How To Help The Client Who Doesn't Want Therapy

You've probably heard the therapeutic cliché of "they have to want to change!" - and there's some truth in it - we can throw a lifeline to a client, but they need to grab it.
In this video I'll outline some of the reasons a client may resist your attempts to help them, and I'll give a few examples of how I would deal with some of those situations.
Ultimately we don't, shouldn't, and can't force people to engage in therapy, but we can help to show those in need of it that there is no shame in needing help sometimes.
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[@dvirc218]

This is such a great channel I learn so much from it, don't stop the vids!!

[@tracygiven2984]

Love this, second year counselling student stressing about going out on placement 🤭although I came in to this quite confident I feel as if iv lost some off this 😩

[@dustinsanchezmusic5851]

I'm a student as well... Struggled with addiction for years but now have 2 years sobriety. I've been on the other side of the desk for years but am anxious to start my internship next spring! Best of luck in your journey

[@LukeXMV]

In Australia we have this strange approach that we help only those who ask for help and that it is people's choice. We often let people fall all the way yet try to prevent a suicide. It makes no sense.

[@johnnyllooddte3415]

wow thank you.. im just starting into therapy.. millions need it.. thanks again.. doc johnny sicily

[@carolineobasoro]

Very great.

[@fuzzylogics139]

Also, often the person is dealing with something vulnerable that has been private for the longest time. Just like some people you feel comfortable letting into "your house", feel safe around, others not so much or not at all. Lately a friend is (again: its not the first time and I'm not the only one she does this to) is trying hard to force her own ideas of what would be good for me and at what pace, onto me. I actually realised last time she was getting pushy, I'm feeling close to violated by her. This analogy made so much sense to me. It felt the same having a guy trying to have sex with me when I did not want to. You have to be ready yourself and it has to be the right person.

[@ranamerez8392]

thank you for your help I love this chanel iam listening on daily basic and as I start practicing that is helping me a lot

[@dv123abc]

Great Job Mark, such amazing information! 🙏🏻

[@BlueSkyBS]

"No" is a complete sentence. Deal with it.

[@SusanRossBirthRight]

You are a master at reframes! Always helpful thanks.

[@lenas5613]

Brilliant. Thank you!

[@ashleynancarrow6135]

Thank you. I learned so much...I am an intern with a huge challenge. Very helpful tips!

[@stephenkelly2779]

Why do most therapists or doctors not understand child neglect, severe bullying at school. My 1st doctor was great I saw the last 2 have been terrible.

[@manasishankar4686]

You just have to find the right therapist. I’m a therapist and neither me or my colleagues would ever ignore an issue as serious as those you mentioned. Sorry you’ve had bad luck, but don’t give up! A ton of us are out there :)

[@hunnybSue]

@@manasishankar4686 ive been trying for over 25 years. I cant relax enough to learn to trust again. I refuse to let anyone have that much power over me.

[@xeropunt5749]

Yes don't suffer needlessly in life, the candle burns down whether you're reading horror or Shakespeare...

[@nancysedky555]

Amazing guidance on counselling! Thank you!

[@jeffreydonaldson8266]

One thing is some counselors are keeping their clients to stay paid. When a Client who isn't court ordered is asked to be dropped. The Counselors are actually obligated to drop their case. Theyy tell their clients. That the clients parents , wife , or friends and other family are unfair to client. Giving the client a low self esteem. Their told they need to be emotionally close to the counselors. It is actually a form of Psychological Malpractice. The cleints tells the counselor he or she doesn't want any more letters to appeal the close case. they get a letter mentioning that. Just to bring client back to counseling. No means No. it does become malpractice when counselor keeps bring up past when Client made changes that are positive for themselves. I which you would address that kind of stuff. Not all clients situations are their fault. Why take responsibility and blame the client when it isn't their fault?

[@centralprocessingunit2564]

you are right. they just want money. i wanted to quit many times but i will finally try my best to quit therapy. i will tell my therapist in person that i want to quit.

[@tiffanygodbey1894]

How disgusting to clump all counselors as bad

[@ChitchatwithApril]

Wonderful help!

[@eliorato]

I never stay with a therapist for more than 2 weeks, I find them too fake, annoying or they say things I dont like and I dont come back lmao, I dont know why nobody feels "right" for me but I know I need help since I'm struggling with mood swings and addiction :/

[@rheaarora9888]

keep trying! sometimes one might say something you dont like, but try to use that next session and let them know

[@prashanthambaddam313]

Very astute and helpful insights indeed Dr. Mark. Thanks much . From Dr Prashantham, psychotherapist India

[@ruthlaffitte2011]

Thanks wonderful

[@CP-nl1uo]

Recently someone told me "If you go to a beauty salon, then you won't need psychologist. I'll never go or pay a psychologist because they only advise people. It's the most useless profession on earth". After studying masters in clinical psychology I had no idea psychologists give advices. Thank you for these videos

[@vencasuamente]

Some of my clients are just leaving the process, because their don't want to face their own responsability. This have been a bit of a problem to me, how can I fix this?

[@viksaggu9085]

Understand they aren’t ready, not your fault

[@jeremycocking1964]

i need some help i when to counseling, was not helpfull

[@DayoSamuelMastery]

What form of help do you mean

[@RISE-DPAC]

Is this true for teens as well?

[@spencerbrouwer4625]

The last I saw a counselor I just sat In a chair for 45 on my phone for every session for about a week then stopped going and also didn't bother to pay them