How Setting Boundaries Can Heal Your Trauma | Dr. Gabor Maté

[@Verawnique]

This is happening to me. My allele burden is almost not perceptible anymore (I have a bone marrow cancer). REAL healing is possible and it happens through becoming whole. That sense of wholeness for me happened in that the illness was a wake-up call to myself. I had to ask myself, "why is this happening to me? What am I to learn here? Once I got past the anger and confusion, the answers were there. I wish this healing for everyone.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm truly touched by your strength and insight. It's inspiring to hear how you've found healing through self-discovery and growth. I wish you continued healing and peace on your journey, and I hope others can find the same strength you have. Sending you lots of positive energy. ❤

[@maryannribble3254]

Your message gives Hope and Truth to ALL of us 🎉❤ thank you!

[@Verawnique]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks so much!!

[@Verawnique]

@@maryannribble3254 Thank-you!!!

[@ljkoh20052000able]

May you tell me the answer

[@denise2169]

Yes, healing and recovering the whole self is very possible. Once I really let myself feel all of my emotions and even my past traumas, these finally let go of their hold deep inside, and I have found an incredible sense of inner peace I never thought was possible. Yes, my lifelong depression and now allowing myself to be open and vulnerable has been the best part of my life. ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful journey and thoughts. It's amazing to hear how allowing yourself to feel and process everything has brought you such deep peace and healing. You are truly an inspiration, and I’m so grateful that you took the time to watch and connect. Wishing you continued inner peace and happiness.

[@Simon0]

The amazing thing I've found if you respectfully say no you often get a much better response than you thought. It doesn't all go down the drain. Usually the other person understands and says that's absolutely fine

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your insight! It’s always nice to hear how others navigate these conversations. Your perspective is truly appreciated!

[@dawnhopkins5495]

Builds resentment when we don't say no when we really want to

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing this insight! It’s a valuable reminder that we need to advocate for ourselves and our feelings.

[@weyounion9112]

I'm watching this video for the third time (and counting). I'm 57 and have partly (too much) accepted my dysfunctional family of origin's rules. I will have barely survived materially, failed a few suicides, always looked for sense, common sense, basic self respect and confidence. I've moved abroad for 18 years (to the antipodes, where further from them could I have gone?). I came back because they were still poisoning my mind. A hellish life in my mind. I recently went back to do zazen, alone, it's hard, but I found a channel to practice alone, beginning with 5 mn sessions (don't laugh! Or do...). And finally I succeeded in doing it alone, not just to respect the other sitters. And I take the habit again, 5 days per week, and now I'm at 10 mn sessions, will tackle 15 seriously when my back (scoliosis) is strong enough, but it's slowly improving. I think the almost daily habit is more important than the length of time. I did practice "seriously"(meaning a few hundreds of hours every year for 3 years) then got pregnant and gave up. The days I don't sit I feel a lack. I'm learning to say no and think of myself first. So hard! And loosing my few friends in the meantime, without too much regret though, I can see why we were friends brfore, and it wasn't positive for me. Luckily I an used to solitude, can handle it. Thank you channel, thank you Gabor Maté. And to watchers who have read my bla bla, I wish you lots of strengh, courage, but know that you are definitely on the right path to healing. Thank you all for being❣

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s truly inspiring to see your resilience and commitment to healing, even through such difficult times. Taking those small steps every day, like practicing zazen, shows incredible strength. Don’t worry about the length of time - the consistency and self-compassion you’re showing yourself are what truly matter. I’m so glad this channel and Gabor Maté’s work have been helpful to you. You’re definitely not alone on this path, and we’re all here cheering you on. Wishing you strength, courage, and peace on your journey. Thank you for being here. ❤

[@oceanaoushn8803]

Good morning :) (It is 11 a.m.here. SE Europe). Being alone is really better than having toxic "family" and "friends" around. Eventually you will find some true friends. Wishing you the best 💕

[@sarojanidoddapaneni9734]

I learnt in my 80th th yr. Everyone should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity and coordination Cooperation with Oneself Primarily and ONE Another in parents Carers Teachers day 1 of every child Obeying the COMMAND "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF" "DISCERN"

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your valuable insights! Your journey and reflections are a wonderful reminder for all of us to embrace these important qualities.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for watching! 🙏💬 Dr. Gabor Maté's message about setting healthy boundaries and healing from within really made me think deeply about how we can all find true peace. ❤ What part of the video resonated with you the most? I'd love to hear your thoughts! Let's share our experiences and support each other on this healing journey. Your insights might help someone else too! 💡✨ #HealthyBoundaries #HealingJourney #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #TraumaHealing

[@sarojanidoddapaneni9734]

Every one of us should learn to develop humility Compassion gratitude Forgiveness with Healthy Relationships and Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience HONESTY with Integrity Discipline and Order Discernment Unconditional emotional support with patience FOCUSED COMMITTED attitude patience motivated Appreciate Strengthen Oneself Primarily in one's own life and ONE Another Obeying the Command "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF" "DISCERN" Implemented in all educational institutions including all universities Globally.

[@nellie...]

Working on boundaries 🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your journey! Setting boundaries is so important, and I’m glad you’re embracing it.

[@nellie...]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@nellie... thanks too

[@gabrielmackay5749]

Great advice, thank you 🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Glad it was helpful!

[@zeljkotomic8]

Doctor Mate is simply amazing. :)

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Couldn't agree more!

[@mkh2799]

Learning to say..🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for engaging with the video! It’s awesome to see you taking the steps to learn something new!

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Great video.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks!

[@heatherthorley7239]

Chapter one in which of your books ? Please

[@earthcallingfi]

Which of Gabor's books was being referred to in the video?

[@galebeattie2333]

When the body says no

[@ValentinBrutusBura]

It's a mixture of circumstances. Life's fun, no?

[@maureenbyrne8951]

❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching!

[@bubublue-j4n]

❤🎉

[@maricamaas2326]

* The Climate Change myth is what had been, and still is reaping huge financial benefits (for some). * Redemption of a community might be a painfully slow process, yet is always rooted in the redemption of individuals.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's important to consider the broader implications of our discussions, and I appreciate you bringing up the connection between community and individual redemption.

[@kuenringeling]

I love what you are doing for traumatized people but please don't become another social justice warrior! I don't get why it's necessary to bring out your political views!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

I appreciate your feedback!

[@lauriemtz8616]

Because it’s a free country and people get to say what they want. We have no control over what others say.

[@kuenringeling]

@@lauriemtz8616 yeah of course but I immediately mistrust people from the "healing" business if they think I should stop breathing in order to produce less CO2...

[@rachelarmel7547]

100% agree..I love Dr Mate's insights but am very much turned off by him getting political. Thank you for pointing this out.

[@music15myHEARTBEAT]

Our collective well being is deeply connected to politics and these outcomes keep trauma cycles entrenched in our society. If he ignored that then his words would remain superficial