How to answer the question "How are you?"

[@LivingWellAfterSchizophrenia]

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[@novascotiahomesteading455]

My therapist: Hello, how are you doing? Me: Oh Im good Therapist: oh fantastic I geuss we dont need to see each other today? Me: *SOBS*

[@KristenNicoleYT]

This is so relatable! Ever since I told my therapist that I just follow the script with the how are you questions, I think she’s recognized that me saying I’m good means absolutely nothing 😂

[@aidan32164]

Walking towards my therapist's room, making small talk: Yeah the week has been pretty good In the room:

[@unjay1967]

😂

[@jmk1962]

"How are you doing?" is one of the most overused expressions in the world because most people use it as a common social greeting with no real intention of wanting to know how you are doing at all, so if you launch off into really telling them how you are feeling in any detail, they usually looked shocked like "Oh, I didn't really want to know, I haven't got the time to listen" kind of shocked look on their face. You know who the genuine people are, the close friends and family members who really do want to know how you are feeling and who will find the time to listen to you. The rest are just social acquaintances who say it without caring what your answer is as long as you just say "fine" and move on.

[@WhitneyAbrina]

I had a conversation with my counselor about this Bc I get that same shocked reaction. How am I supposed to know they don't want to know when they ask!!? She said she has a client from another country who needed to get used to this when she moved to usa.

[@ItsBecauseImBored]

I think it's more of a problem of the english language (especially american) and not generally in the whole world. "How are you" most of the time isn't even a question but instead a phrase devoid of all meaning. E.g. in german, although people often don't really expect you to go too deep into your current problems as well, generally when someone asks "wie geht's dir" they really are asking how you're feeling and not just saying a phrase/greeting

[@Goingby20s]

Here in Brazil it's the same "tudo bem" is usually just used as a way to greet orher people, same as France with "ca va".

[@Ineshiee]

I'm Polish and although I've been fluent in English for about seven years now this "How are you?" greeting in English is something I'd never get. In my native language if you ask that question - expect an honest answer! Honestly, even if it's in the passing at the very least most people will answer something along the lines of "I've been better" or "Life has been pretty wild/hectic/challenging recently" without necessarly going into details if they're not doing okay. Greeting is a greeting, a question is a question. :)

[@anapineu]

Portuguese here, living in the USA. Feel the same as you do. Actually, in my country, it is quite normal to people answer in a "negative" way, meaning most people will tend to actually tell you their woes. It is a cultural issue and does not mean the person is miserable or even unhappy, it is just customary to answer that way. So, if you do ask a Portuguese person "how are you?" expect a lengthy answer in which they may tell you about all the incidents or accidents about parents, grandparents, cousins, dogs, cats... :P

[@karynhuber3118]

My Dad hated being asked “how are you doing”. He’d always answer “Never too sure?!?!” That always ended the conversation. Lmao

[@WVMothman]

I always considered it an insult when people asked me that, especially when they say it with sarcasm.

[@karynhuber3118]

@@WVMothman I so agree.

[@InfinityCalling]

When people ask me "How are you?" I often reply "I am". I suffer from severe chronic pain and every day is a struggle. I know most can't relate and have no clue how it feels. And they aren't really interested to know how I'm doing. Many can't handle when I really open up or share my vulnerability. Much Love to All, Beautiful Souls 🕊️💕

[@simoon7085]

much love back to you!

[@WhitneyAbrina]

I don't like when people ask me how i'm doing if they really don't want to know. They should just say " hello". I had a conversation with my counselor about this. How am I to decipher who wants to know? Why ask otherwise? It's an empty gesture.

[@dyawr]

Agree.

[@stephenharvey4138]

Hi Heidi (say that three times fast.) I agree with you. As a tourist I have travelled to Canada and believe it is more prevalent in North America than Australia. If someone asks me insincerely "How you doing?" like Joey from Friends I will reply "I'm gruntled." Many times they will ignore you. If they were actually listening to your reply they will say "What?" If they ask that question I reply "If I was dis-gruntled you would know about it."

[@beadingbusily]

@@stephenharvey4138 😄

[@LoudlyListening]

My default response is I'm doing! True and also allows people to ask follow up

[@cītrūnrēcōrds]

im gonna start using this, thank u!!!

[@Iloverandomness100]

Yep. Whenever people ask “how’s it going?” It’s always the same answer “it’s going”. Either that or I just say something like “not the best but not the worst”

[@discodancer22]

I once described akathisia as “my mind and body is coloring outside it’s lines” 🤣 I then realized the metaphor of too much caffeine is more relatable... thank you for your video!

[@WhitneyAbrina]

Yeah lol coloring outside the lines is an understatement. 😆 it feels like a war zone going on inside of me. Excitement and tragedy. But since most don't feel as deep as me caffeine is more relatable -for them.

[@unjay1967]

Yes but “colouring outside its lines” is poetry!

[@byLokie]

Every Tuesday a cleaner comes and cleans my Elderly Parents house. While she cleans I take Mum and Dad to supermarket to shop. Every week I say to Cleaner. How are you? the same way I would to someone who sold me a train ticket or anyone who is in public service I guess. She always would say I am good thanks or I am great. Anyway in January after more than 6 months of Tuesday visits. I said How are you and sheBurst into tears and huged me! I was shocked. she settled down after 1/2 hour talking and she had a sick Husband on and off and herself was not doing great. So yeah 4 months prior to her breaking down she was always saying "I am good" I think timing changes on what your answer is going to be. You might catch a person 1 day away from telling you what is wrong. In other words.If you asked them today and they may say they are fine. 24 hours later (when you don't see them) they need to talk. Hope this makes sense.

[@manicantsettleonausername6789]

I have trouble with this question for a couple of reasons: first of all, I'm Dutch. In the Dutch language and culture, you only ask someone how they're doing if you genuinely want to know, it's not a greeting. Because of this, I am stilling getting used to the fact that people use this as a greeting, not as a question. The other reason is that I am probably neurodiverse (I'm in the process of getting a diagnosis) and I simply really do not like lying, if someone asks me how I'm doing, even if I''m doing badly, I always feel like I need to speak the truth, even if I don't necessarily want to share that, so I try to avoid the question or answer vaguely, so I'm not lying. Anyways, good video!

[@madguy.]

'this is the part where i tell you im fine, but im lying, i just dont want you to worry'

[@nickdangelo3266]

I have schizophrenia , and I always have a hard time putting into words how I feel, gets frustrating a lot of times

[@jacquelineleitch7050]

I am not even allowed to have schizophrenia. I am instead a "willing scapegoat", "masochist", "above average loser", "crazy", "narcissistic", and "stable genius". People feel that vilification is being taken away from them when mental illness is presented as something we all live with and should talk about. It goes deep. I find the same issues regarding sexual assault, incest and pedophilia. It happens only to women who in some way have a lot of status. The rest are liars. Even in families full of social workers this sort of crap is slogged out to protect the Paternalism and power brokers in families.

[@chancer9170]

See now I needed this because up till this point I’ve been saying “ah, you know, not too bad”

[@darlenedaughtersmommyville3710]

When I ask someone - whether it is a loved one or a stranger on the street “how are you doing”? When they give the - I’m fine response, I really mean it ( at least most of the time ) and I then follow with “really?” And maybe a head tilt, softness in the eyes. To let them know, I am here, I am ready to listen.

[@donnastitz1497]

I have bipolar 1,,,,,, I want to thank U for this video. IT was very helpful to me also !!!!

[@RaysDad]

To people who understand your illness you can reply, "I'm dealing with symptoms today." If they want to know more they will ask.

[@jacquelineleitch7050]

Very good idea!

[@marlenebtagelman2451]

I believe the answer could be "So.....so".

[@andreasvader]

@Rodger Flamingsink reptilians are here to signal that people are in their places and some people are not on their places. but they are reptilelike humans. they themselves know nothing or not much about whats going on

[@andreasvader]

@Rodger Flamingsink you need to think more to know the answer

[@andreasvader]

@Rodger Flamingsink Before Nicola tesla there were no reptileish skin humans only those who have realy reptile like skins.

[@lynnhezeltine3521]

When I've dealt with psychosis and varying degrees of detachment or dissociation with PTSD, I sometimes describe a sense of disorientation. I've never fully dissociated, but there have been times when I notice a disconnect between what I observe externally versus what I feel or think internally. For example, there were times I would feel like I was shaking and then look down and see that I appear to be sitting still and not moving at all.

[@jesuscadena5673]

I have severe depression and been going through so much. I sometimes feel like I am losing control but I keep going. It will only get worse if I start giving up

[@mowsemum]

These descriptive words are so helpful. Thank you 😊

[@Jumpyfoot]

I haven't made it through the entire video but I am having the thought that when I want to know how someone is actually doing, I ask them what the best thing is about their day so far and what's the most frustrating thing about their day so far. It seems to work for me.

[@superdooper1830]

I like that approach!

[@anitagomez9100]

This video is spot on !! I did'nt even know alexithymia was a thing , and I love the idea of acknowledging the feeling your having because it's so true we are accustomed to our habits. I needed to hear this today this was truly helpful thank you Lauren! 🤍

[@sydallan6083]

There is a sincerity to your videos which I appreciate and admire.

[@MarinaPier77]

You know what you're talking about. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom on youtube. It's helping me through a hard time. To not feel so alone.

[@glenngruber4483]

I don't have schizophrenia, however I wonder how many of your viewers just like watching your great communication abilities. You are very entertaining and make me feel more relaxed after watching your videos. God Bless you.

[@music-by-storm]

I would love a follow up video on this topic about ways to respond when someone tells you how you're feeling. I've been on both ends (both the person with mental illness and the person helping someone else) and I often avoid telling others how I'm actually feeling because I am unsure of what I need from that person in terms of their response, and I don't want to make someone feel pressured to respond in a certain way if they aren't sure how to respond. Likewise, it can be hard as someone on the receiving end to figure out the best ways to respond to someone when they say they're not doing well, as people often have a variety of different emotional needs and it can be difficult to know what kind of response is best.

[@karynhuber3118]

I’ve been diagnosed with either bipolar or schizophrenic tendencies (my Doctors seem afraid to give me a proper diagnosis). Thank you for posting this. Especially the Akathisia info! It almost feels like being possessed! Such a horrific feeling. Now I’ve got a word for it.

[@togussatakashi823]

I love this channel!!! It has been an aide to me in these troubled times.

[@bellajean6731]

Thank you so much for your'e informative videos, I have learned so much from you. I wish my daughter and I had or knew of your videos. My daughter who had schizoeffective disorder to my great sorrow commited suicide 6 years ago. These videos are eye openers for me. I knew my daughter was very ill but I really didn't know what all she went through. When I loss my daughter I loss my whole world. Strangely enough these videos help me to cope with my daughter's death. Again thank you so much, you bring great understanding to educate others about schizophrenia.

[@christinespielvogel4005]

I have listened to your videos for help in understanding schizophrenia. I have had two dear friends diagnosed with this illness and your videos have really helped. I am a huge advocate that the world needs better education, resources and studies for mentally ill persons. I must share that "all souls" are precious and a person's life is a gift. Suffering is horrible but suicide assisted or not is never the answer. In all your videos I recognize a " common thread through your videos" that people' with mental illnesses must have voice and their opinions respected, so so true. However, suicide has such a stigma of being wrong because it is wrong. It goes against our God given nature of life. We should do everything in our abilities to help a person (soul). My goodness, it is one of the 10 commandments, "thou shall not kill". We cannot justify "nice" killing (assisted suicide). Out compassion for the ill person needs to move us towards better medical treatments, support and love of the person. I know people do not want to hear about God, but we were born with a soul, our sufferings and others can be offered upwards. Let all of us value life and assist those who are suffering to give comfort, understanding and love.

[@Sick1982]

I really hate that question when asked by people who don't really want or need to know (like at work), the problem I think is all the people asking it out of politeness... personally I never ask the question myself unless I see someone needs help or is clearly not doing well.

[@danieldaniels7571]

Have you ever tried answering "Is that any of your business?"

[@vblake530530]

Will add this approach to working with my patients

[@cmrnowlin]

These videos are such a great value. Thanks for making them.

[@alexgebhardt5925]

Thank you so much for this video, I always have trouble describing psychotic symptoms!

[@explosivelybrilliant]

First off, great video on an important topic! Second, I just noticed you're uploading in 4K! Looks great! Keep up the good work!

[@charlottehin2145]

You are really very good at this!

[@laqb2]

I wish I had watched this when it first came out. I struggle so much with explaining how I am in a concise way!

[@elizabethjones4271]

This is something I feel as though I'm actually pretty good with. No matter who asks me how I am doing I always respond honestly so I don't lie to myself. If it's a stranger or a position where small talk is part of the casual greeting im honest but keep it short. Of course the grocery store bagger or bank teller isn't someone to unload on nor do they need to hear a whole story, but if im not ok I will still respond with "not great, but it is what it is, how are you?" You can be honest and not make things awkward or weird. Or if someone is genuinely asking and I don't really want to talk about it I just respond with "im struggling, things aren't great but I am not in the mood or I'm not comfortable talking about it now" and people usually respect the answer you give them. When it comes to me asking someone who I sincerely care about and am genuinely interested in their health and life I will ask "how are you doing/feeling?" And after they reply I always follow up with "how is your mental health?". It's important to be honest so that you aren't lying to yourself or to those who truly care about you. If that person looks uncomfortable or it's not a good place to talk about a private matter at least if they are honest with their response I can say "I'm sorry you are struggling but if you ever want to talk or need advice or someone just to listen don't hesitate to let me know" and that's that.

[@vivienleigh4640]

I'm Swedish and it's a known fact that there's a bit of cultural confusion when me meet people from the US (I know you're Canadian). In the US, if I've understood it correctly, "How are you?" is just like saying "Hi!" (Most of the time), but here in Sweden it's usually an actual question. Not that you're expected to pour your soul out when talking to an acquaintance, yet usually you at least give a short summary of what's going on in your life and that includes even bad things. We're actually taught this in school that there's a difference and that the interaction might become awkward.

[@alistaircaradec2180]

Thank you so much for this, it is so helpful. A thing I like to do with my friends is ask them "How are you feeling?" instead of "How are you doing?/How are you?" I find it can help circumvent that automatic "Fine" response, because it is a different prompt from what the cashier, for instance, would provide.

[@anitaferro1405]

I have lived with insomnia for years and besides benzos and antidepressants I've been prescribed also antipsycotics to help me sleep and those I really cannot take even only once, bc they make me feel like I can sit or lay down but I have to walk back and forth constantly and now I know the scientific term for that "akathisia" thank you!!!

[@anreydarkiller4950]

I sometimes say that I feel like everything was out there, and I was in a cotton wool, nothing is really hurting or anything, it is quite nice detached feeling. Also, I have states when everything is just too sharp, and too close to me. It is scary and uncomfortable. These two feelings are kind of like opposites, but not sure.

[@davidhansen8457]

Up up until I saw Dr Tracy marks video on academia I didn't have the medical word I would compare or describe it as feeling poisoned of some kind and there's different levels of academia but caffeine could definitely you know fit in with you know that type scenario so great description I love your videos I promise I'll be praying for you over your recent journey you know that was a little difficult but I'm I'm praying I will put massive prayer that that difficulty will and somehow some shape or form better help you know be a positive you know not as much of a negative I know now it's kind of like a whiplash type feeling or or time zones or something but hopefully I pray you know just meditate and pray and do what you do I I look up to you I admire and I enjoy all of your videos thank you amen

[@peternolan814]

Hello Lauren, This question drives me crazy. I hear people saying this on the radio and TV but everybody just ignores the question and asks this very question right back. I really wish people would stop asking this question for once and for all when people who go round asking this question are really making the statement that THEY feel jus great. I say very occasionally to someone who blurts out this nonsense at me that I would need to send them an email taking me hours to type out to even begin to answer the question and even then I still might not have covered all aspects of how I'm feeling on any given day. It puts the spotlight and focus on the person being asked this question puts pressure on them and deflects attention away from the creep asking the question. Why is it that folks cannot say the loving thing it's nice to see you? It's a mystery to me and shows how utterly selfish folks are. Over here there is a famous TV personality called Bruce Forsyth who died and one of his catchphrases was "Nice to see you, to see you nice". People loved him. All the best and many thanks, Peter Nolan. Ph.D.(physics). Dublin. Ireland.

[@eugenewilson4045]

it was a whole campaign over the last 12 months, not far from you mr P. 😃 but I think it came from the south east again.

[@peternolan814]

@@eugenewilson4045 Hello, Many thanks. Can you, however, elaborate a bit about the campaign and what the campaign is? All the best, Peter.

[@jillalexiestrada6034]

Most don't know or deserve to know how we're doing. I have to work on just letting go through what they will their way. I'm out of here. I don't want to connect right now. You're pretty much saying the same thing, in different ways but I get it. People only respond to what they want and sounds comfortable.

[@kmaya1024]

Honestly, such good resources. Thank you so so much!

[@westfield90]

God bless you. Sending you love

[@leeann4743]

FINE = Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional. I have always resonated with this, lol.

[@dyawr]

All this aside, I hope you're doing well! 🤗❤

[@chillcreep4926]

When I ask others "how are you", I genuinely want to know, and I want details. When others ask me "how are you", I always feel they're being polite or looking to focus on something else to talk about. It's very difficult for me to believe they actually want to hear how I'm doing, and I'm too ashamed to discuss it in any detail. This video made me realize that I'll talk about what's happening to me without talking about how I'm feeling. So I'll say "I'm hallucinating daily now" but I won't say "I'm anxious, scared, paranoid, and bored all the time." So I guess I should work on that, lol

[@davidhansen8457]

Another description besides poisoning is a feelingLike some kind of energy residue or something that is like the brakes on bad rotors for the body it's like a nails on the chalkboard and and on top of the poison at times and he has gnarly prayers up for everybody struggling with any mental health or any sickness any pain any suffering prayers up for those who have everything in their life they could ever imagine much love for everybody thank you for your videos they help me so much thank you

[@clownactivist]

wile i am not scizophrenic, i do have psychosis episodes (currently undiagnosed to what causes these) , but i really value communication and during these moments is been really REALLY hard to communicate for the first time in my life, because of how stigmatizing it feels to admit i have delusion and things like it. I described it once, and because its so damning to describe over and over, i now go "im having that dissasociative time again, with all those issues" simply waving a hand to it. Its really helped because I feel like I dont have words in these moments, but now my friends can understand

[@jacquelineleitch7050]

Hi Lauren, I know that you are struggling to keep this thing going financially but if you look at the future you will realize that tiered support is not at all helpful to mental illness which is often the case of abject poverty. So only allowing Patrons into chat groups not only is anti-thetical to mental health, it will limit belief in your product. If you want to be a major Network, which at this point you need to start taking seriously as I believe you have everything you need to expand: you need to not think like a tele-Evangelist or a con. I would keep the GoFundMe Pages open as well as the Patron pages for people want to make sporadic financial support. I fit into this group. I will give you support about four times a year but I want/need more control over it. The main thing is to make yourself open to everyone and have everyone not only Subscribe but send cash in a variety of deliveries. This will also give you way more political control with Drug Companies who want to support you. If you want to have full control make them be part of your world and not vice versa.

[@brookejackson4532]

Learned a new word, Alxithymia. It describes my experience pretty well and I didn't know there was a term for what I was experiencing. Definitely feel less alone. Thank you.

[@deirdrejones5974]

My go to if I’m not feeling great is always, “well, you know...one foot in front of the other.”

[@sandy4923]

Thank you Lauren!

[@renl9893]

Since i also have experience with mental illness and complicated feelings with the "how are you" question, ive found myself instead asking "what's up" or "how's it going" to coworkers or in other casual interactions. It still allows a bit of sharing of what someone's been up to if they want to share, but the focus isnt on "you." To me it seems a bit easier to answer and less ingenuine to ask in casual settings but not sure how others feel!

[@shmoopydoopy9471]

If you're looking for more in depth answer to the 'how are you?' question, why don't people just ask more specific/in depth questions? The way I see it, if you ask a vague question, you're gonna get a vague answer

[@anreydarkiller4950]

I'd say it is sometimes hard to ask specifics question when you don't know the state person is at. Like, in Czech, we use "How is it going" instead of "How are you", and that is all the difference, because unless the other person answers something meaningful, you need to either guess what might be different, or simply acknowledge that nothing has changed. And that may even trigger some people...

[@superdooper1830]

I agree, it makes me uncomfortable when anybody asks me this generic question. Like I’m not going to spill my guts over a “how are you” 😂

[@india1422]

Maybe they are very concerned but don’t want to be intrusive

[@sageisnotaplant99]

I think it’s okay to use words like crazy or insane. Sometimes the only way I can describe my symptoms is “I feel like I’m going crazy” and that’s okay

[@telena5042]

When ppl ask me how I’m doing I answer “I’m here”. Meaning, I’m alive. Because sometimes I don’t want to be here. It’s been better since I started taking my meds like I’m supposed to.

[@cmrnowlin]

Also... responding 'still learning' can help break the ice when need guidance on something you've been struggling with. There's no shame in asking for directions when you've made a wrong turn.

[@nancymencke6980]

But you didn’t tell us how “you “ are doing

[@barzinlotfabadi]

Interesting thoughts about that sensation of impending doom - I was trying out different ADHD medications to see which one would work for me and I was on a very high dose of Concerta, and I had this sort of aura right around my head and over my shoulders like some sort of dome-like energy of what I could call.. "persecutory" energy coming at me, and it was this feeling of absolutely everything in the universe and everyone around me both in the room and elsewhere plotting to destroy me, and because I knew I was under the influence I figured this was just a very high dose of stimulants and any higher a dose I'd be well at the risk of stimulant psychosis; it basically took absolutely every ounce of my willpower to fight that feeling. Really makes me wonder about the regulation of dopamine and epinephrine/adrenaline, and how stimulants are just plucking the stress response string in our psyche *really* hard. Makes me wonder about akathisia and what causes it from a neuropsychopharmacological point of view. Could that borderline stimulant psychosis experience be the same phenomenon that's being experienced in akathisia, or at least share a similar component?

[@india1422]

I have issues with depression and anxiety and sometimes the feeling of doom is so bad I can almost touch it

[@rosebuddud0307]

How are you? I always answer, fine. Even to my therapist who I'm about to share my worst thoughts and feelings with. It seems to me that people expect a polite answer and don't want to hear the truth. I would love to be honest with loved ones but feel that is a stretch for my ability right now. Perhaps if I start with my therapist. Just not saying, fine, right off the bat. Thanks for the inspiration, Lauren

[@BldgOnMyMind]

For some reason I really struggle to hide how I'm feeling in my tone of voice- if I say "I'm fine thanks" just out of habit my therapist, close friends and even colleagues always seem to pick up on my tone if something's a bit off and if they did genuinely want to know they ask a follow up question which I really appreciate

[@Lifewithyumna]

Hi. I found your videos very helpful as I also have schizophrenia and trying to become pregnant.

[@ambitionbirdyd]

I love this video. Thank you for sharing! Your videos are helpful.

[@alice_rabbit8345]

Very helpful. I have depression and anxiety along with chronic pain and other health issues. Sometimes I can’t correctly describe how I feel

[@nicolenicole7478]

I LOVE the earing's !!

[@ivacheung792]

Ooh, the overcaffeination analogy is really helpful!

[@johnperez4359]

"in the correct direction"

[@whgonzalez8992]

Hi Lauren, when I'm asked, I usually feel it is in a superficial way, so my answer is in many ways dismissive and superficial also. I'm usually more intrigued and concerned about other people. Especially in actuality, I seem to ask with a passion to my opposite gender. In my experience, since my first breakdown, it seems like no one wants to hear it, even when asking me How are you doing? When I ask other people How are you? How are you doing? I usually also get superficial answers. So, I often ask, How is life treating you? Nevertheless, these are all questions I would like to better answer and also would like to get comprehensive answers from other people. You and your husband are great persons. You are doing wonderful work with your KZbin Channel: "Living Well with Schizophrenia". It is great that you care. I also want to take the opportunity to congratulate you on your future newborn.

[@kivsah]

Thank You for the video :)))

[@blueredbrick]

I just answer 'It could be worse' while smiling. That way at least I'm not lying while also not freaking out the question asker.

[@juanpaolotorres9736]

Thank you.

[@elisaacello592]

Thank you! that was Very helpful, coming from myself, someone that has difficulty explaining my feelings or even knowing where to start with a therapist, psychiatrist, friends, boss an co-workers, family...well, lol, Everyone now that I think about it. But, especially with mental health professionals, as it's already a stressful environment for me. Thank you!

[@dougalexander7204]

I say, you’re okay, how am I? Seriously, I never answer truthfully because I’m ashamed and also terrified to admit I’m dealing with schizo affective symptoms. As an old man I can see being put in a nursing home or worse. Luckily, I live a rural life fairly secluded and it’s easy to hide and blame being cloistered as an artist thing. By the way, you are a very pretty and bright, blue eyed young lady. I wish your illness would leave and you find yourself amazingly healthy.

[@princesadosanos90]

'how are you?' such a trigger

[@katarina7520]

I always feel guilty telling my close ones about how I'm feeling. I don't know why. I'm hopefully starting therapy soon to at least have one outlet to finally open up about things and work on myself.

[@SaschaEderer]

As a general rule of thumb, I never try to answer that question dishonestly

[@skidwilldanceforyou]

How are you? I’m not good. There’s all this talk about reaching out but there’s no one to reach out to. How are you? Good.

[@JGmeow]

I have this running joke with my therapist..she always starts off asking me how I'm doing, I answer and ask back...when she says that she is doing okay, then I always check to find out what's going on. She had never thought about responding "I'm doing okay" as an indicator that things aren't okay.

[@immcguyver07]

I'm not sure why the topic of schiz ended up on my feed, but as for the topic of answering "How are you?" ... Whenever a telemarketer calls, invariably, they ask "How are you sir". I always reply "Lousy". They always hang up. Easiest way to get them to hang up.

[@zoekoza436]

Hi guys, Have you made a video about the thinking that schizophrenia is a spectrum illness in a similar way Autism is? I have Affective Psychosis/ bipolar with psychosis and I am interested in how this relates to the spectrum of psychosis. Hope that all made sense lol

[@rougeneon1997]

Ugh that restlessness is terrible for me. I get it in withdrawal something awful, usually with anxiety on top.

[@thenativist3564]

I’m always having to hear other people’s problems, but in my head I’m thinking do you realize what I’m going through ?

[@RaysDad]

Everyone has problems. We are all imperfect but trying to help each other when we can.

[@CallumKray]

The two I hate the most.. 1) "How are you now?" ("The same as the last time you asked me about an hour ago..") 2) "How are you feeling in yourself?" ("Like 20 voices are screaming at me... you?")

[@CamboTriton]

Thank you for another great video.

[@CarolH2O]

I used to be dx as schizoaffective but now with something else I guess bc my dr is taking me slowly off of the two antipsychotics I take, one at a time. I also was weaned off clonazepam from 3mg a day a few years ago for many years to an eighth of a milligram as needed no more than once a day and not every day, so my as needed is very seldom, and really only when I feel that buzzing feeling which is sooo uncomfortable. But I wanted you to know that I found that helpful about the phenomenon of alexithymia, as I had never heard that term before and I often have no idea what I'm really feeling, so...thanks, I will tell my dr and therapist about that🙂

[@casalblau]

Thanks Lauren!

[@digitor24]

I have a question I think this is the right place to ask. If you hear voices is it worth getting diagnosed? I mean if it don't affect your work or home life and you can tell what's real and what's not is it worth going to the doctor and trying to get it diagnosed? The outcome could make my family worry and the whole stigma. This was a stupid question I guess.

[@superdooper1830]

Is it bad that I don’t like being asked how I am by anyone? Not that I don’t want people to make an effort, but that I feel expectation and judgement or weak for saying I’m depressed etc.

[@wakingdaily274]

THANKS FOR YOUR , HELP WISDOM, KNOWLEGE, ETC. U ARE AN ANGEL. BLESSINGS , )

[@munashendoora2394]

That is helpful. Thank you.

[@christinecrowley7132]

Better then yesterday but not as good as tomorrow.

[@snuffyscorner]

I am going through a difficult period and it it is so hard to describe my feelings. I feel like I have to give a speech in front of thousands of people but I don't have any notes. My palms are sweaty and I'm waking up with a racing heart and I feel like something horrible is about to happen. I have too much nervous energy and not a lot of motivation. I also feel very low and not a lot of appetite. I'm also getting nausea a lot from the nervous feelings. It all feels like its too much to bear. I tried calling my psych nurse to see if there was something to be done but she wasn't in and now it is the weekend. I've been like this for three weeks since the started taking me off antidepressants and upping my Vraylar. I'm also having constant dizzy spells from withdrawal.

[@allyzagarma9503]

Hang on! 😄

[@ufuomapatience9160]

Thanks a lot for this video, it is really helpful. I am okay with people asking me how are You, but some people don't really mean it and don't really care. It is Just for the sake of asking.

[@water1079]

**I need help**. My wife is schizophrenic and she was on like 150mg of latuda, lytheum and 5 mg of abilify, i guess she was alright but far from back to normal. Now she is on 30 mg abilify only. She is worse than the latuda mix, continues to hear voices and just says really off the wall stuff. She doesn't think its the schizophrenia that is making her here stuff she still thinks its the artificial incimenation and direct energy weapons that is effecting her... hint she is not to the point of acceptance of her real challenges. I have lost my children because of this girl and i am beginning to think throwing in the towel on this relationship. This has been 3 years dealing with this and i am trying to to the right thing and stand by her but I need suggestions on different medications... She has a new doctor appointment in a few days and I wanted any advice on different meds you may have heard of that she could request. Highest dose of Latuda and 30mg of abilify doesn't seen to work for her. Im a recovering alcoholic so i know that if someone does not want help they wont get it so im out of options at this point and im just reaching out. She was already 6 months impatient and learned no tools to deal with this, maybe she is too lazy to recover idk i feel like science is far enough that they can get her something to snap out of this. It took my about 15 years til she found the right medication mixture. Yes my mother and now wife are schizophrenic im probably a rarity with too much or just enough patience to help deal with this challenging thing. But SHE is no where near talking like you and you gave me hope but maybe she is just not like you. PS i hope no one takes offense to any of this

[@peterboyd7149]

Can ask a question my Schizophrenic friend to his own life. I think about him every day. If you know someone with schizophrenia and they have become psychotic how can you help them. My though are get them to a safe space and listen to them to calm them then phone the police or medical professional.

[@chuckbridgeland6181]

"How are you doing?" "It's complicated." (how much do you really want to know?)