How to Shut Down the "Emasculation Game"

[@augustuscaesar5997]

The first thing men need to learn Is don't get emotional, as soon as you become emotional you are in her territory, and you will lose....

[@steveg6978]

LOL....my wife when down that road. I tried for about a year calling her out, but she would always try to turn it around on me. We had kids older so it wasn't a clean shot to leave. Finally I made up my mind after a social gathering where she acted out ( again ). I got a lawyer, and he was great. He made sure I knew what was coming first and foremost . Then we set out a plan financially . The day I gave her the papers she flew into a rage and tossed them in my face. It wasn't pleasant , but I was ready emotionally and ( Financially ). The part I never would have guessed is all the support I got from friends and family. My biggest worry were the two kids in college. Both stepped up and were like we understand and they said they still loved me. Anyways, 5 years later, I'm in a relationship with a great gal, long gone are the days of constant criticism . I feel at peace and happy.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

Could you have noticed that earlier, I mean before you married?

[@grildcheez1504]

Did she get money in the divorce? Did she get the ability to free herself to go on dates and f around with other men? If so don't you think she was rewarded with money and freedom? What kind of consequence is that?

[@JimKittell6486]

DUH!!!. Don't reward bad behavior. IE: don't give her things/services she did not earn. If she treats you badly, do less. Actions must have consequences.

[@MediaHappeningNow]

Yes, actions MUST have consequences. 100%

[@bertbotha6370]

I have watched more than 90 videos from Karyn, she revived me and hit open my eyes with a bang. I did start the demasculating process and it is hard but it is worth it. To all men out there, draw your boundaries and enforce them with grace. She will start to respect you again. I have been through 42 years of being gradually demascalted, and I am taking back my place in the marriage which rightfully belongs to me. My wife is adjusting. Just snap out of it and get to know who you are and know your role.

[@stevenjames5419]

She has other videos that go deeper into the issue, but her bottom line point is there’s not a whole lot you can do. The woman has to fix herself.

[@TechnoMageB5]

She does need to fix herself, true. But you don't have to tolerate it. Have the heart to heart talk. Let her know you'll leave if she doesn't want you anymore, freeing her to find a man she does want. And if she shows you she doesn't care, whether through indifference or disrespect, follow through.

[@gregorylatta8159]

Pointing out faults is a skill many women have mastered!

[@Jaco3688]

The cup is always 10% empty at my house SMH

[@carlsmagula]

But not her own!!!😂

[@mattdunlap1345]

Being too scared to walk away. Not being man enough to stand on your own. Is ultimately what it boils down to.

[@wayneswanson3294]

That's fine before marriage, but the courts make it impossible to hold her accountable. She can be as mentally and physically cruel as she likes, and she still wins in court. Women will change when we change the incentives, and the states incentivize women to leave, and punish men regardless.

[@colinw7479]

Try just shutting down. Tell her once. Walking away is great.

[@Reepermax]

Ty Steve.. I can say this directly hits home. Much love brother. Jim

[@markrobertson1224]

what I learned after 18 years of marriage is that the biggest power you have is to be able to walk away. If you let her get away with disrespect early in the relationship and still get married, you have shown her that it is ok. If she won't listen you have to walk away. If you can't walk away you have no power and she will make your life miserable. I finally walked away and regained my power. Now I have peace and it is wonderful. The first time she disrespected you and you didn't cut her off, that's when your shitshow began guys. If you say I can't leave because of the kids you are teaching the kids the same shit. Show your kids their Dad has balls and ain't no woman going to pussywhip his ass. Being single at any age is better than being pussywhipped.

[@peterGnash]

dude i saw some younger women calling this “marital raep” when you ask to get your needs met. this is serious

[@cptcosmo]

It's called know your worth and stand your ground. My employer was treating me like an intern with over 20 year experience, I blew up on the guy and told hum to never treat me like an intern again or I will quit on the spot. I have not worked in my profession for over 20 years to be patronized by someone. I know my worth, and I refuse to let people walk over me. Because of that, I'm the asshole. So be it. I can wear that label with pride.

[@petermartin9494]

You become the kind of man who is not abused by being sufficient unto yourself. You go your own way and you do you own thing. You do not tolerate rude and disrespectful behavior. Remember to keep your side of the bargain. Be kind and respectful to her. Make your fair contribution to the household. If the above is not working there is no future for your relationship.

[@smokey3829]

If you’re going to standup for yourself, be ready to walk away. I’ve heard all my life … don’t ask the question, if you can’t stand the answer. Be ready for the answer. Best of luck!

[@MemphisBBQ640]

I've watched a number of Karyn Seitz's videos, and she does go into detail about what men can do to shut down emasculation. What she does NOT do is promise that shutting down emasculation will automatically lead to copious amounts of sex--which it won't. Without going into details, what she suggests is that by recovering and reclaiming his inner strength, a man will naturally begin to resist a woman's emasculation.

[@heikohackbarth1740]

ok, but which man wants to have sex with his wife after x years of emasculation and sexless Marriage ?

[@carlsmagula]

Walk away early if “she” is difficult, it will inevitably get much worse. Speaking from experience.

[@stevenjames5419]

She’s a remarkable woman. I’ve been a subscriber now and she is spot on.

[@Smuggler169]

Yes I’m subscribed as well. And I’m a single guy. I share with my married friends.

[@darrencurtis8409]

There are times when you can't change the situation. Many Men try for years and there simply three options. Stay put and accept a sexless life. Cheat behind hee back and keep your relationship with her or leave and find somebody new.

[@gab31282]

Yep, indeed. Those are the three painful options. I would say maybe there is a 4th option, which would be recoup yourself, stand up, be a healed, and become a strong man again who sets up tough boundaries and fair demands. Then let things go where they go. If she wants to divorce so be it.

[@spacespike6659]

As a single guy, I never fully grasped this! Basic human respect, politeness, and courtesy are values we’ve been taught or learned through education. It’s astonishing that we’ve reached a point where countless videos and men’s testimonials are needed to address issues in marriage. Disrespect should be shut down immediately-I thought that was a given and universally understood. I do understand, however, that men often face blackmail with threats of divorce and losing their kids.

[@51Dss]

The best most succinct way to say it: "I'd rather adjust to your absence than to adjust to the level of disrespect you give me." -caveat - don't say this to your wife unless and until you are prepared to follow through with it. Get a good lawyer and prepare yourself to financially and emotionally act on it.

[@Phil..._]

Don't get married. Don't get weak. Don't expect emotional support. Keep it fun. Laugh at them when they try manipulative shit.

[@jokhard8137]

Short answer that works: stop giving her such power over you. Say no and resist her unreasonabiility. If she leaves, then she was just a conwoman looking for her next meal. Not someone you could "win" with so much as "break even".

[@Cougs2894]

Emasculation also takes the form of criticism of all your efforts are not good enough. I finished out the inside of a building that was to be used for dogs and animal storage and I screwed up one cut around an outlet and decided not to spend more money to replace the wall panel and all my ex noticed when she came to look at my progress was that one bad cut. I asked her if the dogs and animals were going to give a shit?

[@jroll5858]

I think it starts as soon as you meet them. So day one. You check them every time for any kind of disrespect. Like you would in prison

[@ToneLux68]

Great video. Hits home. Wow.... I see it so clearly now. Thanks Steve. How do you spell her last name? Is she on KZbin? Just curious

[@Goodguys2Greatmen]

Karyn Seitz glad you enjoyed the video!

[@scooterwoodley195]

Her channel is called The Happy Wife…

[@badass.bob1]

Karen is spot on everything she says. Been watching for a while now. Unfortunately it's mostly a male audience, women won't watch her channel because it calls them out on their bullshit

[@carljohnson6264]

“Be a real man” Ladies. You can do a lot of things, But if you disrespect your husband , Especially while giving attention to another man, and saying something like that. It’s over.

[@palaceofwisdom9448]

If you need to negotiate with or manipulate your wife to treat you with respect, what does that tell you about who she is at her core? If she has no inclination to care about you and treat you well, then what's the point of being with her at all?

[@gimenovax1]

Never open up about anything you don`t want thrown back it your face in the future. They remember everything and will use it.

[@xyzct]

I really needed this video today. Perfect timing.

[@ADJ1229]

Damn right. She wouldn't shame the guy she's crazy about- about ANYTHING. Disappear .Get physically fit and self obsessed. Chase your own interests. Stop pleading your case with her. Let her chase you.

[@brettd5884]

I wish I'd heard this 20 years ago. The divorce (when it came) was a relief.

[@stevecarter8810]

If you aren't prepared to lose the relationship you don't want them you will never have the relationship you do want

[@henrygoboy8621]

government marriage no fault divorce and feminized legal system force men to either leave or beg. men must be able to stay and lead with authority. get the government out of the way and husbands will lead their wiife.

[@gregvangaasbeek813]

*Wildlife

[@rvilla4257]

Marriage is a HUGE business

[@youngrockofficial]

Yes we should OWN our sexuality. We’re not perverts. We’re men. Thanks for this video.

[@joshualewis4991]

They tricked yall into not stepping out

[@johnlove2954]

Based

[@davidcadogan9478]

Gently give her a knowing smile and do what you're doing anyway 🙌🏾

[@Countercommie]

Simple wisdom, right there. Women are disarmed, and often charmed, by that sort of assertiveness.

[@dja-juicepowersourceproduc2887]

Great information, brother. God bless 🙌 🙏

[@outsideview9052]

Why would a man be afraid of divorcing a woman who so openly disrepects and emasculates her husband as this man described? Make a plan to leave the marriage under the best conditions possible.

[@ThePimpedOutPlatypus]

Divorce and Family 'Courts' Losing your children, your house and your pay is a big deal that cannot be discounted. If the legal system didn't routinely punish men for failed relationships many women would get left immediately. That's what men mean when they say, "It's cheaper to keep her."

[@outsideview9052]

@@ThePimpedOutPlatypus I understand the threat and cost. Still, I just cant imagine living like that.

[@kitcassim4156]

She is brilliant and just hit 100,000 subscribers

[@robbyburty]

Yeah, I like Karen too. Unfortunate name for her, because she does not seem like one. 😂

[@YeshuaIsTheTruth]

Subscribers are no measure of brilliance. How many people subscribe to the Kardashians?

[@bertvanderweijst]

most men are in a marriage because the fear of a devource. scary it true.

[@s0nnyburnett]

There is no fixing it. If she's doing this it's already too late, you aren't her first choice and the relationship is over. You can buy time that is all. You can't change her image of you in her mind without gaining extraordinary success and even then it won't complete change her view.

[@Luther-hm7vk]

I love this woman I just recently found her and have been watching in amazement how there is finally some kind of movement that will support I guess us weirdo guys that are really trying to be good but I noticed the more you try and to get degraded constantly held back in life and sacrifice so much for so long that you have to abandon and trust me I'm not a quitter But I had to Quit Period I suffer a little psycho Syndrome from The emotional Verbal And mental abuse But It's receding Fast The more Now I'm not crazy And I was Always the problem And they burden. I subscribe To your channel Now I will subscribe to hers Because Explained it just like I could So I'm not alone Period Thank you

[@jj-sc1kq]

Interesting. I didn't expect this to be for men that are already married. Doesn't seem to be related to me. But maybe someday I'll stumble across this again when(if) I need it.

[@aduduabasimichael3942]

This was very helpful. It's an issue that needs serious solution.

[@daryl9799]

This is just hilarious already if your wife is abusing you move on! It aint gonna change when you start messing up again it will just be the same story. Ive been married once and engaged once all it did was truly destroy my life no matter how good of a guy I was. Im 48 now the amount of effort it takes these days isnt worth it just date casually and enjoy your life. Ive seen so many friends and family stuck in hell yes there are unicorns out there but its not easy to find.

[@steverussell9340]

Karen is a very perceptive woman and understands the female psyche…..which is good because I can’t!

[@xyzct]

I've listened to many of her videos. She's well worth your time.

[@mycynthia1]

wonder what were the weaknesses were in Adam that allowed himself to be emasculated by Eve?

[@wayneswanson3294]

Lack of other options, and misplaced trust.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

Karen is awesome, I've watched a lot of her content

[@PJ-om2wq]

I wish I had seen this video four or five years ago.

[@shaunclohessy5105]

I read in the comments a guy is taking back his place in the marriage .. and not to say that was wrong .., i did think he was going to say , his place in his own shoes ... and that got me thinking about just that .. because boundaries are an area where gains can be had and you can articulate worth ..your worth .. your value .. or for me , my value , my sense that i am the prize .. i know my worth .. And being men, that worth should continue to increase , as a function of our development and experience .. in any case its important to consider how boundaries work and what lines to draw .. sadia khan is another channel worth a look in .. The point im making is voting with your feet .. you have somehow to work out ways in which you do your talking with your feet , your removal of yourself because of a transgression , the crossing a line .. be the boss

[@PassportDialectic]

…or just don't get married. Refuse to play that game.

[@64maxpower]

Thank you

[@elftower907]

How to forgive women when we know they’re capable of this?

[@littlekingtrashmouth9219]

Only God forgives

[@TechnoMageB5]

"So afraid of divorce" That right there is the problem. And it doesn't help that divorce courts punish the man regardless of who files for divorce. The answer, unfortunately, is _you have to be willing to walk away from her, regardless._ In 2012, I asked my wife simply: do you not want me anymore? Because if not, we need to make arrangements. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know. And you have to follow through on divorce if she doesn't work with you. I did that [ask the question] after noticing the intimacy had drastically reduced. I wasn't being disrespected yet, or if I was, it was at the subtle stages. As I've reminded her, if I have to be celibate married or divorced, I'd rather be divorced because then I can choose to be celibate or find another partner. I didn't marry someone just to be a roommate with extra legal steps. If you have kids, they'll be fine. Just remind them and show them your love for them isn't conditional on your spouse. Married 27 years and still active.

[@mikem8861]

Sounds like a two step process - if she married you for the right reasons: that she loved who you were going in. Step 1 - turn your life around and level up to be the best you can be. Step 2 - as a result of this improvement she still disrespects another’s no intimacy, it’s not going to be better and you leave. If you are Tom Brady, I think you can skip step 1

[@hanselito2416]

Dont let them tear you down. Its contagious, you'll embolden your wife to have other peoples wives act the same way. Then nobody will want to be married.

[@JohnnyBgood548]

Its better to leave these alone!😊

[@WalterAnderson-m6p]

No sound??????

[@therealliveguy]

Solution is to take care of your hygiene and work out. She will notice and other women will notice which will get her back in line.

[@edm-london1660]

Above all, you need God. God gives man the humility, the love, the wisdom, the courage, the personality, the humour, the charm, the warmth, the character, the mystery, the wildness and the masculinity (above all, frame and energy) etc. Got to pray to God. For you. Her. And the marriage. Then God more likely to perform the miracle-like for you.

[@64maxpower]

What is her name? I cant find her work

[@sirvimmy]

The happy wife school on KZbin. Her name is Karen. She's awesome. So insightful.

[@64maxpower]

@sirvimmy thank you my friend

[@damianjones6546]

Lots of good advice here. Another issue is that sometimes i think women just dont enjoy sex. I bought my wife a couple of sex toys and it seemed to reignite her sex drive!

[@Cougs2894]

She does tell “good men” how to stop it. It’s in other videos that she does.

[@CDrSgt]

Marriage requires the following. Free to marry. Freely exchanging consent. Marry for life. Faithful to each other. Open to children. Understanding this requires women and men to agree to intimacy which includes intercourse.

[@scottsnyder7909]

Good should say I met a new women who really appreciates me , let me know she thinks it time for a break.

[@carlsmagula]

Being a “nice” guy will lead to your destruction.

[@whittakerwinstanleyiii4051]

Better to be single than put with it. I put up with it for years. Just walk away you’ll save years of your life.

[@LyleGriffith-be2xm]

First thing we need to do is repeal wife be good laws, opps, I meant domestic violence laws. Act stupid and I'll go to jail.

[@Stoicbeast33]

Take away everyone's rights. Especially government.

[@CDrSgt]

GOD MADE SEX. God does NOT MAKE IT DIRTY.

[@toteu3426]

I wish I heard this when I was 10 years old. :) And stop the root cause: marriage !

[@ColMayne]

We need to listen to Patrice O'Neal. He figured this whole thing out. We have to show them that the fisherman can still catch fish

[@rhess10]

If your wife talks to you like this then you picked the wrong chick. If you let this go on for any length of time then you don't have control over your half of the marriage. And if she speaks to you like that in front of people and you don't tell her to knock it off IN FRONT OF THOSE PEOPLE then you don't have control over yourself. That's insanity and the longer you let it go on the longer you will be in pain. If you treat a woman right and she doesn't treat you right, you'd better get a handle on that situation one way or another.

[@WildWolfStyle]

Made them sign a prenup before marriage. Nobody is taking my stuff. If she starts playing stupid she will be out the door

[@timb7328]

I realized this a long time ago personally. Once a woman gets it in their mind that sex is all you want...even when you do something for them they just see it as you wanting sex. I was lucky she came around...she wanted sex one night and I was at the point I didnt think he really cared about me so I sort of had her mindset... I told her no because she only wants sex and doesnt love me....she got mad ran off then came back and told me that is what she thought was why I did anything for her now she realizes that isnt the case. From then on she started initiating, still some dry spells but not too bad. And the whole blame the man for her unhappiness is a bunch of crap. I said this to many women....You cant tell a person with depression to just be happy, you cant cheer them up out of it just like a guy cant make a woman happy.....a person with depression is like an unhappy woman, until they seek self help they will never come out of it

[@freeman3320]

Too bad you didn't have the sense to give her full name in such a way that we can pull up her work.

[@gtb5216]

He did

[@Goodguys2Greatmen]

Karen Seitz

[@rayhanes1347]

I'm not married, nor will I ever be, but I've dealt with this kind of. I've had gf withhold sex long after a dispute, and I simply went ghost and slept with someone else. Its a bad thing to do, but women like bad boys. They always got back on their jobs and did it with an urgency also. The disrespect should have been nipped in the bud long before the sex was taken off the table.

[@thecure3982]

Sex is not a human right.

[@vladovu]

Don't. Get. Married. There, problem solved.

[@bobandrews-vo9wy]

When she starts to point out your flaws tell her if she wants to see the biggest mistake you ever made to look in the mirror and to get ready to sign the divorce papers. King Solomon said it is better to live on the Roof than to live in the house with a ungrateful woman.

[@robdegrilla2618]

To fix your wife’s games you need to play better games! Orrr I can choose peace and sanity and walk away. Can’t imagine why I’d want to learn to be more manipulative than a toxic emasculating woman.

[@ibewcountry]

I don’t think that’s the plan… I don’t think they’re saying that guys should play games. I think it’s pure honest male power in a marriage that will fix it. And I’m not talking about physical power. I’m talking about a guy’s ability to organize and build and make money and defend his family! Etc. Nothing hidden or subversive, no game playing. What makes this difficult this day and age is interference from society telling women that they can do anything… make anything and defend anything, just like a man.