How to Be a Happy Loser | A Guide for Modern Day Untouchables

[@matthowe4458]

As someone who has been living with a severe mental illness and addictions for all of my adult life, I sincerely thank you for this video. I am making the best of my current situation, stable on meds for 7 years, sober for nearly 6 years, lost and kept off nearly 100 lbs, living independently in the community. These are big accomplishments for me but I realize to many I may look like a loser. Poor, no job, no family, no friends. But, I am genuinely happy these days focusing on my health and wellness. I enjoy my simple stress free life. I know fate dealt me some bad luck but I don’t believe in the victim mentality. We need to find success on our terms, no one else’s. Love this channel!

[@TheXuism]

You are more powerful than most human beings, my friend!

[@patriotlightning7791]

You are worth so much more than you might think bro.

[@newsjunkieish]

💜

[@wildflowerwind6941]

6 years sober is huge.

[@Nista357]

I wish you luck Matt! 🥰

[@FelixSkura]

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.”

[@antonionotbanderas9775]

- Charles Bukowski. Quoting the source is the difference between research and plagiarism.

[@thomasbarchen]

Abraham Lincoln right?

[@H0elessRomantic1]

So you count yourself to the smart, full of doubt, enlightened part, right?

[@Papi_21]

What does this even have to do with this?

[@lizafield9002]

@@antonionotbanderas9775 It was William Butler Yeats, in a poem, I thought. Jerusalem or Babylon or something. "The best lack all conviction." Who cares who said it, which way, perennial reality pervades various cultures, eras and names.

[@THEOvERSiZEDMeATBALL]

It's crazy, how much we humans desire others approval. Soo much so that we would rather be an unhappy winner then be a happy loser...

[@wildflowerwind6941]

So true.

[@justanothermortal1373]

That's actually deeply rooted in psychology. It is a survival tactic that we develop from infancy to be conscious of what others think of us so that we are in tune with their emotions. Being in agreement with another human being always comes as a benefit to you because it ensures you that you will have their support and protection for when you feel endangered. We are social animals. We depend on the aid and companionship of others to help us live healthier and safer lives.

[@thetitanworld3806]

@@justanothermortal1373 I am definitely not disagreeing with you, its the opposite, what you are saying is pretty much a fact. The issue I have is that even though its deeply rooted inside us and basically became part of 'human nature', does it mean there is no alternative satisfying way of living? Training your brain (not completely conciously like some sort of exercise) so that it overtime doesn't seek approval anymore? Because lets be honest, in this day and age its far less important than in the age of tribes. I would like your opinion on it!

[@YoutubeModeratorsSuckMyBalls]

This life IS about getting approval, ofc you can live on your own but will you be happy? Why do you think everything is divided into VIP and ordinary? Because VIP makes other people jealous, so make you feel superior. Why do you think superstars and models are earning so many money? Because of the approval. Why do you think scientists get Nobel prize because of the approval of other scientists. Why do you think some people rise in their career? Because of the approval of others.

[@user-hz1oy6ni6kpaparovits]

From all my years of personal research as a happy looser i realized that this type of people are weak mentally the people that snobe you all the time .weak person is a guy who only want to treats well his life no others life

[@kumaSOevl]

When someone starts off a conversation with “what do you do for a living?” It often means the level of respect they are about to give you.

[@crystalwater505]

Exactly. Another reason why I enjoy my solitude.

[@silviahannak3213]

Oohh Right. As if Respect depends on your Education or other things..only. Sometimes i am not able to handle Humans. Can i be any other Animal next time please? Or Plant...Whatever.

[@kumaSOevl]

@@silviahannak3213 “I will see you in another life, when we are both cats.” - vanilla sky 🫠

[@PrimeVictor_]

Just answer. Sell drugs laugh and keep going

[@kumaSOevl]

@@PrimeVictor_ 🫠

[@alexs9904]

This video hits home. I’ve been a schizophrenic for over ten years now. I’ve been through hell. I am medicated and stable now. I am on benefits and I have my own apartment. I have what I always wanted. Tried the dating apps and didn’t have much success. I was even mocked by a potential date when I told her I wasn’t employed. Called me a man baby loser. It hurt. I feel like I’m not that at all. I couldn’t even explain my situation. Truth is I don’t like children or pets. And that narrows things down. Is that how society is? I don’t want any part of it. I enjoy my solitude. They will never know how strong I’ve become. Thank you for reading this.

[@dudedude-su7pt]

Lol u take that women seriously? 😂. They are low iq bozos, u r sad because a women rejected u is just silly.

[@AnthZee8]

I'm a middle age man on a disability pension due to severe bipolar. Ironically I feel more happy then I ever was with a job and a car. Life is a paradox

[@Candlelight738]

@@AnthZee8awesome

[@Y.0o0]

Damn, being schizoaffective on disability for other medical reasons makes me turned off from telling anyone that I'm unemployed if they're going to call me a loser just for surviving everyday. Same man.. I feel like I'm just better off enjoying my solitude as it is & I can't get enough of it so far.. life is strange.

[@marcmeinzer8859]

Try watching Grand Master Wolf the Australian Taoist Wizard on KZbin. He has a good take on mental illness. i was a severe alcoholic but managed to quit drinking back in 1991 when I returned from the Gulf War with the merchant marine and was making vats of rotgut wine when my ship got stuck in the Red Sea serving as a floating ammo dump for the Air Force and the entire crew ran out of booze which for merchant seamen is the greatest of all tragedies.

[@JamesTheNomadic]

The irony that most of society bases their value and worth owning things that can be taken from you within an instant. For example your job, your car, your house, even your health. None of that truly matters when character and integrity is the true wealth of an individual and that alone can never be taken away whether you’re in rags or riches.

[@sigrid3553]

Great words. So true 😇

[@MattGarcyaDC]

well said

[@julianal.573]

💐

[@jasoncoker1625]

🤘💯

[@MohawkHalfBreedTheShredder]

I agree 100 percent

[@BlondeManNoName]

_“Don't let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.”_ ~ *Eckhart Tolle*

[@pastamasta8985]

good quote

[@topdawg3359]

That's good ty. King James Bible I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all.

[@Garudan0804]

Amazing words thank you for this

[@richardvasquez9668]

But we’re all mad here. 😁 from alice in wonderland lol

[@topdawg3359]

@@richardvasquez9668 your not mad me either just upset there's a difference

[@JohnDoe-ef3wo]

Accepting that I'm happy as a loser by societies standards, has been one of the most liberating experiences of my life .

[@larryrobx]

"I Feel Much Better Now That I've Given Up All Hope" (1984), Ashleigh Brilliant

[@drivingintothedesertuntilt3202]

Yeah its such a prison

[@nobody-xg8ep]

how did you accept being loser

[@Mike-bs5xi]

Loser haha

[@werren894]

yeah just don't be actual loser

[@Joseph-wh5of]

This describes my life completely. My cousins grew up with a loving family who were decently well set off. Their family paid for everything for them. From their cars to their phones and even their entire college education. As for me, I grew up in a broken home. My mother is mentally ill and murdered my father. I was also homeless at the age of 18 and was unable to get any funding for college until I was 24 years old from the government. My cousins work great jobs and get paid twice as much as I do, where I currently work as a janitor and I am still in college. Fate plays a huge role in people's lives. I find myself to be hard working, but I can only work with what I was given.

[@DeuceBiggerHo]

I sympathise. A bad start can take decades to fix.

[@joshuabrown2134]

Keep pushing.. ✊🏿🖤

[@luxlumine8602]

You are doing great. The problem that I'm having is some people use this video to justify their slothfulness and mediocrity

[@lawrencefeldman7744]

You're not a loser. You're a warrior! Keep on keepin' on! Guess who won't fall during a crisis? That's what makes a leader or teacher! Not idealizing your situation but it seems that you are resourceful and will prevail no matter what! That's success,man. Not your scorecard!( Which can change at any moment!)

[@pulkitriat3301]

I feel for you... I have the same story minus the job part...

[@mikee1000]

What I've learned in this life is it doesn't matter if you have a stable job and can afford a apartment people will still find endless reason's to be judging you. I'm ugly and have a stable job at Walmart but I still get judged in a negative way by my peers at work.

[@richard_from_england333]

You're a king in my book for even having a job.. I've been searching for a job for 2 years now and no one wants to hire me

[@PatSporrerMusic77]

I'm sorry people are cruel to you at work - you have a job which is awesome and retail work is very stressful and difficult work regardless of what a lot of people think about it. Keep doing you and forget all those judgemental people 👍

[@RicardoSantos-oz3uj]

@@richard_from_england333 And yet you still live. So must be doing something right.

[@joshuabrown2134]

Fuck em and your a winner to me ✊🏿

[@MeatCatCheesyBlaster]

The key is not to get a job because of what others think because of what you need. If you have what you need then that’s winning. Unhappiness lies in wanting more.

[@archaichobo6969]

You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It's their mistake, not my failing. -----Richard Feynman

[@KerriEverlasting]

I clutch my ideas 🤭

[@Labyrinth6000]

Agreed!

[@johnathanhamilton5248]

Your profile meaning warms my heart. Hilariously clever. Thank you ✊🏾😁👍🏾.

[@sisigs4820]

@@I_Lemaire no it's not. We all have choices and free will, we don't have to choose to be a slave to others expectations of we don't want to.

[@yankokassinof6710]

@@I_Lemaire is anyone here talking about consequence denial? i think you missed the point to be honest...thats one of the most obvious and direct relations that no one can really not think about - consequences - they are always guaranteed to exist no matter what so thats why i dont get ur commrnt

[@davidmitchell6873]

I am a guy in my mid fifties. I have had a fair amount of success In my life, continually employed for over thirty years, a pretty wife and good kids but several years ago I had some serious health problems and was forced into early retirement, my marriage started struggling so we separated. I have less money than ever and other then my kids I don't have many relationships but I am so happy. I have no work or relationship stress. I just do what I want to do and live slow, quite and easy.

[@sigrid3553]

Sounds wonderful! 👍

[@jenna2431]

The universe knew exactly what you needed. Peace, David.

[@mauricioramirez9744]

Sometimes problems can be blessings in disguise. No amount of money could ever be worth more than a peaceful and joyful life. Rock on man!

[@mickdamick]

Do you think if you didn’t get sick, you’d still be married?

[@scr4932]

You can't lose if you've already won. Lucky you.

[@LustyLichKing]

I stopped caring about anyone else's opinion when I realized that not only do they mock you for your current situation, they also mock you for trying to change it. The classic example is the fat guy at the gym. He is an object of ridicule both for merely being fat as well as actively trying to improve. I think humans are like crabs in a bucket. They hate to see anyone better than themselves and want to pull them down if they get any upward mobility. Why would you even spend the energy to notice the opinions of such miserable creatures?

[@Ikaros23]

Reality is that most people at the gym are the people who would not mock a fat person. Most would gladly help and give advice. It’s the other fat people who holdes each other down. Most people who have succsess also like to share they’re story and drive. Reality is that most people are self obsessed, and worry about they’re own « image».that is they mostly don’t think about « the fat loser» at all.

[@tatuira93]

@@Ikaros23 The worst type of people I've seen in the gym looked objectively pathetic and were probably very new or just weak willed. Buff and disciplined dudes tend to be well meaning, pain builds character, and they have nothing to prove to anyone.

[@Ikaros23]

@@tatuira93 Only losers mock people who are having mental issues or health issues. My experience is also that alot of fit people have been fat before. And i also know alot of formerly fit people who have become fat. And who need to go back to the gym and face they`re fears. And the main fear is that the world is mocking them or is caring about them. But my main point is that well yes people can see that they are fat. And maby they even think they are losers. That is inside they`re minds. But at the same time the same person is most likely worried about how the world percives them!. This is what they are thinking about most of the time. And this is included alot of people who are super fit, who have body dysmorfic symtoms. Alot of healthy good looking people are also self obsessed and use money on plastic surgery and hate they`re own looks. Mocking and hating on others is a sure sign of narcissism and low self-esteem. We all have our own struggles and demons to face. The fat people should feel pride that they went to the gym, it takes courage to face once own mental illness and fear. And from experience they are going to get help and encouragement in the gym from 98% of people there. Not hate

[@_Holy_Lance_]

Agreed

[@croissantlover1]

The fat guy in a gym being mocked is something i saw in the news once in my country of Denmark. Exactly what you wrote.

[@Michael-cb5nm]

I’m 47. I haven’t achieved my career goals; in fact, I picked the wrong career. I’m a loser. But I’m not particularly bright or resourceful, and I think at this point I need to just accept what I have and be happy. Not everyone is destined for greatness!

[@cso1697]

There's nothing wrong with setting your own standards for life. You are the only one living your life.

[@mustasheolll2020]

I’m extremely lazy and fear failing. I’m only 21 but damn being an adult is tough, which I don’t like I want a mostly easy life.

[@Bf26fge]

Greatness is often not a good thing. It is a burden because one has so much responsibility, can easily lose it all, and have you seen what often happens to great men and women? Ahem just one example, joan of arc?

[@manojprabhakar9111]

I quit my (well paying) boring job at 30 for a PhD in a field I love. Suddenly my relatives treat me as a loser, who is too lazy to keep a job and wants to bide time by becoming a student again. They are oblivious to the excitement I get by doing what I love. But their treatment brought my self confidence down. This video is helping my mind defend itself from shit thrown by the opinion of others

[@joshuabrown2134]

Fuck them.. frfr.. fuck them. Much love big dawg ✊🏿🖤

[@nocrtname]

Maybe they don’t care about how you feel, only about what you can do for them.

[@soumenatha7288]

😢hats off sir.....Live fully care nobody

[@BRBallin1]

The whole reason everyone does the same thing is due to social pressure. If everyone freely did as they pleased we might see more people with similar unconventional pursuits

[@LeandroMessiah]

How can getting a PhD be considered loser behavior? While still young nonetheless. Some social bubbles are just funny.

[@xq39]

There are so many ridiculous standards for what you have to accomplish in this world in order to be accepted by others. not only do you have to be good looking, confident, highly educated, making tons of money, living on your own without parents, zero mental problems, well traveled, constantly out doing things, zero disabilities or health issues, I could go on forever. Our lives are so relative and fragile considering how easy it is to fall behind.

[@sirbarksalot9139]

So many standards that no one accomplishes

[@ThruTheMatrix]

Being a guy who has been an introvert most of my life - not really a people person in the least, I struggled with the idea of "luck" being a big part of success. From my 44 years of life experience I saw that "all who you know, not what you know" be a massive enabler for success. The extroverted person who socializes a lot and has a massive collective of people surrounding them would have an upper hand in regards to success, as they know how to talk and use charisma with people. Most employers and people of high stature are attracted to that, where the introvert is ignored for their lack of.

[@kennyheimbuch8686]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

[@morio9284]

Beautiful quote!

[@channeling764]

This will be my mantra. Thank you

[@XeLYoutube]

a specisit heighist locationist wealthist racist sexist single mom karen "cant find good men" pet kittens boil baby male chicks alive, enter the room

[@85jongo]

YEP!

[@diegosanchez4941]

That is the key

[@andyawardian1868]

What's even worse: When NOBODY calls you a loser, but you think you are one anyway. Because you were treated like one for your first 20 years of life and it's very hard to change that mindset, even if you have a lot of friends and colleagues who tell you otherwise.

[@Daidalos69]

I feel this

[@syd6358]

Guys I was one of your best friend in childhood and teenage time. We had so much interesting and fun stuff. We had the world in our hand, we were young gods. But then your memory was damaged and now you remember false memories.

[@ericcricket4877]

That's is my experience exactly, but i'm now 26, and i gave myself proof that i'm not a loser. Now know that everybody (including myself) was wrong as usual.

[@wavim]

That's me

[@Mysteryman-h4o]

I was overlooked from elementary to high school none of the girls I thought were attractive liked me 💯

[@NikiWonoto26]

I'm from Indonesia. I really appreciate of how realistic this video is. Very rarely especially nowadays we can even see the concepts of 'fate' & 'luck' being honestly and critically discussed today, because most people just prefer the simplistic optimism bias (or toxic positivity), including on meritocracy, while ignoring a lot of the harsh truths, facts, & reality.

[@muh.andianto]

It's weird because traditionally our culture and religion used to give much value on the concept of luck and fate, like "narimo ing pandum" from java, or "everything is will of God" from Islam (and I think other 5 religions too). So sometimes I wonder, when or why these concepts were fading away. Because the modern concept of believe doesn't fit perfectly with our society's trait. Like, Indonesia generally are coming from agriculture society. We rely so much in weather, nature, all things beyond our control. In other words, we are determined so much by luck and fate. But suddenly in modern era, we are forced to believe that everything happens to ourselves, career, health, relationship, life... all are becaused of ourselves, our will, our hardwork only. No luck, no privilege whatsoever. This is too much to handle by our tipical humble eastern culture. You're right. We need to bring up again the conversation about luck, fate, and stop too much blaming ourselves for everything happens. Anyway, it's good to see a fellow citizen in the middle of this randomness internet.

[@Marci-Ana-GMM]

Someone that is not Ellon Musk: "Toxic positivity"

[@Marci-Ana-GMM]

"Realistic"

[@XeLYoutube]

intelectual dishonesty is very popular. moral consistancy is extremly rare

[@danielmapulanga9894]

Happiness starts on the inside, relying on others for happiness is a dicey proposition. I think that's why kids tend to be happier, they haven't learnt to crave societies approval yet. Thanks for another insightful video 👍

[@stelmosfire11]

That’s where craving for approval begins. Being rewarded for good behaviour and scolded for the bad behaviour.

[@andreking9704]

@@stelmosfire11 Right and the rebellious kids that don't care about anyone's opinion of them are taught that they're bad. Eventually those kids are tossed to the side because they aren't easily controlled.

[@jad1079]

Kids are taught to value their parents' approval.

[@techalex1992]

but what if she's a looser? we do also have expectations from women.

[@yoonahkang7384]

Exactly

[@redsamurai192]

Others : You're a loser. Me : It's a peaceful life.

[@brandon1832]

To me, I'm not at peace being alone. So good for you. But that's different then what I want.

[@RicardoSantos-oz3uj]

@@brandon1832 Then go get what you want.

[@fadhlyshirazy]

@@brandon1832 the comment is not about being alone. It's about being a loser. You can have someone but still being a loser.

[@brandon1832]

@fadhlyel-shirazy7487 Well I'm afraid of rejection

[@JoeFay_Tech]

@@fadhlyshirazy loser is considered as outcast believe me especially if you wanna have female friends

[@nielsssg]

I am a loser, totally embraced it. You cannot expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself.

[@crystalwater505]

This, the ironic this though, is if you become a happy loser and enjoy what you do, you gain confidence from self appreciation and more than likely will eventually not be a "loser" by societies standards. The reason you'll gain confidence is because you won't be depending on outside people like a romantic partner and such for happiness. The saying that you can only depend on yourself is actually quite a true saying when you think about it.

[@richard_from_england333]

@@crystalwater505 Exactly.. What do we call a mentality ill homeless person? A loser, but what do we call a mental ill actor? An eccentric winner... It's all about the confidence in how we see ourselves and others will see it too

[@GoatSimpulator]

Guess I'm too much of a "loser" in my own opinion to love myself... Seems that's a sign to work on and improve myself

[@veiserexab1428]

Plus it humbles you more

[@CP-ns5ed]

Learning to accept yourself for who and what you are will inevitably result in you only needing one person's love: yourself.

[@lazarmitrovic180]

I got schizophrenia 4 years ago. It turned my life around 100 peecent. I was rly work ethic drive before illness. It was all about succsess. But now I am just not even close to be able to work from the moment i wake up to the moment of going to sleep. I have to accept new me. And it is hard, it is so hard. This video helps, thank you :)

[@randombassguy5780]

I embrace being a loser by society's standards, I have no pressure to impress anyone, and I also love being single and decided never to marry. I have not experienced any heartbreak in 4 years now.

[@treystephens6166]

I can buy overpriced Godzilla CDs 💿‼️

[@amateruss]

Smart.

[@67NewEngland]

“ If a man walks in the woods for love of them half of each day, he is in danger of being regarded as a loafer. But if he spends his days as a speculator, shearing off those woods and making the earth bald before her time, he is deemed an industrious and enterprising citizen.” -Henry DavidThoreau

[@absta100]

great quote

[@FlatlandMando]

Thoreau got it right on this one

[@lucianboar3489]

Now you'd be seen as a bit of a winner for having the time and especially the will to walk in the woods half of the day. Not by everyone, but by enough people.

[@avamasquerade]

Everything you do can be spun to be "evidence" of your malicious nature or as "evidence" of your virtuous nature.

[@IPv6people]

"making the earth bald before her time" Where do you live? Deserts are bald, but where I live I see trees, houses, birds, people, happiness and life. Never in history have there been so many people with a reasonable to happy life. Can you please explain how mankind has reached this desirable situation and got out of the poverty from history?

[@Battleganz]

I've always been considered a loser. But the thing I notice at 37 is that I'm so happy. I love getting up every day and reading my books. I love programming (when the program works!). I love drawing in a newsprint.

[@sigrid3553]

I totally relate to that. Happy with my books, and KZbin videos. 😎

[@pjhoodsta]

I notice similarities from your comment. i am considered as a 34 years old loser. but I do not feel too depressed. just neutral with reading some books, fiddling programming (if things in my favour) and... drawing for fun.

[@bloodpriest1302]

No1 is a looser. U all r legends. No1 can relate 2 ur life but urself. Ur not a looser. No1 is. Except the c++ guys.

[@XsNiPeRPi3z]

out of curiosity, how are you peeps making money?

[@bloodpriest1302]

@@XsNiPeRPi3z freelancing

[@coleyod]

The beauty of being a loser: No silly expectations to meet from society etc.

[@kithu1231]

👍🏻

[@dxii_real]

bruh

[@rejectwokeness1314]

No need to deal with devious people who can even be your family members

[@rickyticky3350]

Yup. I actually live a comfortable life style.

[@RstGamingReviews]

This is kind of a black and white statement.

[@CA-qw7qk]

My parents are raging classists and put all sorts of standards on me growing up: the jobs I can have, the education I can peruse, the passions that are suitable, how to dress, who is acceptable to date, how much money is too little ALL just so they can impress others, to make them feel like losers or their kids . At first I fell for it and ….I punished myself, I lied about how much I make, I forgot to be thankful for the things I have, I’ve envied the success of others etc until….I had to give up my job because it was going nowhere ….now I’m everything my parents consider a looser no job, no perfect body, not dressing elegantly cause I got nowhere to go, no kids BUT I have an amazing husband, I get to take care of the house everyday….yes I struggle with depression but ….I’m working on myself I try to push myself to learn new things not to make money, not to be seen as successful but ONLY to make myself feel fulfilled. I’m happy to be what my asshole parents consider a looser because now I’m finally free to be myself without worrying about the fact that my moms friends cousins daughter is the CEO of Audi in Switzerland lol

[@jdshl8423]

I'm a loser (in many sense of the term explained here), and when I embraced it as a part of my unambitious character, I stopped struggling and discovered how lazy I could be and still get by well and happy. That was over 20 years ago. Now I'm past 45 and heading well into an early retirement. I'm not particularly rich, but I have far more money in my bank account than the majority of people my age. It takes a lot of time, effort and thought to be a well off full time bum.

[@trikpikmusic]

When someone calls other a loser they lose most of my respect. I think, calling someone a loser means you don't have any understanding of how the world, and people in it works. Same thing as being called stupid. I was called a loser many times, and also a winner many more. I am 35 years old single man with out a job and I'm not happy. But I am working on my self and improving my skills so this state I'm in will change at a certain point, and I'm aware of that so I can deal with loneliness and lack of money. I am talented but unlucky in some regards but untalented and lucky in other, just as we all are. I am also proud to not be bothered with what other people think of me. Thanks for the video, this is a great subject to tackle for this modern times.

[@ryugavegeta5734]

Brother I would like to share something from my experience as a 21yr old .I respect you but I think that you are -> Falling in classic self improvement trap where you become delusional thinking you dont need anybody and you will improve and achieve success. ->I made that mistake when i was 18yr old trust me if it doesn't work out the way you thought ,it would eat you out alive. ->My advice would be if your a shy kid introvert but hard-working do not expect anything and avoid negative spiral of overthinking and comparison.Because these.2 things are deadly and would stop you from achieving what you actually are capable of. Thats real success!!

[@trikpikmusic]

@@ryugavegeta5734 Brother... I'm a 35yr old (as I wrote in the comment above) I'm trying to learn programing and get in to game development (that's what I'm working on) and that takes time. My last job was special effects technician (real fires and explosions and things like that) I lost my job because of Corona and fell in to depression.. Also, I have some serious mental and emotional problems that can't be fixed easily and those are standing in my way. I had plenty of success in my life and I'm not expecting much so I'm not delusional. I have support and I need that support so I know I need others. You seem mature for your age but I think you are coming to conclusions a bit to quickly. Thanks for the concern anyway. What I was trying to say in my last comment is that everything changes... you go up and then you go down... being a loser or a winner is not a constant state of being, it also depends on your perception of success.

[@ryugavegeta5734]

@@trikpikmusic Wish you the all the best for your journey 👍

[@joshuabrown2134]

@@ryugavegeta5734 man your 21... You have a lot to learn. Tbh I feel like your comment is disrespectful towards my guy and you sound entitled..

[@lindaschultz7900]

Thank you for this! I lost my job and many friends and acquaintances are judging me because I haven't found another job fast enough. The people I know hate their jobs so maybe there is some jealousy there.. This tutorial Has Changed my thinking. I am going to try and no longer worry about what people think of me.

[@guillermochavez2515]

Good for you, you shouldn't worry too much what people may think of you, they don't feed you, they don't dress you, they don't put a roof on your head... get the idea? Take care!

[@ecman324]

Maybe your friends are getting frustrated that there's job that you can take but you decide to be selective.

[@12onin_Gypsy]

You're gonna be fine 🤠

[@lindaschultz7900]

@@guillermochavez2515 Yes! Thank you . . .I do now!!

[@rogerm3708]

The greatest peace comes from accepting this moment as only belonging to you and nobody else. Regardless of your circumstances, it is yours and nobody else's to experience

[@MagmaleV]

Life is a journey, and whether you a "winner" or a "loser" at the end of it is always death. When you think about that fact long enough, you realize most things people stressed about doesn't matter at all

[@MrGuggisberg]

That doesn't eliminate consequences.

[@xtalpax902]

It's not the same for everyone,say that to someone who has childs

[@MrAcrobot]

Damn right

[@aarepelaa1142]

@@MrGuggisberg nothing you do matters in any way to you after you're dead, you could go on a pshycho rampage and die, you'd just be dead, nothing else.

[@Dowlphin]

But the inevitability of death does not really solve the problem of suffering on the path towards it.

[@Joel-pg4yi]

I have traumatic childhood so I avoid people so I'm a loser and people who made me like this in the first place are winners. Being kind good person = loser Being abuser over confident = winner

[@swordofll9599]

Confident good person = win win

[@omi9447]

Easiest thing to fake - confidence

[@rgw5991]

Sad thing but true. I mean its not TRUE, but people treat it like that is true, so it might as well be true. But you should never stop trying to look after yourself and improve your situation.

[@orangejuice7156]

@@rgw5991 I wouldn't call it true, I would call it real.

[@EvaCFricke]

Yes, those who are outgoing or social make others feel they should do the same. But everyone's story is different. Everyone's personality is different. Show empathy and be yourself and let the other people who they're.

[@sleepyz2z2]

It seems a lot easier to feel like a loser when the internet has created an open window into everyone else's lives, and more often than not exaggerates the finer qualities of them while burying the downsides. It can foster a self-defeating attitude where you always feel like you're behind.

[@justanothermortal1373]

One of the most amazing philosophies that I've ever heard came from a talk I had with my friend. While relating to her my insecurities, she replied, "Well, I think the thing about life that you have to accept is that there will always be people who are better than you. Better looking, better liked, wealthier and more successful. But the tragedy isn't that you aren't as good or will never be as good but it's that you think that just because you are not *as* good as them, it means that you're no good at all. So just focus on being the best that you can be because I promise that you will never not be enough." Her words changed my perception of everything.

[@MintyArisato]

your friend is quite wise, I've taken these words to heart as well. thank you for sharing them

[@80neptune]

When I look around at the people who have checked all the boxes of success, I'm usually not all that impressed.

[@SC-gw8np]

Same here. Modern day success is so underwhelming…and narcissistic. Our market value and bank balance decides success, not the quality of our work, or whether our work creates any value in the world . The most ‘successful’ people in the modern definition then are CEOs of Fortune 500 companies!!🙃 Those who cause the most destruction to the environment, grossly abuse human rights (in developing countries) & exploit workers by working them to the bone for poor wages are the most successful among us.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@gatanegra8815]

@@SC-gw8np exactly.

[@arjunp7547]

@@SC-gw8np it was same during ancient times too...see how they built pyramids...and kings ruled the world...religions suppressed people and science, and leaders who preach philosophy but still want to control their followers...now technology advanced and population high.. there was natural disasters in ancient times too, earthquakes, flood ,lava...but now we can blame it on humans

[@xyeB]

How

[@joyhfelixpravum]

As long as you breathe, you've succeeded in life; as being alive, is all that life intended for you. You are successful in the eyes of life itself, you're successful in the eyes of something much, MUCH bigger than society, something much more real. Will you believe in the lies of something so pathetic and small? Or the truth that something so big and real is telling you all the time, every second you are here, RIGHT FUCKING NOW? With every breathe you take.

[@Emanresu56]

I've been through a ton of shit in life (including abuse, for example), and as a result, I've lost ambition to achieve anything society would consider to be "great". I've come to terms with that. I consider that success.

[@RicardoSantos-oz3uj]

The reasonable man adapts to society. The unreasonable man makes society adapt to him. All change in society is made by the unreasonable man.

[@joshuabrown2134]

I think your great ✊🏿

[@sheep8618]

Remember that saying that you are a “loser” is all that they can do, if you can get over that and don’t give a fk, then you have nothing more to worry and happiness will follows. Life is too short to care what others think of you.

[@Bobbiewilhelm59]

Thanks!

[@Einzelgänger]

Thanks again, Robert!

[@hamsini1]

I read some of the comments and people disagreed as they might have thought being a loser means laying in couch all day doing nothing. No. Even a tree tries to be a full fledged tree so yes all humans are striving to become the best versions of themselves. But as Einzelganger said the success doesn’t always depend on hard work…… external circumstances stances has to a lot to do with it. Therefore even after trying ur best to live a satisfying or a full fledged life if people call u a loser then their opinions shouldn’t affect you. I think this was the message “ to not care so much of what people think of you as u r already winning” than anything else.

[@majrouge6813]

Moreso, this approach based on pseudo common moral feelings fail to adress the conditions that produces the situation and just blame the individual, which in addition of being plain stupid is damaging to mental health. Everyone is just dealing with whatever cards they were given. A little bit of compassion would help counter the despicable resentment that seem to infuse this divide. Think before indulging in petty-mindedness. There are no losers or winners in the end, just people.

[@averageinternetuser526]

@@majrouge6813 well said

[@richard_from_england333]

There's nothing wrong with laying on your couch all day as long as you're happy

[@andikadimasprasetyo5758]

The book "Status anxiety" by Alain de Botton is also worth-reading

[@namannarang2721]

will do

[@madameproblemes6548]

Thanks for the recommendation, now I am eager to read it

[@indigochild6079]

Thanks

[@llywelyngruffydd8474]

If it doesn't deal with women's specific contribution to the problem, it actually isn't even worth reading. Most analyses of the role of status ignore the actual root of the problem because it makes people feel bad to regard women as adults who make contributions the given social arrangement and are thus as responsible for it as anyone else.

[@ReynaSingh]

Human are nuanced and complex. Brushing anyone off with a one word label says more about the person doing the labelling.

[@interdimensionalsailboat]

There's people that judge you for where you are, if that is in a worse position. Others that'll despise you for doing better than before. Some that wish you would revert to bad behaviors. And more that hate it if you turn out to be doing better than they are. There's no escaping it. You cannot win. Play your own game, don't be dragged around by fear of missing out or social retribution It's a struggle, i know.

[@hi-im-huesitos]

Thank you for this video. I've been struggling with addictions and mental illness for quite some years by now, unemployed and with a medical condition (on my lungs) that doesn't allow me to get jobs that are too physically demanding. But trying to keep going forward and make the best out of what I have, I stumble upon this video. Thank you, and for all the people out there feeling like this, you are not alone, you are not a loser, you are a wonderful person. Love yourself and keep going forward

[@ilovebutterstuff]

I get labeled a loser from time to time, but I'm happy to do the right thing, even when no one is looking, and I can fix my own problems. Sometimes people who call me a loser come to me for help with something. I like to see if helping them will change their attitude sometimes. Never does. I think they see it as having the upper hand. Of course he's helping me, I'm a winner, and he's a loser. I just laugh.

[@elinope4745]

People project, those who are looking for losers are looking for someone to project on more often than not. The type of people who go around doing that are losers themselves in their own mind.

[@notrhythm]

such people are not worth your time

[@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500]

Wish i was as skilled as you. But there is also a good thing about the loser label. Ppl who cannot see your worth are honest assholes. Imagine you were popular. Of course there are good things as well. Probably extras, cooperation etc. But ppl would watch you and criticize you. And they would only like you for the feeling you give them. They wont like you for yourself. And there is a constant doubt. Are they fooling me or are they being honest? Loosers know who is not worth it. They cannot be robbed. Hated for the good. They are not challenged because ppl dont look for ego boosts. They are not stabbed. You live a tranquil life with the freedom of anynomity (is this the correct word?) But only if you are an average looser?

[@zegeist333]

Stop helping them

[@yankokassinof6710]

@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500 your thought process makes sense to me because thats literally the life ive been living and the one i want to live, i want tranquility peace and kindness in my life, i want to live my love life in peace, i want to be able to go anywhere do anything without being bothered by other man trying to dick measure, i despise competition 90% of the time because of how it is setup in todays world. A phrase i have coined for myself and my internal ramblings is: A peaceful life (that doesnt aspire much) is also a life worth living, no matter how big my potential for success is, i just want to live a healthy comfortable life, because one day, my eyes will shut forever and my consciousness will be no more

[@Bodyknowledge77]

I have no friends, I'm semi-disabled, haven't had a girlfriend since 09' (I haven't switched sides), barely have money etc etc. That which would obviously be deemed as being a loser. However I've overcome things that most couldn't and have created more things of value than most can and do. If labels are useful then I deem myself as a "Desirable Loser".

[@peteypete1984]

Always a better story when u have that dark period(s) and can make it thru the other side. I think we’re here to build our character so ur winning

[@Bodyknowledge77]

@@peteypete1984 I sometimes tell myself that and to those who get paid indirectly and volunteer to listen.

[@Ajay-km8br]

You're a fu**ing rockstar!!!

[@sigrid3553]

Stay strong brother, you have a great attitude- I am sure your inner qualities have developed during life’s struggles. No, you are not a looser! You are a wonderful person with a strong survival instinct. Keep on 👏👏👏

[@Bodyknowledge77]

@@sigrid3553 I appreciate your kindness. Thanks.

[@josepheridu3322]

Society is always redefining what a "loser" is. Those who claim to be tolerant and "accepting" often call losers those who disagree with their values.

[@walexander8378]

Because the final summation is what matters. If you make 100 people feel bad with what you say or do, your 1 set of feelings matters less than the 100 sets of feelings. Especially if you are the aggressor which I have to say is the vibe I get from your comment. You sound like a cry bully.

[@josepheridu3322]

@@walexander8378 Sure, and honestly I think this is human nature. I do not see it as good or bad. A conservative in a Californian city can easily feel and be considered a loser, while a liberal in the South may be consider the outsider loser. It is not only politics, though.

[@arjunp7547]

@@walexander8378 now I got it, he is talking about people about you...for no reason you started calling him names

[@TheTeodorsoldierabvb]

@@walexander8378 So bascially, the more people believe in something, however ridiculous it is, the more valid it is? That's what you're saying, and that's what I disagree with.

[@Vik1919]

@@walexander8378 Free yourself from the responsibility of caring about other people's feelings but do not treat them like crap. It is quite liberating.

[@Razzle_Dazzle-]

'It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.' -Marcus Aurelius Once you fully accept and embrace yourself, you will feel very liberated and free. Many people say i'm a loser. I don't care, i love myself and the simple life i'm living. Live on your own terms !

[@GuyLogen]

Man am I glad to have this video randomly pop up in my KZbin feed. You could say that I'm just figuring out how to be a "happy loser" without even realising that it's a thing and it's possible. I am a believer that life and people are constantly changing, so any circumstance that is befallen someone or that someone currently experiences, isn't permanent. So to have a mentality expecting change and accepting current circumstance (even if they aren't befitting of once dreams/goals), is an important thing to cultivate. I feel like everyone will be a loser in their life at some point, because that's just how life can be, unpredictable & ever changing. So it's up to us to change our mentality, adapt to the situations as best as possible and never stop looking out for an opportunity for change/the next shift.

[@Gielderst]

I'm a happy loser. And i'm glad with what I've got. A simple low payed job, a small living place, no partner to bother me and last but not least my mother. And I simply don't socialize with others. I Just live day to day and don't care much what happens, as long as I'm not causing anything bad on purpose. I simply stop caring and worrying that I'm not doing anything with my life cause I know that nothing is forever anyway.

[@Robert.The.AllKnowing]

A horrible way to live indeed, the Copium is too strong that you can't even reflect on the horrible situation you are. The pain is too much to bear, it's just a pathetic existence, being denied being a human, experience humans emotions like joy, social connection, social bonding, love, sex, etc.. THIS IS TOO MUCH.

[@kyleh6173]

@@Robert.The.AllKnowing if he genuinely is happy then who are you to say his lifestyle is horrible. You’re projecting your own views of what constitutes a good life onto another

[@Gielderst]

@@kyleh6173 I'm very aware of how I'm living. And I've simply realized for myself that more isn't always better for me. I consider myself a very humble and modest person and I literally couldn't care less of others successes, wealth or status. Cause I see not much point in that. So I'm content and just go with my flow.

[@davidrosenfeld5525]

Smart. Keep it up ☺️

[@Robert.The.AllKnowing]

@@kyleh6173 Humans are not hardwired to live in an anti-social environment.

[@mindfulsticks]

Bro took 13 min to say, "If people think you're a loser, but you don't care, then you're a happy loser." I feel that way sometimes

[@DrSwazz]

In all fairness, simply hearing good advice once is rarely enough to make you internalize it.

[@gunnasintern]

great timing, just got finished watching your latest video before This reminds me of a comment on another video with a similar topic, something along the lines of “Better to be labeled as a loser and content with oneself than to constantly be a slave to the endless pursuit of approval”

[@H0elessRomantic1]

It's funny, how we are often reminded of importance of social interaction and such, while it simply ain't shit. It's the entertainment, that we are more addicted to than any other, for evolutionary reasons. But this pursuit for validation cripples us just as alcohol addiction does.

[@thatgui88]

YES

[@richard_from_england333]

@@H0elessRomantic1 I chose not to have any friends a year ago and I couldn't be happier.. Don't even have a need for a friend anymore

[@deltabeta5527]

I have to thank youtube's algorithm for suggesting this video right when I needed it the most. Thanks for making this inspirational video Bro. Keep up the good work!

[@NickGreiner1988]

Very well written and spoken, this is something i meditate on when i hear/see someone being called a loser or some other derogatory name, even if they really have done something that warrants some kind of abusive response (as in what did you expect? You did this and everyone will call you that.) I always feel like taking the bad guy's side when everyone else is calling him a loser for being a certain way. Like the song by Beck: "I'm a loser baby, so why don't you kill me?" I see that as a kind of challenge... You can make some mistake in life and have everyone gang up on you but when you say "OKAY! I'M ALL THOSE THINGS YOU JUST CALLED ME! ... So what? What are you going to do about it now? You've already had your say but I'm still here. Nothing has changed despite the emotional effort you put into hounding and berating me...

[@peaceturtleinfinity]

As an American south of the loser line I am glad to have heard this. I’ve done right by people my whole life, was never rewarded in turn and I’m okay with that. I’ve always tried to live right and do right for the sake of it, not expecting something in return. Thanks for this video.

[@cso1697]

Most peaceful way to get through life. Bitterness and resentment are too tiresome anyway.

[@AnotherBeerMovie]

I am what would be considered a loser by the "winners". I don't have a job, i live at my parents, i don't have sex, i am obese, I tried to commit suicide 5 times and i spend most of my time alone. But don't consider myself a loser and i hope the "winners" will choke on that. I thrive in solitude, i read books and learn much from them, i play video-games, mainly single-player cause i like a good story with good graphics and i suck at competitive shooters where most players are cheating and being rude so why bother. I meditate from time to time. I have the time to do what i want. I have been battling depression for 20 years and i learned much from the disease, from myself, how to deal with it, i have my priorities sorted and i feel great now most of the time. With my mother we took care of my grandmother after her 2nd stroke for 5 years, We did everything. It was the most difficult task i had to do in my life but we did it from start to finish. I have 4 real friends, not facebook friends, yes they have jobs, yes they live a "normal" life and no they don't keep me as a friend out of mercy. We go way back to high school and we keep in touch. I follow Taoist and and Stoic precepts and i am happy most of the time. It made my life so much easier. I don't care what others think of me, i am not an asshole and i try to be kind and compassionate. I am free of strangers' gaze, i don't have to pretend to be someone that i am not in order to impress someone to get something out of that person, i don't have to court because i don't look for sexual interaction and i still feel good. And more ... The less you desire the more you own. Thank you.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

Wow Tom. Good for you.

[@chriswinborne5549]

thank you for sharing your story

[@AnotherBeerMovie]

Thank you. As i said I'm doing ok. wish you the best. Tom 👍🗽

[@Charisma432]

“The less you desire the more you own” that sentence right there is the truth!

[@peterbelanger4094]

At least you have those 4 friends. I just have one, 2000 miles away. I don't physically live with parents, but my dad does cover all my expenses. The rest of my family is scattered around the country, I rarely speak with them, just text messages every so often. I used to 'thrive' in solitude. But then as my body has aged, doing things like playing video games has become painful due to ergonomic strain injury. I'm over 50, my eyes are starting to go bad on me (maybe from looking at a monitor too much). So what was once my favorite thing, using the computer, has become extremely frustrating. I may not be obese, but maybe because that's because I smoke cigarettes like a chimney. (talk about something the world points at and screams "LOSER!") I'm too deeply addicted to cigarettes to quit, most can't get their head around the level of my addiction. I'm a heavy chain smoker. I'd be more likely to quit if I had a better social life, any time I had been inspired to quit it was in the past, when I was more social. But now, being so alone in life, never married, no kids, no retirement funds... I'm kinda hoping these cigarettes will do what they are said to do. Why would I want to stick around extra years. It's getting tougher and tougher to go on. I'm falling apart and there isn't much hope. And the world will just blame me for all my failures, but they are right, it was all my dumb decisions that led me here, and I am outcast and exiled for being a 'loser'. :( I'm not a happy one.

[@TheJasonx7]

Growing up I was always put down for playing games. And being 35 I haven't been playing much,but I really want to get back in that gamer mentality,so I do agree that people do influence you cause it makes you stop doing what makes you happy. I needed this video,just popped in my recommends like the universe was saying(here listen to this please).

[@leonidasvonsparta]

I always think to myself... Why do we care about strangers or other ppls opinions when it don't matter at all. U have one life and 100 years from now no one cares at all for what we did . If gaming makes u happy because u like it do it!

[@Unicornmazda]

Yes, please go back and play games. It’s the people that judge you that are immature not you!

[@DarknessIsThePath]

As long as you can take care of yourself financially then do what you want, if not then you have no right to leech off others while you lazily just play games all day long.

[@varudeven]

Thank you Jason, because of your comment I am going to play games again.

[@Meilk27]

Out of work for 7 months with no gf, I cannot look at another video game rn

[@ckmodele]

The moment that you let go and be yourself is when you're truly free.

[@Janika-xj2bv]

I stopped comparing myself to others, began to appreciate my own uniqueness. Found peace. It isn't academic or professional success that defines me. I'm an introvert, there's riches in my inner life beyond rat racers' imaginations.

[@ich22]

I became a happy "loser" 2 years ago by decision. From then I grew so fast inside, I suddendly found myself in a "winners" position without any struggle.

[@tedmitten8832]

The only reason I don't get labelled a loser is solely based on me not interacting all that much with society outside of work and family

[@Nickelodeon81]

"Imagine a guy"....proceeds to describe my life.

[@21stkenn89]

😅

[@eddiepuhi8766]

Your not alone bro I'm 31 tho, and I live with someone else's parents pretty much.

[@Miguel_El_Chileno]

me too, my income is disability benefits and i live in a housing project

[@3looy]

As long as you don’t leach off your parents and they are fine with it its fine, help them if you can

[@lola_incarnate]

Flip it to a female, add a few more years to the age, and you'll get my story 😅

[@BalkanRedneck]

It seems to me that every time I tried to step outside my allocated place in life I got smack back into line by Providence. In 2019 I finally managed to get out of my Night Shift job; I switched to days and 6 months later I was offered a Junior Manager Position. I decided to get in shape and participate in a 54mile charity hike. A month later COVID hit and everything did a full 180. My workplace closed and even though I found another job I was back at the bottom. In 2021 I decided to end my lifetime of loneliness and found a GF. I ended up betrayed and it cost me 8 months of trauma and one of my closest friendships. In 2023 I decided to get in shape; ended up developing debilitating OCD and being unable to go anymore. So I've just decided to stay inside my little hole and, as Dostoevsky writes in Notes from the Underground, settle in it.

[@NikiWonoto26]

I'm from Indonesia. I can somehow relate with you. Thanks for being real & honest.

[@KanaNyctous]

What really helps me is positive reinforcement through looking at & celebrating my successes, being as kind as I can to myself & having supportive people. Before my best friends, I'd often feel very bad about myself, partially due to my family I live with. I have asthma with kind of a smoke "allergy", am highly sensitive & have a social phobia so both my mental & physical health keep me from various pursuits. Currently, I have to deal with the cycle of "I want to move out to do better but I can't cause I'm not doing well enough to be able to afford moving out yet". It's hard to fight several battles, sometimes I have to take breaks & be okay with not fighting on some fronts right now in order to rest- but if I manage to either land a job I've been offered or teach myself somethig well enough to make a living out of it from home, then I might finally be able to break free. The part about other people's views is so true- if/when you go vegan or openly stand up against other justice issues, sadly so many people will show their true colours. While there's a thing you simply can't stand or pains you or even emotionally breaks you, others are apathic, in great denial or even make fun about it. It can hurt so much & put great strain on relationships or even break them entirely. When it comes to opinions it's like: "Seriously? Someone who can't even understand/believe basic facts &/or doesn't even have basic respect &/or empathy for fellow sentient beings is someone whose opinion I care/d about? Why?". Of course, it's often not that easy emotionally but when you realise how discriminating many people are, it really lowers one's opinion of them.

[@vickidimi2972]

I have been watching your videos for a year now. I can honestly say, your channel is the best one in all of KZbin! Thank you for helping me get through my darkest moments with all the amazing content. Please keep it coming!

[@parth6115]

That's why we should never pride/ego for our success,post, possession or power, instead we should be grateful and beholden !

[@TruckMechaAddicted]

always thought I'm a real looser. 27 years old; no college or other useful qualifications; never had friends or a girlfriend, bullied and mocked by everyone since I was a child; NEET for most of my life also because of I always suffered from psychiatric disorders as depression, o.c.d., social anxiety, avoidant disorder, apathy, anhedonia etc. all of this create a vicious circle. I feel lost and alienated from the rest of society, and really don't know what to do with my life. And tis condition will hardly change in the next years.

[@Taggez1]

That sounds very tough. I’m sending you a hug through the internet and I hope you’ll feel better someday ❤️ And you’re not a loser. I believe you are capable of many things, your path just looks a litte bit different compared to others. Plus you’ve suffered at the hands of other’s cruelty. Stay strong and keep striving for improvement. There is always help to get.

[@0chriso]

This video might be the most influencal of all youtube videos I watched on my self improvement trip last year, which ironically is about beeing a happy loser. But this term gave me a new identity, and following to that a new approach to all the things I perceived as negative in my life. After making this mindshift, I had different experiences in work, friendship family and even love. I don't wan't to describe this as sucess, as this would going against the sense of the video, but I definetely would say it made me finally happy. Whatever could go wrong, I was always thinking - at least I can be a happy loser and nobody can take that away from me beside myself. So thanks for that! as english is not my native language, I hope I could make the positive Impact from this video clear on my life and also express my gratitude.

[@brendaoro2951]

"Im a loser", i got a job but life happened and now im living with my mom again at 27, i lost everything, future plans, money, time, ability to drive, even health, my literal balance is gone, since im dizzy most of the time, i dont truly consider myself a loser or a victim, im working as hard as i can to even imagine a different future✌️

[@DragonBlood88]

You're 27, you're still a baby, I'm in my mid 30s and I just want to let you know, that you'll figure things out and relax 27 is a great age to make changes. It's a time of patience. It'l happen for you. God bless

[@Fallensky17]

I took care of my dad through cancer for 10 years. 30 here

[@richard_from_england333]

Don't worry, I know a guy who's 35 and still lives with his mom and has been without a job for at least 5 years.. but he has a girlfriend and is actually very happy... So don't rush things, there's plenty of time

[@aakashailajan]

Life is a mix of pain and pleasure. Pleasure is the interval between 2 Pains and Pain is the interval between 2 Pleasures." Stop trying to ride against the tides of life, instead flow with the tide. Acceptance is half the battle won. 💪🏻🙌🏼

[@BattleFlanky]

I'd say life is predominantly pain, interspersed with heavy boredom and labour with a very light sprinkling of pleasure of often fleeting and hollow nature.

[@absta100]

@@BattleFlanky I like that 🙏🏻

[@Fallensky17]

Nahhhh my life has been constant pain.

[@noone3216]

@@Fallensky17 I hear ya, mate.

[@i_amnot_here2453]

I experienced a life being a loser. But when my life turned to be the same as the winners do, I wanted to be a loser again. Being a winner is very despicable that one longs for that serene experience of being a loser.

[@lucianboar3489]

I call it the voluptouness of nothing. I yearn for it even when I finally got something I wanted for a long time. Because I had just made complete peace with the idea of not getting it. But I'll have to make room for the nothing inside what I got, I'll have to have both.

[@FaithfulFumoFan23]

No "winners" or "losers" in life! It's not a competition it's just life!

[@isunlloaoll]

Life is not a competition because competition is fair. Participants start on the same starting line and no one has an unfair advantage over another. Life is the complete opposite of that. Some are born with good health, family, and wealth. While others are born sickly, poor, and in broken families in a poor country. Life is not a competition, this is a lottery and a rat race beating each other up for the scraps.

[@nocturneuh]

Agreed, ultimately, we are all just food for worms.

[@Polo-715]

@@nocturneuh I like that

[@denpogi10]

Yep

[@nickyliu8762]

_Post-modern, first world upper-class human life_ - every other form of life on this planet is very much competitive

[@الوكيفك-ك7م]

If you cared about everyones opinion, you wouldn't have time for yourself. It's you who is the hero in your story, at the end of the day no one cries with you when you're sad, no one fights with you when you're having a hard situation and no one pays your bill when it gets high. So it's your life, people like to feed their ego with insulting others. Be happy, improve, experience and show the world your middle finger as it deserves.

[@gameaddictgonewild777]

I have no job, no family, i gamed for 8 years non stop. I am not a loser because i did that. I still wake up doing push ups. I go outside climbing. I am very healthy ( after a bump in the road wich made me game even more) I dont over eat, or over consume. I might not have the money people like to have, but i will out life most of you

[@davidthomas5896]

Who else needed to hear this? I found this to be greatly reassuring. We should find happiness in who we are! It can be hard though.

[@eddiestilll]

this video was a huge uplift for me. i've been going through a lot in my life right now where i've been studying so hard for an important exam in my career repeatedly and failing. i've had plenty of people tell me that i had been studying correctly but now i believe it may have been out of my control and it isn't my fault... thank you for helping me accept myself and find the value of self love and happiness 🙂

[@diogenesthecynic1334]

our society really needs this kind of videos , thank you!

[@virtuouspyromaniac4467]

"One shouldn't be concerned with the opinions of the sheeps" - Heraclitus Most people who throw the term loser and label it on other people do not think critically or introspect why the label itself is being used, they just learn it from their social conventions, and how the society view and call such individuals, it is not an opinion that they form, they just adopt it and that's what conformity is, those people are sheeps who blindly follow their herd.

[@mikiasg8453]

I am preparing myself to be a loser. Not that I am not putting in the effort to accomplish my goals but rather to expect my pursuits to fail and see success as a Happy surprise.

[@LisaS1]

People have treated me like a loser about as far back as I can remember and since I was treated like a loser so much throughout my life's journey, as far back as my early childhood I started feeling like I was a "loser" and that's what I became a "loser", a person who was not able to become a success in their life. Not that I believe anybody should be called or defined as "a loser" I do not.

[@ChessMasteryOfficial]

The thing is that we are all going to die, so better enjoy time that you have using things that you have. Other people have their own agenda, so don't worry about them too much. Have fun with people too, but if they are not at the right frequency, probably you can't do much. In that case, just move on and have fun somewhere else.

[@johnathanhamilton5248]

This is a very important video. For whatever reason I happen to watch your videos when I'm in a place where I feel hopeless and apathetic. From the research, structure, to the overarching points you make; Your videos inspire inquiry in me. I appreciate that the most cause it's like you don't give definite answers to an ends meet, but it's not like you're not offering possible solutions per se. You give me ideas and food that keep my metabolism of self discovery going. You're a special channel and if I could contribute more I would; But all I have for you is infinite Likes. Lol Sorry My Bad 😃

[@Tom-no7go]

If you think you are a loser, you become one. If you don't think you are a loser, then you're not. Mind has power, and we need to learn how to manage it.

[@cephuwu]

Another excellent, thought-provoking vid. All too often ppl are quick to judge others. I try to surround myself with ppl that aren't like that, who can see there's more to life than being wealthy, "successful", famous or popular. It's all hollow & superficial in the end, and not where true contentment & peace of mind comes from.

[@Johny40Se7en]

12:29 Such wise and lovely words, which are rarely spoken. "What counts is YOUR definition of good and bad, success and failure, winning and losing"... I'll add, "and sticking to your deepest morals as much as possible. Because that is true sign of strength, and unbending integrity." Especially important nowadays, when media and advertisements encourage and profit from toxic behaviours.

[@enliven4203]

If you're happy, you're not a loser. The real loser is the one who worked all those extra hours in order to get that promotion, the corner office, and a boost in pay. Only to end up working even longer hours with more stress, more pressure, which results in a lowered quality of life. People are fooled into thinking that a fancy sounding job title and moderate rise in pay is the definition of success, but it's not. Quality of life is the definition of success. Creating a balanced life, one which affords you more time with friends and loved ones, one that doesn't cause you crippling worries and stress, is a life that deserves the designation of success.

[@MrFriendly789]

Once i was so desperate that i thought about suicide but now i am happy winner. God's providence helped me.

[@limetree3080]

Words like “loser” and “lazy” are created by the ruling class to better manage the working class by pressing them with social ridicule

[@SC-gw8np]

It’s also a good way to force them into the consumption cycle. Work-consume-repeat. Wage stagnant. Inflation rises. Maximum profits for capitalists. We are merely livestock.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lucianboar3489]

But were they though? Or they appeared just as a response to the demands of the ruling class? As a way to adapt to those demands, not counter them.

[@sudhindermurali9934]

This video has found me at the right moment. And seeing the comment section with so much positivity and love is making my heart swell with gratitude and happiness.

[@redhotkido]

I’ve given up trying to be cool Life is too damn outta control for that. However there is far too many things to be grateful for and it really helps me keep going despite my deep psychological issues which I had a break from today

[@maymadison3620]

Thank youu needed this after quitting my job and having not the faintest idea about what to do next.

[@TheAIKnowledgeHub]

I'm a loser and I'm more happy now than I ever have been when I gave up. Like I was extremely suicidal when I was trying because I couldn't overcome what most view as basic barriers. Things that could be overcome by others and many were able to be successful. While being disabled, unlucky, or whatever reason. Things wouldn't work out no matter how much effort I put into it. After giving up, my focus changed to just being happy. Do what makes me happy. Know that when my parents kick me out, when they die, when I go homeless, and so on. I will take my life. Like I help out, and do what i can. But I also stopped stressing over stupidity. Sadly, those around me once in a while they go a bit nuts worrying about me. Trying to bend over backwards in trying to find me a good job. I'm thankful, but I also get the blunt end when they can't find any jobs for me other than min wage. Not because I won't put in. But because legit their is no jobs and what i put in tends to not even give me an interview.

[@richard_from_england333]

After your parents die you don't have to become "homeless", you can be homeless with style, like joining a commune, squatting, living off the grid in a cabin in the woods.. Who knows, myb you'll even find a person who matches your lifestyle... Or a dog, you can never go wrong with a dog

[@MACA_Zeon]

Wtf bro

[@MACA_Zeon]

You are not happy and you are still suicidal dude

[@Amantducafe]

This was amazing. However i would like to know more about those that see themselves as losers regardless of what society says. Because there are some people that call themselves losers even if noone around them is saying it. The failure they see comes from their lack of skills, lack of partner, lack of work all while aging without improving those failings which becomes a spiral downward for some. This guide is amazing for those that take into consideration the opinion of others but when the worst critic is yourself then it make things harder.

[@cheenis99]

thats because in their mind they are still comparing themselves to another person- an imaginary version of who they want to be, a combination of many other people's skills and lifestyles that they don't have. so yea, nobody's around, but the comparison is

[@glowingeyes5567]

Im 24, i call myself a failure. My family said they dont see me as one but i feel like im disappointing them. I cry before sleep and cry after i wake up. I just got laid off last 22nd of July and had lots of interview but havent been that successful. I hope I get a job sooner.

[@Amantducafe]

@@glowingeyes5567 I hope you manage to get a job, but also a job that you will not use to torture yourself with. Life is hard and without family, community or support it is close to impossible. I wish you the best in your journey.

[@glowingeyes5567]

@@Amantducafe Thank you so much, friend. Cheers to all our pains and successes in threading life. Thank you for the kind words 💙

[@Gabbriosa]

I really wish I could have seen videos like this when I was younger. As an autistic and introvert, I was always shamed for being “boring”, not talkative enough, not doing enough, “weird”, and once I got into my teen years that’s when it really messed with my mental health and self esteem, and I began living my life in pretence and forcing myself to do things I genuinely didn’t want to do in order to be “normal” and considered “interesting”. Then also had parents who put on a lot of pressure to have that typical “success” of university degree, impressive job, etc., but I know that was based on their own life regrets. I’ve battled anxiety and feelings of never being “enough” or “normal” for years, including the struggle of easily becoming overstimulated which just makes me totally shut down. When I think back to when I was at my happiest, it was at a time before I let society’s pressures get to me and I was just being myself and enjoying it: I love quiet, routine, good books with a cup of tea, piano, and doing art especially, just for the enjoyment of it. I love being alone especially and don’t understand that need for constant company or noise.

[@Wreckz_Tea]

I think it's important to know that being a loser is a mindset and you can only be a loser if you believe you are. If you are happy with your life and feel like you have won in the game of life then you can't be a loser. It's also important to know that being a loser now doesn't mean you have to be a loser for the rest of your life. You can make choices now that turn your life towards a direction that makes you feel like a winner. Those choices will often require hard work and involve a lot of discomfort but if you are willing to push through it, you can win

[@RB1987]

I am a loser .

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

​@@RB1987 dont give up,i hope success for you

[@clairedebbs9972]

Thank you for this fantastic eye opening video once again! I have felt so many times like a loser myself, because I could not keep up with what others had (me as a Single mum working part time and other mothers working even less or not at all and buying everything they fancied with the money their husbands earned) and then giving out to me, why I did not look into such or such a solution for any of my problems which all involved a lot of money (?!!!?) Or making remarks that our apartment could be cleaner, when I did all cleaning myself after work and taking care of my child, when she despite not even working at all had a cleaner come twice a week. As luck would have it for her, a man with a great income fell in love with her. No effort (needed) from her side to create a show off life from then on. What upset me most was the fact that common friends would assume that she was a great house maker, while I was lazy and sloppy. - Did not my apartment prove this? Why do people always assume that whatever can be seen in someone's life is 100% (related to) their (not) doing? Why is it so hard to admit: "Yes, I was/am plain lucky in that regard." Or "I am so sorry for you with all the bad luck you have had so far. You deserve so much better." Now, that would be a good start, I think.

[@rocketbun5413]

I just realized like. Even if you feel bad luck rising in your life, if you’re watching this safe in your home then it’s gonna be alright. You were born in the era where things are kept at a constant level of comfort for people. If you need help that’s okay too, you should always ask for help if you need it. I hope your paths are straight ❤️

[@knighthawk882]

Disabled people deal with this on a deep level. We are looked down upon and called losers

[@accade_acaso]

These days I’m happy that I can walk a little, cook and eat 3 meals and keep my body clean, all by myself. Sometimes I feel like a loser having no job or someone to date, but for me, with my chronic pain and my illness, the game is different and in this perspective I’m winning one day after another.

[@syd6358]

​@@accade_acaso you are hero.

[@mikaela12979]

If you're happy with your life, it shouldn't matter what others think of you. So, you don't have a car, own a house, have a girlfriend or a dream job, it doesn't matter - you can still be happy. But, as an adult (unless disabled), everyone should be able to pull their weight, not be a burden on others (family, society).

[@MrGuggisberg]

Happy with loneliness and hardship without much relief or hope? Unless you're Gandhi. The bad times are stronger than coping mechanisms. And happiness is inconsistent. Does your favorite food or drink always make you happy? Does a hobby always hit the spot? No!

[@richard_from_england333]

If they choose to support you, it's their fault if your a "burden"

[@lundsweden]

I would argue being a loser is not even a thing. It's all in people's perception. As a youth, I was unemployed- labeled a loser by some. Then I worked in low skilled jobs- ditto. But now I'm pretty well off and have lots of qualifications. I am the same person but are perceived differently now- this has led me to believe many people are stupid.