How to Ask People Out in Japanese?

[@iiTzXDXDXD]

I feel like you have studied the cringey usage of Japanese for a long time and are determined change the way Japanese is both understood and spoken by foreigners. Genuinely greatful I found your channel! Do you teach private lesson btw?

[@w花b]

Even though I suppose it sounds better to the ear I don't understand fully why たい is bad. It's worse than the ません but why? Does It make people uncomfortable? Is it because it sounds like you're deciding what someone wants? Maybe it sounds forceful? I can only make assumptions about these reasons but at least we know that it's bad I guess.

[@enigmaarcs8559]

​@@w花b If you used たい it seem to forced and direct for Japanese people. For example (in most Japanese perspective) if you use たい, "Do you want to eat? Answer me now, do you want to or not?" kinda thing. The person that get asked will have "Why this person so direct? Didn't he know I'm busy doing my thing? It's kinda selfish of him to invite me to go out now. Can't he be a little considerate? (for Japanese level)" reaction. Different from ーませんか？, the tone drastically change. Instead of blunt and direct, it became more of a suggestion. For example "Want to go eat? If you want let's together." It's more like subtle invitation and feel more welcoming. I know it's weird, it's just how most Japanese culture work, especially in large city like Tokyo and Osaka. If you go to Osaka and small town through out Japan, you has more leeway on the way you speak as they're mostly more laidback than city counterparts (as in most countries).

[@brojoe44]

​@@w花b one thing about たい is its rude to assume someone would even want to do something, so you'd ask if they wouldn't do it. You can actually use it when you and a friend are playing online games and are looking for something to do, like このボースファイトはしたい？ Since you and your friend would both be looking for something to do you can assume you know they'd want to do something.

[@ashmorris4067]

​@whannabi I feel like たい is like putting them on the spot like arhh let's go and get some food, where as the other one is more like shall we or would you like to get some food. Its giving them an out if they don't want to. I think that's what it is.

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It will

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[@Pheelyp]

I agree!

[@Ace_Of_Bass8]

僕も

[@Well_away]

How can you have low views I mean you explain things so well Your voice is clear and the way you explain it was deliberate I hope you wouldn't stop doing this Keep up the good work

[@kanamenaito]

Thanks! I’ll do my best to make good videos to get more attentions!

[@Well_away]

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@@kanamenaito I have a suggestion. My mom actually runs a youtube channel of her own. One thing that I just noticed based on her work is that there are no hashtags on this video. When people look up the Japanese language, this video may not come up since you did not apply these hashtags to the video. For instance, this random video (kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZjUlpVvibGCbqM ) has like 4 Million and like 20 plus hashtags, which helps give the video priority in any search engine results. Also note that these hashtags are in every single major language spoken through the world today. The algorithm probably does a lot to push this video since it already has good watch time through any search of Japanese content in these languages. This is extremely important because most people who use foreign languages using KZbin will probably know English, so even if your videos are not in their language, you still will get clickrate and watch time for an audience that is hard for your content to connect to. You're videos are already really amazing, so I believe that you can 100% get a lot of views by doing a simple thing such as hashtagging. Also, you can also hashtag yourself. Some people do this so that whenever someone tries to look your channel up or something close to your channel name, all of your most popular videos will be prioritized (or something like that).

[@darthzayexeet3653]

I guess it’s kinda similar in English. When someone says: “Hey, you wanna grab lunch together?” and you just say *”No.”* it sounds very rude and impolite. But if you say: “Sorry, I can’t today.” It sounds much nicer and more respectful.

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Your instruction is truly gold, basic but very important. I’m a foreigner who has been living in Japan for 4 years. And after watching this video, I wished I could watch it when I start learning Japanese 😂 You deserve million views & subs.

[@이영숙이-z5b]

일본어와 구조가 비슷한 한국어를 모국어로 쓰고 있는데, 취미로 집에서 혼자 일본어 공부하고 있습니다. 이 유튜브방송은 일본어 이해뿐 아니라 일본어 & 영어 듣기에도 도움을 주네요. 이런 고품질의 방송을 알게 되어 기쁘고 감사합니다. 😊

[@仲村-t6k]

고 싶어 たい 고 싶어 하다 たがる

[@klyn_n]

Woah this is great! I’m having a Japanese oral test in 2 weeks and one of the conversations being tested is to invite someone out for an event. Having this video pop up on my recommended feed is so coincidental😂 I’ll be coming back to this video to revise before my oral 👍🏼

[@727maekawa]

This channel deserves so much more! I learned so much in 5 minutes, much more than i would normally

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[@JDCSM]

Your way of teaching is very engaging. You earned a sub

[@kanamenaito]

Thank you!

[@HobbyHoarder]

Literally the best channel with actual, useful tips. Most others (especially big ones) waste a lot of time without explaining much, because it brings in more ads. Please keep doing it short and to the point, I'm sure you'll still get plenty of views.

[@miyokimelody]

ありがとうございます、This was very useful and I learned a lot! Keep up the good work, your explanations are nicely outlined. I appreciate that you edit the Japanese text in so we can see and hear the differences!

[@stephenaitcheson6626]

Well put together Naito San. Very digestible and you explain it well. Please continue to teach more realistic everyday Convo. ほんとうにありがとうございます

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[@Gadlaru]

Awesome!! Your examples and explanations are just perfect! I’d love to hear you talking about ending particles (ね、よ、な…) and how to use them. I’ve always struggled with them, and I feel that I could finally understand if you’d be the one explaining them.

[@_P2M_]

よ - for assertive statements, providing new information, or making a point 私のですよ "It is mine!" ね - for statements you assume others would agree with (there's no expectation of a reply, unless you say it in a questioning tone) 良い天気ですね "Good weather, right?" よね - combination of both これは難しいですよね "This is difficult, wouldn't you agree?" な - rough and masculine version of ね if said abruptly; if said more softly and elongated, it could also be used for wishful statements 良いな "Good, huh?" 良いな~ "That's good, huh...? I wish I had that..." If a sentence is said casually, to not sound feminine, you add だ before these particles, but not when it ends in an い-adjective, negative forms of adjectives, or verb conjugations that end in い, like -たい or -ない. 日本語、上手よ "You're skilled in Japanese." (feminine) 日本語、上手だよ "You're skilled in Japanese." (masculine)

[@Gadlaru]

@@_P2M_ thank you!! I’d love to hear some examples, if you’d like to go into detail about this someday!

[@_P2M_]

@@Gadlaru I edited the comment with more info.

[@Gadlaru]

@@_P2M_ oh thank you so much!!

[@vonneumann6161]

@@_P2M_ Great explanation! Although I want to say that while よ without だ being feminine is not wrong, almost nobody speaks like that in real life. And だよ is not masculine. It’s neutral. If I remember correctly, there was a trend 100 years ago that women talk like that so it became a stereotypical “feminine” way of speaking. Today it’s mostly used by fictional stereotypical female characters and trans women who wants to sound excessively feminine. After all, speech sounding masculine or feminine changes with time (and also with region) so I don’t think it should be considered as grammar. You should just see it as a trend of how certain groups of people talk.

[@inaqingww]

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[@louisyu5053]

I like how you also teach about facial expressions. Great video! I'd love to learn more from you~

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Greetings from Thailand. I've repeated all your examples several times and tried to memorize all Kanjis. Very quick and useful tips. Cheers.

[@Joyful_Irina]

Your videos help me correct the way I learned Japanese. I'm still having a loooong way to even write it, but this surely guides me well. Arigatou gozaimasu!

[@danielgogogo]

Thank you for using English to explain Japanese. I’m a Taiwanese and learning Japanese now, but sometime, even the book explain in mandarin, I still get confused. I think the reason may come from the language itself. From my own opinion, Japanese and Mandarin are more romantic (or poetry?) than English, so it means that English is more convenient for explaining or clarifying. This video solve the quite basic but” I don’t know” question, thank you!

[@aliceliotto7542]

Thank you for your videeos, I appreciate a lot your work, clear and easy to understand. Beeing Italian I can say that also in Italian we can use a negative form to invite someone: it sounds (at least to me) quite polite and a bit cautious/careful, it can express a sort of hope from who is inviting, more polite than the affermative form which is used as well.

[@KeithTingle]

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[@toto__1926]

진짜 이런 부분은 한국어와 정말 유사한것 같네요 한국인이 객관적으로 배우기에 가장 용이한 언어가 일본어이지만, 그래도 배우면 배울수록 어려운게 생기고 쉽지 않은게 일본어인데 이런 뉘앙스의 부분은 즉각 한국어와 대칭이 되고 이해하기가 싶네요. 맥주 마시고 싶어 ? 야식 먹고 싶어 ? 맥주 마시지 않을래 ? 야식 먹지 않을래 ? 딱 이거네 최근 알게된 일본어 유튜버인데 정말 일어 배우는 입장에서 내용들이 괜찮네요 그리고 영어를 너무 잘하십니다 앞으로도 잘 부탁드리겠습니다

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This is such a good and thorough explanation.

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[@GodivaGems]

4:06 made me laugh out loud 😂. Thanks for the video! Informative 😊

[@Aserox]

Nice examples, thanks

[@kanamenaito]

Thanks!

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You teach very well! Subscribing ~

[@kanamenaito]

Thank you!

[@kk-je8qe]

日本人だけどまじでいい動画

[@Nutellochka]

I learn a lot from your videos, thank you!

[@ShvemOrlok]

As a native spanish speaker The negative questions is really similar like we invite someone We usually say "¿No quieres ir por una coca cola?" (Would you like to drink a coke?) to invite someone to drink something or "Voy a la tienda, ¿no quieres algo?" (I'll go to the store, do you want something?) To buy something to that person. Now I know some Japanese friends told me why they think is easier to learn basic Spanish than basic English to them

[@sdlion7287]

And specially latinamericans are quite used to be polite and indirect! When I had given advice to other Mexicans I told them to not get too scared about learning Japanese because we have so many cultural similarities/equivalences that we can get an advantage of! We eeveen have useful experience "reading the room".

[@janiselmeris5705]

The same in Latvian. You can ask positively, but more polite is to do it negatively. Like, with less pressure.

[@olleani]

I think you can express it in english too with the phrase "Wouldn't it be nice to..."

[@sbubwoofer]

true

[@lolaremixe]

I loved the face advice for すいません. Will totally follow it. Amazing video, thank you so much!

[@SwimminWitDaFishies]

I think it would be interesting to hear you tell us what we say in English, and that it does, or it does not have an equivalent in Japanese. Great job on the video as always! Arigato, Kaname-san 🪭

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This is Gold content, well done 👏, i hope this channel grow really fast.

[@MaulLerGamer]

This is pretty fun and educational. Thank you.

[@kanamenaito]

Thank you too!

[@yoichi6758]

@Kaname Naito, your channel deserves million subscribers and thousand and even million views.

[@MrShem123ist]

You just earned yourself a new subscriber. A very nice explanation!

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Thank you. This was good information!

[@kanamenaito]

Glad you liked it!

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Excellent lessons. Thank you.

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Seriously helpful content man, ありがとうございます！

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[@thedawnvlogs1413]

I also teach Japanese. You’re English is to good, very clear enunciation

[@MrJronson]

We do use the negative question form in English too, it's just less common. "Do you want to come to the cinema today?" = "Won't you come to the cinema today?" There definitely is a nuance between the two of course

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nihongo jouzu! Love the explanations! keep it up!

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Clear and concise. Amazing!!

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And here is how a great japanese channel is born

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また勉強になりました！ありがとうございます♪

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I have some friends learning Japanese in outside Japan, so I'll show them this channel since it looks very useful😄

[@kanamenaito]

That will be helpful! Thank you!

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[@Umi-ij2mz]

（私の日本語が悪くてすみません、ベトナム人ですｗｗ）kanameka先生の英語はすごいです！レッスンをありがとうございました！！

[@kanamenaito]

コメントありがとうございます！日本語の勉強頑張ってください！

[@dyfaction3017]

そうです ね. ビデオをありがとうございます. それは 役に立ちました!

[@VeneficusPlantaGenista]

Declining a date with a flat “no” is also rude in English (or at least for anglophone people in the USA). To decline politely, most people would say something similar to the Japanese declination.

[@ninasan1524]

REVIEW: ❌ 〜 飲みたいか。 ⭕️ 〜 飲みませんか。 Q: ビールを飲みませんか。 A1: 😊 いいですよ。 A2: 😔 いいですね。。。 でも、すいません今日は　忙しいんです。 A3: 😔 いいですね。。。 でも、すいません今日は　無理 (むり) です。 A4: 😔 いいですね。。。 でも、すいません　ちょっと。。。 A5: ☹️ いや。今日は飲みたくない。 A2 & A3 are more preferable phrases to use when turning down an invitation politely.

[@pashacore]

Is it possible to also use the volitional 「ましょう」and 「よう」forms in the context of an invitation as well? Such as 「一緒に食べましょうか」or 「公園に遊ぼう？」is there a subtle nuance between saying the negative 「ませんか」in「一緒に食べませんか」and 「ましょう」? Or is it the same? Great channel, definitely going to watch more of your videos! ありがとうございます！

[@LookItsAmin]

I'm just putting a comment here because I have the same question.

[@kanamenaito]

You can use that to invite someone. But nuances are different. 「ましょう」「よう」are like “let’s” in English. You should note that you are not asking a question. ラーメン食べよう。Let’s eat ramen! ラーメン食べない？what do you say to a ramen? They have both different nuances.

[@mithweth]

Same here. I usually say 飲みに行こうか? rather than 飲みに行かない? but I am not sure about the nuance. Probably, the second one is more neutral (I don't say if I want to go), whereas the first one would indicate I want to go. Something like "俺はいい、お前は?" nuance. Am I correct ?

[@justyourfriendlyneighborho903]

"The worst she can say is no" Her: いや

[@DaVince21]

English has a "Won't you...?" form as well but it comes off a lot more polite, or whether you're trying to convince someone, or even desperate. Won't you please go on a date with me?

[@velosong3396]

As someone who really like Japanese anime and manga i wanted to learn Japanese but too lazy/busy to actually learn it. I could understand words when i hear them but i cant read them or write them. Your videos looks so good and easy to understand. keep up the good work and good luck.

[@johnlee8959]

really fun when you have that expression while saying すいません

[@wongwong5866]

very very clear explanation ; )

[@kaungkaungmmulyc9519]

Great job bro🎉

[@estebanfuentes2610]

wow, what a good video. earned my subscription

[@tabiasobi]

"Ne, ore to de-to shinai?" "Iya!"

[@35latte93]

Great videos, thanks! Please keep it up! :)

[@night_fiend6]

One way that I heard how Japanese say the the don't want to do something say someone like "Ano... honto muzakashi".

[@TheClintonio]

I'd like to point out that also in (British) English just saying "no" to refuse someone is quite rude too. It's usually "Ah sorry I can't, I'm busy" or some similar sentence.

[@dsmith6785]

Can you do a video on how to order from a Ramen stall restaurant, for example? How to order, thank, pay…including facial expressions and body language?

[@meverith1735]

What I find funny about the 4:09 example is "ciota" in Polish means something like "Wimp", so if you're saying that example sentence it sounds like you're turning down the offer AND covertly calling them a pansy, extra emotional damage

[@kyawzinlin2580]

ありがとうございます😍😍😍

[@ferdikerupuk]

先生、説明が上手ですね👍

[@moni_monaka]

A lot of the time, my friends and I would just say, 「映画を見に行く？」 or something like that. Not using the negative but just the plain form of the verb. I lived in Kyoto and Fukuoka and we often said, 「コンビニ行かん？」 Also, my host mom in Fukuoka would often ask me if I wanted something by using いる instead of 欲しい and my Japanese at the time wasn’t great so I was very confused but I think it was kind of like 博多弁 to say これいる？ as “Would you like this?” and I got used to it.

[@celty5858]

The negation being used to invite someone sounds so weird to me as an English speaker. It sounds like, “won’t you do (activity) with me?” Which also sounds inviting but feels like it belongs in a period piece.

[@sankansuki]

the すいません face made me subscribe 🤣🤣

[@systud2786]

Yes, I used to say a lot of 〇〇たいto my Japanese buddy, and he always replied in Chinese. Oh God, now i realize he must have been suffering from my awkward Japanese, hahaha. His Chinese is good.

[@Exrier]

I think responding to an invitation by just saying "no" with no explanation would be jarring and potentially considered rude in any language

[@avz1865]

This is so interesting, because is English it's the *exact* opposite. If you say to someone "Don't you want to have a drink?", using the negative, that feels really rude because its like you're assuming they *should* want to have a drink. Languages are cool!

[@paulpardee]

English has the same construct - "Won't you have dinner with me?" It sounds pretty old-fashioned, though

[@Kataang101]

Thank you!

[@kneegrow1977]

I’m learning Japanese currently and this channel has been really helpful. thanks. 💕

[@briancombs9671]

教えてくれてありがとうございます。