How to know if you're bisexual or a lesbian?

[@MsDickerz]

Have you ever wondered whether you were bisexual or a lesbian? 🌈✌️

[@Catgurlz2YT]

still wondering lol

[@MsDickerz]

@@Catgurlz2YT it can be tough!

[@Kai-mh6bk]

yes im les

[@MsDickerz]

@ThatOneBiGirl twins!!

[@MsDickerz]

@@Kai-mh6bk yasss

[@charlie.tt4]

I think another difficulty that didn't really get touched upon here is differentiating between platonic and romantic feelings. I think sexual attraction is a bit easier to determine because it's often quite physical, but determining if you like a guy in a really close but friendly way, or a "potential partner" way can be hard and add to the confusion.

[@MsDickerz]

Yessss 100% I should do a video on this

[@lavenderrosecosplay5639]

I think the hardest thing for me about being bi is that people around me don't think you have preferences. I am mainly attracted to women, but I also find nb/genderqueer people super attractive. I rarely notice cis men. People are like "what about him? I thought you were bi". It can be frustrating. Sometimes I want to say I'm gay just to stop the pressure from others to notice men. But then it feels like I'm using a word that isn't mine. ~Thank you, Dutchy. I really appreciate your openess and creating a safe space for us.

[@dog-eb7sg]

That's not bi. That is homoflexible.

[@notahmya]

you just explained the past two years of my life

[@leosasmr_]

I feel you. If anyone is open to talk about being potentially bi with a strong preference for women/non-cis men pls hit me up. I'm in my first ever (healthy) relationship with a guy and I'm so confused!

[@STRcircaFKR]

​@@leosasmr_how's it going??

[@rkivelover]

I thought I was bisexual for a whole year and now I’m fairly sure my “attraction” to men was just a messy combination of daddy issues, the need for male validation, comphet and not being able to differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction…. although I don’t feel like the label lesbian fits me because I’m also attracted to a lot of genderqueer and non binary people… so I’m just gonna say gay?

[@MsDickerz]

Yeah honestly gay is a great term to use :) I feel a lot of people are more comfortable calling themselves gay instead of queer

[@idabjernemose]

If you find yourself attracted to non-men you could still be lesbian. Many now define lesbian as non-man attracted to non-men.

[@thelizardthatkatyaburnt4743]

@@idabjernemose Yeah, I identify as a lesbian and I have attraction towards nonbinary people, both afab and amab

[@dizzymisslizzy1428]

same

[@emilybailey796]

Remember bi is just attracted to two or more genders, so it could be Female and Non-binary for example Also, your sexuality and your romantic attraction aren’t always the same thing, I’m a bisexual homoromamtic Finally, don’t feel like you have to put a label on it now or ever, nobody should ever be forced to be put in a box! ❤️

[@ashboheme]

I have never been friends with a guy in all my 18 years without having a "crush" on them, or so I thought. I never knew the difference between a platonic and romantic relationship. A year ago I thought I was bisexual because I found men attractive, but I'm not actually attracted to them. I've found that I "liked" men because I needed validation and I knew it would disappoint my Christian family if I only liked girls. With guys, I have only ever found some of them physically attractive. But with women, I am emotionally, mentally, and physically attracted to them. It took me a long time to admit it to myself, but I'm a lesbian. You have no idea how much you have helped me in this journey of learning. Thank you.

[@mypeeisred24]

Omg im dealing with the same thing and im only in 9th grade :,, idek what i am at this point because i end up having crushes on my guy friends but never want a relationship with them while i also want a relationship with women and its kinda iffy on the attractions part, confusion 😭😭

[@violetcarnation1063]

I need this bc I came out as bisexual to my friend a couple months ago but now I'm starting to think I'm lesbian but idk for sure

[@MsDickerz]

Yesss it can be hard!

[@alyssavanmelzen]

ahh I have the exact same struggleee

[@KatDeFish]

I’m the opposite XD (I came out as a lesbian but I don’t know)

[@Newmoonbyelliott]

SAME AAAA

[@dsummerssummers15]

I feel the exact same way! A coworker asked me if I was bi or gay and I told him I’m not 100% sure but I think I’m gay. I used to think I was bi (sometimes still do) but the thought of having s3x with a man doesn’t appeal to me at all. I’ve had way more crushes on girls than guys in the past and if I was asked out by a girl and a guy, I’d most likely go with the girl!

[@sea5063]

I used to have really intense crushes on guys in both primary and high school. I would obsess over them and tell my friends how much I liked them…. Nothing ever happened with them because I would never allow it. Never. Whenever a guy had a crush on me or just got too friendly I would be super uncomfortable and panic. I find guys attractive on surface level, but I don’t want anything more. I feel so much better knowing that about myself now. I was so confused for so long. And you helped me realise that so thanks Dutchy!

[@mypeeisred24]

ME TOO IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY ONE 😭😭

[@graceb2048]

So what would you say you are now?

[@sea5063]

@ you know, this was 3 years ago. Called myself a lesbian for a while, but in recent times started sleeping with men. So I actually don’t know anymore

[@graceb2048]

@@sea5063 that’s really interesting! I think sometimes attraction just happens at different stages in life.

[@Katiztired1]

I definitely am a lesbian and my “feelings” towards guys was me basically hiding and suppressing my true feelings. Like with men i feel more of a bro relationship not like a romantic one and I can’t picture myself with a man but i can with a woman

[@IsabelSmith31]

What about bro feelings only toward some? But then feeling more romantic feelings towards others? (Men)

[@RumpledRegina]

I'm bisexual and I do have a little caveat in the part where you talk about who we find hot superficially but is not for us. This can happen in all sexualities (yes, even str8) The trick in my opinion is to know if you're a person who's more attracted to a personality than a look and then discern if you actually have a sexual attraction for that person. If everything checks, then what's the pattern? Mixed? Heavily one sided? Also my advice is not to fall in the trap of thinking you're not "insert sexuality" enough. If that's the only reason you struggle with finding your label, toss that thought right away, you are enough.

[@MsDickerz]

Great advice!!

[@moonlightstargem1006]

Thank God! Then i actually am bisexual! Because i am more attracted to a woman’s personality than a man’a

[@awaitingabyss5272]

I've been questioning again lately after some changes to my life. When I was a teenager I considered myself a lesbian, then my parents put me through conversion therapy with a local church and afterwards I considered myself bisexual but I was never with another woman. It's been 12 years and now I'm questioning if I'm just experiencing compulsory heterosexuality. Its extremely rare for me to ever find a guy attractive and the guys I have dated or talked to in the past was only after they showed interest in me. I'm finally in a relationship with a woman and I've never had the feelings flirting or talking to a guy that I do when talking or flirting with her.

[@brendamcphee5104]

❤

[@lexapro23]

yes I'm a biromantic homosexual and it was so confusing to figure out my sexuality, but now I embrace it and love being a gay girl x

[@cerise2206]

Same here 🥳

[@m.k.9572]

Well... I still don't know. So I'm just going by the terms queer & sapphic and they actually make me feel feel very comfortable for now🥰🌈

[@rainbow2876]

Hi fellow Louie :)

[@m.k.9572]

@@rainbow2876 hey there💙

[@fruityhouaylorstan9685]

OMG THERE’S LOUIES HERE !?? HIII

[@m.k.9572]

@@fruityhouaylorstan9685 we're everywhere 😁

[@helenarosno]

i feel like it’s impossible to separate my friends and family’s opinions on what kind of person i date. my family is super religious and i really don’t want to lose their love/respect. i’ve had 2 crushes my whole life, one on a guy and one on a girl. i don’t plan to make any moves any time soon or make any labels for myself, but that’s how it is rn lol

[@vampirebl4des]

in primary school i had a crush on basically every boy in my class briefly (i think there were like 10 boys) but im still not sure whether any of my crushes (on people of different genders) were platonic or romantic :/

[@MsDickerz]

Yessss

[@alexandrah6781]

You've been a big part of me figuring out who I am so I am so grateful for you ❤️ I'm still unsure :( but still you've helped me so much

[@Holly25373]

I’m so glad I watched this because I have been struggling with figuring out my sexuality and this has helped me decide that I am not wanting to put labels on myself right now and I will see how it turns out along the way. ❤❤ thank you 😊

[@dizzymisslizzy1428]

a year ago i thought i was bi. turns out im gay

[@opheliafloragente1037]

Thank you so much!! This video has actually helped me realized I was gay :") The point with attraction vs. validation was especially eye-opening and insightful, my jaw literally dropped while I was listening 🥹 Now I just need to get comfortable with this new label and embrace it! 🌈

[@rage_of_aquarius]

Ok, but is there a sexuality where you're painfully disappointed in all people, but are passionately in love with many fictional characters? Can I still call myself bi if real men make me ill in person?

[@emmaatkins8678]

Date the person who wrote the characters

[@mypeeisred24]

I mean technically you can be a lesbian who has crushes on fictional men because they’re not real.

[@memali2939]

Honestly at this moment I'm just so confused. For the past 2 years I've considered myself to be bisexual, but lately I've just been falling even more in love with girls and find that I don't feel very interested in men. I just don't really know what's going on lol

[@dog-eb7sg]

You're gay and you just appreciate the beauty in all genders even though you're only attracted to women. Appreciating the beauty of people, animals or things doesn't mean you're attracted to them.

[@snakesrule7067]

I’ve been bisexual for a year before that I was strait. Now I’m contemplating if I’m bisexual or a lesbian. Currently airing on the side of being bisexual.

[@zs9710]

When you said that some people settle in relationships because of heteronormativity, I felt that sooo deeply!! In every romantic encounter I’ve had with men, I’ve always felt like I should’ve had stronger feelings for them but I just…didn’t? Like when all my ex boyfriends told me they loved me, I just knew internally I didn’t feel the same and was doing girlfriend-y things because I felt I had to and it all felt like an act. It never felt genuine and it just felt like something I HAD to do because I found men attractive and wanted to be with them s3xually but romantically, I just felt very…meh. I genuinely felt like I was on the aromantic spectrum. It wasn’t until I turned 26 and I started dating women that so many things started falling into place ❤️

[@emmaatkins8678]

Your story really resonates with me; I would love to know more.

[@poop-xv5hj]

I FEEL THE EXACT SAME AS YOU 😭

[@kev264]

I feel like when we come out as bisexual, people put these standards and expectations and they want you to date both sexes like right there at the moment and if you date the opposite sex they're there waiting to judge you and say stuff like "So you're just straight" and Vice versa. That's why as a bisexual sometimes I just say I'm queer so people don't try to put me into a box full of their expectations and else.

[@intj4654]

A few months ago my friend thought I was thinking about cheating on my boyfriend at the time because the friend thought I was flirting with this girl who’s a cheerleader at my previous school, and I laughed it off because I didn’t notice myself doing it and because I thought I was straight. Fast forward to now, I’ve been broken up with that guy for a while and now have huge crush on that girl even though I’m like 99% sure she’s straight, which I’m fine with since I’m still a teenager and my parents are super homophobic and I don’t think I’m going to tell them I’m into girls. Initially when I realized that I am, I thought I was bi but I’ve been feeling increasingly attracted to women recently and was thinking that maybe I am actually a lesbian and just being affected by compulsory heterosexuality stuff (which I didn’t know there was a word for until this video so thank you for that). But thanks for making this video because it definitely reaffirmed to me that I’m bi without making me feel like I’m trying to convince myself that I’m “at least part straight” (as I have actually heard someone say before about another person). This video make me realize that I am definitely into men and women completely and neither just for validation or anything, so thank you so much. Your videos are always so helpful. 💖💜💙

[@dog-eb7sg]

It's better with girls

[@ivoryvaughn7466]

I needed this because this question has been nagging at my mind for months😭💜✨

[@MsDickerz]

Here for you always 💜💜

[@dog-eb7sg]

What do you think of rhinoplasty?

[@dog-eb7sg]

Do you like plastic surgery?

[@ml37856]

i feel like i’m the opposite of most people in that i thought myself a lesbian for a very long time, only to learn later in life that i might actually be bisexual. my advice would be to think about things you’ve experienced in your life since coming out as one or the other. i thought being a lesbian would solve my problems with attraction and i would immediately find a woman that matched with me. the reality was that i am just as picky with women as i was with men. it’s also just as hard for me to find women attractive as men, i only like very specific people and am sexually attracted to specific people. that made me realize i am bisexual leaning, but prefer women because of the patriarchal society we live in.

[@mariemichalak8372]

A good example of just wanting male validation is; when guys wanted to sleep with me besides just giving me affirmation, I felt grossed out like they didn't deserve it. Especially if they had slept with other women beforehand. So I didn't sleep with them. With women, it doesn't matter how many people they slept with; they are still just as attractive. And it doesn't feel gross or like they "don't deserve it." Like I had lots of male crushes growing up, but when it actually came to dating them or whatever, I always felt like their lifestyles didn't match mine well enough, and like I was creating a fictional life with them. I would never date the male actors I had crushes on, just because it ended at physical appearance. Who they actually were as people made me turned-off. I'm also no means asexual, so for those wondering that it isn't the case. Another example is the guys I had crushes on growing up, I only liked if they didn't like me back. As soon as they started showing interest I no longer had the "thrill of the chase." With women who have been interested in me, I feel like a celebrity and it makes me like them more even if I wasn't initially that into them.

[@iloveme2007]

I keep invalidating my sexuality 😩. I’m like yes I’m bi! But would if I’m just in denial and I’m a lesbian it’s just so confusing with all of these words

[@dog-eb7sg]

Maybe homoflexible...

[@alyssa8282]

Same for me 😔

[@Marwee]

Me rn 😭

[@valindavanalstyne6095]

I like your Channel because it reminds me that I am a lesbian even though I am not active it reminds me of how attraction to another woman and how important it is. I do like your personality and the way you share. Thank you

[@MsDickerz]

Aww thank you!

[@Flameburn93]

I figured out I was lesbian as soon as I realized I preferred female bodies over men . Trying to be PG rated here , basically that's what lead to it . And also I always wanted a girlfriend when I was with my ex fiancé , but didn't want to be polyamorous. I didn't wish to share a girlfriend of mine with my ex fiancé . I also thought fondly of my ex male fiancé but only because he treated me so nicely . He treated me like a human being , a woman of class . And that really helped me to finally realize I wanted to be with a woman . As confusing as it sounds , that's how I felt . I also had dreams about women and sleeping with women . Very frequently . I've had 3 girl crushes in the last two years . And only one boyfriend for two years . I'm now his ex girlfriend but I feel it's for the best because now he can find someone who can be his caregiver ( he's disabled ) and live with him , And who can love him for him . Maybe this makes sense ...

[@cathalreilly4314]

And when I was going to school I spent most of my time trying to get away from the bullies in fear of my life

[@mariemjlassi723]

This is literally the best and most helpful sexual orientation video I've ever watched

[@MsDickerz]

aww bless thank you 🥺🥺

[@plcatalano]

The main thing that hit me on the head was the fact that a lesbian can be attracted to a man, but not actually want to be with him. I’ve felt a small attraction to a man, but I didn’t think that meant I was bi, because I didn’t feel bi. I felt gay, but tolerating myself being the smallest bit attracted to a man. Thank you for clearing this! :) I’ve still got a long ways to go, but I wanted to begin with a label that made me happy until I might change. Thank you. :)

[@nephtalie149]

Heyyy I just wanted to know if you are still feeling the same way? Like have you changed since this comment?

[@roshini.s6008]

I like women sexually and romantically but guys not even romantically I guess? Now am questioning if I really liked guys before or not. This is frickin confusing

[@Glitch_Voice]

Ooooo~ I’ll be watching this after work 😌❤️💅✨ Hope Premier goes well. Love you Queen.

[@MsDickerz]

Thanks queenie! Love you 💖💖

[@MsDickerz]

Hope work goes well for you!

[@Glitch_Voice]

@@MsDickerz Missed the live! But thank you! Very much appreciated 💞✨

[@Shae29]

Exactly what I thought when I was questioning if I was bi or gay!

[@saramarie4883]

Thank you so much for this video. I'm going to write some of these questions down in a journal so I can do some introspecting and figure some things out. At this time, I am thinking I might be a closeted lesbian.

[@Cheezits_and_dr.pepper]

I made a chart of all my “crushes”. First i listed them all and the reason i liked them. At the end i made 3 categories, no reason, looks, personality All the girls ive had crushes on were in the looks and personality, While the guys were all in the no reason other than they had talked to me once…

[@pyenygren2299]

0:49 Yes! I am struggeling with knowing if I am lesbian or bisexuall. For now, I allow my self to live with the wondering.

[@couchpotatoe]

see my issue is that i'm asexual so its difficult for me to figure out if i'm biromantic or not and it frustrating

[@Psychology_529]

Same here! I completely understand where you are coming from and I do get in my head a lot about labels (especially the lesbian/biromantic terms). However, at the end of the day I have the mindset of if I am in a romantic/sexual situation, I ask myself two questions. Firstly, do we have a natural dynamic (i.e. are we forcing our feelings for eachother or anything similar)? Secondly, am I comfortable in this situation (i.e. have we successfully communicated our intentions well, asked for consent...etc)? If the answer for these two questions are yes, then it provides myself some 'peace of mind' and comfort in my decisions/attractions.

[@couchpotatoe]

@@Psychology_529 that's actually what I needed to remind myself thank you I agree, I have anxiety around that actually so those questions would definitely help a lot haha

[@Psychology_529]

@@couchpotatoe That's great to hear! I have similar anxieties about my own attractions and have variations of comfort that I have with my own asexuality. Ultimately, a romantic/sexual situation will not be pleasant if there is not an enthusiastic yes to either of those questions so it does help with navigation. No worries at all and happy to help!

[@외계인-h9g]

does feeling shy around both ganders means that I'm attracted to both of them or because I'm introvert and awkward so i feel shy?? I'm really confused help lol

[@faith_friend]

Same girl & did u figure it out?

[@sarahmaria2621]

I am a cis female and I watch 3 or 4 trans content creators, a lot of lesbians and bisexuals and a few gays too❤️❤️

[@MsDickerz]

Loveee 😇💖

[@AzariahMarinaStarcaster]

I'm remembering that the majority of male crushes I've had were either The Hot Guy in School™️ or guy friends of mine who I mostly just arbitrarily chose to like, and the latter usually came down to how nice they were to me and/or if we had enough in common that I could justify the idea of liking them in my head. My first girl crush was someone I thought I just really looked up to because she was picked to do a lot of singing related stuff at the school and I wanted to be a singer, but looking back, she was really pretty and kinda on the busty side, which probably played into it more than I believed at the time. (This was in, like, 7th grade.) At this point, I think either Biromantic Lesbian or Panromantic Lesbian is the most right to me, at least for now. I don't think I'm physically attracted to guys in the sense of wanting to get physical with them, but I think I can romantically be into just about anybody that I really click with. I just lean towards people who are AFAB and/or feminine presenting.

[@Musicandfilms7]

Thank you for this video it was very helpful, I had never asked myself before if I wanted the people that I find atractive to find myself atractive. I keep getting crushes on women but I think that I'd preffer a man as a life time partner, I don't know why . I'm a middle-aged woman and I haven't figured things out yet but I'm on my way.(sorry if I made any English mistakes)

[@Alyssav90]

I thought I was asexual and bisexual for about 2 years. About 1-2 months ago I was like I feel like I'm gonna throw up thinking about a relationship with a man. I always felt nauseous thinking about more than friendship with a (straight) guy. I still don't understand the difference between romantic feelings and just friendship with a guy, because I feel like I really like a few guys a lot (with that I mean, when I like their personality a lot. And when I think they are a good person, then it's a green light for me.) For me that was the same as a 'crush'. With women, it's just different, I would love to do all that lol (I mean I don't of it as one or the other, it's like yes to all lol). It's just confusing when you have comphet, and also a parent who was/is a hidden gay guy. What is confusing to me is that I do see that men are attractive. I just don't 'feel' it like other girls do. I can only understand and empathize with them. But then i'm only looking at the girls lol 😇😅

[@vg7382]

Me knowing my sexuality but still watching this because I like you. I am a Lesbian by the way :)

[@shahdokht-wu6tv]

I was okay with being single for 30 years until my family insisted me to get married, that was the time when I realized that I can't think about living with the opposite sex and l don't like being around them. Now that I think about it, I realize that sometimes I had a crush on some boys, but nothing more, now I can't say with certainty what my sexual orientation is, and it's really confusing, I've only been friends with girls all my life, and I've never had a boyfriend.

[@karelgott2610]

I´m in a similar situation like you. I´m 30, never been in any romantic/sexual relationship and always felt pressure from my family. I also don´t like being around most of men because they are sexist, I guess and living with them would feel like being unfree. I had crushes rather on boys and never felt sexual attraction to them, but recently, my attention has been directed mostly at women and I´m not sure if I feel just a combination of sensual and aesthetic attraction or sexual attraction. Really confusing. And yeah, my whole life, I´ve been surrounded mostly by women, be it friends, classmates or colleagues.

[@valonakriedeman5512]

I'm having difficulty because I think I might be bi because there is a boy in my class that I want to date but I don't know him that well but the only crush I've had was on a girl and so I'm trying to figure out if I just feel like I am supposed to be attracted to men or if I am actually also attracted to men. I have also not exactly come out as anything but I have told my family that I am for sure attracted to girls and they are supportive and my mother is also bi.

[@megbeetle7630]

I’m constantly wondering what I am and I know I don’t have to know but I just want to, for myself The question about who do you think about when self pleasuring made me really think, I never even considered that as sign This is an excellent video Dutchy!!

[@MsDickerz]

Aw thank you!!

[@Kimberleywakenshaw4471]

I hope this isnt tmi, but is there a meaning of watching two guys but not exactly finding the guys attractive more the act? Idk. Maybe its cos I'm non binary and sometimes I see myself in men? Idk it's really confusing especially when family aren't supportive and theres no one to talk to...

[@anapereirinha8689]

You can find it atractive because its homosexual, thats normal for lesbians tbh

[@anapereirinha8689]

I've heard people say that before, but only you can figure that out :)

[@americayaaaaa]

The hardest thing for me is that i'm probably ace so i don't experience any sexual attraction and can't base my thoughts on that. I'm also fairly certain i've never had a real "crush" before. The only thing i can base it off of is that, in my future, i feel much more comfortable imagining it with a woman. Imagining any kind of future with a guy grosses me out and seems unfulfilling.

[@3dvibez]

I figured I'm a bisexual but I don't have a person to talk about it

[@reginamills8774]

I literally just watched an ad about God and the Bible before watching this 😶

[@MsDickerz]

What is KZbin doing to my channel lmao

[@unicorntomboy9736]

Maybe it knows your religious or something

[@emmierooney2377]

Hey! recently i've been struggling to figure out my sexuality. Most of my life i've been 100% sure i was straight but more recently i've been finding myself thinking about my sexuality. Lately i've been finding myself finding more and more women hot (like especially Elizabeth Olsen ;) ) but i'm struggling to think about wether i just find them really really attractive or i actually want to be with them. When i think about my future/ my wedding day i cant imagine it being with a girl i can only imagine marrying a man and that's one one the things that's making me so confused about my sexuality, but i can imagine dating a girl and having a relationship with a girl/women and its all extremely confusing. Ever since i started watching you as well it has made me think even more about wether i'm bisexual i've learnt about preferences and i think if i as to say im bi i would probably say i have a male preference. :) i was wondering if you could make a video on how to figure out your sexuality (but you dont have to) byeeee!! :)

[@dog-eb7sg]

Girls are far better lovers.

[@joy7367]

i just realised all of my past "crushes" on men i don't think i found them attractive.. like it's so dumb i only realise this now but like i *liked* them sure but i didn't find them attractive?? and that's on confusing platonic and romantic feelings..

[@anandaferraresi]

Well, I guess I like girls romantically and sexually, but guys only romantically... Is that a thing?

[@MsDickerz]

Yessss 100%!

[@xxcheesebubblesxx9373]

you could identify as lesbian and biromantic!!! (if this makes you comfortable) Btw many people dont know what being biromantic is, it just means romantic attraction to 2 or more genders!!

[@ChristineMichelleYT]

This is exactly what I feel! I think I'm demisexual when it comes to men but very sexual and romantic when it comes to women.

[@_d_a_i_s_y_998]

@@xxcheesebubblesxx9373 just to let you know when people say they are biromantic and lesbian it confuses a lot people because you can’t be bi and lesbian at once, so it’s best to say biromatic homosexual :) not to cause any confusion and also not to make people think your trying to call your a bi/pan/Omni lesbian since people usually get annoyed by people saying it like that because you can’t be a lesbian and like men. So just say biromantic homosexual :)

[@cerise2206]

Same here

[@catdesousa9348]

Can't wait for this video, hope it goes well but you know what it will always go well it Dutchy 😍😍♥️🔥🔥🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@MsDickerz]

Aww yay 💖💖

[@9ekoblick]

I just don’t know I’m either bi with a strong girl preference or lesbian

[@R3area]

Thank you so much for this video. This helped me finally figure out my sexuality after watching heaps of videos. I am pretty sure that I’m bi with a preference of girls. But I would still date I man for his personality.

[@IsabelSmith31]

This is a really good video. Probably the best one I have found on this topic

[@desireestoddard4219]

I don’t know why I’m watching this when I already figured out my sexuality down to the details. Maybe it’s because it’s a Dutchy video. I don’t skip those… I’m pretty sure I’m a homoromantic bisexual. I like to think of it as I’m a lesbian at heart, but my body is bisexual

[@Jenny_796]

You’ve just ended my identity crisis thank you

[@Lyla1987]

I’ve been confused for a while now Basically I like girls romantically and sexually (I’m a girl btw) But I only like guys sexually and I can never picture myself in a relationship with a guy so it confuses me. I only see future relationships with a girl but with “sexual stuff” it’s both girls and boys ;-; please someone help me out here

[@BlueMoonArtist900]

This is kinda weird but the way I figured out is by watching lesbian movies. It made me realize that I couldn’t have a relationship with a guy.

[@Maddy_Clare]

I thought I was bisexual when I was little but I didn't think much of it because I always had a crush on some boy from a tv show. I even had crushes on gay men. I started wondering when I was in high school if I'm gay. I had a boyfriend for a week then I broke up with him. I had a boyfriend two years ago he broke my heart but I had to break up with him. I thought what I was feeling was real but I don't know if it was. I feel like I pretended to like someone because he liked me first. I am 24 almost 25 still don't know what I am but I feel like queer fits me the best.

[@RegulusDrowned]

I think I might be bi but I have a preference for girls but I still like guys I’m not fully sure yet

[@angel_grace286]

I’ve been a lesbian for around five and a half months and I will say. Some lesbians like me still get confused if they like a guy because when they’re at school or in public they feel validated being around them, so they feel comfort = romantic feelings. But they never think about what if you were to always hang out with them, could you tolerate them, or could you have a potential sexual bond as-well. Society feels forced as a normative to be straight, and that’s what causes many to switch between many labels because they feel pressured to also like the opposite gender because of friends, family, or popular kids at school

[@Dun-ukulele]

Yeah…like I felt forced to date men and to be with them. Now I’m fine with being with them. I don’t see gender so I guess I’m pan lol

[@EmilyMonths]

Hey dutchy! Are you excited for bisexual day and bisexual week next week! I didn't realise how close it was

[@MsDickerz]

so close heh

[@sophie-in6lb]

I think im lesbian but idk if im bi or lesbian , whenever i thought i liked a guy id just get over them easily .it felt disgusting to do stuff with guys though dating them wont be so bad but i dont wanna date any guy. I feel like im obligated to be bi though . Can someone help me ☠️ im very confused

[@etcwhatever]

The disgust with doing things with a guy is suspicious. I enjoy it with both genders. You might be lesbian. But also keep in mind that you might need connection to feel atraction as in demissexual.

[@LoganW-t5b]

I haven’t been in a stage of my life where I am considering dating someone, but I feel like if I were to imagine kissing someone, it feels wrong imagining it with a guy, but it still feels kinda weird with a girl, but less weird. Even in this, I want a relationship, but I don’t know who I would date. Does anyone have any advice for situations like this?

[@notahmya]

Thank you so much! I’m pretty young and trying to figure this out. I’ve been out as bisexual for a while now and im finally able to explore all aspects of my sexual orientation. I’ve had some trouble accepting that I like women “more” than men if that makes sense? It’s because when i thought about my future, i could only imagine marrying a man. But i’ve been watching videos like this to come to terms with the fact that my future has the potential to be different. Sorry this is so long, thank you

[@CedezDuncan-j3f]

I am a girl and idk if i am a bisexual or a lesbain but i still like both general and i am still questioning my sexuality. And i am trying to figure this thing out it is still confusing me right now and idk if i am bisexual or lesbain or not

[@biggreymisseslittlegrey]

im confused bc about a month ago i had a “crush” on a guy but i cant tell if i had an crush on him or i just liked him as a friend and sometimes i think men are attractive and the next second i have no attraction to them. i have had alot of crushes on girls but also some guys but i dont find guys attractive anymore so idk

[@jessicapatrick2360]

Hey dutchy u helped me figure out my sexuality when u did a how do u know if ur bi video well I was watching alot of how do u know if ur bi vids but ur vid was more helpful ♥️💜💙

[@unicorntomboy9736]

Is it valid to think of yourself as more hetro-leaning bisexual?

[@jessicapatrick2360]

@@unicorntomboy9736 yeah of course

[@dog-eb7sg]

Girls are far better lovers. Have you dated a girl?

[@jessicapatrick2360]

@@dog-eb7sg yes I have dated a girl

[@Sternchen99]

I am a lesbian and I never had to wonder if I might be bi. I never had crushes or feelings towards guys growing up, I didn't even had male friends and with the ones from my school I wasn't really getting along so it was always clear to me that I am a lesbian once I started having crushes on girls and then getting my first girlfriend, intimacy etc.. I knew I could never feel like this for a guy. not that I have a problem with men lol I have a great relationship with my dad, had amazing male teachers and now as a 32yo adult I also have a few male friends😊

[@nspp23]

I like girls romantically but sexually for the boys. It’s kinda confusing.

[@MsDickerz]

That can be confusing! And totally normal!

[@Dun-ukulele]

This is a good video! I personally don’t crave or ever wanted validation….like if someone liked me and I don’t like them great! If I like them and they don’t like me back great! If we both like each other, let’s hook up!

[@SilentSong123]

One time I remember getting asked what my ideal guy would be and I said something along the line of talk dark and handsome pretty much come to think about I think I was only saying that so they'd leave me alone about it

[@oatmilkgirly]

I just wanna buy a house and live with some friends that like hanging with me, nothing romantic or sexual at all.

[@MsDickerz]

yess

[@baianazen6570]

What abt when u wanna have sex with guys but cant love him that emotionally deep as u do with a girl, but u also dont want to have sex that much with girls. Can someone help me

[@alissa3875]

Not really related to this video but DAMN U LOOK STUNNING 🔥🔥

[@MsDickerz]

Aww thanks lovely!!

[@buildernamedpumkin6867]

I have been bi for awhile, but honestly haven’t had a real liking to a man for over 2 years. I can’t see myself with a man, I only like them as friends Maybe-

[@LouisAvocado]

i need advice because ive had only two crushes in my life time one to a boy in kindergarten and i am now having one on my girl best friend and im a sophomore in high school. So like ive barley even had crushes so im not sure if I would identify as something else because for a year i thought i was asexual but now i think im lesbian or bi because of my one crush. I NEED HELPPP

[@InuToieAxelCosplay]

I grew up straight and only labeled myself Bisexual around 2008 and started exploring my sexualality. I came to accept the fact I'm attractive to both men and women . But just recently for the past few years I been as you saying fantasizing over women. This weekend was mine and my boyfriend 1 year anniversary and I am still beating myself up because for the first time since I came to accept I am attractive to both genders I felt grossed out when he kissed me in the lips. I didn't tell him this I just told him I wasn't feeling good but he's so sensitive I feel like I hurt him because I wouldn't make out with him I can only tolerate quick peck kisses. Please help I feel like something wrong with me

[@rithika5407]

You might be lesbian

[@leahcrowe3393]

I'm using my mom's phone right now and I think of bisexual but I don't think I'm ever going to tell my parents

[@moony_ig]

i never thought about validation from a man, thank you for that i think im a lesbian now

[@slay280]

i was straight, then bisexual, then lesbian, now bisexual i think but i don’t feel valid because i’m only sexually attracted to women (i’m a girl) and i don’t feel like i deserve to be in the community. can someone help me? thanks

[@sarashocker8973]

when i 'take care' of myself i don't think about anything besides myself and my porn is anime, what does it meannnnnn? I'm attracted to fem energy or the 'gayness' of other people, but I've been sad and feel defeated when i find myself with a male partner.

[@erenisnothere379]

Like, idk if i'm not attract to men, or i just have too high standard. The standard from men, compare to women, is so different. I'd date them ONLY if they fit very certain type in my head, and i don't think i can actually find a man like that ever. Imo, i'd not date them only if i think they are attractive. But with women it's like, if they ask me out and they are attractive, i'm going for it.(unless they have very bad reputation, or they're psychopath or smth like that obviously) So is this normal bi thing?? To prefer one gender over the others so much....

[@Moonlight-we9rt]

we got same brain bud lol

[@mariapantazivet]

I consider myself a bisexual person but currently im so much more attracted to women.The truth is i had many men but im still "hungry" for women so this confuses me about my sexuality.Im i a bi hungry for women or have i slipped to being a lesbian?And there is more ....with men i like being submitted but with women im dominant!

[@etcwhatever]

Same about the sub/dom dynamic. Bissexuality is an entire spectrum. You might off course like One gender more than the other.

[@Pitimesis]

Bisexuality is really complicated as you said its definitely not just male or female attraction.

[@audreykathryn8227]

I put this on another video but I wanted to ask somewhere else too. So, is there a thing or something when a female has a romantic and sexual attraction to other females, but only a romantic attraction to males? idk

[@Witchofdarklight_]

So i remember when i was in middle school, every year i picked a guy from my class or school to tell my friends i like him because they would always say its impossible for me not to like someone. I dated a guy for bout 8m, and i found him atractive only when i didn't look at him, or his lrivate parts, could orgasm from panatration and hated the thought of sex so much i thought i was ace, still hella scared of penetration and the male organ, sharing this in case someone has a similar experience ,been out for more then 3y ,have a gf ,and still dont know for sure ,im trying not to force myself to put a lable ,so queer it is .

[@brendamcphee5104]

Thank you so much. Compulsory heterosexuality resonates so much.

[@idabjernemose]

I realised i was lesbian when i only wanted validation from irl men. I still appreciate male beauty, but i dont wanna have sex with them or date them. Where as for non-men omfg, the feeling is so different. Ive never stuttered speaking to a hot guy, but hot women…fucking hell.

[@mil-2287]

Can we talk about age? I am pretty young right now, and have come into terms with myself as lesbian, for now, but I don't want to close myself eathier 'cause most people say guys start being cute when they are older, and girls start having attraction towards them as older too. Idk, for now I have practically no attraction to men, but i do for women. I guess only time can tell that, I don't even wanna worry, just want to see what time and life has for me I guess. Anyone having a similar thought?

[@etcwhatever]

I always liked women but since 26 the atraction for males kicked in

[@hollyledford5631]

Does being uncomfortable around guys mean that I am a lesbian girl? I’m a bisexual girl but confused. I get uncomfortable around guys but started out liking them. I started being attracted to girls years later and now I feel very attracted to them. I still think that guys are attractive but get very uncomfortable around them. Does this mean that I am a lesbian?

[@greenghoul157]

I'm asexual known that for a while but really starting to think I'm also gay and want to be romantically with women

[@blondeee]

What about when I lived in religious society and being gay was a sin. I've always liked women, but could never really expierience dating them and only dated guys. I feel mixed, because i don't truly know who i like, because honestly i didn't really liked any quy i had sex with (i wasn't in relationship) and i wonder if this is because i'm lesbian or because i had bad relationship with men in my life.

[@Catgurlz2YT]

This was very helpful 😁 thanks dutchy

[@MsDickerz]

You’re so welcome 💖💖

[@kiefinity162]

Here for the support🧘✌️ Can you please make a video on top things straight guys can learn from a Bisexual girl (Not my first language🙈sorry for spelling)

[@kiefinity162]

Like I am confident with who I am, but I know there are always ways to improving, why not make the “straight” girls experience around you better with all the good things gay or lesbians do, but non of the awkwardness due to them being “straight”

[@unicorntomboy9736]

What about straight women can learn from bisexual men? A small number of straight women have biphobic attitudes, in my experience

[@MsDickerz]

What would you like to know about? :)

[@junkoenoshima2756]

Comment 1)I don't understand that questions what can a straight guy learn for fir a bisexual girl? To be more accepting? Comment 2)I didn't watch her experience videos so what do you mean about the straight/heterosexual girl's experience

[@kiefinity162]

@@junkoenoshima2756 sorry it was a an error on my part🙈not for, but from The Question is more from a curiosity point of view. But what I mean about the straight/heterosexual girls experience is like what I mean from what I heard from my female friends and past companions they find thing women do nice, but due to them being straight they would love it if a guy did that, for example I am straight and have many gay friends, who do things I would love if a girl did that, but not at all if they did it to me, sorry for rambling