How to Handle Hurt Feelings in a Relationship, Quickly (Not what you think)

[@alivepartner]

Such a powerful reminder that while we can't control others, we can always choose to grow through our pain, setting boundaries that protect our self-worth and resilience.

[@JaysonGaddis]

:)

[@roxannrichards9943]

Really good

[@marystele1197]

Deep heart feelings is where real llove can be found and lives. Not having them is the difference between really living life and not living life. They are the essence of you and your purpose in life. ❤❤❤

[@JaysonGaddis]

feel 'em

[@Mikelk71]

Well, such a timely message that we always need to hear, especially as a man. Where I was taught to suppress or to act out, but not to feel. My work now with the help of a therapist is to feel those feelings within my body and let those deep feelings to be realized, release, and for me embrace , just as you’re saying. Thank you for your message.

[@JaysonGaddis]

thanks for listening and feeling!

[@anneovis6135]

I am already crying after watching! Thank you -- very honest video!!

[@JaysonGaddis]

for sure, share the love!

[@jodywebster2592]

This is very much me...I have had no repair, no luxury, just more conflict when trying to repair. 2 years of it. So yes, I'm shut down. And if feels awful, but it's safe. I want to be connected more deeply. He doesn't seem to know how.

[@JaysonGaddis]

Ouch. you deserve more

[@robinsoifer150]

Thank you for this 🙏

[@JaysonGaddis]

You're welcome!

[@michael_canton]

Great message. On it!

[@JaysonGaddis]

nice

[@yinchimoon]

What you said at the beginning about kids and hurt feelings I think also applies. We get hurt in relationships and most of us haven't learned how to do the sorting out with the person who hurt us. We think it will go badly or we don't know how or we are so caught up in our distress we are unable to really hear the other person's point of view. Personally I see the temporary withdrawal being about getting really clear of the difference between historic hurt belonging elsewhere and the current situation - has this person behaved badly towards you. So that you are not projecting your mother onto your partner. etc Ie is it a boundary issue and can that be addressed with this person or do you need to understand your own historic behaviour better maybe with a therapist and in the process of doing that your feelings will naturally flow. This thing about getting back in the dating pool before you really understand your own historical traumas and conditioning around relationships, I think is avoidance myself and sets up repeated patterns. Terry Real is a great practical resource on youtube in talking about relationship issues and particularly interested in men who experience supression of feelings ie depression via addiction etc.

[@JaysonGaddis]

thank you

[@gorantomas]

This is such an important message and a skill to learn, as many people just don't know how to release emotions and that it is important to do so... So thanks for making this video!

[@JaysonGaddis]

agreed! welcome

[@dramirezg70]

This was very sweet and empowering. Hope lots of men with depressed emotions take on your call.

[@JaysonGaddis]

great

[@johnrainsman6650]

This isn't exactly about a "relationship," but it does involve someone who disres pected me and made me feel fooIish. Can I share my story and context and hear your advice?