HOW TO COPE WITH WIG SHAMING | WIG TALK | WOMEN'S WIGS

[@WigReviewCentral]

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[@Diana-yk7sp]

I remember when someone at work pulled me aside and said, "People are saying that you wear a wig!". I shrugged and just gave them a big smile and said, "So?" They didn't know how to respond and I smiled again and walked away. The person that said it (my boss) had just been let go and guess who was taking her place. Me. So, I knew it wasn't about me or my wigs, but her unhappiness. Never, ever let anybody's negativity stop you from wearing a wig. There are always going to be unhappy and judgemental people who honestly don't understand that wigs are sometimes necessary for hair loss or that someone loves them for the convenience and the glamour that they bring, etc. I never feel like I owe anybody an explanation...especially if they are rude. Just shrug your shoulders and smile and walk away. That usually stops them. It really is THEIR lack of character and understanding. I truly love wigs SOOO much. For those people that are curious and open about my hair...I happily tell them all of the benefits of wigs (styles, color, savings, etc.) and I've brought quite a few friends over to wearing wigs now. Thank you for bringing up this topic. I love and adore your channel and have learned so much from you. I'm so sorry that a family member hasn't been supportive. (Hugs). You always look so beautiful and it's likely envy.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Diana. Your experience with the boss who was let go (and you taking her place) is a perfect example of a moment when someone decides to gossip about wig wearing. It almost always involves insecurity, envy, jealousy, or resentment. It took me decades (becoming older and wiser) to realize I don't have to accept, or pay attention to anything negative someone says. Silence - as you suggested - and walking away is a powerful response that excludes confidence. Thank you for sharing your experience and this advice.

[@SolitaireMiles]

Thank you for sharing. I am a professional singer and you would think that people would understand that singers wear wigs all of the time, right? Well I still get harassed, but mostly by other singers who are jealous or by men who hit on me that I turn down. So there it is. Sorry to be so blunt but that's my story.

[@WigReviewCentral]

I appreciate your bluntness. 🙂 The remarks by other singers is hair envy. Some people cannot stand to see someone shine. I enjoy your singing, and your beauty enhanced with wigs. Thank you for watching and sharing your experience.

[@SolitaireMiles]

@@WigReviewCentral You know if a woman has plastic surgery nobody complains but if you put on a wig you are demonized. It doesn't make sense

[@s.a.kenyon2767]

It’s so interesting how women especially react to wig wearing. Thank you for sharing this. I feel like most reviewers pretend like wig wearing is amazing and never hear negative comments. I have chosen not to mention my wig wearing any more. I simply don’t care what others think! I just need to feel more comfort able changing it up, but I will get there. If people make any comments positive or negative, I just shut them down and excuse myself. My hair is not to be a topic! It’s better for me to keep it moving.. However, I will help anyone who needs a wig, of course. You are the best Julia.❤. Happy Holidays.

[@WigReviewCentral]

It seems many women feel wig wearing is either for cancer patients or celebrities. They forget, or do not know, about people with alopecia. There are also women who wear wigs as a fashion accessory. I don’t understand what difference it makes. I don’t care what others think, either. I’m too old for nonsense, lol. I like how you handle negative comments. Thank you for watching, and sharing your experience. 💖

[@daphnebasset940]

Brilliant!

[@jgplmp1984]

You are so classy. It is 100% bitterness and resentment.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Thank you for your kind words, and for watching.

[@MrsP-x6u]

I appreciate you wise words julia

[@KathleenRyanArt]

Such an excellent topic and video Julia….I came out of the wig wearing gates guns blazing so to speak hehe…I told the first person I saw I was wearing a wig …and I guess my enthusiasm shut down any negative comments..seriously I was a little nervous but so excited because my wig ( a pixie close to my bio hair ay the time ) looked so much better than my own hair that I just didn’t care what anyone thought. I’m open with people use humor a lot and my Irish biting wit to disarm folks or school folks if need be hehe. Not as eloquently as you though. Women really have to stop this judging and self loathing treadmill they’re on…it must be so tiring. I’m sorry someone put a damper on your lovely evening with friends…your grace carried you through which doesn’t surprise me in the least…keep rocking on my friend👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🩷🧡❤️

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Kathleen. I love your “coming out with guns blazing” attitude! You exude confidence. In my 20’s, when I first started wearing wigs, I was SO afraid people would criticize. Now, at age 54, life experiences has taught me that fear was unwarranted. No one’s opinion defines me. I don’t care what anyone thinks. As women, we need to decide what makes us feel beautiful and confident - not listen to commercials, society’s beauty trends, or someone’s opinion. I, too, am open about wearing wigs now. I enjoy educating people about wigs.

[@LD-io9zv]

Awesome chat! Loved this style of video - thank you so much and wishing you happy, healthy and fun holidays 🎄

[@WigReviewCentral]

Happy holidays! 🎄💕 Thank you for watching!

[@krisy5118]

Hi love❤️!thank you so much for talking about this🙏i'm so sorry that happened to you😔.i struggle with this.years ago,the first time i wore a wig(i was very nervous) a friend told me 'that looks horrible😥!'people can be so hurtful. love you and thanks for being my wig family😊!❤️🙏you're the best!

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Krisy. I hate that your "friend" said that to you! I hope you wear your fashion , wigs, makeup - and whatever else - with great pride. There's only one you in this world. You are unique, and deserve to wear what makes you happy.

[@krisy5118]

@WigReviewCentral oh you are such a sweetheart,thank you sweet friend🥹❤️🙏!your kind words mean the world❤️!i wear makeup too and have had rude comments made to me about it.thank you for being so nice!🤗❤️😇

[@jecriggs]

Thanks for putting this video together, Julia: A very timely and useful topic for both new and seasoned wig wearers, and one that I haven't seen or heard discussed much. I remember when I first started wearing wigs, one of the things I worried about was the negative comments. Many of the alternative hair influencers at the time assured me that this rarely happened. While this may have been their experience, it's not always as positive for others, so as you said, it's a really good idea to have a planned response to unwanted criticism.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello jecriggs. Thank you for your comment, and for watching. :)

[@bluemountain171]

Taz from Taz's wig closet mentioned some time ago that "There is no shame in my game." That has become my mantra. I have 90% hair loss. So there is no way I can go without 'hair', and yes, it is mine, I paid for it.😂😊

[@WigReviewCentral]

I love that mantra! Whether anyone likes it or not, the fact is some of us must wear alternative hair. If that causes a person grief, they should seek therapy. Thank you for sharing your mantra, and watching! 💕

[@AmyWatford-g8h]

Thank you so much for sharing! I am new to wigs after being diagnosed with Frontal fibrosing alopecia, and have also lost hair in patcea all over. Thanksgiving went well, we had a quiet Thanksgiving and my mother in law was so sweet about it. I am nervous about some upcoming holiday work parties as the people I will be with have not seen me in my wigs. I will remember this advice! ❤

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Amy. I, too, have alopecia. I understand what you are going through. I’m happy that your Thanksgiving went well. I think you will be fine at the holiday parties. If anyone mentions your hair, you can smile and simply say, “I needed a change.” Leave it at that, or explain more…it is up to you. Thank you for watching and sharing your story. 💕

[@Janny1222]

Great chat, Julia! Thank you so much for addressing this issue. I’ve had my share of negative comments and I love the responses you suggested. I will remember them for the next time I get a negative comment.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Thank you for watching, Janny. 💖

[@marybrock3221]

I’m getting my first wig soon, and I’m scared to death! I wish I had a wig wearing friend to help me. I’m afraid of what people are going to think and say. I want my beautiful hair back!

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Mary. I know the anxiety you describe. When I started wearing a wig, people would either say “I like your hair” or ask what I did different (they didn’t realize the hair change, lol). I did not receive a negative comment until years later in my wig wearing. If anyone asks questions, you can simply say, “I needed a change.” That’s it. You don’t owe anyone a detailed answer. Once you wear a wig regularly, I promise the anxiety stops… then the wig addiction kicks in, lol. Thank you for watching.

[@marybrock3221]

@ thanks for responding, it meant a lot to me.

[@Antoinette14273]

"Your opinion of me is none of my business". This is a great phrase (and also title of a good book). Yes, it is a little blunt but it is a suitable response to subjective negative criticism. I am sure all these women (the mother and that other lady) wear makeup and or get their nails manicured to look good and feel good for themselves. What is the difference with hair? Nothing. Just a different body part that we want to enhance when it starts to thin out. We should uplift not criticise and especially in public is very rude.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Well said, Antoinette! 💐💕

[@sandylewis8897]

oh Mylanta, that was such an inappropriate comment. You were grace under fire!

[@WigReviewCentral]

Thank you, Sandy. Some people lack manners, but we don’t have to let them dull our shine. 🙂

[@sandylewis8897]

@@WigReviewCentral Absolutely!!

[@Pondue_At_Large]

I think age is a factor to. Because that woman who made the comment was older than you. She was trying to box you into her age range. Asking why you were "going around town in a wig" ? Like you should stop trying to be so alluring and get a sensible bob. It's internalized misogyny and ageism. People can do what they want at any age. You only have 1 life, and it belongs to you! I'm very blunt when my mom makes comments. We share the same issue of genetic hairloss. I say, "different people approach the same problem in different ways. Some people wouldn't wear a wig even if they needed it." (They're too embarrassed/ashamed/care too much what others think)😂

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Pondue. Yes! You said it… internalized misogyny and ageism. I like your sensible reply to your mother. Thank you for your wonderful comment, and for watching.

[@wendyamsterdam8482]

About the first example....I get frustrated myself because wigs have such unnatural density , especially at the hairline and temples. I'm used to fine thin hair my whole life before the heavy shedding began. So I would probably agree with the person complaining if someone mentioned it to me. I always hope to blend in, but I don't think I fool anyone 😊

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Wendy. I also have fine thin hair. I agree that many wigs have an unnatural density. I like the more natural density of Belle Tress Wigs; their wigs Cambridge, Milano, Park Ave, and Spade are favorites. My friends and family know I wear wigs. I have fooled strangers… when they ask where I get my hair colored and I reveal it’s a wig. We have to be true to ourselves first and foremost. We need to wear what we love. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. 🥂💖

[@highvibetribe6144]

My sister gives me a backhanded compliment by saying 'nice wig' or 'I like your wig', never 'I like your hair' or 'nice hairdo'..... she has thinning hair like me so I think she is just jealous, lol.

[@WigReviewCentral]

I think you are right about her motive. 🙂 Backhanded compliments come from insecurity, envy, or jealousy… usually. They are meant to knock someone down, since they feel low about themselves. Thank you for sharing your experience, and watching. 🙂💖

[@avamartinez8586]

I was shocked when a doctor suddenly asked me if he was ever going to see me not wearing a wig. I was speechless. He then got up and walked over and looked at the top of my head announcing “yep, it’s a wig”. Why he felt he needed to do this is beyond me. It was a human hair wig I still wear but now always wear it with a baseball cap. Another time I was at the eye doctor wearing a synthetic wig. Right away the doctor blurted out asking me if I was wearing a wig. I immediately said yes and then stammered I needed to. I’m irritated with myself I let her do this to me. I have never been back to this doctor again because of this. The first one I’ve seen again because I only have to see him once a year. I wear different hairpieces or wigs and he hasn’t said anything else. I don’t mention to people I know i wear wigs or toppers. Maybe they have figured out I do, or maybe they really don’t know. Even the worst wig looks better than my bio hair so I’m going to continue wearing them. I’ve received loads of compliments so I try to focus on them instead of focusing on two stupid doctors who did this to me. Some people think we should be like them. If they let their hair go gray they think we should also. If they wouldn’t wear a wig good for them, but if we choose to do it it’s really none of their business. It was very rude what this lady said to you, but I think she just doesn’t know any better. I’ve never worn the synthetic wig again where the doctor asked me if it’s a wig. She said the front hairline looked good but the rest of it looked fake. I was tempted to write her letter but never bothered. So she has more hair then me. Most people do.

[@WigReviewCentral]

Hello Ava. I am absolutely baffled that a doctor, and an eye doctor, would ask or comment about whether or not you are wearing a wig. It's 100% unprofessional. It has nothing to do with their service and care of you at that time. I'm proud of how you handled it. You were caught off guard, but handled it well. It seems being right (that they thought your hair was a wig) meant more to these two "professionals" than maintaining business manners and integrity. Most people have more hair than me, too, Ava. Let's agree to wear what we love in spite of these tactless people. :) Thank you for watching, and sharing your story.