How to become more confident -- lay down on the street for 30sec | Till H. Groß | TEDxDonauinsel

[@yakeensharma499]

I have decided to move out of my comfort zone. This is my first comment on youtube. I will overcome my fears and i hope everyone else does so... great video.

[@rejacksa7231]

congrats man i wish u best of luck :)

[@mybatteryislow9999]

nicu, how's it going?

[@deeptibhardwaj5726]

congrats dear

[@dy3640]

you suck just like your comment.. never do that again

[@nievescarretero2152]

I feel you, this is my second comment, you are awesome

[@jamestheredd]

"I'm so familiar with fear and nervousness right now. It doesn't hold me back anymore." Powerful.

[@Julian.Jerusalem]

Great to hear!

[@oddviews]

A few years ago on Valentine's day I bought 6 red roses and decided I would give one to a random set of people in the streets of Bangkok. I started with an old lady, next a man with his girlfriend, then a couple of pretty girls. I had one left. I was in a taxi and got the driver to stop at a busy intersection where there was a policewoman directing traffic. I got out and I presented her with a rose and she was so happy she kissed me on the cheek. It was a lovely experience doing something a bit daring but not dangerous.

[@killadog84]

you should have given it to the taxi driver

[@samehsam5905]

+Wreck Tard thé same thought

[@beckasmith6302]

What a wonderful thing to do! Sounds like you had a great experience with that.

[@joelsweeney4024]

aw that's so cute xD I wish I read this comment last night, Valentines just ended, id love to have done that

[@FilmFrontiers982]

your lucky instead hitting with sandals, she kissed you xd.

[@roughryder5]

Someone gave me a challenge which was "Go 24 hours without complaining and see how much your life improves". Im currently one day 7...awesome feeling.

[@Warsie]

+Elite I barely complain and I still feel shitty, no this stupid insipid fucking advice does not work.

[@roughryder5]

Lol you sound grumpy, dude. Lighten up.

[@pekkapaco5333]

+Elite I think he's joking.

[@Jorjioo]

+Elite It was definitelyt a joke bro. "I barely complain" he says as he complains alot :P Just think about it.

[@ELdASenSei]

+Elite he got you :P

[@yesreneau]

Omg at the end I thought he was going to say my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quote, and I darn near spazzed. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" - Eleanor Roosevelt

[@KnuckleHeadMusicUK]

Snap! And the whole talk reminded me of a poem, 'masks' by Shel Silverstein, or this quote by Marianne Williamson, "As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others."

[@meherk3322]

Exactly, same here. I thought he will quote the famous inferiority quote

[@ayakoganei7946]

15 minutes of my life well spent.

[@anmolphutela]

really good one, I'll definitely try this laying down on street.

[@ayakoganei7946]

***** I love you Till :)

[@usmanahmad8882]

23 hours and 45 minutes wasted. Excellent.

[@rachelkarengreen99]

I DID THIS TODAY! Ahhh I feel good. It was more like 20 seconds but I did it at my school on the main walkway with tons of people walking by and staring. I'm finally free. I'll keep doing things that scare me. Trust me, I have terrible social anxiety so if I can do it you can do it too. Cheers.

[@rachelkarengreen99]

***** Thanks man! In the past 2/3 weeks I've done a challenge every day, from howling in the library to singing as loud as I can in front of a hundred people (my school food court) to talking to girls (and getting numbers), all things I never thought I would be able to do. In a short time, my life has been filled with so much more happiness and confidence, it's amazing. I can literally say that this video changed my life.

[@jifyum07]

Wait why are u howling?

[@rachelkarengreen99]

jifyum07 It's a comfort zone challenge! Look on his website and sign up for his e-mails they're very helpful.

[@jifyum07]

I have to agree with that. Maybe not take it to such an extreme. Kids will take your actions as a desperate attempt to get attention.

[@RobotAlienGaming]

xxbluejay21 You sir,are an amazing person!

[@yehhshhs]

I did a challenge myself. I was on a cruise vacation and there was like a karaoke party... litterally everyone on the boat was with their family and friends together in groups and enjoying their time while watching people sing karaoke songs... I was alone, my parents and grandma were at the casino. At first I thought shit I am alone here !!! Then I thought fuck it. I just have to have fun and just ignore the fact that I am alone. Everyone was singing and family cheering for them.. I wanted to sing too but I was so super super nervous to sing alone and I was afraid I would look weird or whatsoever. Then I just decided to JUST DO IT! and i picked a song.. stand there in the middle of the room and I sang White flag form Dido.. and before I knew it people came and stand with me and sang with me together! I will never forget this experience! It had made me so much more confident. People DO appreciate when others are alone or solo having fun! They just want to support you and join your fun.

[@shingeki-_-1704]

congrats! im very nervous about starting comfort challenges!

[@yehhshhs]

Shingeki -_- thanks!!!!!!! let's do this challenge: lie on the ground for 10 seconds on a random crowded public place. example: in the mall or at a train station :) are you down for it? im fucking scared for this

[@shingeki-_-1704]

+euphoriassy bloom i got anxiety just thinking about this challenge! but next time i am in a crowded area i will be trying it

[@yehhshhs]

+Neo Karn thanks^^

[@bingolingo405]

+euphoriassy bloom hey man one of the best KZbin comment ever ever ever

[@seddd]

I once did 10 pushups in the middle of a crowded street.. Felt awesome

[@vitemrious4]

wish I could do 10 push ups :D

[@bloodie6284]

That one is amazing. I did it for about 2 months every day :D Insane results

[@aaronmaloney8282]

Bloodi e .. wtf , really? Insane results

[@SwiiGenesis]

I watched this video about a year or a year and a half ago, like most of you, I desperately wanted to be more confident. And I did, I can honestly say I've become more confident with myself but I didn't lay down in the street in order to gain it. I learned to accept myself and not give a damn about what other people think. I realized my self-worth and that you shouldn't base that on someone else's opinion, but yourself. I used to be so insecure about my weight and how I wished I was skinnier, but as the years went by, I've learned to love myself and my imperfections. I mean, who is going to love you more than yourself? Since society is already doing a good job at trying to bring you down, why not try to be easy on yourself instead and go against it. I swear I felt like a heavy burden was lifted off of my shoulders and I promise it feels really good to be free of that burden.

[@ABrokenStar]

beautiful comment and thought...

[@ikraamouifqi7092]

I'm so happy for you ...I hope I can reach this stage of accepting myself, and go out from my comfort zone. I'm really fed up with what happens to me, and how people treat me as the lonely, uncomfortable girl 😢😢

[@SwiiGenesis]

ikraam ouifqi It honestly came with age as well, as I grew older, I realized that other people's opinion of me didn't matter, what mattered was how I perceived myself and those who are important to me. Don't let it get you down, there's so much more out there waiting for you :)

[@aldorbakiaj3592]

I gave Up smoking by learning self confidece ...this therapy works on everything :)

[@Joel-js2gk]

+Sui 100% agreed. As you get older you'll realize 'fuck everybody else.' You'll never be able to please everyone, so don't bother even trying. You know who you're friends are and who'll be there for you. If you meet someone else you want in your life, great. If you meet someone who doesn't like you, then they can fuck off because you don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

[@mariana4gymnastics]

remember fight club? pick a fight with a stranger and lose. like he said, deal with rejection, confront anxiety and take control of your body, mind and surroundings. from doing these comfort zone challenges i'm beginning to see the earth as my comfort zone, not just my bedroom walls :)

[@nerad1994]

+Xhahahaha lol

[@invoker6624]

you're comment says the you have anxiety and paranoia

[@sebastian_6922]

That's a movie...this is real life, don't compare the two...ever...

[@WeezZ1337]

why not? Movies/books are interpretations of the authors perspective on real life. btw. you can compare literally everything, you just need to find the right context ;)

[@agustin4741]

That is how i got stabbed

[@Robert-hi8el]

Got suspended for going to school naked. Thanks a lot Till!

[@rishabhkatoch2945]

razielx7 lol

[@sinait8191]

Maybe I should try this too.

[@erickguilherme5081]

Robert hahaha this i will not try.

[@malte2467]

Hahaha :D :D I hope thats a joke.

[@reema9913]

Robert what !!! Did u really do that or was that a JK?? 😂😂😂😂😂

[@FeelinGoode]

Interesting... I did this the other day. I didn't know about this video or technique. I wanted to lie down because I had to wait a long time and I knew about going outside my comfort zone to become better, but I hesitated because nobody else was doing it and so many people were walking right next to me... it was absolutely crowded. As soon as I lied down I felt so uncomfortable and my heart was pounding because I never did anything like this before. But after 5-10 minutes it went away, I got relaxed and nearly fell asleep. I got up 30 minutes later and people were looking at me and smiling. The old me would get extremely nervous in a crowd of people and I would over analyze everything when I got home. I actually felt relaxed and didn't give a shit what other people thought. I was actually proud of my self.

[@haykav]

Your profile picture and name explain it all :D

[@Dominik-kl2re]

Username checks out.

[@Kinobambino]

also pics or it didn't happen😐

[@bowball-sports7571]

FeelinGood I would be freaking out

[@lolacariad]

thats awesome!!!

[@AbigailGladstone]

Absolutely loved your talk. I accidentally started doing comfort crushers about a year ago. As a very petite girl I really wanted to get some upper body strength but I was too scared to work out in the weight section of my gym as it is mostly big burly men lifting huge weights! One day I forced myself to do it. I didn't have a clue what I was doing but by the end of the session I had two guys showing me how to lift and use the weights. Over the past year I've gone and the guys who work out there always cheer me on. After this happened it dawned on me that the fear and anxiety thinking about the act is worse than the act itself. After watching your talk I'm going to be doing more comfort crushers and applying this philosophy to many aspects of my life. I have found this inspiring!

[@1st_Julianna]

+Abigail Gladstone BE the Lizbeth Salander you want to be!!!

[@CaptJofaz]

+pbshelleygirl Don't think Lizbeth Salander has ever lifted weights

[@1st_Julianna]

+CaptJofaz Dunno. She was a trained boxer. Could have lifted some.

[@CaptJofaz]

pbshelleygirl she's practically anorexic

[@1st_Julianna]

+CaptJofaz we must have read different books/seen different movies. In the Swedish version of the movie and in the books, Lisbeth ate whenever she was hungry. Certainly Noomi Rapace couldn't be seen as anorexic. Never saw the movie version with Rooney Mara (apologies if I misspelled her name), so I don't know how she was portrayed in that one.

[@marlayaross7177]

this is exactly what i needed. gonna do something everyday that scares me. eventually i'll break free from the chains of anxiety and fear of rejection and embarrassment! thank you, till!

[@loganflo8446]

Probably the most helpful KZbin video I've ever seen

[@phoebekemp6484]

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[@anfro18]

+Logan Wiliiams I was thinking the same thing. Great perspective

[@richardshar9616]

+Comfort Zone Crusher thank you very much ,bro:)

[@faiz8569]

+Logan Wiliiams Rsd JULIEN or RSD TYLER they go in much more depth

[@DiogoPinho96]

+Ian Karl Torres Poma well probably every way to overcome social anxiety is based on the same principle. This is just an extended version

[@juandharma]

This is one of the best TED talks videos I've ever seen. Thanks for your experiences and wisdom Till :)

[@Slash18622]

I always did comfort zone challenges when I was drunk - just for fun. Now I know that I boosted my confidence unknowingly!

[@shokojimhollingsworth3940]

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” Brilliant. I’ve also heard “let fear be an invitation to grow”.

[@vampireknight221]

First time posting a comment on youtube! Gonna start moving out of my comfort zone with those comfort zone challenges, starting today!

[@countdracula2861]

Good luck

[@VengeanceBG]

The power of erection.

[@XD8DISTURBED8XD]

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[@adamkhalifa6009]

Vengeance BG

[@AineDonnellan]

Marya Liu Me too! 😍🙌

[@SuperAfroman17]

Thankyou Till. I currently work in a weighbridge (for harvested crops) and I felt this anxiety from a group of guys in the distance. SO I started to stand on one leg for a while. Then I skipped to the maize pile like a girl and laid in it. It feels truly liberating (also may liberate me from my job) but I'm really loving it. Thankyou for sharing your message and your individual essence. I especially like the anecdote in the train station, we often delay what we truly want to do because we let the fear overpower. Carpe Diem!! You have lit a fire within my heart. So much love to you brother!!

[@racingheart92]

Its not mean u just need to lie on ground in crowded place, but to challenge ur biggest fears around most pressure places. More the fear more is confident

[@atiya8452]

TEDx is a show that I just recently started watching. Earlier I used to waste my time but now am almost addicted to it. Have seen a couple of videos and I genuinely think this is one of the best ever video I have come across.

[@desireemartinez5433]

Honestly this was one of my favorite ted talks because i have many fears about what people think of me (mainly presentations,socializing with people) and im really not confident like insecure to the max tht it always brings me down.But rn im really grateful to see videos like this bc they honestly make me feel so much better and i would love to get the courage to do one of the comfort zone challenges to help myself to gain a lot more confidence.

[@bogusawas.3133]

I will get out of my comfort zone during my upcoming trip to Miami, Madrid, and Trzcianka. I will lie down in the cities, take pix, and post on my fb. You have inspired me Till!!

[@QrayzHD]

I'm making it my mission to do everything i have an irrational fear of. It started the other day when i was at a 60 birthday party and there was a table full of younger people my own age, rather then avoiding them like i normally do i decided to walk on over and take a seat. Rather then the table giving me a dirty look, they wanted to get to to know me and made me feel welcome, i realize that maybe some of those people had the same fear as i did.

[@tillhelgegro2433]

Great!!!

[@QrayzHD]

***** Thanks : )

[@shwetamalladi7560]

It's just one of the most amazing things I've ever heard. I'm just going through such low self confidence and nobody needed this advice more than I did.

[@jacketgreatorex]

i walk in the street naked once a week for my confidence

[@himanshubaluni524]

lol😂😂😂

[@sreynoy7389]

😂😂😂😂

[@sportsworld912]

jack ? hahahaah

[@Julian.Jerusalem]

Lol what in the world are you talking about ^^

[@bobthebuilder545]

Honestly that’s prolly be fire for confidence but you’d get arrested

[@cbry4250]

"The excuses and fear will always be there", such a great point :)

[@ravimodi3852]

one of the most motivating and influential talks..will definitely try out

[@Julian.Jerusalem]

It´s been five years now. What have you done since then?

[@Ahggie43]

I don't know your background but am impressed at your comfort level with English and using it without translating German idiom literally -- not something usually attained by non-native speakers.

[@gabo3color]

Notes - Comfort Zone Challenges > We have also experienced FEAR > We have also acted despite fear 1- Not as scary as you thought 2- You did so many times that it stopped being scaring How to become more confident? How to stop caring thinking what other people think of you? How not to be hold back by fear? Answer: Lay down on the street for 30 seconds. > Background < In high school, speaker appeared to be confident from the outside, but from the inside he was very nervous. Why? Huge fear of rejection, not being cool, and exposed as weak. His old strategy: avoidance. For example, not go to party that he didn’t know anybody. Or he would drag his friends along with him so that he can get approval. After high school, he started to get into psychology. He started to learn from the best psychotherapists. Came across with Comfort Zone Challenges. Fast way to progress in business. Definition: challenges that you consciously put yourself in situations that make you feel embarrassed or insecure. You do it over and over until you stop thinking what other people think. [Similar to exposure therapy.] Explanation why it works: autonomic nervous system fires a fear response. You cannot control it consciously. This system learns to respond anxiously to situations that are not dangerous. So you STAY with the feeling until your autonomic nervous system learns that it is not dangerous. First comfort zone challenge (lay down on the subway station): he was procrastinating because he had a fear response, but then had an a-ha moment: “those really good excuses will always be there.” If he allowed those rationalizations to hold him back, he would never do it. Three things he noticed: 1- Weird looks (Not as scary as he thought) 2- Confused people 3- Majority of people didn’t even look Got more relaxed. After 1 minute, all anxiety vanished. Got in the train with a big smile on his face. > Made a list of all fears and tapped into them. Some went away quickly, others took long to overcome. Online community: comfort zone crusher. International movement 3 three things he learned > Consciously doing comfort zone challenge make you get into the habit of doing the uncomfortable Ignore excuses Go through discomfort Bleeds into other areas (gym, studying) > Relationship to fear completely changed He still has fears It is not a magic pill Even if he wants to do something but has fear, he still does it. > Happiness Unhappiness usually comes from: 1- From comparison CZC makes you care less about others. 2- From “perfect self” If you do CZC, you’re in the process of getting there. End of the day: “I have made a step closer to this perfect version.” Conclusion > Exposure therapy comes from the 50’s > Vision: make this knowledge accessible to people > Fear and anxiety connects us. And this is a comforting thought. Do something outside of your auto-pilot. This gives an adventure spice to your life. “Do one thing everyday that scares you.” Thanks for the awesome talk =)

[@NguyenVo2011]

Can’t believe that this doesn’t get more likes. Thanks for sharing your notes. 😊

[@donnoleeho-shing3925]

The reason this was so excellent is because his presentation was pragmatic he gave tips that one can actually utilize to overcome insecurities instead of just stating a bunch of cliches like speakers usually do when talking about self confidence. Superb speech.

[@tillhelgegro2433]

Hey Donnolee, your comment made me so happy!!! My goal is always to put my knowledge or experience into actionable advice. So happy that it worked out and you appreciate it :)

[@abodhbalak4719]

I actually did that lying on metro platform. And I seriously feel too much positiveness in myself. My confidence grew to a whole new dimension.

[@combustingheads]

A lot of respect for this guy just going out and finding mentors in his field of interest. It definitely takes balls and certainty in what you want to do right off the bat.

[@aakritisingh8163]

this is best tedX talk.EVER. Time to kill fears!

[@MHagen41]

Great talk thank you! Usually I don't even comment on videos that I enjoy because I'm worried that someone I know might see my comment and think it's weird or strange (specifically the idea of giving feedback to a speaker who might never actually see my post). But after seeing this, you inspired me to ignore those fears. Thanks for the inspiration.

[@grinfcked]

hahah lol and I thought I was the only one who had that worry.

[@MHagen41]

I thought i was the only one too haha. Glad im not crazy

[@blingximus]

I won't lay down in the street...but I will definitely approach a beautiful stranger on the road.

[@stratos788]

blingximus look up rsd ( real social dynamics) they will change your life ;)

[@blingximus]

way ahead of you.

[@stratos788]

blingximus completly enlightening shit, both inner and outer game

[@fatima-ezzahrabassime8272]

I definitely agree. One has to get out of his/her comfort zone and do what it is unusual for him/her to do. When you do it once and twice and many times you become more confident about it. You just make the first step and all will come smoothly!

[@Otanduw]

Took 45 years to learn this. Wish I saw this when I was 15.

[@Turn2Self]

Till, the true definition of perfection is continually moving toward that which serves the ultimately best version of you, the situation, or environment, etc. So by you being the now you with as much clarity and calm as possible is perfect. And so it is for all. Thank you.

[@NeoCk435]

Nice TED talk. It kinda provokes the "fuck it" mentality, which is exactly what the world needs right now. Too many people are so stuck up in their head worrying about what others may think of them...and that includes me as well. I am tired of being so suggestible, without zero original opinion. Only listen to what the majority think and follow that, today i say fuck it. I wont have a blurry view on subjects anymore. This talk has inspired me to take back my life, be more aware of what we human are. Thank you.

[@dianag.1997]

I'ma amazed! Not only this guy is very sincere and real and great person, but his knowledge has so much wisdom! Really inspirational! One of the most enjoyable talk on TEDx. Thank you so much!

[@tanpreetsingh551]

I saw your video last year and got motivated af for a whole 1hr and here I am back again still looking for excuses not to do the challenges 😢😢

[@countdracula2861]

FUCK EXCUSES. Simply take step by step and you will notice some improvements. Good Luck :)

[@JoleneLin78]

great talk! I have been practicing this sub-consciously! I have always had the problem of the fear of public speaking or doing presentations, and what I have been doing is making myself speak in public more, or overcome my fear of asking questions in a huge lecture theatre more often, and basically just not be afraid of speaking what's on my mind. it has worked out so well, and now I just enjoy speaking in front of a crowd so much that I no longer fear what others think, and just focus on what I am saying and whether it makes sense! Everyone should try this- Do something you fear more often!

[@chaimalabed5423]

This is one of my favorite tedx ever !!! I loved it ..I am a very shy person and I often let my fear of rejection hold me back ..it made me regret a lit of things along the years ...I loved the idea of comfort zone challenges so I'll try to do some :) .. a promise ...

[@anaraanara7301]

every ones biggest fear is failure and if u have faced it many times ,it gives u courage and knowledge to go towards success which definitely is the best thing which actually means u have not failed ,u have learned from your failures.

[@GerardNat123]

This is probably one of the more creative ideas brought forward at TED and it was well done. Will definitely remind myself of this everytime!

[@benyamina8174]

so, profound. Gonna move beyond my comfort zone from now... this Talk motivated me..especially, the way he speaks on public... I do like to speak on public, but although I am presenting in classes almost every week, I am still feeling anxious and not confident when I start to speak on public.Solution:practice,practice and practice.Practice makes perfect

[@Alinrzv]

I've been through all this anxiety shit , after having a panic attack or some sort of heart attack , nerves wreck'ed up , pain felt in my heart , in my lungs , in my chest , on my spine , i was thinking off all this diseases that could cause death .. and so on .. pain was freaking me out , which was never confirmed by the doctors anyway, they were all saying "you are healthy" , "your heart is ok" , "no signs" .. i don't know why you are having extrasistoles and pain and etc. God knows what the fuck happened to me , after all i've been through i learned to control myself .. this guy is saying the truth !! I can say i'm 90% recovered .. now , i've changed my life drastly in the last period .. i've changed my job , i'm working as a web developer now .. a thing which i was doing as a hobby , so its something i love to do now , i've started eating healthy , doing sport , i've also changed the country :D , because the job offer was abroad so yeah , you can make all those changes too so keep your trust and never give up ! Keep on changing things !

[@ankitamedhekar9556]

I am pursuing my MBA this year and i dont feel that confient about myself same as he told about other people, but after watching this video i am feeling very postive and confident,the most useful video on youtube ever.

[@rr7firefly]

Very insightful and excellently delivered. Mister Gross is absolutely correct when he says that we live our lives largely on auto pilot. Deep down we find comfort in the familiar, so we tend to seek a certain level of mindlessness in habitual behaviors that dull authentic participation in life. It's good for us to snap out of that zombie state and to really see the broader spectrum that we inhabit.

[@tillhelgegro2433]

Well said Noe!! And it is so true. Comfort zone challenge can make you more courageous, of course. But as I said in the talk it also can spice up your life and push you out of zombie state as you call it.

[@gcalzetti]

Brilliant. Must have watched it 20 times today as I believe it will sink in so deeply in my head that I won't be able to back down from the comfort zone challenge.

[@MaxOstrov1]

Thank you! I have always had issues with different, irrational, or, "over-rationalized" (Good excuses, and fear!) fears, and anxieties, and have, since a young age, without even knowing it, really, practiced, comfort zone challenges, and the like... But it was not until recently, during my bachelor studies in Psychology, that I really decided I needed to get over my irrational fears once and for all! I feared public-speaking, and socializing, even though I knew I was "good" at it... I particularly felt odd approaching people by myself, and would, like you, take friends, and whatnot, but found that not all my friends were into the same things I am, or had even found their path or set-goals in life. And the people I wanted to interact with, who WERE interested in the same topics, and had lots to teach me, were mostly strangers... I was in a pickle... I knew I wanted to be the best Me, possible, and to become successful doing something on my own terms, and change my life for the better! But, I knew to do this, I would need to get over my fear of public speaking, and reaching out to people, and found, that, by using my knowledge of exposure therapy, and practicing progressive levels of exposure, I have been able to do so, and found myself all over again! Thank you for your techniques, philosophy, passion, and inspiration! It has motivated me, even more, to do and be better, and to face my "demons", because, if we don't face our demons head-on, they will haunt us, building the fear, and fear-response, until it can become crippling. I had lost myself to fear for long enough, and it has been hard, but invigorating, and joyful, to squash my demons, even if it's just something like laying on the ground in a crowded area for 30 seconds... It took a while! But now, I am really starting to see scary moments, as moments of opportunity! To test my metal against the fire! I've learned to use my automatic nervous system responses to my benefit, as signs of exhilaration, instead of fear. Life is a roller-coaster, buy the ticket, take the ride... Learn to enjoy and anticipate it, and you will have more and more control over its projectory/your destiny. Live in fear, huddled down safely in your harnessed seat, and you'll miss the beauty all around, and you'll never see the next drop coming. I say, throw your hands up, and smile! You never know when that picture will be taken, and do you want to be remembered as the person who was having the most fun, and making that roller-coaster their own, or the one who was huddled down, with their eyes closed, and "FEAR" stamped across their forehead...? Thanks for the inspiration, and newly-empowered motivation!

[@tillhelgegro2433]

Thank you!!! You perfectly described the process one goes through. I really liked your roller coaster metaphor and that you never know when the photo will be taken :)

[@dt28469]

This ACTUALLY worked for me 100%. I actually tried laying down and gradually escalated to asking out my cute neighbor and im still personally growing. Thanks Till!!!

[@acasoimporta_2729]

I got a friend with social anxiety, so maybe this help. Thanks for posting!

[@chasingtheunknown3763]

It's amazing how he can catch the attention of people. There is more to it than lying down I suppose.

[@jeslightman8370]

This is seriously amazing... Just the thought of trying this makes me shiver but also buzz with excitement... Thank you!!! :D

[@jessemcalister6578]

Well this might not be like laying down a street for 30secs, but i do have a fear of posting my feelings online due to the vast amount of trolls out there, but after this video i'm going to make a conscious effort to face my fears and go outside my comfort zone. Guess this will be the first one of many!

[@DCshoescompany99]

well homeless people must be super confident...

[@tommytucker5464]

Or just have no self esteem to worry about sleeping on the ground

[@vest0079]

I think confidence isn't they're biggest problem.....

[@lucabrasi8284]

If you think about that, they really are. Never seen an homeless guy who's not confident. They just don't care about what society thinks of them. That's a good thing.

[@stefanManiak262011]

JusticeObligationKindnessEmpathyRespect a homeless man stay on streets because he doesn't have where to live,so is a dumb afirmation!!

[@DCshoescompany99]

i know dude i was just joking

[@33Chapter]

Everything he said I've faced in a way that is much more intense than what they can imagine. Yet I was able to overcome all that and was lauded with reverence. I became the one who was feared instead of the one who feared. If you follow my way it will be much harder than what he calls you to but if you succeed then you will be legendary.

[@drpepper4413]

This is a wonderful topic. A guy named Steve Kardynal came to mind, for those that don't know he makes videos of himself fearlessly singing in public, (the naked guy swinging on a wrecking ball)even though he looks and sounds ridiculous. The silly nature of his videos aside, I remember being blown away at how impervious he was to anyone else around him and what they might be thinking, whereas you or I would never imagine being able to do such a thing. I saw something beautiful in that ability to be fully immersed in what he was doing, and how he is proof it is possible to not be held back by fear of what other people think. Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world- Ralph Waldo Emerson

[@al1976-v7m]

couldn't have summed it up any better. and thanks for the great Emerson quote... :)

[@_rajivsingh]

Hey Till, you made my day. You know I needed it at this very moment. My confidence is at all time low (presently). I am doubting myself, using words like 'I think' more often than not & thinking in 'past tense'. Like, I was a motivational orator, I was head boy of my school, I was Mr. Fresher in my college & HE WAS SOMEONE ELSE WHO DID IT ALL BECAUSE I AM NOT HIM ANY MORE. I am self talking looking at mirror, with a belief to regain that touch & faith to display the same in public, which I have failed to do over last 2 years. It is all because of low confidence, I knew the disease but was unable to find the remedy. Now, I have found it. Yes, I have. Only I can cross that imaginary boundary because there isn't any. I have got rid of my mental block. Thanks man!

[@tillhelgegro2433]

hey man! Thanks for sharing...I really do hope that my experiences might help you. Though what you also should consider are physical causes. I do not know your history and the reasons why you actually lost your confidence at least for the last years, but I know dozens of cases where people felt low self-esteem and low energetic and they could simply fix this by overcoming a certain vitamin imbalance, changing their diet or other bodily related issues. Just a piece of advice: let a doctor check you. Maybe some other people here in the comments know more about this or have similar stories :) All the best man!

[@pultofcat8615]

First time I've heard the speaker of a sudden Ted talk say fuck

[@Lara1717171717]

PultOfCat It's so normal to say that in germany, even on tv XD

[@TheM00h]

you are confusing tv shows and ted talks, while german tv has no standards at all, ted has some

[@burritotito9854]

This has changed the way I felt about my anxious personality and I really want to change that by finding a better hope of confidence in myself so I can do things in life that I would never have the courage to do in the first place.

[@jorgeherrera1074]

Knees weak, arms are sweaty, moms spagetti! :D

[@ealnag9856]

Wtf I listened to the remix just before this o.O coincidenceeees

[@kkanda5893]

lols!! reminds me of 8 miles..Eminem!!

[@grahmn886]

XD

[@jorgeherrera1074]

George Boots you just dont get it...

[@nikitamiskovets7100]

he's nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready. Sick song man

[@JohnDoe-cw8wg]

Yes, how brilliant. Everyone can now get a schizophrenia diagnosis just by listening to genius advice on TED talks.

[@Joel-js2gk]

tbh I'm so insecure I hardly play Pokemon Go except for when nobody else is around or on the bus. But this video's gonna change that. This Friday, I'm gonna lie down on the sidewalk next to my school, where all my friends could see me, and I'm gonna stay there lying until I feel comfortable. A lot of videos are inspirational but without much substance, this video is actually extremely helpful and will hopefully actually change my life for the better.

[@DJ-ud6zy]

did you do it?

[@leukosanthemon]

THIS IS SO GOOD. It's true, I'm already thinking of doing what he suggested BUT at the same time my fear and excuses just started popping up. Wow.

[@rajivkrishnatr]

I have to perform at a concert tomorrow. The time I had done it last year, I was very nervous and I had butterflies in me even three months before the concert! Now, not so much. But I'm still nervous. The reason I was so scared is I have a condition called erb's palsy which makes me hold the violin bow differently. I was extremely scared about how the audience will receive me. What I did just before the performance was to remove my glasses so I won't be able look at their faces. Ha ha ha! It helped me sail through easily... And in the end nobody actually cared, one or two persons came to me and congratulated me! I hope it goes well tomorrow! All the best to everyone who is facing such things!

[@miriami7]

Good luck.

[@roxy2812]

good luck! :)

[@anthonyramirez9601]

You could hold it with your feet. as long as it sounds good... Awesome!

[@rajivkrishnatr]

Thank you all! I did well... Surprisingly I couldn't help but smile in the end, all went smoothly... There was just a brief moment of nervousness at the start, it subsided eventually... :)

[@roxy2812]

wohoo! nice! and it will go even better the next time ;)

[@cr0wbar973]

"Fear and excuses will always be there..." so true! Great vid...

[@SuperVarunraju]

I just did it !! Farted loud in the Class..You are right it feels awesome!! :D

[@malixyx]

+Varun Raju you are fucking funny man.

[@interestingvids7332]

sushil hari

[@macdoniaski7955]

Lol😂😂😂😂😂 you made my night

[@Funwinxpixee]

+Varun Raju lol nice holding it back is unhealthy anyways

[@katharinapavlin6068]

way to go bro!! :)

[@phoenixzappa7366]

I love when good looking people tell me I can be great and happy by doing random things that they thing is the key to their utter brilliance

[@leirgauk]

+Phoenix Zappa Ye, I guess I never really contemplate on the burdens of uggos. Must suck. My sympathies. I can only hope that with great ugliness comes a great tollerance for an equally ugly partner. If not, there are still other qualities that people find desirable, not to mention money. Not to mention all the other joys life has to offer, like Zappa :) Hang in there, trollface

[@phoenixzappa7366]

Who gives a fuck anyway. 2 grams of heroin'll bring it all to an end

[@phoenixzappa7366]

Dude if you are any of the three people in your profile picture, then calling yourself pretty is a complete mischaracterisation

[@leirgauk]

Phoenix Zappa Hahahahaha! You're just saying that 'cause I offended you, which wasn't at all my intention btw! I'm the white guy on the chair, and I'm fucking hot stuff! Black guy's hot too. I also have an ENORMOUS penis!

[@phoenixzappa7366]

Wait the white guy on the chair with the face like an Appalachian roadkill farmer? Get the fuck outta here man. Lmfao what an idiot.

[@whitejerryrice02]

I am terrified of public speaking, it's to the point where I sacrifice a good grade on a speech or presentation just to get back to my seat and out of the spotlight. I have wanted to get over this fear for years, but have no idea how to do it. After watching your talk I know I have to first become more comfortable with myself, but I was wondering how to take the first step?

[@LIVE2RACE2]

lay down on the street for 30 secs :) i have the same kind of fear and i just watched this video and i really want to lay down on the street. Doing this kind of thing will help with public speaking as well because it is the same kind of anxiety

[@rza139]

Do you really wanna know what it takes? It takes some dedication, but its achieveable. First, use positive thinking and affirmations to yourself. Second, learn from the best like he said. Books, videos, classes, seminars, etc. Third, practice, practice, practice. And fourth, get rid of or distance yourself from any negative friends or people in your life. Trust me. It works. Goodluck to you.

[@SerAbiotico]

You can try to avoid your confort zone little by little. Instead of directly lay down on the street, sit down on the stairs, stop to lean on a wall, up your head to see the sky/roof in the middle of a crowd. Ask 'what time it is?' to strangers. Let drop something small on purpose (a pen, a paper) and ask gently for it. Then you can go for more 'challenging' tasks.

[@peterwa10]

I have a fear of public speaking too, I've been working alot with just positive thoughts about myself. My fear stems from poor self image I have, and a insecurities on my looks. I've remedied it alot with 1: changing the way I look, loosing weight and working out helped ALOT. but thats only one step, 2: I am learning to focus on all of the good things about myself, and how awesome I am. If I KNOW I am awesome, everyone will too. (different than being cocky/ego)

[@rza139]

There is a great exercise here on KZbin from the channel - Earlytorise. It's a journal entry for 21 days. Look up the video. In the entries you write 5 things everyday for 21 days.

[@dubkontrolz2260]

A guy started doing this for several minutes during my musical sets of didgeridoo and drumming outside of Bumbershoot in Seattle this year. Everyone started asking me if he was OK? He had just randomly started laying on the asphalt. I still don't really know if he was "sane", but it was an amazing time nonetheless. I thought I had conquered my social fears by performing for masses, but realized he was at truly at the 'next level' of freedom. He came back the next day and we did it all over again. People were really scared for the most part, most thought he was dead, passed out, or crazy… all I know is, he was one cool dude… he blew my mind, and a few others...

[@voxlvalyx]

This reminds me of a story I heard about Stephen Colbert. Apparently, he would walk across crosswalks and dance in front of the cars in a very strange manner. Long story short, he now can make a total ass of himself on television and it's really entertaining and funny because he's confident.

[@tillhelgegro2433]

Great reference! Nick Winter, the CEO of CodeCombat, actually does something very similar. He implemented comfort zone challenges in his daily routine by having the following rule: every time he crosses the street and the traffic light turns red, he throws his arms in the air and runs to the other side of the street like a headless chicken!

[@acethegreat3963]

I felt this one! I'm probably the most unconfident person ever and I hope this will help. I'm going to do something out of my comfort zone right now!

[@selahman1074]

Truly epiphanic and inspirational yet so simple. Thanks Till! Keep up the good work!

[@grammarnazi4050]

+Nick Harms Is "epiphanic" an actual word? If so, you have taught Grammar Nazi and won a few internets.

[@selahman1074]

Its authenticity is a perhapsability!

[@deathmasterheartsnap1537]

+Nick Harms Prick Damages

[@asureshkumarin]

I like the idea to get out of comfort zones by doing what scare me. But the interesting thing I noticed is, when you do things you are scared of, lying on the streets here, interesting people, less in %, get closer; some more % acknowledge you but stay away/criticise; and majority % go by completely ignoring you. So, the point is what are you scared of ? anyway majority don't give an attention. So go on just do it. Thank u for the video Till H. Grob, Ted X & Utube

[@notabott]

did he say "f*ck it" in a ted talk

[@SerAbiotico]

which part?

[@robcarvalho9640]

***** 7.53

[@SerAbiotico]

Roberto Carvalho glol, well it's almost indiscernible among the deep accent, and even if it wasn't, isn't big deal

[@karnak333]

Yes. Refreshing that he did. Fuck it!

[@wadjo1]

Yea i heard he payed a fine for that

[@blessedhandsasmr7550]

What a full audience.. Bravo for your newly founded online community and for overcoming your fears! This is something I need to apply to my life. Thank you!

[@blessedhandsasmr7550]

*dull

[@lancetschirhart7676]

"Fuck it, I'll do it tomorrow." xD

[@ESosa-sh4jd]

i really enjoyed your talk! it brought back many memories. about 3 years ago i started doing these comfort zone challenges, probably unconsciesly. but they helped me a lot to develop my personality and accept myself. like you said in a earlier comment, i think fear is a trigger that allowes us to do something in a certain situation. its our choice wether we want to panic, or tu embrace that fear. so thanks a lot for that reminder! keep it up

depends where you lay yourself down, in some countries, drivers won't mind you.

[@rahul_ji21]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 did no one understood the joke or what?🤣

[@conniepatterson5142]

PROBABLY THE BEST tedtalk I have heard, awesome!

[@warrenpugh7844]

This is creepy. Just yesterday while helping a basketball player improve his shooting percentage I had him lie down for about 30 seconds. When he got back on his feet he began to hit 80% rather than about 45%. I do understand what is going on here. Issues in our nervous system are so subtle that we are clueless, yet this consciousness is the soul of success. WASP

[@Matislavio]

I think I found it at the perfect time. When I was a kid I was playing on stage no fear at all. Then junior high and high school came and now I'm a huge anxiety guy. I really want to work on my confidence. Might try those comfort challenges. And there is this kirmess on my way home from work, with all those people. . .

[@sidrashabbir6792]

Just hearing some of his comfort challenges gives me anxiety xD

[@kingcatsper1878]

S Shabbir You need help

[@mariyanabranzburg8320]

wow, he is so great! he nailed it in 15 minutes, he's good! yeah, i hate this feeling of fear, but once you've done that scary thing and understood that you still alive after all- the feeling of satisfaction of overcoming your own insecurities is so freaking amazinggg! :) this what drives you keep going with the other scary things you need to do!

[@expertusvideos]

loved this video. I've made my comfort zone challenge list.

[@itsmeyaar0007]

Can u share some of them which r not personal please

[@Oakland510]

Just did this today in Westfield, London. I kept walking around nervously for 15 minutes picking a 'right ' spot to lay down, even though every spot is a right one. I finally decided to just put my bag down and use it as a pillow. The onset of stares I received were quite worrying but I just redirected my attention on myself and I am on the floor cruising my comfort zone ! I got up after 1 minute, and the relief that was rushing through my body is indescribable. You really have to do it yourself to understand, I have never felt so free in my life until after that moment, I had a fixed smile that would not go down until I reached home :)

[@proppa9]

Walker11 :)

[@ronvavra]

Ok, so I go out and do a comfort zone challenge. bitch had me arrested.

[@LucidTeFlon180]

Hard to believe?

[@FBIRyan]

That's another one of those good excuses the mind makes up. There's many uncomfortable things you can do that's legal. And most people don't even care anyways.

[@Thetwinkly]

Duke Ofhesse Someone is gonna arrest you for laying down on the ground? You live in North Korea?

[@namewithheld7835]

Wth?😅 Were you nervous about groping people?

[@LucidTeFlon180]

Nname Withheld I believe it was meant to be a joke.

[@fevernova2392]

I didn't even realise that this video was of 15:15. Loved it! Probably the best TED talk I have ever went through.

[@shrutidoshi9109]

comfort zone challenge for me - 1) Answer a question in class 2) Showing up in practical with calmness. 3) To speak in front of people like speech in interesting topics. 4) Doing madness everyday

[@espoirjohn1130]

I can relate that damn 😂

[@animeshtiwari3260]

my heart started pounding when he was telling his comfort zone crusher experience.. I imagined myself In his place and I got terrified,will try to do the same though..

[@TheKiwiColonel]

Why would you dislike this video, what is there to dislike?

[@anukritsharma1798]

jeaLous

[@shingeki-_-1704]

i guess those ppl are "fearless" lol. i thought this was incredible

[@asasbs1411]

+KiwiGaming can't understand his English

[@laurensolomons6175]

+SD91 that's just pure arrogance and stupidity. he speaks English 2 best the best of his ability

[@TheKiwiColonel]

SD91 clearly you're bad at english in some aspects yourself if you can't interpret people from other cultures speaking the language.

[@parassavnani8734]

By far the best ted talk , I have ever heard ! Simple yet elegant ! Cheers TILL ....

[@samanthawright6266]

I'm getting nervous at the mere thought of a comfort zone challenge hahahaha

[@divyanshudeoli6646]

This guys is a good person as i saw him in his video with mark manson and he did not overshined him talking about anxiety

[@PaulaHowley]

I'm a public speaker and still get serious nerves. To combat those nerves, I deliberately give speeches in public areas like mall courtyards, parks, tennis courts, you name it, to make myself uncomfortable and get over that discomfort. Yes, people look at me and think I'm a nut case who is talking to herself. Some people have even asked me if I'm ok. People say to my husband "I think I saw your wife the other day in the supermarket parking lot talking to herself." "Yeah, that's just Paula practising her speech." he says. I call it Avery Drilling after Ryan Avery, the 2012 World Champ of Public Speaking who used this technique to prep for the Worlds. It still scares the hell out of me sometimes but MAN, is it exhilarating. And effective.

[@RemotePossibilities1]

Hi Paula - I thought of you and your Avery Drilling when I saw this video! Keep up the good work!

[@PaulaHowley]

Craig, that is really cool that you remembered! Seems we were on to something eh?

[@RemotePossibilities1]

Paula Howley You bet! And for speaking confidently, have you seen this great 6½-minute clip by Christine Clapp? bitly.com/1Fkcx63 (I copped a bit of troll-wrath in the comments, but what can you do?)

[@Discoveryourmindpower]

I love that! Well done you! You just really made me giggle...

[@tillhelgegro2433]

haha great!!