How To Detach & Love Being Alone

[@lorenaerstic9577]

as a psychologist I have to answer to those here who are leaving comments about her having an easy time talking about being alone since she has a boyfriend. Being in a healthy relationship still means being independent individual and having time for yourself. Also, you can feel lonely even being surrounded with other people, being a part of a large social circle, being in a relationship etc. Everything depends on your perspective, it always comes from the inside. If you feel lonely, do something about it. Go for a walk, try some new hobby, get your gym membership. That’s a way to meet new people and increase your social circle.

[@maceyr.6583]

So true. :")

[@maceyr.6583]

So true. :")

[@aylex1974]

Exactly, I think like you.

[@dionne4927]

Great comment! Wise words 🎉

[@MooonlitVerse]

Things comes to me with ease. My life is incredible and it's only going to get better. Rough patches teach me something. My growth will lead me to greater things.

[@ceeceeme1]

It’s easy to speak on this while in a relationship. However, when break ups happen it will still hurt no matter how much you focus on self love. You don’t fall in love, you grow in love and thats where many people mess up at. Love the video ❤

[@lummaaziz]

Before being in a relationship I literally LIVED alone and spent 99% of my time alone, just because I have followers, friends, a partner etc it doesn't mean that it's any easier to speak on this topic, you can't really tell what someone is going through based on what they decide to share :) I've had my fair share of loneliness and struggles with learning to be alone.

[@ceeceeme1]

@@lummaaziz I know I saw your journey that’s why I said I Love the video 🥰 this comment is for individuals who have not experienced being alone while in a relationship. I’m in a relationship but have experienced heartbreak. It’s important to focus on self love at all times so we don’t lose ourselves! Thanks for the reply

[@viktoriah3307]

I am 20. I have never been in a relationship. I used to have friends when I was younger but I lost all of them during high school. I am unemployed. I have been for a year actually. I have no one. Not even 1 person. The last time I hang out with somebody.... I can't even remember maybe two years ago. I watch videos llike these for comfort. It is so incredibly hard to live like this

[@viktoriah3307]

I accepted that this is my reality now but sometimes it would be nice to have someone to talk to

[@samex8275]

How are you doing?

[@tea4485]

how are you

[@jackie41083]

I have been single for such a long time (now in my mid 30s) and needed to hear this. I've been "comfortable" being alone for so long but want a really great and healthy relationship. I believe that timing is not up to me. So this is a good reminder.

[@ho-ry5uf]

she has a bf though

[@benedettainespretari1422]

I broke up with my bf of almost three years almost five days ago. Your videos really help me focus on myself and don’t rely on hope like i used to, thank you so much. It’s not easy but you make me believe I will do it, despite the pain.

[@Deelife32]

I’m going through exactly the same thing and yeah lumma’s videos are so helpful I know we’re gonna feel better soon 💕💕

[@MS-lh7ev]

I am also going through a 5 year break up. It’s good to know and remind yourself that you’re not alone 💕 xxx

[@madj7152]

Same! I ghosted my bf of 4yrs because he just couldnt give me the treatment that I deserve. I decided to just not say anything and just vanish. Living alone is lonely at times. How are you doing now?

[@jessicamelero1550]

Any updates on how u feel?

[@kolsen5420]

@@madj7152 thats strange, sorry. ghosting is never something to be proud of. hope youre doing well but people deserve better

[@scum3112]

been watching your videos cuz of your break up video. my girlfriend broke up with me in late january. she keeps going through cycles of giving me attention and saying she loves and misses me and then distances herself again a few days later. i know she’s struggling with mental health problems but it’s not fair that i’m being so affected by it. i’ve decided that i still want to love her but also detach so that i’m okay when she distances herself and if she decided to completely cut me out i’d be okay. it’s a process but i feel like i’m slowly getting there. thank you for your videos, they’re a big help. also i’m not only trying detach from her, but i’m applying the detachment theory to everything in my life. i’m deciding to let go and not be so attached to outcomes. i don’t want to be disappointed anymore.

[@lummaaziz]

This is a great mindset to have, happy to have you a part of my channel :)

[@soraydaunday3096]

Same here. I just broke up with my 6 year relationship as he kept on pushing me away and its realy ruining my mental health. I hope you're okay now, and I know someday, Im gonna be okay as well ❤

[@ashleysales1958]

I’ve been in such a funk since my ex broke up with me and I know this of myself and your videos give me such a big boost of confidence that I can regain my power and independence back regardless if they can back or not. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable and encouraging us all to do the same. ❤️

[@Troll1minute]

❤

[@Catherine-jl7tb]

Was going through a roadblock today , felt like all the healing i went through was a waste cause i suddenly started feeling the same amount of sadness and broken feeling i had after my breakup. Ur video came right on time. A big thank you !

[@michelegaichies9856]

Remember, growth and healing takes a lot of time and its not linear !

[@_daintyari2169]

This was so calming to listen to…going through a breakup and listening to this video while doing laundry just made me so excited about the future. Thank you, you’re quickly becoming one of my fav people. You seem so sweet and very thoughtful.

[@Juhcamposc]

Sometimes I find myself a bit weird bc I also have moved countries and I always meet people and make friends from all across the world that also don’t stay for long in one place. I have gotten used to this detached lifestyle and to be honest it’s quite addicting and the people you relate to the most are the ones that have the same “free spirit” as you. It’s hard to relate to a lot of people. You become more selective too. Thank you so much for this video it definitely reassured me that’s it’s ok to be alone and very selective

[@kristinej.4182]

There’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Self love and enjoying your alone time is so much easier when you are in a relationship. Yes you can feel lonely if you are with the wrong person…HOWEVER, there’s nothing like the bone wrenching loneliness that you feel when you are really alone and lonely. I went through all shades of loneliness… currently I’m in a healthy loving relationship which actually enhances the love I have for myself even more.

[@fahim1630]

Your voice is very comforting. If you had a podcast i would listen to it like every day. 💕

[@zerinacuric2613]

I love this ❤ as I have decided to really start changing myself and not wait on anyone, relationships, friendships to experience something.. I have actually planned my first solo trip to a city I’ve never been. I usually get so lost , uncomfortable and anxious when I am going somewhere unknown cuz I am anxious about all the details, like how will I find the acommodation, how will I find my flight alone etc. And always thinking worst case scenarios. Now no matter how anxious I feel , I decided I am going alone on that trip 🤗

[@sadiqakhan6885]

thank you so much Lumma for posting another video! ever since I watched your breakup video, I've been repeating what you say in my head over and over again. I've been healing quite well, but it's lowkey semi fresh still and accepting it completely is tough. I find myself misisng the attention that I had gotten used to in those 5 months. I soon realized I was settling based in one of your previous videos lol.

[@ayumadias]

l feel like I'm growing (as a person) with you. Ever since I've watched your breakup video, I'm hooked and always wait for your pep talk. I live abroad alone and your video feels like that one long-distance friend who always gives endless support. Keep doing you boo!

[@prathinavaneeth4693]

You are curing wounds Lumma, your voice is so soothing and you have such a beautiful aura. I constantly come back to this video, when things don't go as expected with someone - to reassure myself that I will be fine. Watching your videos make me feel so much better. Continue making content like this. Love you so much. ❣

[@karmax9134]

I really wish I could get a chance to talk to you because your pep talks seem to be one of the few things that actually make me a little calm. much love ❤️

[@lummaaziz]

I might start a website where people can reach out and have one on ones with me!

[@bobbieanderson6328]

Your video inspires me. I'm a loner myself I needed to hear this.

[@korelee9079]

Over the past semester, I recently joined a sorority and was overflowed with so much social stimulation that I felt like I really lost myself and my peace. This summer I decided to spend my time alone and am so happy!

[@cedrickmanuel6562]

idk how you always manage to create such amazing videos with such inspiring messages. They've helped me through a difficult breakup so and I've actually been struggling on how to cope and start being alone again, so this videos came up at the perfect time. Thank you so much

[@Kasanova2x]

not sure how this video popped up on my timeline lol, but this is a really insightful and full of value. good advice for a lot of the young women out there. keep doing your thing. love

[@lummaaziz]

Thank you! I love to hear it!

[@sophie_tcb]

Your voice is so soothing 🤍 I love to listen to your ted talks, keep up your great work! ✨

[@LiburAldred]

Thank you for this video Lumma, your pep talks have been a huge help lately!

[@lummaaziz]

Aww, I'm so glad!

[@libragirl5533]

Lumma... Don't stop posting These Kind Of pep Talks...we need It so Badly... You're Soo Soo special To me... you're our Inspiration lumma Love you a Lodsssss....I don't have Words to express How Much You Influenced Me ❤

[@clauyeon]

I loved this pep talk! Everything you said is so true! And i hope you'll continue bringing these types of values on your channel ❤

[@lummaaziz]

Aww thank you for being here!

[@tshego_tshego]

This feels like hugs❤❤😭 *holding back tears*

[@angelayip7357]

thank you for the prep talk, always make me feel at ease and somehow better as am moving on from breakup. im also someone who cnt stand being alone so seeing your changes n being so strong is very inspiring n empowering. im not as strong as u but i def improve and feel more comfortable spending a day on my own just reading books and listening to music thank you for these videos n pls keep them coming!

[@srimayeeg1041]

I just got out of a relationship and I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much 🩷

[@lummaaziz]

Got you!

[@globalshooky5030]

your energy is so calming, and your videos are helping me so much with my break up, thank you

[@katyanivarma8125]

I LOVE YOU LUMMA

[@anisafarooq1426]

you're litterally glowing, look so beautiful as always

[@cutiebear808]

Also Lumma I love the music you chose to play in the background. It is very fitting and zen. You should consider using music like this more often in your videos ☺️

[@amphoteric]

there's a difference between being alone vs. being lonely though. when you have a big social circle (supportive friends and family) or you're in a romantic relationship, being alone isn't bad at all. but for those of us that unfortunately do not have a big social circle, it's really f*cking hard because that's where loneliness creeps in. humans are meant to have social connections and intimate (not necessarily romantic/sexual) relationships. i've tried dling friendship apps but those haven't worked at all since nobody rlly responds back the only social interaction i get outside my small team of coworkers is online. i do enjoy being alone at times but i do not enjoy being lonely which unfortunately many of us are due to our circumstances. how can we, as adults, grow our social circle to prevent loneliness?

[@wonwii1938]

I’d say a great place to start is going to places where your interests lie, if you’re interested in fitness go to a fitness class (yoga, HIT, swimming, cycling, dance, etc.), if you enjoy art go visit museums, or participate in ceramics or painting classes, and so on with any other interest. It’s easier to meet new people this way and connect since you already share a common interest.

[@KyKy_444]

I’m in the exact same situation as you. No friends, no romantic relationships, nothing. There’s no one I can call when I just want to talk. No one to hang out with. I’m not close to anyone and I crave that close connection. Just know that you will truly never be alone because there are people all over the world (like me) who are experiencing the same thing you are. I understand you, I see you, the pain of loneliness is so real and it’s okay to crave intimacy. Stay strong and hopefully one day soon we will find our people. ❤

[@3456849]

​@@KyKy_444 same here ❤

[@Saweetiee]

I just recently found out ur channel n now you're one of my comfort youtuber 😊♥thanks so much for sharing this x🌷

[@mismonit]

your video made me cry because of the warn i could feel from you, your eyes and comforting voice... thanks a lot!! i feel so calm rn

[@anisafarooq1426]

im an in the worst head space and your videos are literally the first thing i thought of that would help me when i feel thissss low, lysm!

[@fhay1]

Lumma, you must have known I NEEDED this video rn! Love your pep talks so much. I’m in my healing era, bettering myself! ❤

[@annettelozano5232]

Please please do a Podcast! You are so good, so full of wisdom. Some vloggers your age also pep talks on YT but they’re so full of themselves.

[@KASHISHGADE-uk5fi]

Going through a break up. It's soo painful, all the emotions r triggering all together. Just feel soo lost confused. Really need this to hear.

[@veeeetee29]

NEEDED THIS SO MUCH RN

[@lummaaziz]

Yay!

[@jessicaselenecenteno]

I love eating alone. Even when I’ve been in relationships I’ve always enjoyed and loved my alone time. It’s so sacred.

[@anjulinaevans9571]

I am so happy I found this video... The ending made me tear up I am definitely subscribing love this🤍

[@antonetteapalla1263]

I love you lummmaaaa 🥺💕 You always makes me feel better whenever I feel off.

[@Kanto77]

Your videos are so comforting

[@whyjustwhy2168]

Wish u had kids. Any single mom channels like this? That's what I need rn

[@SamuelSurbrook98]

You seem like a really good person. I really like your channel. You remind me of something my Catholic religion teacher said. You are helping me become a better version of myself. You are really an amazing human being. Heartbreak 💔 is a real thing.

[@maaikevaneijk8972]

Hiii girl! First of all: I would like to say that you’re a big inspiration to me. Like many others, I discovered you bc of your heartbreak documentary and I get excited everytime you post a new video because your mindset is everything. You’re way of living is such a motivation for me, but honestly I don’t know where to begin. I would like to be a content creator myself but where do you start with no experience in the field (photoshop, indesign, video editing etc) because they are asking for it. Could you make a video of your whole career path with more details (how long it took to get where you want to, how did you cover up your finances in between, do you do freelance work and how are you able to do that on remote if you’ve moved cities)? I feel a little bit stuck. Thank you 🤍🤍

[@laura-ng5dd]

lumma you'll never know much i love you bc of this, thankyou😭❤

[@macyfowler261]

I absolutely love these kinds of pep talks. Youre the best 🤍

[@sonalisingh8447]

Ur voice is really soothing. It calms my anxiety

[@estherb9370]

Beautiful ❤ Exactly what I need. Trying to become happy on my own after a break up. Thank you for all your videos, they are helping me a lot!

[@estherb5872]

Well wtf.. We have just the same name. But.. yes i agree those kind of videos Help me too! (: :D

[@Maincourse19]

Love love love you hun! Your vids have helped me so much on the healing journey and I recently had to go through the hard lesson of learning to let go and detach. Still working on it but made so much progress in the past four months.

[@Noorrrr]

Such a beautiful atmosphere and words 😊💕👏🏽

[@Cristina-vo9lp]

Thank you for all your videos on breakups❤

[@Anshi1234x]

didnt even know i needed this!!

[@NcikDaiz209]

I like these video more than the Q&A!

[@jesusismysevior305]

Lumma i have been watching your videos for so long and you helped me to really get over my toxic relationship and be good by my own so thank youuuuuu i wish you all the best 😊😍

[@tosexe2535]

When you’re in love, make sure you really are in love and not just in love with the idea of being in love.

[@Elle-hh9jd]

Thank you lumma 🥹🥹

[@lummaaziz]

Love you!

[@user-gr4yz2mg8c]

Thank you for your splendid words 🤍🤍

[@chauminh7873]

i love this pep talk and your background in this video 🤍🤍

[@meijuyllasjarvi4169]

I love that you explain everything so clear❤️

[@lummaaziz]

Thank you for subscribing!

[@Ivycelestewinter-hart]

very beautiful. Thank you! needed to hear this today. x

[@jashenneruthbajolo5766]

thank you so much, your videos make me feel better and rationalize things.

[@quickielts7]

love your speeches

[@alexandstitch]

This video is exactly what I need. Thank you.

[@lummaaziz]

I'm so glad

[@CAders-hc7th]

Damnn the harbour metaphorm! Loved it 💙

[@bupenanyangwe226]

I really love your videos❤❤your pep talks mean a lot to me with love❤❤

[@josepablozunigaroca9395]

Thanks for your words. You have helped me a lot with such a great video! Regards!

[@mk9nzm6]

Thank you so much.

[@adventuresoftrip1136]

Thank you Lumma! Your videos really help a lot after going through a breakup.

[@melissawitham6847]

Have you ever talked about when being alone has been your norm for so long it’s hard to get in a relationship bc it’s not something you’re used to? I’m kinda like you where I’ve always been alone and am so used to that. Finding the balance is difficult and trusting when you do meet someone to lean into it. All my relationships have been short term, partly bc I always link up with people who are *also* used to being alone and then break it off bc they would rather be alone. Gotta break that cycle and find someone long term.

[@s1lvyyy440]

LUMMMAAA WE LOVE U

[@lummaaziz]

LOVE YOU MORE!

[@yepitsmeaye4932]

Thanks for being the perfect elder sister for us!😭😭

[@pacert3204]

thank you.

[@fbercal]

Iloooooveyouuuuuu Lumma!

[@eljstreets]

i needed this today thank you!

[@kaitlinandrews]

I love you lumma 💜 ❤

[@lummaaziz]

Love you!

[@kaitlinandrews]

@@lummaaziz love you more I love watching you 🥺🥺

[@staystrong355]

Thank you! Helped me so much!

[@stephaniemarieshephard3848]

Thank you ❤❤❤

[@soniaakuasomuah6864]

Hi Lumma love your videos so far Ps I really look forward to you recommending books ❤❤

[@lummaaziz]

I will keep this in mind!

[@yasminasaidou6897]

ILY Lumma🥰🥰

[@lummaaziz]

Love you!

[@陳韻如-k2o]

Thank you 👍🙏

[@nr4390]

This made my day 🥺❤️

[@guppyriella]

Needed this ❤️

[@shayla3652]

i love u lumma thank you for this 🩷

[@jdancer713]

lovedd this j what i needed to hear rn

[@Freedomsfinest]

How to get over a long term relationship and what to do when feeling lonely

[@whyjustwhy2168]

Hope time has helped 😢

[@libby8002]

needed this ❤

[@kristinej.4182]

Humans innately are social creatures. We are not made to be in isolation and love flourishes and becomes more meaningful when shared. Thus we all long to be in a loving romantic relationship regardless of how much self love we can give ourselves. Let’s be real here….

[@wilsoncoriticona7295]

has very beautiful skin

[@Bellawasme7]

Lumma ♡♡♡♡❤❤🎉

[@kawya7292]

Lumma You are Glowing❤

[@ambrevta]

I watch your videos religiously I swear

[@ilyneamari3398]

Girl this is one of the best videos i’ve ever watched. I really needed it. Thanks a lot.

[@honey5075]

Jumping into a sponsorship immediately is definitely.. a choice..

[@vincylau8031]

Hi Lumma, I love your necklace. Where did you get it from?

[@Lovethyself887]

Is it wrong if I want this forever? Maybe the heartbreak was too much but now I don’t want anyone

[@mgacofficialyt]

I hope he didn’t break ur heart AGAIN😑

[@lummaaziz]

Hi! I'm still with my boyfriend and VERY much in love, this is just a video on being alone haha, I still feel it's important to be independent whilst in a relationship x

[@nwabisasibanda4622]

Yeah love it Thank you so much for the advice

[@mgacofficialyt]

@@lummaaziz good to hear dear🥰

[@Invictusion]

Is she in a relationship with the guy beforr