How To Deal With Frustration With Husband

Are you frustrated with your spouse? Well, some of us are and maybe you're here because you currently are. Luckily, there are some things we can do about the frustration. Here's how:
1. Begin with gratitude.
2. Stay in front of your but.
3. Give him a road map.
Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins
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[@tdhawk167]

56 and feel the same

[@AlyssamarieGloryCarrier]

How come I’m always the one trying to be the better person and be the first to apologize, plan a date night, compliment him and try to make him feel special. All he does is come home from work and lay on the couch. He has no desire to anything but that. He says my happiness is not on him. All I want is to go for a walk or do something I want. But it turns into me NEEDING him to make me happy. I’m fine with all other parts of my life except that he makes no effort to spend time with me and help around the house.( frustrated full time working pays half the bills wife) (newlywed)

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Alyssa Marie, I would suggest some counseling for the both of you, quickly. He isn't seeing his responsibility in the relationship or the running of the household and probably won't make any changes until he has to. Seek counseling for yourself if he won't go so you can think through how you want the rest of your life to proceed.

[@jomo2332]

I know right? How can you give compliment to your husband who is not doing at home just eat, sleep, watching TV and YT videos thank God he's working.

[@sukhan9854]

Hi 👋 Alyssa I'm 2 months late but I hope things have been better for u. I completely agree with you but another approach is that think of the way he lived prior to u guys living together? Unless he's drastically changed.. he probably might have lived the way he did for a long time and cant see the reason why he has to change now. He has lived for so long this way and it never gave him a problem til now ( u came along ) so he sees you as the problem and will ignore your suggestions. But just like doc says.. he needs to KNOW that with marriage, change is normal.

[@tdhawk167]

If he happens to be a sociopath, psychcopath, a narcissist, therapy doesn't work. They will not be honest. And those who are drawn in by their games will help them perpetrate their abuse and the gaslighting toward the target person. (men or women)

[@EE-hi4re]

Honestly, I think it's the fact that we women have decided to work full-time instead of staying at home.

[@dawnag7526]

thanks for your videos. my frustration derives from the fact that my husband is simply not reliable, does not keep promises and pretty much does what he wants. I have tried to lead with appreciation, but his choices don't change... that's very frustrating.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is frustrating, Dawna G, you will have to decide what you are willing to put up with. Good luck.

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I just said thank you to my husband, and to let him know that I appreciate his help, and he responded positively right away. We are literally on the brink of splitting up, but you have given me hope. I will start with me and see where this goes. Thank you for the advice, it feels like you say exactly what I needed to hear. And that you understand, and are actually putting everything in perspective for me.

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Silvia Alvarado, I think you two can do this. Hopefully this is the wake up call he needed.

[@5hurik0]

"Would you please...?" instead of "Can you...?" makes a world of a difference

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Small words, big difference.

[@cherrybloom5162]

I asked my husband can you please bring the vaccume cleaner up when you're going up. He did not bring it up. But told me are you trying to make me do things around you. Do it yourself that's your job. And that makes us not to talk to each other for several days. It's horrible. I asked him because it's heavy. It hurts me when he can help other women but say these things to me.

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charlotteslimegurl123 awsome, wow, that sounds aggressive. It might be time to get some help with the communication.

[@DirtyPrancing]

I watch this video, feel empowered about helping my marriage, and then feel resentful because i would never catch my husband watching a video like this. It feels as if he doesn't care what's wrong or how to help it. Then I start to think "why am I watching videos between my full time job and college classes, putting so much effort in? Is it all on me to understand him?" These thoughts make me feel toxic

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Do you have date night? It might be fun to get together and watch a few videos. Tell him he can pick one and then you. Slip in a marriage video and see if he will talk about it. You have a lot going on so make sure you are doing something for yourself, DirtyPrancing.

[@glitter2664]

I completely agree with you DirtyPrancing I feel the same way about my marriage I watch all these videos and read all these books and I know thats the last thing on his mind i voice how I feel sometimes and he acts like he doesnt care but God forbid if HE GETS DONE THAT WAY!!! But i still love him and always will.... 😏😏

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YOU ARE!!!

[@katherinelydon7306]

Sure seems that way to me, too! You aren't toxic just a normal female.

[@lesleyt4327]

I agree with you Dirty Prancing. The whole giving a road map part - I read that as doing the thinking and planning and managing work ! Still leaves me feeling pretty pissed off tbh- like the the 'just tell me what to do and I'll do it ' response to asking for more input on housework -aargh!!! Now I have to add managing a grown ass man to my list of jobs

[@newmank0217]

Feed his ego so he will give you the love you want...*sigh* alrighty! 😐 I’ll try it.

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Kimberly Adams, wouldn't it be nice if everyone just pitched in and did their part? I hear you.

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Live On Purpose TV 3 days in and it seems to be working. My mom says the one who notices that changes need to be made is responsible to start the change. 😊

[@madib2163]

I will be honest.... I watched this video in the midst of being upset with hubby. I was tired of feeling upset and responding as I normally do when upset. I made faces & said to myself that this will not work. It actually does in our case. Im so glad that I found this video.

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I am glad you found us, Kim Lee. Welcome.

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I am actually frustrated to my husband and this makes me calm and realized some points.thank you

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SISONings Tv, I am glad it was helpful.

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Glad you're subscribed here Sonia - thanks for engaging. DrPaul

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Jane on the coast, Glad we could connect.

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[@monanajafipour483]

I did try what you said here, and yes they worked!! But if I stop doing them just for 2 days, he goes back to the original mode of doing no chores, lying on the couch all they, and doing nothing, he doesn't even take care of himself if I stop inspiring and motivating him!! Doing all these every single day is too much for me, what should I do then?!

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Mona Najagi Pour, decide what you are willing to put up with and what you aren't. Talk to him and share what you are thinking.

[@marwagad3034]

I was frustrated from my husband but after watching this I feel better now .could you please tell us how to control jealous .My man is always using this against me .He is very sociable .A million thanks.

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Marwa Gad, is he being social or disrespectful? There is a difference.

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Thank you so much for sharing! All your videos from toddler's to husbands are very helpful!

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Thanks for the comment Tesanndra Giger - glad you're here. DrPaul

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Sometimes that's not a big leap! 😁

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If my husband wanted me or his ex wife to be happy he wouldn't have been a screaming, gaslighting, blame switching, devaluing asshole.(and the list goes on!) Sometimes the mental illness people suffer from makes them insufferable and those people DO NOT want anyone to be happy. I enjoy your channel, it's very informative and helpful.

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Thank you, I wish you the best.

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Please share with anyone you think would enjoy the content. Glad you are here.

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Well said " stay in front of your but". Well put... 👏 perfect for any relationship also..

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Wendi Watson, yes, when we understand the principle, then we can apply it to different arenas of our lives.

[@tdhawk167]

Mine definitely did not want to be my hero or make my life better... it was that way before we married. After our ceremony, he was completely different. It was shocking, the abusive and cruel things that he did and said. It turned out he had some disorders. Was scary and am grateful to have gotten out with my life!

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Glad you have moved on to more peaceful times.

[@movi3srock]

I do compliment and thank him for everything he does. So much so that I don't think he even appreciates it. All he hears are the times I ask him to do something. He doesn't want to be a hero, cuz he doesn't want me to be too reliable on him 🙄. He is going through job and financial stress so he's always in a mood. So I always tell him what I need him to do and communicate with him. But he gets frustrated so easily and then he doesn't listen. So then something is forgotten or a mistake happens, and then I get frustrated. Which makes this a daily cycle.

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movi3srock, maybe have more frequent times to "check-in" with one another on how you are doing throughout the day so there is support along the way.

[@lifeseries7944]

Dealing with a husband is like having an extra child these days. I know he wants to be a hero AND he needs to step up. When I do everything else, it's hard to praise him for just taking out the dishes. Actually, I don't expect him to do household chores because I can do it better. I just expect him to do the guy's jobs, more like the labor or physical strength tasks that I can't do myself. Or, teaching/disciplining/parenting the teens.

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I hope you can work this out together.

[@aliarsenal6136]

I told my husband that I hate his attitude of staring at other women eventhough I'm nearby. I feel disrecpectful and ugly. I think my husband stare at other women that are prettier than me(but I think I look better than some of them). So now I'm thinking, he can do that in front of me. How about behind me when i'm not there. Right? I feel frustrated by his behaviour and that just ate my lust. I don't see why I need to have sex with someone who is still looking for other women.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Please share your feelings with your husband Ali Arsenal. Let him know that the more you feel loved and valued by him, the more intense your feelings will be toward him, in a good way. Talk about trust and communication. Don't be afraid to get some counseling, with or without him, to validate your feelings and decide what you can do about the situation.

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@@LiveOnPurposeTV I've talked to hin about it and he makes a lot of excuses. I think counseling would be a good idea. Thank you very much for your reply. I love your video. Subscribed. 😊

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Thank you for subscribing.

[@jomo2332]

I have the same experience with my husband even we are together he's looking to other women as if he wants to ask their number. I asked him why he's doing that and he's telling me I'm a jealous type and he got upset. I feel more insecure esp I'm 4years older than him. Sometimes it came to my mind to cheat on him as a revenge but I'm not that kind of woman.

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Wow, the hero part made me laugh, haha. I never thought of that. Thanks for the enlightening lesson about husbands. Been married for more than 3 decades and found out I still have to know a lot more about him.

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Honored to be on our team.

[@ivanwithers9469]

I feel like this applies to self expectation as well.

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Indeed Ivan - nice catch. DrPaul

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" he's a terrible mind reader any way.. " 🤣

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Wendi Watson, nah, our minds just have lots in common.

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This is sooooo helpful. I appreciate all the details and examples 👍👍

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Hope it helps! DrPaul

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It was definitely helpful and u r so good at explaining . Thank you so much

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I really like your message and you did a great job explaining well how to understand my husband. Thank you so much for sharing it.👍👍👍 you gave me some feedback on how to deal with him.

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Glad it was helpful!

[@evelynsierra5775]

I'm so frustrated and sick and tired when they're always on the man's side. Why do I have to clean up the ACT. He nags me I've been married for 22 years. He told me I don't know anyting. He hasn't been working this entire pandemic. I've been working 14 days straight with no appreciation. I'm a first responder in a hospital I never noticed any signs at the beginning of our relationship I prayed for 10 years this is what I got: split personality pathological liar narcissistic OCD. Where did I go wrong. He refused to go to Christian Counseling I'm about to throw in the towel. We are raising 2 autistic adults.

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Evelyn Sierra, your husband has given you a lot of information about where he is. Now you get to decide how you want to live out the next phase of your life. I wish you the best.

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Thank you so much for telling this world that we are not able to read minds I am most grateful thank you

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[@RevealTheStyle]

Yeah, I’ve noticed that weird thing about my husband that he is very good at shielding his psyche from dealing with several tasks at once. Or from anything uncomfortable or inconvenient, in fact. This has NOTHING TO DO with any kind of “boxes” in a man’s mind. It is laziness. It is fear of unfamiliar feelings. Fear of heavy emotions. Thank you for this video, now I’m angry not on my immature husband and not on myself for not being able to assert my feeling properly. Now I’m angry for men giving each other such false excuses and putting themselves in “special husband boxes”.

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Marina Marina, I hope he can find some help to get him past excuses.

[@RevealTheStyle]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for the reply 🙏 It is such a tricky case with excuses… when you don’t wand to cut off relationships and want to rather repair them. I guess at some point the real reason behind excuses always comes out. A person just can’t hide from oneself, at least 🤔

[@kseniyakhan9064]

“Honey please take the garbage today… “cracked me up because when I ask my hubby to do something he deliberately does it on his Own time not the time I “requested” (aka everything is tomorrow) 😂 annoying? Yes, but not too big of a deal. I definitely see how its a one box at a time process because I was under the impression that it is not having the ability to multitask but I see its beyond that. Thanks!

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You are welcome, glad you are at the channel.

[@1Melody1963]

I stopped needing a hero at age 12.

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1Melody1963, thank you for watching, I wish you the best.

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Dr. Laura was referenced! Love it.

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Thanks for watching.

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ow wow, juz found your channel..youre really good..thanks for making me smile tonight, im having a bad feeling about my husband a while ago..sick and tired of this feeling

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You are so welcome, •Alexian Kim•. I hope things get better for the two of you. Try to watch some of the videos together, there is a playlist for marriages. We also have a lot going on at liveonpurposecentral.com. This month we have a course on marriages.

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Thank you. Awesome video. So clear to save and solidify marriages.

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So glad you found the video helpful, Virgie Mata!

[@thatheathergirl1]

I understand your points, however the idea of giving a roadmap still takes NONE of the mental/ emotional labor off our plates. the idea is that we want men to be adults that notice things need to be done, and DO it. Your example of the trash.. do you see it is full? Take it out! Why should that need a prompt from an external source? Why should a wife take care of all of her labor that she is responsible for, AND have to remind a husband, presumably an adult, to do whatever his commitments are in a timely and reasonable manner? Its one thing to ask for say, more affection, its another to have to remind someone that they live in the house and stuff doesnt get done by magic elves Everyone needs to contribute

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

thatheathergirl1, that is where we want to get them, it is a process. Just trying to help.

[@thatheathergirl1]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I hear you. Im just wondering why it even should be a process. These are adults we are married to- what would they do if we werent there?

[@lesleyt4327]

My thoughts exactly- well said

[@EE-hi4re]

These problems stem from women working outside of the house. Our place is at home. Let the men pay the bills

[@rain1053]

My husband doesn't want me to be happy. He wants him to be happy. With all his rules, everything need to be his way, his selfish childlike man, can't give any consideration, don't understand, can't forgive, full of baggage, full of anger even for a very small things he's very angry at everything. Please tell me your advice will work for me.. As I'm getting tired and want to leave him. I'm suffocated with him. He's very spiteful, he wants respect but he doesn't treat me right. He's very rude, very ugly, calling me names etc. Hope you can help.

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Rain, I can't control your husband and neither can you. Figure out what you control and then make your decision based on that.

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I just started watching your videos. You are awesome!!!

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Thank you, Yami Mami! Honored to be on your team.

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My boyfriend has been canceling plans or coming late to them. Either because he was too tired or because some emergency. I think I should be more understanding but I can't help feeling mad.

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Isabel Rosas, it might be time for an honest talk to see where you both are in the relationship.

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Oh my this one is good. I just love your channel. Positive parenting and everything I need. Amazing. Love your sense of humor. 😂 This really helps. Why didn't I think of tip #3 🤷 these are amazing tips mind blowing 🤯 terrible mind reader 😂😂😂 thank you

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Vitalia Schultz, thank you. Honored to be on your team.

[@byd5801]

Im having trouble understanding my partner who says "I do x!" but in reality they do not do it, bit they think? they do it and insist on it too! and I'm like "one of us is crazy" I don't get it

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BY D, there might be some room for some counseling and attention to mental health.

[@susannaharget509]

So wise. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so welcome

[@stephanieheger7388]

Wanting to be the hero comes with some effort on his part.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Stephanie Heger, yes, it does.

[@nikolinazanetti8817]

I agree with Stephanie and disagree with a fine part of the video. If this were a child, I would say fine. But we are dealing with an adult person (I assume) who knows when it's time to take out the trash and such. I've been down that 'road map' a million times...it creates a 'mommy' figure who 'commands' and manages his daily activities...Because apparently he cannot perceive them on his own... At some point they even completely stop showing effort to even 'look inside the fridge to recognize what's missing (milk etc), because he already has someone who would tell him what to do, and has no need to use his brain to be aware or notice things...which to start with- I do not feel like managing.... An adult male should be able to handle these simple tasks by himself without me telling him. The frustration doesn't appear when he doesn't read my mind...it's when I give him the 'road map' over and over again, and still nothing. That is not being a productive part of a household. I wouldn't call them expectations, I would call them 'morals' (?). Things You know you need to do inside of any household, without someone telling you (spouse or not). All this sounds like 'mommy-ing' and not having an equal partner who will help you (or at least won't make it worse) with everyday things that make life... Wanting to be the hero without doing the mature thing to do whilst petting his ego is a bomb waiting to blow up in your face... Forever doomed to count on him to do the right thing ONLY IF HE FEELS GOOD about himself...And if he's not...well tough luck... It goes both ways, but I do chores cuz I ''have to''...it has nothing to do with feelings. If I don't wash my dishes, they pile up...same for laundry, trash and such...No matter how low my self esteem is, or how bad my day was... I just do it. Point. I don't see when did these simpleminded things became such an issue for a modern everyday man (for it to be called nagging ). I am sorry but men need to get over some things and stop whining...If you don't want me to nag, do it yourself. *Sorry for the expressive thoughts , just feeling *frustrated*

[@sadiesmith7407]

Love this. What if you dont feel like your husband wants to be your hero? Sometimes I think be finds a way to be a hero in other forms (video games, very hobby focused etc) that when asked to do something the response is: ok, and then a continuation of doing whatever hobby or screen he was preoccupied by as if I never said a thing? Admittedly I could up the words of appreciation. And my husband often just wants to distract himself from life and family because it's more entertaining or something? (He was programmed and allowed to be on a computer for hours a day in his adolescence) 😔 I just feel like he has no desire or takes an effort to spend quality time with me. Other things are a lot more entertaining I guess.

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Sadie Smith, that is sad, it sounds like he is missing out and doesn't even realize it. You might benefit from a counselor so he can begin to understand what is happening.

[@sadiesmith7407]

Ok, when do you want us to come? 😅 but truly, it is sad. And my reactions can be equally sad. We both have lots of work to do!

[@truthfinder6932]

Yes, my husband calls/texts his buddy every morning spanning 3 hours, when we are in the car, and while we are having lunch every day, Can text every 10 minutes. Listen to KZbin videos up to 8 hours a day. (Retired)

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What a great speaker you are!

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Thank you, so nice of you.

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This channel is amazing!!

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GyK G, only because of great viewers like you.

[@tdhawk167]

Was so strange to me... But I learned quickly- if I said I didn't like something, he made sure I got it. And visa-versa. Yeah, really strange. If your with someone like this, they have some disorders... regular therapy won't work. I hope to God, you are with a man who does want to be your hero and who cares about you... Then loving kindness and learning together and therapy have a great chance of working! 💕

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Yes, it does.

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Very helpful. Thank you💯

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You are welcome, Sara M.

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SUPER FANTASTIC-! So simple Yet so profound for me Thank u Plan to implement

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Nice - glad you found it helpful. DrPaul

[@mariyavatulko7922]

Exactly. What should I do , when my step kids come over my husband is acting differently to Me . When I tell him about something is kid said he gets unoyed with me . What should I do ??

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Maybe he needs some alone time with the kids. Talk to him and ask him what he needs.

[@mandyzepeda5447]

I wish I was in a relationship healthy enough for this to work. If both partners respect and love one another I could really see it working. Therefore it's great advice but doesn't fit all scenarios.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Try some of our other videos. If you don't find anything consider some coaching. Www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall

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OMG I love your videos! So helpful!!! Thank you!

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Thank you Healthtech Pati. Honored to be on your team.

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please don't use Gods name in vain omg have respect for the Gods name who made you

[@georgeannepanos8132]

Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus..... Speaking for myself. I tend to think the 'he' knows what I'm thinking....and quite often he looks perplexed LOL

[@georgeannepanos8132]

my boyfriend tends to refer to my 'efforts' as, going off on a tangent! :-P

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I don't even think I would like to be a mind reader, too much info.

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Awesome stuff. Tfs Dr Paul

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Glad you enjoyed the video, Irene Ifere Ohia. Thank you for watching.

[@lytethebrand6179]

How do I deal with a husband who invests a lot in his mother? To a point we lack before end month? He also cannot see the inconvenience of living with his brother few months after we got married. We are now almost three years into marriage with an year old girl.

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lyte chepkemboi, It probably isn't changing any time soon if this has been going on your entire marriage. You will need to decide what you have control over and what you don't.

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Noted! Will pass that along to the crew.

[@christinasubramoniam8829]

I kind of got clarity on how to handle things. But I do tell him to finish a few tasks. He either forgets to do or keeps postponing. How do I deal with that ??

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

nicely, non-confrontational, bring it up and offer to help if that is possible. Sometimes working together makes it easier.

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@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for your response

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I will definitely use this advice! How did you know? Lol

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Carrie Serbaty, because someone asked. You are not alone.

[@jennifernewton6759]

I feel like a piece of furniture. In our home. From morning to night. My husband's on the cell phone texting his personal opinion on political affairs. or watching TV. I told my husband I need love , open communication, and above all trust. I've been married 7yrs. I don't believe in divorce. Cause I strongly believe in our vows we made to each other and to God. But yet he doesn't seem to appreciate the work I do around the house 🙄

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jennifer Newton, I hope he realizes what he has very soon.

[@mandyzepeda5447]

Oh my goodness . Exact same situation

[@jerikas]

Husbanese ❤ made me giggle

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We can seem like strange creatures at times, J S. Glad you enjoyed the humor.

[@nkeshaesther7848]

Thanks alot 💝🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're welcome 😊

[@EvilTink1_]

I understand what you mean about a unfrustrated husband but mines cheated on me and has used his job to cheat and party and it’s not that easy to divorce nor do I want too .I think all men are this way ...

[@EvilTink1_]

Especially with kids .

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sueann Valenzuela, you think all men are this way because it is your reality. In truth, not all men are this way, some are, but not all.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sueann Valenzuela, we do have to think about what our choices will mean for our children. Please seek some counseling to sort through your feelings.

[@EvilTink1_]

Live On Purpose TV lol ok that’s why I was watching you ..I was trying to give you a chance on changing my mind on things but no all you say is get counseling lol ..and if you can truly know and name a man that doesn’t act that way ..I’ll kiss your feet 😂🤷‍♀️.

[@lifestyleq856]

Why am I tending to find many points incorrect but want to get it corrected? Hope some can understand..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lifestyle Q, we want to make things better, it is natural.

[@medinac7618]

I love all your videos Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

So nice of you, Medina.

[@monikachopra1456]

If a relationship to give relation in the terms of conditions which doesn't belong to u.becuase u dont like to turn into the conditions and its not movi g its stable

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Monika Chopra, thanks for watching.

[@christinamitrovich7554]

He did not want to be my hero. He did not want to be our daughters hero. He only thought for himself and about himself. He was not an animal, he was a monster. He had no brain. His family failed raising him properly. He did not want us happy. He refused happiness in our family. He did not want to make improvements or building anything. I tried everything suggested in this video. Nothing worked. That is why I kicked him out.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sounds like you know what you want and are going for it. Good luck.

[@ab6129]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are very welcome, Adela.

[@kimpaintscanvas7023]

I just found your videos today and I'm binge watching! Lol! I love your approach and how you explain these different topics. I have a question that I'd be honored if you could answer. My husband is great in many ways and I do show and feel appreciation for those. But theres a negative aspect that is causing huge issues... I know a lot of women wont get this, but he is ALWAYS agreeable with everything I say and do... He never tells me what I do wrong, or could do better or different. He never voices a different opinion from mine. Never initiate an opinion or plan of action. He always just agrees with everything I say and do. He doesn't ever disagree with me about anything. I've asked him to tell me when I do something "wrong " so I can change it. He says he will but never does. We've been together 9 yrs and he wasnt this way in the beginning. Its causing our relationship to be so dull. He acts as if I never do wrong and all my ideas are the right ones and I know that can't be the case. Theres just zero self expression from him. I dont know what else to do to get his true self to come back out. Please Dr, I need your help! Thank you!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is difficult to say since I have not met either of you. Ask yourself if he learned his behavior now by what happened before when he did voice his opinion? It sounds like he is not trusting your words about really wanting him to express an opinion. He will need to feel it is safe for him to do so. Hope that helps to spark some ideas for you, Kim Mailhot.

[@kimpaintscanvas7023]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so much for your response! I do understand your point. Nothing is really standing out to me right away. I need to think back and seriously analyze my actions and communications between us before things got this way. Thank you for giving me a direction to go in. I value my marriage deeply and want us both to feel happy and loved.

[@EvilTink1_]

Kim the Artist wanna trade husbands ?🤷‍♀️😂not saying there’s not a issue ..it just sounds like a dream for me .Lol

[@aneeja5045]

If my husband dont wants to be a hero , then how can i deal with him

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

aneeja, try the suggestions on the video and some other on the marital playlist at the channel. You can decide what you want to accept in your marriage and if you want it to continue. The decision is yours. I hope you are able to work things out.

[@henasfa23]

I just found you on KZbin, wow. I love it.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yay! Thank you! Glad we can connect.

[@pratikshajain6555]

Could you comment on frustration on boyfriend in live-in relationship?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX, Pratiksha Jain. We don't have a video specifically for live-in boyfriends, but you can still find relevant videos. For now, I encourage you to keep communications positive, perhaps watch some of the videos with your boyfriend, and consider some counseling or coaching if things are really rough. We have a free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach, if you want to start there: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@EvilTink1_]

For example he’s partying right now aka in a meeting and it’s dark outside.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sueann Valenzuela, what are you getting out of this relationship?

[@baguiobase4713]

Good advice.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching!

[@baguiobase4713]

You are welcome

[@Mich2Paris7]

Hmmmm any more tips this doesn’t work for my hubby, plus we have reversed roles, I work he’s a stay at home dad, does this change anything? I still find myself doing 90% of house work and working full time 🤔

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Michelle Mitchell, you need to have a serious conversation and decide who is going to do what. You may need some help in communicating and working out an agreement.

[@EE-hi4re]

Your reversed roles are the problem. He is a man. He needs to be working outside of the home

[@Mich2Paris7]

@@EE-hi4re he does a lot more now, I don’t agree that anyone should do anything based on what society expects but he has been studying to be a mental health worker since last year and will be working in that. He’s a lot more hands on at home and with the kids now. He’s made a lot of changes. The biggest one he’s not playing computer games and so he’s been able to accomplish a lot more.

[@nicolejeniferstudio]

Basically how to train a dog.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nicole Cohen, I get that.

[@shyamakumaridevidasi5758]

Very helpful

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Shyama Kurnari devi dasi, honored to be on your team.

[@uniqueworld1095]

So a wife can't fake smile right can't fake happiness if she really is then she must show that her expression of feelings And expecting from your partner to at least trust you is I don't think in the hands of a person we are human beings and we naturally expect from people whom we love A husband is clearly expecting her wife to be happy but wait its emotions you can't fake emotions at least in front of your life partner

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We should be authentic, and we should also manage our expectations. People tend to have high expectations, even for themselves and that can cause a lot of frustration, anger, or resentment. Thanks for watching, Unique World. If you are interested in more, we have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX

[@georgeannepanos8132]

Wow...I just had a 'ah-ha' moment.....I almost always have praise and appreciation for and towards my boyfriend. But with my son, I have a frustrated aura....UGH

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sons are kind of like little men - you get to train him to be an emotionally intelligent man someday.

[@georgeannepanos8132]

That's so funny because today as we left the diner after having an early lunch, my little 'man' and I....he goes out first and let's the door go and it slammed right into my leg. Good thing that this old hag can still move quick in short bursts (me)....I made some grunting noise thinking, such a gentleman! Then he let's the second door go too! I said to him, Nicholas...if you were on a date right now, she'd dump you for being rude!! "Oh Mom!!" I'm always reminding (NOT NAGGING) him, why not let the young lady go first. At times it really sinks in because, out of nowhere and with NO warning, he'll say (to a stranger), you're pretty, like my Mom....but I can't marry you because I'm not a big person yet! (good Lord....) but I can help you push your stroller.....

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Buckle up - more fun to come!

[@marwagad3034]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV this is why I don't want two men at home .one big man is fair enough.

[@arianaangelshapire4090]

U Make me laugh with some story. Its funny

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you!

[@marvinsaucedo5446]

How can I get subtitles for this video

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Great idea, Marvin Saucedo. I will talk to my KZbin videographer.

[@berekacoffeeethiopiancoffe742]

So helpfu. I feel better already ☺

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am so glad to hear it, THE STREETS FAMILY! Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV - it's an honor to have you here.

[@elizabethguthrie5284]

Honestly... You are not describing mine

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

elizabeth Guthrie, thanks for watching anyway : )

[@g4tnewnewg4t48]

Guys, once you get trapped, it's nothing but nagging. Their true nature comes out. You'll never see a video that tells women to find the guy she wants, not the one she wants to change.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

g4tnew newg4t, this may be accurate with some relationships, but not all.

[@g4tnewnewg4t48]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I get that. It's like saying some people have a great relationship with drugs. But statistically, because of laws and virtually no accountability or incentives for a wife to behave, men don't need the risk.

[@timsullivan250]

this guy could have saved my marriage so frustrating

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nope, Tim Sullivan, you are the only ones who could have done that, I just teach principles that work. Learn from what happened and make your next marriage your last.

[@catherinemalloy4207]

Do you live in the real world.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Catherine Malloy, yes, and I hope for the best all the time. Life isn't perfect and I want to make it better.

[@jenbosaw2870]

Ok so if your blessed, yes your husband wants to be your hero. There are also a lot of them who just marry you on false pretenses. They sometimes get married to take your money or whatever. You are only talking about one situation here. Two people one setting. No all husbands are not sincere. Ummm 👌. I'm not trying to be negative here but how many husbands did you marry?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I haven't married any husbands, Jen Bosaw. : ) Perhaps you are right concerning other situations. This particular video is to empower wives to help their husbands who are stuck but willing to change.

[@Pilablart]

I didn’t know grown as men where incapable of common sense and need to re learn??? They need to prove themselves just like we do. This vid just made me feel sorry for the men because they are slow at processing everything apparently.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Uriel, thank you for watching.

[@jennyli7749]

For everyone who’s watching this video and the information rings a bell check out an AMAZING podcast by Gary chapman, The Five Love languages. Which is in essence what this video is all about!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching.

[@valor101arise]

Your sound is too quiet

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Dr Mugs, thank you for the feedback. That is helpful.

[@bel.sat.9051]

I am going to use this Tips for my next marriage... JK

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I hope you found the tips valuable, Erik S. Thanks again for being on the channel.

[@christinamitrovich7554]

Your videos are great. But he was a no hopper. That is why I got another man to do everything he would not do as a man and as a partner and then the other guy got lucky instead of him. I am proud of myself.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching.

[@NJWAANAA]

I LOVE YOU 😅😅😅😅😅😅Wish you a LOVELY LIFE with your FAMILY😉😉😉😍😍😍

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I wish you the same, NJWAANAA. Thanks for being a part of the Live On Purpose family.

[@gloriaprice8179]

Great advice! What to do when he doesn't care about being a heroe? 😆😆😆

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Gloria Price, I guess it's up to us if we want to continue playing. Thanks for watching.

[@dawnah1559]

Would give anything for you to talk to my husband he is just all around impossible and a total arsehole. SMH. I put in all the work to try to fix our marriage but he doesn’t do ish.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Dawna Hill, thank you for watching and putting forth much effort to save your marriage. We have a Positive Relationship Resources playlist (kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX) or a "How to Fix a Marriage that's been Damaged" playlist (kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPD7ZFUy4BGprDhRq8tDD2yg), do you think he would be willing to watch any videos from those? We also have a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Counseling has helped save many marriages. Whether it's just you or both of you, I encourage you to take advantage of this offer. To schedule, go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall