How Talking About Your Goals is (secretly) Destroying Your Success

We all like to tell everyone about our ambitious plans to build successful companies and take over the world. But does talking about it really do anything? Does anyone care?
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[@jixster1566]

One of my favorite phrases: If you're good at something, you tell others. If you're great, they tell you.

[@jonathasfgoncalves1572]

Damn, I will write that down

[@vawnhumphrey-wilson2346]

Facts

[@joachimoyalegan6573]

I like this

[@theofficialpollo]

I suck at personal stuff I want to do, but I realized I'm decent at school, because that's my first priority. It's not that I'm smarter, but people sees it like that, I'd say I'm just dedicated to it. I have high grades, so people always wants to work with me, and sometimes recieve compliments. Never pretended or bragged about being good, or told I was gonna do well. Let's keep it this way. Hope my comment didn't sound bad

[@J90JAM]

OK that's an awesome one.

[@DamjanManevski]

Not only the bragging part of it, but I've noticed from my own experience that if I want to do something and tell someone, there's a good chance I won't do it because telling someone makes me feel like half the job is done.

[@Tre3141]

Right? And the worst part is that you get into a spiral of not doing what you actually want or need. You just get addicted to the feeling of being validated so you do what you think others find impressive instead of making a difference in your life. It is like Dale Carnegie, but you are the tragic mediocre person always looking to boost your ego, who is so easy to manipulate because you are wanting the praise of others more than anything else. God I can see why I failed so much this year, can you believe it, I fantasized about success more with how others would respect me than with how my life would be more enjoyable.

[@DamjanManevski]

@@Tre3141 Well I mean the important thing is you've become aware of it man. You can't change what you don't acknowledge. And of course, consciously or subconsciously, some part of us is always going to yearn the approval of others because we are sociable creatures by nature. I hope you define your own success and make it man, all the best!

[@Tre3141]

@@DamjanManevski Thanks, Yeah, I am realizing lately that I find no joy in the things that used to mean success to me. Basically I have no outcome or end that excites me, an existential crisis? Anyways my parents are pushing me to go to college and start the 9-5 career, but in reality I suck at that life and hate it. I think approval from others is a coping mechanism, even if we don't like ourselves we can deal with it if others approve. The problem is that literally no one cares about my goals, aspirations or dreams a tenth as much as I should, so leaning on others to measure my success is always going to lead to negative feedback, they don't care. Like he said, be secretly a badass and if recognition comes take it, but don't fake it or you loose all respect for yourself and from others.

[@sherlockholmes110]

I'm smart. I tell my friends I'll procastinate the thing on the next day, and suddenly I start doing it now instead.

[@danielschwegler5220]

@@Tre3141 You just don't fanzy for a particular profession. No problem, get your college done and it will come later.

[@Omrie69]

Set some goals. Stay quiet about them. Smash the hell outta them. Clap for your dam self.

[@JustinSchmidt]

Omar Sade *damn

[@andrejz8954]

@@JustinSchmidt Could be dam* cause you achieved something big... like a dam... so you're then dam self! :D

[@DanneoYT]

You forgot a step, write down your goal

[@dragonflyjones4611]

Clap or twerk your ass

[@EmmaRoseLondon]

*damn straight!*

[@rayword2794]

“Speaking before doing is useless. Otherwise, you are just seeking validation for something you haven’t even done yet.”

[@ate5ive866]

Wow

[@paxundpeace9970]

Quite the opposite from a former partner: her mantra was fake it till you make it

[@winter_bear2008]

Please tell me what to do when accidentally tell everything to a wrong person..and she is spreading it.. please tell me what to do 😭

[@TheNeofy]

@First you are extremely right here. I'm experimenting with the oppose theory which is telling my incoming life plans with most of people who close and who I know well, so apparently their interest and curiosity helps to increase my motivation and energy levels. However this way is a bit extreme, in case you don't fulfill most of plans which you have told to others, it could backlash the negativity towards you by close people and will minimize your next new plans untrustworthy for others as you talked much and did less. BUT!!! If you tell your plans and do it as you describe, it will bring social positivity among close people and sufficiently increases your trustworthiness which is very important part of being human.

[@taybaesworld]

Yessss!!!!

[@sng3939]

I’ve stopped talking about my goals long time ago now. And I feel like it’s helped me to just focus on that rather than trying to impress everyone

[@tminuszehn4048]

That's what took me a lot of time understand, but once i did, i mean in the end it's just about doing the thing, that's what you always wanted anyways, so no need to talk about it. You wanna be more fit and do sport regulary? Start doing sport regulary and make it a habit, as easy as that.

[@UpwardSpiralBren]

Well done on not trying to impress everyone.

[@navaneeth9103]

Sng is ma 🏫 school name

[@helloimmelika]

But I really like to study hard and inspire my friends to study hard too :(

[@missrelaxed3872]

So true

[@icebenda]

My grandma had a sign in her house that said, "If you want to lose weight, keep your mouth shut."

[@TimJSwan]

XD

[@j.flaner8506]

Love that! Ha!

[@ajtaylor8750]

That's one of the best signs that could've ever existed.

[@robgoodsight6216]

😏🙂

[@theknight4317]

Your grandma's probably a secretley badass.

[@carapo66]

Keep your plans as dark and silent as the night, then strike like a thunderbolt. Sun Tzu The Art of War

[@Anonimowany1]

Depends on what and where. It's stupid making this claim in every aspect. Some people who talk about their goals get motivated even more and feel passionate about it. People who dont believe in themselves get insecure and fail.

[@ediblack7238]

carapo66 Wow i love that man

[@MrJimBunny]

First time I tried this my fart was epic

[@The_Hatt]

@@MrJimBunny why

[@surronzak8154]

@@MrJimBunny LMAOOOOOOOO

[@jjprodigyify]

This inspired me to do a puppet show on mount everest

[@sourishmazumdar2107]

😂 let's do it together.

[@angelayala7922]

But you just commented about it...meaning you are just talking rn 🤔

[@spicecrop]

Start entertaining at base camp and work your way up.

[@easyfinance8833]

bruh dont take my goal now. it was unique until he found it out. not cool!

[@CliffordStarks1]

Haha that would be quite a spectacle, I'm rooting for you!👍

[@filbiggs]

“And you’ll secretly know you’re a badass, and you didn’t have to tell anybody.” Excellent 👏

[@Bug_Hunt]

Hahaha

[@PoppinHoops]

When you talk about your goals, you also trick your brain into believing you're actively doing something to achieve your goal when you're not at all! There have been studies on that subject

[@C_oboe]

THIS

[@tardisblue5433]

Omg

[@hibbah3210]

100%%

[@speaktruth9989]

Yup

[@danielguansing]

Well this is Talk the talk + Walk the walk kind of person.

[@KDmadness18]

Family dinner: "Hey so any big goals for the future?" me: "I don't wanna talk about it.."

[@Mii.2.0]

I think people say, "what's your goal?" or something like that because, well... they have nothing to talk about.

[@coops3600]

@@Mii.2.0 Spot on. NPCs ask NPC questions like this because they live an NPC life and have nothing exciting or meaningful they're pursuing. Their life is boring so they wanna live vicariously through someone else. Looking externally for meaning to be spoon fed to them rather than creating their own.

[@taylorbradshaw3767]

Nishe Siel or maybe because they are genuinely interested in you, want to get to know you more, or find joy simply in having conversation with a friend, regardless of the context?

[@Hadhoudtn]

haha My dad almost had a stroke when I told him my wishes in the new year's eve dinner : "staying as healthy as I was 2019 and I will accomplish whatever I want"...He certainly was expecting something like " I will earn X amout of money, buy X car etc" XD

[@Mii.2.0]

@@Hadhoudtn XD

[@RichardConnor1]

"You'll secretly know you're a badass..." Love it.

[@BryanChance]

I love it!!!

[@prankrishnanath5080]

📯

[@TimJSwan]

I seriously LMFAO at that part

[@chronobot2001]

The secret is out !!!

[@Stateofmindinstrumentals]

That's how I feel right now haha

[@arsh_DSJ]

The fact that KZbin recommend me this video, is a proof that google is listening to our private phone calls.

[@FKBUSH1]

There is no doubt ;)

[@lalalabababa6775]

You think ? :D

[@J90JAM]

Oh well.

[@azariagetachew5857]

I have no SIM card

[@matzvlog4364]

Arsh DSJ I was wondering why is it on my recommendation?

[@ramanabharathi376]

"NO matter how much you flap your jaw, nothing moves" well, that was epic!

[@chekoisowned]

This!

[@ramanjot952]

When u build in silence, they don’t know what to attack Well thank you mate

[@speaktruth9989]

Yep

[@mariochavarria8957]

That's a law from the book "48 laws of power"

[@marieke.80]

This also works really well to stay true to what you really want and just don't tell everything what is coming on your path. Because sometimes you just need to think about it and you realise you have to say no to it.. but when you already told people they are like 'Oh I thought you wanted to start with this and this' and it looks like you 'failed' but in fact you just said no what can also be a good thing. So it feels good to keep things for myself so I can make a good decision without people interfering.

[@masteryoda8299]

👍👍

[@diosa.loba333]

If they don't know your dreams then they can't shoot them down Don't talk about it. Be about it.

[@trizzysmeez3698]

J. Cole 🤔

[@diosa.loba333]

@@trizzysmeez3698 Si :)

[@Repsforjesus67]

That too, man. People like to see other people fail at their goals, because they can't achieve theirs. So they will do quite a lot to make you fail, which is sad really.

[@thattannerguy856]

Love that! I think a lot of people (sometime myself included) are afraid to fail. But if I don't tell anyone what I'm working on, even if we fail, no one has to know but me. Never thought of that!

[@bbelief34]

One of the worst experiences: achieving visions, living my dream but then should have kept it quiet (shot down from all angles)

[@colinnolan2212]

“No matter how much you flap your jaw, nothing move. Ambition isn’t special” 😂😂

[@gooney2846]

A lotta people don't have ambition these days so idk about that my guy

[@doghous3]

@@gooney2846 Actually, I think quite a lot of people - as mentioned in this vid - are ambitious (or at least daydream). They just don't realise how much work it is to actually achieve something.

[@avonbarksdale4947]

@@gooney2846 exactly not everybody have super goals. some people just want to live and buy shoes ect

[@delightfuldaisy3520]

😂😂😂

[@monjier]

@@doghous3 that ain't ambition dude. Ambition is when it plagues your mind every fucking day, all fucking day. The only reason i ain't achieving all my goals, is because i have 46 of the fuckers and i have to pick and choose which ones i want. Half the time, most of them conflict with each other. Can't achieve my car goals because i have investment goals. Can't achieve my investment goals until i achieve my financial goals. Couldn't stop smoking unless i stop drinking. Can't lose weight because I'm busy living my now smoke free life which has only happened because i gave up the drinking this year and don't want to hinder my willpower. Can't achieve my business/entrepreneur goals until i develop a few key areas in my life. Do you know how frustrating it is to be ambitious but have to start from literally a shit situation (if not physically then mentally)? I need everything done yesterday, but shit takes too fucking long. Even developing my work ethic is taking too long. At this rate, idk how I'll develop an 80 hour work ethic before the end of the year. Only get paid for 40 hours a week but already consistently put in 50. Then there's all the reading, then the stupid hobbies i wanted for myself which now I'll need to get rid of to make room for the other goals. Nobody is ambitious. All my mates fucking dream but can't pick up a book to learn, or can't fucking put in any hard work on business projects because it's not "paid". Dont tell me everyone is ambitious, because nobody is.

[@mairyslopez9855]

This was a slap to the face, But thank you . I needed this . ❤❤

[@isaactalb]

same here dude, anyway i'v learned ;) Keep safe.. fri

[@meirymuniz1791]

How you pronounce your name?Mairys?

[@mairyslopez9855]

@@meirymuniz1791 Mah- e-ris

[@meirymuniz1791]

@@mairyslopez9855 Nice to know !and its a Beautifull name! My name is mae-ree ..the pronounce 😊i wanted my name had one "a"letter ..Kiss from Brazil 💋

[@ayushkumarlavania7046]

Yes that's right 🔥

[@nariosalibay2085]

Boss:"hey have you finished your report?" Me:"i dont wanna talk about it." Report sent 2 hours earlier

[@joshina4497]

XD

[@MuseSunflower]

I love this and do it naturally. I hate telling people my plans because I don’t want to deal with them keeping tabs on me or asking for updates. I’d rather create something and let the results speak for itself

[@sheneedsyrruup]

Real G's move in silence like lasagna.

[@simbableh1428]

PAPER CHASE AND TELL THAT PAPER IM RIGHT BEHIND YOU

[@ssj4achilles57]

Weezy

[@thisisthewroten]

I got through that sentence like a subject to a predicate.

[@soberisgood3695]

@Complex Ez That was acually really good haha!

[@thatguytony8945]

@@soberisgood3695 he didnt actually make it, it's a song by lil wayne

[@danielthrasher]

Suddenly I want to perform a puppet show on the top of Mt. Everest

[@hardikdua8123]

Man why is your comment so under rated, like piano players don't watch these type of videos 😆

[@betterideas]

Oh hey! It's Daniel Thrasher! Hey Daniel Thrasher! Love your content :)

[@SolunaPiano]

@@hardikdua8123 I am a piano player and I love these kind of videos. Helps me stay motivated to practice and make videos.

[@hardikdua8123]

@@SolunaPiano cool

[@barackthecomposer6642]

@@SolunaPiano Me to!

[@RebeccahKahn]

I wish you had included the negative neurological/psychological aspect of this matter, instead of just ranting about how people who do this suck. What happens in your brain when you talk-- or even think excessively-- about your goals is that your brain releases dopamine as though its already doing it because you're going about doing it in your head, getting amped up about it and getting approval from others.. but then once its time to actually do it, that same capability to produce dopamine is decreased because your brain thinks you've already done it because you thought about it and talked about it a bunch, so then its that much harder to actually do because you spent your neural resources just thinking and talking about it instead. That's why most people who talk ad nauseam about what they're going to do don't actually do it. Yes, talking about your goals literally does ruin them, but I didn't hear you explain HOW anywhere in this video.

[@AceGunnerManEIR]

Said only what was needed

[@FRanger92]

Makes some sense, but i feel like thinking about something and actually doing it gives a bit more sense of accomplishment. I'm not sure the brain has this effect that it just decreases dopamine for things your accomplish that you've thought about.

[@aliadosmc]

He didn't talk about it cause there's no needs to explain all that. I meant the whole video is fully of examples and visual resources and I think that's enough to make a point.

[@Alistair]

maybe he doesn't know about that. I expect he does because I remember reading about it somewhere before, but I appreciate that this video approached the same issue from a more social/personal perspective rather than repeating science that many self-help types already know

[@anntweardy4415]

Awesome explanation. I’ve experienced this....like visualized something and then didn’t feel like doing it because it was already done. This applies to daydreamers too.

[@prakh1250]

"The best comeback is Success" -My dad

[@10ksubscriberswithonlycomm57]

(◕ᴗ◕✿)

[@madden7732]

Nice quote he gave you :)

[@sarahroberts7374]

My Mum's quote is so similar- "The best revenge is living well" and it's so true!!

[@prakh1250]

@@sarahroberts7374 *Exactly!!!*

[@prakh1250]

@@madden7732 Thanks lmao

[@Hadhoudtn]

I can relate from my own experience. After talking too much and achieving nothing (or at least I did achieve some things but at a very slow rate) I felt like a loser because I couldn't catch up to all these talk to talk ambitions. The recognition you get from people when you talk about your ambitions is really dangerous because it gives your that small dopamine rush without putting the work. It's like jerkin off while watching porn instead of having an intimate relationship with a real person. Now, I've become so silent that I always avoid talking about myself and I always act like I do nothing in my days. But people notice the changes. They will notice your bigger muscles, your new stylish clothes, your fat wallet etc...And it's even funnier to see their reactions when they see you achieve things while "in their mind" you're just scratching your balls all day xD Trust me it's far better than the "okay dude it's cool that you're planning on doing X thing"

[@adilshah6664]

LOOOOL

[@joycekaeze9863]

So true💯❤

[@christos7100]

I absolutely agree.

[@HanselHessUnfiltered]

Happened to me . It felt so bad

[@lampyrisnoctiluca9904]

I am a silent overachiever too. People around me know very few of my achievements. It's better this way because they can't sabotage me for something they know nothing about.

[@CritCrab]

Be like the duck, look calm on the surface, but fight like hell underneath.

[@Strength_In_Wisdom]

Best comment by far

[@nternetrat]

i think ducks just float naturally man

[@pixelpiratepo]

@@nternetrat But when they propel themselves to move forward rather than being taken by the whim of the current.

[@nternetrat]

@@pixelpiratepo ok there u go

[@carlysunshine2927]

V cute

[@ARB6769]

"I'm going to become the hokage, believe it!" ~ Some random blonde kid

[@hayatopendragon2796]

Well, he talked the talk and sure as hell walked the walk

[@buu.888]

“Don’t underestimate me! I don’t quit and I don’t run.” Naruto

[@sukanyaa.sonowal]

*the greatest Hokage

[@outgamesgaming8143]

The deus ex machina power, dont get confused .

[@callmethandz5329]

I mean he had to talk and walk because it's anime. Would we have got the point that it was his dream if he didn't say anything.

[@hassanahbk3127]

I feel like this 4 minute video has already changed my whole point of view on the journey to being successful. Thank you 😊

[@jemanshrestha8176]

lov u

[@georgechernev3435]

@@jemanshrestha8176 stop simpin

[@eliotfaye]

Ok hassanah

[@andrevoirol6286]

Yo me too

[@aleksandrvysokov4391]

The fact that you desisided to tell us about it is proving otherwise...

[@p0pov13]

''Seeking validation for something you haven't done yet'' Pretty strong words my guy

[@jesusislord1john196]

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness ❤️

[@NanoCaris]

@@jesusislord1john196 huh

[@anthooniversal94]

I feel like my friends aren't much supportive of something I want to achieve, so I just keep it on myself. Thanks to this video, it is very useful for me. Subscribed!

[@Mo-tn7lv]

Work grind hustle, make goals crush them and watch your 'friends' become supportive😉

[@shunai935]

Same...

[@stewiegriffin6503]

there is 5th category: talk the talk, and let others do the walk

[@hadroncollider17]

Stewie Griffin and a sixth: someone else talked, and now you have to do the walk

[@zairnightstar]

@@hadroncollider17 lmfaoooooo

[@gantz0622]

And a 7th, talk the talk then talk so much that people actually recognize you and you become a politician :D

[@sbxgii]

Hey Stewie. Is it proven that you're gay cause well people saying Stewie is gay and it's making me mad dude.

[@stewiegriffin6503]

am not gay, am just little bit homosekšjual

[@sidkul3766]

I love the phrase, “Give your tongue a little rest”.

[@ness3700]

Wow I honestly enjoyed reading the comments. Love the quotes 🦋🙏

[@joebrown8089]

"And when you're done, don't tell a soul" Then comes social media - people posting the meal they cooked for breakfast... 🤷‍♂️

[@chris-hu7tm]

you should never mention ur ambitions or goals to anyone thats the golden rule for success

[@파트리모니움]

Life lesson: NEVER EVER TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO TO ANYONE.

[@TheGamesProjects]

Yeah if you do they’ll call the police because they’ll think you’re gonna do something to them

[@mutantkoffee]

Why?

[@WasifSikder]

@@mutantkoffee well we're not saying don't ever tell anyone anything. But if you have a goal don't tell people you're gonna do it because you'll feel like you've already accomplished something then be less likely to do it. And whether you accomplish something or not it's better not to brag and do things for other people and to just do them for your own self (and possibly for your higher power if you're religious)

[@JH-ji6cj]

You forgot to give credit to Ted Bundy for your quote

[@TheHaters112]

You can but be tactful and only speak of what is necessary. Feed them but don't satisfy them.

[@XanClaymore]

911: "what's your emergency?" Me: *hi I'd like to report a hate crime, I've been personally attacked*

[@criticalthinker6544]

U ok bro?

[@what2a8guy]

Edison d. Sooooooo true 😂

[@erictee1469]

😂😂😂😂

[@gargeesharma2630]

By my relatives

[@shefaligogna6378]

Damn 🤣

[@username4441]

Until today, I thought I was the only one who was gearing up for an arctic expedition of marionettes.

[@rajeswariravi7]

What does arctic expedition of marionettes means?

[@azarmajed4810]

I know I'm a little late to share my thoughts about this video but, here is my point of view. I do talk about my objectives to others, because it forces me to reach them. Whenever I have an idea, if I keep it quiet, I'll forget about it after a while. But when I talk about it, I have to do it because everyone is expecting me to make it. And people trust me, because when I say that I'll do something, I always do it. Also, it allows me to see what others think about my project, get some feedback. That's why I'm acting this way. I know that I don't have to prove you that I'm doing the right thing but still, I wanted to share a different opinion with you on this matter. Still, nice video my friend ! Stay safe !

[@allegeddevil1956]

so basically u value others more than yourselves, u are admitting u cant get stuff done without others, i mean yes u need others, but u should strive to remove the need of others VALIDATION, keep doing you and keep improving u

[@danielparlered3944]

@@allegeddevil1956 That's not what he meant. It''s just some extra motivation. If he fails, people will look at him differently.

[@asiansfw]

I feel you

[@shunai935]

@@allegeddevil1956 I think he's rather talking about being held accountable than being validated. Actually it's mentionned at some point in the video that you can have some accountability partners and support group.

[@unathimngqibisa839]

On the point of feedback, it will always be positive from everyone around you. Worst way to get to see the viability of your idea

[@angiechacon2177]

"You secretly know your a badass" OMG that's so true.

[@underthestarsoverthemoon4259]

I already noticed talking about my goals ruins them. No one wants me to be “higher” than them because they KNOW I will succeed. Every single person I know puts me down about everything because they are mad they don’t have the commitment that I have and they try to destroy it. For years and years I’ve let people win. I’ve helped them in countless ways to bring them up and they say they are there for me but they aren’t. Those exact people would tell me to stop letting people take advantage of me. THOSE SAME PEOPLE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME WOULD TELL ME TO STOP LETTING PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME!! It’s time for me to let things go and work on myself. Almost four weeks into eating healthy and exercising and I am feeling amazing. I will never stop working on myself. I am turning 27 years old on the 24th of October and I haven’t done anything in my life but cater to everyone’s needs and then get shot in the face. It’s my turn. Never looking back.

[@drillingig2368]

👍🏾 👏🏾

[@SagarAbhishek]

Absolutely! Fuck those two-faced haters

[@vishalbhatsoori168]

Why did yu say it here to all of us

[@talkingfurkids]

UnDeR tHe StArS oVeR ThE mOoN been there, done that.

[@rachitsachdeva7836]

Lettss fkn go bro. Get the bread

[@marv8360]

You take a while to make videos. But holy shit are they beyond worth it.

[@OZHXD]

They're

[@Daniel-km9jw]

Its actually scientifically proven that talking about your goals tricks your mind into „I accomplished this goal already“

[@iWonderOfficial]

This feels intuitively true but I'd be curious to see the scientific proof for myself - do you remember where you read the studies? (I genuinely want to read more about this!)

[@samabd]

Where can we find studies? It’s interesting to check ☺️

[@rafario448]

I want to see those studies

[@cas6648]

Here's the link to the studies: kops.uni-konstanz.de/bitstream/handle/123456789/10458/gollwitzerintentions.pdf?sequence=1

[@cas6648]

"When other people take notice of one's identity-relevant behavioral intentions, one's performance of the intended behaviors is compromised...Other people's taking notice of one's identity-relevant intentions apparently engenders a premature sense of completeness regarding the identity goal."

[@kylie2324]

I have always been this way. I feel like other people try to sabotage or compete with you once you tell them what you want to do. I feel mentally stronger when I am doing things on my own. For myself.

[@RecklessInspirer]

Sometimes I tell others about my plan bc I’m excited, extroverted and it’s really on my mind. Seeking validation has nothing to do with it for me.

[@Conormcnproductions]

"you'll secretly know that you're a badass" so true, and awesome vid

[@hristinaangelova2959]

Watching while procrastinating studying but undoubtedly not loss of time. Great job!

[@wd1534]

Great comment. Watch his video about the "Do something principle" and you will never procrastinative anymmore

[@tpespos]

I have a personal story about this exact thing, probably about 7 years ago I decided I wanted to run a marathon and so I got a beginners program, started running and started talking about it. While I was training it was taking up a good bit of time so I ended up of telling everyone I was running one. Unfortunately I got injured a few weeks before the race to the point where walking was very painful. So I missed the race and for multiple months every conversation I had people asked me how the race went which made me feel worse every time I got asked that. So the next year on the tail end of my injury I started training again except this time I didn’t tell a single person. I just ran and honestly it was nice, my roommate eventually figured it out because he saw me walking out the door in running gear for hours at a time and I even waited till a few days before the race when I 100% knew I was running before I told my mom so she could come watch since she didn’t get to watch the year before.

[@MasterPranks]

liked and subbed from both my channels, it's so true, bragging about stuff you do or you will do is going to ruin your success. Get shit done and don't tell a soul. If someone cares they'll come to you

[@colorful_may]

Okay I don't care what others might think, this is THE BEST youtube vid, I love going back too! I still remember it from waaaay back, "Those who don't talk the talk, but walk the walk are the most bad ass..." watching Mr. Bond owning the scene, in my minds eye, everytime my mouth is on the tip of and give away what I'm up to I LOVE that mind kick. "SIP IT! KEEP WALKING LADY! You got this, keep it secret, keep it safe!" I think to myself and I move on by asking and giving the other person the attention of the conversation, work multiply times for me every day. And beleave me people will notice if you walk your own walk! Enjoy your walks out there, you got this! ;)

[@marcuse9011]

Here is an idea for a counterargument, If you have a decent friend that really care about you and your success. Then will he try to help you to reach your goal.

[@Ankam863]

Or when you want a promotion and your hiring manager claims a whole year later that she never knew you wanted to be in management.

[@JenniferWasylenko]

Exactly!! Telling someone what you want to do isn’t bragging, it’s a form of accountability.

[@UltraMegaFail]

@The Green Pill Mindset he said a decent friend not a jealous bitch.

[@monjier]

Or telling a friend, knowing that they will feel jealous or shitty, especially when that friend is a massive doubter and you actually do it.

[@UltraMegaFail]

T K these “friends” shouldn’t be in our circle in the first place

[@justinwest5166]

I tell others so they can hold me accountable and when they laugh at what I say I make sure I do what I said

[@John-sp9if]

omg same . if i keep it to myself i might fall so i tell people so i do it

[@narendrachilwal6664]

So in a way you respect others opinion more than what you think of yourself . No hard feelings man .... But respect yourself more so that you dont fail.

[@dragan3010]

Yep same for me. Telling someone manifests that idea somewhere outside of my head and I feel that I HAVE to do it now

[@martinramirezmogul6276]

*Yes most people could care less about what you're going to do. I found that out a long time ago.*

[@bandisanst]

Imagine wanting to do a puppet show on mount everest then watching this video, you’d feel like hes watching you 😂

[@julianerickson595]

This is THE BEST self-help/inspirational video I've seen in a long time. Short, simple, and powerful. I love it.

[@HuesoAmarilloAfricana]

"You'll secretly know that you're a badass and didn't have to tell anybody.." YES! #TeamRealConfidence #TeamSelfLove

[@ajaichohan]

I’ve noticed that when you achieve something and don’t speak on it, when it does come up in casual conversations and you are asked about the subject, your achievement doesn’t come across as ‘boasting’ rather typical responses are of surprise and intrigue. Allowing you to expand for others to be inspired by.

[@TheGamesProjects]

Kaizaki Arata the cree

[@TheGamesProjects]

Kaizaki Arata the free

[@TheGamesProjects]

Kaizaki Arata the bee

[@TheGamesProjects]

Kaizaki Arata the tree

[@TheGamesProjects]

Kaizaki Arata the pea

[@emanuelehager5675]

I don't usually comment videos but this one is extremely good! I always feel the urge to tell others about my ambitions and I realize everyone is like that. Today's world is all about appareance, right, we talk a lot but very few take actions. I'm now setting one new good habit: watch this video every monday morning!

[@GM-qi8pw]

first mistake

[@lookbehindyou7906]

@@GM-qi8pw Ironic lmao

[@lookbehindyou7906]

Dont tell us that haha HAVE YOU NOT LEARNED

[@TheGamesProjects]

Look Behind You LOOL

[@TheGamesProjects]

He’s sharing it because all of you are the same

[@NedaPeeff]

As the saying goes: "Work hard in silence, let your success be your noise"! ♥

[@parthasarathidash8061]

Naruto his entire childhood and adolescence: I'm gonna become hokage. Believe it!

[@sujjisinghrajwar]

Well he talked the talk, then walked the walk!

[@shunai935]

Hahahahaha

[@kelloggscuts1820]

I love this little lesson!! Best of luck moving man!

[@Micha-cj7zq]

The moment when James Bond came in... Goosebumps! It's hard to disagree with this statement!

[@amethystlake]

I love this advice so much! Lately I have learnt how much I depend on other people's validations and so now I am going to stop posting my successes on social media and focus on full filling my goals with my own validation. Great advice 👍

[@loomonda18]

I love this. I had a recent experience with a very close friend of mine, basically giving a patronizing comment of saying how, "don't you feel behind on life, since your main job isn't consistent?" (AKA because of Covid), and proceeded to say, "if I were you, I would feel so depressed, and feel like my life isn't going anywhere." - and she had just gotten a promotion in her field, which as a friend, I’m obviously very happy for her. But it seemed like she was genuinely trying to put me down. I have started my own online shop this year, and have made a significant amount of money for something that I am sooo passionate, proud and excited for. I hardly ever share news about my behind the scenes work though, with her especially because she has never shown interest in it (which is fine, I'm not expecting her or anyone to, since it's my life). & A lot of our friendship is based on her talking, (which I am happy to listen to), and me listening. So she usually tells A LOT of details of her life, where I am extremely private, and only share what I feel comfortable with. It still hurts to know that someone so close to you isn't supportive of your dreams, but I have come to realize that my success truly is a personal thing, and my goals are not shouted to the world - but they are still very real and true, and you have to be proud of that. Silence is truly key.

[@becomingdauntless8821]

You're doing everything right but its time to find new friends.

[@និតវ៉ាន់ឆៃវីរ]

This video has changed my life. I have been telling my friends how I am going to do but it turned that they didn’t as impressive as I thought. On the other hand, he was trying to talk about himself rather than listen to me.♥️♥️ “ Let your success declares who you are without any word from our mouths “

[@739redrose]

It's scary how you posted a video on this topic when I started doing that this month. Are you spying on me?

[@TheGamesProjects]

Dopamine released

[@joemonroe9456]

Didn't you know that your emails and conversations are scanned for key words. For realz. Those suggested videos aren't random.

[@LareinaP]

Joe Monroe seriously?! Woah

[@lemon29cloud]

Love this. It literally opened my eyes.

[@MikeShake]

Interesting video! As a fellow creator I don't watch KZbin that much but your videos, like the videos of Nathaniel Drew and Matt D'avella, are absolutely worth the time.

[@denitsadraganova9060]

I've recently realised that I do this very often. I don't share my goals with a lot of people but just with my closest ones and every time I don't do what I have said I would do I feel like I'm disappointing them and looking like a clown who only 'talks the talk'. It just looks bad. I thought that by sharing my goals I'm solidifying them and getting myself hyped up.

[@isaiahi7694]

I struggled with bad sexual addiction as a teen and worked my own way out of it. I didn’t seek any help, even got my own therapist. It taught me how to not only fix myself alone, but fix myself for ME. I live my life for what I want for myself, I never need validation of others. My lack of need for validation often scares people away from me. How sad🥳

[@azaruddinshaw7176]

Build in silence... They never. Knoe what is coming n They don't know what to attack

[@ThatsZoee]

wow, this video is honestly eye opening. Crazy good, i wish more people would see this

[@sssssss_7314]

Let's be the 5th category :-:- walk the walk and let others do the talk the talk about you

[@joellgc]

Seeking for validation

[@elmarnigmatullin4490]

If you're doing something to impress others one day you'll caught up. No need totally

[@obatmaagtv]

How about talk the talk and let others walk the walk?

[@dondon3421]

“u know i forget” totototototot

[@sreekargunda3915]

Personally I feel like I’m able to do things only when I know nobody is watching. I really can’t appreciate the patronising statements like “Oh, that’s cool man” because it feels like they’re just making fun of me. So far, every time I’ve tried to start something, the moment someone close to me finds out about it, I lose interest and stop doing it. This has happened for several habits I’ve tried to build over the past 6 years, like running, cycling, sketching, meditation etc.

[@ChloePinkChalkPinkBible]

I can relate. This is such a strange phenomenon

[@bayamonrican]

Same here... went back to school without telling my fam.. this is my 3rd try. Failed the first two after proudly telling my family. I would be badgered about my grades, spending money on school, the school I go to, how long it is, and blah blah blah... I'm debating if I should even tell and invite my family for my AA graduation. Wait until I am officially done.

[@kivindunzoya6136]

This is my favourite video, I come back and watch it when I get excited about new projects and it really gives me tunnel vision.

[@pranaytony]

It's like a Own Dirty Little Secret! Love this line!

[@wardm4]

This is mostly great, but there are positives to telling people. Don't underestimate accountability.

[@factumDiabolus]

He mentioned accountability buddies as an exception.

[@joshuabarrios2789]

I gotta admit it, I'm one of those "who talk the talk and walk the walk". I like validation and getting to know other people's opinions (especially family and friends), just to know if I'm choosing the right path.

[@shunai935]

If it works for you, keep doing you. At the end of the day it's not about surprising people. It's about achieving your goals. So if you notice that talking about it doesn't prevent you from being awesome then that's amazing. Keep doing you

[@IAmPaulQuinn]

There is definitely something about talking about your goals. It's hard because what if you fell short on achieving that goal? Imagine the negative thoughts you'll drown yourself on. I think I perform and feel better when I don't tell my productive goals. I just feel like a silent warrior, one that only let results speak. 💯

[@theonlygosha]

“What is done in the dark will come to the light”, that is for good things too. Keep going!

[@earlparkour9839]

"Climb a mountain, tell no one"

[@fahadpatel9296]

Win in silence Let them think you're losing.

[@XxXDeadlykingdxXxX]

In todays society its more important to talk/flex than actually doing stuff, just look at all the Instagram and rappers

[@piratedgaming1270]

Dumb bitch

[@Bunnyondrugs1]

So fucking on point man. Esp the part of the confidence that builds within you. You are insanely good at these videos man.

[@marieke.80]

I know right! Spot on.. this is what I always felt like. Also with people who post their goals on social media about their weightloss goals, just go and fucking do it! Forget about social media and workout for you, not for the validation/likes.. you just gonna sabotage your own goals/fail because in the end you're not doing it for you and that's the only way to succeed🙏

[@ExplorationB]

I love doing this, it's like being a superhero with an alternate identity.

[@r3sist197]

"I don't have a quote" -Me

[@neverdieeasy8980]

One of the funniest videos I've ever watched, because that's been me for my entire life, LMFAO! And on a positive note, I am getting better every day at walking the walk without talking about it. (*except in this moment)

[@mkdesu]

You failed. Try again.

[@rhythmstuff]

Nah you just did it.

[@ct5816]

"What you do in the dark put you in the light."

[@PlayRiteProductions]

"Confuse them with your silence, shock them with your results!"

[@abhilashverma1760]

Whenever I think about doing something when I Tell anyone about it I just don't do it But when I stay quite I work quite effectively

[@DarkroomMedia007]

Seriously TRUTH telling in this video. 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯👏🏽🍷👀🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@gabrielinowlocki749]

I always had that feeling...

[@boshiko3587]

Mom : what's your ambition? Me : Shhh... My brain : BEING A PRO GAMERRRRRRR

[@dineshnegi4502]

Which esport!!¡!¡???

[@kreizmann2943]

This is a pro gamer move

[@viragoaway6173]

same but being a mcyt!! i just don’t know how to tell my parents- jsjsjsj

[@jamoyky1]

bro the cinematography on your videos is just so 👌 magnifico

[@greencertifiedweb]

I noticed this a few years back. I had been posting articles on a Blog. I came up with a really cool idea I was excited about. A friend ask me about it and I told him the whole story... Problem is after that, I didn't want to do it in the blog anymore. Now I just tell people, "You'll have to see it when it's done!"

[@bennozin7845]

This. This is what I've been saying for years. I HATE IT when people talk about "becoming a twitch streamer", so they buy expensive streaming gear, make a KZbin Channel with no vidoes yet, make a cool Twitch page. But they've never streamed before. Same with sports and anything in life really.

[@MichaelJDuhamel]

Theres an awesome UA commercial with Michael Phelps and the tagline was "It's what you do in the dark that puts you in the light."

[@curtiswolfe8388]

Love it 💯we live in an era where most ppl feel like they HAVE to boast what they want to do, how hard they're working to do it, and every small accomplishment along the way. I didn't know it when I was younger but I think this is a prime part of STOICISM (correct me if i'm wrong) and really does make your life SO much more efficient, productive and enjoyable. 10 out of 10 I'd recommend trying it out if you haven't already

[@Theguy-lw4vz]

"Confidence is silent . Insecurities are loud ."

[@BuizelCream]

"And you'll secretly know you're a badass, and you didn't have to tell anybody." I love that part.