The Sentence Finisher: Make People Love Talking To You

[@Its_Lu_Bu]

My problem isn't "that's not good enough for me to say". It's "wow, that would be extremely inappropriate for this work meeting I'm in right now"

[@myrojyn]

Dooooo iiiiiit

[@donttoktome]

Frrr

[@MrGhoulie]

Here’s a piece of advice I learned myself. If you are nervous or have social anxiety about going out with friends or some social event, workout beforehand. Before I go to a job interview I do 40 pushups. When I know that I have a date that night I go for a mile jog around the block then follow up with a shower. The push-up thing is great for last minute prep as it only takes a minute, can be done wearing even a suit, you don’t need to get too sweaty or need to be on the ground. It’s helped every time. Not only does it help me FEEL better. I also feel better about myself as just a little pump can make your muscles just ever so slightly more defined and veiny. When my heart is racing from anxiety, I have a pit in my stomach, get my heart rate up even more with exercise. Then as my body is coming down from the workout, it slows my heart rate. It’s almost like tricking my body into think my heart was racing from the exercise and not my mind. When my body gets antsy with anxiety and I can’t sit still I let it all out. I get my body physically tired. This works for me, I’ve been doing it for years. It’s worth a try for anyone who feels this way!

[@BaritoneMonkey]

Super cool idea, thanks for sharing! Special Ed teacher here with a bit of a background in Social-Emotional Learning (and a background of anxiety myself). I love learning about self-soothing techniques, this one is new to me but on the surface makes a lot of sense even physiologically. (Sometimes our brains interpret our body sensations as emotions based on context, which we can use to our advantage.) I'm going to use this for sur, thanks!

[@gordongekko2781]

Good advice. Thanks for sharing that. I especially like the heart rate trick. Coming down from some cardio is going to feel like a calming slowdown even if you're nervous about something. Plus you've burned off some excess energy.

[@stockyguru]

Thanks 😊

[@Beethoven5th]

Thanks for coming today...wait a minute...aren't You the guy who was doing pushups in the lobby? ....Hey Susan, please cancel the rest of our interviews 😁

[@MrGhoulie]

@@Beethoven5th it’s an absolute power move! 😂

[@destinyhntr]

Ellen gave a good example of what not to do. Constantly being judgy and belittling puts people on the defensive or lowers the overall mood. Meanwhile, Chris seemed to realize that everyone in the audience isn't rich and condescending like her, so they'd obviously like to hear him positively talk about his past life.

[@littlepotato2741]

I solved the "never be boring again" situation years ago. I just started carrying a couple of machetes on me. People never act bored around me. They are always glued to every thing I say and do. My personality is so amazing that people quickly become overwhelmed by it and I've had numerous people actually run away because my personality was too amazing. Good times... good times.

[@jacksamson1239]

Personally I prefer the suicide vest, it gives you the roguish unpredictable look that no level of charisma will ever give you

[@Prashik_ft11]

Chad.

[@PeacefulPotato]

I missread it as "matches"... Here I was trying to figure out the secret of carrying some matches

[@littlepotato2741]

@@PeacefulPotato Hello fellow Potatoan! Matches do work, but you have to keep lighting them. While matches are fairly cheap, it turns into an ongoing expense (and a bit of a mess.) Machetes are much better as it is a one time expense. To be fair, two out of my three machetes are just the handle so that little trick can help people limit the investment needed when switching from matches to machetes.

[@NANOG-P8]

this seems like a quote from andrew tate .

[@mr.brightside7496]

I once complimented a girl by saying: " you smell really nice". then followed it up with: "you must spend a lot of time in the shower". needless to say, i never heard from her again lol.

[@polyaddict]

That was funny though, go for a girl that would appreciate that

[@theeveoftime2052]

me, a girl who spends a lot of time in the shower 👁👄👁🚿

[@PinupSticknerd]

Thinking with* two😅🎉 I appreciate you-

[@stevensacks5479]

She would laugh if you were hot or higher status than her

[@yanivmozes8155]

I applaud your courage. If you're uncomfortable with what you're saying, the other person can feel it, try to find the balance between being playful and being yourself

[@Mma_tips]

Whenever I see a notification from Charisma on Command, my mind instantly goes, Wohoo!! another way to improve myself. Love the detailed analysis of small things that people take for granted. Breaking down each and every part of a conversation and building on top of that is a great example of 'First Principles' I would like to point out one area where you can improve is the title of the video. Whenever I watch the video, I would rather click on a video with a positive title rather than a negative one. For example 1. How to avoid being boring in a conversation 2. How to convert a boring conversation into a fun one 3. Why you should focus on self-amusing in a conversation? This is my take on this topic. Great content as always Support From India!!

[@g.mitchell7110]

One thing I like a lot about these videos is that they offer actual advice up front with examples before trying to sell you their course. It's not clickbait. On the other hand, pretty much every one of them has as one or more major points what amounts to "be funny". Yeah, I don't qualify there. The only times I'm funny in a conversation or social situation are accidental, when someone misinterprets something I've said as an insult or sexual or whatever, and I always correct them. On the third hand, almost all the examples come from celebrity interviews, meaning the people involved tend to be very good looking. Really good looking people tend to have an easier time in social situations to begin with, compared to those of us who are pudgy and not gifted in terms of appearance. Telling me to be funny is about as useful as telling me to be better looking. Those are things I have very little control over.

[@arthurvelasquez7450]

I encourage you to have a growth mindset instead of believing that you have little control. I know it’s not easy to improve your personality and looks but it is possible and it is worth it. Your future self will be grateful for you.

[@ChauNguyen-wd6fm]

What you say is kinda true. I am more optimistic and funny when I'm confident that I'm looking good. But improving looks is doable, you can always be fitter, find a suitable hairstyle and wear fitting, new clothes.

[@HawkCapooo]

@@arthurvelasquez7450 facts this whole paragraph was him saying he can’t do anything and he has no control lmao come on now

[@ethanoptimized]

One of the best pieces of advice you've given me on the subject of charm is to assume positive intent when a part of the conversation is vague or confusing. The double-edged sword of disarming people that had negative intent and also repairing the situation when a well-meaning person just didn't get the words out right has saved me many times! You guys inspired me to start a self-improvement YT channel that helps people in return for all the help you've given me.

[@ironsurge64]

Ina previous video, they mentioned that when someone says something insulting either intentionally or unintentionally, instead of responding defensively, you assume they meant it as a compliment and respond as such. It will cause the other person to either double down and have to elaborate, therefore removing their power, or they'll respond in a more positive manner.

[@WanderTheNomad]

I wish wish people did this more on the internet. I feel like every neutral thing automatically gets interpreted as negative on the internet. It starts so many unnecessary arguments.

[@def6078]

@@WanderTheNomad The hell it does!

[@tlgattone]

Where can we find what you're Doing

[@tlgattone]

I'm genuinely interested

[@MonTube2006]

I can handle silence very well and it doesn't feel awkward to me at all 🤷‍♂️ . It doesn't belongs to me if someone thinks I'm boring

[@marsjokes]

Ha! You added Rhodey's best joke at 3:36 Brilliant!

[@TheWhisperCorner]

I was helping two blind women at work today and one of them mentioned that her suitcase was too tightly packed and wasn't happy about it. I replied, "Yeah, my trousers feel the same way." They cackled with laughter. A wee drop of self depracating humour.

[@manugibert7355]

Hi Charlie and Ben, excuse me, let me really appreciate what you guys do, your videos help me a lot and help a lot of people around the world. If you don't mind, I would like to ask you if you can make a full video on how to interact in night environments, be it a bar, a bowling alley or a friend's party. I suffer from social anxiety and these are the environments that cause me the most anxiety, mainly because there are many people in a closed place and because the music is loud. I think it would help a lot of other people.

[@patrickkubinec7026]

2:45 saying that she's Australian while showing the flag of New Zealand 😁

[@deltasubliminals5315]

I think CoC has a man crush on Pratt, Evans, and Hemsworth 😜

[@k.5425]

All the Chris'

[@uampire97]

If my mind suddenly goes blank in a social situations I remove myself from this situation because it simply means I have nothing more to say and I'm kinda to lazy to try anything else.. sometimes however I stare at the other person silently and see what they do and then I remove myself. Also from experience not everyone has sense of humor. Saying a joke is not always an ice breaker but can be a wall builder. As I lived in different countries I realized there are different types of humor depending on a country and what's acceptable to say as much as there are individual differences. Cracking a joke can be a risky business. Remember Chris Rock at the Oscars...?

[@arringtonhughes4867]

Well that was different actually everyone got the joke except for the person who was being joked about in which that person was married nd basically used the “you just gon let that man insult me” on her husband but that’s a whole other rabbit hole

[@nazneenazeez1451]

Well this channel also explains that u shouldn't joke on people's insecurities but can make a joke on thier strengths.

[@American_Cycho]

You can "learn" to be witty, but in reality, you either are or are not... it usually ends up being awkward if you do it all the time. Just be yourself when your around others; if they don't like your REAL personality, then they are not worth being around. People today are trying to "fit in" and be someone they aren't naturally. If we all wanted to be the center of attention or be "funny" by finishing other peoples sentences with a joke, it would be annoying. Now giving other people compliments or encouraging yourself to be a little more outgoing than you normally are, is positive all the way, but be YOU while you are doing it.

[@egusisoup1826]

What do you think makes you, YOU? Is adding a playful twist to a mundane answer somehow changing who you are intrinsically? Also, I slightly disagree with you're framing. When in a group of friends and everyone is riffing, no one thinks it is annoying. So it's more what's being said than the fact an attempt at humor was made. I definitely agree not everyone can be as witty as they would like, but I don't see any harm in people wanting to add another tool to their basket, especially if they're not enjoying the results they are getting at the moment. If someone has a habit that isn't serving them, I don't see any issue in changing it. Also, even though the advice is the same, how it manifests from person to person will change depending on their own humor and experiences. People could take the same advice and apply it in ways that are vastly different.

[@animeheven4641]

I understand where you are from# maybe from your experience this is what you learned , but the advice that really doesn't work for me personally is being yourself, it's the most confusing thing to understand , I am 20 ,"? I "don't myself , how can I make people like that .it's too vague.

[@AlexaOrchid]

It's a great lineup of very practical advices. Thank you!

[@mavrk.d]

Damn I loved this video. The trio of Chris is also one of my favorite parts in the MCU

[@AyaanFarasanims]

2:44 "Australian" **Shows flag of New Zealand**

[@skettlez9732]

Me: That's a very well-trained dog you got there, Are you a dog trainer? Person: ***Doesn't have a dog***

[@ravensong9030]

Humble suggestion: KZbin comments are a nice way to practice everything they say here. And congrats to the guys running this channel. You are surprisingly insightful, I'm gobbling up all your videos.

[@CowboyBoomBoomSlim]

07:58 Note to self: "CoC approves nailing at work." Say no more!

[@infiniteplain1746]

2:45 Margot Robbie is Australia. Shows New Zealand Flag.

[@nathanielc.1699]

2:46 "Margot Robbie is Australian", puts New Zealand flag

[@crystalcole888]

I can just straight up watch an entire video of Chris Evans bursting out laughing :-) that is his signature laugh and it gets me every time.

[@NotHPotter]

Thanks for reminding me how toxic Ellen is.

[@anwoch]

2:45 "Margaret Robbie is Australian" *Shows New Zealand Flag*

[@jefflebowski3784]

Those guys genuinely seem like they’d be fun to hang with.

[@TheGuitarislove]

Honestly my most charismatic moments are when I’m just being goofy af 😂

[@cookiesmuggler7934]

The pivot is the best advice I have gotten

[@Iam18]

@7:17 the smallest clip from Not Another Teen Movie. I was wondering when I'd finally see footage from the movie that introduced me to Chris Evans. That film was gold back in the day!

[@nihal114]

I have just started as a fundraiser for which i need good communication and relationship buliding skill. Luckily i havr this channel and unlimited tries and people to practice my relationship building skills with.

[@fabiorosch9863]

the fact that they used a clip of Cool Runnings in this video deserves a like and subscribe

[@lukewenberg4271]

When I always go in a negative aspect. I always make sure to fake it out and be positive about it because it's fun

[@hattorihanzo8385]

If spreading positive energy is heavy weight boxing then Chris Pratt is prime Mike Tyson. Dude packs a punch and it’s knockout everytime.

[@JKSNsensei]

Soon we will see a spin-off series called “Chris”ma on Command

[@Xenpen6]

Chris whas drunkk in half of the clips you used of him lmao. And i love it

[@JACCO20082012]

I am not witty or quick thinking enough to come up with little jokes on the fly. Are there mental exercises that can help with that or ways to slowly incorporate them into everyday conversation?

[@skenvoy1558]

I was not expecting to suddenly see Viva la Dirt League but I appreciate suddenly seeing them

[@JoeOnYoutubification]

Thank you.

[@nishtek]

Thank You

[@ricardomilos10]

Step 1, looking like chris hemshworth will help

[@ShawDAMAN]

It could, but as the Heard/Depp trial aptly demonstrated, being attractive doesn't make you likeable by default

[@ricardomilos10]

@@ShawDAMAN she got a career only by being good looking, a blonde white girl with blue eyes Tell me how looks doesn’t affect stuff again

[@ShawDAMAN]

@@ricardomilos10 I didn't say it didn't "affect stuff." The whole channel is about having charisma. My point with Heard was just that good looks doesn't automatically = charisma, they'll only take you so far. Obviously looks are a nice asset. But Hemsworth could look like he does and it might get him acting roles, but it doesn't make him likable. Most of us are interested in having good relationships and being interesting, very few of us will be professional actors no matter how we look. Saying all this cause I know some people say it jokingly but there's no need to "give up" on developing appealing qualities because you weren't blessed with movie star appearance, ha

[@lordzenon4237]

Love ur content❤

[@ilivemylifeforthestarsthat3140]

One of the best videos I’ve watched on this topic thank u! x

[@thatguypatmckittrick]

A clip from LVDLs "Bored"!! Awesome 😎👍

[@iansmith1965]

My classic one, was that I was talking to a woman once with a very big cleavage. I said to her: "You know, you remind me of Paris". She said, "How come?" I replied...."Well, I've already seen an eyeful!!"

[@simonvirus6417]

Such a great Channel, brilliant.

[@lungelomzobe31]

Always enjoy your videos...

[@shravyas8357]

Hi, thanks so much for this video! I love it whenever you make videos about the Marvel actors. I was hoping you could make another video about Tom Hiddleston, especially because there are a lot of newer interviews from which I feel like we could all learn so much. Thanks!

[@sommmtoooo]

I needed this 🙃, Great Video !

[@netguy888]

2:46 that's the wrong flag that's the New Zealand flag, not the Australian flag.

[@siddh29]

I love how you showed Robert Downey when you said rather than being cool

[@MunchinOnDew]

Charisma On Demand advice summed up in three words: Be Other People.

[@cashtonbriggs2135]

I find it interesting and assuming that most of your videos have the marvel cast making the anecdotes. They seem like really great people.

[@djtdawg87]

Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.

[@thatGuyFean]

Roommate, I think you mean van-mate 😂😂😂

[@charlielindemann1294]

I would love to see you guys make a video on being charismatic like Spike in Cowboy Bebop (original animated version of course). On the off chance you’re seeing this comment please consider that for an upcoming video

[@Mr-Wallstr.]

your vids are soooo strong man ;)

[@basquat76]

Be positive and stop worrying what other people might think. I don't think you fully understand what it means to have social phobia and be introverted. It's not something you can just wish away with positive thoughts.

[@mikemcandrew421]

Love your content! Can you do a Matthew McConaughey breakdown if possible?! Thanks!

[@miqueiassilvanascimento7331]

Ótimo conteúdo

[@Sarah-fm6ll]

God bless you guys

[@Resiksim]

4:33 why does the background sound remind me of McDonald’s?

[@ninamatthews8747]

Wow, the part about assuming people know you like them is crazy. I assume that all the time but I’m really not projecting it I think.

[@seanmcgrady8688]

My chace! My chace to make them laugh!

[@manugibert7355]

Could you make a video about Taika Waititi? He's very funny and charismatic.

[@ALLROUNDER_387]

Bro made everything out of Chrises😂

[@st1ckzy98sg]

"Margot robbie is Australian" shows New zealand flag in the background....nice.

[@AbdussalamPopoola]

I'm seeing content so early this days 😂😂❤❤❤

[@ImMohammedAli]

I’m at work watching this video and friend asks what you watching. Me: Porn

[@ArcticSeraph]

That the New Zealand flag, lol

[@rabronin]

Yeah the 3 Chris' of the mcu have had a lot to offer in terms of charisma.

[@breadman7492]

2:44 shes australian (shows a new zealand flag)

[@thatgirl6158]

I think I'm just gonna name my child Chris. Thanks for the tips tho

[@wissamboukaili6970]

I have a high level of confidence but I don't know how to have fun my brain is wired to focus on work

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

Nah don't interrupt people when they are speaking even if you come up with something funny. You will just make them feel like you aren't taking them seriously.

[@BrianaIsir]

I think it’s ok to slide something in when the person pauses for a sec

[@BaritoneMonkey]

@@BrianaIsir agree! It's a fine line, and context is important. Cutting someone off, or say sliding in with a joke when someone's asking a real question, might be kind of obnoxious lol

[@bsktballman08]

Can these skills be learned? Kinda feels like some people are naturally more interesting and funny than others.

[@bartigerstewie2758]

Well I can come up with good jokes all the time, don't know bout others

[@danielsimms4262]

​@bartigerstewie2758 Well, there you go, that's answers it.

[@emosewasikcin]

2:45 margot robbie is what?

[@triGRIMM]

Oh nice! Just realized I learned nothing new from this vid and totally do all these things super naturally 😎 and then I woke up 😒

[@ChrisAbbott]

Hemsworth is just funny

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[@TheSultan1470]

alamelife

[@Ifyoureadthisyouaregai]

$500 😥 , I’ll stick to watching your videos

[@seanhayward431]

That wasn’t an Australian flag by the way

[@eduestralop]

For these rules to be successful, don't forget the first rule. 1.- Be handsome. If this rule doesn't work for you, use this one instead. 2.- Don't be ugly. There.

[@freeloaderuser6793]

I frikin love this lol

[@X-MaN.87]

I'd love to say something clever but I was about to sleep and are here in my bed with my phone and my comment ends up being too random and critical. So I deleted it. Let's just say it's oke to not be charismatic all the time, we are human.. Sometimes you just don't wanna spend energy being liked and others can have some empathy for that.. In my opinion being charismatic is overrated. Just have empathy for eachother and for yourself and from time to time you'll sponteously make a funny joke or something and people will laugh. And the more you're true to yourself and others and show empathy and respect the more charismatic you'll become, but that's never the endgoal I think, 'being charismatic'. It's just a consequence of living a good life. So please don't focus so much on being charismatic, just try to be a good person instead.. That's my approach at least. Anyways, gotta sleep. Good night.

[@mehmetakifkeskin5100]

Correct me if I'm wrong, everything you are saying is ending up with being confidence. I mean trusting your self is literally fixing every problem.

[@leelunk8235]

I'M A SOCIALPATH, NONE OF THIS WORKS FOR ME, LMAO

[@polanski2399]

2:48 that's a New Zealand flag...

[@KatessaT]

Heads up did i see the New Zealand flag when you said Margot was from Australia? Lol biiiig no, NZ has a red Southern Cross Oz has a white Southern Cross. Otherwise love your channel 😄

[@daze023]

I didn't see anything other than Margot

[@shoff29]

Hey Hemsworth was in Star Trek lol.

[@believer1735]

margot robbie is Australian processeds to put a new zealand flag

[@Viney209]

2:45 "Margot Robbie is Australian" That's the kiwi flag mate!... get it right!!!...

[@tiffanykuo2932]

I think interrupting and saying a joke can sometimes be too annoying to the person talking.

[@HumanNamedChristian]

Good video

[@LoganR0423]

I feel like I have been taught that being f positive is naive.

[@dheibeljr]

Love these vids but seriously your prices are insane. Maybe breaking up your modules things and selling them separately would get you more customers for those who can fork out the better part of a grand all at once.

[@stingerprints]

We need an Andrew Garfield video, but one about his charm instead of him lying 😉

[@onthegrind7953]

We see in image in our head more than word so just say what’s you are seeing

[@beatrizlima4538]

TRADUZ PRA PORTUGUES PLEASEEE

[@jackel75]

never ever steal a joke...