How To Detach

[@arianna6679]

It’s been 8 days since my ex left me over the phone. I am now in our apartment on my own where everything reminds me of him. I got rid of all of his things and I am already feeling better. You showed me that we are so strong and we are going to get through anything. The day he left I felt like I was gonna die. Today I woke up and felt okay.. I am allowing myself to feel bad whenever I need to and I try to get little things done each day. I know HE is the one that really lost someone that loved him so much. I on the other hand lost someone that didn’t want me. I hope anyone here going through the same thing knows that they can’t no longer hurt you anymore, they are gone, and you WILL be happy again.

[@TaylorSwiftGleek]

Sending you love be kind to yourself xx

[@haya6047]

Hey I was you three months ago and I was certain I was never gonna make it. Guess what? Here I am. Cry all you want, delete everything that reminds you of him, write as much as you can, and no matter how things suck do NOT talk to him. It'll only make it worse trust me I made that mistake and it broke me more. And just give it time. You'll heal and you're gonna be ok sweetie ❤️

[@irishcladdagh3]

@@haya6047 your words help me...3wks in of 13 yrs and betrayed from day one...Im allowing myself to feel everything as a cleanse...I chose to not suffer in silence and get past the blame shame and reach out to my bff and family...Ive always been a private person but this has shattered my world and I knew I was not gonna make it on my own...I am thankful I did...now I am just taking it one day at a time....Im having good days and bad ones....today has started out bad 😭but its early so im giving myself a chance to change that....Im glad you are stronger today than you were a few mths ago 🐾

[@haya6047]

@@irishcladdagh3 Glad I could help! But can I just point out how courage you were to open up to your friends and family? I'm saying this 'cause I'm a closed up person and I went through this on my own and it was a living hell. So seriously good for you for being this strong. And let me assure you (from experience) that once you start having some good days that means you're healing. Just because there are still some bad days doesn't mean that you're back to square 1. Your lowest point gets higher over time. That's the key.. Time. And if it makes you feel better, I'm not having the best day either. But tomorrow is definitely gonna be better for both of us. Keep going ❤️

[@Amval_]

One day someone will pick you up and love you. They will be yours. ❤️❤️

[@charmiedocot941]

A very much needed video! I'm having breakdowns all day from my recent break up a month ago. I also repeatedly watch your previous vlogs whenever I feel like I'm hurting -- the 3 months documentary of heartbreak and How to really get over a heartbreak. I think the reason why I am struggling with our break up is because I did not want it to happen. I kept telling him "let's work this out. Break up would no longer be my option". But I guess, just like what you said, they have the right to break up with us. It's just hard to let go when you already have imagined a future life with that person and now those dreams will never ever be happening in this lifetime. I pray that one day, I will understand why our relationship didn't work out. And that is when the right person finally comes along and love me the way I deserve.

[@oliviaharris5538]

try to understand why it didn’t work out before you get back into dating. only you can heal your wounds ♥️

[@ahahahhaha190]

From my personal experience, there will be things that were not perfect in the relationship, because we are all humans and no human is perfect. You could try to see those, but maybe you won't see them right away. But I was where you were, thinking there was always a solution for every problem. The reality is there is a solution for most problems, but both people need to want to solve it. You wanting to solve the relationship problems is the correct mindset and you will eventually find someone who will think the same as you. Also if in your opinion you always tried to solve things and find solutions, you can be proud of yourself. Also really helped for me thinking "I did the best I could with the knowledge I had at the time.", whenever I was ruminating about the past. Really learn take care of yourself, because those are skills that will be useful for life. It will get better, but will take some time.💪

[@juliegrt4831]

Feeling the same way 😢💔 but i kept telling my self that we deserve better and that something Amazing is coming. It's about Time. (My english is not perfect sorry). I wanted too , "to work on thing" but if the person that you use to love doesn't want it, we can't do nothing.. i understand that i have to let go. But it's hard. Writing help, talking too. And WE are not alone. Apparently breakups teach us a lot. And i know that one day , we'll be happy again... And love again ❤️👀

[@echinquee1609]

this hit incredibly hard

[@joyf4679]

My annoyance was yes they have a right to break up but when you promise something a week before then the end of the week break up because of some “advice” you got which suddenly made you think different of a convo that was had multiple times. I felt betrayed and lied to. In my opinion you work on the relationship you don’t quit when things get hard but it was his life his choice and his loss. It’s been 7 months or 8 and I still get annoyed thinking about it only because I wouldn’t have done it to him. I am happier now and I’m not sad really unless something happens like I see his family or a random memory pops up. It gets better I just learned people aren’t consistent and for me I realize I can only trust God and hope for the best oh also pray for them that has helped me too.

[@buck_maize111]

11yrs.. married, 2 kids.. she left me 2 months ago.. I've been a mess.. cried every day for the entire time.. I've lost 20kilos from not eating.. it's like a knife in my heart that just keeps turning non stop.. 💔

[@pratikpatidar1612]

Buddy, How are you doing now?

[@buck_maize111]

@@pratikpatidar1612 it's been a year since we broke up, hardest time of my life.. I'm doing alot better now, but I have moments where I fall apart and miss our life. We've hooked up a few times and hang out alot, have dinner with the kids every few nights a week as a family.. which is really nice. But I don't ever want her back now. Just as friends is all I want

[@m_kenz89]

@@buck_maize111praying for you!

[@alyson3026]

Im sorry this happened to you, I hope it gets better for you. It must be hard to go through something like this...good luck out there my guy ❤❤❤💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@Talya.MacCallum]

i live for these pep talks, i fall asleep to them every night. They’ve helped me through my breakup so much🤍

[@paklaiflores]

Same

[@carloswolf85]

Same!

[@mariamarquez9915]

Same!!!!🫶🏼

[@chanteli1991]

lol i felt like i was the only one sleeping to these 🥹🫶🏽

[@ikarhutami9016]

Same🥹

[@outroseok]

2 days post breakup and I must say short term relationship breakups hurt just as much as the long term ones do.... I never wanted to experience this pain again after the last time yet here I am. //:

[@Justin11897]

It’s so true. I was in a relationship with my ex for almost 10 years and my 3 month relationship that abruptly ended hurt so bad just like the 10 ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@ash-hv4jo]

hi, how are you now? how's the progress?

[@katrivera2917]

1 week break uo, and he was my first everything, lasts for 5 months and it hurts so bad, this is my first heartbreak and it just hurts

[@Loladangelo_]

Currently going through a very rough breakup. Very similar to yours (living together, he left without really saying much..) I watch your 3 months of healing video everyday multiple times a day. It’s really helping and giving me hope. I’m also pregnant with his child and I had to come to the conclusion I can’t go forward with this pregnancy (which we did want at the time) I saw him as my future and it’s so extremely painful to go through this. I know I’ll feel better one day. I’m just ready for that day to come

[@diamondtocurtee6648]

going through the same thing now.. currently pregnant also but i have decided to keep my baby. we are choosing to co-parent which will be hard but i have time to prepare.🤞🏾

[@rachaelphiri618]

you will be okay sis

[@rachaelphiri618]

sending you love

[@MsAudreyCeline]

Sending you love during this difficult period and for the light at the end of the tunnel to shine sooo brightly for you ❤️

[@natasyaazmeal3463]

Did he comeback or smt?

[@lile574]

I said this on a different video but I thought I would send this here to help anyone going through a break up right now trust me, it does get better! What has helped me: - journaling every day (documenting my journey through journalling) - speaking to friends and family for support and spending time with them - paying attention to the negative aspects of the relationship and the person you were with, not the positives (helps you realise that the relationship wasn’t perfect) - allowing yourself to feel your emotions instead of bottling them up and ignoring them (it can help to express this through art, music, or picking up hobbies!) - start doing things for yourself like taking yourself on dates, treating yourself, and self-love + self-care (this can include working out, eating better, and yoga) - meet new people - removing them from everything so you give yourself time to heal, that is so so important. Even if you want a friendship, give yourself some space from them and let them know you need some time away from them. - watching advice videos on how to get over breakups/videos like this can show you that you aren’t alone I have been going though my breakup for nearly 2 months and it really does get better, I promise. Just like a broken limb or injury, a broken heart needs time to heal. Even if you treat your injury every day, it still needs time to heal the injury ❤️ you can make it through this! Trust me, once you’re feeling better, you’ll realise the breakup was for the better and that you’ll find someone who is better for you :)

[@hannahmaggs5526]

I think this is really going to help me!! Thank you so much for this advice. Currently going through a break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. Hope your doing well! ❤️

[@0pticle]

This is really good advice, my gf of 2.5 years and I just ended our relationship and I’ve been doing pretty much everything you listed. There will be highs and lows throughout the day but following these steps really do get you more highs and will at some point eliminate all the lows :)

[@fernandavalerio5244]

I’m in week 2 and I’m in agony

[@muskannrathore]

@@fernandavalerio5244 same!

[@sans.anthxny]

currently the day after- but i had to start accepting that it was coming a few days before. i have to learn to have more respect and love for myself. EDIT: it’s been a week, and my replacement has already cheated on them..

[@laineysearle9665]

Feeling like my situationship is finally coming to an end. It hurts because I keep chasing after him begging for him to come back, but it is pretty obvious where he stands. We dated for a year and our love was so real but it ended very abruptly. Having a talk with him tomorrow and trying to prepare myself for the end of us. Going to be in a lot of pain for a while but I need to find myself again

[@jannzmoss9466]

hello how are you feeling rn ?

[@marisols8605]

I watched your breakup video after my 7 year relationship ended, from getting cheated on to the worst depression I didn’t think I’d make it out of, I always came back to your videos, they made me feel so much better and reassured ❤️

[@nataliegajewski738]

How are you doing now girl?

[@rina_cottage]

If you dont mind, I am also wondering how you are doing

[@marisols8605]

@@nataliegajewski738 it’s much better now it’s been 9 almost 10 months and I still miss him but I think I’ve hit acceptance on the grief cycle.

[@marisols8605]

@@rina_cottage it’s been almost 9 to 10 months and I think I’ve just hit acceptance. It still hurts don’t get me wrong but time has really put things into perspective.

[@rina_cottage]

@@marisols8605 Thanks for responding and being so open. Im on month 2 and it's hard to imagine another 8 months of this if its anything close to your timeline.

[@dicaprio1002]

This is exactly what i needed right now, i have been feeling so fragile recently as i keep thinking about how i could have done things better in past situations. I’m not perfect, but the best thing i could do is stop wallowing in what i can’t change, detach, and pick myself up to become a stronger version of myself. You are so inspiring, thank you for making these videos

[@ash-hv4jo]

we just broke up 3 days ago after finding out he had been cheating on me since 2 months before the day we broke up. the funny thing is he has been in a relationship with another girl for 2 months. it left my heart shattered in million pieces. i felt the relationship like home and safe place. i hate that i have to clean the mess i didn't cause. here i am rotting in bed and watching ur videos for comfort. i'll be okay

[@jasminearceo6059]

How are you feeling now:(💕💕

[@Kritiical]

Hey honey! How are u doing now?

[@megabadunicorn8625]

Been four days after my terrible breakup with my best friend of 6 years. Been with him as a couple for 4 amazing years. He broke it off with me without me helping him decide what’s best for us. I can’t believe how much I’ve already moved on. I’m not gunna hold on to him coming back. If he left me, he didn’t want me. Why am I holding on? I’m ready for my self love and care. THANK YOU FOR THESE VIDEOS. And I’ve been watching so many different types to heal. But yours are so special to me

[@advin_]

My bf broke up with me 4 days ago and I am going through so much pain. I hid all his pics and belongings but I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t eat or sleep well, I feel very panicky, lost around 7 pounds. The only way I was able to cry is when I saw you crying on that video. Thank you for sharing

[@zauber_ben8701]

it’s been 5 month since my bf broke up w me and i was in that situation like you are in rn. I remember i didnt eat and sleep for a week and that affected my performance at work. I began thriving on the 3rd week, and from there I continued feeling better. I still cry about it here and there but not as close as I was during the first few weeks. Slowly, I realized that im crying for myself and not for him anymore. And I think that’s a good thing coz I started to reconnect with the things I deserve in life. It’s self love. Hang in there. Time and distance is your friend. :)

[@jmvtx]

Just found your YT channel. Going thru a INCREDIBLY painful breakup. 3 yrs with this person. Knowing that there is someone else out there that can’t get out of bed, move on, want to text him, and just overall struggle as bad as I am helps.

[@ayumadias]

I've started subscribing your channel after the breakup video. It's been 4 months now since my breakup and I feel a lot better now. I'm happy being on my own and I let go things that I couldn't control. Also your pep talk video gives me reassurance every single day. Thank you so much. I love you & stay safe

[@natasyaazmeal3463]

Did he comeback?

[@ayumadias]

@@natasyaazmeal3463 he tried but I was just too unbothered to let him in again..

[@natasyaazmeal3463]

@@ayumadias you know i did something stupid yesterday. I was texting my ex after 2 months of break up. He did read but never reply. Now im crushed again. Pray for me to stay strong :(

[@ayumadias]

@@natasyaazmeal3463 it's okay ♡ you'll be absolutely fine. I was like you two months post breakup but what made me started feeling okay was bcs I made a list of pros and cons about our relationship and it turned out he wasn't that special 😂 giving you virtual hug!

[@natasyaazmeal3463]

@@ayumadias i wish the phase end soon. Im so stupid i feel so embarrassed hhaha thank you tho

[@VeeRocket9]

I’m trying to be calm more, not overreact, and to just simply let go. Listening to you and your pep talks helps. I resonate with you and would love to thank you Lumma for helping me in my journey in loving myself more and finding myself. Much appreciate it! 🥰

[@sonyaandrews1773]

Your videos are truly a blessing . I met my ex 1 year ago , we broke up around 5 times during the course of this relationship…. He dumped me again 3 days ago and I’m not totally emotionally devastated , I am truly just missing him … I don’t understand how someone can just abruptly walk out of your life JUST LIKE THAT and I am left heartbroken . I hate this feeling and I don’t know how to let go . I gave this man my entire heart and he just dumps me and moves on . What a narcissist person !!!! I want so much to be stronger and feel better about myself . I want him to reach out , to feel the pain that I feel right now but he isn’t …. If he did , he would reach out . I’m so confused

[@mayanngendoy6925]

Hi! How are you now?

[@justasamoanpanda]

Lumma is the big sister most of us don’t have but we all really deserve and NEED ❤️

[@Sami_naa]

Your path in life, which you describe, that you were a victim of life, had depressive phases, etc. That's exactly what happened in my life, too. And also I woke up after my bad breakup and I'm getting better every day. I will be the best version of myself. As soon as you decide that you don't want to live like this anymore, something great begins. step by step you start to see life differently, to enjoy it differently. i am so thankful for this experience. 🙏🏽 cheers on us strong women.🥂

[@amethyst2753]

There are some people who only loves you when the situation are okay.

[@diamichelle21]

They love when there is a situation convenient for them only :)

[@lukeflierl1422]

Dude...I can't describe how comforting I find your videos. I recently moved to Berlin to make a life for myself here, and it has been hard. Really hard sometimes. Your videos though have helped me so much. I repeatedly have your voice in my head throughout the day when I start to think about a certain someone. I remind myself there its not that deep, there's 7 billion people on this planet and ''it only takes one person to love you right. Separate your facts from the feelings. Stop letting people grow on you. Have your standards and don't lower them'' these are all things I think about regularly. Thank you so much, you really are making a difference with your videos.

[@sharanyabagchi4614]

I had a breakup 5 hours back and the worst part of this is that the guy had genuine reasons as he wants to focus on his career and it was getting difficult for him to devote time to me and he felt like a bad boyfriend so he decided to end it. I dont know if i am blinded by love or not, but i believed him and it hurts even more cuz now i have nobody to blame as things were so perfect with him but just that our timing was wrong maybe, idk how to process all this feeling. It hurts so much, i just keep on thinking what if things could have worked or maybe he prioritised me enough to work out on this not compromising with his career .

[@undsoweiter1263]

I never went through a massive heartbreak. I never felt 100% attached to a person I couldn't imagine living without. BUT I feel so much comfort while watching your videos and feel like a can prevent certain situations. Your way talking about things is so inspereing and having such a clear mind about what's going on in life and how things should go is so impressive. And it always made my day when I watched your videos because I feel more confident stepping out the door and just being me

[@nina.bum24]

Found your channel during my break up, same as you first one in my life, my first love. It’s just been a month since we separated…but I have to see him almost every day at work still…and it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through…but after watching your videos and a lot of what my friends and family have said, I’ve got to detach as you’ve said and let go of someone who I have no control of and of feelings that only hurt me more than they do good. And like you said, it’s not going to happen overnight, but I hope in a month or two, just like you did, I’ll be in a much happier and calmer place

[@kiraakkiran7611]

Presently how u r feeling right now?

[@shawnkee8689]

Please keep making videos like these, we all need reassurances from day to day, especially after something traumatic. Thank you from d bottom of my heart for making these videos for breakups and acknowledging both genders do go through the same thing :')

[@victoriacarcillo4520]

I needed this right now!! I've been experiencing some built up anger with a person and situation that I need to let go of, and I realized that I just have to accept that things happened the way that they did, and everything is going to be fine. Besides, the best revenge is being happy! :) Thanks so much, Lumma!

[@carmenbreytenbachbreytenba347]

There are no words to describe how much I love these pep talks. I’ve gone through a breakup and these videos have helped me to feel empowered. They have helped me realise my strength and value as an individual and for that I can’t be more grateful

[@cheetoss_]

Your words are so reassuring and comforting. Been watching your vids repeatedly. Im currently undergoing a huge breakdown and i just cant stop crying.

[@amandaamong6740]

I love your energy, Lumma. Thank you for making this video. If this man you're dating keeps causing you anxiety, please distance yourself from him if he doesn't care what he is doing is triggering you. Nobody is worth your peace. I am going through a bad breakup because I ignored the little warning signs in the beginning when I shouldn't have. I want you to be happy and fulfilled because you are such a sweet human being. The right man will nurture you and care about what makes you happy or sad. Best wishes to you, girl. Thank you for this calming video with such words of wisdom

[@gabrellhalstead6667]

I just want to thank you so much lumma. Your videos always gives me the courage and strength to push through these rough days. Going through a breakup and its like the worst pain I've ever felt. And I know I did the right thing by breaking up with him. He just doesn't care anymore and has cheated on me. But I'm gonna make it through this phase. I know I'll be okay.

[@RT-Vane]

I started watching you after I went through an abusive relationship. I am trying to cope w the breakup and the trauma from that night. Thank you for posting these videos. I hope I can come back w a good update.

[@bagasdilts1080]

I like to believe that whether it is good or bad, things just happen for a reason. Sometimes shit happens and that thing may lead you to something better. For example I’m 23, and I just graduated university 6 months ago. I landed a full time job but then got laid off in just 4 months. Luckily it had nothing to do with my performance but mann I felt really shitty for a week. I’m still jobless now but from the past month, i’ve been able to reflect on life and try to figure my next step. I managed to also travel to the west coast to see my relatives whom I haven’t seen for 10+ years. I realized that the job search can wait but they’re not gonna be around forever. So despite the shit i’m dealing right now, things aren’t that bad at all. Funny thing is that I felt a sense of freedom when i got laid off. As a young college graduate, i need to prioritize and learning new skills, and experiment with different things which is why i took my job loss as a calling to really think of what i truly want for life. So yeah once again, things happen for a reason and if you read this, i wish you good health and strength to carry on with whatever issues you’re facing.

[@og_brooklyn11lol48]

Going through a teenage breakup and this has helped me so much and understand my feelings this calmed me. Thank you so much for your video

[@virginiag5580]

Thank you for your pep talks, it really gives me hope that everything will be ok. Going through a bad separation and there are some days that the pain is unbearable. Praying a lot and hoping for the day I get up and hurts less.

[@reality.shifts1539]

I came here after ending things with a ex just a day ago after he told me he fell for another girl after spending a night or two with her. after reading the comments on other relationships it made me see that I'm not the only one. in past relationships that ended I found myself thinking of them all the time and finding it very hard to make peace with what happened. its about time I end that toxic cycle for myself. I will only look at this as a lesson. a lesson that has allowed me to see that I can heal from being put in my lowest points. a lesson that allowed me to see I deserve a man who can get around another female and not fall in love after just speaking to her. I deserve better and so do the people reading this, lets learn, accept, and move forward. 💜

[@verycool422]

this comment made me feel some type of relief after just few days of breakup ♡

[@AnniellaTolentino-l7b]

I'm so shy as of it's my first time commenting on a comment section,🥹 but I just want to say is thank you!🥰 Your pep talks and advice mean so much to me, filling me with joy and gratitude. You bring calmness, inspiration, and motivation to my life, and I am incredibly humbled and fulfilled by your words.❤ Your positivity is a reminder of the power of connection and sharing goodness in this world!🤗 Love your channel, love your pep talks, love ya Lumma! 🥹Thank you for all the advice you share - it helps me and others so much. Watching your videos gives me great vibes, inspires me, and motivates me fr,fr!🤗 You are amazing! 🥰🤗❤

[@sakshh16]

this video actually made me feel like venting out in the comment section. i ain't going through any breakup but its about this guy i like but maybe he into my friend and seeing them close like literally close since he's an introvert makes me feel weird in my stomach. i just feel like ghosting them all to be honest😭

[@sherenrumengan7881]

i feel better everytime i watch ur video, lumma .. from the break up documented videos i watched when i experienced the same thing, yes broke up with my ex. and ur videos strengthen me so much. the pain was like a rollercoaster, but ur videos really helpful and makes me better thanks lumma ..

[@rileyoblack]

as a 16 yr old, i’ve been extremely stressed about getting my first job ever, i’m constantly overthinking, “will i be good enough?” , “what if i make mistakes?” , “what if i embarrass myself?” a lot of my nights, i stay up overthinking that multiple bad things will happen to me, but this video taught me to think about the good that’ll come from this new opportunity, ill be able to meet new coworkers, i’ll be able to get money, and i’ll be able to overcome my social anxiety which going for my first interview has already made a HUGE step, but now that i’m hired, i’m even more proud of myself for pushing myself forward and putting myself out there despite my anxiety. thank you for this video lumma, it has made me realize that, i can do anything, even with anxiety, and i’m proud for myself for that!

[@NoTalentGuy]

You are a strong woman. I admire you. I am weak. It has been 6 months since my love left me and there isn't a day that I don't think about her. I even tattooed her name on my hand.. Keep making those videos, because you have helped so many people deal with breakups. 💘

[@tabbymureithi5152]

Good job Lumma! I never thought that a time would come that I would need your videos so much. You've been so relatable and open. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with all of us. This is my first week and I hope that some day, I will be as vibrant and proud of my conqueror self as you are. Blessings!!

[@jaydekloppers2544]

you’re literally the friend I’ve always wanted, ilysm !

[@jaydekloppers2544]

@Lora btch wtf you sayin

[@karotockhorn9830]

I'm going through a breakup rn and I can't even put into words how much I appreciate your pep talks! Everytime I watch one of your videos and look through the comment section, I realize that I am NOT alone in this! We are all just walking each other home ♥️🔮

[@_3leonora___]

i was crying so bad and this literally switched my mood! you said everything so clear and I'm just so much calmer now thank you so much ❤️

[@bambambi5918]

Thank you for the 3 month breakup video.....i am someone who feels as deeply as you about people ❤ it really helped me not guilt myself for being sad....i embrace the sadness....and i will survive ❤

[@brendaneasten4008]

Your videos are truly helping me with my breakup of someone I was with for 2 years❤ it’s been 2 weeks and it still hurts but I’m starting to see the light 💡

[@lottiebowdenbowden238]

How do you feel now? Im a week in finding it quite a big rollercoaster with ups and downsc

[@haya6047]

I really hope you're reading this because i just wanna say thank you from the bottom of my heart. A while ago I watched your video where you documented 3 months of break up & I swear it came out of nowhere. I didn't even know you at the time, I was on my second month of break up and it was eating me alive. I cried with you the whole video and just when it ended I felt so much better for the first time ever because I don't really have someone to talk to and it felt like I had a friend. You helped me another time later on with your other video where you were talking about how to get over a breakup and you really opened my eyes to so many things. And now there's this when I need it the most as I'm taking a step back these days. I haven't watched it yet but still I know for sure it'll help me. Thank you so much for being here. I wish you all the happiness in the world. You've helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life and for that you're an angel to me. Sending lots of love 💞

[@irishcladdagh3]

I'm thankful for this young lady everyday more than she will ever know....glad you are ok today....me im still a working progress 🐾

[@irenemeera5788]

Thanks for being best friends...it's like I found best friend. Atlist have someone to talk and listen.. when emotional breakdown attack , I have big progress moving foward when I started listening to your vlog it's really big help !!! I learned how To hug myself everytime I woke up and remind myself iam loved , and I'm enough thank you!!! I'm very focus remind myself .. I'm alone now .. an there's nothing wrong being alone actually it's power.. being alone and loneliness are different .. thank you

[@froggypod6497]

currently going through a very rough break up, and struggling to find myself. i still love him, and i miss him so much, but he has made it clear he does not want me. i am just so confused coz he has asked for me back 2 times now and then changed his mind a week later and its messing me up so bad. i have to see him everyday, and its killing me when he pretends i dont exist, after everything he and i have been through. i want to move on and idk how coz i still care so much about him. ur videos help so much, but idk what to do

[@TravelNoteswithBecca]

This was amazing,really felt like you are speaking to me. Going through a rough breakup,he cheated and got the other girl pregnant...its been 4years but I know my gut is right,its time to go!

[@zinazoulou3574]

how long were you two together?and does he still want you or did he break-up and choose the other woman?

[@TravelNoteswithBecca]

He did want me not the other woman, went back but nothing really changed... Once a cheater, always a cheater!

[@niyamarie6721]

I’ve been having breakdowns all day from my recent breakup 3 days ago and I’ve just been watching you taking it day by day

[@kingbiebs175]

hey, how are you? im in my 1st day :((

[@invisible8481]

@@kingbiebs175 hiI IT'S BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE WE BROKE UP, I tell you will get better!! You can do it just feel the pain DO NOT SHUT DOWN LONLINESS SADNESS AND PAIN You need to feel all of them in order to process the healing!!

[@kingbiebs175]

@@invisible8481 thank you, im not feeling well

[@invisible8481]

@@kingbiebs175 You will be okay:))

[@Me-ov2or]

I am not going through a breakup right now, i am going through a stressful part in my life and this really helped me more than anything💖 thank you so much

[@haydenclairmont8346]

Thank you for making this content! It’s such honest and realistic advice, your pep talks and videos are so comforting. I’m 5 months out of a breakup and becoming the best version of myself and your videos have helped in a lot of ways, so thank you :)

[@sjaimes31]

YOU are a beautiful person honestly inside and out it’s obvious when you speak and that’s how I see you ! Thank you for these videos

[@ja1mejp]

i literally watch your videos anytime i feel bad and always click off feeling so much better and generally feeling more positive about life. Thank you so much you could never understand how much of a comfort your videos are to me!!!

[@yamgod4389]

Thank you my girlfriend just broke up with me and your videos and this one definitely made me feel better. I love your humor make me start laughing at work while I was moaping around. Thank you

[@mauriciomartinez1387]

These videos feel like a hug, goddamit im now crying. Thank you very much, you really help people with their process. Beautiful videos.

[@cancer7675]

This comment section needs a hug and deserves a peace of mind.

[@dabest444u]

I needed this video.. love your content! I agree 100% with the “ calling up people like friends and family to talk when bad situations happen “ we need to talk MORE about good things! the more we focus on the good, the more good there is to focus on!! ❤❤ love your channel ! :)

[@MimiLouise_xo]

I came here from the heartbreak video, which I’m so glad I found because I’ve been watching it everyday to help me through, what do I do when the breakup was partly my fault we had a few disagreements here and there but I took it to far on his 30th birthday I kicked off at him and his family heard and I regretted it instantly I’ve apologised so many times I cried on his shoulder but he still said there’s no going back and I’m literally hurting so much I can’t cope. We we’re together for 4 months but done so much in that time even went on holiday together, I hate this feeling. It’s a week exactly today, And i feel like I won’t get over it.

[@maitaishemangundhla5418]

You will , trust me It just seems so unbelievable right now. But you will!!

[@ginoangeles5260]

how are you now?

[@ella-pr7pn]

I'm currently experiencing a break up right now. She broke up with me because she still hasn't moved on from her ex. I begged and begged for a month. But then later on she said that she broke up with me for another reason and since she said that, it seems like the break up was because of my wrongdoing. After that she also said that she hopes that I will not reach out again since she's already talking to someone new and she doesn't want her new partner to get mad. I'm in pain and disbelief. She's always on my mind. The worst part is whenever I woke up, I feel so panicky like "omg we are not together anymore because of me". The only thing that keeps me going are videos like this. Thank you so much. I don't want revenge, I just wanted to be okay.

[@axltowty7138]

I feel you, stay strong...

[@ella-pr7pn]

@axltowty7138 we can eventually, get through this

[@axltowty7138]

@@ella-pr7pnyou will find your way to acceptance, and even though it feels hard right now, trust that everything will eventually fall into place and your life will be okay.

[@ella-pr7pn]

@axltowty7138 thank you for the kind words! acceptance is hard but I'm on my way to it, hopefully I'll be okay again

[@kirimiingi]

you're my therapist lumma. you're really helping me going through it

[@Niaaa32727]

I looked down at my phone. We broke up last week and the pain is still so unbearable. Thank you.

[@ploumakiiiiii]

You have no idea how much i needed this, thank you. For real i really needed this right now thank you so much for making this pep talk!! You help us so much and we are so grateful for your words and your time :))

[@Imgonnarise]

I'm currently going through a bad rough breakup. I thought we'd last forever, but be left me two days ago over call, over text rather. He thanked me when I told him I'll never call him again and that i was sorry for calling repeatedly and crying and begging. I will update this comment when I get better, let's see if I can come out of it some day in my life. If I can can, you can too, because trust me, I am in the worst possible situation and crying almost 20 times a day, every hour and every minute my mind is just focused on the breakup.

[@joannapatlan8837]

You will be okay. How are you today?

[@lifewithsha4783]

How’s things with you today?

[@patwatcharakuldilok7941]

Your vid is so comforting. I started following you after watching your break up video. It has been a month after my break up. Now I rarely feel stab on my chest when I wake up..yeah it is better now..It is not that deep.

[@MonaHernandez-vk5mr]

I feel you I gotten dumped in most of my relationships or casual dating , hookups or whatever, many times I gotten heartbroken and men just drop us like nothing by not reaching out or ghosting but we are strong and can move forward from this, Its their lost not mines

[@rka1ve]

i love ur pep talks sm

[@Uffaaa355]

OMG! You are too inspiring, I'm sooo proud of you and the way you've flourished! Thank you for being you

[@susantjoshi8633]

All i can say is. You reflect me. THe energy you share, I really connect with that.

[@angiemartinez3137]

lumma you have no idea how much ur videos have helped me. i love you

[@anjulinaevans9571]

I just started subscribing to your channel and watching your videos and so far they have helped me so much with an overall better mindset!! Thank you!!! I definitely need to learn detachment bc i'm one of those girls who try and give everyone everything and I have to remember not everyone is gonna be the same.

[@susannafrias-wackman8078]

I felt crazy you have helped me in ways no body has. Truly thank you❤

[@Deelife32]

Hey lumma💗 thanks a lot for your amazing videos I’m going through a very painful break up and your videos are helping me a lot whenever i feel like I’m down again I just open your videos and listen to your advice again and again and IT IS HELPING me a lot 💗 thank you so much i love you 💕

[@jokesonyou222]

KZbin channels like yours are the ones that are the most important. Thank you so much 🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@belafafa1058]

Reading the comments and just being grateful its been a time for most ppls breakup and hoping its better and everyone is healed by now

[@michellemarin3023]

Girl your special. You just made me feel so good I had a rough day

[@qizhu6913]

Thank you so much Lumma, I'am going through a hard time bacause of breaking up and covid. You videos really helped me. Appreciate it !

[@KirklandFitness]

Just started watching ur channel and love them. Literally me and my ex just broke up on New Years. Its been very hard accepting. But slowly but surely feeling better being alone 😊😊

[@yamgod4389]

I feel like the hardest part isn’t knowing you will be okay. It’s knowing you will be okay without them and not wanting to be okay without them.

[@anthonyzaragoza9461]

Thank you for the helpful advice this is the second video I saw of yours and I think that you have a lot of good insight on things because of the situation you have been in but also it does feel like we're just sitting and we're talking with someone like a friend that's hard to navigate but you seem to do it effortlessly thank you

[@aryavardhan1971]

Your talks are so wholesome ❤️

[@paolamendoza891]

Hi Lumma, I’ve recently went trough a pretty bad breakup it’s been a month and I’m starting to actually feel a lot happier and been focusing on me, my work, the gym, friends, family and all of that thanks to you’re videos, the question Ive been having in my mind all this time is if you ever relapsed, if you star to feel better there is a point where you go downhill and you have to star all over again? If so, did you experience it? :)

[@dilara-zw2cw]

yes she did (look at her breakup documentary she did) theres always a point where it all comes up to u again, the emotions, the rage, the sadness everything:/ u just have to learn to deal with it and get over it as she told us all in this video!! its like losing weight at first its depressing, then u see u get better, healthier and u get happy but then it all pauses u see u gained weight or u stopped losing and u are mad and demotivated but if u just keep going in ur weight loss journey (keep being strong and not giving a damn ab them) u will see results soon again

[@thinkbaubles]

Hi Paola, relapse is normal, I just let it pass after being emotional. It feels like you're going back to zero but it will help you if you just let your emotions pass. One time you're happy, then suddenly you're back at it, it's like a series of downhill emotions so I just let myself cry until I feel like not crying anymore. I just remind myself of the reasons why we didn't work out. I hope it helps! Sending love.

[@naomi-ey7yb]

12:30 YES! I just believe everything is happening in my favor. I lose 100 dollars? something worse woulf have hsppened if I didn't lose that. Money is everywhere, I can always get it. I lose the money because someone else had to find it. And I just thank the universe or God that that person found it. I feel gratitude fro that person. I always believe that my life only gets better. Everything that happened or is happening are all serving me, ALL PART OF THE BETTER LIFE THAT I WANT.

[@ryleelinn2924]

the mix of your accents is so amazing and satisfying to listen to!

[@elshahedbibarr2749]

Love you you’re helping me go through my break up ❤️❤️it’s been months

[@angelinab.7749]

watched all your 3 or 4 vids. wow, thank you for sharing and everything you said is 100% transparent. love you

[@16jan24]

Hi Lumma. I just want to say THANK YOU. Having your channel recommended to my feed was the best!! I love your Pep Talk and most importantly your personality. Keep inspiring Love! Thank you for sharing and you have no idea how much i need this vid

[@catchyourbreathwithkeji]

I wish letting go was as easy as said. I been stocked on him for 8 months now though everything says we not meant to be. But I keep pushing it. I keep forcing it and trying to control the reality....I still see him more than I should.... He moved on but I haven’t, I’m just there hoping for a miracle but deep down I know it not gonna work I’m literally having a mental breakdown!

[@myfirstify]

Thanks Luma.. I have been persevering and persisting in teaching myself to let go and detach..

[@natalie747]

you are the only one that makes me get a away from my toxic pain...:)

[@sage4087]

Thank you for these break up videos! It helps me a lot right now when i’m going through a breakup! I am going to get my stuff and furniture today from the apartment that we had together. I think it’s going to be more easy to let go when i have all my stuff at my new apartment!😊 I watch at least one of your breakup/ peptalk videos a day, you have such great edvice!! Thank you!!🌷💕

[@jennieeg]

This video is what I’ve been searching for my whole life. Thank you so much❤️

[@user-xx7oe3rp6t]

My husband is leaving me and your videos are helping me feel less alone.

[@allenejerome7140]

im obsessed with your energy I love it

[@amaliacanterbury3022]

You are such a beautiful inspiration! Love love love these pep talks and absolutely LOOOOOOVE your channel. Your channel helped me learn to Love myself so much that it doesn't matter if someone else doesn't 💜 Thank You

[@stopitsami]

i probably speak for the guys who stumbled on your channel, but you help a lot.. thank you

[@deniset3295]

Thank you for being an angel in your messages. I love the way you shine every time I watch your videos. You are a strong, beautiful, and smart woman and your current boyfriend is very lucky that he has you by his side.

[@Rachelleweiss44]

You are amazing. Can’t stop watching you. You have been getting me through a really tough breakup

[@mehregan_talks]

I just broke up, I'm so upsets and I came to watch your videos. I hope I'll be like you strong and someday I move on.