How To Get Over Rejection

Rejection is always painful; it need not be a tragedy.
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[@cyberandrewofficial]

Who’s just getting back from pouring their heart out into someone and getting it stomped on?

[@carrotjuice105]

It got walked on she plitely rejected me

[@thenugget9759]

They said to there friend that they don’t ever want to talk to me or see me again

[@hexocubeforces1088]

I literally wrote an essay on why I liked him. But in the end he didn’t feel the sam way but he still wants to be friends so that’s cool 👍

[@lunachan1805]

My crush said she doesnt even like me as a friend ._.

[@hannah.t8228]

I was playing t or d with a guy last night and when he asked me who I liked I gave hints and all and then he screenshotted the chat and texted his friend and he found out that I liked him but he likes this girl from his school. Shit really hurts especially cause we were planning on hanging out for the first time and doing things like “kissing” he said he wanted to do this like 3 days ago so he started liking someone else in 3 days which is so weird

[@ashtray0belief]

"You will eventually bore yourself back into an appetite for life." Took me nearly 2 years, but I'm at that point now. Keep fighting, lovely people

[@kingny_]

ashtray0belief It took me 3 years to get over rejection

[@sarahoconnor3401]

ashtray0belief I liked this guy for 5 years and then I told him..and I got rejected and that was about two months ago..I’m still crying at night

[@abhinavjain8962]

2 years damn...... took me 6 months..to get over the rejection...

[@andrewcollet3717]

@@sarahoconnor3401 Can I talk to you on FB or something ? I really wish I could ? I'm almost in the same boat ,been loving this girl for almost 5 years and I'm about to tell her how I feel. It's scary

[@kalidam.ajward1737]

Heyy well done hope to find mine soon 🙂

[@arpanbanerjee3546]

It is not the rejection which kills you , it is the hope and expectation which kills you 😫

[@esperanza7948]

Agree

[@remopkr198]

very true

[@user-kf7zu9lk5e]

It's what hurt me most

[@OmerMan992]

“Despite all of the promising signs”... That resonated with me the most.. Ohhh.. That hurts.. :(

[@DineteThomas]

Me too. Just got hurt right now..

[@OmerMan992]

Dinete Thomas Be strong, time really does heal :)

[@DineteThomas]

Thanks! Need it.

[@Vinigph]

Me too

[@IsthatJosh]

Same…

[@felixkovac701]

Cry yourself to sleep for 2 weeks straight. Eventually, being sad will tire you out. You will feel nothing but emptiness, which is a lot better than sadness. 👌🏾

[@felixkovac701]

I have no idea if I'm sarcastic or not.

[@aakashloverboy2487]

I have felt that friend.Damn I have wasted my beautiful and happy moments all those days when I used to fall in love with someone deeply and truely.Nobody really loved me rather they just used me.

[@sanguiVSdobbi]

I guess it works.. People usually snap out of it one way or another

[@KingDayDayDay00]

usually what I do until I tell myself fuck feeling sorry for myself. time to get shit done and live

[@KingDayDayDay00]

+Shudha Ayen I have weekends off but yeah, having to sit down at a place I hate for five times a week doesn't help the situation at all

[@PeachPlastic]

"Don't imagine that their past sweetness and kind words provides any covert indications of future commitment. Kill any remaining hope yourself, if they didn't have quite the courage to do so themselves." Which is precisely what I spent most of this summer doing.

[@crispypotato9380]

well thats what i just started doing this October

[@jonimendes6779]

me too man , good luck too us all! :D

[@Koeras16]

will have to do this probably too after more than 5 years of relationship... gosh it s awful x(

[@jonimendes6779]

Koeras hey , it happens to us all , you will be ok , even if it doesn't look like it now , focus life on other things 😁 good luck

[@Koeras16]

Thank you very much for your comment Joni Mendes. Replacing habits is a quite painful task. A relationship is full of habits. It' s really painful. Yet of course it will happen. Doesn' t make it easy tough.

[@pacoloco4030]

I never had a girlfriend as a teenager, rejection was my middle name. Middleschool dance, forget it, highschool prom, never went because I dropped out due to always being alone and not having any friends. It made it impossible to study, i was always dealing with something due to being raised by grandparents. As I hit my 20's i thought my luck would change, yeah right! But, I was A Kiss fan, a fan since 1977. But, even girl kiss fans also rejected me. I just couldn't win, it's not like I asked every girl out, just someone I met, or knew over time, but the answer was always the same. 'NO" No, not interested, or, get outta here are you kidding me, you! Or, my favorite, yeah, that's not going to happen! Yeah, I heard that one a lot. Anyway, after going to Miami to see the band in 96, and, of course, having been rejected by someone my cousin wanted to hook me up with, on my way home on Amtrack I thought, yeah it ain't gonna happen ever. I thought, for the first time ever, Time to go!! Time to split! I was tired of being lonely, suicide looked good at that point. I thought about having my last meal on the train, then later on just jumping off and ending it all. But, in the early afternoon, the conductor led this girl who had just got on the train into my coach, he sat her next to me on purpose and said, here, sit here and keep him company, as a joke. The conductor was a nice, older southern african american guy with a gray beard. To this day, i still feel it was a miracle, because she became my first girlfriend, at 26 years old. 2 years later we got married in Europe, and I moved here after a few months to start our life together. I still suffer from things that happened in the past due to all the rejection. I got a shrink I see once every 2 months. I always tell my daughter, who just turned 16 to be sure if she is gonna say no to a guy to be sweet about it. I have good days and bad days, my medicine helps me cope and my wife is the best wife a guy could ask for. I'm a bit damaged, but at least i'm still here. Others aren't so lucky. Ladies, if you don't like him, say no but be sweet about it. I really believe the conductor was an Angel in disguise. To others suffering from rejection, please stay strong, someone special WILL show up. I really believe that now:0)

[@Neurozumim]

Cute story!

[@Paul-cl6uo]

Wow what a story. Glad to hear you are doing relatively well. Good on you for pulling through and having a good attitude today.

[@fatimaezzahraamoulakhnif6572]

So happy to read this ❤️ God bless you nd your family

[@vishnu2567]

Bro almost same as u none showed up yet still hoping

[@Zer0mega64]

Just got rejected and it is so freaking painful. The girl is still willing to be friends with me tho. Thanks for sharing your story

[@stephenridley1153]

Fingers burned Heart broken Soul destroyed Lesson learned.

[@bri2740]

hotel trivago

[@QuitMC]

Repeat.

[@toxic_hater7674]

IQ? Hopeless.

[@lilixniniff5508]

in conclusion= dont burn ur fingers ;) lol jk

[@abcxyz-ot7kx]

"Think back to when you rejected people." Implying that ever happened.

[@perborjel7928]

Yes, as so often people that give relationship advice have no idea what true loneliness is.

[@slimo1047]

abc xyz thats what I was saying

[@lou-xr5rz]

when he said that i was like … ???? … has that ever happened ???? … no.

[@ryadh456]

@@perborjel7928 exactly

[@carloscjr23]

I know! A looot of people doesnt seem to get it, people who get rejected a lot or always usually never get asked out or get telled someone likes them. That is my case, no woman has ever told me that she was interested in me, I usually used to get the "you are a nice guy" line, wich is the least bad way someone can tell you are ugly or unattractive or undesirable, but after hearing that every single time it becomes painful.

[@cq33xx58]

*Slowly scrolling down to the comment section.*

[@sedditguy1836]

Noone asked.

[@hazelchief-rabbit5903]

😂😂😂

[@fabianmarcoschau]

The first time I scrolled so slow...

[@fabianmarcoschau]

@@cq33xx58 it's the first time I got ignored by my childhood best friend and I am just as broke, have NEVER felt anything like that

[@conradwerner7456]

"Kill any remaining hope for yourself [to get back together with them], if they didn't quite have the courage to do so themselves." Damn, that hit home for me. Fantasizing about alternatives and ifs and buts seems so intriguing but ultimately leads to no good end. I guess I'll have to wait for time to do it's magic.

[@1denisflores]

Been doing this for quite some time making excuses of any slight gesture they would make an interpreting it as a “maybe” they are interested now. Then when I go and attempt to approach them again i get hit with so much mixed emotion like anger, shamefullnes and how bad getting rejected felt convinces me not to. Only to go back to the same cycle. Rejection is embarrising and self esteem killer, but why r they so pretty but yet we cant have. Fuck. I dont want to see it if i cant have it. Got that off my chest.

[@jellevlaeminck]

I finally found the courage to confess today and was, as expected, rejected. It still hurts even though I knew she didn’t like me back. This will need time but above all I’m proud of myself that I did this and it’ll make me a better person in the end.

[@mr.jgentleman5550]

Did the same and got rejected, I feel the opposite way😓

[@slicyrice8706]

I got rejected 2 days ago a crush of 4 years I desperately wanted them to feel the same but I understand now that they never did it's all a. Matter of time and healing now

[@joydeepchakraborty2026]

Yes my guy.. it really made you a better person ! :)

[@yogirajraikar2044]

Same happened with me today and this is exactly what I thought. I'm currently trying to let go and let my sadness out as the video suggested. Thank you for sharing your story really liked that someone thinks exactly like me :)

[@JuanJimenez-xl5sk]

I did the same thing about a month ago. She was a crush of four months (not so much), but I wanted to confess her my feelings, despite of knowing that I would be regretted. I wanted to pull it out because I knew from the beggining that that would be impossible; that's the reason maybe she liked me. I never wanted anything for her really, but I wanted to erase the romantic feelings and idealism that I had. I want to move on and find new people and women, but that has been always a difficult task for me. We're still close friends and she treats me like nothing happened (We both valore more our friendship that that confession only made for saying her: How can I forget you?), but I sometimes feel numbness and sometimes a weird infatuation. But this will help me to gain the self esteem and confidence that always lacked and it will make me a better more lovable person in the future for the person that truly want.

[@lilacosmanthus]

What's worse than rejection is being stuck in limbo.

[@philtube1ful]

.....when in Limbo , leave the relationship , life is too short

[@sedditguy1836]

+philosopher king When in Limbo Leave the Bimbo

[@lilacosmanthus]

philosopher king huh? it doesn't work like that.

[@oasisneko1]

Isn't limbo when they say both yes and no?

[@lilacosmanthus]

mars bender Limbo is when nothing is spoken and everything is implied.

[@FilibertoRafaelZuritaAbad]

"The only good relationship, the only relationship worth mourning would be one where to which two people desperatly wanted to belong and this wasn't in the end, despite all the promising signs, that kind of relationship at all" Thank you so much.

[@bhavna76rasaily]

💔😓

[@blackiris3143]

That was profound indeed.

[@cassandraellis8578]

Yes. This is everything.

[@milky85ful]

Confessed to my crush today. Got show down immediately, albeit respectfully. Thought i was okay with it initially, but found myself crying in bed alone. This video is a great help.

[@leehitashi2621]

same thing happened to me recently. Confessed to them on valentines day and thought I could take it, but it's still fucking me up a week later. Glad I found this vid too, it seems to be helping so far.

[@keshavnittin3828]

We are all in the same boat mate ❤

[@Hilaltk]

Same thing happened to me bro u are not alone

[@polarbear6479]

same here. Really thought i could handle it until i was also bawling my eyes out in the bed

[@user-kf7zu9lk5e]

Same man I just got rejected kindly and we still friends but I was too confident and my hopes and expectations really hurt me and that's what hurt most

[@joez5474]

“They act weird around you. Because they are nice. “ That is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard.

[@richardoneill4306]

The art style reminds me of the red bull ads.

[@sukindiamuzik]

+Super Nerd (L. Lawliet) Theory: red bull funds school of life. Alain de Botton consumes nothing but red bull that's his key to higher consciousness (his brain grew wings)

[@richardoneill4306]

+Sid The Great Woah ... it's all clear now

[@Executi0ner246]

I'm going to die alone and I think I'm alright with that now.

[@IceBreaker165]

Lmfao!!!!!! no don't say that 😂😂😂😂

[@Executi0ner246]

+IceBreaker165 It's true! lol

[@sedditguy1836]

+Executi0ner246 And so will everyone else. Regardless of how many "relationships" they've had. How many Friends they've had. How many people liked or disliked them. How much money they had or did not have. No matter what we do or do not; what we expierience or do not expierience in this lifetime, We all need to understand and accept this one irredeemable truth, we all are "going back" just like we "came". Buttnaked.

[@Allen-eq5uf]

You come into this world alone and you'll leave it alone ( relationship,or not ).

[@dochmbi]

You too can find love my friend. Please watch videos on daygame on youtube.

[@cakocolmenares96]

"Don't offer them sex in the hope of changing their minds" Jesus. Somebody has done that?

[@Awsome101Girl]

Yes

[@snicker_38gaming]

I’m somebody and that was my first time having sex too so I’m hurting tremendously

[@porcupine783]

Yes

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

lol guess so, can't imagine that would work though

[@ZelenoJabko]

Women, they do all the time, and it works. Men, no such luck.

[@lovemecom3832]

Rejection is something that scares the hell out of us but don't be afraid of trying or approaching the one you really liked because you'll never know that she has feelings for you too. Regretting about something you haven't done is more difficult than being rejected.

[@yeboigames34]

LoveMe,com i just wanted to be with her,but someone told her and she doenst even talk to me just look at me and ik what shes thinking

[@JuanGonzalez-ko7yr]

I had to know so I went for someone who I mistakingly thought liked me, i was wrong and I got rejected. I was hurt but relieved because i knew whether good or bad and I was actually proud of myself for taking a chance and going for something I thought would bring me happiness, ill bounce back. I just told her I respected her feelings and that I wouldn't bug her anymore.

[@adilbundhoo3079]

❤

[@snakeeyes9246]

LoveMe,com just fucking happened. All my chances are done.

[@nicholascosta7786]

I never felt love like I felt but she likes someone else all I can do is try and feel depressed

[@cynicalidealist11]

You don't get over it, you go through it.

[@sppsports2449]

IT HAPPENS. To me, to you, to everyone watching, to the people who made this video, to the hot girl, to the rich guy, to everyone, universally, without fail. Move on with maturity.

[@JoyJoy-oc7su]

William Garcia stfu

[@andrewcollet3717]

@@wzg8804 you're stupid

[@guccipink3459]

@@wzg8804 omg it's a r/niceguy lol

[@nicklaskristensen5484]

Stu

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

"to the rich guy, to the hot girl" Nah, they're never get rejected.

[@howaadbozil9343]

Rejection hurts more when you were actually in love with that person

[@appiahallan]

💜

[@asianfasian3349]

I’m about to get rejected in an hour 🥲

[@hayden3937]

happened about a week ago for me

[@sufiaayman1888]

@@climaxtv5488 yesterday I confessed well, he said he wasn’t ready for the relationship and stuff and yea got rejected , and also he said can we be best homies , and I said yes ...

[@Mishra.S]

@@asianfasian3349 nice observations Haki dude

[@tdcsgo7646]

When she hits you with that "goodnight, I'm going to sleep". But she's still online for the next hour. Fml dude fr

[@thulasmash2195]

😢 a lot of us have been there.

[@tdcsgo7646]

@@thulasmash2195 Been over a year since I placed this comment, guess who's got a girl now ;D *my best friend* *sad music intensifies*

[@aconite72]

@@tdcsgo7646 Take my advice: Don't do that. The more you focus on every little thing that she's going to do, the worse you're going to feel and more insecure. Don't mind the little signs if you can.

[@lukeskywalkerjediknight2.013]

@@tdcsgo7646F

[@mauludirasyid]

All men fall. But only the greatest one will rise again

[@shoooja]

Yeah but sum suck and can’t

[@drpepperismydad1592]

v8 Wavy for example: me

[@hanadieltom8373]

Then im not a great one

[@savionics5878]

Everyone is Worth it Reject REJECTION kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6vbo4JvYt-AmKM

[@kalpeshsewak6150]

what a line ❤️❤️

[@aarongrubbs5668]

I think this made me feel worse.

[@yikkuru2668]

ouch

[@amanda.paccagnella]

If it made you feel worse you're still in denial

[@harshpherwani6590]

Hard truth to swallow, it’s basically about acceptance.

[@harshpherwani6590]

Amanda F. Paccagnella exactly. It’s very hard but I believe in you, reader.

[@goosebumps000]

how did it make you feel worse?

[@kembooo000]

I literally learnt this whole lecture by heart and keep repeating it to myself each time these bad thoughts start creeping up. It's helping a lot. Take your time to mourn the rekationship end. Kill every hope. Don't give it a moral value. Don't associate it to what you hate about yourself. Learn to stop idealizing people rejecting you and rejecting people who show interzst. Thanks for the wise words

[@PachucoDesigns]

This does no good for those who are consistently rejected every time they try, and regardless of who they approach. And do not give me this "maybe you're going after the wrong type of person" bullshit. Nobody knows what "type of person" they're going after until they do so. That's not how attraction works. You do not get to pick and choose what appeals to you. That's just another way of saying that someone is out of their league and needs to settle. If you have to settle for someone to whom you are not attracted just to escape the perpetual misery of being alone and unwanted, then frankly, you are better off dead.

[@perborjel7928]

So true. And frankly, how low do people want you to aim?

[@geftep3399]

You have to be attractive enough to attract the people you want.

[@carloscjr23]

Men I wish euthanasia was legal in my country.

[@prestonbane4176]

Being alone shouldn't be perpetual misery though. And learning to like more types of people IS a part of living and growing. Eventually everyone needs to kinda try and like the kind of person who likes them. It may be that this is some inconvenient dynamic for you ("hairy bear types seem to love me, but I just can't seem to like that" for example), but it's worth the knowledge of finding that out for sure. And it's true that some people simply are more attractive. Some more than MOST. And this aspect of their lives (dating and mating) will theoretically be easier, or at least they will have more options. Not likely to be rejected by anyone, at least at first. That is their privilege. It doesn't mean their life doesn't suck in other ways, or that they don't suck as a person or never get left or shit on. And, honestly, growing old and losing that easy lovin' will be harder for them. The vast majority of people are average in attractiveness, and we would typically be more appreciative when we find somebody (i.e. being a super enthusiastic lover, giving companion). Those of us who are more average have to shine harder to attract, and have to look harder for our diamonds. Loneliness isn't the ultimate trap. Bitterness is.

[@PachucoDesigns]

@@prestonbane4176 I say again, you do not simply "learn" to be attracted to someone. That's not how attraction works. We do not choose our emotions or our impulses. Either you like someone, or you do not. There is no reasoning with it. There are only convenient justifications to one end or the other, and those justifications appease no one but yourself and your own need to feel like a good person. And when you are evidently deemed unlovable by the rest of your species, you don't "choose" bitterness, either. You either live with it, or you die with it.

[@justegli]

Everything is in our minds. We are strong, we are more powerful than we realize. I have been rejected over and over again, especially in college. And it fucking sucks. I have had social anxiety for as long as I can remember, but that didn't stop me from asking girls out. High school was a nightmare for me. Some girl would approach me every now and then, but I had no idea how to talk to them; I was shy as fuck. I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 25.The relationship lasted for almost a year, until we stopped talking to each other. Needless to say, I was devastated. I felt miserable for months, and at some point I felt like I was losing my shit. Then, one day, I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I decided to join the dating scene again. So far I've been rejected 7 or 8 times, but it doesn't really matter. Rejection is always personal, but I don't take it as such. I choose peace of mind instead; if a girl rejects, it's her loss, not mine. Lately, I've been approaching girls just for the hell of it, a social experiment if you will. I ask them little favors like 'what time is it', or 'can you take a picture of me with my phone', thing like that. And you know what? It works like charm. Me, the guy who couldn't talk to girls in high school, is now asking random girls on the streets to do little favors for him. I know it's not a big deal, but that means a lot to me. Ladies and gentleman, there is hope for everyone. But you gotta take action, now. If you don't take action, you haven't decided at all. Now go slay that dragon- social anxiety, depression, whatever it is. “You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” Marcus Aurelius

[@divadonarres425]

Thanks mate, helps a bit

[@samgills5703]

Thanks Dr. Jeep.

[@justegli]

Divad Onarres Glad I could help, mate.

[@justegli]

Sam Gills You're welcome.

[@ishabhattacharya2887]

Thank you so much.

[@atree88]

Kill all the hope in you. Live life in zombie mode. That is how you get over the notion of people and all that bullshit.

[@mercado6703]

do this if you're weak

[@IceBreaker165]

+Mercado walk around being a sasuke with no expressions yes that'll help

[@mercado6703]

IceBreaker165 Only if you already have a Sakura and like to torture her

[@mrdoubledoors2759]

meh, i dont like existing, i prefer living, enjoy hell and bits of heaven, cuz i aint sure its gonna happen again

[@sedditguy1836]

#Stoicism

[@AdrianJChavez032]

Hopefully I don’t get rejected tomorrow. Wish me luck, I’ll come back to put what happens...

[@AdrianJChavez032]

I got Rejected

[@diegomiranda2139]

Are you feeling okay bud? If not, dont let youslef down you know you find someone who is right for you someday.

[@epicmememan350]

@@AdrianJChavez032 what happend two years later

[@AdrianJChavez032]

@@epicmememan350 Look back at it like a learning experience

[@soniasonu2724]

@@AdrianJChavez032 still commenting after posting ur comments 2 year ago, feel like 😍amazement

[@deniboy6814]

"Think about when you rejected someone" Yeah, I have never rejected anyone. Why? Cuz nobody wants me, I'm the one who's getting rejected.

[@plainsaw3771]

I think that is beceause you don't love yourself and that you aren't aware of how you attract. You do have insecurity . I was like that and thanks I have change

[@alexanderbrewis1859]

I genuinely don't think I'd actually be able to reject anyone at this point lol

[@Heritagepostfarms]

You cant blame someone for how they feel. They cant control it. Whenever im sad, i think about how their is a girl out there that would be honored to be with me. Billions of people on this earth, statistically, you will find someone

[@drunkenrampage1588]

True. If serial killers can get married in prison then anyone can find love.

[@jonahhusak1037]

I can blame them for cheating and lying though

[@EfraKstillo]

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[@margaretmouka5552]

+Jonah Husak true

[@gregmiller9710]

...if you love a thing ...let it go...if it comes back,it's yours..if it doesn't...hunt it down & kill it...

[@zoechr9623]

If you love a balloon let it go, if it comes back , it wasn't a balloon

[@thermalvision203]

Your comment reminded me of a short story by Ray Bradbury called "The Foghorn".

[@sebastianrodriguezserrano993]

damn, I can't remember the last time I laughed in real life with a youtube comment, thank you!

[@gregmiller9710]

Valkyrie Ziege i've already been to the pen.. and i wasn't forced to do any such thing, and i always dropped the soap and told a punk to pick it up...

[@angeloiv4965]

then, I think I used to date a balloon... it never came back... now I guess I have to hunt it down and... pop it lol

[@ApplePi3.1415]

As person who has been rejected at pretty much every stage of my life I am just gonna say one thing. Forget. Being friends is an option but not an option for all of us. Sometimes it still leaves you sad so just forget

[@Maddox.c]

“If love is just a word, then why does it hurt so much if you realize it isn't there? ” -Gaara

[@Gongasoso]

What about "How to reject someone with minimal damage"? Don't recoil back. Hug them. Let them talk and open up, there are things they have been wanting to tell you for a long time. Let them. Value their feelings. Lack of empathy is not reasonable here, because this situation is not about you. Your feelings aren't as intense. Show that you are touched, but be very clear if you feel like it could never happen. Be as honest as possible about the why you feel like that too...

[@glisero4043]

When She rejected me I liked her even more for giving me a straight answer. "Finally someone who knows what she wants!" - I thought. I've never hated someone for not loving me.

[@rizfingerstyle1103]

👍

[@plainsaw3771]

@African Sun that is exactly me

[@therealsoulbringer]

Sometimes it is good to be rejected. It breaks the illusion barrier earlier and makes you question yourself and the person who rejected you. Else you can hardly notice your own negative traits and your crush's ones which may cause a bigger disappointment and conflict. Noone should take the rejection emotionally. It is a lesson we can learn from, not a misfortune to get lost in emotional storm.

[@montee-vh7mr]

I needed this video. Today I was rejected by crush, it was my first time ever confessing in person as well. Needles to say I was extremely hurt, not surprised I was prepared, but in the back of my mind I didnt actually know how much it would hurt, how much I'd cry. The worst part was that all he said was "okay" which I understood, even at the time when I wanted to start sobbing that he probably just did not know what to say. I later got a text from him saying that hes sorry he replied in that way and that if im fine with it, we can still be friends. Initially I was mad at seeing the message, mad that he hadnt just been a huge dick (because I guess I thought it would be easier for me????), but now I realize how fortunate I am to not have my heart ripped into pieces even more than it already was. Anyways, to anyone who may ever read this, cry it out. You will feel better, even if you still think about it constantly. and dont think tht you did something wrong, dont think that you couldve done something better, dont think that you're ugly, stupid, unlikeable, etc. I know it's hard, and I'm hypocritical for aying that but it's the truth. The truth is that it is not your fault for just confessing how you feel.

[@Raw_naq]

2:42 "have a few rounds of casual sex" Exactly, but where to get that?

[@peetranic]

I think you can get some at Walmart

[@gangstashanksta]

lol

[@Raw_naq]

***** can you get some for me? i still couldn't find any

[@dochmbi]

Well, there's amazing resources on youtube, just look up daygame, real social dynamics, or social freedom. Great stuff everywhere

[@dochmbi]

Yeah didn't he. Me I've been working on getting laid recently and it's been really fullfilling and fun. I joined a group of guys who do daygame in my city. I'd recommend watching videos on game, whether you like nightgame, daygame or online game depends on your personal preference. I've been going out now three times, for four hours each, chatting up all sorts of people I run into during the day. Fun conversations, interesting people, lots of excitement, and girls numbers and dates. It's awesome!

[@amicst]

Basically don't dramatize and move on

[@FootballShorts-bh8jj]

amicst it's harder than it looks like :(

[@nishilbhartiya]

Easier said than done.

[@liltdog6527]

just keep trying

[@TechReviewTom]

It’s hard when you’re younger, but if you just go for it and stop romanticizing everything about the other person it’s not painful. If you idolize them and build up the moment and become scared of rejection it will eat you alive. You eventually become numb to it. Shit I’ve been rejected like uhh a million times and have had short relationships. I used to bend over backwards to try and be everything the other person could want to eliminate rejection but this is exhausting and a waste of time and energy. At this point after rejection the pain felt will be up to me and how much value I place on myself and the person who rejected me. That’s all up to me. I’m awesome, I own myself, I was myself and i was authentically rejected. This is much better than being fake and being loved for someone I’m not. I feel fulfilled right now, why? I was myself, I asked her out and she turned me down, I did exactly what I wanted to do and I don’t feel bad about it, why? Fulfillment comes from fully owning yourself and responding to your desires and taking risks. It also comes from valuing yourself and treating yourself well even when you want to beat yourself up as if it’s your fault she rejected you. Give me a break. It’s a crazy request if you think about it, “I want you to accept all of me, I want you to love me and give me worth, I want you to fill in all my free time and make myself better, I want you to fulfill my sexual desire.” It’s a crazy request, and just because we now have access to see every possible human we could date, doesn’t mean it changed from the original number of people you should be with. One. You just have to find one. That’s it. Now it’s easier because you have one less girl to filter through until you find the right match. It’s all good. Keep your head up.

[@nishilbhartiya]

Tom Cunnington that actually made me feel better. Thanks!

[@DaCasualMMA]

I watched this while heartbroken, and a year later now I'm over the hill. It sounds and feels different at both stages..... I don't know who needs to hear it but you'll be ok

[@ronaksaxena8913]

i wish she would have loved me like i loved her.

[@snicker_38gaming]

He* but same

[@Cherry-gl6vs]

Same, it hurts so bad I can't hide the pain anymore

[@princessofpower4862]

Same. He was exactly what I wanted completely in love with him but he rejected me and said we shouldn't see each other again. The pain doesn't go away for 3 days now but I know I'll get over it and only remember it as a bad memory later on

[@KingNothin18]

so I expressed my feelings to my crush and got rejected today, this sucks man

[@DineteThomas]

Me too..

[@KingNothin18]

Damn bro completely forgot about this comment from 3 years ago, stick your head up my guy someone better will recognize the heart in ya

[@DineteThomas]

Thank you so much, I appreciate this comment!

[@nklb3496]

I feel u, i got rejected from my crush 2 hours ago lol

[@kviolin1313]

@@nklb3496 same

[@aibunog]

I can´t choose what I love more about this channel: the animations or the lessons. Thank you for everything!

[@get1up2and3dance]

both are awfull

[@johnarmstrong5866]

Thanks for letting us know your views Alex. We hold out hope that you might enjoy some of our other videos a bit more.

[@kristelpopovic3473]

+Alex Serbin good

[@get1up2and3dance]

kristel popovic very nice

[@sedditguy1836]

It's a threeway :))

[@canigetayeehaw3309]

When you take months to work up the courage to ask someone out and they block you...

[@2badyourmad133]

I've gone through a lot of rejections in my short 20 years on this earth, and for all you teenagers out there. Love hurts but it will never kill you unless you give up. Never give up. I don't care if she says that if she hadn't just got out of a relationship and wasn't looking for one? Don't believe that. We all know it's just an easy way of saying I don't like you. And it hurts , it really does and I still haven't gotten over one of my last rejections even after three years. But when they knock you down. Stand back up and be proud, proud that you had the courage to try, that yoh had the courage to make something happen. Whether what happens is bad or good. Just don't take it to hard. Depression sucks being someone that lived through it. If I hadn't had a good one come along and pull me out of it. I probably wouldn't be here. But the fact that I am? Is what matters

[@workinprogress25]

Thank you so, so much for everything... This might be the first time I get to comment early enough that you (School of Life) might actually see this... Your videos have been easing me into a massive paradigm shift, a way to come to terms with all sides of myself and reconcile them. Perhaps the most concrete useful thing you have taught me is not to dwell on the unchangeable(maybe you could make a video on that). Having anxiety disorder and depression, I often hit myself against a wall of unsolvable, out of my control events. I'm learning how to discern it and upon really measuring what's within my control, I've found that I have way more mental energy to deal with way less. I've been helping others a lot, too. SoL found its way through all of us in some way or to some extent, and all of our lives are just that bit better for it. I couldn't thank you enough :)

[@emilemchew]

+The School of Life you guys timed this pretty well considering things in my life recently...

[@zelial3]

the same, the same...

[@olgaorange]

Same here - couldn't have been uploaded at a more appropriate time

[@astromec6303]

+The School of Life I like the imagery you use (verbally and visually) you could actually have an attempt at writing books or poems. I just wonder though, how long does it take you to make one of these videos (from idea to outcome)?

[@alienslovepeanuts]

I was the 100th thumb, much love to all of you and wish you the best on this journey of life..

[@nayanmistry1618]

I keep watching this video over and over to get over my ex who fell out of love with me out of nowhere. This is such a good guide and is helping me so much. Happy Valentine's Day everybody

[@narakaren2571]

Are u over forever now?

[@nayanmistry1618]

@@narakaren2571 I went through a weird journey which took me a long time to heal. I don't think I'll ever be over what happened but like the video says, you bore yourself back into an appetite for life again and you need to do the right things to distance yourself from the pain so that you can welcome new things into your life :). One important thing this video mentions is that you shouldn't think that their previous kindness means that they may ever come back. This shit is poison and will only halt your healing!!! I appreciate that that was more of an answer than you bargained for xD

[@milli4861]

It happens...happend to me, so I broke up with my bf. But let me say it still hurt me very much to end things and even more that he didn't accept it.

[@takeshi4982]

Out of nowhere is another person.

[@thedon22z]

Dame, I am in the same boat now after 13years..smh!

[@HallyIsMe]

I watched this video years ago when I was in middle school. In my communications class we had a unit about emotions and was reminded of this video. This video seriously changed how I processed my emotions and understood the world. This is such a well crafted video and want to say thank you for posting it!

[@fuagoclan8800]

Who else is watching this while you are crying 😭🥺

[@moralesenchantedbuilds]

I just got rejected lmao

[@CharlesRexBeedy]

How to get over rejection: Realize that happiness and self-fulfillment is something ONLY YOU control and that seeking companionship is entirely separate from finding you're own joy in life.

[@adlofheltirchiefadvisortot40]

CharlesRexBeedy its true... people confuse "NEED" with "want" alot and thats why they often get rejected. Its a vicious circle... When it seems you don't need someone in your life, ironically thats when people want to know you... when you look like you need someone- becoming needy- people run.

[@zuhairreza]

@@adlofheltirchiefadvisortot40 Totally! It's a lesson I'm still learning at 27. But, all in due time..

[@vojtechmihulka9369]

@@adlofheltirchiefadvisortot40 You summed it up perfectly, I would say.

[@mrdjpalmer1]

"Negotiating with pain with a measure of reason belongs to the art of living" Did you just come up with this brilliant quote?

[@AllHomesteading]

So good!

[@staceepiasecki3728]

How is that brilliant? There are 3x more words than are necessary to get the point across... And of course it's perceived as "wisdom." Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight!

[@RishabhGKoenigseggRegera]

The art of quoting isn't about efficiency and being concise. It is about how it meddles with the brain's point of view

[@freddiemercury2075]

@ The School Of Life ye know, you guys should start writing lyrics and making music videos. Love the animations :)

[@padrianofficial5101]

you can't reject pain. you can only accept it.

[@cassandraellis8578]

This was EXACTLY what I needed right now! It’s so true… there is really nothing to do but cry and move on. It is actually over and any more time spent is yet more time wasted. A half-relationship is not worth having, and is so damaging. Much better to be free for someone actually available, and to learn to respect ourselves enough to never accept less❤

[@alana2860]

My crush asked if I was serious I said yes and she left me on read I've been crying for an hour at least and can't stop

[@fieryspidervenom4653]

dam u good tho

[@leaBABYYY]

probs need to watch this a couple more times though

[@tintenblau3648]

haha same! *cry*

[@royprotocol]

just been doing that

[@Molove81]

My third time now, keep watching till I get over the pain

[@theknup]

Your timing sometimes is haunting, School Of Life. I just broke up some hours ago and there were things in this video I really needed to hear. Thank you for this, really.

[@BroCactus]

to be fair, they have 1.1 million subscribers. On any given day one of them if not more are experiencing break ups.

[@theknup]

+Bob Saget Sure they do, but let's not break the magic (and great timing for me).

[@theknup]

+The School of Life Much love to you guys

[@aoyenngoc502]

7 years already and I hope you are happier in life :)

[@bokey777]

Thank you. I wasn't explicitly dropped- the person I invested a lot of expections in, before everythin even started, seems to have moved on to someone else, but keeps close contact with me. This is really what I needed to hear, it applies perfectly. So, thank you for helping me understand and proces the situation and my own emotions.

[@GamingCarmelo]

When you talked about thinking about the people youve rejected has helped me thank you

[@GiaTheSweetPotato]

"The only relationship worth mourning would be one to which two people desperately wanted to belong" O_O omg thank you! I never thought of it that way before. that changes everything

[@Dober788]

Fuck, this really hit me hard and deep.

[@Dober788]

That was a really poor choice of words.

[@theelawless7600]

+Gaby Meléndez but it made me laugh so cheers!

[@clipsjack7080]

that's not very revolutionary in therms of resolving the problem of rejection .to feel less rejected.

[@LambertBowden56]

good

[@tippyandfriend]

Very eloquent, wise, and succinct. This 3ish minutes is exactly what I needed to hear. Brilliant. :)

[@jasonbaptista2572]

Who else came here because of a broken heart and instead fell in love this mans voice?

[@pastelprincess1107]

Just got rejected by a boy - really needed this, thank you! Timing couldn't have been more perfect.

[@harsh2000tiwari]

have u moved on now? it's been 4 yrs

[@sydniebush6490]

@@harsh2000tiwari yes i don’t even remember who the guy was LOL i’m 19 now

[@djchonny]

I´m so lost right now... She was my first true love, the one that you just cannot do any harm, no matter the impulses or instics. True unselfish love. So many women would be happy with 10% of what I gave and I felt like she broke up with me because she was afraid I would break up with her in the future. How fucked up is that? Now I know the glass is broken, and as you said in the video it´s fucking over, no amount of glue can make these work. Thank you so much for the videos, I´m still picking up the pieces.

[@rebeccanascimento8234]

date me

[@djchonny]

Sorry, I´m a robot now... can´t feel shit :( I might be off the market forever...

[@rebeccanascimento8234]

+Larrechard Juan Ignacio Gonzalez time to watch the video again then :( hahaha

[@djchonny]

Welcome to Hell :D

[@rebeccanascimento8234]

hahaha thanks man

[@norahkiereri4085]

Thank you...needed this message spoken in exactly this tone of voice

[@aoyenngoc502]

I have to listen to this video every single morning to remind me of boring myself back into an appetite of life. Shedding tears. Feeling blue. And move on with other works. "Despite some promising signals" and date plans initiated by the other, I am rejected. How fast the table could turn is still irritating to me, yet I know for sure there is no satisfying closure that can carry away the sorrow I'm bearing. And I have stopped looking for one. Expect something, still heartbroken. Not expect anything, still heartbroken. Many thanks to the School of life for being my therapist at weepy moments!

[@ashris]

I got a reject from a grad school and it hurts me more than if a lover had rejected me. Yet, the video still helps. Thanks School of Life!

[@Chillnote]

Still painful af

[@JoyJoy-oc7su]

KRYMauL obviously being in pain matters

[@aminechei8509]

@@JoyJoy-oc7su but then u remember that u'll forget about it just like you forgot about that day when everybody laughed at you in class . You don't have to worry about what happened in the past ,perhaps you need to focus on approving yourself .

[@thathistoryfam794]

Yes I’ve never recovered

[@maxwellkane1416]

PAIN is what I feel. That pain is my heart telling me I loved u, I used to hate that pain but now I’m proud of it cuz I know I tried❤️

[@jackwatson5502]

Crushes don't attract you They CRUSH you

[@TsarOfRuss]

Somebody send the video to Jorah Mormont , Khalesi is still crushing his soul

[@proudnoob124]

I'm personally done with trying to date girls. I've been rejected my entire life by every single girl I've asked out, I've never been approached romantically, and noone has shown any interest in me - it is time I face the fact that I'm one of the many that will simply live and die alone.

[@dwupus8661]

No. Cutie. Don't do it

[@mariaslei]

Did get around thinking that way, was it really true ?

[@plainsaw3771]

So what about now?

[@proudnoob124]

@@plainsaw3771 I was so wrong and have become a man whore. God is a comedian and I'm the poorly told joke

[@realnapster1522]

Arranged marriage? 😅

[@tequilaandoreos]

This video hit me like a brick wall, it hit home so so many times. This made me feel so much better. Thank you.

[@ShiverZZZ666]

Took me a while but I pulled myself back together again. I'm glad I didn't end up with him cuz gosh I could do so much better. He had alot of flaws that I overlooked when I was blinded with love. God saved me😄😄💕💕

[@liz8597]

I needed this. thankyou

[@loginsignout5976]

dade

[@isaaccasey1414]

+login sign out what's for breakfast dade

[@loginsignout5976]

+RunHao okay bye

[@liz8597]

why are you all so cancerous. I was only thanking SOL because I can relate

[@mee091000]

+shaioee Well your profile pic combined with the comment probably inspired a lot of it. I don't even think I've ever seen a profile pic of someone screaming before LMAO!

[@Yommi20000]

I rejected a girl once... I was in love with her but wanted to stay friends because i was scared. I felt really bad for her because she liked me too

[@wisteria1739]

I know it's been 5 years but did you tell her that you feel the same or you just did not tell her that you felt the same when you rejected her?

[@kaundinya1817]

Love the artwork.. and it's a beautiful message to share.. thanks school of life!

[@Jords250]

Hello, random person scrolling down the comment section, if you feel sad, well don't be, because there's plenty more fish in the sea 😃

[@milli4861]

Actually there's less and less fish in the sea😬, like.. literally

[@EddyMarvelous]

shit this hits home. now i feel like a dick for making my last ex feel bad for breaking up with me. RIP

[@vankai6817]

rest in pepperoni

[@lukeskywalkerjediknight2.013]

@@vankai6817”Rest In Phallustein”

[@andrewmills8861]

Casual sex in no way helps a person get over someone.

[@andrewmills8861]

Casual sex in NO WAY helps a person get over a breakup!

[@mee091000]

+Andrew Mills I don't think this video is really helping anyone out. It's not telling anyone anything they don't already know. It's just Placebo effect at it's literal finest.

[@IceBreaker165]

your right, it will make it worse, give the person strong feelings

[@Dantick09]

I tried and it doesn't work, it ends up being awfully bad sex because you will keep thinking about the person you are trying to forget

[@TheTravinch]

It's amazing I watched this 7 years ago and it was so hard to follow the tips when I was rejected, rejection used to touch me on a personal level and I reacted so badly to it, nowadays it's so easy to accept a rejection without feeling lower down and pity about myself, and am able to follow and interiorice the tips without flinching. Practice makes perfect guys.

[@zoeas_if]

So, I'm in the 7th Grade and I liked this guy from the 6th Grade. I knew it wasn't going to work, but I held on to hope. I liked home so much that it hurt. I didn't know why, and I didn't know how, but my small crush grew into an obsession. I was doing terrible in school, being mean to my friends and just generally stopped being myself, for reasons I still don't know yet. I finally broke down in front of my bff, and she helped me be myself again, though I still liked him. I was too afraid of rejection, of heartbreak, that I never told him how I felt. Now, after about 6 months, I'm over him. We still skate outside together and I realized just how pathetic my obsession was, how pathetic I was being. But not being able to tell him felt like rejection in its own way. It hurt, and still kind of does. If anyone can give advice, I'll gladly accept it.

[@KilleRoy_NL]

This sounds more like a break up to me, which is also rejection in a way, of course, but I usually think of getting turned down when thinking about the word "rejection", so the video's a tad different than I expected.

[@Gregoryzaniz]

english terminology :-)

[@BettyAlexandriaPride]

Yeah, that makes sense actually.

[@niloufar9073]

My thoughts, exactly.

[@alfredmohammed3590]

Agreed

[@Tombee2]

yup

[@logicreason3231]

Everybody rejects me. I'm 28, a virgin, never kissed, had sex, and had very few friends. I would kill myself but I don't have the courage

[@Dantick09]

I am on the same boat as you :(

[@Lancemaker]

money + muscles. its hard but it will build both self confidence and self love. work hard.

[@Dantick09]

Lies, FILTHY LIES! I am a well of law student and aspiring firefighter on the side. I am super fit and still no gf. Women don't care about those things

[@oasisneko1]

Logic: What you need is not sex or kissing or any of that. What you need is more contact with people. If you know people and if you have solid friendships, you won't feel that you are a "virgin". There are lots of people who have sex and ever grow up. Growing up means suffering and getting through it.

[@WallerSon]

I'm almost in the same boat. I've never been overly anti-social and generally get along with everyone, but I spent so much time not actively pursuing new people in my life that now, at 27, that snapback is beyond the most crippling, sinking feeling I've ever experienced. I feel like all I've managed in my lifetime is this pathetic little grave of a social environment.

[@arikira7888]

This video increased the quality of my perception on life. Well done.

[@apeman6059]

Rejections from Girls hurt Way Worse when It Constantly Happens to You and Been Single Eversince you Was Born 😥

[@cataleyadiazdelbosque3685]

I needed this today after being rejected. I had to ask if they just weren't that into me and they answered honestly and respectfully. It hurts, yes, but at least I had the courage to go with my gut and find out earlier instead of later! I can't be friends with them though. It would hurt to see them with someone else.

[@skunkberg1]

I never rejected one person. I've only been rejected. therefore all that I can conclude is that I'm right at the bottom, the most undatable person I suppose. and slowly im coming to terms with and soon I wont mind that...

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

i feel that way more often than i might like to admit. though i have technically rejected a couple people, but those were only females online that i just wasn't interested in and doubt my rejecting them had any effect on their lives. though i suppose this video is saying that's how it is for everyone lol. anyway i always feel unloveable, but i suppose i wouldn't know as i've never really tried

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

Lol same. I never rejected anyone but I never got accepted by anyone either. But who cares, it's just what it is. I'm just gonna focus on positive aspects of life.

[@Bounts_]

@@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 That's a great way of thinking man, I wish you well.

[@adlofheltirchiefadvisortot40]

i usually find listening to the smiths " i know its over" several times while punching myself in the nuts helps

[@ilsospetto5142]

Listening as I read this comment

[@PassportRav]

KZbin is such a wonderful place for guidance and info.

[@BunnyUK]

Honestly, just. don't. bother. with. relationships. They cost you time, money & emotions. Find fulfilment in other things, but don't look for happiness in relationships because you will suffer sooner or later, and you will wish you hadn't bothered in the first place.

[@yousifmansour4307]

I find that so completely wrong

[@Beinglilas]

I find this completely true. Don't except too much from anyone and never associate happiness with people.

[@watchmojoenespanol4150]

this is damn true. I tought myself the same thing a time ago and now I live better. peace

[@BunnyUK]

If you're not in a relationship, then you don't face being rejected from it, simple. Nobody will ever care more about you, than you. Be your own best friend and you won't need anyone else to lean on.

[@CourtneyHermary]

I've been learning about attachment theory and I couldn't help but notice a connection. There are essentially 4 adult attachment patterns, fitting into quadrants: secure (optimistic about self, optimistic about others), dismissive-avoidant (optimistic about self, pessimistic about others), fearful-avoidant (pessimistic about self, pessimistic about others), and anxious-preoccupied (pessimistic about self, optimistic about others), the last three of which are considered insecure attachment patterns. You can read about the dismissive-avoidant attachment yourself, it sounds a lot like what you're saying. If you think this sort of thinking isn't beneficial for you, then I hope this information is useful. Peace.

[@aquanticryan4668]

Whoever made this video, thank you. You are doing a great thing for the heart-broken. Keep up with the good work. The world needs more people like you.

[@LeeReed1975000]

Honestly having that definite answer can help you move on. Rejection definitely sucks though. I ended up having feeling for my friend, and i didn't want to, but everytime I stopped it seemed like i fell deeper. The only choice i had was to tell him how I felt, in hopes of rejection so i could focus on our friendship. But that doesn't mean the rejection doesn't hurt, but I'm grateful that we both want the friendship and I can move on to finding the guy God has for me. Just keep your head up, surround yourself with people you love, do things you love, and go through the moments, and be nice to yourself. You can't control how others feel. And lastly, Feel, because once you do your one step closer to healing.

[@static1330]

L after L after L. That's just what my life is and i'm sick of it. i'm tired of always losing.

[@randomness4272]

^

[@lukeskywalkerjediknight2.013]

@@randomness4272^

[@gieperz6804]

"Rememeber the times when you have rejected people" "Never happened😂"

[@kaseybrown7664]

How to get over rejection? Don't. Let the anger flow through you. Let it make you stronger.

[@Bloons69]

good point

[@doveko2007]

Sorry but that was edgy.. Btw keeping negative emotions in yourself is bad

[@ryadh456]

🤣 You sounded like Palpatine there!

[@wolfpack6321]

It is totally wrong,I tried it,I you won't get over if you try doing it.

[@alperenturk8010]

I opened up to a good friend of mine.Told her that i liked her more than just a friend and being rejected sucked. I knew it was going to pass but it didnt felt like it. This video really helped me. Thank you so much for all the videos and this one specially!

[@karatrott7497]

Incredible videos. Life changing. I recommend watching most on repeat.