How To Handle Shame About Sexual Desires? | Sadhguru

[@hunk261]

"Be the driver of your life, not driven by some compulsions." What an idea to lead our life process!! Thank you Sadhguru for all your wisdom to transform human beings🙏

[@madhavwadavi]

When one consciously handles the four basic instincts Food, Sex, Sleep and Death consciously, they can be called Human Beings : Sadhguru ❤

[@diwashshrestha5518]

How to handle death?

[@mohdfarzankhan991]

@@diwashshrestha5518 kya krega jeekay maza arha hai kya jeekay

[@anirudh9900]

I'm so thankful that Sadhguru has spoken sexuality more. I felt that I needed a bit more guidance. Hopefully with this I will become the driver. Thank You Isha Volunteers for making this available to the public. It's a blessing to have Sadhguru in this lifetime to guide us.

[@vshnram5745]

Sadhguruji made me feel, that Im doing my best to grow spiritually and all we have to do is to master our mind and senses like how we've learnt to bike or drive better. They say that anger, emotions are measure sticks to know how attached we are to our body. The more water of self love and devotion we pour into a tea/coffee stained cup, it'll eventually become a clean cup and transparent water. So let's go on with our sadhana. A rock might break on 20th blow, but that doesn't mean the previous 19 blows were useless! No, they were very important in building our strength and reaching our different stages and goals.✨🙏✨

[@yellove484]

Nothing to feel ashamed off , it's natural instinct . Society pressure makes u hide , n not express openly . Within ur mind u can analyse it n find to fulfill it . Gradually u will evolve to conduct yourself consciously n seek the higher self n find peace ❤ ❤❤❤❤

[@jack-e-designs]

I think it’s only expected he talk about this as it’s energy if coupled with heart energy or just an act it’s energy it flows through us and he’s right about primals if you deny a hunger you risk bingeing . I think restraint is something some people should learn. 💗

[@benjese7047]

​@@yellove484I felt ashame of when I felt into sexual instinct but this is giving me a great wisdom on how to handle it. I got what I needed. Thanks too ❤❤❤

[@venkatramannarayanan915]

​@@benjese7047 The very realisation and its acceptance gives great relief. Don't you think so......

[@abhishekmahanta1112]

Blind Western culture adoption is destroying a large number of youth in our country, thank you so much Sadhguru for showing us the light of truth. A human being can do everything consciously 🙏

[@swaushort]

We blame West for everything, are we making our choices, or they? If anything, Science and technology develop in the West to a larger extent, if they gave themselves up to senses, they would never attain that. Whereas we claiming to know everything, never give up our sensual drives, for more active pursuits.

[@rdog421]

“Blind western culture adoption”? In India women are gang raped and treated like animals so I wouldn’t try and blame “western culture “ for your own culture’s animal like shortcomings!

[@bnravindra1989]

Understanding the limited nature of things is the key🙏

[@Punarjagran]

rather finding something which is not limited, a better substitute.. than grammer to banish urge mere

[@Dee-kk8pe]

Harsh Universal truth 🙏

[@karthikv5521]

Shambo, don't know what good deeds we have done in our past life to hear such great deep insights

[@nagaphanikumar5411]

4:30 to 4.40......oh my god....only sadhguru can tell like this ....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I really bow to his feet with all my gratitude

[@discord_and_entropy]

Absolutely! So many people I know act like sex is not real, despite loving to do it mindlesly. They become something and then it doesn't matter to them. But to be present with your lover as you were the whole time you were meeting, eating, sleeping working, playing, bonding with them, and having a continual line of continuity in the relationship throughout the sex makes it as real as it should be. Like an extension of cuddling.

[@Flippeflop]

•There"s so much I could say and elaborate on however I'll keep it simple: I so appreciate Sadhguru's humor specifically relating to sexuality. ~Embracing your sexuality is such a beautiful feeling. It's the flowing of juices enmeshing through your veins.Yet the key is to channel your energy into ways which do not consciously affect yourself. Exactly Own it and be your own driver. 🏵️

[@ARPITSHRIAPRIL2289]

Elaborate on the processes to be adopted to become driver from being driven

[@Ram-nd8cb]

What he meant is, you can be driver of you life which means you decide where to go or being driven by instincts or mind compulsions or life situations.

[@tina74166]

Beautifully said ~ 💞

[@explorer.samrat]

A much needed discussion for today's obsessive youths. 😊

[@jayasrivastava8053]

"Today's"??

[@ARPITSHRIAPRIL2289]

But he didn't talk about the process to act consciously and in spirituality

[@jayasrivastava8053]

😂 That in your own context

[@jayasrivastava8053]

7:45

[@BallsOfSteel2310]

Not youth even all ages

[@madhusudhank5193]

Wonderful words! Be the driver, not be driven. This idea will definitely help one in becoming a conscious response from being a instinctive reaction

[@Yetipfote]

2:39 he's speaking to us, men of culture!

[@Mankemista]

Lmao didn’t know I’d have find another MOC here 😂

[@lolong5976]

Lol. Please don't associate Sadhguru and his teachings to your perverted men of culture bs. Whenever yall want to seggsualise women, y'all brush off your creepy comments under the label of mEn oF cULtuRe 🤡

[@shaleensingh3896]

😂

[@raymondtendau2749]

ON BODY Body means different things to different people. For a child, the body and its functions are unfamiliar and new. A child is coming to terms with the body's basic functions and is learning how to maintain and preserve it. For the youth the body is a vehicle fuelled by hormones and all it takes to Hijack the attention of the youth is Handsome face or Svelt body. For someone in the middle age, the body begins to reveal it's true quality, transient and temporary. Limbs, organs and parts of the body one's unworthy of notice now begins to nag and demand consideration. For the Old, body means Pain and difficulty. -Sadhguru

[@upschelpers]

Thank you Sadhguru. You're my breath. No one in this world understand my inner questions other than you. I'm so lucky to have you within me.

[@shantanuagarwal5789]

How's he within you?

[@anandmehto5595]

​@@shantanuagarwal5789 😂😂

[@kapindrasinghrajpoot8779]

​@@shantanuagarwal5789you need much conscience to understand it ❤

[@tselisoncholu7914]

I love when he says,we are "human beings and everything can be done through choice".lt is not about orientation or religion etc.It can't be labeled if you are born with it.lt is your existence.Hurry❤.

[@polinagrein1681]

Where there is Love, there are Relationships!❤

[@BeatsByQue]

I hope someone doesn't misinterpret this and think: "I guess instead of doing it in shame, I should do it in pride" that's still a compulsion.

[@MinglingwithAI]

Excellent point that you addressed Sadhguru! Beautiful explanation of a topic thats still considered taboo! Pranaam

[@Agastya_Muni]

Ofcourse all those humans who are in dis-ease are sexually transmitted dis-ease😂! Sadhguru's Humour is unmatchable 😊

[@pranavshah32]

He thinks he's a comedian 😅

[@shijuk8478]

That's a Wonderful Answer

[@thorrex]

No, he said every person is a sexually transmitted disease. Don't make it look morally bad.

[@Agastya_Muni]

@@thorrex but I can assume that someone who's at ease cannot be dis-ease, it's implicit 😄. So even though we all start our lives being a dis-ease, our aims should be to be at ease at all times!

[@JUSTINthisworld828]

Hari Hari guru-dev, I love that he knows exactly what to say. 5 years has been so short a time, in 5 mins he changed my life. Now anytime I have fear, I think of the love of the guru.

[@swatiyadav2671]

Only You can put an absolute perspectives on sexuality Sadhguru ❤❤❤🙇🙇🙇 others either glorify it or condemn it

[@ssbsathish]

He is conscious in his thoughts 🤔

[@BlackPanther44549]

I glorify it evry day why i do that iam sou dumb i say it too me evry time until my brain understandst i dont more want too masturbaite any more

[@Tomara710]

Very true... intimate relationships can be conducted with the highest of dignity in a sacred bond. Being bombarded with sexual images and perverse ideology which makes no control the preferred way is designed to undermine all that is good .

[@anveshavyas450]

Very true

[@jabalatiwari6497]

Sadhguru advice touches the heart🙏🙏🙏

[@piyushjaiswal9283]

Chant Hanuman chalisa 12 times daily for 6 months without a single day break. You will have superb self control.

[@anveshavyas450]

Very true.।। Human have self consciousness, spiritually connecting God consiousness which animals don't have .।। Knowing thyself as brahman Or pure consciousness is the key to brahmacharya.।।

[@ssuvigya]

Thank you Sadhguru for sharing your profound wisdom and insights. Your teachings have truly transformed my perspective on life and inspired me to be a better version of myself. Your clarity and depth of understanding are truly remarkable. I am grateful and blessed to be in your presence. 😇😇😇 🙏

[@26rushabh]

Sadhguru has very nicely explained about what is truly needed to us in our life to be happy and blossom

[@DJQ401]

Responsibility is the greatest asset you can ever carry ❤

[@shankargouthamayapilla]

Me too a stock market trader

[@rajkumaralagar4828]

Thank you Sadhguru for guiding youth in the right direction❤

[@krishnalagar]

Hi raj

[@RakeshKumar-yb8zn]

Well said guru ji. Even I also faced such things in my young age. I was behind my aim and my surroundings was saying to me that I am abnormal as I was not behind sexuality like those sexual seekers 😁🙏

[@kishorek2807]

Very much needed insight about the most compulsive thing that is going on right now 🙏

[@annika_0702]

Satsang is a great place to sleep 😂😂 I remember my mother when she was doing her Yoga classes. One day, the instructor was teaching the ladies Yog Nidra. They were to be laid down and meditate (kind of like Narayana Vasudev is portrayed). My mother experienced a mystical feeling during the process which she still can't explain till today. She said her whole body felt like a stone and she couldn't move it. It was like "leaving" the body as she had reached some other dimension of consciousness. The thought of that scared her so much she opened her eyes with a start. She was bittersweet at the feeling of coming back, but nonetheless the feeling of the unknown can scare any human being. But the most funny part was when she looked around to see that almost all the ladies had fallen asleep (some were even snoring loudly) and the instructor lady was facepalming herself 😂😂😂

[@tina74166]

😄

[@3Merlin]

Namaskaram, Sadhguru! I bow down to your wisdom. Thank you for the definition of spiritual process...

[@sumitkulhari...3376]

We all are blessed with this wise man, and we are grateful for that🌸🙏🦋🌱

[@vivekanandturamari3952]

Namaskaragalu Sadhguru 👋🎈 Lot's of love from BELAGAVI KARNATAKA 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@suklapaksa8643]

Thank you, Sadhguruji, for your words of wisdom on this topic.

[@cheddarurchin3844]

Great Question. Answer: Enjoy Sexual Pleasure. Once you realize Sexual Pleasure gives you bliss, joy and happiness you have no reason to label it what it's not. Shame, comes from somewhere else. Most likely a place of fear and confusion. Once you realize sexual pleasure is beneficial to the human experience, you don't have to fear it. But to participate with consenting adults.

[@bhairabsau3076]

Yes, absolutely right!

[@Agent-_47]

Absolute misinterpretation

[@AnantMall]

@@Agent-_47 what misrepresentation? Not everything has to be about what sadhguru said. It's the commentors opinion.

[@parthasarathi1711]

Another follow up question then: What about the issues of rejection, jealousy, anger, break up, fear of rejection etc that accompany the pleasure.. It's not just pleasure, is it?

[@anveshavyas450]

@@parthasarathi1711 yes so there.।।। The best medicine is brahmacharya.. Westerners would write long articles on benifits of sex but not about these issues never about benifits of brahmacharya.।। The only answer I would say is not expecting anything from the other ones and giving them everything with love.।। Gradually they'd understand.।। Coz that's what love is.।। Renunciation.।। It's better to find someone who's spiritually oriented.।। Peace should be the priority and a bit of ego management which is difficult for a few.।।

[@emanuelsoham-miller145]

Thank you Sadhguru, om shanti shanti, and bless you. I needed this talk. It’s is not about morality- right or wrong, it is about desire, intention, action-or lack of action, towards compulsory desires. I appreciate your BEingness.

[@devshah_16]

'Instead of being driven, be the driver' ❤

[@saipalurisinger]

Becoming conscious is the solution to every goddamn problem we have on this planet and it's also the most difficult thing to do because one moment we are here and the next moment we are elsewhere. Try this tonight, when you go to sleep try to watch the last moment when you shift from wakefulness to sleep. Most of us miss it so easily. That's where Yoga come into play. It helps you to understand and conduct every small aspect consciously. Once you sleep consciously, you can also die consciously. Pranams Sadhguru for speaking about just about every aspect of life. 🙏 It's genuinely his compassion for all beings that he's doing this. Each one of us are forever indebted to him 🙏🙏🙏🙌

[@mridulgoswami2645]

This was really helpful for me. Something that is difficult to talk about but very much relevant. Thanks Sadhguru for making it clear 🙇🏻🙇🏻🙇🏻

[@katekupaza9385]

Sadhguru, the one who has been lighting up for me!

[@haroonashrafi1669]

This channel is just like oxygen on Earth , thankyou sadhguru 😊

[@TysonMichael77]

I found true freedom in this video, thank sadguru

[@elijahrevell1201]

Are you driven or are you the driver. That is gold

[@vbanerjee]

How eloquently sadhguru ji is synthesizing the ontological fabric of existentialism is humanism.

[@_AshishKumarUR]

I have also same question and look sadguru is here

[@primitivemediations530]

Thank you sadhguru. When i was a child i had a dream about what you spoke about being the driver and sadhguru more than anything i want that. Thank you 🙏🏾💗 so much my love for you is infinite.

[@nirkaya]

Sexual compulsion is the strongest...it is hard to overcome that🤐

[@harleydavidsonstreetbob1322]

But the reward of overcoming it is very nice

[@sanjaymanoja5573]

it is in our hand that we want to be animal or human

[@skyinterest]

We are sexual beings, enjoy your sexuality. Embrace it....if you repress it, it will be like a caged animal that rages with more deviant destructive behavior when it overcomes you. Online digital porn is the extreme of out sexuality, toxic, and isolating....

[@Edwxrd69]

@@harleydavidsonstreetbob1322 ecstasy meh who needs it 😅 Rama Rama Rama

[@simonmason6645]

Food and sleep are very compulsive too! Although death I don't feel much compulsion for!!

[@r.kgupta4080]

Instead of being driven become a driver ❤ you are the god sent messenger sadguru .. it’s our blessing to have with us for our guidance 🎉❤🙏🙏🙏

[@eleanor7242]

We all have Basic instincts - humans have choice , not act by compulsion. Conscious choice !

[@oonaamookhao]

I want and will be the driver! Full throttle SADHGURUJI!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@sumitkulhari...3376]

Conduct it by choice, not by compulsion Instead of being driven become driver, that's the spiritual process.

[@al3xj]

Explained with such compassion and wisdom

[@govindarayaprabhu727]

Though Sadguru has given superb meaning for the subject, it should reach our youths. I am on that way and hope you too work on that direction.

[@GROWITHME5]

I think this advise is the only thing i needed , from now on i will pick my choices ,thank you guru ,love from a buddhist from sri lanka

[@ajaykhatri2647]

Journey from compulsive to a conscious being 🙏 Aum Namah shivaya 🔱

[@Dee-kk8pe]

Excellent explanation in simple understandable way ! God bless u with more Divine knowledge . Aum Namah Shivaya .... Hare Krishna ♥️

[@yashaswisingh8596]

Thank you sadhguru for teaching me the power of choice

[@prabhatsingh6290]

🌺जय श्री राधारानी जी🌺 🌺जय श्री कृष्णा जी🌺 🌺जय श्री राधेकृष्णा जी🌺 🌺जय श्री राधे राधे जी🌺 🌺श्री श्रील प्रभुपाद जी आपको शत् शत् नमन🙏🙏🙏🌺

[@worksornot3792]

In a committed space like IYC i have very less compulsion but outside the culture is more about physicality

[@magdyfarrag2835]

Fantastic explanation, deep understanding and convicing answer from a gifted blessed great man. Thank you sir.

[@midhon]

"If you are the driver that is spiritual process"

[@BlackPanther44549]

It is al most imposiblle just whit meditation and cold shower and sport

[@AJOYDAS9]

From where did Sad Guru regain so much knowledge ??????🤔

[@faridkhalili0]

Outstanding wisdom! Whenever I listen to this gem feels as awe-inspiring as the first time I did. Thank you Sadhguru for you presence🌹🙏🌹

[@विनयजोशी1]

There is no better life than a disciplined one

[@gautamkumar-li7ey]

Conscious life or disciplined one?

[@AllahHuAkbar-r8r]

​@@gautamkumar-li7ey 🙏🏽 concious life

[@jaymiegill9506]

Rubbish. This man even preaches that discipline isn’t the way to live. CONSCIOUSLY living is the way to live. Not DISCIPLINED. No art or anything beautiful in humanity came from discipline. It came from surrender to creativity.

[@madhunp2139]

Beautifully explained 💛

[@GOD999MODE]

Can't deny Sadhguru's absolute practicality in these matters. He doesn't shroud it in mystic fog, but brings it down to its most simplistic meaning and function.

[@ericmojica6135]

Sometimes, with Sadhguru, the line between yogi and comedian seems a bit blurred. Also.... thanks I needed to hear this. I have swung from being at the mercy of my sexual desires, to hating and casting shame upon myself for having it.

[@VIKRAMYADAV-rx9ws]

For shooting of Indiana Jones-2 (temple of doom). Steven Spielberg asked Amrish ji to come to H America for shoot.. but Amrishji rejected (maybe due to busy schedule). So Steven came to India for shooting of this 2nd part. Amrish Puri was such impressive actor in those times.

[@SadhguruMeditation]

How many likes for this amazing wisdom? ❤

[@aakash2880.0]

No likes and dislikes

[@bibhassen9819]

#Love From West Bengal, India 💛💙❤️🇮🇳

[@JohnMark-bx1ks]

this is a big topic by itself, he can make his own mindvalley sexuality is both over suppressed and over exaggerated in our society..

[@Innocence_2005]

Great I think it is not easy to explain such things in such a easy way

[@nahidfarzana8711]

But I felt he is not comfortable pronouncing the term directly .. which I actually appreciate.. its definitely a quality ..

[@mohamadibrahim299]

wisdom is through the roof

[@aliyahkulin3246]

I never knew I needed him.

[@aloksands]

No matter what...... your video related to the question I have, always pops up whenever I need it. It's not a co-incidence all the time. Don't know how u do this Sadhguru🙏😢.

[@PSmith-f1u]

Wise Sadhguru is so funny 😂he has such a great and intelligent sense of humour

[@madhavwadavi]

Once you become Human Being Evolution is by Choice. Will you evolve or not ? You can conduct by choice and not by compulsion. Transcendence is by choice. Instead of being driven by Compulsions if you become the driver, that is a spiritual process : Sadhguru ❤

[@arunchaudhary3764]

Meditation is key of all events in life.

[@bharatkumar-wr7wl]

Thank you sadhguru. This means that there is a possibility to conduct every situation consciously and aestherically.tbamk you

[@TK-fv5jv]

Me and my siblings are the one sexually transmitted disease my parents could never get rid of 😜🤔😎 and my kids also 👍🙏

[@sidhusid8210]

Thanks Sadhguru ❤️

[@kamleshpatel153]

Sadhguru Answer always intrigued me 😅

[@kanupriyabhardwaj7254]

Only an absolute 💯 clarity of things could make life simple and purposeful 🎉

[@dagaltytakalty8266]

Unless there is Joy in enjoying love making, people will not venture into it, coz its result is painful for the person who receives the Gene... So wherever there is Joy there is equal suffering or more, but wherever there is Bliss, then, there is no suffering at all

[@Thoughtmanifestkingdom]

"receives the Gene" well you can not call anything "love making" if that is your thought process, As for Joy and suffering, you will learn that you cannot have one without the other, it is everywhere in life, if you have bliss there must be suffering, if you have suffering there must be bliss, ying yang, above below, heaven and earth, good and evil, light and dark, right and wrong, female and male, cosmic dualism, call it what you will, happy sad, wet dry, it goes on and on, how do you know what good "is" if you do not have the comparrison which is "bad" the opposite, otherwise you would not know what good was. We must carefully watch what information we are fed, and that which is seeked to learn for oneself.

[@jaibharat9686]

Short term Pleasure = Long term Pain

[@ghostscout9117]

One who cannot control themselves is not free

[@rudyponzio5871]

🙏🏻Another day. Another filled with seeking, another day of challenge to be higher to the world. A chance to say something worth stretching to get it's full power of interpretation. For when it comes through to you. You give it a shot at sharing. And your also hearing it for the first time too! We are here to multiply. That's also how we got here. Why would we think around this until arguments exhaust intelligence that's not argued? No one sees what's there in culmination until they are consumed ?

[@ReelsOfEarth3]

EASY! You think of something else!!! Power to yourself!!!

[@deeg8849]

The only way to feel shame about expressing your sexuality is when you force yourself on others, bring pain to another or are insincere and dishonest with someone who is your partner.

[@banashree580]

wonderful explanation......thank you Sadhguru.

[@gamefeitz]

Hii

[@kmyase1]

You can preoccupy with things so that you won't think about sex. Reading books, exercise, work, cooking etc...

[@jack-e-designs]

👍 if you wanna do it just do it.✔️

[@rudyponzio5871]

🙏🏻When children's first lessons are to see and feel for their world and everyone in it. As if they mothered it. The adults then will have given up on all their side bars.

[@govindbisen388]

Thanks Sadhguru. It was my question too

[@SathiNair-k7p]

Many don't wish to marry. But the society forces. I m aesthetic rom, i have no desire fot physical relationship. Such ace people, how to react when there is force fm family members & society. Sadguru, pl tell about asexuals too. Urgent need.

[@timepassmrk752]

Sir, as usual worth watching your message ❤

[@balbhatt]

Feeling shame about sexual desires is a common issue that many people face. It is important to understand that everyone has their own unique sexual desires and fantasies. Here are some ways to handle shame about sexual desires: 1. Normalize your desires: Remember that having sexual desires is completely normal and common. It is important to understand that there is no one "right" or "wrong" way to feel about your desires. However, if your desires are causing you distress or impacting your day-to-day life, it may be helpful to speak with a therapist. 2. Practice self-compassion: Try not to judge yourself harshly for your desires. Instead, practice self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Remind yourself that you are not alone in your experiences. 3. Approach it with curiosity: Instead of feeling ashamed of your desires, try to approach them with curiosity. Explore what it is that turns you on and try to understand why. This can help you become more comfortable with your desires and may even lead to a more fulfilling sex life. 4. Seek support: If you are still struggling with shame about your desires, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings in a safe and nonjudgmental space.

[@mikedesposito9715]

I see your perspective, but I think this really misses the point and goal of what he's saying about evolving out and away from this whole compulsive area. Not to go into agreement with it more and find justifications.

[@absinthesesotericadventure7631]

As with anything, can be used as a tool for spiritual exploration and discovery.