Stop Settling For Less

[@cristina00007]

*Recently had a break up who doesn't even give me the bare minimum but I loved him so I was willing to settle. We were on and off for about a year and a half. I tried to end it so many times but I would fail each and every time. He finally ended it and I felt free but at the same time deeply hurt. I know that it was just right to end it when he did but I still miss him from time to time and I still hurt*

[@muskannrathore]

I'm in the same situation, mine was a 5 year one. The hurt fades and you heal with time idk how but you do. Focus on the healing and don't look back especially when it hurts.

[@melodyclementine]

I get so so much I’ve literally had the same experience Almost :((( I hope you get better. We’re in this together

[@juliah8071]

I‘m in a similar situation… except that he skipped the on off part and tried to kick me out of our appartment instead. Through the whole relationship I had to beg for him doing the bare minimum. And I was okay with it at that point because I thought it‘s 'his way of love‘

[@cristina00007]

@@muskannrathore I'm trying. Thank you.

[@cristina00007]

@@melodyclementine hugs to us babe ❤️💔

[@june1600]

Gathered all the courage ever since October and i finally let him go. He knew what he was doing, i said him "let's fix this i don't want to lose you", he kept doing the same thing, giving me half ass energy, I'm done. Everyday felt exhausting and draining whenever i initiate a text or a call. I'm done with it, deleted all the contact, photos, and everything. It's been 2 weeks and I've never felt this good in a long time. I'm able to go to bed without a heavy heart, wake up without panicking, I'm able to concentrate on things, I'm getting my appetite back. So please prioritise yourself, give all the love to yourself, hug yourself everyday, and I'm sending strength to whoever trying to let it go. You're stronger than you think and you're better off without them. You got this💗

[@YOURJUSBETTER]

Omg amazing job

[@ellaumpad5763]

😢❤

[@bonolomofahla]

Interested on the update on this

[@y7z1s1]

You've been doing an amazing job on focusing and taking care of yourself sister. I can relate to your story. I dumped mine just now, there's just something off about my ex and I trust gut instinct

[@TheModotus]

It's funny to see how ignored gut feelings at the beginning were right at the end. If someone is not reciprocating your energy back, they are not for you. You will never feel too much or too little with the right person. If they tell to you "I don't deserve you" most probably it's true. So don't settle! Make your own life interesting for you and the correct person will come!

[@luizotoch]

My ex used to say that. Now I know they're right: They don't deserve me

[@Julia-dj7kp]

I dated a guy for 2 years and a half that used to say "I don't deserve you", turns out he was right, he wasn't a great person after all. So yeah, I definitely agree with you

[@sTheIntrovert]

Trust your gut is seriously a very very great advice. I met a guy who was so impressive and inspiring but our energies don’t match and when people asked me why you guys dont want to work things out i just said man, idk my instinct tells me it rubs me the wrong i just dk what. I don’t regret one bit, i trust my gut with my whole heart.

[@arichan6988]

I watched this video 2 months ago and I broke up with my ex. I used to cry literally every single night. I cried in class in front of so many people because of him. He asked a girl out after 1 week of breakup and I was completely broken. It’s been 2 months now and I feel much better. If you are going through a breakup, it’s ok to cry and feel the pain. Just remember that ‘emotions change’

[@ladybug410-o2i]

My ex literally got with another girl the moment we broke up

[@shine2678]

You deserve better

[@cody7556]

My first boyfriend broke up with me during our 6 month. Exactly the day we got together. He ended it with me through a series of horrible text messages. I felt like I was talking to a completely different person. He was so mean. I've been crying every day. It's already been a month and I'm so exhausted.

[@Ginmabes]

I learned this lesson the hard way! I had been with my partner for 5 years, we split up, then got back together. When we got back together my gut yelled at me saying "what are you doing! This is NOT right and it will not work!". I spent 9 months trying to convince myself it was right. We split up, of course. But then I made yet another crucial mistake...tried to be friends for a year! Kept him in my life for reasons I thought were admirable, but really, I was SO attached and entwined with him that my very core of self esteem relied on him. I left town and went and did my masters and thought I was over it all but I wasn't, I was still looking to him for validation. Well, 3 weeks ago I cut him off COMPLETELY and have been realising that actually, he wasn't the person I thought, I just saw what I wanted to see. And now I am building myself back up and living on my own terms and looking only to MYSELF for validation. But yikes. Lessons learned, that's for sure!

[@princesslacson6291]

Omg same been in 3 years relationship and we broke up in february. Been devastated to the point I didn't know I would survive. But goddam you're so right, trust your instinct. Your inner voice knows what's best for you, you just have to listen. But I believe everything happens for a reason. Life broke us so that we could learn the lesson. But I wish I knew it sooner. I wish I have the right guidance and education for all of these. So for anyone who's reading, stop settling girl, know your worth. You're better off without them.

[@mayrareyes5889]

Going on week 2 now of this breakup and it’s been HARD . I’m crying everyday all day while he’s out here living his best life . Your videos have been helping me feel better .

[@stara4895]

How do u feel now?

[@rebeccajia688]

Speaking from your own experience! I’m still amazed how you never went back to your ex after he left. So inspiring!

[@oyaoya11]

Hi Lumma, I feel like you are always there on different stages of my growth this year, from a break-up to not settling. This is kinda magical.

[@lummaaziz]

I'm so happy!

[@oyaoya11]

@@lummaaziz love ya

[@krystalvannessa3987]

Girl you are getting me through some hard times rn. You are seriously an Angel ❤

[@ClaudiaZachara]

I love how she talks and her calm voice. She's so real and authentic and relatable.

[@NoorNoor-mj9ys]

this beautiful video thanks for this video 🤍🤍

[@autumn_hues_]

Going thru a break up atm. It's been a week since and watching your videos has helped me so so much! Thank you for being so raw and authentic Lumma.

[@michellerando1459]

Omg saaaame

[@MurielWang-z2f]

I left that situationship that was not serving me anymore just yesterday. My gut had been telling me he was not right for me for over three months but I stayed and settled till yesterday because I wasn’t willing to let it go and was so afraid of losing him. Now I did myself the right favor. Though I still feel the pain, I know everything will be alright and better. Thank you Lumma ❤to give me that courage to walk away.

[@Mkodzuken5]

Lumma has that ability to make people feel so pretty and intelligent (just like her) when she talks cuz dam I feel so gorgeous right now

[@lummaaziz]

I LOVE YOU!

[@SeaMitchell]

I watched your breakup videos since that's what I mainly need. I'm hurting, today is the worst already I just woke up and I feel this aching pain in my chest but seeing another video of you, who's helped me so much my first week of my break up. Your voice literally soothes me, as weird as it sounds.

[@theomnetwork3898]

Yeah she has helped me too during my BU. Check out Aaron Doughty, his videos on breakouts also really helped me a lot

[@senilkawijewantha1047]

hey ur not alone me too :) just know its whats meant to be.

[@ladybug410-o2i]

I feel you. That was literally me like a month ago but when focusing on the things you enjoy it gets better.

[@luizotoch]

Lumma, my gut was right about the person I was dating. They had a lot of strange behaviours and my friends told me to run away in the beggining, but I was in love and could't see all the Red flags. I dated them for about one year and I just broke up (your videos are helping me so muchhhh). Now, I still feel the pain, but all the things the person is doing on social media after we broke up is hurting me so much that I think I can't trust or love them again. I'll move on. We all deserve better Hugs from Brazil 🇧🇷💚

[@nativechique7589]

Try not to look at their social media

[@kaylau5105]

Lumma you're speaking to me on so many different levels, it's almost as if you know exactly what to say to help me get through this breakup. Your words are reassuring and you've genuinely changed my perspective on how to handle relationships. Love you girl! You have viewers in Hawaii :)

[@rohithadevuzz]

It's the second time someone is breaking my heart. Now I don't have much courage to be in another relationship. This feels awful.

[@nishanachiar]

I finally blocked someone that I was scared to lose since 3 years ago after watching this video. Thank you Lumma :)

[@libragirl5533]

Heyy Nisha how you're feeling right now!

[@piaf.9221]

I just want to say - thank you for sharing your breakup process, I watched it and it was cathartic and vulnerable. I’m sorry you were hurting then and I completely appreciate how genuine you were with the thought/ emotional process. I could relate to those moments when you wanted to call/message so bad or just hear from him. I admire you for using your influence and platform to share authentic parts of yourself as unknowingly, women of all ages and different life chapters are also connecting with your story. Thank you , wishing you love and light.

[@tinuadeadeleke9098]

He literally came back a month after and I watched your videos getting through the break up now I am so happy we did that

[@ggloreeya]

the trusting your gut part is so important!! thank you so much

[@yvanapham9270]

"it's not that deep" love it so much & I'm def going to start saying this to myself!!!! This video is literally setting the tone for my day/week - thanks so much Lumma. Feeling your light and love all the way in California 💕

[@lummaaziz]

Love you!

[@haroundarwiche7673]

glad the decisions u made lead to being happier and wiser, looking forward to ur podcasts

[@merrymaiden104]

The guy I'm dating ghost me, I'm so down from what he did even inside me I know that I don't really like him. You hit the right words Lumma

[@lindali2874]

I would love it if u made a podcast but I absolutely adooore if u kept doing these are videos because just seeing u, ur energy, ur beauty is just calming and inspiring and keeps me engaged in ur videos.

[@lummaaziz]

I'm so happy you like them!

[@rubywensday2488]

Going through a breakup atm and your videos are so so comforting and I definitely relate to everything your saying and I am trusting my gut now! ☺️💗✨

[@nzalinyangu3788]

Thanks for telling me what I've been too scared to admit to myself. Hopefully, I'll have the courage to do the right thing even though my heart will be torn to pieces.

[@adventureseekerKe..]

Going the 4th week of my breakup, just came across this video. To be honest I was also settling, I cannot believe I am admitting to this especially online but it is true. I was so afraid of being alone and societal pressure just creeped in. He did not match my values but I kept on going with the relationship. Now am in the healing journey it still hurts but I know/believe that this is the right thing. I believe I will find my soulmate. But for now just be single and get to spend time with me.

[@hebaa1305]

Your videos got me through my first heartbreak which was literallt just two weeks ago I feel so at peace with myself and honestly watching all your videos made me feel okay with the fact that its over, and that itll be okay T-T

[@winteress1214]

your voice is absolutely gorgeous!! it's the first time I've sat through the sponsorship in the KZbin video because you sound so kind and genuine about it

[@lummaaziz]

AWW

[@samli6225]

This resonated with that inner voice so much. Your pep talk series have been getting me through my break-up, I feel so much more assured that I'm on the right track and that things will work out for the better. It speaks volumes - thank you 💜 truely

[@selorin]

It ıs beeing 5 months after breakup and your videos heald me. Thank you for everything

[@palidaw6853]

Me too. I still miss him 😢 and feel sad. I don’t understand why I miss him so much. It been 5 months I still love him that it make me sad ,I want to move on. I cry sometimes and feel dying. I don’t know what to do. When I feel sad I watch Lumma video it make me calm.Thank you so much Lumma ❤❤❤

[@adina8064]

@@palidaw6853i understand i’ve just got out of a almost 3 year relationship, we both still love each other and the breakup was one-sided since he wasn’t happy anymore, and hearing that hurt me a lot. it’s been 3 weeks since he broke up with me and it’s weird how i’m already ready to move on, considering for the first 2 weeks i couldn’t even eat or get out of bed. I really thought he was the one for me, but if he really was then he wouldn’t have left me, if he wanted to he would’ve tried to be better and change for us but he didn’t want to change, and that’s ok. We just weren’t meant to be, i’m still happy that I met him, but i know i deserve better. Don’t forget to always put yourself first, you come into this world alone and leave alone, you need to start loving yourself and be ok with being alone. Also the healing process is different for everyone and that is okay, just remember that you will be fine you were fine before you met him/her and you will be fine after too, you’re stronger than you think and are not alone. Billions of people went though this and were able to heal and move on, it’s okay to cry but don’t let it consume your entire life. Try finding hobbies, new shows to watch, journaling your emotions, going to therapy, going on walks to clear your head etc. i guarantee that occupying your time will help you a lot, you need to start focusing on yourself, you will get through this! sorry for the long message i honestly have so much more to say, but i hope i was able to make you feel a bit better, sending love ❤

[@palidaw6853]

@@adina8064 Thank you so much ❤️ I feel warm and calm when I read your comment 🥺🥹 thank you

[@adina8064]

@@palidaw6853 anytime, i’m glad i was able to make you feel better :)

[@ashphiiiiii]

going thru a breakup rn with someone who was the love of my life :( thank u for your videos lumma they really do help 💜

[@sanjana1367]

Lumma bitch you are glowing gurl , you look so good and healthy and i love you so much and i would absolutely love it if you start a podcast , watching you comforts me so much , i currently went through a failed talking stage and your videos really motivated me and helped me move on , i rewatch your videos again and again , i just want you to know that what you are doing is fucking amazing girl and you are an angel and you deserve every fucking thing this world has to offer , thank you

[@ellaya81]

the question "do u feel like u could be doing more?" hits hard when youre over ambitious person who genuinly cant sit still without thinking of other possibilities

[@fairy9749]

Anyone watching you can tell that you are in tune with your soul and really tapped in!!! Please post more🤗 love you

[@chaelmarcial428]

OH MY GOSH THANK YOU SOO MUCH FOR THIS I finally felt better when I know that I wasn't the only one who was in this horrible situation it really hurts it hurts so bad I pity myself so much I wish I had the courage to leave sooner

[@stephtrujillo404]

Lumma every morning I watch you pep talk videos and just sets the mood for the day. You are a beautiful soul Lumma 🤍

[@chiadaphney3453]

Thank you so much for this I feel like ur speaking directly to me..

[@lummaaziz]

I'm so glad!

[@maryamShares_5198]

I love you in a very special way. I'm going through a break up and your videos are one of those very few that makes me feel better and see the light out there. You are amazing

[@maryamShares_5198]

Oh the 50 bucks you scammed wasn't enough for you ? 😂

[@superstringer32]

Another amazing video. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement Lumma! Always love having you talk me and everyone else through life ❤

[@jvasq]

Thank you ❤ i really needed to hear this. You help me feel stronger. When i feel really sad i love watching your videos. Thank you for everything you do! I hope i can be just as strong as you one day

[@leilak.6640]

Thank you for this great podcast episode!

[@mcharle01]

Leave ‼️ you will thank yourself later 😊

[@leilak.6640]

@@mcharle01 Thank you for your supportive answer! :) I feel really weak right now, couldn't imagine that letting go of someone who treats you disrespectful could be so hard.

[@mylene4327]

I hope you followed your gut and left! You deserve better 🤗

[@kimxx8797]

I’m flying out to Texas from Florida by myself. I am meeting a friend for the first time and we’re gonna go out.. Feels like I’m On the same page. Learning and getting out of my comfort zone. Who knows who I will meet there.

[@marwarashed4951]

I adore your pep talks,,, thanks

[@veeenusaurrr]

Lumma, thank you so much for this! This has inspired me like no other. Manifesting 100k for you, ya beautiful angel! 💕

[@lummaaziz]

I love you!

[@tanyaawagea3647]

I hope you know how much people you’re helping w this💕💕thanks!!

[@lummaaziz]

I love this comment

[@tanyaawagea3647]

@@lummaaziz ❤️❤️

[@anisafarooq1426]

I HAVE BEEEEEN SAVING THIS!!!!😍😍😍😍😍 ALSO I HOPE YOU'RE FEELING BETTER AND HAVING THE BEST TIME IN MELBOURNE. yesterday i was talking to about you to one of my friends hehehehe and how your videos have changed me soooo much. YOU'RE ON 80K SUBSCRIBERS LYSSSM!!!! WHEN YOU HIT 100K WISHHH I COULD CELEBRATE WITH YOU

[@mairerere]

I love your energy so much! You always say what I need to hear, I really appreciate it. btw I love your makeup and hair style as well

[@lummaaziz]

I love this!

[@Ms.Bree8403]

This video really hit home. Thank you so much for sharing to us all!

[@jjforshort]

Love how realistic & calm this pep talk was!!!

[@suziandchopstix]

Lumma I hope you see this: After watching all your pep talks...I literally dumped my boyfriend and all my friends because deep down for a while I knew they were not serving me at all...they actually strayed me from a lot of goals. lots of low frequencies around them. When you said "your soul is talking to you" I FINALLY LISTENED after watching this video over and over to get the reassurance that its fine and I am indeed letting go of people/ things that don't serve me or help me get to where I want to be in the future (and not be afraid to cleanse myself basically) Finding you has been like finding the girlfriend I always wanted but could never have/find (p.s I live in America and yes its very yuck here even the people lol) I just want to tell you you're literally my best friend not tryna be weird...like I love how you just know what we're thinking??? it's crazy. I am so glad because I've been heading towards where I want to go but have been ignoring the red flags in people/things. BITCH YOU REALLY PUSHED A BITCH TO GET OUT OF HER COMFORT ZONE AND BE OPTIMISITC ABOUT IT!! I haven't felt this PROUD and DESERVING it's crazy. I hope all Lumma fans realte she is awesome

[@maryamShares_5198]

I was thinking the other day , I myself usually didn't have the courage to walk out of the relationships because I was afraid of being lonely. I still am. I think that what if I end up alone if I don't settle for low. I think your video kinda enlightened me on that. I asked myself which one is worse, being in an exhausting emotionally draining relationship or being alone ? I deff think being alone is worth it

[@midnightaesthetic3830]

Yeah I agree so much. Being an emotionally draining relationship will only hurt you more mentally. So loving yourself and exploring what makes you happy is the first step to attracting happiness for u 💙

[@musebibs]

This girl always states facts about me 😭 I love your talks u so smart

[@agustinamarcico8325]

The word "Serving me" it's deep. I know there's gonna be people in your life that would not do anything to be there. But sometimes it's not about serv, why people should serve you? why people should behave as you spect? Sometimes Love doesn't mean you behave as I expect so you can stay in my life. That fucking sucks. I went though a breakup recently but I just felt guilty of expecting so much from them, expecting him to be like me, to fullfill my needs. I just felt guilty because we're all humans, we have this deep background in our life and heads it's just so complicated. I know this doesn't justify anything but it's just like try to learn to love without expecting anything from people. I just want him to be happy even if he did make me feel very sad.

[@khadijarh7742]

You're seriously so sweet and inspirational in many ways, your videos are getting me through some hard times. ♥️

[@lilialia6600]

100% true !!!!!!!! Need to hear it in repeat

[@maeghancalilung9517]

Hiiii Lumma!! Ahhh I really hope you do podcasts, everytime I go on my weekly walks, it feels so good listening to your videos. You always know the right things to say. Sometimes, I feel like I settle for the wrong things, but I thank you so much for this video. I haven’t had the most motivated mindset and I settled a lot with letting myself gain the relationship weight. After watching your videos, i pushed myself to work harder in the gym and to not stay comfortable of where I’m at. It takes me to a place of peace while listening to your vids. Love love love you, you’ve inspired so many people including me, and we’re so thankful for you.

[@smokeashess]

you give us this incredible positive energy! And i’m currently out of these stages and i recognized i’ve been settling for whatever isnt mean for me. Out of it still tryna find what is my standard and what do i want? and where will i feel safe? but you’re right, go where your gut takes you🌸

[@smokeashess]

lots of love from Pakistan🌸

[@venusprincesserikap.191]

OMG thankyou for this kind of video I'm totally scared to out of my comfort zone I don't know what to do and now I'm watching your video I'm applying for myself all of this🥰

[@ClaudhyaLifestyle]

You speak to me everytime thank you! I am believer and I mean your words are powerful. Thank you

[@kangkanabora5366]

We want podcasts lumma 💗

[@hushpuppies872]

They say a known devil is better than an unknown angel. But it does seem like it's better to trust a stranger because the person you are with will backstab you for sure.

[@nwabisasibanda4622]

Love your videos. You are so strong, Lumma continue to be yourself

[@SaidaJama1]

Luma, you are too pure for LA ❤️

[@SaidaJama1]

Lumma, would you be interested in being a paid personal coach, giving tailored advice, like you do on KZbin but just tailored for one person. I have emailed Kristina (from your insta bio) to ask about this too. Please let me know if you’d be willing to discuss this more. Thank you ❤️

[@Sarah-mq5qe]

Just what I needed right now… Thank you Lumma❤

[@Candyway31]

I love this girl ❤️ you really help me out 🥰

[@brycenamorozo8630]

Getting out of a breakup about a week ago. Now looking back, my girlfriend was settling for me and I was not checking the boxes. Time to work on myself so I can check someone’s boxes in the future.

[@simraningule]

Feeling so inspired and positive after this video, Lumma I can’t thank you enough for posting this video, it changed my perspective 😊 Love love love 💕

[@princesslacson6291]

I need topics like this. Thank you.

[@JezTam]

Going through bs. So you literally came at the perfect time 🤍🤍🤍

[@kaylanguyen7384]

thank you for making content! you have no idea how much you've helped me.❤

[@149Billy]

I actually do listen to these videos like a podcast, but personally like to keep it that way just so I don't have to be across too many platforms (not on spodify...I know). Thanks for the vids, I religiously watch them particularly during this breakup just to remind myself of perspectives! From Sydney also.

[@westonmorgan2415]

settling is something that can become a habit sometimes.

[@NYC1E1]

It’s one thing to be in a miserable relationship, it’s another to be/feel unhappy or unfulfilled in one. It isn’t your partners job to make you feel whole, it’s your job to be whole before choosing to get into a relationship… The thing about settling and making a commitment to be with someone is that you know that there’s others out there that make more money, are more attractive, are funnier and more interesting, are smarter etc. That goes both ways… The whole grass is greener on the other side is going to leave you in your 40’s, with a body count of 50-60 men, multiple children with multiple men and alone… If you find a man (person) that has a job, isn’t lazy and works hard, doesn’t do drugs, or abuses alcohol, doesn’t have a criminal record, is clean, doesn’t cheat, is loving and caring, respects you, treats you with dignity and decency, and accepts you for all the you are, hold on to them…

[@selinisler7087]

You are an amazing person, Lumma! Thank you for your inspiring and supportive videos! Lots of kisses from Germany ♥️

[@Barbie_22]

Beautiful Lumma I love your videos please keep doing the podcast I could listen to you all day long 😍💗

[@ashlynsoswag]

oml please look into starting a podcast. I love putting on your videos to start and end my days, you give me so much confidence ily girly

[@erickaevsa2096]

Please please make a Spotify podcast! I love your videos. You are the ultimate comfort person for me especially as I’m going through a breakup. I love you!!!

[@jennafazzone]

I remember your break up video, I watched it when I was going through the same thing. It’s good to see us both doing better now. ;)

[@deanneazalea1326]

PLS CONTINUE THIS PODCAST LOVE IT 😭😭😭 make it spotify official 😢

[@dj_krome]

You’re so beautiful 😍 you help me a lot. October was the worst month for me ever. I still cry everyday that my sons mom left me

[@lummaaziz]

You've got this!

[@dj_krome]

@@lummaaziz thank you!

[@JoyceeV.]

Wow thank you for helping me see besides that comfort ❤

[@AmeliaParet]

You’re absolutely amazing!! You are a big help❤️🤍

[@shroberisky3276]

So much love for you and your channel 🫶🇵🇭

[@halaqanqoush]

Girl I love you so muchhhh. Your gorgeousss and your tips and advice help me a lot. Absolutely love your videos keep it up!

[@Karinbenyehudit]

your videos help me so much.... thank you. I need this so much rn :( you are amazing

[@stephanierosenavarro]

Please make this a podcast Lumma! We love this and YOU! 🥺🤍

[@Ls53323]

I NEED that podcast! Love you Lumma! ❤

[@lummaaziz]

LOVE YOU TOO!

[@kajorejadalla8689]

Yessss Spotify Audios that’s what I’ve been looking for please do it 😁😁

[@shirelayaso9163]

I’m so glad I found you You’re so smart and I really like your content ❤

[@anisafarooq1426]

watching your videos is like drinking a potion that gives me so much motivation and makes me feel like my best self

[@kelishacorridon1859]

One month in my breakup. Long Distance for 3 years. Went ti see him for the first time in Feb 2022 had plans for us to get married in oct 2022. Didn’t end up happening. Told me as long as he is in his country we’re are not together. It doesn’t bother him me being with someone else. My world shattered into pieces. Now in therapy and slowly getting there. It’s a real struggle right now. I still love him but I can’t be with someone who doesn’t fight for me and gives up so easily.

[@melodyclementine]

I’m so excited to listen to this ❤

[@rekt3651]

I feel heard and worthy 😢

[@HelloÁine]

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

[@samanthapatino7027]

You should blog on your trip to the US ! I love seeing your experiences!

[@qtpye424]

I love you Lumma!! Please do podcast hehe

[@flawless_title3842]

I love this!!! love seeing your videos pop up!!!