How to Be a Good Listener - and Help Others Listen Better to You - Talk with Dr. Rick Hanson

[@JWoodf]

I’m going to stop marinating in helpless outrage. Many thanks Rick 🙏🏻❤️🌟

[@patinoche]

Thank you, Rick for sharing such a huge Topic. I can see more clearly all the different aspects of being a good or, a bad listener and, how luch it can affect or, improve relations. I know, deep down that, I need to improve myself, especially towards one person I know., As a fact, that I am not, enough, available, I feel bad about it because, he or, she feels rejected and, try to come back, often or, just give up. I don't want to be that person. And, do I really listen to myself ? Not enough or, not, well enough, anyway. I will listen again and, again if needed, to your wonderful talk. Many blessings. Gratitude 🙏 🧡

[@SB-vj5sn]

Dear Dr Hanson, this is one of the best videos I have come across on listening. I particularly like your suggestions on using turn the four listening skills around by helping the other in a conversation to listen to us. Thank you, fantastic talk.

[@dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347]

Such a great person ...Dr Hanson is like a chicken soup for the soul :)

[@Panda-pz3em]

Good listening. 1. Emotional and physical availability 2. Undivided Attention / attentive (interested, curious, openness - without any personal attitude getting in the way. 3. Empathy (doesn’t necessarily mean you agree) Putting yourself in their shoes - feeling what they’re feeling , paying attention to the speaker’s emotional state. 4. Responsive - responding in some way, even if it’s just to let them know that you need some time to consider what they’ve communicated, digesting /reflecting . How to be heard. 1. When might they be available - ask them directly if necessary - is it a good time 2. May need to ask them if could give you their full attention if they seem distracted. 3. Ask them directly if necessary to try to put themselves in your shoes, can they empathize with your concerns, needs, emotional state. 4. Ask them (directly again if necessary ) how they feel about what you just said, did they understand or do you need to clarify something. Listening to yourself. 1. Make time to listen to your innermost self . 2. Pay attention to that quiet voice of reason, or wyour heart and gut might be communicating i.e. your intuition . 3. What response is required - maybe you only need to become consciously aware of the sensations in your body how you feel about itsomething (I.e what sensations are you experiencing in your body as your conscious mind pays attention and responds with your conscious thoughts to