a man or warrior, it is also acting as a man. Proverbs has a lot to say about combative women, as well. Matt’s visceral reaction to women strapping on fighting equipment and pummeling each other is unscriptural.

[@faithli2131]

LARD loved, appreciated, respected and desired

[@TheTradDadShow]

We need to be a hero for my wife. We need to sacrifice and die to ourselves to find fulfillment in our vocation. Listen to Lila Rose interview Laura Doyle.

[@CatholicSamurai]

Our wives owe it to us as husbands to be the kind of people worth sacrificing for. If women talk a big game about how men need to step up and die to ourselves for others, yet are unwilling to surrender entirely to us in dutiful loving wifery, then what they're actually expecting is to let men be exploited for women who will not reciprocate on their end. Stephanie Gordon understands this more than Lila Rose. Lila Rose focuses on asking "what should we as women be expecting from our men?" while Stephanie Gordon focuses on asking "what should we as women be giving to our men?" Men will sacrifice themselves and die for a cause, but we won't risk dying for nothing.

[@psyche8187]

I do think husbands also need wives who work hard. Men don’t want lazy wives. Even if they stay at home.

[@happyappy19931]

We should be Proverbs 31 women.

[@7joystotheworld]

Dongal is an interesting movie. We’ve had our family watch it. Based on true story.

[@Grow3Glow]

Agreed with the not liking watching women fight...it's one thing getting fit and participating in sport, but the smacking contests and the ufc fights are just bad 👎🏻

[@kated5499]

Agree! Women are supposed to be the nurturers of society, and being out the warrior in men. We don’t need more brutality in an already brutal culture.

[@Rob-fb6rw]

This one just had a bad day guys 👇

[@stevecook413]

If your lucky enough to find a strong woman that isn't already married

[@MikaComments]

Vice versa, women like these things too.

[@fajardodreamhomes1574]

Yes, we give our lives for our wives but also they ought to relate to us like the church relates to Christ. Submitted in obedience. That’s how Christ receives love and that’s what a Christian husband should expect from his Christian wife. If she has a hard time then the reality of Christ and his bride hasn’t hit home yet. On both the husband and wife. Husband is the head and responsible to reflect God’s image at home. Father, Son, man, woman, children.

[@MGP2210]

4:29 True. Not all are worth it.

[@HanzBlitz-i8t]

The T Ban didn't come home to an unfaithful wife and get kicked out of the house that they paid for. T Ban wins again. Now they have night vision.

[@priusa8113]

Nick r u brazilian too ? I ask because of your last name ❤

[@davidr9589]

Portuguese

[@CatholicSamurai]

We men need our wives to actively demonstrate the following: devotion, respect (in public and in private), loyalty, trust, obedience, willing participation in the marital act, integrity, and humility. Most of all, we need our wives to love, respect, and care for themselves so that they can be happy regardless of anyone or anything else in their life. "Happy Wife, Happy Life" does NOT mean a husband is responsible for his wife's happiness. A wife can be utterly miserable even with the best perfect husband. Her happiness must come from inside her own self first. Most men are good men, and want their wives to be happy. When they are happy and at peace with their own self, it translates visibly into their marriages, and we men will see that and will give the world to them.

[@apebass2215]

@@CatholicSamurai A man is responsible for his wife's lifestyle though. It's less "Happy Wife, Happy Life", more "Happy Life, Happy Wife".

[@amandawellsvenegas7024]

The Bible says for husbands do love their wives as Christ loves the church, laying his life down for her, washing her with the water of the word, being the priest of his home. It doesn’t say, wife, love your own self, and then if you have your happiness from within, then I’ll love you. Yes, wives need to build themselves up with their relationship with Christ and what he says about them, but you don’t withhold love until your wife is happy, so she then can be worthy of your love.

[@CatholicSamurai]

@ where did I say that men don’t need to love their wives? Where did I say they should withhold loving their wives? Totally missing the point. The old adage is true: “you can’t love others if you don’t love yourself.” If you’re a miserable battle-axe wife, nothing your husband does is going to matter. Only when a woman loves herself, at peace with her own self, and happy with her own self will she foster a happy marriage. If you’re asking a man to lay down his life for a miserable woman, you’re asking to exploit his masculinity. You can help motivate your man to be all he can be by demonstrating what I’ve described. We’re not very willing to go to the ends of the world for a “C U Next Tuesday,” so to speak. Become the kind of wife a man is willing to reinvest in every day. Be the “trophy wife,” because you’ll give him a trophy to fight for. Or you can place all demands on him, say “but the Bible says…” and destroy the harmony in your marriage. Many such cases

[@Sara-x6t3s]

🤣😂 Most men are not good men... if they were the sex industry would not exist! LMFAO 🤣

[@jennifercolleenrobin]

Powerful

[@rebekahguilder602]

I hate watching ufc women’s fighters!

[@lurlenejones456]

It's an impossibility that I will leave this woman because I have decided it. (Not "because she is a trophy wife and hormonal fluctuations have not temporarily created an overweight cranky battle ax").

[@perfectlypolished2150]

All I’ve ever wanted was to be a wife, mother and homemaker. But sadly I’m divorced and working at a job that requires all of its employees to wear a uniform that diminishes being a woman. I’m a non person like a eunuch. Divorce feels like a curse. Sometimes I wish I would’ve just stayed married and died from the neglect than have to work and live like a man. Jesus will most likely come back before I find a good man and remarry. My mission as a woman on earth feels like a failure.

[@marissa6425]

@@perfectlypolished2150 you’re NOT a failure! Keep doing the best you can, have faith, hang in there. I’m also divorced and it is hard, but I’m sure one day we’ll meet someone. Our Heavenly Father knows the desires of our hearts. ❤️

[@perfectlypolished2150]

@@marissa6425 Thank you so much for this encouragement. I truly appreciate your words of kindness.

[@OscarSchneegans]

There are other jobs.

[@aenigmatica8]

❤❤❤

[@FlowerxLady]

He will if he’s a good man. Unfortunately not all men are good men. 😩

[@MrAdamsanto87]

100%

[@daniellekaraczun7484]

Hi love this so much 🥹

[@michellemybelle9591]

I ❤ that your platform says Glory to Christ. With that... cussing on the actual podcast seems like one of those things as well. I do agree with no MMA. Especially for women. I, personally, don't agree with women on the military, law enforcement etc. I think these women are fierce and strong. I fully support our military and law enforcement. 🤷‍♀️

[@lindathompson5472]

But birth control culture in modern marriages, even so called traditional marriages, asks women to be equivalent to a gay lover. Women don’t know why they recoil, but that’s the reason.

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Interesting take

[@A-gor]

To be honest, I don't like this comment. Birth control does not make a marriage the equivalent of a homosexual affair. It just doesn't in any way. You can make a case against birth control without using such crass equivalency 🥲

[@2xcrzkxk]

Because it's not about Godly purposeful, fruitful love but of selfish, usurious, unfruitful lust.

[@username00009]

@@A-gorbirth control has been shown to change a woman’s preferences. A woman on birth control will be attracted to men who she would not be attracted to while off birth control.

[@megankissinger8269]

@@2xcrzkxk Not all married couples want to reproduce. You can enjoy intimacy without wanting a child as a result.

[@SolomonCuatlayol]

[@kitbram2033]

Basically, men are needy and everyone just has to come to terms with that..

[@priscillalongworth1720]

I 1,000 % disagree with Nick on the point about women needing to know how to fight physically. Women can fight, yes, and always have throughout all of history in a feminine way. "The one who rocks the cradle rules the world" is still true, and always will be. We are encouraged in this culture to give over that tremendous power, and pretend to be weak little men. We will never be as powerful as weak little men, as we can as strong, powerful, feminine woman. Don't give over your power, Ladies! It isn't worth it. Even if men we respect, like Nick, have become feminists by the propaganda of our time.

[@teresamagnusson]

Pshaw. Husbands dont need anything. Theyre strong and independent. Am I right?

[@margaretvanson3601]

Shut up Matt. Let Nick talk. You might learn something, not least other people have different points of view.

[@elisapavez2625]

@@margaretvanson3601 It wasn't an overly interrupted interview?? What's with the aggressiveness? Get a life