How To Fix A Sexless Marriage With Your Roommate Wife

[@theautodidacticman_]

Intimacy is the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship.

[@catguy64]

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[@rene-rv6pp]

Most marriages really last a couple years. In real terms I mean

[@dugnice]

I wouldn't say that, because sex and intimacy have different meanings. Intimacy is simply closeness. One has an intimate relationship with a sibling or parent, but it isn't sexual. Sex is the difference between a platonic and romantic relationship.

[@theautodidacticman_]

@@dugnice you’re talking about platonic relationships and romantic relationships then intimacy is the only thing that separates the two, unless you’re capable of having sex with someone without any intimacy, and that’s prostitution. Did you watch the video? Do you understand the title of the video and it’s topic? They’re talking about a sexless marriage with a roommate wife. The only people that usually deny my statement is the roommate wives that read it.

[@matthewemond2109]

How to fix a sexless marriage? Don't get married in the first place. I stopped looking after breaking off an engagement (thankfully) two years ago, and I've never been happier. Lonely sometimes? Sure. But, I control what happens in my life, I have no money worries, and I get to relax and do things whenever. Done with all the stress.

[@justincoats7236]

@matthewemond2109 yeah, you need a full partner. A woman that makes money, it's careful spending money, and grateful for what you add to the relationship. We all want to couple or have a partner. Best wishes.

[@fredgien]

I hope you will find a woman who’s good for you!

[@MarshallMcCrory]

​@@fredgien Don't wish that on that man.Let him be single......Men need to stop buying into the bee ess line of Soulmate,BFF,partner and that happily everafter,husband and father and provider and protector,and most what this says he wouldn't have the balls to say this in a room full of women.

[@sgttim8617]

And When You're Done, with This Life, Congratulations... You've Lived For Only Yourself ! Just Like A Bear... In the Woods, or a Snake, in the Grass... Being Married Requires A Higher Perspective, Than Just Seeing Things, From Inside Your Own Head ! I Know, Its a "Mine-Field" Out There... But That's What They, the Women, Think about Men, in General, As Well !

[@Billydevito]

You are a wise man. The modern marriage is a contract between the MAN and the STATE and it’s a ROTTEN deal for the man. Well done 👍

[@hughbo52]

After 41 years of marriage the personalities first encountered begin to show themselves as stronger and more consistent as first encountered...they were just too subtle to be properly noticed. I've told my children, and their potential mates, to fully look at the personality and look for red flags because they will only manifest themselves as time goes on. It take work and communication, if you don't have that then you have a hard decision to face.

[@PuDAuStIN]

Ok , sitting here in 2023 finding this probably the most useful video to sort my head straight in a couple of years dealing with a sexless “ minimal affection life” and it’s killing me inside , this has provided me a path in my brain to move on with or without my Gf , not wife ,

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. Why do people still have sex? Sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. Why don't humans just remove sex from this world? Women can still get pregnant without sex (there's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex including artificial insemination). Sex does cause a lot of problems, so the world might be a much better place without it.

[@MV-wb2cz]

@@icysnow57cold64 You want more of a "Demolition Man" type world. This saddens me. Sex is not gross and messy. You sound very childish in your description of sex. Time to grow up and move out of your parent's basement.

[@icysnow57cold64]

@@MV-wb2cz Sex does cause a lot of problems for the world.

[@joemol1274]

​@@icysnow57cold64you are really weird!!!😢

[@joemol1274]

Since she's a girlfriend, that makes it far easier to let her go. If you've tried communicating the situation to her and there's no change, then Don't waste your time with her if you both can't work it out. Don't make the mistake of marrying her, you'll deeply regret it!!!

[@kevinforbes6391]

My 15 year anniversary is tomorrow. Got denied again last night. Sick and tired of being ignored/rejected. Got told last night, go clean up, and ill do something. Nothing happened after i did so. Also tired of being told im the problem.

[@youflatscreentube]

My man, start running, getting in shape, learning. Never beg. Organized funds, etc

[@kevinforbes6391]

@youflatscreentube Hate running, but I've been of that mind lately. Also took up learning drums. Had thoughts of going back to the military, but I'm 36 at the end of January. Don't know what the cut off age is anymore

[@johnpinard3212]

That is a problem. I went 3 years without sex starting at about year 15. At year 23 the nightmare was finally over. If you can fix it, fix it. Therapy, counseling, leveling and staying facts. And if that don’t work, you have a big decision to make.

[@hoobeydoobey1267]

A narcissist (Gen 3 woman) will always say you're the problem. She's not happy because she's not happy with running with the devil. She's not happy with herself. You need to do what may be called reverse psychology. You tell her no more shopping trips until she cleans her act up. Her car is broke, let her fix it. You live life best you can. Shop, cook, clean, as if you were living single. Invite friends over. Let her go nuts. Eventually everyone will see her for the witch she is. Do not apologize for her bad behavior, as if it were your fault. Instead, say, yeah, it's fun living with that while you continue to joyfully entertain your guests for the evening. Get off gaming, mature, host a wine night, make it a beautiful setting, etc.... Be a mature man, not an immature boy. Dress well, stay clean, shave, shower twice a day, hit the gym, wax your car, invite her to an axe throwing date night, another weekend, a nice restaurant. Expect nothing, just be a gentleman. If she gets clingy, remind her you two are not like that. Keep on being nice and well groomed. In a few months she may break down sobbing and see what a horrible person she is. If not, find a Godly marriage counselor, male or female, not a leftist/feminist/satanist one who excuses her bad behaviors, but one who firmly knows Genesis 3 narcissism and the honoring of vows. Vows first, not feelings first. Women who live by feelings tell the world they're narcissists.

[@gregharn1]

If it's not the man withholding sex, all you can do is determine if physical/mental health is a factor. If that ain't it, go ahead & file.

[@jimbrown4640]

It's not fixable. It's their nature to give only what they have to, to get what they want. After you marry, buy the house, have a couple of kids, she no longer feels like she has to do anything for you. It's over.

[@michaelrickels7386]

My wife and I seemed to be on the same page early on, at least as far as the big things were concerned. As time went on, however, it became apparent that she really only wanted to be a mother, not a wife. She started cutting me off from sex nearly from the beginning, and would never talk about anything. I went for a time without a job, and it was depressing and difficult, but she offered no support, no comfort, nothing. She lost respect for me and apparently I can never earn it from her again. We haven't touched each other in years, even by accident, and she told me this is what she wants our marriage to be. As soon as I can afford to, I'm leaving her because she has absolutely no value to me anymore. She is so well trained in blaming me for everything that I'm probably responsible for the abuse she suffered as a child, the recent pandemic and global warming. I will be so happy to be rid of her and to be free to find a real woman.

[@SnjG-ok2yd]

Global warming 😂good one ☝️

[@jonathanhains814]

Don't wait until you can afford it.

[@rigobertogervacio223]

Global warming is fake, like your marriage

[@dlocke49]

Dude. Get outta there now. Wasting time in misery.

[@AllenMuzzle]

In a similar situation. We separated, and I feel %1000 better about myself

[@hightechinspector2280]

Never ever get married. Once married women have the power. The worst-case scenario is living with them; when things go south, you can boot them. Sovereignty equals sanity and peace for the wise modern man.

[@melkerner]

How to fix it - have this talk with her: "You need to understand - masturbation is NOT a replacement for sexual connection in a relationship. It's the same as a man telling a Woman to go into the bathroom and talk to herself if she wants emotional connection - take care of it yourself if you have to give into those urges, But you can't discuss your feelings with anyone else except me - otherwise you are cheating on our relationship. How satisfying this is to you? If you can't see this and understand the viewpoint - then we have nothing further to discuss."

[@Orca-hp4zx]

Response of a 3 year old

[@troycarpenter3675]

@@SammifromMiamiyeah

[@gorligorlitzki5360]

​@@Orca-hp4zx ok, say 12 y old c'mon 😂

[@dugnice]

If a woman withholds sex from a man, then she *isn't genuinely* attracted to him sexually. All the talking in the world isn't going to fix that, but it could get the man some pity sex.

[@bugsy742]

@@Orca-hp4zxyou shaved your head yet or what? 🤷‍♂️

[@firebird5288]

As a recovering Christian, around our 14th sexless year together I told my wife, "It's simple. It's either you or someone else. I honored you and your hypocritical religious family wishes, and didn't touch you for the 5 year we dated until we got married. And after all the damage it's done after all these years, I need to feel alive again. I can't keep going with this sex only 5 or 6 times a year. How was this fair to me? Tied down at 17 years old, couldn't have sex with you and now I can't have sex with any other girl on the planet other than occasionally with you?" Guys, have as much sex as you can before you get married. My absolutely biggest regret was believing in religion and thinking that middle eastern nonsense was real. Believe me. If you wait till marriage to have sex, you'll become roommates instantly and the urge to cheat will NEVER leave you. Purity cultural is death to relationships.

[@Luke-c]

What was her reply to that? Stay strong matey

[@MegaFakedude]

The Bible actually says"defraud not one another..." which means that if your pious wife isn't fulfilling your needs, she is sinning. It's fraud to marry and then withhold sex.

[@baraka629]

Yeeeaaaaahhhh, I sincerely doubt guys in Taliban controlled Afghanistan experience problems of such sort... Just saying.

[@jeffvandepol8900]

A solid christian relationship should have lots of sex.

[@baraka629]

She probably settled, only in it for the meal ticket. I know this is heartbreaking to hear because everyone would want to be loved for who they are, but that's the cold truth. Some women will marry guys they don't wanna bang, just like some guys will bang women they don't wanna marry.

[@68BigSherm]

Telling a woman what you will accept is useless. You have to show her.

[@tejaklapper7854]

I have a roommate wife also. I work away and will come home after 2 months and barely get a kiss on the cheek and that’s it, it’s driving me crazy and I would leave her tomorrow if it wasn’t for our 7 year old daughter who I absolutely adore. I have read many times about how it’s a mistake to stay for the kids but I come from a broken home and just can’t do that to my little girl. So I carry on and try to hide my deep unhappiness at home, the way I see it is I’m wearing the pain so my daughter doesn’t have to. As soon as my daughter is old enough I will leave and find happiness again.

[@1Skeptik1]

Find a friend now.

[@GauravYadav-mh8jk]

My story is same. I have a son of 7 year old. I've planned to settle seperately once my kid is old enough. My wife doesn't know about my plan.

[@josephyeo6966]

Thank you for the best advice I have ever heard - intelligent, realistic and makes a lot of sense.

[@bentleyjarrard885]

I would have left 4 years ago when Mrs. Frigid with an attitude showed up suddenly. Its not so easy to just walk away from the home we've worked on for 12 years making it very comfortable and pleasant. As ridiculous as it may sound, its also not wanting to break up the family, we have 2 dogs that we take everywhere. I'm probably more attached to them than the wife.

[@TrailerYacht]

I resemble that remark !

[@tonyp6307]

When I met this women she described her x husband as the bad guy. Sorry two x husbands. Same story how they cheated and she decided not to have sex with them. Well I think I know the truth. She didn’t give them sex and they found it else where. I guess they were smarter than me. Two years and I gave her the world. I’m ready to move on and do the same. You would think she would learn from her past guess not.

[@Tom-mu7zy]

Read the book, The Predatory Female by Rev. Shannon. Short funny read but you wik\ll gain understanding.

[@blindsquirrel7802]

But she's not the problem. Yeah, right.

[@matthewsynnott2371]

Yeah don't let the truth get in the way of a good story, change the narrative to suit the circumstances I want to circulate. Happened to me, poisoned my children's understanding of what really happened, over it now, late life divorce, one month off 45 years married. So much wasted time.

[@shawnn5213]

She played you and changed up after you married her

[@rene-rv6pp]

The old game. Play the desire marriage. Sexless and possible divorce with all for her

[@Nobodyofimportance2u]

This is the best advice on marriage I have heard in years.

[@Leslie-es5ij]

Don't marry her, lead her to believe its a possibility, and she will put out like a wild woman, but marry her and she quickly stops. Just don't marry them.

[@hunterhunter5906]

Ever hear the one... What's the one food that kills a woman's sex drive? Wedding cake.

[@zPersius]

Why waste any more time or energy trying to fix it? Just divorce.

[@johncreevy8966]

OMG I can't believe the similarities in what my life is like. She has her life, I have mine. We're roommates.

[@aeubanks0]

You CAN'T fix it bro. Roommates become squatters. Ignore her and go about your business.

[@mishimposble]

If she decides to leave on a girls vacation, it's over.

[@204043140]

Agree 💯 - I want a *great* relationship with my wife of 34 years (based on mutual respect & trust), or ready to let go of it at this point (due to serious issues with both that have increased in recent weeks/months/years), if she's not willing to work together to improve via couples counseling or privately.

[@204043140]

@@JHH1027From my experience, they still like it, perhaps even more, just not as often perhaps, plus using the right oil always helps, of course.

[@drjogiabraham]

If the menopausal wife unwilling and the husband needs sex.. what's the option for him... should he suppress his desire for the rest of life for the family... really confused

[@JHH1027]

@ The wife isn’t always unwilling. Women who have reached menopause experience thinning of the skin of their vagina-vaginal atrophy- and sometimes have tearing and bleeding and pain due to sex. Should a woman be expected to writhe in pain during sex because her husband needs to get off? There has to be a more reasonable solution than just requiring endurance of misery from a woman.

[@drjogiabraham]

Thanks for the convincing reply... yeah if she is willing once in while with lubrication gel,it's fine

[@glennmaid3418]

If shes planning time away, plans separate vacations, is disrespectful and dismissive, and suggests you develop your own life, she's already checked out and likely already seeing someone else.

[@unwrangler11]

Thank you so much for putting into words feelings I couldn’t verbalize before.

[@derpderpington5433]

Yeah, the don't touch me thing. Spent 6 months wondering what I did wrong, went crazy being super nice, then came the roommate phase followed by employee phase. Then the I want an open marriage I'm not happy. At that point I had enough of walking on eggshells. Then it was a 6 year high conflict divorce while she had 18 live in fboys. Total chaos for my kids. 2015 I moved 1000 miles away, and my kids hated me. So yeah good times from 2009 until 2020 when my youngest aged out. I could finally stop living on credit cards, got a 28% raise and peace and quiet finally.

[@johnspivack]

sorry you went through all that.

[@LesegoMot]

Lol you killed me with the "finally" at the end of that paragraph. How did you survive the kids hating you? Did you see them often or did you give them months or years of space? Was it face to face or over the phone? Did you miss any life events? Did they ever eventually come around? One thing I pick up the most is: the peace of mind is worth the hardache, financial loss and destruction of a divorce

[@johnspivack]

I think we need to accept that relationships between men and women in Western society are transactional. All we can ask is that women be responsible parties in these transactions. The exchange is money/resources for sex/childrearing/ housework. I don't need to care if women like me or not or if they are attracted to me or not as long as they provide certain services in my life. You should respect people who provide valuable services to you, and sex is such a service, but you don't need to put it on a pedestal. How angry would you be if your dentist, attorney, or plumber dropped you as a client? You'd find another. Same should go in a man's relationships with women. If the man's provider of sex/childrearing/housework doesn't want the arrangement anymore or doesn't behave professionally, the man should calmly move on to another provider. No sentimentality about it. Our culture and our laws shouldn't make this nonsense into a life-ruining crisis.

[@thelastgreatdevolutionary1044]

That's a very different approach to married life. How's it working out for ya? No criticism intended

[@JHH1027]

What if the woman is the main breadwinner, and does all the child rearing and housekeeping? Does she owe him sex then?

[@jhenningfish9831]

Girls trips to Jamaica?? You got to be kidding. Im gonna do guys trips to Vegas. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️😆😆

[@2pacorwhat]

The thing, is being familiar with red pill philosophy I already knew all these things. The problem is that now she has my sweet two year old girl to leverage against me so she already turned the switch. I’m in complete disbelief. Young, fit and attractive man. Own a nice car and my house debt free. Have money invested into the future. Basically have it made and my woman no longer feels like having sex with me and I can’t just kick her out because I don’t want my little girl to grow up without a dad. (She’d move back to the country with her family so I’d only see her during vacations). The only reason why I wanted a stable relationship is because I believe its the best way for children to grow up. If I didn’t want children I’d never commit to a ltr in the first place.

[@SimonAmazingClarke]

To be honest that is exactly the situation that I was in. With her comments it was obvious that I was no longer important to her. I found the next part very easy. I left and started divorce proceedings.

[@bobbobza5311]

Good advice 👍 I have never felt more alone than I do now…there maybe hope..The menopause can really screw a relationship

[@ScottsMopar]

Telll me about it. After the change, it became to painful for her to have intercourse. We got by for a few years with hormones and cremes and such. So now it's been 5 years since our last intercourse, and then you add in the fact that she has absolutely no need or want for sex. I feel alone and lonely even though we're together all the time, (retired). I'm about at the end of my rope, I will not cheat, and I will not leave. After 35 years we have established nice comfortable life, and I would loose it all if we divorced.

[@Haalfstaag3108]

I feel the need to respond here. Husband of 15 years, we built a good life together, several children, house, the usual. She had to have all of her female parts removed for health reasons. That was 4 years ago, the first 6 months after we didn't have any intimacy because she said she was healing. This was also during covid and I was an essential worker so I was continuing to work, and work directly with people who had covid. Then sex was a little more regular but not at the level it was before everything. Now it has been 2 years straight without. I feel so depressed, so lonely, and also feeling like I'm at the end of my rope. I'm very unsure what to do. I tried having a conversation with her just a few days ago and it blew up in my face. Wish I knew the right path forward, but for me I am religious and she hasn't done anything that would necessitate divorce in our religion, so again I have no idea how to move forward.

[@adamdille6031]

@@Haalfstaag3108 I’m in same exact boat man I have no idea what to do about it but pray man good luck

[@bugsy742]

@@Haalfstaag3108hope you’re ok buddy 🤝

[@hoobeydoobey1267]

Great message. You went from immaturity to maturity. From lack of confidence to confidence. You escaped Adam's simping from Genesis 3.

[@Chingatchgook]

Been there for many years. Still there. Roommates

[@pksfirepit7212]

Loved your video, thank you for sharing. What do you do when divorce is a possibility but you have children? I am in a sexless marriage now pushing 4+ years, and I hate it. No affection, no nothing. I have not touched a human affectionately in over 4 years! I’m tired of being in a “roommate” type of relationship, but we have a 15 year old son. I am ready to confront her about this situation, but I fear a divorce and the repercussions to my son. I don’t want a divorce, but I certainly don’t want to continue down this path.

[@JRBunch]

My wife and I met in our thirties and she was a Christian Girl. I was not raised Christian but my mother was and allowed me to find my own way. I tell you this to give some perspective of what a true marriage feels like as I listened to God's Word. We had a wonderful bedroom life much like twenty year olds and that was the case for over twenty four years till losing her to cancer. I'll say this, God will make your life difficult in this World because accountability can be a disadvantage but with regard to my relationship to my Wife we had the best time together in everything and intimacy was just one part of our story so for me it was total bliss.

[@PaulBlalock-vd6pj]

Don't say anything. He who cares the least wins. Pursue your own agenda. Get into great shape.

[@ADAM-fy8ht]

Very beautiful said 🙏

[@gauravkashyap3410]

Thank you sir. 14 years married to a toxic person. Sacrificing health and happiness everyday with a woman who is a roommate. You have changed my perspective to learn to work on myself. Maybe life wanted to teach me this and you have been a guiding force. Thank you 🙏

[@dziprick3204]

There are only two things you can do. Leave, or just give up on sex.

[@robertdady7126]

If a women acts without a thought towards you,then divorce her,simply regain your freedom

[@russellstone9056]

Been there done that. Found out she was cheating. Left me and my son. No compassion. No care. Selfish. Religious fundie. Was bored and unhappy in the relationship while i was traveling the world building a business. She stayed at home and hung out with ber religious fundie friends. Was it all her fault? Probably not. But she walked out with an ice cold heart and only thinking of her animal lusts. Over 12 years of marriage totally broke my trust in women. Seen it over and over since. Wake up guys. The sex isnt worth it.

[@altonragan]

I would like to make a comment that I haven’t read nor heard from the video and that is some women are not natural mothers. Some men are not natural fathers. I believe the same is with some men are just not husband material and some women are just not wife material. Some people are just not cut out for certain things. They have to learn it, for some reason, it just doesn’t come natural to them. It takes an enormous amount of effort to pull it off. I believe all things are possible with God.

[@spooch3129]

I was married once for 4 days. When my visa was about to expire we decided to annul. Now I just embrace the time and senses.

[@TheBigLeeg]

She’s already checked out if she’s dismissing you.

[@mkconvery]

Whoa. This is beautifully said.....

[@ThomasJohansson-mo5gf]

It's a good point that a man shouldn't be whiny or needy, but I think something is a little bit wrong here: A man should not be looking to socialize AT ALL with his wife. Men didn't use to do that. It only started with feminism, when women started trying to reconceptualize marriage as some sort of constant comradeship based on "love" between the man and the woman. Before that, men usually went about their own business - focusing on work, their business, profession, career, socializing with men at the local men's club or playing soccer or doing men's stuff - while women went about their business in the home, taking care of the house and children and socializing with other women (tea reunions, sewing clubs etc.). What we need to start doing as men is to IGNORE the women and not seek them out for socializing. We are MEN, we don't spend our time with women and women stuff. A man should get a project of his own and not need to spend a minute with his wife, except on certain specific occasions, for instance occasional family dinners, late night/bed time, special family holidays like Christmas eve, etc.

[@vladster264]

Thank-you. I know It is hard to avoid reactions vs. replies. I hope I can deal with my difficult wife. I know I can benefit from talking to you. Great question. Why would I stay when she doesn't want what i want. After many years later, I wish I had left my wife.

[@DJ-hf3qq]

First talk it over, decide if you are still together, if yes agree a plan. In absence of agreement and willingness to work it out, move to stage 2. Stage 2 - get divorced or simply tell her that you will seek your sexual needs elsewhere and do it.

[@KumaaNfidie]

Understood.

[@bryantharris5914]

How did Brent Spiner go from playing Data to this?

[@adrianriggs3220]

Exactly what I thought, ha ha 😂

[@lertub]

It’s called divorce plain and simple. She will not stand for u to be with another woman no matter what she says. I divorced my wife because of a sexless marriage.

[@TheyStoleMyHandleAgain]

Excellent.

[@speliotis]

Amen Brother

[@pootle5096]

It's been 8 years but I have a kid who must come first and deserves a two parent childhood. As for finding "it" somewhere else, I've not come across a woman in all this time who is up for either a one night stand or FWB.

[@briangrewe5147]

I’m miserable after covid,doesn’t touch me,doesn’t hold my hand,doesn’t kiss me, doesn’t have sex with me- thanks for giving me some hope!

[@stixplayer]

Fix it...have women call the house...she'll change...fast!

[@thelastgreatdevolutionary1044]

Haha

[@j.a.a.8982]

True!

[@brianhancock4096]

Spot on!.....

[@danstout3154]

She told him what the deal was and he needs to brutally hear the truth. Get some real good male friends and build your future-with or without her but definitely without her spending your income. Great video.

[@chriswhinery]

Yes... absolutely be a man. Here's something most don't know. You can sell your half of your joint assets and leave. Why lose everything in divorce? Half of everything you have is yours. Leave her with a mortgage partner who doesn't care that she wants to "find herself" Also, consult an asset manager on how to protect your retirement. While she's out having fun, take her advice and make your new "hobby" protecting your self interest.

[@peterg7257]

I just decided to start showering and brushing my teeth again.

[@marklewis7647]

After 14 yrs of rejection. I got a 20 yr younger woman who wanted me and not for my money. She has her own. Pissed the old witch off cause no man wanted her. Life sucks for her. Lol yes i spoke my truth and gave her a chance to change before i went.

[@vidmann100]

After reading many of these comments and replies i think i can see why some guys are having issues, myself included. I too held some of the same beliefs, feelings and attitudes im reading. But i think for me anyway, that is/was part of the problem. Take sex for instance. For a long time i looked at that as a "goal" in itself. Today my belief is more like its a product, a result, a benefit. Im looking for that feeling of having someone in my life who, when something awesome happens during my day, i cant wait to tell her about it. When i see her struggling i want to be the one who helps. For me ive come to realize that its about the need, want, desire to connect and share more than just physically. And when you find someone who genuinely feels the same way all that other stuff is a result, a benefit that simply adds to the experience. I believe we as men can find ourselves losing track of where the focus should be for ourselves and thus we get ourselves into trouble. I dont think any of us intend to get to this point. We just never learned some of the rules when we were learning how to play the game. Just my opinion. I could be wrong.

[@1Skeptik1]

Ask your roommate to recommend a girlfriend. Problem solved.

[@johnpinard3212]

I tried everything. Nothing worked.

[@TheJacklwilliams]

Leave. Sleep with her sister. The remedies are endless but none of them include “talking” or staying. If you are in control out of the gate, this will never happen. If it does? Leave. Leave. Leave.

[@christinabriggs1782]

My husband is the one withholding and it hurts. He doesn't even try to change it or says he's 50 sorry. I just can't. 😭

[@stephenyoho148]

I'm sorry for you but I'm a man in the same situation sad to have to live this way she tries to brainwash me saying its my fault

[@joelwallace1759]

Dude better wake up Kristy that all I got to say. Wake up.

[@joelwallace1759]

Dude better wake up Christine that all I got to say. Wake up. I as a Pastor counsel so many guys that have that problem and I tell them. Man WAKE UP

[@Michelli01]

sorry he’s like that. I didn’t even listen to this video it just popped up in my feed, it’s usually all sad sap stuff and no help. I’m 50 too, and it still works and if needed there’s an easy med that works awesome. I live in central Florida, and in same situation, so maybe we could meet and take care of each others needs ! 😂. Just kidding. What a lot of men don’t realize is that they have to be attractive to the woman too. Active job wise, outside of work, friends or a hobby, physically active and look good - a woman needs to be attracted to the man as well. Us men have to take care of ourselves. Show t your woman some fun, excitement, happiness and life. They have to stop whining that there’s no sex. Waah waah. The answers in the mirror. We all have to Work on it.

[@jaisonmirandy3746]

I've already done what you said. I'm about to see what tinder and Ashley Madison is all about. I'm not going to make this a secret, if she doesn't like it then she can do something about it.

[@GregoryBoyce-w3i]

Divorce pill helped 😊😊

[@alannorthcarolina1776]

Finding your needs is important. Making them known is important. Women want to be led, not told. Lead by example, learn new things that are uncomfortable. Find a men’s group that is about you and men…not your relationship.

[@Deltacaptain1980]

Try this: Get in the best physical shape you can be in. Get a decent haircut and grooming style. Wear decent clothes and don't dress like a low-value loser. Do your best to build wealth, even if it means looking at different job and education opportunities to increase your income. Pay attention to the ladies that might be flirting with you. As Rich Cooper says, "become the man that other men want to be, and all the women want to have sex with". Give yourself options, and be willing to move on if she does not come around.

[@Respect-f8x]

She will only change hen she wants to.

[@sgttim8617]

Thank You, Sir... Its Good To Know That Someone Else Has Gone Thru this! I Don't Want to be a "Frank Burns, Like on" M*A*S*H -TV Show... But Im Not The Frank Pierce Type, Either ! I'm More Like . . . "Half - " B. J." Honeycutt, and Half Col.Potter, Than Anyone !

[@incognito-yj4gu]

If a woman has gone this far I would think there is no point in continuing with her.

[@RT-mn2pb]

Generally good - but - it misses an important audience. Many women that go through serious medical conditions and treatment lose not just the interest but the ability to have sex. Regardless of age, the medical process just kills it. They still love you, but sex just won't work, physically. So, then what do you do .....divorce them, dump them? Really, is that the kind of man you are? I have this problem with my wife. Cancer treatment killed her ability and interest with sex. Even physical affection is seen as annoying. Yes, I still want sex and affection. Our relationship has been reduced to roommates. Puts me in a real bind. But I just can't see myself divorcing her. -- Life is not as simple as you might think.

[@Goodguys2Greatmen]

I love that you have integrity and personal standards. Your situation doesn't have to be black and while. There are many, many options between roommates and divorce. They are CHOICES that two people can make if they want to make them. I would not give up on inviting her into a kind, affectionate, romantic life with you...even if it doesn't include intercourse. Her disinterest in you may be based in a total disconnection and disinterest in herself. See if you can help her believe in herself more than she does.

[@MarshallMcCrory]

​@@Goodguys2Greatmen I DARE YOU TO GO INTO A CHURCH FULL OF WOMEN AND SAY THIS..... I DARE YOU...... Pine Grove Baptist Church Trenton FL I'm 65.....and I am long since caring or worrying what ANY WOMAN,NEEDS or WANTS,DESIRES or LIKES.I have a roommate,I'm 65 if she wants me to stay then I'll stay.If she wants me to leave I'll cross that bridge then.I have nothing else to do,nowhere to go.She can keep her side of the bed and deal with her "issues" and menopause and whatever. All that bs about a soulmate and BFF is bunko.The end result is a roomate that you can tolerate and go to a movie with,when you sleep in seperate beds/bedrooms cause one or both of you snore and/or flop around like a fish out of water.My wife is one of those so called "natural" women.... She doesn't shave.... ANYWHERE.....and she is perfectly happy and content with that. She also has a skin and scalp condition and cannot bathe daily.

[@Crusader762]

Totally. I was worried it was all about me and my failures, but the other day I saw a self-help book on her nightstand. Not everything is always about me I’m starting to realize and I take my vows seriously.

[@ScottsMopar]

I'm in the same boat, wasn't cancer, just menopause. But it's just too painful for her, so none for me for 5 years now.

[@mnomad9173]

The person causing the others pain should let the other person go or allow them the choice to get there needs met somewhere else. Man or woman. Not play games under a law made in a law weighted system leaning to penalize the man.

[@lyndasenn9509]

It isn't only men who experience what you described in the video.

[@Hustada]

This is true but 9/10 times I suspect it is the man.

[@spacepan]

I wish a man would say the reverse to you every time the women's movement spreads myths of women as the primary victims of SA and DV The lack of self-awareness and total ignorance necessary to have a "what about the women" moment while also being a woman would be stunning if it weren't so ordinary I wonder if she's learned anything in the last two years?

[@youflatscreentube]

That is true…1% of the time, yes. All of these men would love to have you as a wife then…unless you’ve totally let yourself go??

[@rocoporco6216]

The relationship is beyond repair. She's most likely cheated. How do you come back from that? That conversation should have been had when you felt her slipping away.

[@omololaokeadeola6161]

What does a woman in this case do, after trying to communicate this on so many instances and the man blanks or just says you should not have expectations

[@user-kb1ur9ky8b]

Leave her. She’s not the one for you.

[@Hydrogengladiator]

Dont get married after 7 years you lived together, haha

[@williammartin2842]

When the boom boom slowed down I told her, "If we get divorced we will both have much more sexual intercourse". She must have thought that one over because the improvement was remarkable. Imagine when women divorce they will use those women's wiles attempting to land some other poor fool. I divorced pal said that at our age many single women are throwing that thing around like it is a Frizz bee.

[@stimmymcgotems408]

I read ‘roommate’s wife’ 😂

[@EIStudent]

This guy is on to something...

[@mikegoward9107]

This guy is really really good I wished I knew how to send him a message because I need more of his help and advice right now cuz I have a lot of things going on that he's just talking about now with a wife running off with the friends that are not good at all girlfriends that don't have any care about what they do or who they do with or anything

[@mikegoward9107]

I really wish I knew how to answer this guy at his email if anybody does send me a message back on how to email him because I have a wife that's doing almost everything he's talking about she's going on this meeting greet screws with the two other women after we'd already had a really nice vacation and I didn't even know about it there was all a secret thing I heard her talking secretly and now she wants me to go to my daughter's house before she leaves in and spend time with my daughter's house in Maryland for 2 weeks after she gets back wtf

[@Logixcontrol]

Sounds like your wife needs some new friends they are getting into trouble

[@dougg4633]

We're not Mates or Lovers We're really great Partners now. Im getting use to that

[@DP_e-que]

I like that your roommate wife😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@felicitybloomfield4620]

Put God first in marriage. And the rest follow. There are so many useful things to learn in the Bible about how to manage marriage.

[@willardharmon4244]

My wife says she is in menapause.

[@TitusSamuel-qd2uy]

Tough situation. Marriage of sensitive and insensitive. It can go both ways, cold husband or cold wife. Home is the best place to be, a cold marriage can make it the worst. Seek divorce, if it can not be remedied. If you can be far happier there is no point in staying. If it can be remedied you might by the lucky few.

[@molefimalao2927]

hi guys, with a sexless marriage we have the responsibility to be faithful (no infidelity), but even though you make this apparent to your wife...it appears she take advantage by withholding intimacy as leverage. Is there a way through this, or manage it?

[@Goodguys2Greatmen]

You got a tough situation on your hands, brother. Without digging much deeper into your relationship dynamic, knowing your ages, and hearing about your history of intimacy and connection, the best thing you can do is NOT become an angry asshole. Most guys do. Do the opposite. Become a remarkably happy, healthy, active and confident man...in your work, in your hobbies, with your friends and even with other ladies (friends only). Learn to live, love, laugh without making your wife of your intimate life with her the center of your world. Share your energy, passion and curiosity with anyone else who really wants to share it with you. Make yourself available to her...responsive to her....and engaged with her without the stench of anger, disappointment and/or resentment. Give her the experience of living with what I call "a happily divorced man" who chooses to stay faithfully married...while passionately loving your own life.

[@Crusader762]

@@Goodguys2Greatmen Now that’s good advice I think. I’m gonna try that instead of throwing it all away over not having sex for 8 months.

[@user-bd5md5cm2j]

Thats bullshit. Move on out. ​@@Goodguys2Greatmen

[@jasontaylor3819]

Drained

[@smuram]

In the beginning of a relationship all women are the most needy person. They don't want you to have your own life besides to be with her. Until you lose your own life and become a tame guy. Then they start this "i am not here for your happiness" attitude. Well, if a partner are not there to make you happy then indeed you don't "need" her.

[@Torreann]

What’s missing is the why has she stepped back in separated herself. I noticed there’s no addressing why just that you don’t like it and you don’t seem to care why that speaks tremendous volume and why she might see you with someone she wants distance from.😊

[@Goodguys2Greatmen]

Torreann, I cover that extensively in other videos. We care deeply about the personal underlying causes and fear behind someone's need to get distance.

[@artlees]

A man has a responsibility to understand his own needs. A woman has the same responsibility. We both have the ability to express those needs. It's not one person's job to figure out both. When they talk, each person should just state their needs and expectations without accusations and listen with understanding.

[@RichardFeldman-q9n]

Maybe it's time to leave

[@edwardlivengood4468]

All she says is that all you think about

[@jerensteffen]

I like that, "those are the consequences that are supposed to happen".

[@dougg4633]

How , Just learn how to give sex up . Take sex completely out of the equation. You can still be a good man/husband But she now has no control over you . Its freeing

[@winterpull]

Get divorced

[@Akartavor]

If my wife doesn’t want to have sex I just won’t give her a nickel. If she keeps it up I would divorce her and find another. I love her but that’s life. I give her what I can and she is supposed to give me what she can. Women are a dime a dozen.