How to deal with pretentious people

[@Ant-speakingfacts]

not giving them any attention is the best way

[@gaelthehuman1290]

Best advice ever.

[@lhn6856]

I know these people. The best way to win is not to play.

[@dbedazzling1]

Omg all my coworkers. It seem like the whole world wants to be pretentious.

[@mariewilliams194]

The reason why theses people are rude because they know that the people they target won't answer back to them. People are just thinking about themselves . Its the me me generation they like to act like its all about them. Everything they say and do is too feel good about themselves . They like to criticize and belittle and laugh at people to feel better about themselves. They act superior to boost their self esteem and they love drama and enjoy making a fool out of people. Because they enjoy acting like they are perfect but they lack respect because they are not thinking about peoples feelings. They can be so snobby and conceited and love being the centre attention because they are so full of themselves. It's best to keep it polite and classy and not take inconsiderate people seriously because that's what they A reaction. Ignore drama and you will feel calmer. You will be less stressed if you care less. All self important people want is to feed their big egos to feel important.

[@diannreno5820]

What does t h at mean

[@yvonprudhomme594]

So true it's best to discard comments that could otherwise create a reaction in you that put you at their level, be aware and care about YOU.

[@CheungAdoniszu]

💯 agreed

[@lnteIIigence]

Pretentious people are just, like, inferior. Yuck. *Angrily spits phlegm*

[@thaskunk1]

"I will be right back", exit conversation

[@DJTEVAdotCOM]

You go gurl! and that's why I cut my ties of my friend of 7 years.

[@Globalizing]

You are so right and genuine. Thank you, just what I needed to hear today. So, so true what you say about the people who are really confident and those who aren´t. The confident are NOT the ones putting other people down. I agree 100%. That´s the diffence between a healthy and an unhealthy selfworth

[@sezjames2472]

Dont let shit slide. Stand up to them if they give shit but don't ever give them attention. A good smack in the jaw sometimes helps.

[@coffeepandacat]

Inferiority complex. I had this...when I was in high school. Now that it's almost been 10 years I meet my old self sometimes as I go on in life. It has taught me that I never want to be like that. Depending on the person, I feel sorry for them cause it reminds me of how I was. I was never happy on the inside when I was like this. On the other hand, some people's behavior is just so horrible towards others. I feel little sympathy for those people. I just don't understand how you can walk through life treating others like that. Being unhappy is still not an excuse to mistreat others.

[@murray1378]

Wow you make so much sense this is exactly how I get treated by my sister in law and mother and father in law sometimes too. Ive been to psychologists regularly and I think I just learnt more in 4 min from you! Thank you

[@yvonprudhomme594]

Good luck with making yourself feel better, by the way I hope you realize it's not them that's ever gonna fix ya, you have to let that go, just listened to yourself and be your own best friend.

[@Piecesofjoyfulness]

I loveee your energy, its like that friend trying to comfort you when something upsetting has happened💛💛💛

[@yvonprudhomme594]

They are what they are, so accept it, the only thing that you control is yourself, being the best version of what a decent human being is, is the only way to go.

[@coachemilythetriumphant3883]

I live in one of the wealthiest counties in IL. I just avoid taking them seriously.

[@coolguywithshades34]

Coach Emily The Triumphant isn't that an oxymoron

[@tamarastone141]

@@coolguywithshades34 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@arpitkumartomar]

You are on point. Pretencious people jsut want to be the center of attention and feel important because they are insecure of being declared as obsolete and left forlorn. That's why they go to all heights and act ostentatious. I have a good trick. Whenever you happen to get stuck with such a person, pretend to get a call and ask for an exit. Et voila.

[@2009jadeorchid]

Perfect way to explain these people , most of my cousins, I walked away from family gatherings so did my Mom

[@sarahbucket8037]

thanks for this. I have just got rid of a "friend" who did this. I did feel bad for them thats why I tried to be their friend, but they just try to start fights and put me down and all the things this vid says.. I am so done!!! one can only put up with it for so long!! feel sooo free! have subbed! ♥ please keep making vids and the short format is great :) straight to the point! love it!!

[@Tania-rg7jp]

OMG some women and some ex-ed out women in my family are exactly like this. Love your videos!

[@mariedubuque]

Serious, they, too are attention seekers. And what I find is, even if you offer a suggestion that might help them, they dismiss it! So, if nothing is working, just semi-ignore the complaining. What I mean is, you can acknowledge what they say, but move on as fast as you can to something else, so they don't go on and on.

[@Lover-of_TRuth]

❤

[@ignaciosantander410]

I usually just used to speak with them like anyone else but these people have started to get meaner so i needed this

[@CheungAdoniszu]

Like what ever you say has some kind of counter argument.

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

🎯

[@monkey-trial...6578]

I'm a comedian and there's nothing more fun than to tear these types a new one while receiving applause from others within earshot.

[@jameswest4700]

Tell it lady.

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

I love it! Your advice is brilliant. Thank you.

[@kizuluwachira2155]

thank you Marie, you have saved my life💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕😭

[@mariedubuque]

HouseofAlphaBeta, be careful. She is obviously very insecure. She is putting up this front so she "seems" like she is in control, but really isn't. Don't let her suck you in. Sure, be friends with her, but don't allow the friendship to get to the point where she depends on your for everything. And don't allow her to make you defensive. You didn't do anything wrong...She may try to twist your words around. I wouldn't give her ammunition.

[@patricianguyen7012]

What if people think that you're pretentious when you really aren't

[@Arlindaofficiall]

You are amazing this helped me a lot here a story there was this girl who would tell me i'm pretty but then she found out my dad bought me an expensive bus ticket and she didn't have any bus ticket so she started bragging that she has enough money to buy one on her own even though she doesn't and sometimes i feel sad for her but she also makes me angry.

[@APT420]

Oh man. My little brother has got to be the most pretentious person I know. He's always talking about his millionaire friend, his bounty hunter friend, people say he looks like Johnny Depp and he believes it. I did what you said not to do in this video. I egged it on. I would normally laugh at him for trying to brag about that sort of thing, "All my friends say I look just like Johnny Depp." in a "Grandioso" fashion but this time and others I poured as much fuel on him as i could. Had him convinced that he looked so much like Justin Bieber that he could pass as his older brother (that nobody knows about), I've got him so convinced it's sad. LOL

[@UFOSPACEMAN]

Curb Stomp, Done.

[@fishandseeful]

marie, you help me so much put things into perspective

[@melissab0515]

Yes!!!! Such great advice

[@user-vm6oz6wt5g]

Watching this bc I'm going to a hiring event at a very pretentious place. I can do one on one but I'm not a fan of group hiring events like this. Pray for me.

[@careforjusticealways]

okay this video is gold!👍🏽

[@franciscoalvarez5215]

Thanks, Marie.

[@llewesa100]

Hi Marie. The other solution is to cut off all contact as I did with my Aunt and Uncle in New Zealand. What you're describing here is them to the max. They managed to alienate my mother, my father, myself and my sister eventually. They emigrated 30years ago and I suspect that it's been a big disappointment to them so they constantly talk about the place as though it was heaven on earth.Everyone else's lives were dismissed as being so much rubbish but they......etc etc etc. They were often rude and the irony was that they were mystified as to why we were so unfriendly. How then were we supposed to interpret their unfriendly behaviour?? Empty vessels etc What's your take on what I've described to you?

[@mastermoralitymaster1171]

only white Anglo women can be pretentious in the west because you have privelidges and an advantage

[@lillyrocks2011]

llewesa100 Probably they are very insecure people and maybe in some way or ways, feel unhappy. Another thing is that they feel too much hate for the lack of opportunities in their natal country. Sometimes, people elevate the worst "values" in a pedestal, because that's a way they think they will feel or give attain some kind of "security", "self esteem", and "respect". I think they will later realize how wrong they were by losing contact with you, or their presumptuous attitude. The wrong emotions, not so assertive way of thought, can carry anybody by the wrong path, or to take the worst options, and having the wrong attitudes. Maybe, they don't know how to react with you, and they don't want to be totally honest, so better they rather to give the false (?) impression that they are super. Hope is of some help. All the very best. (Sorry for my English).

[@SwtSunshineL8R]

But what if it's your daughter in law?

[@ChanelCoco-pk7mp]

My ex brother in law’s wife - ugh can’t stand her. She’s close to 50 but carries on like a 15 year old - it’s embarrassing

[@swatunit4]

But then they always win... so do I just give up??

[@DrIdaho]

+swatunit4 Having the last word does not mean he/she "won". It often means they are clinging on to their flimsy conclusions.

[@SwtSunshineL8R]

Defend They don't win if they see that what they've said and tried failed hence not reacting to it. I have had several encounters with people who are this way and they get so thrown off when I smile at them. I may even chuckle. Guess who gets thrown off & decides they're not going to play victim? That's right me 😊

[@williamredfern5504]

If someone is trying to put me down in front of others, just say to one of the others Have you noticed he is always putting me down, everyone goes quiet

[@sherinchush7889]

Thanks for the advices.

[@AussieRoos]

Thanks, practical and relevant advice

[@mariedubuque]

Jessica, it could be that he is hiding behind that "macho" front. And also, he could be a player. so, be careful. Definitely play a little hard to get. Give him the idea subtly, and that he is not all that, and if he doesn't ask you out within a certain amount of time, forget him, then he is a player.

[@drewski2001]

Pretentious people are the fuel that pushes society forward. Don't take issue with it, improve yourself.

[@r3koFresh]

she looks like she wants to speak to the manager about this

[@laceycanning3585]

There's a girl on my volleyball team that's so cocky and thinks she knows everything so she tries to tell me what to do and tries to correct everything I do. Should I be nice and say "oh your right" and do what she says, or do I just ignore her and try not to start conversation? Anyone got advice??

[@xEvilGodDarkEibaVIIV]

Ignore her and try not give any attention to her as possible.

[@SwtSunshineL8R]

Lacey Canning I would say "Thanks for the tips! I appreciate it" and carry on. Sometimes people are just trying to help others and not know they are coming off as being a "know it all".

[@ranjiccu1]

Oh my... I've been with this group of people since high school.. In my defense to what they're saying I somewhat I feel like I'm turning into one too... what should I do?

[@iColHax]

Do you like any exercise activities?

[@CheungAdoniszu]

I'm feeling the same way too.

[@Xcoming2]

never call a girl pretentious if she has your tax papers.

[@jubileelennon]

I quit KZbin lol Seinfeld

[@SunnySummer777]

thank you for this video!!!:)

[@doobdoob2]

I'm from the Northeast so I'm used to being around pretentious people LMAO

[@Hgreentea]

same. We are surrounded

[@ashleyching3166]

THANKS

[@pratikshabaral]

we are only four girls, so i cannot just stop talking to her!!

[@SeriousBooBooBear]

what do I do with people who don't stop complaining?

[@ashavilas1048]

💯

[@TMillerm16]

I talk with this girl and she is like biologist, scientist, smart girl. Not a problem for me cuz im a scientist as well. The only difference between her and me is im not bragging about how smart i am for being scientist. Im even more artistic. She basically shit on every other professions, artist, janitors, restaurants worker etc. I feel like she tries to push me down for feeling artistic. I didnt answer i didnt even feed into her ego

[@misEmilyCat]

I have got a really pretentious classmate and she get

[@taramcduffieful]

Right where do you send questions

[@DallasLashmet]

How do I stop being pretentious?

[@skippandover3105]

So I have this friend (of the family, so I have to hang out with her at parties and everything, and I find it's easier for everybody if we get along - otherwise I would try to avoid her). It's very difficult to have conversations with her in person because she completely dominates the conversation (it takes her one sentence to make literally any conversation about herself - and, if we're driving somewhere, she puts on a podcast that I "HAVE to hear" but have no actual interest in - I just don't know how to express my lack of interest politely), so I try to build the friendship through facebook, where I can actually respond. I know this is going against what you are saying about not giving them a platform. :/ But this is what I am struggling with, and I am wondering what your advice is. This is the situation... She is always pushing her tastes on me, which would be fine except that we have very different tastes. For instance, she loves Judy Garland and Sara Bareilles, and I make an effort to listen to the songs she sends me and find some value in them even though I can't stand Judy Garland or Sara Bareilles, but if I send her a song I love, she doesn't listen to it and goes "Oh, well, I have different tastes, but if that's what you like, that's fine." She's also five years older than me and thinks it's ok to say things like "I'm proud of you for ____" or "I'm disappointed in you for ____", which I am not okay with, but I never know how to tell her that. I've tried pointing out the behavior in other people, but the behavior continues. She never seems to put it together that she does it, too. I also wonder if she is pushing her tastes on me because she thinks I need to be educated, but I'm twenty-five and have been introduced to the material she sends me before she sends it to me. She only listens to mainstream artists and reads popular books, so it's not like she's sending me hidden gems (even though she acts that way - once sent me a song I had heard on the Tonys, so of course it was well-known, and later I corrected her when she told a room full of people that she had introduced me to this song because it bothered me that she was promoting this false image of herself as "the bringer of culture and taste..."), and if I was going to like these things, it probably would have happened already. I'm open to seeing artists in a new way (that was actually one of my favorite things about art classes in college) and people have definitely changed my mind about things before, but she never really seems to have a deep connection with the work (just says generic things like "This is incredible," not anything that expresses what she likes about it, like what art influenced it or what is unique about it/etc, and when I try to steer the conversation past facts to ideas, she just shuts down - like, she'll give me an entire lecture about Middle Eastern history completely unprompted (even though she knows this is what I studied in school), but when I start synthesizing what she's saying into how this information can be applied to solve modern problems, she shuts down and switches the topic of conversation), and it never open my eyes at all. Then I wonder if I'm being a git for trying to find some value in the things she sends me instead of just saying, "Hey, I think if I was going to develop a spontaneous interest in Judy Garland, it would have happened already." And I definitely don't want to say what I'm reeeaallly thinking, which is much less polite than that... I used to feel absolutely horrible after we spent time together (like you said) and found that the only way to stop burning up about it was to write every little upsetting thing down in a flow chart. Now if I get stuck thinking about how irritating she is, I take out the flow chart, read it, and go, 'Good. This has everything. It's all here.' And that makes me feel better for some reason. :P Hahahahaaa! But what I'd really like is to get rid of the problem altogether. I am definitely part of the problem. I was raised to care about other people and ask questions in conversation (which feeds her - issue #1), but when people start acting like this, I buy into it and start behaving more "me me me, my opinions, my tastes" as well (issue #2), and I've tried to recognize situations earlier and stop that response in myself. This has made things better, but this girl still treats me poorly. The worst thing is that she does not act like this with other people, especially people who are older than her (at least, not that I notice, although some people have complained about smaller things along these lines), so I feel responsible for the behavior. And I'm wondering - how can I do the things you are saying (such as not feed the attention-seeking behavior) and still be polite??

[@yvonprudhomme594]

O.M.G. Karma's a bitch

[@tomasdinmor3052]

Looks like I've got a new channel to watch.

[@pratikshabaral]

i have a classmate who is very very dumb, selfish. She doesn't know anything about the outside world ( example : what do braces do, how to use a digital camera, how to travel to places ). However, she is a bookworm . i live in nepal (south asia) any one can easily pass tests here just by mugging up !! and that's it she mugs up every thing and keeps bragging about her grades! so it is irritating to be with her, imagine answering questions like what braces does!! how do i get rid of her??

[@GottaLoveTaySwift13]

Where do we send questions to?

[@SwtSunshineL8R]

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[@ibrahimhattab9229]

you look great

[@stevehightower9155]

Tell them what a low life they and avoid them

[@nathan-ms3zc]

Bad advice. just walk away and ignore them.

[@animalkindness]

My brother is extremely pretentious and on top of that a drug addict with no rationality or logic . I try to avoid him at all costs since we live in the same house but today at the kitchen i was just walking by and he called me a worthless peice of Sh!T! he then proceeded to call me a loser. then said That my job(which is part time) was for losers. And he doesnt even have a job or has ever had one! Hes been in and out of jail many times and my parents pay ! He blames everybody but himself.

[@sexyloverback]

Sounds like a narcissist. It looks like he projecting his failed life at everyone else and not taking full responsibility and control for it.

[@tltltl_17]

keep calm and play pokemon :D

[@BeeBznz]

the irony is pretty thick dont your think Marie

[@despoinaat]

Jim Thom whqt do you mean?

[@misEmilyCat]

Gets a lot of attention from everyone

[@robertswanepoel7937]

Like .

[@CedellaSergel]

trip. on. a. brick.

[@frankpatron868]

i think i lean on you quite abit here you were....with your channel... i think i needed to be center of attention...more of a drama king

[@lillierose5304]

I realized I probably come across as pretentious because my Australian accent is more on the 'cultivated' end of the spectrum - which is usually spoken by more "upper class" people, but I'm just an average jo 🤣 my mother taught us to speak this way though so it really is me speaking naturally. It's just a bit out of place..

[@lmmm1459]

Says the lady who seems pretentious already

[@xquisid]

...or maybe you just butthurt because you're one of them.

[@Rationalist101]

How?

[@peterbatterby2915]

Pretentious people "bring you up just enough to put you down in your place", because logic. This lady is actually insufferably pretentious and doesn't know the definition of pretentiousness.