How to Differentiate and Deal With Enmeshment In Your Marriage with Liz Earnshaw | Growth Marriage

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[@shinandhanahan9978]

Thank you so much for this channel. I am so lucky to have access to such great discussion. So helpful. Good marriage needs constant work and guidance.

[@wildbynature6779]

This was great but the ads were so overkill

[@davidx4008]

Helpful video but the adverts were irritating

[@dwhite12]

This was so informative and helpful!!!! Thank you so much for sharing

[@TheGrowthMarriage]

So glad you enjoyed it!

[@danielalapidous6244]

Thanks for this conversation! I'm wondering if you're using "enmeshment" as a synonym for codependence, or if those two things are different?

[@TheGrowthMarriage]

They are VERY often used interchangeably along with "emotional fusion." Great question!

[@elenesterling8055]

@@TheGrowthMarriage could you do a video on this please. The differences between the two.

[@TheGrowthMarriage]

@@elenesterling8055 I'll add it to my list.

[@AKUBARIKI]

Great topic 👏 But advertisements every 2 minutes

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

Marriage itself fosters enmeshment, in my opinion. 99%+ of married people literally sacrifice their sleep quality in the name of marriage. They force themselves to sleep together when one of them is snoring and another one is tossing non-stop, when one is hot and another is cold. They sleep together for the sake of unnecessary togetherness (=enmeshment) thereby destroying the quality of their sleep and hence their health. They share everything together BUT the quality time: they share one bed they share one living quarters 😊 they share household chores and dirty dishes they share farts and burps they share physical togetherness when they are tired and exhausted after work (and that routine happens more often than when they are not tired but are well rested) - all in the name of marriage...... BUT there are no fun times, no sexual excitement, and no relaxed times together MORE OFTEN THAN NOT. Instead of sharing common interests or have cuddle/affection moments for over 90% of all their time together, they share household duties for over 90% of their time together. Worse, there is no planned one-on-one quality time for affection during the day (rather than the NIGHT - so no one has to sacrifice their beauty sleep for the sake of affection time).....

[@MM-uw5tt]

I think the idea of becoming one in marriage came from the Christian concept of marriage