How people get the good jobs | Taylor Doe | TEDxOklahomaCity

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@CarlosPoncephoto
@CarlosPoncephoto 11 ай бұрын
That's why they say " it's not what you know, it's who you know" I'm just now realizing how true that is.
@daphne2185
@daphne2185 Жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes. THIS is a great TED Talk. It all boils down to relationships, and this honestly shows why some of the most hard working people will never move up.
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
It might be, that you have to start with baby-steps, but keep being generous and pay anything good you have experienced forward. Keep your eyes open for kind and generous companionship and circles of friends. Try to improve the atmosphere where ever you are or - lesson learned - move on, and always try to get out of negative environments, step by step. If you know a hard worker, give an honest compliment! If you see a well-earned success, applaude it. Never mind if this person is richer than you or has looked down the nose at you before, just say "well done!" genuinely, with a quick warm smile, and move on. Many children of successful parents never get so much warm support, that we suppose they have in abundance, but no! Give from a mindset of having enough of all that is really important in life - you are discerning, have worked for good grades, possess a warm heart, stamina, and real friends, so think of yourself as rich and resourceful and a true gem! You recognize a GREAt talk and you express praise for it! All the best always to you. Your best time is ahead, when *you* share lots of keys! 🙂
@jimj2683
@jimj2683 Жыл бұрын
It is easy to move up. Just study hard and get into medical school. Then you can easily make $1 million a year or more eventually.
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
@@jimj2683 There are many ways to move up, but all of them are not advertised much. For young boys it is vital that they get clear about, that what employers want you to have in exchange for a good job, is not what is asked of a cool gang member. You don't need and probably will not thrive aiming for an ivy league education. Take advice from your local community college, *and then* sandwich courses and job practice and you'll have a good long term plan. Studying, competing hard and choosing medical school is not for everybody. Do ask generous, thriving grown-ups for not ideologically biased good advice, that's my tip!
@SirrLamee
@SirrLamee Жыл бұрын
⁠@@jimj2683you have to start studying medical in high school, then do four years of school, and then most likely an extra four just to get a chance of having a good job, and then it’ll take probably another 3-5 years before you start making good money
@elcapitan6126
@elcapitan6126 9 ай бұрын
which works against a meritocracy of course. many relationships are more about political alliances and these are used to undermine others who have practice skills and talents. network effects play into this (the sheer gravity that a group of people have).
@Loveit45
@Loveit45 Жыл бұрын
THIS IS WHY YOUR NETWORK IS YOUR NETWORTH!
@ramhoves
@ramhoves Жыл бұрын
I thought this guy was going to say "you just have to work hard" I don't think I could have handled that sort of brain dead sentiment. I'm glad I watched the whole video. What a great honest guy.
@moblue289
@moblue289 Жыл бұрын
You forgot. Be good looking. And lucky
@himoffthequakeroatbox4320
@himoffthequakeroatbox4320 Жыл бұрын
You don't have to work hard. Just have the right relatives & connections.
@moblue289
@moblue289 Жыл бұрын
@@himoffthequakeroatbox4320 and looks and luck
@realitymuzic357
@realitymuzic357 Жыл бұрын
Haha I thought he was going down that route for a moment as well; I’m satisfied with the actual focal point of this talk.
@AaronHalliday
@AaronHalliday Жыл бұрын
Nepotism isn't much better.
@patriciaadams3010
@patriciaadams3010 Жыл бұрын
OMG. THIS. The best, nicest, most honest video I've seen about how people really move up in America. This also jibes perfectly with an article I read about a study that showed that the richer and more powerful a person gets, the more likely they are to attribute that success only to their own inherent skills/intelligence/work- ignoring, forgetting or just downplaying the "keys" they've been given by others.
@jele38
@jele38 4 ай бұрын
THIS video single highhandedly killed all my dreams......
@vortbio
@vortbio 3 ай бұрын
This video was transformative for me--not because of the content (I knew networking and social connections are important) but because it made me realize that nearly every good thing that happened to me in my life was because of who I knew and what they did for me. And yet, I barely made any effort to build and cultivate relationships. I was just lucky to be around those people.
@doris6000
@doris6000 Жыл бұрын
I´m glad to hear people trully honest like this guy who tells things as they really are instead of repeating the brainwash marketing tales we constantly hear; the story about "winners" who have worked "hard" to get MONEY!! that means the are "successfull" (are they really succssful for getting money?). These storyes made more harm than anything else. The majority of people I know really work hard without connections, end up feeling frustrated or depressed thinking they is something wrong with them, that they have not worked hard enough. And the reallity is very different. Our youngsters end up byuing those stories and since a very young age end up deprressed at the prospects they se ein life, specially when they do not have connections. I encourage people to follow the advice given here. Share your keys with people who usually don´t have much opportunities. You´ll be trully surprised at the results!!!
@zyronspeaks
@zyronspeaks Жыл бұрын
I’m truly honored and blessed to have had T-Doe helping me through doors. You’re definitely a continuous and then moment for me and a few of my other peers. This was awesome.
@dlynnmcgregor4244
@dlynnmcgregor4244 Жыл бұрын
A wonderful sentiment. 🙏🏽wish you well
@1man2many
@1man2many 9 ай бұрын
Most successful people truly believe their success is due to something they personally did, when actually it was help from someone else. It's human nature.
@Urania4007
@Urania4007 Жыл бұрын
Before going to sleep each night, I recall all the names of those who have helped me as well as the ones who are helping me now.
@silverhoyden4178
@silverhoyden4178 Жыл бұрын
Taylor, you took something complex and broke it down so beautifully. This was one of the best Tedx Talks I’ve heard
@didistutter100
@didistutter100 Жыл бұрын
this is what being humble + honest looks like. success never happens alone. opportunities r privileges that should be afforded to all. meritocracy is an illusion. opportunities r given based on proximity. this is going to change how i frame my own career because i definitely was just lucky a lot of the time.
@dougphamtexas2707
@dougphamtexas2707 Жыл бұрын
Taylor Doe showed the KEYS to the real opportunities in real life.....THE BEST TED TALKS for me by far.......
@nejc3
@nejc3 Жыл бұрын
I have just realized the presence of locked opportunity inside of my company, and how important it is to enrich your friendship circle.
@maikoke6768
@maikoke6768 5 ай бұрын
This is the hard truth ! But that's how the human being nature works so you will have to play the game. But don't forget that there are some people who are not as lucky as you and try to give back when you can!
@xute89
@xute89 Жыл бұрын
This TED Talk made me cry for what entails and because it made grow intellectually.
@Loveit45
@Loveit45 Жыл бұрын
Tedx did they damn thing with this one. Bring him back! he's amazing.
@_pudu661
@_pudu661 Жыл бұрын
This reminds me of a saying I heard as a child “its not about what you know, its about who you know”
@jenamirgholi6004
@jenamirgholi6004 8 ай бұрын
i know Jesus and i know God. That is a good start, right?
@user-fb1ys2lj9c
@user-fb1ys2lj9c Жыл бұрын
Taylor Doe reminded me why I love and credit teachers. Teachers are an inspiration to our children ❤🌹
@AndNoted
@AndNoted Жыл бұрын
And yet we treat them like indentured servants
@Maithilicoaching
@Maithilicoaching Жыл бұрын
"And then moments" Me too have plenty of them. I feel grateful.
@davidchavez81
@davidchavez81 6 ай бұрын
Literally chills. I've been saying this my whole life.
@ItsMe-sx9ck
@ItsMe-sx9ck 8 ай бұрын
After watching this Ted talk, I just imagined my whole journey starting from my play school to my current job at an MNC. Really, this guy just helped me figure out something I forgot to be grateful Thank you
@breannanorthrup5498
@breannanorthrup5498 6 ай бұрын
This is also why we need to encourage shy introverted kids and people. I felt that I was too afraid to make relationships and connections when I was younger. And I think that really set me back. But it's good information now. I'm starting to work in a new company pretty low on the totem pole and I know I need to make connections and network all those things.
@SLG3-RX
@SLG3-RX Ай бұрын
I have been studying diligently since primary school and am currently pursuing my Honors Degree in another country. As a foreigner who spends most of my time indoors, I find it challenging to connect with others. I don't smoke, drink, or enjoy parties, but I completely agree that making friends is essential for opening doors.
@jamiececilielange5249
@jamiececilielange5249 Жыл бұрын
While connections can do a lot for you, taking initiative can do a lot too. Taking initiative can sometimes be scary and feel risky, but it can also lead to good jobs, good connections, and sometimes good education. It can be hard to do, but it is not impossible. I started on a horticulture education, despite not knowing anyone in it, and I was offered an apprenticeship at a company where I didn't know anyone. It has to be said that in my country, education is free, so I'm not without help, but it is still up to me to take advantage of the opportunities I have. Taking initiative can be many things: Meeting new people, applying for a better job, signing up for an education, applying for scholarships and so on. Some people call it risk-taking, since a lot of the initiatives that make a difference are scary.
@elcapitan6126
@elcapitan6126 9 ай бұрын
taking initiative is easy actually. e.g. applying to 500+ jobs , doing loads of interviews, facing rejections along the way but not giving up ever. alas of course no one cares about initiative and it comes down to who likes who the most. no one is there to give you credit for your initiatives, regardless of the grind. they are there to make you jump through their hoops and then choose their friends instead.
@jamiececilielange5249
@jamiececilielange5249 9 ай бұрын
@@elcapitan6126 What you describe sounds simple more than easy, it is harder to do than it sounds. The point of initiative is that you have to be out there and let people know you exist, no one will choose you or help you if they don't even know you exist. People who have advantageous friendships also get those friends from somewhere, they don't meet those people in their own home. Someone had to be somewhere and start a conversation for a friendship to form.
@billiesuesmith7386
@billiesuesmith7386 Жыл бұрын
Taylor is the real deal, and seeing this live in OKC had all our eyes leaking. He does everything (and more) than he’ll ever say, because he’s a humble dude who loves his kids and community. So proud of you!
@sacdiaomar813
@sacdiaomar813 Жыл бұрын
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@jorgeacevedo8389
@jorgeacevedo8389 Жыл бұрын
And so, it is. I am glad you said it as it is Taylor Doe. Thank you!
@thebrognator3524
@thebrognator3524 Жыл бұрын
Top 5 factors to success, from least to most important: 1: Luck 2: Connections 3: Wealth you already had 4: ruthlessness 5: hard work
@skillse_y3032
@skillse_y3032 Жыл бұрын
I got 4 and 5
@glitterkitten2203
@glitterkitten2203 Жыл бұрын
This video took an unexpected, appreciative turn. Thank you for sharing these important points in unlocking opportunities for ALL people.
@AaronHalliday
@AaronHalliday Жыл бұрын
No one should appreciate nepotism.
@joaquin67
@joaquin67 Жыл бұрын
In college I could sense defensiveness from other students who grew up with more keys and and-then moments than me when they could sense that I had less than them. It was as if they felt I was attacking them by sharing my adversities in hopes of them sharing their and-then moments or keys. Only very few people openly shared their and-then moments. Even less shared any keys. My goal is to get better at relationships. I’m not too bad at it, I just need to put in the effort. And hope to share with friends and family
@daphne2185
@daphne2185 Жыл бұрын
Yes! Thanks for writing that out. Coming across that defensiveness was a source of frustration for me, and at the time I didn't have any words for that experience, but you totally nailed it.
@joaquin67
@joaquin67 Жыл бұрын
@@daphne2185 Thank you! This video helped me word it out. I stopped talking about my adversities in general. People prefer to hear “success stories”. Unless they ask, I’ll let them know. That’s when I feel it has a bigger impact. I think in the past I might have come off as playing the victim, so a better way to share it is in a brief and neutral manner/tone.
@Allaebana
@Allaebana Жыл бұрын
Thank you, I don't know why but I wanted to cry during your TedTalk. Maybe because I help people to find employment and I'm part of those and those moments. And of course, now I notice I have my own to share. Thank you! Excellent talk!
@ruben-Juarez
@ruben-Juarez Жыл бұрын
All people share “keys” with people they like and those that make them feel important. No one just tosses them around, it’s not up the the world to help, it’s up to each individual to learn and grow. At that point you decide who you share your “keys” with. You must learn to make relationships and avenues will open for you.
@Mimi-ux1vg
@Mimi-ux1vg 9 ай бұрын
Its not about "tossing around" a lot of the examples he gave these people had personal relationships with the people who gave them jobs. If you don't live in the same community or have access to even build relationships with the people who will give you opportunities then how are you supposed to do it? If people want to give the keys to those who make them feel "important" it shouldn't be that difficult to help others as that will also make you feel good. This is the type of action that elevates society. If you want others to get out of their bubble, you can do the same.
@mofarah186
@mofarah186 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Taylor for your good and clear message. It's true your network is your net worth...
@angelaj.murilloc.5240
@angelaj.murilloc.5240 9 ай бұрын
This is one of the most amazing Ted talks I've seen. It has definitely unlocked my interest for social science. Thanks!
@LP-MeAndMyShadow
@LP-MeAndMyShadow Жыл бұрын
Keys are available at the State Fair, Ag Shows, 4H clubs and many social functions. All a person needs to do is go, make connections with the people at the booths. Those people have keys.
@tpavan9573
@tpavan9573 2 ай бұрын
Amazing!. One of the life changing lessons for me. Thank you for making my day.
@lana.R9018
@lana.R9018 Жыл бұрын
Best Ted Talk I ever heard! Thank you so much Taylor for this. This really opened my eyes.
@davetoms1
@davetoms1 Жыл бұрын
Far too often we hear "just work hard, I did" as if the poor are at fault for being poor. As if poverty is a choice. So thankful to hear the proof that hard work is often simply not enough. It helps. But it's not enough.
@abby999
@abby999 Жыл бұрын
a hopeful and grateful attitude paired with a willingness to continue to show up and work hard over and over, even when there's no guarantees (there rarely are), makes a world of difference
@CW91
@CW91 Жыл бұрын
Yes, it is a combination of personal effort and external opportunities. Just like fishing, we need to have the fishing gear and technique, but all of it is no use if there are no fish in the water.
@abby999
@abby999 Жыл бұрын
@@CW91 fantastic metaphor thank u
@Wes-Tyler
@Wes-Tyler Жыл бұрын
Literally no one has ever unlocked opportunity for me except my parents. I don't have any And Then moments. But I've certainly given MANY to others.
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Well, sh...t happens, but do keep up goog deeds - the pandemic will ebb out and new chances will open up for you! In which way did those you helped made themselves deserve your help? How did they show themselves ungrateful? Share your experience, please, I think we can learn a lesson or two, don't hold back. Help open eyes!
@Wes-Tyler
@Wes-Tyler Жыл бұрын
@@DNA350ppm they made themselves deserving of my help by merely existing and being nice people.
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
@@Wes-Tyler That was very well done by you! Kudos! Do you ever ask another person for a little help, or are you very independent? I sincerely wish that you one day will be receiving both the pleasure of receiving and giving, as both bring the happy feeling of connection! You seem a very generous person, and as such probably more giving than taking - and then you are the salt of the Earth, and do make the world so much better, so I hope you can keep it up without disappointment as there should be many more like you. 🙂
@neko6
@neko6 Жыл бұрын
Connections are everything for the top 1%, and they obviously always make things easier. And yet, for the "normal" good jobs most people I know, myself included, just went to college, got good grades, applied through the usual channels and got a job, so connections aren't necessary beyond enough family support to get into and through college Btw, I did try to use a relatively close connection to a CEO in a big corporate and they still didn't hire me straight out of college, a different big company did
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Well, let's think of relationships and connections as chances, not guarantees. It doesn't hurt to try, and then if it hurts, let's not forget, and then share a few keys with others, because we know what it can mean! I'm glad you shared your story, because as a retired teacher, I know that school and studies can open opportunities for the students. Good grades are proof of a mindset that many employers look for.
@mainkordormawblei
@mainkordormawblei Жыл бұрын
I always thought Connectivity related jobs were unfair. Taylor Doe Found a positive impact of it instead. Thank you So much.
@nickislearning
@nickislearning 5 ай бұрын
I had no idea this would be the most impactful KZbin video I'd ever see.
@messigno427
@messigno427 5 ай бұрын
Even my job, which isn't particularly great, I got because of a relationship. My buddy from my childhood helped me out and I hadn't seen him for 20 years prior until the interview. He conducted the interview. He was the boss.
@dalabba
@dalabba Жыл бұрын
Great Job, I love the new perspective I gained. Keys compound the more generous we are, we need to be willing to distribute our keys to help others become successful. I also really liked your slides. Very minimal and had nothing excessive. Keep up the Good Work Tyler!!!
@souledout3239
@souledout3239 Жыл бұрын
Outstanding TED talk! Great narrative that connects relationships and workforce opportunities. Remember the timeless saying, “it’s not what you know, it’s WHO you know”.
@powerofanime1
@powerofanime1 Жыл бұрын
I needed this video so badly. Thank you for being there to film and share Taylor's talk and thank God for Taylor.
@aseem1708
@aseem1708 Жыл бұрын
Taylor Doe u changed my world man , thankyou so much
@BradWatson-ry3wi
@BradWatson-ry3wi Жыл бұрын
Powerful message Taylor, providing an opportunity to take inventory on our own "and then" moments - and reflect on the impact. Lots of training in corporate America now around unconscious bias (and the impact), which opens eyes to some of what you have discussed here. Actions must follow. Well done!
@zira413
@zira413 10 ай бұрын
One of the greatest Ted Talks I've watched
@thesurgeberg
@thesurgeberg Жыл бұрын
Great and needed message Taylor! Some of these comments make it clear that there's still a lot of work to do to get others to understand the need FOR EVERYONE to share our keys (especially to the marginalized people groups)!! I'm proud to call you friend.
@jacquirimown3886
@jacquirimown3886 Жыл бұрын
What an incredible talk. If only that top 1% would listen and share their keys rather than taking their keys to lock the doors behind them.
@debiwilliams1588
@debiwilliams1588 Жыл бұрын
I love Ted talks and the power they have to inform, educate, and inspire. This is the best talk I’ve heard in a long time. Not because it resonated with me but because it inspired me, a middle aged international educator, to share my story again and to build more “and then moments. Thank you! Also, where is Damarion now?
@bryanclifton
@bryanclifton Жыл бұрын
He's a Freshman at the University of Oklahoma.
@debiwilliams1588
@debiwilliams1588 Жыл бұрын
@@bryanclifton God bless you real for good Bryan Clifton.
@mungpujanarko2256
@mungpujanarko2256 Жыл бұрын
Apik iki, sae keteranganmu Mas. Tak simak yo "and then" iki nek nok nggonaku jenenge "bejo" Mas. Yowis dungo dinungo yo kabeh. Salam seko Jowo (Java).🙂
@ipingeepafras8690
@ipingeepafras8690 Жыл бұрын
I love the word (KEY) & (RELATIONSHIP) nowadays you need to have those otherwise there will be a zero opportunity for you
@sherrym5556
@sherrym5556 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the talk, its nice to see a good human these days. I didn't realize how this worked with who you know err "keys" never had any, always at the wrong place at the right time. 🤔 🔑♻️☮️
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
Wish you many new chances - all the support conceivable, and continued good cheer and strong faith in the best!
@SanjeevKumarPampana
@SanjeevKumarPampana Жыл бұрын
Tedx videos are always amazing, Every video has something that we can learn
@mahmudaakter7260
@mahmudaakter7260 Жыл бұрын
I am reading a book, "The Psychology of Money," where Bill Gates also has an "and then" moment as in his school there was a computer. However, I also have lots of "and then" moments, and I am grateful for all of them.
@DasaniOwns
@DasaniOwns Жыл бұрын
I’m happy I took the time to watch this 🥺💯
@barbaradownie3265
@barbaradownie3265 Жыл бұрын
CONNECTIONS GET THE GOOD JOBS I KNEW THAT BEFORE WATCHING VIDEO
@KnowThyself_life
@KnowThyself_life Жыл бұрын
This is a generous and honest story that will unlock many minds
@Ryan-jl5yn
@Ryan-jl5yn Жыл бұрын
Really good talk. Probably cause he's humble
@alanshad6292
@alanshad6292 Жыл бұрын
Taylor, powerful talk..."connections"👏
@_pudu661
@_pudu661 Жыл бұрын
My biggest takeaway: Nurture new relationships, never burn bridges, also think of how you can unlock doors for others.
@egx161
@egx161 Жыл бұрын
The “good jobs” usually go to friends and family first. Its who you know and not always about skill or intellect or work ethics. There is no longer an “American dream”. Hard work is no guarantee today. Sad.
@HellGod67
@HellGod67 Жыл бұрын
It was never a guarantee. It's even common for workplaces to have overblown quotas for bonuses so that you never get one.
@EsotericallyWikked
@EsotericallyWikked Жыл бұрын
Isn’t that how it should be
@jimmyhart3191
@jimmyhart3191 Жыл бұрын
@@EsotericallyWikkedreally? You prefer a nepotistic world where only people born in to affluent families are successful
@susandavis6171
@susandavis6171 10 ай бұрын
I’ve been trying for about 15 years to get one of the good jobs, even with interning and special projects and all this extra free work, forget it. I just don’t have any relatives to promote me.
@PersonalEmail-ot1bq
@PersonalEmail-ot1bq 7 ай бұрын
😐​@@EsotericallyWikked
@bukurie6861
@bukurie6861 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your TEDxTalk!Great success to hear...❤️👨‍❤️‍👨😍🖐
@medhin05
@medhin05 Жыл бұрын
And then I found Ted X on KZbin. Thank you Ted X for your stories, lessons and generosity.
@SWOakCliff214
@SWOakCliff214 5 ай бұрын
Most definitely underrated Ted Talk
@manishbarik2267
@manishbarik2267 Жыл бұрын
Connections... is what you need 💯
@beegood1215
@beegood1215 Жыл бұрын
Years ago I connected my student to a good career path. I didn't have any contacts but I knew from experience that she was exactly the age and background the companies were looking to hire. She was hired and became very successful in her job in pharmaceutical sales.
@drnjayy
@drnjayy Жыл бұрын
There’s something compassionate about this man’s voice😊...respek!
@jillpeters4297
@jillpeters4297 Жыл бұрын
Love authenticity! ❤
@user-yf4mc4lp6s
@user-yf4mc4lp6s Жыл бұрын
As an international student, this is too real
@user-fb1ys2lj9c
@user-fb1ys2lj9c Жыл бұрын
Inspire me to share my story and be vulnerable 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@jeremyweber93
@jeremyweber93 Жыл бұрын
SOOO GOOD! This advice is priceless. Thank you, Tia!
@glammav14344
@glammav14344 Жыл бұрын
To put simply, NETWORKING IS GOLD!
@gacoan_noodle8657
@gacoan_noodle8657 Жыл бұрын
On my opinion this a presentation very inspiring .. I was remembering Like I was attend schooling my teacher have gave a matery about all sorts of job .. By chance I'm studies in nurse assistant program but I'm not return in my knowledge to a job .. Started from here I'm thinking about what I do after it " after graduate " and then I had remember she's said if finding a great job needed SWOT analyst like a entrepreneurship .. Started from here I'm tried applying SWOT analyst n apply for job on all sorts of job .. And then I got a job n I have relationships n be acquainted with "human resources development" in one company to else companies.. As far as I got a job in my passion.. Instead hypothetically result know skills very influential to a person be sides increased connection with someone else ... Instead Don't stop to here still opened your knowledge about your passions ..
@AndrewChun791
@AndrewChun791 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing the motivational talk with us man. We appreciate it!
@katiehayden7632
@katiehayden7632 Жыл бұрын
Wow, thanks for sharing this! If anything, it inspires me to try to collect more keys and put myself out there.
@taiwoadebisi9315
@taiwoadebisi9315 Жыл бұрын
If you understand and appreciate the concept this guy explains here, you can be sure you'd love the book Outliers by Malcom Gladwell.
@sadisticgaming4869
@sadisticgaming4869 5 ай бұрын
I feel like most people know this... this just frustrates me more about my current situation... just need an opportunity.
@teddybankstum9230
@teddybankstum9230 Жыл бұрын
What a great show 😢 You're awesome Te
@almachavez6814
@almachavez6814 Жыл бұрын
So well spoken! Definitely saving this one.
@aliannarodriguez1581
@aliannarodriguez1581 Жыл бұрын
A little nuance to all this is that your “and then” connection has to think you have the skills and capability to perform the job before they pass your name along. If you get hired and do a poor job, it damages the reputation of the person that recommended you. So to benefit from connections, you first have to make yourself into the kind of person they feel safe recommending.
@DNA350ppm
@DNA350ppm Жыл бұрын
So good you spelled this prerequisite out! It makes all the difference, and remember, also people who are equals can be keys for others!
@Chinosavage98
@Chinosavage98 Жыл бұрын
Opportunities are unlocked through Relationships
@nicoleta3429
@nicoleta3429 Жыл бұрын
that was an absolute brilliant TED talk!
@truulyepic
@truulyepic Жыл бұрын
That was good TEDx speech, like I really hear something new
@realitymuzic357
@realitymuzic357 Жыл бұрын
Incredibly powerful talk. Thank you Taylor.
@dougwedel9484
@dougwedel9484 Жыл бұрын
It's not true that when we meet new people we get more opportunities. It may be true, don't get me wrong. But it's equally true that there are a LOT of people who don't share opportunities with you. I see so many examples of where people don't help you. They don't give you connections. Coworkers don't teach and train you how to do your job better. They don't suggest books or courses. They don't tell you these are the steps which lead you to what you want. I can see the massive potential for growth if this was not the way it is but this social mobility needs to be talked about in context with social stagnation and what might be called de-growth or atrophy. When I was a teen in grade 10, my parents were split up. I had one too many arguments with my dad so I asked my mom if I could move in with her, which meant moving to a nearby town and attending a new high school. Two guidance councillors told me we don't teach computers in this grade, the same material is for grade 11 here. So they wanted me not to attend that class and offered me gym instead. They wanted me to take the 4 year level of classes instead of the 5 year level classes I was taking in the previous school. They didn't say it was because I didn't have the ability. They didn't think I would attend university so it would be a waste. I attended the wrong English class for almost the whole first semester (another male student and I were the only boys in this otherwise all girl class of grade 11 students) before I was assigned the proper class. That teacher failed me two years in a row. I never graduated from high school and I still struggle a lot with getting better work. I'm not starving but I'm definitely not thriving either. When I told my dad I wanted to move in with my mom, he said, why don't you move out on your own like I did (when he was 14). That seemed preposterous to me at the time. I was unaware of many social safety nets available to me. I later learned about a 14 year old girl whose parents wanted to move to another town but she wanted to stay and finish her high school. She got government assistance and a place to stay that totalled to be a lot of money. I'm happy for her but I know there are so many opportunities I missed. About this pair of guidance councillors, when I protested, saying I wanted to just continue with the courses I had, they asked why I moved to this new town. I said my dad always argued with me. They said, usually parents advocate for a student (to get what I wanted). My mom was informed of their decisions but never followed up on it and I just kinda took it as there was nothing I could do. I just felt helpless. I know now, many decades later, I was not helpless, I just didn't know how to go about getting what I wanted. And I was surrounded by a lot of people who also didn't know how to help me get what I wanted. So your video presentation strikes a strong cord with me, going back to when I was a kid. One thing about me. If I learned these skills of building a social network and facilitating fit and growth for people, I would not keep this knowledge to myself or share it just with a few close people. At work on my breaks, I read a lot of books about communication, like Chris Voss Never Split The Difference, the many books by John Maxwell, on and on. And when people ask me what I'm reading, I show them. I lend books to them. I share videos and TED talks with them. There are of and on maybe 15 people from Afghanistan who work where I work. I shared about how Daryl Davis convinced directly and indirectly over 300 people to leave the KKK. They never heard of the KKK. But they heard of the Taliban and are convinced nothing will change the Taliban or Afghanistan. But I keep sharing quotes, videos, books with them hoping one day they get the bug to read voraciously, like I do. It can be really hard for myself to change, harder for me to influence others to improve themselves. But I haven't given up. How do I learn more?
@sasnam
@sasnam Жыл бұрын
Thanks for writing this man. I wish I had or hope to find people like you around me. I am not going to lie , I am one of those people who don't tell or share things with others. However, deep inside I know I am not that type of person. It is just hard when even your closest relatives treat opportunities like a guarded secret. And to those who I do share, it never is reciprocated.
@dixitshetty3478
@dixitshetty3478 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for writing brother.
@echodelta9336
@echodelta9336 Жыл бұрын
I feel that text so much! I continue helping others eventhough they wouldn‘t do the same for me. There‘s so much potential going to waste otherwise…
@CristinaAcosta
@CristinaAcosta Жыл бұрын
You’re amazing. Please stay your course. Take the leaps you need to take. Thrive!
@MadamTjay
@MadamTjay 2 ай бұрын
Awesome job Tdoe !
@elisabettarossi3815
@elisabettarossi3815 Жыл бұрын
Best ted talk ever 😯👏 Amazing!
@salmanaselhaj3447
@salmanaselhaj3447 Жыл бұрын
T-doe, Thank you ... ❤
@candelabodemang
@candelabodemang Жыл бұрын
PERFECT TALK. THANK U SO MUCH Taylor😍
@yashg9306
@yashg9306 Жыл бұрын
Awesome talk sir and thanku for sharing such worthy piece of advice.. Much needed 😇
@Elizabeth-tm7xr
@Elizabeth-tm7xr Жыл бұрын
Well done! Very interesting and a humbling reminder. I needed a pep talk. However, I am very curious if the boys are still working with him, and if so, what their paths are becoming and if they too pass it along. More keys for them and their families now too?
@bryanclifton
@bryanclifton Жыл бұрын
I'm the curator of TEDxOklahomaCity where this talk happened. Yes, Taylor is still engaged in their lives. Some of them were in the audience when he gave the talk.
@Elizabeth-tm7xr
@Elizabeth-tm7xr Жыл бұрын
@@bryanclifton Thanks, I hope it's a life long relationship for all.
@quinntona.657
@quinntona.657 Жыл бұрын
The kid that asked the question enrolled at the University of Oklahoma this past fall and graduated valedictorian of his high school class. Of course some kids have different paths than others. However, Taylor does a lot of good work on the east side.
@nothingtoseehere417
@nothingtoseehere417 Ай бұрын
Great honest talk 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@159357ahmed
@159357ahmed Жыл бұрын
awesome talk , i think one of the best this year
@SHEILA-fm5mo
@SHEILA-fm5mo Жыл бұрын
Fantastic Talk. I will be planting native milk week and nectarring plants in my back yard soon! Thank you 🙂
@Chinosavage98
@Chinosavage98 Жыл бұрын
Relationships unlock Opportunities.!
@kingbeardog9419
@kingbeardog9419 Жыл бұрын
He was very passionate about that. I enjoyed it I could tell in his voice a few times he really meant what he was saying.
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