HOW to DETACH. Detachment IS the game changer

This is the ONLY video you need to watch on detachment and how to ACTUALLY emotionally detach in dating and LIFE. I talk about 2 main mindsets that you need to start implementing and practicing DAILY in order to get into a state of detachment 24/7. I first discuss the famous Taoist farmer story to highlight the importance of detachment as you move through your daily life. I use that exact story to highlight why labeling events as good or bad is keeping you ATTACHED to the outcome. I move on to talk about how you must emotionally detach from dating by creating a safe home for yourself WITHIN yourself as this is the only way to truly move on from people, places, and things that do not serve you. Lastly I discuss (bluntly) how doing the most, serving justice for yourself by sending long text paragraphs to the guy who wronged you is making you look DUMB AF.
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[@ST-rj8iu]

If you cannot control it. Let it go. Focus on things you can control. That is problem solving. You cannot control another person.

[@TLW369]

Exactly!! ❤️👏

[@theresabarnes4940]

Yes Marcus Aurelius stoicism focus less on what's outside of your control

[@mariahsamardali2122]

Maybe

[@victoriadiamond4797]

​@@TLW369❤❤l

[@missfefeloves]

But what is in my control?

[@mochablonde]

A quote I love that this video reminds me of is… “don’t let your happiness depend on something you could lose”. It’s helped a lot with emotional detachment

[@ilseh729]

Wow love it thanks!

[@whitelilacplants]

that's true

[@vidhyapriyadharsini234]

Love it

[@Kirsten4260]

I’m writing that down

[@annnee6818]

So no friends connections or things. Sounds wise but breaks down immediately

[@intellectualesemv]

Love comes from within our selves. As adults, no one can "make" us feel a certain way. No one gives us the love we feel. We actually create it within our own thoughts, mind and body.

[@mikecook4298]

Love comes from God

[@intrusive-th0t]

So does that also mean that you don’t feel responsible when you do things that hurt others? Do you blame others for being hurt when they are treated cruelly?

[@elizebethjames]

Please explain narcissistic abuse, gaslighting and torture in the context of your model.

[@marijasvetozarevic6911]

@@intrusive-th0t some people might feel bad for what they did, some may not. That’s not in your control. What is in your control is the decision of are you going to allow the words and actions of others to have such a huge effect on your life and inner peace or not.

[@simaineegumede]

Love is a state of being

[@kandyfloss4424]

This video is so true. When my ex broke up with me months ago I was so torn because he was everything I wanted I couldn’t imagine being without him. But the break up let me focus on myself and thrive and be so much more confident and love myself and now I’m doing so good. We just spoke for the first time after the breakup and apparently he’s going to jail soon. Crazy how it works out

[@labrujadeluz]

Omg the end 😂 ❤

[@beautifullyblessedandnatur7457]

😂as the saying goes rejection is God's protection

[@mintjuleptea]

@@beautifullyblessedandnatur7457 why can't god/the universe just make them good people for us in the first place - just feels like there is almost no decent people at all

[@sarafox4375]

He obviously wss going through a process you were not supposed to be apart of. Thank god.

[@katrinagarnett3256]

😮

[@dollfunke]

"Nothing owns you" is such a goddess response to life.

[@bvhia]

Vice versa You own nothing

[@yourfutureisnow6480]

This was great. Nothing is guaranteed. I had a boyfriend who passed away from brain cancer. Didn't see it coming. At All. Enjoy the connections you have. The good connections. Love yourself and have daily routines.

[@FREELYFE.]

How did he find out he had brain cancer

[@bricansa]

Sorry for your loss. My husband of 16 years died while mountain climbing and 😅 wow all of her advice is so solid because I used to try and micromanage life and now I'm focusing on ME.

[@gargeenitin]

Sorry for your loss

[@rhighan4357]

sending you love right now

[@itsjonbenai]

sorry for your loss ❤

[@normapadro420]

Hello. This was happening to me since I was little. People always made me feel like I didn't deserve attention. This taught me a big lesson. I learned to want nothing. I depended on myself for everything. People got angry, because I didn't do the cat, and mouse game. I learned the hard way. All the time that I had was turned into productivity. I have been doing great things with my life. Others didn't know how strong I was. I'm proud of myself. I overcame many obstacles in life.

[@rhighan4357]

I am proud of you too. I am learning to do the same now and will endure and push to create a solid foundation

[@SkyePhoenix]

That's awesome! I've had similar experiences, but unlike you... I kept beating my head against that brick wall.

[@janeenmpellicane956]

That’s awesome! ❤

[@TrulyTaurus88]

Me as well, it’s really a gift

[@Ink_Panther]

Agree, it is the effective way of life. Not really understand all others wanting to heal my dismissive avoidant attachment style. I’m good thanks. 🤓

[@natashadickson4819]

8:21 "I am my safest space. I am my best friend. I am my biggest supporter". This touched me. Thank you ❤

[@sunnysalmon5757]

Same here, I wrote it down. I loved the "I am my safest place. I am my biggest supporter" I am using those from this moment on.

[@Sobiaaaaaa]

This reminds me of a concept we believe in, in Islam. In the simplest form it’s basically “I’ll either get what I want or something better is written for me, by the best of writers.” And I think that’s such a beautiful mindset to have

[@sheenam5743]

That is beautiful, thank you.

[@oamahana]

Love this❤

[@bvhia]

What about the other two options? You could get worse You could get nothing Detachment is being okay with nothing

[@julietmolapo3685]

" I don't want you losing, I want you winning " I love this lady wow wow life changing mindset that works in every department of life.❤

[@VickitaTrivedi]

yayyyy! love you back

[@joycefiore2721]

I love ya too! ❤​@@VickitaTrivedi

[@miladydewinter8551]

Wednesday Addams is actually a pretty good role model. She has her own world personality and sense of self which she would never extinguish or put in a subservient position to anyone else. Consequently her love interests have no choice but to treat her as an equal

[@VickitaTrivedi]

YES!

[@__.angel1111.__]

💭

[@bvhia]

As a man, if your woman is not subservient she is dominant Why would a man want a dominant woman? "Equal" is not an option, a ship cannot have two captains

[@tammydee143allday]

I am 50 years old and I am beyond blessed. I have been single for 12 years. Some days I feel lonely but most days I feel fulfilled. I am grateful to be alive and to experience life with God given purpose. I have faith as small as a mustard seed but I know God has a good campion/partner for me. I don’t worry about it. I just work hard everyday, exercise, keep myself positive. Life is good. God is good.

[@brendagil3309]

Don’t know you but I’m proud of you 🩷 i wish to still grow older with this mindset

[@tammydee143allday]

Stay blessed 🩷 God got you 💯 and thank you, I hardly hear “I’m proud of you “ I appreciate it.

[@annaraphaeladrumond4673]

This resonated with me so much cause after 20 years of marriage I'm seriously craving for the life you have right now, single and fulfilled. It's great to know women who took the next step and are happy! Thank you for this🥰

[@micbtandem7463]

We should support this WOMAN her advice is amazingg❤❤

[@VickitaTrivedi]

thank you so much!!! 💖

[@VB-lc4xz]

She's too young to give that advice... What does she know about life and relationships?? Speaking about your 50s??

[@KasaundraIAMtheIAM]

@@VB-lc4xz I know a ton of very young people that have fanatic outlooks and advice we all have valuable information and can teach each other something about life

[@mikecook4298]

@@VickitaTrivedi yes thank her that she drinks your poison .... you will pay for the damage you do to young impressionable people .... probably turn into an old witch living amongst the smell of cat feces and urine ... or some other reward satan has for YOU! doing his bidding

[@starrweston3801]

@@VickitaTrivediyou should respond to this comment goood point I would like to hear your perspective / thoughts / opinions

[@TuesdaysTarot]

6:06 Feeling your emotions but not becoming them!! 🙌 Feeling your suffering but don't become it!! ♥

[@Kima89]

This is so much easier said than done, I wish I knew how to do this effectively

[@adrianavargova]

​@kalentinavalente151 For the start, just realise it. You are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts.

[@SkyePhoenix]

It's a delicate balance!

[@SkyePhoenix]

​@@Kima89Me too!

[@AtikaG-to4xo]

​@kalentinavalente151 learn to expres for example sadness in other way. Instead of telling yourself I am sad or I am feeling sad, learn to label it as: I am experiencing sadness, and it is ok.

[@GeminiPlatypus]

Be careful. If you take this too far, you'll be unable to truly connect with anybody, and regret being so lonely because you couldnt let anyone get past your walls.

[@energydoesntlie]

This happened to me. There’s a fine line you’re absolutely right.

[@user-ty9ls3do5d]

Having borderline, I find it really hard to let go and cope with detachment because abandonment is so painful beyond belief

[@chrissyp9003]

Thats because you dont want to look at your Self. Force yourself into isolation. Read about psychology and spirituality. I was BPD. Im doing much better but the isolation for a couple of years was hell.

[@jenynz5334]

Yup. I'm married to my FP but he's anxious avoidant and other stuff that is no bueno for bpd people.

[@PandaZelda]

@@jenynz5334same here! Bpd girlie married to an anxious avoidant type 😓

[@creative45630]

In my experience you have to embrace your needs for dependency before you can genuinely grow through to finding your independence and then growing into being interdependent with others. BPD is really early childhood trauma and we wouldn’t expect a baby/small child to not have any dependency needs. When you’ve experienced a relationship with someone who can give you dependency needs with good boundaries, then you can feel confident to grow into an independent phase (teenage/early adult phase). Therapy is great if you can do it as it will give you the nurturing you need and should have got in early childhood and help you reach and complete those developmental milestones.

[@areplica-]

@@chrissyp9003what kind of advice is this. You don’t know this person to offer a prescription as if you’re a medical authority. Suggesting is one thing but to claim they don’t want to do something and telling them what to do is officious

[@TheRealMissKae]

When you stated “thinking’s is ruining your life” I paused typed this message and immediately subscribed your substance cannot be ignored thanks for this message! 💎❤

[@deadlykitten.5908]

I’m 60 and this is going to work for me. Never too late x

[@ruledbyvenus1859]

As an introvert, I’ve mastered detachment. I am the best company I’ve ever kept. 💯

[@sai7sai]

When something bad happens, I tell myself God is using it for my good and it'll be used to prosper me. Got so tired of the victim mindset! Love your videos

[@kat_respawns3208]

"Bad things often come with a silver lining, it's just how you choose to perceive it that determines how much power & control it has over you." Wow. I needed to hear this.

[@Islalara]

Yes Mam…my life changed 1000 fold (for the better) when I learned to detach and take care myself.

[@Beautiful_Days9249]

I am 55 and I just detached. Thank you! I need this. PTSD and agoraphobia had me locked up for years in defense of life. Hoping to be home to myself inside and out in the world.

[@Laura-ps3tb]

I love you!!! I hope a lot of young women watch this and practice it!!! I didn't learn this stuff until my late 40's and everything she says is true and perfectly said!!! 💗💗

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You are so welcome!

[@Serenadepletti]

I’ve always done the 2:50 part where I say “who knows what’s going to happen “ and it literally changed my life bc good things started to happen from the bad situations I was perceiving !

[@sunnysalmon5757]

After watching this video, I realized I have been doing this unconsciously and just on a few situations in my life. I am happy to see that prior to this video, I had all the right elements, I only need to do this daily and here granting me permission is very meaningful to me. I sense in a short time from now, I can say "my life is amazing".

[@ayushikumari7368]

I remembered the quote, There is no Path towards Happiness, Happiness itself is a path. ❤😊

[@JinPhila]

1. Maybe 2. This or better 3. Detachment...coming home to yourself...own best friend, supporter, fan, "know your worth" 4. Self control...I'm in control of self...forget about others not doing what you want

[@bvhia]

How about nothing, or worse? Detachment means removing all attachments. Being okay with nothing

[@roxanachiarelli377]

It's a joy to see young women making this kind of videos to their peers! You go girls!! 💪💅👑

[@megsley]

emotions are not bad, and it's not a bad thing to feel something if someone lies or betrays you. having ZERO emotional attachment to anything or anyone is unhealthy and will isolate you. we need SOME emotional attachment in order to bond with other people.

[@vetervgolovy]

Yes, we can feel all that, but she is saying not to depend on any of those emotions to define us as individuals. There's a big difference.

[@SkyePhoenix]

Good point. I have become very detached and very isolated. It's the lesser of the evils, though.

[@WinThiri15]

this is also very true i became very isolated and felt nothing is real and lonely what should i do

[@annaraphaeladrumond4673]

Yes, but the best kind of emotional attachment is with yourself and connection with others is a byproduct

[@askfroxy]

“You do not want to look dumb AF!” 😂This channel is a breath of fresh air, laying down truth bombs left and right! It’s past time women took back their emotional energy power from the projections of what they can be doing for themselves onto others and “negative “ experiences. We all need to stop wasting precious time and energy on BS in the gerbil cage of mental cycling. Vickita, rock on!!❤❤❤🎉

[@Monicalia]

Ooooohhh I am so going to watch this video at least once a week as a reminder. I am a TERRIBLE control freak and my anxiety revolves about lack of control of my future. I have such a hard time ''waiting'' to see how things unfold, because my mind is telling me to unfold the things myself (which, of course, fails almost every single time but somehow my mind never took a hint). My mind's in desperate need of solid revamping. Thank you for this amazing video.

[@GalvMermaid50]

I took myself out on dates, went out to eat by mysellf, really set a standard for myself without toxic kin and i am now happy and working on be healthier. ❤

[@hayleyfloyd6929]

This is the kind of wisdom everyone needs to hear ❤

[@intrusive-th0t]

Encouraging people to abandon their empathy and humanity isn’t wisdom

[@hayleyfloyd6929]

@@intrusive-th0t I mean this with respect, but I think you may have misunderstood what was being said in the video 😊

[@MsCristina38]

As a 52 year old I was listening skeptically at first but what you’re saying reflects my life experience. It will be interesting to watch you navigate the downs of life that will inevitably come your way. I think you’ll be quite strong and live these words you’re saying. You’ll get ample opportunity to use them in ways you really didn’t want to, but they’ll ultimately save you. Thank you, I’ve subscribed. Please share more of your wisdom ❤.

[@terriwatson9151]

I’m 54 and I wish I had knownall of this in my 20s.

[@MsCristina38]

@@hdshjs WTH are you talking about?

[@bertramblik8826]

I clicked on this because I really think the idea and conscious practice of detachment is becoming mainstream and I was curious, but just like yoga it's a practice from Eastern philosophy that if practiced incorrectly can have more harm than benefit. This advice imho has some really good points and some really detrimental ones. Yes, being overly attached, and needing the other person to make us happy is unhealthy, also depending on external validation, other people's opinion as in the story is also unhealthy. The point with attaching labels and meaning making us attached to how we view something is a really great point that I couldn't have formulated better. But there's a difference between being resilient, being aware of the nondual nature of our life and denying the reality of our dual existence, meaning that we are human and we need to form connections and forming, protecting and nurturing our relationships doesn't make us weak, it requires us to be strong and stand up for our loved ones at the right time and place, situation. Not being able to do that is also weakness. So advocating for total detachment is just another extreme form of weakness. It would be too easy to live a life without attachment. But as Mark Manson or Mark Queppet - can't remember - says loving someone means, opening our heart and allowing the other person to hurt us, becoming vulnerable. Also a healthybrelationship requires both love, respect and trust. How could I trust a totally detached person? Spiritual detachment can really be used as a toxic tool by people who advocate for extreme individualism and even hedonism. Not maintaining the tenderness of our hearts and becoming stiff, rigid can break us, like a tree in a storm that has become way too hardened and thick. Life is a balance play, there are no quick fixes, despite some really good points you mention, I think we should mention the importance of vulnerability which is the foundation of intimacy deep connections and even genuine expression, or art. Maybe there are no one size fits all strategies. Some people need to toughen up, some need to remember their softness, whatever fits them. But I think remembering a balance is never a bad approach.

[@bertramblik8826]

Also if someone says one thing and does the opposite you simply ignore that person and remove them from your life? What happens when you do that to yourself? You cannot remove yourself. I think its important to be able to forgive as well. Setting boundaries and also being able to forgive, that is true strength. Remember the stoic virtue of holding higher standards for yourself than fornother people - not just loving yourself more than anybody ever could. Also, these things I believe, are slightly different for men and women. We all need self love, but the foundation of that is self respect, and women carry within themselves the bliss of simply being, and while men can also accept themselves the way they currently are that's not the essence of being masculine, and that would be missing the point. So let's be careful with the advice we give to people. I do realize that your advice is for women, but I think women also have to maintain their softness while being able to love and respect themselves, which for them should come from within naturally, like the flow of water, unless they have serious childhood trauma.

[@marijasvetozarevic6911]

From my experience you can have compassion for others while still being detached from the situation. I think that’s a healthy approach.

[@SA-px3ln]

@@bertramblik8826I have narcissist family they refuse to show respect love care they trive off causing pain trauma abuse. So it’s kinda hard to not feel anxiety sad etc when you try to set boundaries or anything they get worse. So we keep taking it? This causes trauma anxiety nervous system is fight flight be around them with constant verbal emotional abuse/ I don’t how ppl just not care or not be affected by mental abuse from parents. They will literally watch u cry and laugh at you. Then we are told forgive them and when we do they keep doing it. When u leave go contact your left with trauma bond and still love them. So confusing.

[@SA-px3ln]

@@marijasvetozarevic6911how do u detach from family mentally if they are abusive but you still love them yet can’t take it? Stuck both ways with them or without them they live in your head

[@CeciledeLuire]

I like your perspective. Boundaries and detachment can be crucial, but tenderness and forgiveness are important too.

[@illogically]

I was getting too attached to someone whom I know things would never work out between us. and this video helped me gain my clarity and more in-tune with myself and not giving my power to be happy to someone else other than me. Thank you for making this video!! Keep it up!

[@sakshi5055]

best video I've come across without toxic advices. Need more videos of women being secure on their own. That part was beautiful in this video, a person's relationship with oneself... do post more about that. love 💞

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Wow, thank you! more to come!

[@littlejamielee]

You have absolutely no idea how badly I NEEDED to watch this video right now. Thank you so much for breaking this down god bless you!!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You are so welcome!

[@xselaholiviax8593]

Thanks for bringing me back down to earth girl! I’m going through some relationship issues and you made me realize how much weight I’m putting into my relationship and how much I’m trying to control what I just can’t. Appreciate all your advice keep doing what you’re doing! ❤️

[@seeeeem9489]

learning how to detach my self from people and situations is the best decision I’ve ever made

[@user-is3ti1zd3j]

ooohhh myyy godd, her advice is just soo filled with reality, everyone needs to hear this and act according to this so that one realizes one's worth and not let them down especially infront of toxicity. Glad to find you.

[@OffGridDreamLife]

I’m 52 years old and I almost didn’t click on your video because to be honest it’s kind of hard to take serious life lessons from someone so much younger than me. (lol) But what you said has really clicked in my mind and I want to thank you for spreading your wisdom. Life changing!!!

[@tinywalnut6337]

I love this. It also works in reverse. If you're in a good place in your life, there is no reason to have regrets, because any hypothetical changes to your past would put you in a different place than you are now. It might be better, but it also might be worse, so appreciate what you've gone through in your past to get you where you are now.

[@carlylynne9214]

Guh, i needed to hear this outside of myself. When you said, "I am my best friend." I could literally feel how you meant that to yourself. It made me cry. It was the most beautiful feeling i have ever felt. Thank you.

[@emily__1334]

I’ve actually started doing the whole “just don’t react or care too much” after being burnt out and always being a people pleaser for 15+ years. I tell you what, my life is so much more enjoyable.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

its a great mindset!

[@bglorified4069]

This was truly amazing and im so happy I came across this.. so many ppl tell you how to detach before becoming attached or how not to attach yourself. But no one teaches you how to detach when you’re already attached. I will continue to watch this over and over until it sticks for me. Thanks for this!

[@MelodyLovesMusic]

This is sooo true, I've been practicing this for quite some time now. Life has hit me so hard so often, that I came to a full stop and reflection of my myself and my life and I realized exactly what you have said. It is all about our own perception and how we handle it. Find yourself and be present in yourself, and nothing can ever hurt you ever again. You truly can create your own peace & happiness.

[@radhakidhara]

This was everything I needed to hear. Going forward, I'll make sure to actively start living by this powerful mindset. Thank you so much!! ❤

[@valeriemcdonald8481]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I am 51 years old and feel I am totally in control of my Outlook in life until I have someone in my life. Then overthinking, second guessing, deciding something is negative does creep inn. While listening to you, my energy changed. I feel like you give concrete everyday tools to feel detached. Thank you!

[@RR-fn6dm]

Thinking is ruining my life-so true! This is something I am desperately trying to do. I am constantly overthinking and dwelling on shit and it’s a prison within myself

[@BatmanAOMC]

Needed this video, thank God it was recommended to me. Had something very intense with someone for some weeks and then it just became very distant, so yeah. I haven't had any "thing" at all since last year, January. I learned how to love myself and be with myself and then I just lost control! Gave too much without asking and was just too much. I would call myself an "empath", I care about people too much, not just partners and I have a really hard time not basically "destroying myself" for the sake of others. I uplift others, put them on a pedestal and then put myself down, which I hate doing. I want to still love people, still care, still empower them but I want to be my friend too and do those things for myself FIRST. Thank you for this video!

[@karmallama7957]

I'm so grateful your video randomly popped up in my feed because this is exactly what i need. This will be a game changer for my mental health and healing journey. Thank you.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

aw im so glad!

[@Hiddengem1925]

I hope this video blows up, I believe this message would help a lot of people in every area of life not just dating!! Thank you for sharing this message!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Thanks you!!

[@too602]

Many important takeaways from Vickita that I have learnt until now: 1. Detach 2. Observing your feelings. 3. Manifestation should be comfortable and not being very tensed and forcing yourself to visualise. 4. Manifesting your dreams feel like a feeling of relief and you are still the same person and not magically transformed into an extraterrestrial being.

[@mixedotaku2481]

Realllllllyyyyy needed this. I’m finding myself always overthinking and trying to calculate every option and then spiraling when it doesn’t happen. I’m always scared of losing something important instead of realizing I’m going to be okay if I end up losing it. I have always suffered from self esteem issues and I’ve never truly loved myself. It’s goin to be a journey but every journey starts somewhere

[@astridlove2327]

I have dozens and dozens of examples through my life where I went through something that seemed so horrible and negative at the time. Life altering and devastating but something better ALWAYS came out of it. I work with people who are rebuilding their lives after recovering from addiction/mental health and I share these examples with them so often. “If it wasn’t for this unfortunate thing happening to me and leading me to this place then this VERY fortunate thing that happened to me would have never came to pass” 🤔 everything always happens for a good reason. I tell them that sometimes it might not be clear and they don’t have to even search for it but just know and believe the reason is there. I have also sometimes put it in the context that it may not even be THEIR reasons and it happened for someone they love and desire great outcomes for. The point is you don’t always have to see evidence of this to know that it absolutely always holds true whether you choose to see it or not

[@crismosconi4832]

amazing video. I think the reason why so many of us think suffering is the right thing to do is cause if our boundaries were crossed as children this sometimes was the only defence against and boundary with our parents.

[@shresthitripathi1910]

I am SOOOOOO PROUD to tell you that I have finally changed my attachment style to secure!!! I was a fearful avoidant!!! So grateful to you for continuously helping me through this journey ❤

[@stefano3056]

I’m going through a difficult time and have been listening to tons of videos to try and get over it. You’re the first one who actually makes sense. I need to listen to you again and hope I’ll make it as you say…

[@corpatausservicesllc8657]

Thank you, my first video of yours but definitely not the last. I’m in my 50’s and still learning this valuable concept. You couldn’t have explained this any better if you tried. Keep up the amazing work.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

aw this made me smile big, thank you so much!

[@littlejamielee]

I’m litterally going to watch this daily! I already commented on this but as the video plays I am just more grateful to come across this video and your approach in explaining this!! This is going to change my life you are my new favourite person!!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You're the best!

[@letang6772]

Applying spiritual teachings to practical daily life in a concise manner. Well done, very impressive

[@melissa1004c]

watching you and listening to you reminds me of my mom. i used to chat with my mom when i was overthinking. i am an overthinker. i moved out of state, now being on my own, i am conscious with my thoughts. my mom used to say, "don't think about it, then you will have no stress/anxiety." i enjoy your content. thank you for making this video. i just subscribed!

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

Not detachment- connection, connection without possessiveness, love without fear, because you know that they were never yours because nothing is ever yours. But they dont need to be for you to love them

[@jessicadah-mk8up]

I love how you worded that 🙌

[@indyd9322]

Great video! Emotional detachment is an amazing skill. I really like the idea of feeling your feelings, but not becoming them. Also creating a home within yourself that you look forward to coming back to.

[@amari2aj553]

That's non attachment detachment you wouldn't feel them

[@queenofthebutterflies5212]

Thanks for a great video. I'm very sensitive to my environment, an empath, and I ruminate and have that anticipatory anxiety ALL the time and it's irrational. I just literally feel what others are feeling, I had to hone that skill when I was being abused when I was growing up. To 'be' would be extremely peaceful.

[@Manuela_b28]

🫶🏼🫶🏼 same here

[@ViktoriaVetrecinova]

You spoke facts! 💯 I was finally able to say "Ok, bye." and now I'm waiting for the "better". Thank you for opening my eyes and helping me to become my better self ❤

[@kaybase6967]

One of the best advice I’ve heard. This lady is smart.

[@susangray45]

EVERYONE needs to listen to this message twice ‼️‼️

[@maggiewood4332]

I"ts not that you dont own anything , its that nothing owns you " the best thing i have heard EVER . thank you wonderful lady

[@lyannaschwimmer869]

This video is filled with so much wisdom. I am so shocked. I’ve just been sitting here for the past ten minutes taking notes on everything you’ve said. The part at 10:18 really spoke to me. Thank you so much for making this video, I am so grateful to you 🙏🏻💞 14:23 as well omg

[@Cassidy248]

Okay but I immediately subscribed! ❤️❤️😍 Loveeee the energy and exactly the encouragement I needed to finally fully focus on myself and become free and detached !! I’m no longer going to be holding on to past baggage. I already have this “every bad experience is a learning lesson and will strengthen you” mentality but from now on I won’t be having doubts anymore, I won’t ruminate for one extra second, if it doesn’t work in my favour then it’s simply not for me, if the outcome isn’t what I intended, I will only work harder and shoot higher!!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

THAT'S MY GIRL. Rooting for you

[@rubaidazereen9331]

this is something I needed to hear so badly right now. divine timing.

[@user-wr7dp2bo5y]

Love! Thank you for reiterating the message of the farmer story, and contextualizing in present time with personal examples we can relate to. Just takes practice! ❤️🙏❤️

[@VickitaTrivedi]

you're welcome :)

[@melissadenissecorreaavalos6826]

This is the most helpful eye-opener video I have ever seen. I am so glad I clicked on this video. What you said about not becoming our suffering, having self-control and stopping those unhealthy thoughts are like liquid gold! You are a genius and you have no idea how much you’ve helped me, it’s a way of life I am starting right now ❤ By the way, your voice and Paris’ (from Gilmore girls) are a lot alike. 😅

[@stardustNine]

I've really been leveling up my self growth journey lately so i'm super pumped to come across your channel! Love this video, thank you!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

glad to have you here!

[@stardustNine]

@@VickitaTrivedi 😊💖

[@Iamkrisiman]

Just came across your channel and literally obsessed. I needed this video more than you know. Thank you ❤

[@kanthy4]

I was so skeptical about this video, I think this is the best advise I’ve gotten so far, thank you!!!!❤

[@_._Cynda_._]

Yessss, being unbothered is so powerful 😌 Ty

[@waterlyli999]

This video was exactly the advice I needed at this moment of my life, thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@totalshopaholic123]

Your channel is powerful. The way you deliver your content with such confidence, authority, authenticity and eloquence makes you completely mesmeric and magnetic. I love how you brought up Abraham Hicks- i've been listening to her recordings for a couple of years and it has changed my mindset and ability to manifest completely. I think more women need to learn about Hicks and how to use the Law of attraction to become deliberate creators and game changers.

[@aranya6962]

This is absolutely amazing Vickita. Going to watch this daily!

[@devika_25]

I appreciate the positive approach you are sharing with us and it is could be applied by most people . This is empowering Vickita💜

[@VickitaTrivedi]

You are so welcome

[@OrangeMusk-zo3ju]

Watched this on new years, took notes, and I'm putting all these tips into practice asap. I'm so ready to live unbothered, cause my overly anxious and reactive tendencies got me in turmoil

[@Sonia-cd2mc]

The lighthouse metaphor is perfect. This entire message is solid wisdom.💅👑

[@misstannisha]

I rarely comment but had to today! Great video on radical acceptance of the things you can’t control and using distraction for emotional regulation.

[@ovit54]

This is some high value content. Thank you 🙏🏽 ✨

[@petalzofahyacinth]

"...you're going to look dumb AF, and do you wanna look dumb AF? No you don't. So you gotta stop doing things that literally make you look dumb. You're making yourself look dumb." I literally subscribed after you said that. I love that you speak freely, honestly, without sugarcoating AND without coming off rude. Great content Vickita. :)

[@Belkys.]

So grateful I came across this gem. This message is so important

[@nini-444]

I was having a hard night and really needed some advice like this. I did so much reflection I feel so good thank you

[@VickitaTrivedi]

yay! so happy your energy has shifted

[@missaliciaandfamily4833]

💯💯💯 I love this video, and I agree with it all. I'm glad it was a suggested video for me!

[@Julia_Keegan]

I love how you said you will either get that thing or get something better. I also love how you are saying you have to know yourself first and build a relationship with yourself it’s great.

[@bvhia]

This is a false perception You have 3 options You can get better You can get worse You can get nothing Detachment means no attachment Aka, you have to be happy with nothing

[@hellobye4984]

This video made me realize how my happiness today yesterday and everyday for a week was dependent on whether this guy would text me back… he was obsessed with me first, wouldn’t let me go to sleep during our FaceTime even when I was tired. Now it’s like he’s bored of me, says he’s busy but isn’t too busy to talk to people on twitter. It’s so hard to detach though because this is the first guy I told I love and truly did love. But he’s pulled way back and me being an avid watched of your videos knew I should pull back too…. It’s been two days and nothing. This is the longest he’s gone without messaging me

[@mrose5824]

This is the exact message I needed to hear today. Amazing - Vickita - I’ve subscribed now you are phenomenal ❤😊

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@yend.7983]

A blessing in disguise.

[@poprocks338]

"Suffering does not give you power" That HIT me. Thank you ❤

[@lucysalazar927]

Hi Vickita, I just came across your channel like 2 days ago and I absolutely love your content girl! You are exactly who I needed to hear. I have always been in my masculine energy and as I walk on my healing journey, I started feeling curious on how to be more feminine. I look forward to watching more of your videos and living my dream life 🫶🏻

[@drizzy6855]

I love the way you explain this thank you ❤

[@jasminschmalzl9734]

Detachment might be good to some degree. But to much isn't. Cause detaching yourself from your own feelings also leads to detaching yourself from the feelings of others. Detachment is unconcern is indifference is aphaty, which leads to disregard and disrespect. And those are things we DON'T need. For example, if I see people in situations I myself was in, I can practically feel their pain as if it was my own. As if it was me who got hurt and not just some random stranger. So not beeing able to detache yourself from your feelings completely isn't necessarily a bad thing. Cause your feelings can give you the courage and the strenght you need to support and help others. And the fact that not many people are able to do so, shows how much it's actually needed. * Also. Detaching yourself from your feelings is easier said then done. Especially If you a person who feels very strongly. Or If you're still very young. I personally feel like nobody is born that way and that you can't train that just by reading or watching videos on You Tube. Everyone has to ultimatelly expirience something that will lead them to decide between themselves and others. What is important for me/what do I want vs. what is important to others/what do others want. Only when this happens you will be able to clear out the REAL YOU. But this doesn't mean you have to walk this journey completely on your own. I don't think giving someone support or leading them in the right direction is a bad thing. Cause we all go astray sometimes. And we all once come to a point in our life, where we are confronted with difficult situations. And we might don't need a hero saving us all the time. But at times like this we surely NEED one. I still don't think all this bullshit who was forced on me was needed. At least not for me. It was needed for other people. And it is good for other people. To prevent them from experiencing the same. But it was in no way needed, nor good at all for me. What I would have needed was to know im not alone, neighter in my experiences, nor with my feelings and way of thinking. Someone who told me honestly, that I have my flaws and that I did in fact stupid and egoistic things. But so do others. And thats ok. That in the way I think, feel and behaive I will always be different than others and more often than not a controversity. But that those things aren't bad per se, cause they lead to discussion, which encourage you to rethink things. And that leads to change. That I should take my time to really overthink what is important to *me* and what *I* really want, from the people around me and from life in general. Then telling me to pursuit those goals one after another. But also telling me going astray isn't bad eighter, as long as I keep my goals in mind and always find my way back. Someone who tells me all my negativ attributes straight in the face, but also all my good ones at the same time. And you need to hear both from one person. This is important. Cause for people you are eighter the good one, or the bad, depending on *their expectiations*. And this is were it gets tricky. Cause you CAN'T judge someone by your own values, standards, opinions and beliefs. You need someone who does not measure by his own standards but looks at things objectively. Someone who tells you, you are good the way you are. With the good AND the bad. And that your flaws are a part of you too and that you don't need to hide them. Only then will you feel fully accepted. And only then you can fully accept yourself. "No matter what others might think and say in the future. Keep your faith and don't let yourself be diverted from your path. Not even by me." I would have wanted such a person. I would have needed such a person. And I really hope, that my pain and my suffering wasn't for noting. But something that does encourage other people, to be excatly this person for others. To be the hero I would have needed.

[@bvhia]

Buddhism in a nutshell teaches you to detach so that you can reattach to what you truly desire, rather than stay attached to what you have attached to unconsciously. No attachment allows you to ascend and reach Nirvana. But it also separates you from this world You say you want someone who looks at you objectively. But you also say you want someone who says you are good enough the way you are. If you are a cold blooded murderer are you good as you are? How about a liar? Or a cheater? Or a degenerate? Are you okay as you are? If you say you want objectivity then you must be ready to accept the truth about yourself, and the truth may be that you are not enough and need to better yourself In this case do you detach? Or do you choose Samsara?

[@catherineeicke9429]

This is what I needed to hear today. Thank you. I’m going to write a note for myself that says “Maybe. This or better. No matter what, I’m going to be okay.”