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[@AwakeningWithRussell]

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[@cali2cool902]

On my last comment's I received a message asking me to send info to an Email to be interviewed as a fan... I didn't respond..

[@TopperPenquin]

Oh! You've a brown dog...then you are well on your way to Nirvana.

[@TopperPenquin]

Oh Yes, Michael Hudson...I forgot...I shall deguise myself as a maintenance man to your life.

[@TopperPenquin]

@TryllaTröllMaistre Fictitious Fables of Europa The fate of the universe depends on it??? I can't even talk about it. How Can anybody change anything? You can only post what they let you post. If I had a billion dollars I'd make my own Google and banish them to hell. Though as I don't I am just going to look after myself And hope to live into my 90's feeding pigeons.

[@TopperPenquin]

Russ, your rich can't you make your own Google. I mean it's just programming. Lead the Moses we will journey with you to a internet filled with Milk & Honey.

[@void__star]

It's not dating apps that are the problem -- it's that they're implemented in a way to make money off your loneliness instead of actually helping you find love.

[@GoldenMushroom64]

That’s it.

[@Andy-uz4km]

Yes but apps can't help us in love, we need to make effort and it's not something that is fast this app will only allow us meet a lot of people buy that's superficial , we need to add depth to it . Everything good needs time

[@johnjohntv1195]

The problem is silly humans thinking that you need an app for everything. Get off your damn phone and go out into the real world ffs! Walk up to people and strike up conversations! Join a club and mingle. Go to a bar and crack some jokes and talk. Sure, it takes more effort, but that’s what’s needed.

[@void__star]

@@johnjohntv1195 I don't necessarily disagree, however, a properly implemented app should be considered like a tool to help augment your game, not replace it. Consider, for example, if you could see who's actually single (and maybe read a bit about them), before approaching in real life. While you may argue that you can infer that if you're at one of the locations you've listed, I don't like going to those places, and I'm not interested in most people that do. This is just one feature that could be implemented. Could also be gamified to encourage approaching in RL, and have modes that keep things fresh. Black Mirror comes to mind, although that app was obviously also a broken dystopian mess.

[@JeffCaplan313]

What is love?

[@MichaelB2L]

I’m tired of thinking about dating 😂 If I can’t find someone the old fashion way then I’ll be single forever 💪🏻

[@lynn7005]

I feel the same !

[@jeanna7851]

Me too

[@tanyalucas4683]

Gang

[@prospector442]

/thread

[@zachk5249]

Ditto

[@GoddessHabits]

Russell.... host a singles retreat and let us like minded folks come find our match. Then we'll create our homesteading tribe of 150 😆

[@WildAlchemicalSpirit]

I'm in!

[@michellecassar5785]

I'm in! What an Amazon idea!

[@dbcoco]

Yes!! please do. at least we have a lot in common mentally in this group of people…

[@jostewart554]

You know you could set this up yourself? It would be a bit of work but it’s possible.

[@billydiaz7280]

I'll bring my husband!

[@dan..........]

The thing I find hard with dating these days is that people are very reluctant to make themselves vulnerable to each other, because the likelihood of rejection now is higher more than ever. So what happens is that games are played, people are interested but don't want to seem it, people who aren't interested string people along, your texting all the time so things like length of text, emoji usage, kisses on the end of text, reply times etc. all become tools to which we people can manipulate others emotions. It is totally fucked. I feel like it is so rare to find someone whose intentions are genuine and they are just honest about it.

[@nikkilengyel]

Couldn't have said it better myself! You are 100% correct!

[@WildAlchemicalSpirit]

I relate to this so much

[@hopefully2224]

I think so many of us feel this way

[@tasjalamprecht4143]

Wow this post really hit home for me. There's a complete lack of trust and willingness to be vulnerable in others and I've realized even in myself.

[@merieweather9679]

Very insightful-

[@talesfromthescrypt]

Like everything else these days, dating is unnecessarily extremely complicated

[@chriswalken6129]

Tinder doesn’t work - as us guys will willingly downgrade just to get laid Resulting in ladies having all the choice I’ve chatted to girls only to be unmatched - she has upgraded / but likely this will result in a one night stand Hence most female profiles say ‘no one night stands ‘

[@thesuperiorman537]

@@chriswalken6129 haha I thought it's only in my country every girl writes No ONS on her profile but of course they will have ONS with the hottest and richest guys

[@chriswalken6129]

@@thesuperiorman537 yes / you have perfectly captured why TInder does not Work It’s simply guys downgrading for one night Stands And girls, upgrading for one night stands The solution? Would require girls to realise their grade / even loosely

[@thesuperiorman537]

@@chriswalken6129 Yeah, my last experience was with a church girl, she was 4 at best! She told me she had been on about 10 tinder dates in the previous 3 month. We didn't last 2 weeks she moved on to the next! I gave up already!

[@chriswalken6129]

@@thesuperiorman537 we need to take up hobbies that involve ladies - yoga, dancing

[@HaveYouMetDave]

Aldous Huxleys message in Brave New World is when everything is available, nothing has meaning.

[@chitskirits]

If these "smartphones" would've stayed mobile phones would've been much healthier for the human species

[@debless9572]

Yes, I agree with with this (she typed on her Android).

[@rihhard1072]

The phone is just a tool but the way the social media apps have been designed is absolutely disguisting, made to condition us into schizoid bags of anxiety and loneliness

[@kawaiii7225]

i disagree, my smart phone helped me get my diploma. I didn't have a computer and i could go to the library. if it wasn't for my phone I would had to redo a year of hard work

[@AthenaTheWolf]

I’ve stopped online dating as of 2019. The early days of dating apps were great people genuinely had a desire to meet and connect. Now, it’s mainly for validation and it’s near impossible to find someone who can hold a conversation either via text or in person. The quality of people have plummeted.

[@jaszi33]

@Athena Adventures, completely agree, the art of conversation is dead, as is romance it's all about quick fix n gratification 🥺

[@heidi5452]

I've stopped too....just a waste of time

[@cali2cool902]

You can be alone and NOT BE LONELY... LOVE YOUR OWN COMPANY!!💖

[@hopefully2224]

You can like your own company and still be lonely for companionship.

[@cali2cool902]

@@hopefully2224 my Dogs are my best companions... loyal, loving, and honest... and for human interaction, family and friends are more than enough!!

[@marcusayoub3701]

Women are never alone. Men are never not alone.

[@cali2cool902]

@@marcusayoub3701 makes no sense to me... but do u!!

[@BrendaJBentley]

Two years celibacy here and learning to be alone is the new wealth. The lockdown has taught me to find joy in myself and hone my creativity and spiritual life. I am alone, but not lonely.

[@BrendaJBentley]

I also got a new puppy, 2 birds and 5 fish. Sorted. Haha

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

I'm lonely

[@brianmangan3603]

youre in denial

[@cassandramartin8942]

There are a lot of people on there thinking that someone else is going to heal them through love. I am for the first time in my life not wanting to date because I refuse to relive anymore of those experiences. It is a like a repeating cycle with different faces.

[@SpiralMoss]

Being single is the new being in a relationship 😂👍 I'm single and happy and content..

[@SpiralMoss]

@Marksman78 lol how dare you categorize me 😂 now I feel trapped 👍👍

[@cannabisgrowsnpenguins9590]

@Marksman78 im asexual but I don't like being categorized either tbh. Im just me thats it

[@CL-tv7pz]

Every single experience I had on a dating app was a negative one. I'm now a 40yo M, never married, no kids and content to live my life alone from here on in. This world is so fake that I would rather be content in my own personal space than have to live up to someone else's false expectations of reality.

[@standinginthegap7118]

I completely understand.

[@kandacewalker848]

My fiancé was exactly this way and then he met me and we get married next month. I hope you are happy whether with a partner or not but if you want one I hope you find them!

[@aronr3327]

It's not your fault. Women are asking for higher standards in men even more if they have multiple partners to choose so don't bother and stress yourself.

[@jesterssketchbook]

@@aronr3327 so true - you arent a PERSON to her on an app, as Russell said here "youre an OPTION"

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

On my own i have my own life, & get to do what i feel like. With someone, it could be really a lot more fun, or~ it could be smooshing myself to fit into someone else's life, & my stuff into the extra spare half-closet. It has gotta be easier than this. I've been looking for seven years. Really? Now, i think i would just like friends, & maybe a boyfriend.

[@brandonsmith6965]

"I don't even know if I need peanut butter anymore". Exactly! This is the correct conclusion.

[@barbaraaly6186]

I hate it because I tell the interested person, that I am not looking for a fling, I'm looking for a life partner. Then I get the answer that I am being too serious and need to lighten up. I just don't understand why I should waste my time with someone if they are just looking for a fling.

[@charlie5thumbs351]

I hate it because I can't seem to get either a relationship OR a fling!

[@hali6260]

I hate tinder. What a terrible way to connect

[@WildAlchemicalSpirit]

Ok Cupid, too. I also tried Spiritual Singles and it was just as bad as Ok Cupid. So many creepers. 😐

[@user-tz8pf4pd4q]

Yeah it's shit, BUT meet ONE good person on it and your thoughts on it would change. It only takes one

[@RelightwithKat]

For me dating became fun when you see it as an avenue to self-exploration and exploration of others, and not just as a means to an end of 'obtaining' a relationship

[@theelizardqueen]

I agree

[@early20s18]

>an avenue of self-exploration and exploration of others so chad coroussel?

[@jamesjacob21]

"Too much choice" , i can barely get a single match tbh. Its not good for the soul to be so demonstratively unwanted

[@Glasshopper]

too much choice is only for women and chads.

[@early20s18]

this is what normies don't get is it's not the "too much choices" fallacy. it's fem ale hyperg amy that's the problem.

[@elliptical29]

Never met any genuine people with online dating. They all applied filters to their photos and lied about their age and their circumstances. I got over it soon, and deleted the apps and never looked back.

[@mailchrisvv]

Lots of loneliness and disconnection in the world. Have we forgotten how to connect with other human beings I wonder? I seriously tried online dating for a few months and felt very negative 99% of the time. Retrospectively I suppose this time would have been better spent seeking meaning inside myself, but loneliness in lockdown is difficult. Sometimes we just need the company of others.

[@hopefully2224]

I'm noticing on apps the high number of men stating they only want hook ups or no strings attached relationship. Its so unhealthy

[@andrewjones5752]

Most of the problems of man come from the inability to sit alone in a room in silence.

[@stephenuhe9229]

@@andrewjones5752 TOTALLY agree. I love a comfortable silence. My last relationship they just could not shut up.

[@stdu5559]

@Meddlecat The whhmans have so much choice, they just use the apps for validation, without any intention of meeting. Their constant need for affirmation and drama drives these apps. As Russell says, delete these apps, get out into the real world and stop funding this multi - BILLION dollar industry.

[@BG-sq7zf]

What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *Sex and Culture* by Joseph Daniel Unwin *The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell *The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Men on Strike* by Helen Smith *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous Feminist's Ideology from Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook: "My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Cardi B. artist & role model for the most privilege 🦄 on the entire planet: “My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.” Isaiah 3:12 *Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road. Proverbs 31:3 Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. Ezekiel 23:20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 🕊💚🙋🏻‍♂️

[@cali2cool902]

No interest in dating...I found the Love of my life in Myself...been fabulously SINGLE for 4 years and NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! never dating again!! Hallelujah to COMPLETE FREEDOM

[@margaret_rejnowska]

From a personal experience, one good way to meet a partner is to through hobbies. I met my husband (yes, on Craigslist), when I was looking for a latin dance partner. We have been together for 13 years now.

[@MargaretBuj]

And you’ve even been married by Reverend Buj!

[@marleyofficialmedia]

Thank you for sharing 🐱❤

[@pinkmoongoddess3227]

That's beautiful Margaret!

[@placebo106]

I was content for 4 years being single. Then I decided it was time to meet someone new and I joined Tinder. Since then I feel crap and undesirable as a woman, and already met 3 scammers who thought I'd fall prey to them as a 43 year old woman. Within 3 weeks. I only met one person who was remotely interesting but he stopped talking to me. It there's no reply until the end of the day, I'm just deleting this crap.

[@ihatepolitics880]

Same story here

[@samholden4171]

I would just give up like i did

[@joel5501]

Yeh, let's reconnect with nature Let's make sure every family can get a hectare of land for free and grow their own food, connect with earth, the plants and the animals

[@hosmerhomeboy]

heck, i'd do okay on 5 acres

[@joel5501]

@@tun0fun Yes, I have

[@kakashi2801]

Dating through dating apps sucks on a general level. Let's use this KZbin comment section instead :)

[@lukebailey3662]

Dating in today's world sucks. At this point, I'm content with just it being my daughter and I (single parent home)

[@tanyalucas4683]

Children learn how to love based on how their parents interact. Being alone is better than being with the wrong person, but its worth looking for a good person. She will miss out 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lukebailey3662]

@@tanyalucas4683 I agree 100%. Just seems finding the right person is difficult. I don't want my daughter to get attached to someone and it end badly again. Kinda feel like "damned if I do, damned if I dont". Thankfully she spends a lot of time around my parents who have been married for almost 40 years. So she can have ideas on what a good functioning relationship looks like

[@lauranja913]

It’s become a very shallow world that’s for sure

[@lukebailey3662]

@@lauranja913 unfortunately

[@lukebailey3662]

@Neil Watkins I guess. That's just me saying I'm a single parent. Lol I edited original comment

[@queenofmulberry]

Dating now a days with these apps is sooo emotionally exhausting. People ghost you or you have an entirely too long conversation to never meet and it goes on and on. I'm taking a break from dating for the next few months 🤪

[@swordsnorchids1997]

Loneliness is actually very dangerous to our health and increases our mortality yet we act like this is all normal and okay when it's not. When it becomes so hard to even connect with people on a friendship level you just know that society is very ill.

[@pupperific]

Yes, that. I do love my solitude and spend days on end in solitude, just me and my dogs. But no matter how much we love it, there comes a point when we NEED human contact, human hugs and human conversation. But it is no where to be found anymore it seems. You're right, society is very ill. That is what my take away was from online dating!

[@Moriningland]

True but it’s just reality. My own mother would slit my throat for a ham sandwich and I’ve made de connections since then. So, for people like me, you’ve got to learn to live with loneliness. Having said that, I’m blessed with an amazing life.

[@nancynord260]

We used date people who live within two miles of us. Or else we met someone in college. We used to be able to get to know who they were. We didn't date people who were total strangers. Others knew them or knew of them. They were not a complete mystery with pictures as old as 15 years and reputations they can hide by lying on their dating profile. It is extremely tiresome to go out with people you have nothing in common with except they like to take long walks on the beach and don't look like their pictures. There was a lot less potential rejection in the old style of dating. You already knew if the guy was a dope, a fool, a Don Juan or who his parents are and how he behaves in general. Many things were worked out before a girl or a guy looked at each and thought maybe, or "yes, he's my type of guy." And apparently it is an enormous amount of work!

[@standinginthegap7118]

My thoughts exactly

[@thebesttheworst2277]

Nailed it. We found attraction visually first and then learned their nature, Apps are doing the reverse.

[@robertnobles8189]

I set my distance limit to within 5 miles and had a good time on dates in my neighborhood. I was also working in the neighborhood and didn’t have a car for 6 years.

[@TheGoldLabel2121]

So true, I totally agree, the old way made so much sense and was also a safe way to date someone cuz you know they are not a serial killer

[@MovieRiotHD]

As a Christian it's easier, you have common values as a foundation and vision on life ✌️

[@StarlahMutiny]

The hardest part of being single in this time is having preferences as somehow theyre not allowed. We're expected to cling to the first person to show us interest since we should feel lucky someone even matched with us. I have boundries and when I let people know about them, they get offended since they dont fit what im looking for. Deal breakers exist. I shouldnt have to bend my prefrences and morals/values just to be in a relationship. Compromises are a thing but if we dont match and dont agree on fundamentals, it doesn't mean youre not a good person, it just means you're not a good match for ME.

[@jucxox]

💯

[@CalBorst]

dam well said. I resonated a lot with your message!

[@barbaraaly6186]

I know what you mean. I'm not making myself miserable just so I'm not alone. I really don't understand some people's reasoning.

[@allgood7088]

@Meddlecat Maybe you're walking around with your eyes closed

[@grainofsand4176]

You are very logical and mature about it- and the last line is highly relevant and important. People may need help seeing it's not a rejection- weird analogy- everyone makes such a big deal about getting into certain schools- rather than focusing on the school that matches their needs and personality. I know it feels like a jump- but it's truth.

[@amethystfeathers7324]

I prefer to be single rather than use dating apps. If the Universe has someone in mind for me, it'll happen naturally. I've grown so much spiritually since I've been single otherwise I'm perfectly happy and won't ever settle for less again.

[@brandonlacasse3808]

I've been done with dating for a while now. Everyone's got problems I don't want to deal with these days. Sometimes I get curious about people, but it doesn't usually take me long to remember why I would rather be alone. With my luck I keep running into really fucked up people who seem okay at first and I'm just tired of it. Not worth the effort I put in.

[@verycherry4459]

I hear ya.

[@keerthivasanmanu]

Same ya

[@emoke150]

Thank you for this video. It confirms my feeling of nausea and disgust and the overall feeling "this is so.wrong" and why.I stopped online dating. My time is limited on this earth and I felt it is a waste of my time that I could use for things that uplift me and nurture me instead. Thank you Papa Russel (this is how I call you in my mind). You always hit the nail on its head.

[@candygirl1990]

If I could stop getting ghosted, I'd be happy. I'm staying single, I'm pretty, I'm nice, I'm kind, but no one seems to want me. Its a con big time.

[@tomasrusso2285]

"do not allow these screens to become a magnet for your time and your attention and your precious unique individual life" Wise words Russell, thank you

[@gavinspeaks]

If you are reading this, you are going to celebrate something really special really really soon, you will be full of joy and happiness sharing your good news. It will almost seem out of this world how suddenly it all happened for you. Be ready, expect it, it’s happening ~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@dan..........]

Not really true though it is. This is very naive thinking, life can be brutal

[@breadgarlichouse2265]

going to experience Bitcoin going to the moon later this year 💥🚀🌙

[@Oohreallytho]

Bollox

[@liamnewsom8583]

Even if you get into a relationship it's going to feel just as empty

[@shelleyw1858]

Best comment so far.....

[@jacko859]

100% true

[@Jordandacosta25]

Yep

[@DavidParry83]

I agree with a lot of what you've said here Russell! As a single heterosexual guy and someone who has survived cancer its difficult meeting new people. I've been single now for about 9 years, I've used various dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble etc with no great luck. I've also tried to meet people with similar interests to me to forge a connection, however I've been mostly friend zoned :( However I'm staying positive for the future and hoping to meet someone that I can connect with on different levels.

[@amethystfeathers7324]

Trust in Divine timing. There are heaps of single girls out there for you ❤️

[@x97s]

The best way to avoid the friendzone is to be more direct

[@DavidParry83]

@@x97s Yeah! I’ve been rejected before by someone I had deep feelings for, so I guess I’ve maybe thought the ‘friend zone’ is an easier way to keep friends! Good advice though! 👍

[@early20s18]

@@amethystfeathers7324 statistically girls only fvck 20% of guys. there is nothing divine about this

[@BG-sq7zf]

What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *Sex and Culture* by Joseph Daniel Unwin *The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell *The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Men on Strike* by Helen Smith *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous Feminist's Ideology from Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook: "My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Cardi B. artist & role model for the most privilege 🦄 on the entire planet: “My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.” Isaiah 3:12 *Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road. Proverbs 31:3 Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. Ezekiel 23:20 There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses. 🕊💚🙋🏻‍♂️

[@KitKrash]

I don’t even get ‘likes’ on my KZbin comments. I am mostly invisible in the online world. I am glad I have friends I can call on the phone or meet in person with as I am a complete loser on social media and dating apps.

[@WildAlchemicalSpirit]

I see you.

[@dbcoco]

As long as you have real friends in the physical world, you are not a loser at all! You seem nice. Take care.

[@thefreeaussielad7292]

Yeah me too. I build up social circles now. New friends at the gym, at work. When I go out for Friday drinks, I make an effort to talk to new people and listen to what the have to say. People love it when you listen to their stories, but I need to get better.

[@jeremyw4806]

Russell, the other problem with dating apps is that there is about 50 to 1---guy to girl---on the dating site. Here is an example: I created a fake account with an OKAY looking woman, nothing spectacular. During the first hour, I received over a hundred messages. I had so many messages that I could not answer them all. After the first hour, I had a mind-boggling 40 men ask me on a date. To boot, like I said, the woman I created the account with wasn't even good-looking.

[@IISG93II]

Yeah, one of the many female privileges feminists don't talk about.

[@cosmicfxx]

Tech is humanities downfall

[@abe2217]

As an average-looking Ph.D. student in STEM, who is also a teetotaler who does not like the club or bar scene, who lives in a university town, the prospect of even meeting someone through dating apps is seeming hopeless. It is especially challenging and even depressing when you match with someone you like when they don't have the same excitement as I do in texting with them (this is by no means their fault, as everyone has their own preference). This is where I am now. I generally do not use dating apps, and I try to numb this longing for a partner through work or chores. Two weeks ago I was feeling hopeful and made the mistake of downloading a dating app and I must say never I have never felt this shitty. I hope a year from now to come back to this comment and reflect if things have changed.

[@ah3738]

Omg!! I hear you! Made the epic mistake of downloading a dating up Just before my holidays (save yourself pain, never do that 🤣). I got catfished first and then met someone and thought the conversation was going well and THEN BAM..Unmatched me and ghosted. Darned almost ruined my annual break. Lesson learned. Wishing you the best for the future. 🙏

[@nidamreps]

How is live now for you?

[@hackmedia7755]

So then talk to people at the grocery store or costco and get a lot of approaches done.

[@deanmckenna6094]

Namaste, Russel. Your words help sort through the confusion like no one else's. You ground and uplift at the same time. And yes dating apps are toxic.

[@CiaraLynn]

Just what I needed to hear. The abundance of choices is truly exhausting. Hate how we treat each other as objects. Thanks for sharing

[@phiangleflip]

Russell, I already loved your thoughts & all your content, but this made me so happy to hear someone who has been through everything you have and reached the position you're in speaking about this in an enlightened way. Thank you! Much respect. 🙏💕

[@Rhapsohd]

Never felt more lonely than after using dating apps. Thanks for making this video and the suggestion on being present. Guess it always comes down to spirituality. I hope you make more videos on this topic!

[@dianewhalen9721]

What I have noticed with the younger generation they have not learned the fine art of conversation and real life, in person interaction.They should have real life places where people can meet a real person .They have lost the fun of social interaction.They look at people in bits and pieces. To much choice not enough quality 👍🙏🏼🤯

[@dotdashdotdash]

I know a millennial who actually says “lol” like “loll”

[@1405ve]

@Meddlecat it is also like that the other wat around . It is both ways. Sad but true

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

In long lines with everyone on their phone. No one talking. Crazy.

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

@Meddlecat gosh, that sounds just like she's acting like guys do.

[@mazafhakar3971]

Been on the apps for a 2 months now, and all along have been aware that there is something emotionally not right there, but would not have been able to articulate it as you did. Thank You Russell.

[@danielshipley8123]

Thank you so much. I welled up watching this video. I've not found anything which even comes close to unpacking how toxic this spiral can be. Thank you again.

[@bluecovenalley]

dating apps make me want to kms honestly. i hate having that 2d image of me and other people be the first thing someone sees. i much rather like to meet people in real life, yknow its really easy to tell if you vibe with someone when you meet them in person. swiping makes me feel empty, because im reducing humans to an object. but also theres so much pressure, like, i cannot meet everyone in my city in a day, but i can go through hundreds of them online... i must say though, i met my best friend through okcupid and im really happy i did.

[@reneenuttall2977]

Finding love, keeping love, wondering if you found the right love…this human condition is a wild ride. The endless comings and going’s, all the endings and beginnings- hold onto the center with the deepest roots- the unchanging timeless unconditional love that is your birth right. Thanks Russel for your light💕

[@hali6260]

So? Is Anyone else here single? Heyyyyy? 😉

[@seang2424]

Yes single dad havnt had a date in 6 years no time between work and bringing up my daughter take all my time not my choice but the hand i got dealt 4 Aces😁😊 Peace and love from France you are not alone👽

[@pamelaw7771]

@@seang2424 of course it’s a choice! It’s just not a priority. When you make room in your life... the right one will appear. It’s not magic.. it’s simply... where your energy goes is what grows.

[@milktop1]

Yep single, working on myself and my goals. Hard to meet people worthwhile

[@stylercooke]

Yes! Shall we meet ? :)

[@thestrangestthing5452]

@@seang2424 😎❤

[@brendak7781]

I’ll wait for the universe to bring someone that improves my single hood, While I enjoy life and family time.

[@edwardferry8247]

“Most people are utter arse aches”. Eugene O'Neill, Hamlet.

[@dotdashdotdash]

“Other people are quite dreadful. The only possible society is oneself”. ~ Oscar Wilde, “An Ideal Husband”

[@edwardferry8247]

@@dotdashdotdash I think you will find that was Oscar Brynner, the guy who played Kojak.

[@yinoveryang4246]

Russell has returned to form recently. This is brilliant, loved it, Always brings up new ways of seeing things

[@jocelynnelake41]

Russell, you are such a gem. Well done for taking the time to practice introspection and thus become the wonderful, generous human you have become today 🙏💕

[@kenzopo8125]

I think I've become too much of a hermit with too many strange idiosyncrasies to be a good partner for any self respecting woman.

[@DailyJAB]

relatable.

[@WildAlchemicalSpirit]

I know what you mean.

[@slambangwallop]

It sounds like you can laugh at yourself so that's something, at least!

[@user-ho4ns5te8b]

Haha I can relate

[@lisaann7540]

This can be found to be just a belief you have internalised. Sit with yourself, and witness the belief within you. You are not it, and it is not you. You are indefinable. By realising you’re holding this belief captive rather than it holding you captive, you may release it. Do not be tricked by the mind, I wish you all the best.

[@kw2299]

At least profiles with 'I've been jabbed' flags and faces wearing a nappy cuts down who you have to interact with.

[@KitKrash]

We now know which people are lying to themselves

[@michellecassar5785]

Don't they just!!! Thank you appreciate this x

[@lj7169]

I dont understand lol

[@billydiaz7280]

It's both the covid fearing people and the anti maskers that turn me off. So goddamn divided and extreme either way.Somewhere in the middle, nuance

[@theelizardqueen]

@I Don’t Care What You Think me too

[@caroliner2029]

I don't fit into the Instagram world. I'm not airbrushed. My life isn't perfect. I'm in therapy. I was injured by a surgeon and have to change careers. People like me, those who are suddenly disabled, those who aren't Narcissists, don't fit into the dating app scene, or on much of social media. I've found my tribe on Twitter, but I have no one in my real life that I can talk about PTSD with, or who can accept me and my life challenges. These are not things to disclose in a fledgling relationship.

[@darwinaguuero1]

As a person who used too much this kind of apps, I learned that I have a problem with rejection in the real life, and I was using this because of my low self-esteem problem.

[@carmenmead6807]

I have no idea why RB started doing these videos but they are fabulous. Thoughtful, interesting and well explained. Awesome job; so glad I stumbled onto these! 👏🏻

[@ava198]

Would rather meet them in person not on a dating app

[@doctornov7]

I try to meet girls out and about in person. It's more authentic and if you do it properly people love it.

[@omgyeaXD]

I think its a combination of online gaming, porn and dating apps that put you in a real mental block when it comes to dating. Causes isolation. Speaking from experience.

[@christopherrobin4619]

Wow Russell, the level of substance in this 15 mins ... just amazing. Thank you

[@seanwright8978]

Revelatory stuff as always, Russell. Thank you for addressing a concern that's personally very close to me. Your wisdom helps me every day.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You really hit the nail on the head Russell.

[@ann-christinberg886]

Absolutely fascinating body language, Russell, - your message is deeply gestured!

[@hermioneladygaga]

Excellent video, Russell, very thought-provoking, thank you!

[@fr13geist15]

Dear Russell, I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate and enjoy your videos! Please, keep going the way you do and share your perspectives and ideas with people! Unfortunately, I feel quite like in a spiral of being both loonely and belittling myself... A lot of things just don't seem to work out the way I wish... Career... Relatioships... Therefore watching your vids gives me a lot of hope. I've always been a rather optimistic man but the last relationships and years have somehow changed me... Probably I have just changed... I wish you all the best and I will keep watching your vids, thanks for your great work!!!!

[@Gooner9988]

I needed to hear this!! Thankyou very much Russell your content is so helpful 💜

[@leandroperalta]

I think the concept of dating is already a construct that imposes rules and expectations over relationships. I was born and raised in a culture that didn't use the term dating. Your relationships could be formed in any place and time.

[@ChaplainJoshua]

Astute observation

[@ClairLouise]

My spirituality bought about my celibacy 7 years back but I've never considered myself single? No apps, detached from the nouns, people, places and things. I found my reconnection with nature and meditation with the elements purged a whole load of hidden inhibitions and found myself available yet unattainable 🤣 when you do the work you inevitably raise the bar. I'm selfish with myself I guess but trust the divine will find a way. I'm in no rush these days ✨🙏🔮 happy as a horn on a ram, enjoying my aloneness not singledom. For me there's a difference. I choose this lifestyle I thrive alone until a breeze of complimentary assistance arrives 🧘‍♀️

[@Corey-gb1rx]

self discovery turns you into a fuking boss doesn't it :) keep raising that bar

[@stardollxo5982]

2 videos in one day!!!! Thankyou russel

[@alexandersnaer3235]

Russell thank you for this and all you do

[@mike_r91]

Thank you so much for Your Public Service

[@kazbah1217]

Dates are like being on a perpetual job interview👎life is too short.

[@opiumaddict6362]

by being a south american listener, turns to be so good to hear you talk slowly...

[@CDPlayer1994]

I love you Russell. Thank you for everything you do

[@angelajoybb]

Thank you for mentioning “think of the person’s ancestors and generations behind them” when you’re talking to them on the screen. This helps me a lot. I wish philosophy classes just played your KZbin channel.

[@dabdelaziz777]

Things are too easy these days. And this makes it easier to get lost in them. I think the whole industry needs to go away. Great video

[@verycherry4459]

Welcome to dating apps where people are a commodity and you're just one click away from the perfect match.😕 Don't commit to someone because you never know who might be on next week seems to be the mantra.🤦‍♀️

[@Gigi-wo8yv]

So well-spoken! Brilliant Russell! Happy Thanksgiving from the US! I am thankful for you! Who you are, and the work you are doing to assist the higher vibrating Energy across Mother Earth... 🌍🌏🌎

[@LuffyTsuki]

I will always stay away from dating apps. I’m happy to just choose myself.

[@AllThingsFilm1]

I stopped online dating, and using apps, a long time ago. After a while, it became obvious to me that I was leaning on the mere act of seeking dates online for validation. Having met most of my previous dates in natural, social gatherings, I felt that I should go back to that approach. The pandemic actually helped me become less codependent and more satisfied with being alone. Not lonely. I see online dating as too detached to be healthy. You're looking at images and text to make dating decisions. It's almost robotic. Now that society is returning to in person activities, I will stick with meeting people through social situations. I just can't look at dating as if I'm shopping for someone, as one would shop for groceries. Which is what online dating looks like to me. Great video, Russell.

[@allaboutkalergi5012]

Damn, you speak so much good sense Russell! All those years of reading self-help books and searching for inner meaning are starting to pay off big time. :-D

[@gracyland.]

Dating today in an app is superficial, yo feel atracted by a picture.. I miss meeting people, laghing with good personality.

[@jennesimser]

Use the app in a conscious way. Just like money, apps are evil or soul destroying...it’s your choice how you use them. You know what serves you best. 💜🌸

[@nwpv7170]

Great awakening conversation. Thank you

[@jgos]

Thank you RB. You are helping me live a more meaningful life.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m just overwhelmed by choices.

[@cathalodonovan6596]

Russell! Love you brother 🙏✊ hitting the nail on the head once again. Thank you.

[@styledtoperfectionx]

I immediately deleted my apps as soon as the video ended. It felt like Russ was speaking straight to me!!

[@Corey-gb1rx]

same wanna go on a date? lol

[@unknownanonymous5914]

👊😔 fists out for my man koko. Never got a response.

[@maryshirren4865]

I went on 2 dating site for about 2 weeks. It was boreing and repedative and when you told people that you only wanted someone interested in a long term relationship they still went on to try and hook up for sex. So I came off them and I took a celabcy vow of my own for a year. It was a great idiea took all that bullshit off the table. I now have peace of mind and I'm doing more work on myself. Much needed.

[@erikafreebird6449]

My experience with online dating after 2019 has been strange, I felt like an item for sale, being scrutinized and chucked aside. The few dates I went on, the men expected sex straight away. No thanks, I will stay single and just meet someone the old fashioned way.

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

Honestly, these men acted like they had purchased YOU for the price of a meal. Like, seriously? They actually said such stupid stuff as, "I want to see you naked first, so i know if you're worth dating." And, "I spent money on gas to get here, so you better put out." What? What?

[@erikafreebird6449]

@@angaeltartarrose6484 that is crazy. I had an older guy, pressure me too. Saying almost the same thing. It was the second date, and he's saying that if I didn't put out he was moving on. I told him to lose my number.

[@IISG93II]

@@erikafreebird6449 So you expected him to pay for your meal? If you don't have anything going for you other than sex, then men simply won't be able to value you for anything other than sex. Women need to realise this.

[@erikafreebird6449]

@@IISG93II we didn't go out to eat met at the park with my dogs.

[@erikafreebird6449]

@@IISG93II I will also add that I have run a rescue for 19 years, before that a contracted solo singer with CBS Records, an actress, and horse trainer....I have deep interest in many things, sex comes after a friendship is established and once there is love and respect.

[@davidfarrall]

This is good advice, indicative of all society. We should restrict choice of products or people and build appropriate matrix edifices.

[@Lauren-gs7bn]

This is why I stay in a toxic relationship. Dating today terrifies me and so does being alone

[@xElNinoo]

Like someone said on a previous video, Russell should set up his own dating app within his YT community. You'd have a head start in terms of connection with other people.

[@Stradlverius]

I am so glad I found this video. Thank you.

[@cabellero1120]

Dating as a teen or college age person seems less complicated than dating as an adult.