How to keep a long distance relationship from getting boring.

The enemy of love is not hate. I think it’s boredom. At least heat still has fire emotions behind it. But boredom kills everything. Whatever you do don’t be boring. If you find a relationship is getting boring and the conversation is going nowhere do this. For more videos on dating relationships and love, hit subscribe and hit the bell so you don’t miss anything.
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[@asmrsleep3079]

13 hour time difference... We still make it work. He calls me on his lunch break while I'm settling down for bed... we do text a lot throughout the day while we are both working... Also sending tik toks, snaps, and Instagram posts to each other. Weekends are when we get to call a lot of I'm not working... We try and have a movie/game night date each week.

[@beyondtheimagination980]

I'm in relationship with a girl from Philippines and I'm from India, there isn't any trust issues or anything like that but I'm just anxious about getting a way to earn money(job) in the future*

[@beyondtheimagination980]

reply me if you can help me,, how to handle this anxiety

[@Celine0007]

Can u share how u watch movie together?

[@heusbwisbsidm]

What if guy is only wants to see your body on a call...is this a red flag

[@richardDara-ot9zp]

​@@Celine0007the way I do it with my lady that's in the Dominican Republic and myself being in texas, we'll have Netflix on in our own phone or TV and will stay on screen with each other to watch the movie together in our own homes but we also are able to interact

[@nadzproduction6397]

I’m in the getting apart stage I think, the communication is not like it was so I’m just riding until the wheels fall off

[@skhulilengema4094]

Why am I watching this when I'm practically dying from being a singleton since I was born? Not me smirking when he said..'it will get stale...it will get boring..and you draw APART... muahahaha😂

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

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[@v3ngence138]

Everyone's situation is a bit more complex when it comes to LDR cause some things applies, some things don't. Some might work for you, some might not. It's all about the communication, since that's the most reliable way of understanding each other. Stay genuine, and do not rush or force it. Dish out efforts, just as the other. The truth is that it is very hard to maintain, but with the right mindset and the right person, you can make anything work. And personally, I think the most important aspect, is being mature about everything. Things are never black and white. Some might be, but others simply aren't. I hope the best for everyone

[@SweetArt360]

We are about a year in and still going good. These are great tips which we implement. Our ability to converse is really good and we have things in common. We message, speak on voice only calls and sometimes video call. Also we send each other all kinds of stuff from funny, informative, educational, song videos to ocassional memes. We furthermore tell each other about our plans relatively often and ocassionally what we are eating lol. We haven't gotten into watching movies or playing games together yet. Though that's basically on our list too. We got a long while to go til we meet, so I was questioning a bit about our ability to keep that up. Though I think we are on the right track in that regard and are doing well. Hope all of this helps y'all too. 😊

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

This all sounds great. Just take it one day at a time. Relationships are no longer black and white. Create the experience you want and enjoy it.

[@Ren-yz6mb]

are you guys still together?

[@SweetArt360]

@@Ren-yz6mb Unfortunately not currently, maybe never... who knows. What about you, are you in or were you in a long distance relationship?

[@Ren-yz6mb]

@@SweetArt360 i was for 3 years, we broke up a week ago and it’s been tough. what happened with you guys? how long did it take you to get over it?

[@SweetArt360]

@@Ren-yz6mb He crossed a line or two and didn't/didn't want to adequately fix it how I wanted. Or in other words, we had a disagreement about how it should be fixed. Then issues just compounded I suppose. It's only been about 2.5 months now, and I'm still trying to get over. What about you, what happened?

[@GigaSquaD1]

giving less time is perfect

[@loufbread26]

SOOO TRUEEEEEE

[@Play-jv3oi]

​@@loufbread26what do you mean?

[@emmanueleze3367]

Sooo true

[@user-ty1jz3fj9e]

How so? Pls explain

[@emona_07]

I'm in this boring stage 😢 thank you

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

Click thge link in the bio and get my book, Secrets Of The Mind Of A Man. I have a dedicated chapter on making long-distance relationships work.

[@janiece8439]

It's normal and it will pass Don't give up Surprises as often as you can think them up Videos of you doing everything I am 2.5 years in Love this man more every day He sings to me, writes me love letters I have to translate to read ! Imagination is important until you meet

[@OfficialKoodaBTV]

Facts 🥲

[@H_E_R_]

​@@janiece8439 honestly I'm beginning to give up.. I can't think of anything anymore and i don't even know what to do

[@saumyaverma1846]

I am in long distance relationship for 6 years now we both know everything about each other that's why we want to talk now but don't know what to talk about on what topic we should talk, this making me so frustrated that we started having a fight because of my bad mood just because i want to talk to him but don't know we should talk about what 😔😔😔

[@artiaquilachryseatos6556]

100% right ♥️♥️

[@anitababz5465]

I give up with long distance relationships. It's shucks

[@jadajackson-yp1ne]

thank ur for the advice it has helped me and my bf

[@yambikes]

10 Years in LDR, and yes it get's little boring sometimes. And, its okay. If we need excitement and butterflies, we play lovify game. Have fun and get to know each other with it. Its a part, not every day gonna be same :)

[@MustaliS550]

Why? 10 years and you haven’t moved closer or gotten married.

[@yambikes]

@@MustaliS550 For career requirements, but soon we are getting married :)

[@sokawai5]

​@@MustaliS550prob is the money

[@emilakesson6625]

@@MustaliS550he's getting money dragged

[@MustaliS550]

@@emilakesson6625 ik lol it was a Socratic question to get him thinking

[@walkwithkey]

totally agree! ❤

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@peepeepoopoo5362]

this is the most bs thing I've heard all day... god pls dont limit your conversation. if things get boring maybe you should think about the next step of your relationship. like meeting up..

[@maryka1234]

Nahhh it’s in human nature to get bored so skipping to the next person will be nice in the beginning, but the cycle will repeat. And guess what is gonna happen next 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@SweetArt360]

It's not bs, sometimes it helps to step back and give each other room to breath. Varying the length of time you speak also helps to add variety into your relationship and actually can promote healthy communication. Because if someone just has let's say 20 or so minutes to speak sometimes then knowing that they don't always have to spend an hour or so with you on the phone helps them feel more comfortable to speak with you. It is good to give each other space to relax and do your own things especially in a long distance relationship where the things you can actually do together or the people you can hangout together is either limited.

[@briandiggs3508]

That won't work. It just buying you extra time. Eventually its going to end

[@MrAnnihilatior86]

Thanks man !

[@asmrsleep3079]

We talk everyday over text and sometimes the conversation runs dry and when I end it he tries to keep it going when we don't know what to talk about.... Any tips? Are we talking too much throughout the day? Iwe also have a 13 hour time difference between us so that's a factor to consider

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

Text can be a dry way to keep a conversation going in my new book Secrets of the Mind Of A Man I created a bonus chapter going in depth as to how to be successful in a long-distance relationship.a.co/d/bOBDGGR Use different modalities of communication. Text is good but it’s only good for short term conversation and use all the tools available to communicate. Create anticipation using time and have a designated time that you will talk. When the time is up, you say good night. Clarity and communication are everything. Get the book by clicking the link.

[@BlazeByte_13]

I was visiting my girlfriend but turns out she was cheating I visited her for a (surprise visit) it was a long distance relationship and when I got there I found her cuddling with “her new boyfriend”😔😢😭

[@emilycoulter8346]

Thank u this will help me a lot I just started a long distance relationship and if u have anymore tips or advice I would really appreciate it, thank u agian

[@Kokojamrig]

When both of you are introverted then you get of of introvertism but she's still introverted and wont even talk on vc.....

[@katerin148]

Oh ho i feel you

[@Kokojamrig]

Yes, it's hard

[@SpeakingGodsTruth211]

He's deployed right now 😥😥😥

[@asmrsleep3079]

Sameeeee. 13 hour time difference... We still make it work. He calls me on his lunch break while I'm settling down for bed... we do text a lot throughout the day while we are both working... Also sending tik toks, snaps, and Instagram posts to each other. We are making it work... On the weekend we watch movies together.

[@elindigeno1215]

I'm getting bored. I'm the only one who has something to say.

[@OfficialKoodaBTV]

Same here gang

[@m77x]

Same

[@JustNai22]

rii

[@azoe8226]

limit a conversation time best 20min ... thank you very much sir ..good thing u have said sir...

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

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[@azoe8226]

@@KelvinTroyJohnson yess love yo sir... Already i did it...

[@misterkim4808]

He won't call me☹️☹️ Hes just very different in person but i love him so much i have to stay strong untill we meet again. Hes not too vulnerable through text and I always feel like im bothering him. I try so hard. Tbf we only went long distance recently so maybe hes just too busy now.

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

I here you. He is showing signs of his desires but i'm not sure you are paying attention. His actions are spreaking louder than his words. I hope you can hear them.

[@misterkim4808]

​@@KelvinTroyJohnsonYou were right! He is showing signs of wanting to be with me (like saying he wants to be with me haha). Although there was a day where he told me he wasn't sure if he should date me and I don't know exactly what went through his head. He even said he loved me in person but doesnt know if he will keep loving me for sure. Broke my heart because I know I can love him forever. I gave him some time to think. We decided on dating until we can possibly meet again in 2 years minimum. We settled to call once a week to avoid obsession from constant texting. I still worry he might want to break up within the next two years. Is it normal to doubt a relationship and still make it work?? He also mentioned my looks dont reach his standards but that he loves my inside and when i asked if that would be an issue he said no. Im scared he will forget about me by the time we can meet.

[@misterkim4808]

​@@KelvinTroyJohnsonBy the way I took your advice and suggested we call once a week when he said he thinks im too obsessed with him (im not obsessed just in love). That really saved our relationship from completely falling apart thank you so much.

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@misterkim4808]

@@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg hello

[@rubberducky6683]

I am in a long distance relationship, we have never met and cant really meet eachother for like next atleast five years as both of us r students and live in different countries...i just sometime don't know what to talk ànd in our relationship, i am the talkative one . Please tell me what to do and how to keep us

[@Mechuijano]

Same I feel your struggle

[@esmesal6006]

How are u doing now?

[@neawilliams7204]

Meh, been there, done that. I tried all these methods but clearly it didn’t last anyways. Why? The biggest complaint was what? ✨distance✨. In my experience it was the lack of being physically present (it mostly the guys I was with that had this complaint more than me. But whatever). The two people who truly don’t want to let each other go and keep the relationship in healthy condition will do what it takes. It will be effortless, otherwise save yourself some time and heartbreak by peacefully departing 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@heidixo]

529km away

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@blindedxhris8109]

Im transferring schools on Monday. Ill miss my girlfriend. We plan on staying connected still, we'll go out once a month, text everyday and every night.. but i still feel sad.. any tips?

[@samdoesstuff4924]

how does it get boring i'm confused. like do you ever get bored of your best friend like i feel like y'all always got something new to talk about right? why would it be different for a partner

[@Haileybailey427]

20 minutes? We talk for 10 hours straight on average! Edit: nvm we broke up

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

lol I hear you. If it's working, keep doing it. Just make a plan for the future.

[@Celine0007]

Hth u even do it 😢

[@Ren-yz6mb]

why’d you guys break up?

[@Citybellecom]

🎉🎉

[@John83118]

This content is monumental. A book I read with similar themes had a mammoth effect on me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@alonsogattuso8742]

Pls am suffering from long distance I need advice my girlfriend said i should limit the way i call her and also limit the video call and audio call i am now in an unhappy state imaging that she want to cheat on me 😢😢😢

[@AnanthuKrishan]

Just give a try like you don't call or text her until she do. Do it for few days if she really love you she will say why are you not talking like before

[@odettendayi3964]

Don't get paranoid about it. She isn't cheating on you. Just give her a moment to miss you. She is busy and she is there. Trust me if she's genuine, she just wants just that. My fiance calls constantly because of his insecurities and I can feel that. I work a lot and he knows, I have children, I am home alone with children and I have so much household to do and then he'll call just to know what I'm doing even when he knows it's work hours. I said I'm work or ignore him. My advice to you is, if you have no reason to think she's cheating on you and she says to reduce the constant calls, please do that. Go to work or something. Lol

[@TNGsAnimation]

Ask Ldr nation that’s a KZbin channel

[@laraebarbour4626]

@@odettendayi3964yes definitely felt that, going through that rn and it starts to feel demanding

[@RudolphManor]

Long Distance Relationships Are For Fools! 💯

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

LOL.. it's not for everyone but it can be done.

[@sibohndlovu7622]

Wat if h dnt want to do all the other things

[@JenanLiwantang]

What if your boyfriend is busy, he has time for me when he gets home

[@arpitlegend9718]

She Live 1 hour away from my house 😭😭😭

[@cash4230]

Luckyyy 😂

[@LostSniper]

what is she doesn’t like calls

[@sokawai5]

Aw heck nah.

[@ISO_international_friends]

🎉❤

[@draven5711]

Tbh just be your self ic it gets boring then let go

[@greg6909]

Another way to keep it interesting is to have her record a and send a voice-mail when Tyrone comes through while you are at work. That way you know she's being taken care of. Then when you get off of work be sure to call so you can comfort her about her work drama.

[@everythingsunshine3070]

😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@mopar01lairamore65]

long distance relationships never really work out unfortunately.

[@KelvinTroyJohnson]

They are definitely challenging, and it requires a strategy. A person has to know that is what they really want.

[@S77777en]

Dude just leave her she's probably sleeping with someone right now.

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@dianaaddison1]

LDR is a scam and is based on luck… I lost trust.

[@user-sd1zu8fu1k]

No good