How To Heal Your Broken Heart

Have you ever been heartbroken? According to YouGov 79% of Americans and 61% of Brits have experienced heartbreak. But how do you heal a broken heart and can we use science?
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[@NoName-rg3np]

Always struggled with the idea that spirituality and science are somehow separate and another excuse for us to be divided. We take both for granted.

[@BillyBob-uc9zp]

You still doing them crimpto currencies Mr?. Gotta barrow load of swag to trade whiv ya 😎x

[@ask4389]

OK RB, too many people using ur name and making fake accounts n claims n giving out outrageous solutions, u got to find a solution

[@ask4389]

Also which channel is genuine, this is not good

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

Thankyou for that message Russell it is deeply saddeneding to me that you have to deal with these fools I love you Russell

[@jojogrrl2756]

Being cast aside and replaced immediately shows you were nothing to someone you’d move mountains for. That’s a deep pain that takes a long time to heal.

[@tjcarr8097]

Yep. Going through it now

[@gearsgeek7615]

@@tjcarr8097 same here...

[@AnthonySoza-kr6bv]

Same here, my baby mama of 7 years, instantly replaced and its like having my heart ripped out and shredded in pieces

[@krisreynolds9490]

Unfortunately sooooo true ☹️

[@AnaPRLRosa]

A lot of the time isn’t even about the love we have for someone but the fact that we feel rejected. It’s about THEM not loving us anymore. How many times have you been in a situation where you, yourself weren’t sure but when it’s the other person making a move to end things all of a sudden you are. Not getting the love from someone you’d expect to receive love from, or going through the change of “major to minor” is the painful part for me.

[@whiteyquartz7461]

That's a great point

[@SimbaAliaye]

That takes us to attachment and abandonment issues I think. For those of us who are avoidant, leaving feels so good. That's the contraction. But then we want back in to make us feeling better. For the anxious attachment types, chasing the other and getting that "love" is the thing that makes us feel better. Working on our spirituality to become self-sufficient and to know our true essence (Atman/inner guru) is the only way we can do non-attachment and not abandon ourselves so we can keep moving towards self-relization/self-evolution.

[@AnaPRLRosa]

@@SimbaAliaye Agreed however I find the 2 attachment styles can intertwine. At some point I´d leave before being left but the goal (subconsciously) was to get a reaction from the other person to reassure me. This is when the tables turn and in end ,they leave and I feel abandoned. I have changed this recently though.

[@parrottlewis2771]

That's a good point

[@thomaspostma2329]

That is very well said. I'm going through heartbreak myself right now and I must admit, I myself did question the relationship definitly a couple of times and wasn't sure about it myself. Than when she broke up with me, I felt sooo heartbroken and thought like I couldnt live without her, while literaly a week before that I was questioning the whole thing myself. It is good to be reminded of!

[@bassinblue]

When you remember them laughing, smiling, looking peaceful and looking safe, you were actually looking at yourself. A reflection of what you projected and how great you made someone feel. Never forget your power and how special you are.

[@jasonmiller9497]

the experience of being in love with someone is actually the experience of love coming out of you. it was always there it will always be there it is independent of the external stimulus.

[@emillaursen2090]

that was really beautiful

[@zoelawrence568]

I find when things end and I still love the other person, I feel a lot of shame about that love, like it is not something I am supposed to be feeling any more. You can love someone and not be in a relationship with them

[@bobbybrown5217]

Wow

[@StarzHealing]

100% on point! What you feel is the love pouring out from yourself and into another ❤

[@lee-anneduffy4618]

I definitely think the key to healing from heartbreak is a balance of enjoying life without them, as well as allowing yourself to feel the pain, cry it out. I think every time you cry, you heal a little bit more each time. Just be pateint and give yourself time, but dont run away from how you're feeling.

[@hahatoldyouso]

currently going through it, its tough

[@matthewculbertson8850]

What a true gift it is to have been able to love so deeply that you ache from the loss.

[@hzafary]

Wow, there really are levels to this

[@stephensmith6524]

Leonard Cohen sang: "... There is a crack, a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in"

[@viktorija4485]

Nice

[@Zainab-jb7lr]

Love it

[@Queeniemynn]

Love comments like this 🙏

[@storeymark]

I thought Rumi said that

[@JeffCaplan313]

Other people are worth using because we're all broken. Such a beautiful sentiment..... for a capitalist.

[@Sue-ec6un]

Here’s how I deal with my serious emotions. I acknowledge them. I set a timer. 1 hour, wallow away, cry scream, pound a pillow, whatever you need to do (no attacking another person) when the timer goes off. Have a new thought. I don’t care what thought, lunch, laundry, whatever, immerse yourself in that. If you get over emotional again about the same thing, repeat BUT set the timer for 50 minutes. Next time, less time, until eventually you can encounter that emotion and allow it to pass even before you know it. It has worked for me through many heartbreaks, not just the end of relationships but the death of loved ones. Hope it helps someone else.

[@mrnice7570]

Good system, thanks for taking the time to share it 🙂

[@ao5624]

Great idea. Thanks

[@cindyhammack68]

Sending this to my son. He's just had a really bad break-up.

[@kickinghorse2405]

"The opioid crisis in America is a spiritual [crisis]." Hear! Hear!

[@tims.440]

Hear hear!

[@graziaromano3531]

Yes..same in All western societies..we are disconnected from out hearts and from God...so we numb out

[@GoneCarnivore]

It's also a Responsibility and Purpose crisis.

[@murphygirl4782]

I know this is more directed towards romantic relationships/heartbreak. But I have found the worse heartbreak I have experienced is not from a loss of a romantic relationship, but rather the loss of my brother who died 5 years ago. I feel that when one has lost someone, such as a sibling or child or akin to such, it is not something that you can work through with simple tips or a retreat. It is a constant battle that I'm not sure ever really subsides. Regardless, heartbreak in all its forms hurts, and I hope that those experiencing it are surrounded by people who have kindness and grace.

[@ann-christinberg886]

This too shall pass. Your brother is probably with you in it.

[@QuinKan43]

I too lost a brother and it was the most excruciating heartbreak ever.. God bless you❤️

[@georgiechadwick2124]

I'm sorry for your loss

[@mrnice7570]

Resonates as truthful with me. I lost my sister 26years ago. Still hurts like it was yesterday

[@kirstyanne_]

‘You have to feel it to heal it’ perhaps an overused phrase but it is a deep truth. I went through a divorce not too long ago and I allowed myself to take as long as I needed to ride the waves of grief. This led me to understand myself better and learned to nurture myself in a time of sorrow which led me to realise the love I have deeply craved from external sources is always within me and not something I have to earn from another person. Meditation, breathwork and writing helped me process my feelings. Going forward I know now that I will choose differently and I am practicing non attachment, change is the only inevitability in life and I’m learning to be ok with that. I am grateful to heartbreak, it’s been one of my biggest teachers

[@SimbaAliaye]

Right with you here - breathwork, meditation, wisdom talks from my guru, Kirtan, asanas, etc. And stop repeating our stories. That does nothing but make the ego work overtime.

[@dafunkystar]

used to feel panic when i saw "my ex's truck" driving around, thinking it was him. Now, when i see "his truck" i take it as an opportunity to say out loud that I forgive him.

[@8kell8]

So glad you said this, and that I saw it 🙌🙏🌌💓 thank you

[@oumaelbakali1453]

Yess queen !

[@sherry4807]

Forgetting Sarah Marshall... This was the movie that introduced me to Russell Brand. I had a broken heart at that time and that movie made me laugh out loud. I love (respectfully) Russell Brand since that movie and even more since this channel started.

[@TeacherMom80]

💞 Me, too! 🤗

[@valerieboulter6122]

I have come to recognise that heartbreak is the same as grief. Grieving a loss is heartbreaking or heart mending, and processing it is to go through the five distinct stages of grief after losing someone: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. This can take as long as a person needs.

[@unclelarryhasasmalldick8150]

Only almost 21 years and counting

[@LIfe4everLove1]

Even a lifetime ?

[@lightinthedarkness5606]

Usually takes twice the time to heal up from how long your relationship was

[@sunnylittlejoshine]

Amen 🙏🏼💞

[@workinboots]

@@lightinthedarkness5606 so 20 years, sounds about rite

[@bluecovenalley]

currently heartbroken so great timing LOL

[@thepoet456]

Cbd oil with little bit of thc..my friend But primarily CBD oil

[@protestthisyouloser1093]

Me too. And I’m 43. Back into the dream. One thing illl say: no internet

[@bluecovenalley]

can recommend throwing yourself a pity party. (i'm really at that point where i wouldnt be able to surpress emotions anyway) and since i cant really see any friends in real life, i spent hours on the phone talking to them. also, remind yourself why there were wrong for you and take each day slowly. thoughts will come and go, they can be torturing, so take care of yourself. i also committed myself to meditating three times a day because otherwise i would go insane.

[@ragnarlothbrok6760]

2 year's later their still on my mind

[@laurapavone3513]

I'd call it heart enlargement

[@debrab6623]

My dear Russell you have no idea the timeliness of your video. I have been with someone from 3 years that I thought was the love of my life and he just walked away. I am beyond devastated.😢. You have helped me more in 12 minutes then hours of counseling have. Obviously I don't know you but I have watched you over the years and I have to tell you I am so proud of the man and father that you have become at least what we see online if that is you in real life you're an incredible human being and I thank you

[@Zainab-jb7lr]

Russell's transformation amazes me , such wisdom is has acquired 😊

[@debrab6623]

@Anton Chigurh thank you so much Anton. You are very kind. You won't believe this but I actually just bought the book letting go last week. Getting ready to start it now. Blessings and happy love to you!

[@parrottlewis2771]

I'm so sorry about the way you feel. Let's talk better okay?

[@joegarcia5585]

Debra, hope you’re feeling great now. People that decide to leave have a certain control of the situation, they made the decision and left the other person devastated, that’s common don’t feel bad. The problem is that we end up blaming ourselves or feeling guilty “should’ve done this or that” “what did I do wrong?” But no! Don’t get into this mind games, accept and thank the lesson and move on. Yes it sounds so easy, I’m in this situation right now, but we can and must do it.

[@kieranthomas7775]

Yeah this watch has come at the right time, i put so much into my 4 year relationship, she basically sat and watched me do everything, physically and mentally and when i did the smallest error id get called out on it. after much arguing i ended the relationship and she had moved on within 2 weeks!!. 💔 my hearts been in pieces for months and all i can do is blame myself for not doing this and that when in reality i did my best and gave so much love but i guess it just wasnt meant too be. I feel your pain and hope we can all get through this ❤ much love

[@joydebra1954]

Lost my only child 10 years ago. A heartbreak that can't be matched. NO ONE can hurt me now.

[@pauladams838]

So sorry for your loss I can’t imagine the pain,,

[@sunlovinsnowflake]

💛🙏🏼🕊

[@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD]

Ditto ...my second daughter. There is literally no match. Sorry for your loss.

[@DefiantAngel87]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@Sue-ec6un]

Oh my, so sorry for your loss. Gods speed.

[@heidiparkerwood4641]

The loss my dog has broken my heart & the pain & loss often goes unrecognised. I understand time will help with the pain but nothing will fill his space in my heart & house

[@andyuxd]

Dog people get it Heidi, it really hurts..

[@joellealicia303]

♥️♥️so sorry. I totally understand

[@StarzHealing]

Oh man...I feel your pain so,so much. My pug George died last summer from cancer. I miss him so much😭😭😭😭

[@b.johnny369]

I think the way we see and handle heartbreak is quite often forged in the fire of our childhood experience (s). Left unacknowledged, unexplored, or unaccepted and unrecovered from, we are left to our own (sometimes) rudimentary and lacking coping mechanisms. I do think that unless and until we fully understand how to accept and love our own selves unconditionally, heartbreak is a monster capable of devouring our self esteem. And then we do so many things to feed the monster, or to shut it up, lol. Oof. The things. Understanding that we are the answer, and that we are love incarnate, creates a beautiful detached mode of transport through life that is unmatchable and ultimately freeing beyond words. ❤️

[@hzafary]

Wow

[@juliachavira2870]

❣️❣️❣️

[@cameronbutton2573]

Beautiful words

[@watevatube]

Thanks, wife of 9 yrs just left. Been binge watching videos like this

[@emmacrawley8020]

Sending love

[@hzafary]

Respect and Solidarity

[@orangeturtle8730]

Sob! Let it all out in a good soul cry, sob all your snot and tears till your eyes swell, have plenty of tissue and a blanket by. It’s exhausting after a good soul cry so you might sleep after. Be gentle with yourself it’s okay to feel heartbroken, the more you allow yourself to go through grief of loss, you’ll mend each day ❤️ And Journal 📓

[@adrienne7639]

@@orangeturtle8730 Thank you, so very very true what your saying..there's a vast difference between a deep soul cry than to a superficial one..love and light..

[@joellealicia303]

♥️so sorry

[@scarlettestanley3391]

But I've got to say personally, it was actually experiencing many,many heartbreaks(and within 'heartbreak' I include loss thru deaths as well as romantic break-ups), the very heartbreaks and losses themselves, that taught me how to self heal and self love. Which invariably led me to finding very healthy love with another person and a strong relationship...(not until I was 42!)after much love, much loss. But without the loss,the pain and the heartache, my heart would not be near as strong or near as capable of containing joy. As Khalil Gibrhan would say"the deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain"

[@betinafrederiksen4468]

Some say only a broken heart, is a whole heart. But it sure takes/gives maturity. Your experience seem to prove the saying true. Truly happy for you 💗😊

[@betinafrederiksen4468]

I think @steven smith got the answer. It's by the crack the light/strength gets into the 💔

[@scarlettestanley3391]

@@betinafrederiksen4468 thank you sister, I love the crack letting in the light,that is beautiful and TRUE!

[@UrMomsChauffer]

Wonderful words.

[@betinafrederiksen4468]

@@scarlettestanley3391 and thank's very much to you for sharing 💗😊

[@ambercasley8080]

It's a total mix. For me: Astrology, psychology, science of the brain, unpacking trauma, understanding attachment style,and codependancy.

[@lj7169]

What do luminous spheroids of plasma have to do with it

[@arkchibald-]

Well, the universe is expanding so there is a connection that so is the soul, a completely meaningless empty principal, hardly axiomatic for these mystics types belief system.

[@kirstyanne_]

Similar for me to! All of the things you listed are what I used to help me get through the heartbreak of the divorce I went through, it’s not one singular thing. Above all, allowing yourself to feel your emotions of grief

[@JoshuaAmmon]

Some of the deepest shadow work is done during that deep dark apocalyptic heartbreak. At one incarnation or another the soul has to go through it to "level up" and detox the darkness out of those hard to reach crevices. What lies afterwards is an independence and freedom that cant be put into words.

[@TNDURIII]

Yesss so well put!

[@Knowthyself1155]

Thank you 🙏 Soul has leveled up. I feel that to be absolute truth. Just have leftover in the mind of “Why” and especially, “What now”. Takes time to turn the wheel of matter, but I will. 👍

[@JoshuaAmmon]

@@Knowthyself1155 The "why" is for the shadow work, the "what now" is reaping the benefits of the heavy shadow work through enternity. Theres no going back. But it sounds like your in the right vibration, much love.

[@oumaelbakali1453]

I feel like I have been purging so much darkness in me by going through the horrendous pain of my heartbreak. I feel lighter and my heart space feels somehow wider even if I still miss him beyond anything.

[@sharonmassey2923]

The only way to heal a broken heart is to change your mind, change your perspective. If people look back at heartbreaks they've gotten over, they'll find this is true. It wasn't time that did it; it's that they changed their mind, which took time.

[@hzafary]

Being told to go meet new people as a solution, feels so demoralizing, when you struggle with finding new dates

[@joanneedwards-leggett7833]

Heartbroken right now but so traumatised that the thought of having another relationship in the future terrifies me. It was a very abusive relationship. 8 years of physical and emotional abuse. Not sure how I’m ever going to get over it. Very scarred emotionally. I do t feel I could trust a man and ever again….

[@valuablesandwich]

It's been 7 years and I'll never be the same but I'm doing better today than I thought I'd ever be. Thanks for your insights, Russell.

[@adamantium4127]

Really needed this right now. I’m going through quite a painful separation from my wife. I’m from America, living in the UK and I have no support network here. I feel trapped. We have a five year old daughter together, and I could never leave her… it’s all a bit much to handle at the moment.

[@adamreeve1492]

I think you've landed in a good place here. Some sound advice. One day, one breath at a time.

[@Alex-373]

That's rough, I feel for you.

[@owenireland519]

Hey buddy. You're going to be fine mate. Your daughter will always know you love her no matter what you do because you're a conscientious person and will make anything work. Reach out if you wanna chat

[@kirstenweyter4431]

@Gray Fen I don’t mean to be flippant, but if you know about Dark Night of the Soul then there is a brighter future ahead. Often old structures must crumble down in order to build a better foundation. Trust that you are divinely guided and that a change in path often results in a wonderous new outcome that you never could imagine! Sending so much love & compassion! 💕

[@robertfleeman777]

You are not alone my friend

[@Pode91]

I just want to feel accepted. Unconditional love. Turns out I need to show it to myself first. Not quite there.

[@geraldlindgren4173]

I discovered a profound truth quite by accident. I was in a fantastic marriage for almost 40 years and then she got cancer and died. My heart was torn apart and I could not recover. The sever sadness permeated my entire life. It was simply impossible for me to have a happy thought. After a few months of this I happened to run into an old friend, his daughter was with him and she happened to recently have had a baby. I requested to hold this baby. What happened next was simply profound. Just holding this baby instantly flipped a switch in my brain and I had my energy and my life back for the few moments as I was holding this tiny creature. New born's apparently can emit some strange type of unlimited energy. I am wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience ? ? ?

[@our.secret1130]

Was it your wife reincarnated

[@Georgeanne17]

I'm sorry for the loss of your dear precious wife. Newborns are fresh from heaven as they say. Your wife is now with her creator and born into life again. Not as reincarnation. We are not recycled. We're eternally related with God and return home to him. Holding a baby reminds us that life is greater than death. Love is forever. ❤

[@alienesse]

I’m working on being whole and independently capable of solving my own problems. The hardest part is not believing the condemnation/rejection was deserved. Repairing self worth is my true goal now.

[@d2xr]

Right when I needed this video the most. Struggling to get over my ex after 2 years of being broken up. I still want her in my life but it hurts so much seeing her move on and away from me

[@poophoemom]

I work so so much and my financial struggles only compound. I have a chronic illness that would be fatal w/o very expensive meds. my son is all grown and no longer cares about me. Growing up with a sick mom is just so hard. I should have given him a better life through adoption. For a long time I was proud of my efforts to gain some health back and endure so long with this challenging illness. But, now I feel I was just being selfish. He could have had a much more stable upbringing. I cannot make it up to him and living with that failure is almost more than I can endure. I cry every single day. sometimes ALL day. This depression is even harder than my physical maladies. I look forward to hearing your podcasts and seeing your vids . Not a creepy fan ...I hope. You just make me smile for a bit and calm my anxieties. I hope I can get through this depression. It's feeling heavier lately. Thank you for the bright spots!

[@richardk5246]

You sound like a wonderful mother to me. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Sending you love and best wishes.

[@barricade1391]

Broken, then shattered, then pissed on. Ptsd from it. Won’t allow myself to love or be loved again

[@8xtl8]

If that person deliberately treated you that way, did they really deserve your pain? Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet. Many great people out there.

[@DubyaW111]

My heart being broken. Is what woke me up.. So much pain I couldn't take it anymore. Thank you so much brother for this 🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💜💜💜💜💜🤗🤗🤗🤗🕉️

[@scarlettestanley3391]

Yes, you don't want to aim at maintaining the initial feeling of falling in love. That would be like being disappointed with a baby that grows into a toddler that grows into a child,teen,adult. Love evolves like that too,I think.we always look back and remember fondly our kids when they were infants, l(like when we fist met our life mates)but are proud of how they've grown. And if each individual learns to heal their own heart wounds and practices clearing their own mind space, then coming together can be profoundly supportive and love kind of thrives on its own,evolving and everchanging alongside both parties. Almost like love is its own separate entity.

[@dianewhalen9721]

Russell when life gets tough I think of the journey you have been on is heroic.Your humour saves the day in amongst all your spiritual healing.Thankyou for all you have given back🙏👍❤️✌️

[@saraswatkin9226]

Betrayal in an form is very damaging and life threatening.

[@AlexandraBDevoy]

Heartbreak is real. Can be over a death, loosing a love, being separated from loved ones when you’re living in different locations …

[@nyev7224]

Love is all encompassing within and without. Love never judges, Love never forgets. As a Nurse, I've seen the most loving couples, die within three months or less of their partner. That always made me know, it's such a complex organ, the heart. A very good breakdown. And loving my Free, stickers from Mule. Stay free! ❤

[@stonedolive8322]

Meditation has given me a stable root that has helped me accept being alone... I feel connected. If I expect nothing, how can I ever be disappointed?

[@sunnylittlejoshine]

Same Meditation saved me xxxx

[@billsmith109]

@@sunnylittlejoshine how? im dying here

[@alienfrommarss]

Exactly, live in the moment but be aware the relationship will end at some point, humans are always a disappointment to each other eventually. You either cope, manage, and work through the disappointments, or let go and move on with more knowledge in your soul. 👉👉👍👍👍

[@happytobealive8461]

The body is reacting to the mental suffering. Mental suffering occurs because in serious relationships our mental program (which operates our daily existence) has had some major programming additions added to it from the constant interactions with someone we became close to. That is why when someone suffers a major break up, the condition they are experiencing cannot just be explained away. Words won't just get rid of it. Its not like turning off a light switch. You can't just suddenly think the right things to make it all go away. Your mental program (which operates your daily activities) must have new things introduced into it to reorder your daily life with a different purpose. Your program determines your perception of reality. Each person's program is their concept of reality. That's why some people feel it is impossible for their life to go on without the one they lost. It feels like the heart is suffering (breaking) because your reality has been up-ended. It's all in the way your mind has become programmed through daily interactions in your environment (including with other people). That's why other people, who have never taken things seriously enough to become mentally bonded to another will never suffer an immediate or long-lasting pain from a break up. Their minds are not wired for such things to occur. The other person's interactions never became a serious part of this person's program. Hence, the program (like a computer) does not crash. Their program is somewhat independent (not dependent on) another. It's all in the program. You can't just say what you think you should do, or say how you think you should look at things after the fact. Your program (your perception of reality) must be reordered. New events and people accomplish this. With people whose minds have become wired with constant interaction, events, and bonding to someone else, it requires time to rewire to something else. It takes the time for that to happen and then your mind is ok again. Yes, the memory can remain, but in time, new (other) things will have replaced the constant memory of what you were before used to doing. Hence the thought of those people and the activities you shared together will fade away.

[@alien2u929]

Spot on

[@tysonwalsh9063]

I think physical activity is important, but its really hard to find motivation when in a depressive state. I recently joined a group fitness community which has helped motivate me to keep active. Ive also focused on fitness as a skill rather than focusing on a body aesthetic routine.

[@DubaiShortsChannel]

I had experienced a lot of relationships connected sufferings back in 2019. But this gave me powerful impulse for spiritual awakening. Right now I'm a totally different person and actually don't even feel like I want relationships at all. I'm not against it, but I don't long for it, as before, because now I feel absolutely complete and very comfortable on my own, not scared to be lonely and not desparate for "finding someone" just because it's our society norm. Also I'm not jealous anymore about other's people relationships, and it feels great too! I wish all people in the world could feel this kind of liberation!

[@deanmartin1071]

You are intelligent. It's off the chart how family life changes a person.

[@moniclare4214]

To love is one thing. To deal with the numbness of being separate , well its enough just to get through the day .. the week. To find the strength to move forward initially is mindblowinly hard. It takes time before one can start to build another life... with each day that passes one builds a bridge to another life. It doesn't happen because you decide it happens. Time is the healer each day is a new step forward. You dont have to push for every new step it will happen naturally. With each day one becomes stronger. The only thing you have to do during the heartbreak is to comfort and care for yourself like a child who needs nurturing self love and self support.. like going out for a meal rather than cooking for yourself that day. Like taking a camera with you on a walk or journey and use that to record the beauty of the day... see life and its beauty through a camera lense..... help a person to lift a heavy object or do something that's similar.. reach out to help others gently. To target ten new people is to put ones self under stress and in the firing line... that us not what is needed during the heartbreak hump....

[@shawnastarr3605]

The first time my heart was really broken was when I lost my first born daughter Sky in 2011, I was there for her first breath, but I wasn't there for her last breath. My daughter was a victim of murder. I've been married twice and divorced twice and I'm sorry to say I got over it fairly quickly and I was OK, I know that's gotta mean something, but now I'm single and I'm doing well. I still grieve my daughter though and probably will all my life, her name was Sakara Kachina Yepa / Sky.💔

[@richardk5246]

Your daughters name is beautiful. So sorry for your loss.

[@shawnastarr3605]

@@richardk5246 Thanks Richard

[@omarshaaban907]

God bless you, I hope you are well@@shawnastarr3605

[@333Eriana]

heart break and grief are closely related - (unless you are a narcissist) - you have seen some of yourself in the other -when the other is gone, you are missing 'who you were' with them - - - by the way - i picked that up from a shakespearean speech, and think it's brilliant

[@SimbaAliaye]

I had "broken heart syndrome" when I found out my husband of 30 yrs had been living a double life. It's like a heart attack. I felt like dying while he hadn't died per se...but the relationship had died...abruptly!

[@lolitagirl9613]

God that is devastating I hope you are now doing better, separation + a betrayal is a lot to handle. You must be a strong woman to overcome this ☀️

[@mrnice7570]

After 22 years the same thing happened to me, I couldn't believe how much this person was changing right in front of my eyes. Now I tend to think of it less as changing and more as revealing her true self. It's taken 4 years to get over it , but over it I am. I recall the feeling of bereaved without them having the decency to actually pass away

[@scarlettestanley3391]

Khalil Gibrhan's poetry and wisdom helped me through some very deep heartbreaks (including the loss of my little son).With his deep empathy and ability to point out the beauty in pain, I thought it might be helpful to recommend reading his art to anyone experiencing a broken heart right now. I hope it helps heal some. Love Light and Laughter

[@rhubarbrhub]

I'm so sorry to hear that... Sending love & virtual hugs x

[@HawaiianCrow]

Thank you SO much. Where can I read it? Any recommendations?

[@HawaiianCrow]

@@sunlovinsnowflake - Just downloded the PDF. Thank you very much. Author of this comment thread, Scarlettr Stanley. Do you have any further recommendations?

[@HawaiianCrow]

@@sunlovinsnowflake - Wow thank you for so much value. Any specific video you recommend or think “definitely this one”. I really appreciate it btw. I will take this and help someone else just like you help me because the thing is. We all relate with each other. We’ve all been through heartbreak and massive pain. So… We all in this comment thread know what it feels like. I’d do anything for people to help me get healed. At the same time in reverse I’d do anything to help others. 🙏🏼

[@scarlettestanley3391]

@@HawaiianCrow try THE PROPHET by Kalil Gibrhan it's free on audiobook on KZbin, but look in any used book store in the world and you'll find a paperback or hardcover copy. I have given this book of wisdom and beauty more than any other, I hope you find it and find something in it...Love&Laughter

[@1endlesssoul]

6 things to include in your healing process: 1. Forgive yourself 2. Forgive the ones who hurt you 3. Understand you are not your past 4. Start prioritizing your happiness 5. Remember the universe WANTS to help 6. Understand you can create your future

[@gerardcote8391]

Do the words BULL $#IT sound familiar. No the universe wants to screw you over on a daily basis. You are the sum total of all events that happened to you in the past. The future is nothing more than a sewage drain constantly filling with poop. Bill collectors are the only ones to hurt me, "forgiving them?" is not going to pay the bills. Having money is the source of all happiness. Being broke is the source of all misery.

[@cosmogal.ashella1907]

❤️ yep

[@b.johnny369]

❤️

[@b.johnny369]

@@gerardcote8391 yikes. Sorry about that.

[@barricade1391]

The universe is impartial. If you think that it wants to help you then you’re naive, afraid and self centred

[@natpaler883]

Although I was heartbroken many times in my life, when I look back I’m happy and 100% certain that that the right things happened.

[@brendanfreeman2134]

Thank you for posting this type of content again!

[@isapeacekeeper8803]

Thank you Russell, for your advice on personal responsibility while in a relationship (not relying on our partner to fix everything we need to fix ourselves) was fabulously sagacious! ✌💕 🙏Namaste

[@LaneyandherGermanShepherds]

I love my dogs ! I was abandoned by my mom than my children! I just want a handyman that loves animals. My tip to overcome heartbreak get a dog they are so trustworthy! People suck

[@Scotts865]

Yep it’s tough to find people to trust. If you look back how did you fail others, I say no one is immune from hurting others.

[@LaneyandherGermanShepherds]

@@Scotts865 well I was 9 when my mom gave me up .My kids you know money more important than love .If you don't have money your not good enough for them .Sad but true

[@LaneyandherGermanShepherds]

@@Scotts865 and if you lose your health you lose your income.

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

Hello wow omg Iam so sorry to hear of your suffering being left by a parent is beyond heartbreaking my father has left me and been absent most of my life your not alien being without your children must be a Incredible massive heartbreak on it own. Iam so deeply sorry to hear that. I send you a virtual hug

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

Hello yes I have a dog she is my best friend she gives me sooo much love

[@thealphawooman]

i am going through heartbreak and i thought he was the love of my life but he doesnt want anything to do with me from one day to the other. i tried everything but now i am hurt and tired but this video is helping me !

[@lorindaarmstrong7593]

I pray the universe grant your heart 💌 desires with more love and commitment from your EX 💌through the same great man of the universe Dr Steve,, who helped me restored my broken home . 🏠he can make your ex beg for a.. second chance ,I will advise you seek out his help💌💌thanks

[@lorindaarmstrong7593]

Send him a message on Whatsapp

[@gregorystephen6965]

[phone]💞⏯⏯⏯⏯

[@staciethelinguist697]

I appreciate the emphasis on reflection after heartbreak. This is something that takes practice, but it can change us and motivate us to be better people not only in our romantic lives but elsewhere as well. And having a support system is *everything* reminding yourself that you are loved outside of that person, for me anyway, helps me to cope with the loss. Love isn’t really gone, because we are surrounded by people who love and care for us, and while it may not be romantic, love is still love and it will fill in the cracks of your heart.

[@nightbit_]

russell, you're literally a lifesaver. thank you

[@nancypowers519]

Awesome words of wisdom, Russell. Thank you!

[@ann-christinberg886]

Delightful speech, Russell!

[@DrewHoward82]

This is rather timely for me. Serendipitous of you will. Thanks Russell. I am enjoying your insight and these discussions.

[@goldestwoninetyfive2876]

Your best clip on the breakup topic to date. Strong stuff

[@aberdeenvehiclesprayers1908]

Brilliant video. Well articulated and really discusses ways to approach relationships. Love it

[@gemmacassidy6213]

“What is eternal” is such a great question to think about. Thanks for that golden nugget Rus ❤️

[@Avatar_Brandy]

I’ve been going through it and your videos have helped me find answers to questions I didn’t know I had. Thank you.

[@finatedesco5984]

Thank you Russell, this was some of the best advice helping me through a very crushed heart.

[@IdontspeakBro.]

This seems to be a subject close to RB to which I am grateful for. The way he articulates things has helped me understand this problem better and made it easier to address. Thank you Russell your pain is our gain. 👌🏾

[@tianamae6989]

Well done Russ, finding a sense of stability, very inspiring thankq 💗💗💗

[@jessklay8594]

This was beautiful and much needed for me rn. Love you RB

[@SimbaAliaye]

I also love your take on self-reference and maturity. Self-realization should always come first. Know your essence and from there decisions can be made...not from a right or wrong decision perspective but from not abandoning yourself. Please! More on this relationship topic. Just ended a 30 yr marriage to a man I loved deeply because he was living a double life probably the whole time. Tripped into a new relationship much too soon and now must re-evaluate the relationship daily! More on this please!

[@paulharman1076]

Beautifully caring, thank you my fellow pilgrim. Love solutions are a question of what would love do now. Feeling that within as well as externally is a truth, one of my rare moments of clarity. Namaste.

[@niamhneevekinsella7951]

Thanks Russell. I agree, i need to feel the pain and that’s a challenge in recovery, just not to reject myself. That’s the ultimate.

[@Tomara632]

Very true Russell... You just need to accept the facts and let go... When my heart was brutality and publicly smashed to bits I spent ages doing a post mortem... That was processing the shock and grief.... Then Ant Middleton's words made sense... He was like a mould...enough of that sorry saga.... Now onto something more uplifting... My beloved grandparents spent their whole lives together and never spent a day apart and stayed in love till this earthly life ended... When my Grandfather passed my grandmother didn't want to live any more and just stopped eating. She prayered for death every day till she was gone.... So true love does exist... I've witnessed it.

[@BillyBob-uc9zp]

Amazing as per. Fanks Russell. Love you brother ❤x

[@koroshiya_1]

Thank you, Russell. I'm too heart broken to take in the deeper meaning of what you're saying right now, but I imagine I will come back to this video to help me heal. The person I was seeing broke up with me last night, he said we were on completely different wavelengths... It's extremely painful and a shame, but I know that I will eventually find someone who connects deeply with me :( ❤️

[@imthedevilkys536]

Diet and exercise cures a broken heart through building confidence. That worked for me at least.

[@GoldenMushroom64]

This is great!! Thank you Russel

[@howardljackson9102]

That was so honest and thought provoking truth.!

[@devon6623]

I love your videos Russell, thank you for this I needed to hear this 🙏

[@snappysue2947]

Oh man, you hit the solution right on the mark! I once told my doctor, when asked if I've ever had a heart attack, that I've had my heart broken several times but not "attacked"! Never relied on another to complete me but have found what I thought was my true love. He didn't feel the same. He needed something and it was me to fulfill some need he thought I didn't provide - . time brought us back to a point that neither of us faced before and we are working on ourselves and our relationship daily. It's easy to toss out the old towel with the trash. We've been married for 40 years .. not up for the medal but up for the long haul at this time ..working on ourselves with support of each other.) Never thought there would come a day I would agree with Russell! I do agree with you 💯 today!

[@maggieadams8600]

Well, I think your heart gets broken from many diverse relationships, your children can break your heart, you may break your parent's on occasion, and, living and loving beget happiness and sadness, as William Blake said, "Joy and woe are woven fine, a clothing for the soul Divine."

[@kellybrandon4000]

I do love my daily dose of Russell 😍

[@edwardmarlowe7926]

Thanks Russell, going through it right now

[@emekecho2024]

one of my biggest heartbreaks is when i watched #seaspiracy #earthlings #theyaretryingtokillus

[@StarzHealing]

Yes 😭😭😭😭

[@mrpieman100]

Thank you Russel Thank your for your enlightening talks Thank you for sharing your experiences Thank you for reminding us that we are all human.

[@sunshinecompany1]

I think a lot of times we think we are missing the person or relationship....which the logical mind cant make sense of if they were an asshole. 🤔 but what we really miss is the feeling of love and happiness we had in ourselves....which sometimes has little to do with them!!😉

[@naddyn685]

I needed to hear this tonight. Cheers Russ :)

[@WoopaMage]

Thanks Russell, currently going through a break up, but it's a strange one, mainly broken up due to my unresolved issues, bad health + no job + addictive patterns + insecurity + dishonesty + fear and just self doubt and occasional hatred. I do realize that the pain comes from attachment, and for sure I have been playing the victim expecting other people to complete me, fix my shit for me, or hold my hand while I do it. I am now more independently sorting my self out, and I find that when I do that, the support and help comes to me anyway without me crying and begging for it, when I flow life flows with us. But it's very true, to stay aware, to stay awake, to go into the depth of meditiation, to be in alignment within is a tough cookie to crack sometimes but thats always the point of liberation. Eventually we always need to return to that sense of connection and wholeness that you well said. I remember Deepak Chopra saying something along those lines, 'Returning to the memory of oneness'. Anyways guys, there is always hope and a way, even if it seems impossible or super difficult, you can do it and get through it, find the guidance and follow it, bit by bit, it can be done. Perhaps I will fail again and fall into addiction or some ego trap, but the more we do it, and the more we become genuinely involved with the process, i feel our spirit does become stronger and we do learn even if it seems like we're just falling lower. God is love, and thats true always, good luck hacking yourself Ya'll!!!! *

[@ragzilbragzilb6603]

Thanks Russel you are one of the Really good guys. Hope all the best in your life forever, and long into many lives thereafter.

[@FourWinds-Nathan]

Good advice thanks Russell - Nathan

[@joycehartman9908]

You make me smarter, so thank you for that.

[@ahall1459]

Yes, as I thought...unfortunately it has taken a long time to get there. Great vid, Russ...

[@kaciemarie2453]

“You can’t rush your healing. Darkness has its teaching. Love is never leaving” - Trevor Hall (song: you can’t rush your healing)

[@cdbt1990]

Loved this video ✨

[@shaunmonroe6932]

Great vid as always

[@LyndseyMacPherson]

Heal from it? Such a foreign concept. I assumed living with chunks missing from my heart is unavoidable, and have accepted the interminable pain like breathing.

[@patriciablue2739]

The way your confidence is shaken when you grieve it can interfere with judgement. I don’t think dating 10 people who you might never date is at all good advice.