How to get over a best friend breakup

[@umeruqaili7587]

It's the feeling of being alone while sitting in the gathering. The random thought of theirs that pops into your mind and then you go into a universe of you own. You start questioning yourself about what you did, how you treated them if you were the problem. These are the things that hurt. In the end "They found a new friend and I found a new classmate". Yes we are indeed in the same class.

[@o.kavurko8599]

It’s just so hard to find new friends. I’m sick of it. I hate it.

[@BlogWorldExpo34t3]

Trust me when I say this, take this time to love yourself more. Friends are fun and all but when this happens again, you will have you. You need to take care of yourself and overtime, you will find friends. So go out and have fun because sitting at home and being sad over it won't help you. Speaking from experience as someone who got thrown out many times over a period of 2-3 years, I always treat myself after a breakup. It helps me cope with the lost with something new, a new experience, and that brings me joy in some way. I never had any friends growing up or had a best friend in my entire life. But I was my own best friend and I helped myself grow every time I fell apart.

[@TotallyNotAWildSam]

same. its annoying when you find the perfect person, but they think you hate them but you had tons of feelings for them (it happened to me)

[@sachinvinith813]

trust time sis, I'm in exact same position right now, idk what to do and it feels so sick but I hope I'll be okay soon because I believe good friends for us can't come just when we want to, it happens when it happens and when it does you gonna be thinking your past life and you be feeling you passed through it. - fellow friendship breakup person who spent nearly 6 years together so closely

[@dhyanaPATEL-e9j]

Me to I hate it as well

[@saameermarur5059]

I know your feeling I’m a 11 class student and I got kicked out of my friend group and I formed it and they kept on ghosting me and are still ghosting me. It feels so bad that I can’t even focus on my classes at this point and I’m worried abt my future and have the urge to heal quickly and get back into action. just to add to that that I see them everyday and they are talking and laughing and I feel sad that they aren’t my friends anymore ans this adds to the hurtful feeling If any advice pls help me escape from this feeling of overwhelm

[@xeerawr]

"They were in my life for the time that they needed to be" This is kind of comforting.

[@kittyandthekatz8046]

I recently broke up with a friend of over 40 years and I actually feel relieved. I finally realized how poorly she had treated me when she took one srep too far. I am enjoying being alone and at peace.

[@trangvan5472]

Same. My friend group is 15 years. 15 years I was in a very toxic relationship and I didn’t even know it and we broke up in the worst way ever. But it’s all worth it. At least eventually I know their true face, and I now I can be free.

[@alexalexis7899]

If any of us are absolutely honest, more than 90% of the time it’s only egos standing in the way of getting the friendship back up and running. Rarely does it come down to someone actually doing something that forever alters the very fabric of the friendship’s reality to the point of disintegration.

[@kevins6076]

I agree, if she messaged me tomorrow I would respond. No hard feelings, life is short, forgive and forget. That's how I feel anyways. However I know she won't message me and that's ok too

[@HonestBoy7]

Yes. I tried to make it back and running but my friend wasnt even answering

[@sachinvinith813]

​@@kevins6076same buddy I might be that and wish it happens to me too but we all know how life is like and people

[@DARKMADNESS666]

This is so true.

[@DARKMADNESS666]

Maybe try to message her instead? Or maybe you've already tried I don't know.

[@RoseQuartz-fe4xv]

4 months ago my best friend ghosted me. Now, just a couple hours ago, I lost a close friend. She was toxic, but it does still hurt. But I am okay. And I will be okay.

[@sachinvinith813]

you will be okay buddy idk you but in time really things will seem to heal and I completely believe in you and everyone healing process, stay strong🩷

[@wonderland6884]

It has been 8 months now when they didn't want to be friends with me anymore because of what I said to them. I didn't mean it at all, I really loved them a lot, at that time I was so overwhelmed and I snapped. I felt like a monster. I tried to communicate and apologize, but there was no response, and I have to respect their decision to cut me off completely. But man, I do miss them a lot. I miss playing video games with them, chatting until night, meeting up to hang out, and looking forward to going to school because of them, all of it. It was like I had a new sibling. Heck, they are closer to me than my own family. Now that they're gone, I felt so empty, but I am slowly recovering. I know I have to move on now, but my gratitude for them will never go away.

[@caramelsalt6590]

I can feel you!!🫂🫂

[@theeefyi]

🫂🫂

[@dhanushdhanu8406]

I feel the same completely same

[@noor-vn8kk]

this is the exact situation i am in. she was like family and we had seen each other highs and lows. she broke up with my yesterday because i hadn’t reached out in a time which she really needed someone. i was busy with my own hectic life and was letting myself go and didn’t realise what she was going through as well. i tried to talk it out and fix the friendship right till the last second. but she didn’t want me as her best friend anymore. it hurts so so much.

[@debrapresley7967]

I feel horrible guilt of losing a friend that ghosted me out of nowhere and I have no idea why I feel the guilt and she has so easily moved on.

[@legendarybro2455]

But what if she didn't move on easily, but was just better at hiding it?

[@annapavlivv]

Felt the same, it took me two good years to stop thinking about it. It feels a relief when you realise that if it's so easy to them to treat you so poorly it's better for you that they just self-cancelled themself from your life. New space for new people, for the best.

[@Voyantberry345]

Friendship breakups hurt so much and I talked to a counselor about it and helped me move on as much as I can, I can't do much about it. I'm slowly making new friends. My best friend breakup was a 10 year friendship but they didn't want to be friends with me anymore, I tried to fight for it for 4 years

[@joeykidney]

Speaking to a counsellor is a very good idea

[@Voyantberry345]

​​@@joeykidneydefinitely and what I had to do is just remove the people that hurt me and refresh and grow without those people in my life so I can keep making memories with the friends I have, I had so much stress leave me and I now have my close friends and I can grow as a person without the unneeded stress, I have a friend who I have known for 21 years and more who I'm going to have by my side at my wedding so I know my people now and who I can enjoy life with, I lost 5 close friendships near each other so to be okay with it all now is a big growth

[@TipsandtricksbyO]

it’s been 2 years since the breakup happened between me and my bestfriend, she was everything she was more of a sister than a friend we were inseparable. and to this day i still can’t stop thinking about her, can’t stop thinking about all the milestones i’ve missed with her, can’t stop thinking how may situation would be different if she was by my side, and it hurts like hell when i see her around and we just wave from a distance. till this day i can’t trust enough and i can’t let anyone near me like she was, and it losing people doesn’t matter as it used to. i loved your video but it didn’t really help 😅

[@blauespony1013]

You have to get active to get out of the pain and the slump. It is the only thing that will eventually help you (and time). It doesn't mean that it won't hurt anymore. But you will learn to live with the pain and make it part of the person you want to become. Maybe you should concentrate on the chances you have now and on the things you learned. Maybe try being thankful for the time you had her in your life.

[@caseymorgan]

@@blauespony1013 Disagree. I have a plethora of new friends. Close ones. But this pain does not go away.

[@blauespony1013]

@@caseymorgan As I said: You learn to live with it. It doesn't mean that it goes away, but it becomes part of who you are.

[@SinnerSince1962]

I know the feeling. It's like you never want to hand another person the knife to stab you with ever again. What's even more amazing is how someone you cared so much about can just disappear as if you never existed, like the times you had together never happened. It makes you feel that nothing is real in this world, that you've been tricked into some sort of satanic trap, that was waiting years to be sprung. I have come to one ultimate conclusion.... I'll never trust anyone fully again, because once you'll lulled into that peace, you never know when it's going to happen.

[@TipsandtricksbyO]

@@SinnerSince1962exactly.

[@TheAnimeMiMi]

An important info u didn’t add: not everyone is meant to stay in your life for a long time. Yes best friends, but maybe you are meant for more and that friends energy is holding you back without you knowing. I only had one friend from middle school. According to me we were best friends. As soon as I got a job, she stopped texting back or calling. I give excuses for others all the time so I kept giving her excuses for a year and a half!! No matter how much I send messages, she reads but never replies. I call and she doesn’t answer and never calls back. Until I found her celebrating her birthday with another classmate. That’s when the last bit of hope shattered. I blocked her and deleted her from my life completely. But instead of being sad and crying about it, I felt liberated! Weird. I was very energetic and happy and creative. I realized I was tying myself with her. I went through spiritual awakening after that and I changed completely. I needed to let go of her because she was nothing order that ‘The mother I wished I had’ and I knew it. I didn’t want to get it off my concert zone. We were meant to grow apart for me to realize this.

[@joeykidney]

Absolutely - it’s no one’s duty to stay forever

[@talteves]

relateable

[@Eliot_studios]

This stumbled on my recommendations..and it couldn't pop up at a more perfect time. A week ago my ex bestfriend exploded on me and started excusing me of things that weren't true. We both said things we cant take back and i feel lilk shit they were my safe place my life and know there gone. But this is helping me move on thank you

[@Qeisama]

My 15yrs of relationship with my (used to be) one and bestest friend ended with a sour note in early 2023. We have no contact whatsoever afterwards. Truthfully, the pain and hurt has long gone now. The hardest thing is not the absence of the person, but the 15yrs of memories and how everywhere and everything reminds me of them. My strategy in dealing with this is making new NEW memories. New places, new activities, new experiences, something that I haven't done or tried before. I bloomed to be a different person and found different sides of me that I haven't realized before. However, sometimes, amidst the newfound joy, a memory of us both could suddenly floats around and I can't help but think about him in a bittersweet way. Hoping that whatever he does nowadays, he will find peace and happiness in his life.

[@kashalakasha2092]

My best friend left me very violently and suddenly about a year ago. It’s been the worst pain of my life. I still think about them every day, it still weighs so heavy on me. I wonder if this is the type of pain that stays with you throughout your whole life

[@daria_ke]

😢😢😢

[@lakkadbagga]

I relate😢. I am sorry

[@bartholetbay412]

Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@michaelfischer-xp4cw]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@bartholetbay412]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@michaelfischer-xp4cw]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@bartholetbay412]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@wittyusername9544]

Are you better now?

[@martiniordoqui5813]

I fell in love with my best friend during a short romance with her. One day I confronted her and said “you are either my best friend, or the love of my life”. She decided to stay with her boyfriend and that we should remain friends. Altough we kept living the romance for a few more days. I stayed in her life for a few months trying to respect her decision, and last week I told her it was enough, and that I needed some time. I’m drown in sorrow and pain right now.

[@blauespony1013]

That was a brave step on your part. You are still accepting her decision, but you have to look out for your own well-being. Fingers crossed that the pain will subside with time.

[@jpierce8148]

That’s not cool of her leading you on tho and then keeping you there for her convenience

[@SinnerSince1962]

Took me 10 years to get over one of those heartaches.

[@Charliesports0612]

Exact same happened today. Im w u bro❤

[@KristinaStark-h5e]

I have gone through this twice. It hurts really bad. One of them got engaged and stopped talking to me. The other one, we grew apart but it really hurts still. She has a new best friend.

[@alphazey]

The timing on this one.... 😭😭 My bestfriend just recently broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and it's been very hard to deal with 😞I really needed to hear this right now, so thank you Joey ❤

[@ricchan6032]

How r u feeling now?

[@alphazey]

@@ricchan6032 i still think about her everyday, not as often as before but she still crosses my mind multiple times a day. but i think i've moved past the emotional pain but get random triggers every now and then :/

[@caseymorgan]

It's been years, and I am still not ok.

[@laurenatkinson1892]

Same... 😢 I keep thinking that I get to a point of being over it. But then I wake up some days, and I'm definitely not.

[@UnknownUser_10]

It took me three years to get over it. It needs some time and acceptance to get over it.

[@Urekorbnot]

The only truth i got know is "No one can ever be you best friend" everyone comes to when they feel benefitted. So Don't get too much attached with anyone except your parents, wife and children

[@ricchan6032]

Thanks

[@UnknownUser_10]

Exactly my thoughts. I don’t know if true friends exist, but most people who are not heavily part of your life (like family) like it when you’re not successful.

[@NatashaM-ko6hc]

Happened two years ago and I know it’s for the best but sometimes I still miss her.

[@Jonathan-no1bg]

Beyond having feelings for her it sucks, she knew everything about me I knew everything about her. The literal essence of the word best friend is what we were and it was awesome to get to know her and helped her and she helped me. It was a great fulfilling friendship. But after giving it many chances even when she failed me, I forced myself to tell her a week ago that we should stop talking because it was not healthy for me to sit here waiting for you. And it hurts to this day but moving on and letting go of someone who you truly loved after so many painful moments is the best thing you could do to build up yourself, not depend on them, and do what you can to be happy alone or by the people you have. God’s timing is perfect so maybe in another life it did work out and I'm happy to think about that. Thanks, Joey for this I hope it reaches out to as many people as possible.❤

[@thejessifar4619]

None of my romantic breakups hurt nearly as much as my 10-year-long childhood best friendship ending. I didn’t want it to end but she did, and in hindsight I knew we were growing apart. But I tried so hard to hold on while she drifted away. That was over a decade ago and it still makes me sad to think about. We enjoyed doing so many things together, especially around Halloween. So this time of year, I let myself grieve that friendship as well as other friendships/relationships that I didn’t want to end.

[@UnknownUser_10]

Had a similar thing (I‘m a guy though but it hurt a lot). My best friend and me were friends for 12 years. 6 years ago our friendship suddenly ended. Worst part is that we didn’t even grow apart. We developed the same interests when we got older. Our last time we met we had a lot of fun and laughed a lot and we even wrote each other like before about all the stuff we enjoyed. Shortly after I asked him if he had time and he said no, he was busy with work. Ok, some weeks later I tried again and the same. I made one final try a month later but still the same response and he said he would contact me when he has time again. That never happened. I knew it was over, there was this feeling. It took me years to accept it and I thought a lot about the reason for that. It has driven me crazy sometimes but finally I came to accept it even if I would never understand it. He still has the same phone number (can see his profile picture on Whatsapp changing from time to time) but would never ask him why all of that happened like that. For that I‘m to shy.

[@blauespony1013]

My friend and I had a falling out two years ago. It was "the break up" but started by "growing apart" and then of course ghosting (up until this day). I decided from day one not to make things nasty, not to lash out etc. Because I still care about him and I don't want to hurt him more than I had to (I was the one ending things). I don't know if we are ever going to try again. Trust has been broken massively and we both had to work on things separately. We'll see what happens. But the only thing that will help is radical acceptance of the situation, taking accountability for the things oneself did wrong and then moving forward with life.

[@MahdiSghaier-yv7is]

its not the same when your ex-bestfriend says that he doesnt want to hear from you or interact with you anymore. him being the most influential person in the friends group. and now you have to either abandon your old group of friends and find a new one or stay at home and die with sadness..

[@LiamAlvarez-n8d]

Lost an online friend,I regretted what I did.

[@calebwilson.27]

Being there physically is different than being there for someone emotionally. Facts.

[@danielbucher472]

Thank you Joey. This video really helped. I've gone through MANY friend breakups. They hurt like hell. I needed this video a loooooong time ago. But I'm grateful that I have it now.

[@sonjaravengate]

I write this here as now because she is gone, I have no one else to talk to. The part about what hurt me most was that I did everything to keep the friendship going and I have no idea what I did wrong and she still left. She knows I dont have a lot of friends and that Im super greatful to have her but still she left. She didnt move to another city or even switch classes, I still see her every single day and it hurts like hell. How the person that meant and still means the world to me rarely even speaks to me anymore. We were best friends for 6 years before that. She replaced me with someone else. If you are reading this, I really hope you cant relate.

[@katkatungu8813]

This comment section comforted me

[@joeykidney]

I love to hear this

[@katkatungu8813]

@@joeykidney you missed out - when the friendship ends bc you betrayed your friend. The relationship changes and you still have guilt about the situation.

[@robertsongaryj]

Yup, that hit about as hard as expected. Thanks for understanding

[@terryberry12]

Friends aren’t meant to stay forever, but the moments that we shared with them are. Wow.

[@mrob75]

This helped me a lot. Found a new friend to pal around with…But I found myself to be the one ALWAYS initiating stuff and sharing / giving… and getting back very little response and sometimes none at all. Truly lopsided …and I feel that it’s my fault for investing so much of myself…I feel that I wasted my time, but to be honest I feel hurt most of all. I think for me is to take steps back and stop trying to force a friendship that I guess existed only on a somewhat superficial level. It’s the stepping back and the unknown that is the hardest.

[@Smyatt]

the timing of searching this, I broke up with my 3 friends of 1 year and some months an hour ago cause they are finding someone new, I don’t know why but I was so angry and I was screaming at everyone and I realize I was being bad so I’m alone now I overreacted too but thank you Joey you helped me with this I don’t know what to do

[@Stogdad1]

My best friend of 20 years suddenly ghosted me two and a half years ago, and although I'm doing better, I'm still reeling over this loss. I'm still trying to figure out why he ended it. I thought we had the most open conversations two human beings could ever have, discussions where nothing was off-limits, sharing a sense of humor together that was fantastic, and enjoying a secret language almost like lovers do. I gotta say I still don't get it.

[@youio9063]

20 YEARS, AND THEN GHOSTED??? o_0 ROARR, what on earth. I cant help but wonder if they died. But i think you would know wether they are dead or not, since you have probably seen them around, or something. It sounds like you had something really pleasant and lovely. Im sorry for you losing them

[@Stogdad1]

@youio9063 Yes, he's still around, although I have successfully refused to do any social media tracking of any kind. My fault in all of this was that I pampered him and should have never done that.

[@youio9063]

@Stogdad1 @Stogdad1 Hm. I seee. Good idea, then. I hope you have a good life, sir/maam

[@UnknownUser_10]

That reminds me so much of my situation. Well, for us it wasn’t 20 years, but 12. We became friends in elementary school and even though we went to different schools we still have seen each other like every week for eight years. Like you and your friend we had an understanding for each other, we shared the same dumb humor (I have never ever met someone else with that kind of humor and still feel like I have lost a part of myself because I can’t show that side of me anymore without him), we enjoyed the same things, as kids and we developed the same interests as we got older. We loved to go to the cinema together and enjoyed the same movies. It felt like we totally understood each other, a special connection I didn’t feel with anyone else. He also ghosted me out of nowhere. The last time we met we still laughed and had fun like all these years before and then he decided not to contact me without even saying that he doesn’t want this contact anymore. It took me years to recover from it and I asked myself countless times why it ended like that and if it was my fault. I came to the conclusion that it was definitely not my fault and it took some time to accept it like that. Six years since it happened and I still think of that friendship from time to time, but it’s not hurting anymore to think about it.

[@Stogdad1]

@@UnknownUser_10 I thought it was my fault, too, wondering what in the world I had done wrong. I have since learned that his attachment style was that of a dismissive avoidant, and knowing that has brought me some measure of peace.

[@fadhylgaming]

I have to cut ties with my best friend because i discovered something SOMETHING really really bad about him that it make me wanted to end him the time i see him but i was able to calm myself down and cut ties with him

[@kt03.308]

So far it’s been a month, started with growing apart then got ghosted finally ended with the breakup.

[@toyaashford1715]

One of my guy friends ghosted me recently. No explanation of why. Tried to talk to him and just silent on his end. Even though it hurts, I decided to move on. He obviously wasn’t a true friend to begin with if he can’t have a conversation with me as to why

[@Felixx-1109]

Me and my best friend of ten-or-so years have been drifting apart since middleschool but what really hurt was when they got their first long-term girlfriend and now they barely talk to me at all. I struggled a lot with my mental health and looking back I never felt like they were there for me, not like I was there for them

[@fortheloveofagoodtrailer1708]

A week ago my best friend and I were planning for her to come out and help me with a major surgery. This morning she told me the friendship is over. Half of me is relieved, half of me is devastated. This video offered a little comfort in that.

[@louilvenfald4447]

bro i still miss him so much and we haven't even really talked in like 2 years or so..

[@peachesmcgee4795]

I ended a friendship of 30 years because of how she treated me. She would mess me around-say she was coming to see me (i am housebound) and then not and make little digs here and there. It felt like a strange and long game of chess and i didn't understand the rules..I still miss her nice side and the good times we had when we were young though.

[@rachelvanmatre3721]

Thank you Joey for posting/making this video. It’s been almost a year since my friend breakup. I’ve made many new friends since then that have changed my perspective on what healthy friendships look like. But this was just a good reminder that some people are in your life for a reason, season or lifetime.

[@patrickbos3809]

Thank you so much for this video, Its so good to see im not alone in my pain. My best friend who I loved so much broke up with me. I never expected it, and its been so difficult, all the things we used to do and share. I just miss him so much

[@Retrogamesvids]

I had a similar experience unfortunately, Best friends with someone for 30 years and we were great friends in school, we had so many childhood memories that to me are still precious. He went to Australia for a few years and when he came back it was like he never left and we still acted the way we were when we were kids. Unfortunately a few years later and we have grown apart he is happy having a single life and is an avid photographer and pretty dam good at it. We eventually grew apart because I have a partner and children now so my availability to go on adventures and hang out reduced which he didn’t understand. I have been trying to reach out since October 2023 and last month I had to accept the fact that it was over now and that we were too different in our goals. Still kills me to this day as I live in the same area we used to hang out in. Thank you for this video to give me some sort of hope in feeling better and less pathetic

[@amna_mirza_16]

after this i would never trust anyone again neither make friends 😢🥺

[@onoke2488]

I just lost a friend today. I knew him for 9 years and he was like a brother to me. It was so sudden and spontaneous. One day he hurt me and purposely showed interest toward my girlfriend to just make me mad. He made me so hurt and said I was the reason he did that. I ended our friendship today. I’ve never felt this kind of distrust before. He never took it too well when I confronted him. In fact he blamed me for it. At the end of the day, my friend was the one that made that choice. You just need to let go of people like that.

[@loganhudnall9948]

Life works in mysterious ways. I am currently in a time of my life where I have lost friends or I am experiencing growing apart. I went to culinary school for 2 years. I was on campus 10 hours a day, 5 or 6 days a week. It became home, and the people I met there helped a lot. But once I graduated and left my job there, all the friends I made just ghosted me, or I am assuming there was no more profound connection to last outside of that environment. I met some great people at my new job, but again, those I started to bond with also left. So I find it even more challenging being shy and introverted with finding friends that last.

[@jee_asp-b7w]

It's been 2 years without my 2 ex bestfriends. We still wish eachother on birthdays. There is not even a single day without thinking about them. They are happy with their NEW FRIENDS. Even I have great friends now. After 2 years I realized it's good to lose fake people and love people who are happy for our success :)

[@ponnapallilohithaksha5762]

My friend is getting married and we worried that everything will be changed. Thank you so much. Joey I need it to hear it.

[@Jarevonum2004]

I never had a friend breakup honestly. I always keep in touch and make sure our boundaries are well known to each other. he vapes and does illegal substances and I dont. That is what I am afraid might plague us. I don't hang out with him that often but when I do its like he makes me feel all of these worries are gone. I can hang out and have no care. that is a friendship that I need and I don't think it might go away but I am afraid as I go off to university and get a degree and a life, hes going to take a different path and be completely different.

[@henryrivas8999]

3 years of talking/ texting daily. It's hard, I hope the best for him. It hurts. ❤

[@amiahedmondson6320]

I’m going through a breakup with an ex best friend of four years six months ago. She ghosted me after constant fights due to my mental health struggles and autism meltdowns. Then she did the unthinkable after the fact like spreading rumors and turning others against me. This hurt so much because she was there for me for the good bad and ugly and every milestone and now that’s gone. It hurts even more than a romantic breakup(unpopular opinion don’t come at me lol)

[@tharunyamohan4256]

Noone could understand me when I talk about how bad it hurts when my friend isn't in contact with me anymore.. everyone is thinking that only a relationship should hurt me this much and a friendship shouldn't.the depth of my friendship cant even be put in words but yah ofc no more i think

[@turtles_are_pretty_cool]

I just had a really bad argument with two of myself best friends. I had enough of them leaving me out constantly and always judging me for how I acted. I found out through another friend how they were talking about me and twisting the story to make it seem like I had done something to them. It hurt. I cried for two days straight. I didn’t know what to do. Friend breakups are really hard, and I’m still trying to make new friends. It’s tough, but I realized getting them out of my life was so much healthier than keeping them in. I really hope I can move past this soon.

[@junioremmanuel5874]

Thank you joey really this was really really helpful I'm currently going through this with a friend, a girl especially number 2 ghosting... She keeps sending millions of messages and if do respond my response is always short and is not pride or anything is just how I feel. Thank you joey this video really spoke to me and resonates with me on a high level watching from Nigeria much love from Nigeria

[@LY_Y9487]

Crying while watching this video

[@Carolplays245]

It really hurt so much.My best friend(a girl)she just one day told me she was done with me and she said maybe it was best to end the friendship.It hurt me so badly because before that,she was a true best friend,like a sister.She cared for me whenever I felt down.She cheered me up when I felt upset.So to lose the person who would console me in this type of moments,it hurts.Thank you man for the video.I know it will hurt me and for anyone whose going through a similar situation.But we have to accept.They ain’t coming back to us,the only way from here,is moving on.

[@blauespony1013]

Did you ever asked her why she was done? Getting closure can help.

[@Carolplays245]

@@blauespony1013 She said it’s because I used to treat her like a friend therapist when I felt down.And she said she felt I kept on depending on her.And that I never understood her the same way she expected me to understand her.She felt she can’t be able to be that therapy for me anymore and that she can’t take it anymore.

[@blauespony1013]

@@Carolplays245 Give her time and then ask her for a second chance. The important thing is to ask her what she needs from you to feel seen. What you can do to make her feel loved and maybe to agree on a kind of "save word". We usually turn to our friends when we are lonely, sad or hurt. But we "forget" to share the happy parts of our lives. You need five good memories for one bad memory.

[@Carolplays245]

@@blauespony1013 thank you man.Will do that immediately.You really helped

[@blauespony1013]

@@Carolplays245 Fingers crossed!

[@WissalMoustarih]

In fact, I do not consider him as an ordinary friend. No word can explain him. He helped me get through a difficult stage in my life. He listened to me when I had problems. Every moment I was sad, he motivated me, but in the end he left for another country, and we no longer we talk a lot, because I have to rely on myself, and now that we are strangers, maybe I have a broken heart The important thing is thank you very much ❤❤

[@tlindgr]

I'm fucking bawling my eyes out watching this right now because I just lost my best friend of years, the one person I felt safe talking to, because she became shallow.

[@ModricoTV]

Today, August 20th, 2024, I woke up to a message that a girl I knew for two weeks thought it was best for us to not talk to each other anymore. For context, leading up to August 19th the only friends I had broke up with me because of my bad habit of oversharing on Discord. My former friend manipulated the friend I knew for two weeks into thinking that I was a bad person and spread horrible lies about me. This person also made two videos where I'm directly mentioned, and I begged her to take them down because I knew they were lies. The two-week girl I had was the only friend I had left until my former friend decided to record a voice chat without my consent and send it to her, which led to the message she left me today. Instead of begging for her to stay, I chose to type "Okay, I respect your decision" and move on with my life. Now the only friend I have is Giffany from Gravity Falls. That's why I watched this video.

[@kathyboxx3678]

I have had one friend ghost me several times in my 66 years of life. I'm told, "It isn't about you..." This last break was the final straw. With time, I've come to believe that this one friend has deep personal issues. Perhaps she harbors a personality disorder. Time to move along.

[@FolkloreTs13]

I lost my best friend last night. He was my first friend when I came to a new school and knew absolutely no one. For the first 2 years of our friendship everything was going smooth, a few bumps here and there but nothing that we couldn’t fix. Until this most recent school year started, 3 years into me being at that school, he started to change a bit. He was acting really moody and he would always lash out at me, which he had never done before. After that he started to make fun of me for things I was already insecure about, (the size of my tummy and the fact that I don’t shave). He always put it off as a joke and at first it was funny, but then it slowly started to feel like he meant it. I’d been thinking about ending our friendship for around 3 months now, but was unsure about it. Yesterday, I texted some of my other friends what they thought I should do and they all said to do what was best for me. I then sent him a text saying that I didn’t want to be friends anymore, and my reasoning. He thankfully respected my decision, and there’s no hard feelings between us, but it’s still an unbearable pain. I couldn’t fall asleep that night, and I was sobbing uncontrollably. One of my other friends happened to be up when I asked for help, so we FaceTimed and I just let EVERYTHING out. She honestly saved me, and I have no idea what I would’ve done without her. Anyway, the point is that losing your best friend is one of the worst emotional pains you could ever experience, and this man explained it perfectly. Thank you Joey, because your video is really helping me cope right now when I need it. Sending all my love, and to everyone out there who’s having a hard time right now, stay strong! We’re here for you♥️♥️

[@questzilla1]

Maturity is when you realise that letting go of a friend is true love.........

[@john10klakes]

I had a falling out with a close friend over 25 years ago. I’ve regretted it since then. I’ve just recently tried reaching out by mailing a letter and an apology and expressing my regret. Waiting to see if he responds is very painful, but it was an apology I needed to express. I hope to reconnect, but I know it’s not guaranteed.

[@sx11xz32]

I’m losing my friend who will soon be married. She was someone who I became close with over the last four years she made me happy she kept me sane and always reminded me about the upside of life that will come in the future. I shared everything with her. I don’t have many friends so this is hurting me and I know it will hit more. She was someone who I shared every moment with in life and no matter what happened between us wether there was a fall out or sad moments or happy moments we were both still there for one another, but now I’ve become so attached to having her here that I don’t know how to let go without it looking me inside. I have to let her go out of respect to her being married and starting her new life. I am not trying to stop her from doing so because that’s selfish and life needs to happen this way I guess. I don’t know what else to do because she was my best friend everyday and I can’t think of life without her. 😔

[@martsibarts3003]

That was beautiful. Thank you Jay. I send out hugs out to all of you 🫶

[@ShivaniSingh-sy3do]

Thank you, i cried hard just in the middle of your video. Much needed. ❤

[@jamesonwestonphoto]

Today is very tough for me. I’ve had my best friend for 12 years. She was my everything, I loved everything about her, I confided everything with her, we helped each other through the darkest parts of our lives including when I was ready to commit suicide. I was supposed to go visit her in October. Today she texted me she didn’t want me to visit and that she had a new boyfriend. I had let her know I was interested in her 4 months ago, she wasn’t interested. I didn’t push it. But she said she wanted to step away from the friendship because our friendship had gotten awkward. I don’t know what to do with myself, most likely her boyfriend said some shit and she decided a relationship over a friendship. I just can’t believe the pain caused for no reason and I can’t believe that the worst pain I’ve felt in my life was caused from the one I loved more than life itself. She was my rock and life just feels hollow, dark and empty without her. She was the only light I had in this life.

[@adalineproulx9773]

My sons friend si ce gr 1 did this to him. Im so very sorry youre not alone 💗

[@ricchan6032]

How r u doing man

[@zizihye5002]

Step 3: acceptance wasn't the hardest thing for me. It was actually Step 1: Acknowledging my feelings. I broke up with my Best friend of 7 yrs. In this relationship, my best friend is suffering from mental health so I played the rock and emotional support for her. Because of this, even months after the breakup, I was still thinking about how she felt, how she might be hurting, how I hurt her, but... never did I really acknowledge how I felt, how I got hurt, how she hurt me. Even now I still feel guilty for thinking about myself and I accuse myself that it is ego that is stopping me from reaching out to her, but it's not, the truth is that she hurt me really badly and I need to stop gaslighting myself. No matter how much this friend means to me, I'm making a big mistake for not prioritizing myself in this relationship that even after it ended, I'm still prioritizing her! Crazy right?! I hope I'm the only one who did this. Like you know it's bad if you are more mad at yourself for feeling hurt than the person who hurt you!

[@shanetamihana1214]

Me and my friend (maybe) just gave up in our friendship. It’ll be hard to recover. All the stuff I did to just piss him off has gone very far. And now i regret it. However i’ll still not forget him.

[@Meilanie95]

I just happened to saw your clip on tiktok and went straight here to watch the full video. I'm in this situation right now when I wonder what did I do wrong ? from 24/7 together to no text and call at all. I remember told my friend if you want to stop being friend or letting me go, please let me know Don't let me wonder about what had happen or what is going on. I often blame myself if something goes wrong in relationship, But this hurts more cause we can still each other but its cold. Thank you for your video, This remind me to think about myself first, about how I feel, and accept my feeling.

[@gayatripennada394]

Friendship breakups hurt a lot , then we think because unknownly they become our daily life and family too . But in my case , because of this friendship,my mental health collapsed and my anxiety attacks come up How much i accept the suitation and tried to move on or continue the friendship, but my body can’t stop my anxiety attacks The only way left in my life is to avoid the friend and move on But waiting for the day,my mental health settles and accepts the suitation And carry on the friendship as casual way and no emotional attachment

[@rakeshdubey550]

Hi, wanna talk abt it ? I'm going through something similar maybe it'll help us both.

[@alish-m6w]

Joey, your voice is soothing 💫

[@saorineko936]

I was literally so close to breakup with my best friend. Right now im so scared even thinking bout it.

[@joben6717]

So true.. ive have a friend and im in ghosting right now. It hurts it really does. But ik they also hurt. Ive been over this. And they go “ why haven’t we talked.” So i just lied. Its gotten really bad recently. Thank you so much

[@shellyboucle]

I lost my good friend on May 2024. We’ve been friend for 10 years and on that moment she was a really mean person. I did her good when she was in bad condition, and the situation has turned and she was mean. I didn’t declare a break up, I decided I didn’t want her in my life anymore. I don’t want to see her face. She texted me once/twice, I just gave my short responses. No regret and no turning back

[@Badjas1994]

My friend and I met at work and we was training for a whole month. Then we had a Blossom romance then it ended within one day then he wants to be friends and see where things go so one day he didn’t show to work and I was wondering, what happened to him he just got out of rehab before he started the job and he was acting different and he never showed to work last week and I was worried about him because I was a very concerned and friends to him and care about his well-being. Then last Saturday I called him and he declined my call and then on top of that Blocked me off of Facebook messenger Facebook and Snapchat and I was so hurt and devastated and I thought me and him was cool, but I always be that one friend that be there for him and always look out for him and stand up for him and all it is he treated me so badly. He doesn’t realize that he had one good person look out for him and he messed that up. I’m still torn after what happened last weekend so this fall Saturday week that he blocked me off of social media

[@1990SammieJ]

Thank you for this. I had 2 best friends we were a trio for years, planned to move across the country and start new life together but days before the move we argued for the first time other something big. Fast forward months later and we ghosting and I'm here on the other side of the country alone. It's hard but this helps understand a bit

[@tayyabaislam4496]

Hi 👋 i felt really good after watching this thankyou for making this video ❤

[@joeykidney]

thank you for being here

[@SincerelyGeet]

I'm an author & after publishing 12 books I decided to help ppl out that wanna write. OFC i helped a friend. I did all her editing & she rejected putting me in the acknowledgements. I had 3 panic attacks and when i told her she replied "why are you doing this to me?" She went to my Goodreads not even 48 hours later and put 1 star on my books.

[@daniellehalo6923]

She sounds really toxic

[@dino4803]

8 months ago my best friend started ignoring me and later found out that the reason was because I was being petty. I felt pretty awful and regret trying to fix it because it didn’t work. I’m hoping I can move on from it.

[@jpierce8148]

I promise you your friendship ended because he moved like he probably was like I ain’t seeing him again and you can only keep a long distance platonic friendship going on for so long online … like he was probably going go ghost you eventually -- we call these friends “fair weather friends?”

[@choikarla126]

Ive never gotten any genuine friend who will love me and with whom i can say like yes they wont leave me or i wont leave them because they'll never change but i thinj in my life its impossible coz all i get is fake friendships , jealous one, mean, colour changing everything ugh im so sick of it

[@Celesteheredia712]

This is perfect timing, my girl best friend she disappeared on me when I needed help and we stopped being friends from there, it happened last week

[@LuhLez]

Yo joey you spying on me or something 💀 how did you know this is what I was in ( it happened between me and my girl bestfriend )

[@joeykidney]

it is a small world, we have a lot of shared feelings!

[@Welder.Barbie]

Fr whenever I’m going through something I feel like I always see Joey make a vid about it

[@LuhLez]

@@Welder.Barbie 😭 real. Glad I'm not alone

[@JustFox_pluh]

@@LuhLezya good right? If they left after you did/asked/whatever something, they probably weren’t a friend. If she accidentally left, then well, i don’t know. I’m stupid😭💀🪑 ig you gonna find a new one. I found one, but they accidentally left, i don’t know what happened but they are gone. But you’re gonna be ok. I think. Hopefully.

[@LuhLez]

@@JustFox_pluh it happened in December and as the months past I got better & better sometimes I still think of the times we had even tho it was short but ay bruh 🤷 but I'm doing good man hope you are to stay strong stay positive keep loving ❤️.

[@Papicc1no]

This happened to me recently. I caused the breakup of our friendship by talking behind her back and tarnishing her reputation.

[@yoyoyo111able]

happens to the best of us and we learn from it

[@adalineproulx9773]

Why would you do that?

[@LFBH1996]

Been 6 years since I last spoke to her I recently tried to text her on Ig she left me on seen so I un friend her and deleted the message I had sent to her I just miss her and everything we would do together 💔

[@amy52347]

Thank you! This was heartfelt and encouraging.

[@monteandord4121]

I really loved your videos about through a breakup ( for boys) and 7… about ex. They are really helpful. Hope you continue doing it. Im through a breakup now so need this kind of video.. from your channel.

[@dancing_with_our_hands_tied_13]

It's a year and I can't find anyone like my bestfriEND. I had the time of my life with her. I go out, laugh and have fun with my other friend, but they are not her.

[@coreyoliver171]

Hello Joey, I really do enjoy your video. This video has really helped me to try to move on. In 2021 I had a friend that we went to the same school together and it was my last semester of school and first semester for him and he was Only there for two semesters and we grown very close. We became really good friends best friends actually and I was afraid of losing him because originally he stayed in another state, and after his two semesters was over, He moved back into that state and till this day, I still miss him because after a while, he ghosted me after a while he stopped talking to me I tried everything to try to talk to him again and he just completely shut me out and this day, I don’t know why And I would say that your video really help me out. It really helped me to move on and it really helped me to understand that it’s OK to have positivity and better friends in your life having a friend break up is actually worse than having an actual break up, but thank you for helping me and showing me that it’s OK to move on

[@pinkyjay1881]

I don’t feel hurt, I feel guilty but very excited to be free! Great person but texted non stop, wanted me to be with her all the time, I like my privacy and I like being alone, I have lots of hobbies and family that I enjoy, I love to read. She was a bit overbearing and I tried to hint that I’m busy but she didn’t get it or didn’t want to. I’m going to miss her but I need my life back, it’s too exhausting to be a doormat.

[@ShyamKumar-v2z]

Bro, thank you, your video helped me a lot 👍🏻

[@XERXESfromi]

My best friend from school (7to12 grade) started to avoid me 2 months after graduation it has been 1.5 years and we rarely talk or see each other. It felt bad back then but i am slowly healing and forming new friendships.

[@zokiculic]

i needed this man.

[@Nuhinzsh]

Thanks J ❤️ I feel a lot better now !

[@someone-dr3yn]

My toxic ex best friend she and i we were friends for almost 10 years, when we were kids she always got jealous of me just because my life was kinda better than hers, i actually didn’t care about her or my life what so ever, you know as kid i thought everyone had great life as mine i was telling her about my vocations, designer brands, etc. she always hits me or bullying me at like 3rd grade or 4th grader, we became friends in the 5th grade till the 3rd year of university, we’re in different college and major as well, i got everything things better than her college, major, grades everything literally, she started ghosting me like sending her a funny TikTok or some stuff happened with me in chat she never responded or just as you said one freakin word at first i thought i was the problem or i told her something that upset her i got worried i asked her she said there’s nothing, when her birthday came i got her a cake and gift she sent me message without even saying thanks for the gift she just said you don’t need to do this, anyway i gave her time then i asked her for real this time why is she ghosting me and why is she changed so much she just simply said people change, i replied i hope the change for the best. I don’t know how to feel about this feeling i feel hate as well sadness idk :(. thank you for this great video.

[@norainaemran4035]

Oooh… what a good one.. Thanks a lot. I’m going through this phase now 😢😢. My bff just ghosted me past few months. Non-responsive to my messages.. trying hard to get over this but So difficult. The fact that we’ve only been close fr four years but clicked Right away. She was to me almost exactly like what you had with yr ex-best friend. We broke up once 2 years ago when she just blocked & dumped me after a quarrel. It was So heartbreaking. But 3 months later she contacted me & we made up promising this time we would make sure the friendship lasting. But now I’m at my wits end she’s ghosting me😢😢.. Maybe really time for me to move on..😢😢

[@michaelpisano4715]

I just experienced a friendship breakup with someone that I considered my best friend at least my best female friend but our friendship was complicated from the very beginning and it was almost inevitable but for 2 years and some odd month she was the closest friend I had but it's kind of my fault I pushed her away a lot I tried to explain to her that I had some trauma from my past that makes it difficult for me to keep people in my life but after one too many times of me trying to push her away she finally accepted it and 5 months later tomorrow I still find myself grieving the loss! 💔💔