HOW TO GET ANY WOMAN YOU WANT

[@TommyWeb3]

“Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” That rang so true. Nice one Sadia.

[@patriceesela5000]

Amen

[@fatgirlboy9341]

every time i exercise self control i end up kicking myself 😂

[@Neoteny374]

​@@fatgirlboy9341Same. Still thinking of that hot Scottish girl I turned away from.

[@fatgirlboy9341]

@@Neoteny374 amen 😂

[@ggrthemostgodless8713]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@caoboi0253]

Her answers are extremely intelligent I must say. The way he interrupted her but she still listened to what he has to say… that’s the next level of patience. And also when she took down the red pill theories and talked about self control really got me liked and subscribed this 100%

[@SamareDoTelke]

yes he interrupts a lot

[@AnkushRattan]

"A man that doesn't give into his impulses is the most free man in the world," is a brilliant commentary. If you are beholden to every desire or temptation, how truly free are you?

[@tomjones5338]

I don't give in to temptation i live freely

[@alvinsheczlek5243]

She literally is saying the same things Tate says. And she’s really spot on about modern dating psychology. But the part she’s shocked abt guys being traumatized abt approaching girls made me lose a little respect for her and tells me literally women have zero simple empathy for men. Like how do you not understand talking to strangers and risking complete embarassment and public rejection is hard? It doesn’t take male genitalia to understand bravery

[@drewg7441]

@@alvinsheczlek5243 Great point.

[@ultratunisiafallegua4917]

Give up into “HIS” impulses not other people’s grandiosity and narcissistic traits. A free man does what he wants without negatively impacting others and his own integrity

[@RobertEdwinHouse9]

Just ignore your natural desires bro

[@letterfretter9000]

I met my woman one year ago when i was broke and homles. One year later i have my dream job (working with the youth of the street) i have my home, i al a artist and my art is better and better and slowly i start Selling my art pierces. I start from Rock bottom and she is still on my side. It is a challence because she is high class but because of her i find more and more the best version of myself. I thank God for her.

[@sigmaserbian89]

This is miracle.

[@fitnesspoint2006]

Give it 2 years then get back to us, you are a tad too excited too early. You may lose your job next year or she may have to move...you are getting ahead of your self.

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

I don’t understand why people in these younger generations don’t understand that the benefits of relationships come with sacrifices. You don’t get something for nothing!

[@timothygrayson]

I agree. Perhaps perceptions of a real man are based upon stereotypes modelled on gangsters and pimps . The media doesn't help when sex and violence sell and friendship and humility are ridiculed. Bullying in cyberspace is epidemic and good role models are feeling discounted. Perhaps people envision a world run by abusers who will bring affirmation to those who are insecure so require gangs to validate debasement. No doubt they will respond to this with threats but then that is democracy in the free world init. Lot of good folk out there but social media is dominated by abuse and violence. We need to grow and learn a new language where love is not a dirty word perhaps?

[@naftab123]

so true!

[@Dipset415]

Naw the younger generation is trickin and simpin and the women are using an abusing 😭not entering a relationship for the right reasons unless it’s a trade off your setting yourself up for failure 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@keithgraham9547]

​@@Dipset415Dude. Huge numbers of men have always simped, and huge numbers of women have always been golddiggers and monkey-branch at the drop of a hat. The only difference today is it is much more obvious and accelerated.

[@toddjohnson271]

Men have not changed.....women have broken the social contract.

[@JohnSmith-qq9jp]

For men not to cheat, it's not just impulse control, it is placing a high value on commitments he has made and integrity.

[@aaron4387]

yes this is more true. Impulse control is easy. Living a life with high integrity is much harder.

[@bokiNYC]

Agree 100%! 👍

[@davidlawrence8085]

Sadia 4:56 The ultimate source of high value is self control . YES ! He said at 8:40 "You should do somthing that scares you every day" Sadia 14:35 ....The ppl that spend the most time in social media usually are'nt that happy.

[@def6420]

Dont forget about God

[@Laddesh]

@@def6420 lol

[@cindybesitos8933]

Lonely ppl are all over the internet

[@sazopro]

Very attractive people navigating the harsh world of dating in a podcast is always enlightening

[@richardcaulker1017]

Getting any woman you want is very easy. The secret is to train yourself to only want the ones who want you first. Read up about body language while you're at it. Being desired by a woman should be the only requirement that makes you even take a second look at her, then you can decide if you are attracted to her. No matter how beautiful she might be, if a woman isn't giving you the right body language signals, just don't waste your time with her.

[@303machine]

For man it is not easy to get any woman you want, even those who check all the boxes female desire. For woman is very easy to get any man she wants, social media proves this, even bellow average get attention. Woman could be attracted to you one day, and cold to you second day. Some of them could be really into you, and this will be obvious.

[@abhishakeprogramerdj4162]

yes

[@viktorzet]

Gold..my man you"ve spoken facts! Sad so many learn/accept that after going through lots of bs..perhaps that's the way for most...

[@robi6317]

only wanting the women that want you first IS NOT getting any woman you want. its getting any woman you can get. so your options stay the same...

[@reginstravels]

Best comment ever.

[@ohiomaohioma1931]

Self-control is true freedom. She's right absolutely 💯.

[@sloebone7399]

Self control that benefits women is true freedom for a man… that sounds awfully convenient.

[@ohiomaohioma1931]

@@sloebone7399 What exactly is your grouse with that? Your point being ... ?

[@explained8864]

A high-value man can resist temporary desires for long term goals. Who can't respect that?

[@philipsgodknows5308]

Yeah 👍

[@ktfoent]

Say that to my balls that need to be drained, I don’t believe in one partner anymore, the world screwed me over, I can’t unsee or unknow the things I know

[@aronhighgrove4100]

@@ktfoent Even if you look for a fling, it still makes sense to choose wisely. See it as experimenting to build up your understanding of people (not to collect as many as possible), instead of using yourself and them. Different mindset, different outcome.

[@ktfoent]

@@aronhighgrove4100 that’s a good answer, thank you, something to think about

[@ws6206]

@@aronhighgrove4100 This is actually very true. You can exercise discernment even in hook ups rather than just taking anything/everything that comes your way.

[@JohnPaul-p4v]

Title is clickbait, just 2 people giving their thoughts on relationships

[@lapx1]

2 perpetually single people giving advise on relationships 😂

[@Giuseppe.Strenger]

Exactly.

[@Giuseppe.Strenger]

​@@lapx1well, she's a long-time married woman, though 😁

[@SvakoDobroDa]

@@lapx1 I can just imagine what happened post video shooting ^.^

[@Cryboutet]

Thanks for saving my time

[@andrewgora3672]

A 1% woman is a attractive grown woman who is a virgin or a body count of 1 ! She dresses modestly and doesn't advertise herself on social media. That type of woman all heterosexual men would respect and other women would try to put down and smear- because she is what they aren't and will never be !

[@mobiusinversion]

Truth

[@charlesh817]

Fact

[@toddjohnson271]

How many exist?....really. FEW, not enough for a working society. Women are mostly promiscuous.

[@jules5154]

bravo !!

[@litdamenace]

Waiting on the angry Karen who thinks shes a 1% with kids and multiple baby daddies to comment here. 😂😂

[@MonkeyB5]

The self control bit was the most powerful and important segment and should be shared like CRAZY

[@t.f.6297]

"Pick correctly" ❤ selection is everything ❤ don't choose chaos then get angry cause its chaos, just choose peace.

[@kingsleyyofori]

Wow!

[@Jacktherippler1]

Less will understand but would help the world so much. I wonder how woman pick

[@jamesredman1263]

People seldom reveal who they really are until they have a commitment

[@Godlyhank]

Fascinating. As the interview progresses it was almost like they were evaluating each other as potential partners, without even realising they were doing it. I can't be the only person that saw this, the human mind and psychology is amazing.

[@dukegates2314]

😂 facts

[@PITA-kd2jn]

I believe, (maybe subconsciously) that's what you wanted to see, so you saw it. I'm certain they were attracted to each other, as they're both good looking people. That said, I didn't see any evaluating going on (conscious or otherwise), at least not for the purpose of being partners.

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

She's on him

[@pranavjayaprakasanut]

​@@jimmyjamessac7171😂😂

[@mctripstac5259]

100% flirting.

[@drzar8275]

Unity is what every successful relationship has in common. Going way on trips with your friends while you are married could lead to a breakdown of the Unity. 😎

[@JPHET37]

I once asked a coworker what kind men she was into . She wanted man who can make her laugh and handy man who can fixed things around the house . I told her get a clown on the left side of your bed and a plumber on the right side of your bed , hahaha that was a good one she said 😂😊

[@SuspiriaX]

so in essence you took the left side of the bed

[@bokiNYC]

​@@SuspiriaX😂😂😂

[@OneTruth56]

I’m a high value man. I’m still single at 66. Just proving western women are too far gone. Been celibate 17 years, a physique a 20 year old envies, handsome, degreed engineer, own a successful business, emotionally, mentally and spiritually in tact after decades of counsel and self improvement, a God fearing man and… still far from perfect. It’s called respect for oneself, self discipline, love your neighbor as yourself and do everything to the best of your ability.

[@erko78]

So try women outside of the western world.

[@annbrown5014]

😂

[@chidinque]

Move outside of western. There's 8continent try Africa, Asia, Europe.. but come to 9ja😊

[@anserafers8088]

@@annbrown5014perfect except for the ego 😂

[@SK-oc5qb]

and very modest

[@ark194]

Hearing this man is refreshing

[@montyuchiha8530]

1. Be attractive 2. Dont be ugly

[@divermike8943]

😆

[@netosampaio8548]

Attractive men can't be ugly, because they're rich.

[@LebogangJackson]

😂

[@skywalker72465]

Agree,God don't like ugly..

[@bokiNYC]

​@netosampaio8548 😂😂😂

[@anthonyb7896]

We need more women like Sadia. She speaks facts.

[@cocoariche]

“Take her into your world.” I love that so much! There is no other person that I’ve heard present that idea before 💡 This is my new expectation

[@MyDk2009]

Right, add that to an already long list of expectations because you heard it on the internet. LOL SMH

[@InstrumentalMangmnt]

Its really the best way to see if a woman is interested in a journey with you. Both find out pretty quick if they are genuine from the get go.

[@AndyTomlins]

Another expectation? How long is the list now?

[@filipperinic]

Yep it does really sound healthy, but on the other i dont know.Why not to add some more romantic element to it, or something you wouldnt to with anyone so you show your intentions with doing something opposite from your life.

[@cocoariche]

@@MyDk2009 😂😂🤣

[@aaronddamulira8818]

Out of 10 approaches, I get rejected probably 8-10 times but I wouldn't trade approaching with any online stuff. There's nothing like it.

[@2by3]

After 20 years of opposite sex "friends" I finally closed all the relationships, it is a boundary illusion. Sadia is rapidly contradicting herself in the video and not acknowledging it. As a partner you cannot put your own boundaries according to how sexually attractive you find the partner's friends, unless you are a hypocrite. Men have almost to no benefits from being friends with women, women have multiple, including reality checks, not provided normally by females friends, also attention, validation, help etc.

[@2by3]

@@n3a1steak curious to state few examples that cannot be fulfilled by male friends.

[@Blossom835]

Interesting, as a woman I'm thinking male friends have zero benefits to me lol. He is seen in public with me, emotionally nurtured and supported by me and probably not even paying for stuff because we're "just friends". And then he's probably still hoping to get a chance to sleep with me. What a great friend! Plus other men might not want to approach me when seen in public. I would rather not have male friends honestly. It's not true friendship anyways.

[@2by3]

@@Blossom835 true friendship is genderless at every step. Most of the time true friendship exists only between men, most of the time. A communication other than relationship between opposite genders, is usually caused by an overdeveloped opposite gender traits in one or both identities. Men have women friends most of the time only for two reasons, 1) to have sex with them, they keep playing around and waiting, 2) men have feminine traits.

[@Blossom835]

@@2by3 true, I see this (reasons men have female friends) as well. Both options not desirable in my mind.

[@ARTDEVGRU247]

​@@Blossom835bs

[@yoshighomi]

Also I 100% agree on rejection. I think the thing that makes it worse is when you get the nerves to talk to someone and the expectations are high on the outcomes of them accepting you. Everything's based on that and when it goes left... it crushes everything... mix that in with 2-4 in a row, you tend to lower your standards a bit out of desperation which ultimately becomes your downfall. There are people who swipe away from people they would love to be with, but know it wont happen simply because of how the person looks.

[@viviangonzalez2520]

Geez that’s so harsh, yet it goes over females heads, it sounds so dramatic,

[@mejhon6592]

People always look the looks, specialy men lol. More hot is the man and woman, more ugly attitue they have, because everybody want them

[@avaliausd.]

That's why you only talk to women you know you have a chance with. It's that simple. Men keep getting rejected because they keep pursuing women who never gave them any indication that they were interested in them. It's especially bad when men approach complete strangers or taken women for romance. It's better to approach women you have built rapport with, whether that be at church or some kind of book club or work. (Though, work is still risky)

[@intothebeyond8763]

@@avaliausd. I say never approach women ever. It's not worth it and the only reason why women don't do it is because they like being in the seat of power to accept or reject you. Women not approaching men isn't some cultural thing about being reserved it's purely about power.

[@drinkthekoolaidkids]

If you fear rejection…… don’t ever be a salesman

[@HammadNajam]

Sadia You're Love. You Talk Sense and purely, Thank you for saying things that weren't talked about before.

[@hasfocus]

When you really like your partner, you don't need that much self-control. And when you exercise a lot of self-control, you are in a relationship with a friend.

[@dasein9980]

Huh?

[@johnre5342]

I agree 100 percent. Men should stop making excuses that nature controls their desires. Simple, if you have a desire to cheat than you don't care about your partner as much as you think.

[@rehakmate]

@@johnre5342 1000% true, its really fucking easy to stay loyal if you are with the right person

[@stefangavrilovic1992]

​@johnre5342 why just men

[@erko78]

@@johnre5342partners who cheat are mentally ill. They usually are very high in narcissism.

[@jordankrenek]

This was so good, and so pointed, it’s insane.

[@munnashah1195]

Sadia comes from Pakistani culture where women tend to be much wiser. Plenty of beauti there as well.

[@GeorgeFistoot]

And submissive ,not a healthy trait

[@Gabranth86]

@@GeorgeFistootSure it can be healthy. Its just how its shown

[@kendallmerta4068]

I don’t think her being wise has anything to do with her ethnicity…😅

[@GeorgeFistoot]

Not wiser but submissive , servant and sharia law follower

[@PeacePrototype]

I love how Sadia’s opinion about opposite gender friends changed from “yes” to “it depends” when hot fitness model scenario was presented.

[@luisramon783]

Theory is different than the reality

[@chigenerator]

yes, feels like double standards

[@frederikvanhees4701]

She came of as a very jealous and controlling type of partner imo

[@alleyoop1234]

2 separate brains at work!

[@richiev2292]

Exactly! She and her partner can have friends of the opposite sex as long as his friends aren't that pretty and everyone is following "her" boundaries. Female brains can be such a joke. 😂😂😂

[@searlearnold2867]

Finally ! A man and a woman having a conversation that is almost non-existent in the current culture. For the love of all that is holy, these two need to continue this conversation, maybe even explore a relationship.

[@azizrampage]

sadia says shes married

[@chigenerator]

@@azizrampage and? lol

[@azizrampage]

@@chigeneratorthe person said maybe they need to explore a relationship even though she's married

[@chigenerator]

@@azizrampageyes, that was my point. let's go!

[@beefy1728]

​@@chigenerator you should explore beastiality. let's go!

[@sanketvaria9734]

your interest doesn't has to match, it's the values that has to match for a relationship to work.

[@pankratiast]

Traditional values have been eclipsed by pop culture, unfortunately. People have become what they see and hear on the tv/social media and media in general. It's refreshing to hear Sadia reflect on the importance of old fashioned behaviors between men and women in a relationship. Most couples I know who are very successful and loving in their marriage is because of that. Their core VALUES and not necessarily their monetary status are similar of not identical.

[@Webisyen]

This has to be the most illuminating, awakening, non-bs interview on relationships I have ever seen. I appreciate your wisdom.

[@MrSelecta32]

She is a psycologist and is surprized that rejection hurts! Wow she is a genius

[@Wreakmayhem]

Yeah, shes never been rejected im sure. Women that attractive dont get turned down. Not for anything...ever

[@ramonbrevitt6814]

When a female starts to get more financially stable it’s way harder to please her it start to seems like nothing you do isn’t enough

[@suntoyfull64]

Self control = self respect. It is a simple yet profound truth

[@christopherback2103]

Self-respect is the ultimate high value trait. Self-respect is attractive and powerful and transcendent and it will make you into a literal superhero

[@bboichirok661]

Big respect to this man for real . Also Sadia you are not strict at all , that’s just a traditional woman’s behavior and there is nothing wrong with that at all . My wife is the same way , and I’m the same way as well , and trust me I have a lot of options but I have disciplined so no I don’t cheat nor does she , married for 15 years and we act goofy like we are still boyfriend and girlfriend.😂 she’s into my hobbies now like working out and building cars , so when I’m out sometimes she knows where I am 9/10 of the time , but also we think traditional when it comes to relationships that’s why our relationship doesn’t feel like a burden of some sort .

[@byron3187]

Wonderful my friend ! And it's this 1/10th that she doesnt know that is keeping the relationship well maintained .You got this !

[@GabrielXDrums]

Not everyone gets to be that lucky.

[@jomufilms]

Everything boils down to being self disciplined to become a 1% man: 1) in relationships by avoiding cheating: 4:38 - 5:13 2) in life with self control: 5:17 - 5:56 3) With your diet, eventhough you hit the gym, to get a six pack and becoming muscular like mike: 5:57 - 6:50 Top quote of Sadia: “Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” Sadia & Mike appear so mature and disciplined, i hope they are like this in their personal life as well.

[@at9048]

Options = Ego😂

[@smarthalayla6397]

Tell that to the 2,000,000,000 people on our planet that live in less then $2 a day.

[@WillIam79-c7f]

​@@smarthalayla6397non sequitur

[@dronetheworld4k67]

= Andrew tate

[@Plainsimple67]

​@@dronetheworld4k67JAIL, THEN NO OPTIONS BUT RELIGIOUS CONVERSION TO GET OUT OF JAIL??!!😉🥴😂

[@branislavpetriska882]

Unfortunately...🤷

[@Sammo247]

Your word. Your honour. Your integrity. Your self efficacy etc etc.

[@theortric]

A conflict of interests is anything that simply appears to be one even when it’s not. A respectful relationship is one without a conflict of interest.

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

Respect is everything

[@brutus8123]

Beautiful Sadia! This video is a good example of what women say vs. what they will actually do

[@alleyoop1234]

When I was in my 20's & 30's I strived to ask at least one lady out each & every day. Even if the lady says no, she then knows you are interested, and tomorrow is a new day!!🥰

[@lfggolf]

😂😂😂 what a clown way of life

[@alleyoop1234]

@@lfggolf Only an idiot would generalize someones entire way of life based on 2 short sentences😂😂😂

[@Damesanglante]

And you called him that over one sentence. The irony...

[@Archit-fr3ez]

@@lfggolfsimpmaxx 😂

[@phoenixrisin2269]

Practice getting rejected and you won’t wind up like Beta Bob

[@n1te]

Sadia is one of the most insightful people on this topic.

[@davecopp9356]

Never ask a fish how he wants to get caught. Ask the fisherman.

[@neiljohnson7914]

But the fish don't want to get caught

[@paythecreator4317]

Wow Sadia, you are such a good role model. Keep being true to yourself and the relationships you appreciate having.

[@mhuntprofessional]

I would suggest that the "options = freedom to walk" hypothesis is one side of a coin. The other side of that same coin is "having the option to have whomever you want, but CHOOSING to be committed to the partner you are with is the highest level of commitment." Because you DO have the option to walk away. You could hermit crab up to a bigger shell. A new person. Or just go to that perceived greener grass. Because it will always be greener somewhere else, if you're only looking for that. However! If you choose the person you are with and you're with them because that was an active decision and a garden you put daily effort into, you are there because you WANT to be and not because you HAVE to be. I think that settling for someone because you feel like thats the upward limit for your ability is.... well dangerous to a relationship. Because it means the only reason they're not cheating isn't because they WOULDN'T, but because they CAN'T. ...until an alternative arises.

[@pantaichou_Paron]

lack of options makes one invest heavily in what they have.....words to be etched in gold

[@sadiapsychology]

Hi guys for all my exclusive content, and the ability to ask me any question see my patreon www.patreon.com/Sadiapsychology One to one sessions see link in bio

[@rosstheloneliongillett11]

So you actually do sessions sadia ? Wow ,I would give my left testicle to be schooled off you for a minute 😅.. ✌️ from the 🇬🇧 ❤

[@catalyst7054]

I believe ppl should always receive their flowers when it is honestly earned! You are extremely intelligent, intellectual, articulate, and a conscious human being….They are individuals that cover these topics on KZbin but your outlook and perception is very impressive..I personally does not consider it “psychology,” it’s called truth! I had to subscribe, you left me with no choice….I know the difference between someone “saying something” vs someone having “something to say” I salute your work..Your creator must be proud!!

[@Modifiedparts31]

This is so densely packed with some of the most true, insightful facts on KZbin. So many content creators should just take a break and listen either/both of these two.

[@jacobostudios3660]

As a man (a masculine man) I think the world would be a much better place if men listened to Sadia

[@doncappo1509]

You can do whatever you want in this life as long as your ok with the consequences

[@johnre5342]

That don't apply to a monogamous relationship

[@TaleOfTwoIdiots]

"Do you think people attach to people who give them more drama?” Absolutely, positively, 100%, *NO!* There’s enough drama in life without coming home to it as well.

[@jamesredman1263]

Most men don't. Many or most women do.

[@Dream-Academy]

8:10 "It's quite soul destroying." "Is it?" "I can't imagine". Awareness at it's finest moment.

[@georgeleong139]

Gosh I just saw your video and you spoked everything real about what my wife is doing behind me and my daughter’s back! And about my self control to doing betrayal to my wife even when I have all the evidence of what she has been doing outside with those men whom you had mentioned that she had made herself available opening up her blouse and skirt. I even gave voice recordings of them! Even me trying to get my six-pack! So so true! So happy to hear you mentioned that about loyalty, coming from a woman! ❤

[@erko78]

Bro you have to leave her. Cheating women always end up miserable.

[@fsprototype]

You can tell that he was demonstrating masculine energy with this interaction and Sadia was definitely feeling it. Look at her body language and listen to the tone of her voice go up an octave, and the excitement in her talking. You can tell towards the end it kind of ended up being a date, imo. I liked this interaction a lot. It was mutually respectful. A lot of positive results from this.

[@isabellamagazine]

1 of 1. Exclusivity is the highest form of value.

[@userdbldip83]

I think the universe is the ultimate judge in how stuff works out. Choice and the physiological receptiveness play its part. Also more importantly the mental well-being of an individual has its role too.

[@kelsowilz2522]

High Value Woman "by most men's standards" goes as follows… She understands natural beauty. The less cosmetics the better but still beautiful. Nothing fake on her. She has a healthy diet and a healthy fitness routine to preserve her beauty. Intelligently stimulating. Confident but not overly confident. Talking with her is exciting and makes her irresistible. She is a woman that conscientiously brings peace to her man with smiles. Doesn't bring a bad attitude to the table. She doesn't shame, insult or make her man feel guilty. She also doesn't have a need to be right! She is discreet. She doesn't arouse sexual desire or interest deliberately publicly. She doesn't constantly run her mouth or express "big personality". She is feminine. Women that practice masculine posture, talk and attitude are a turn off to men! She isn't easy to bed. Has a low body count or even better a virgin saving for marriage. Religiously against infidelity. Loyal. High pedigree. Nice upbringing. Good parents. Nice family. Hard worker with home, can cook and has motherly aspirations. Low maintenance. She doesn't ask or need a lot. She is not materialistic. Is sexy in the "bedroom". Can make her man's recreational interests her interests. For example loves boating, football, golfing etc. When "important decisions" need to be made she is cooperative, agreeable and submissive in to her man's program. Trusting her man's decision making and supportive. College degree. Before having children and after the children are grown she is determined to work and support the household financially "if asked". Women aren't born with these qualities. It takes time, training and growth. For a woman to have all of these qualities she would be nearly perfect. A very high quality woman. This woman doesn't exist. A man today could only hope she has most of these qualities! Also, different men prioritize different characteristics. Some men just want gorgeous and fit in appearance and not care if she is materialistic with a bad attitude. Or one may just want feminine, socially and intellectually stimulating, mediocre in appearance. Obviously, Religion and political views are very important in a life long companionship!

[@johngalt6838]

Ok....now where is she? Nowhere.

[@kelsowilz2522]

@@johngalt6838 Just know what qualities are most important to you and find her.

[@johngalt6838]

@@kelsowilz2522 The qualities that every man want? Purity, loyalty, nurturing, dedicated to family? How many exist?........be honest.

[@kelsowilz2522]

@@johngalt6838 In the U.S. she is hard to find. Might have to get a passport and visit a smaller less modern country.

[@joemaguire5575]

yeah dream on

[@wesfin]

11/25 frame-work 4:55 Discipline (self-control, bettering reputation with self and increasing self-respect and decreasing tolerance) results in true confidence/self-assuredness 16:53 Bring her into your world, if she's not compatible, it's alright, try again 25:55 practice platonic and practice boundaries/self-control/intolerance

[@sherekhan90]

I think a lot of people are attracted to drama in relationships because they have nothing else substantial going on in their lives, so drama becomes a kind of entertaining themselves. What they actually need is adventure but they don’t have it so instead they create drama to feel some excitement.

[@newagain9964]

drama also makes ppl have a "pay attention to me and give me what i want" self reinforcing element.

[@AwakeningSpirit_]

INTEGRITY. The ability to be able to control your temptations in the face of adversity, when no one is looking, is what defines the most rare.

[@skywalker847]

Get your parents to not emotionally neglect and or abandon you during childhood.

[@hellucination9905]

It's not easy living with CPTSD, brother.

[@skywalker847]

@@hellucination9905 I know

[@concernedcitizen2076]

That is a sad truth.

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Yep. If your own parents don't want you, who else will?

[@GabrielXDrums]

It’s so easy for the interviewer to say all this game when he’s literally a chad. It’s crazy for other guys out here, so much more difficult.

[@Marvinje81]

Sadia what lab were you made in? Why are you the only woman who understands boundaries? Don’t put yourself in a position to fail, it’s simple. Thank you for letting me know I’m not crazy!

[@arorajivlogs1641]

she;s talking about being immune to rejection, as if she has been ever rejected.

[@Neoteny374]

One of my functions is protecting my wife. This applies to getting her from point A to B safely. If she needs to go somewhere outside of our general comfort zones, I'm standing next to her. She can either love that about me, or hate that. But it is what it is.

[@erko78]

Lol

[@easterislandhead9579]

Chivalry

[@erfields]

👍💯

[@xmo552]

I love BOTH their words and thoughts. They don't make people like us any more. Edit: I... need a woman like that in my life.

[@jean-francoislegault1882]

Sometimes a woman is not as responsive because of botox , face wont even move and struggle to articulate her words but that doesnt mean shes not into you. 🥴

[@d4rksoci3ty]

🤣🤣 that’s true

[@TheSearchers1000]

If either one is a narcissist, that's a dead end. Just dumped my gf of 5 years. There is no other solution bc there is no fix to anyone with this mental health problem. Best 110 lbs I've ever lost !!

[@Kwm-519]

Sadia talks about all these things and all about “average man” whereas she herself won’t go for an average man. She complains about men who are rich rewarding onlyfans girls or models etc in Dubai. Whereas, she will never even respond to an average guy and will go for high status man

[@hellucination9905]

The question is: Why isn't she married?

[@ARTDEVGRU247]

Yep all these female "relationship experts" on KZbin are the same. Grifters and hypocrites.

[@gwest40]

Her target audience is the "average man". This is her work. What she does in her personal life is completely different. Would she go for Joe Six-Pack working 2nd shift at the plant? No. Look at her. What would you expect? Dating women is like buying a car. Some guys can own a fleet of exotic sports cars (Ferrari, Lamborghini, etc.). Some may only be able to purchase a new Toyota. Another can only afford a used Chevy. The next guy can only take the bus. You can get transportation, but you have to focus what you can afford. You may admire that Lamborghini, but perhaps the best you can do is a used car. Joe Six-Pack is a used Chevy pickup. Sadia is a Lamborghini. They don't reside in the same garage.

[@Kwm-519]

@@gwest40I don’t think you understood OP - The whole point is if you are complaining about high status guys rewarding women who are models / OF girls, then don’t go for them. But no - she won’t go for an average person But lets use your analogy. If she is a Lamborghini, then she should understand that a person buying a Lamborghini, won’t just have a Lamborghini in his garage. He would also have a ferraris, perhaps a bentley and some other cars so she should also be okay with that

[@gwest40]

@@Kwm-519 - Bottom Line is: Every guy out here thinks he's "High Value" and has a chance at getting an Instagram model as opposed to Cindy who works in Accounts Receivable, who is more on his level. Every girl out here thinks she's an Instagram model and is "deserving" of the next Tom Brady, when she really rates Joe who drives a UPS truck. Social Media has skewed reality for these people. Reality is: 99% of us don't fall into the Social Media categories of "Alpha High Value" or "Instagram Hot". We're just regular people trying to make it in the world. The sooner young folks drop this social media fantasy world and take a dose of reality (i.e. we all have our potential and we all have our limitations) then perhaps this suicidal "I need a mental health day" crap will end. This year is the 80th Anniversary of D-Day. Despite what Hollywood shows, the average age of the soldier who landed at Normandy was 19.

[@Matt_Essam]

I am so glad I found this podcast, wow. So many golden nuggets in here. Also great to hear these things from a woman's perspective, I've never heard the exposure element explained in that way before. It's always bothered me but I've never been able to articulate it properly.

[@adielwilson8749]

People don't want to look after people who are capable of doing for themselves especially when you do help and they keep emphasizing the independence point

[@CommandoMaster]

23:30 is spot on, but most men still get led on believing they have a chance with her. If she’s always making herself seem busy or unavailable or coming up with excuses to not wanna meet, then she’s not that into u.

[@davidm2299]

Your mindset is absolutely amazing, Sadia!

[@raddadization]

"take her into your world" this is everything.

[@ignorantlyspeaking]

That first two minutes where they talk about attractive people and options... That exact same concept applies to friendships and social skills. People will tell you they don't believe they need friends or support or companionship to do simple tasks in life, but they say that not realizing how much support they have in their lives. That support, that reassurance of having something to fall back on, that belief, whether conscious or subconscious is necessary to make any progress in life. Most importantly is the ability to make friends. Without that ability, life is a losing battle. Like I said, the support doesn't actually even have to be there, but the belief must be. Having options allows people to take more chances, it makes them feel like they can. This is important knowledge people just overlook, but it applies to and determines the relationship qualities in your life

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

This is so true! People fail to acknowledge this, especially the super successful people!

[@deszi6936]

Super successful people actually understand this better than anyone else

[@sanjaysanj5603]

this is not true, you do not need friends to accomplish anything nor a safety net or options, you dont even need support. friends are side grades or distractions at the end of the day with or without them you are still in the situation, friends are a useless concept just like god.

[@jeffreycraven8154]

Social skills died when cell phones took over.

[@GabrielXDrums]

Friends don’t actually exist, especially when they betray you so sometimes it’s best to have NO ONE. I’ve known a few people who have zero friends, it’s just how it is, forcing meeting friends is fucking tiring let alone the right ones.

[@eksquisite]

sadia speaking pure unfiltered facts

[@lorenzorodriguez3472]

Im glad a woman told me what I have to do.

[@Plainsimple67]

YEA, THAT'S WHEN YOU RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!😂 HOWEVER, HER DISCIPLINE PART ABOUT MEN WITH SELF CONTROL AND VALUE, IS SPOT ON.😉👉

[@AcaciaSands]

Good to hear these 2 are not body obsessed and mind controlled 😂

[@27jezus]

''Loyalty doesnt mean that she is not sleeping with other men , loyalty also means she is not exposing herself to other men! '''

[@musim.liburan]

"friend" is an elastic and contextual definition..knowing the "position" is the key... :)

[@videowilliams]

Wow, that was all much more engaging than I expected it to be! Especially 23:54 to 28:46 which helped clear up a quandary I've run up against repeatedly, about how not to end up locked into the friendzone by a highly attractive woman who really likes me as a friend. It's just not worth it. Yet they'll truly chase me down to keep me there.

[@dj_codered]

This sister spittin 😂😂😂

[@MedicinDot]

Never ask a fish how to catch fish, ask the fisherman

[@ThePurplePillPerspective]

Basically don’t ask men how to get women, ask women. I’ve been saying this for two decades

[@MedicinDot]

@@ThePurplePillPerspective you are completely wrong

[@davidcase1286]

22:30 damsel in distress, spot on, so true, my "friend's" younger daughter is just that and he BF steps up and takes care of everything. Older daughter the opposite.

[@markakuban7271]

Take Her Into Your World. Where u can afford 2 plates,where u hang out. Thats the leadership Be yourself,if she fits perfect, if not perfect

[@infinitedaves]

I feel like I agree with everything in this video except for around the 21 minute section. I had an ex-girlfriend who made more money than I did at the time working as a bartender. I always tried to pay for dinners, dates, trips etc. but she was very opposed to it. She worked 3 days a week, I worked five or six. I made decent money myself but she rejected any attempt I made to treat her to anything. I don't think you're wrong in general saying that high value women want to be treated as well, but from experience that's not always the case. I think to her, earning more money was leveraged for control in the relationship. My time was scarce due to work, but that's all she demanded. Whereas her time was abundant but she was unwilling to reciprocate. Needless to say that relationship was doomed from the start, but hey lesson learned

[@marcusaurelius5576]

Would love to see a discussion like this but regarding older men over 50. All of this applied to me when I was in my 20's so understand it all so well. But dating later in life hasn't been a problem for me but the quality I want has been elusive.

[@fanafana488]

Stick to women your own age and you shall find what you are looking for

[@erko78]

Have you tried looking outside of the USA?

[@marcusaurelius5576]

@@erko78 I have recently. And the quality is far better. There are a number of dating sites dedicated to foreign women. Requires a bit more work of course since they are overseas. Have you gone in that direction and has it been successful?

[@MikaelBengtsson-qc7xo]

Not letting your partner go on a vacation with friends screams insecurity and controlling behaviour to me.

[@m77ast]

She comes across as perfect. Even in watching this conversation. Me I’m way too disciplined. My philosophy is simple - heaven - no matter what it takes. So all these things that He calls hard are easy to me. Unfortunately my wife went into crazy mode 10 months ago and left the house with my 2 daughters. I must confess, it’s increasingly difficult as a man who makes 6 figures to be alone for that long. All the girls you said no to - before you know what’s happening you start getting a urge to call them. But I’m way too disciplined. What I have decided to do in my spare time is to travel to Africa and help struggling orphanages. I think I will be able to transfer all this excess love that I have to those struggling children.

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

You gotta look more in your internal library...this wasn't the right story....you have something better.....keep on loving yourself and just kick back....take care of the hut.....remember.....do not overreact......Africa??? Overreacting

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

You said you're way to disciplined that is a ded giveaway that the opposite is the reality.....don't write stuff like that.......am going to help you.....moving right along

[@travelntrading7919]

Sadia is just spitting wisdom one after the other. Just amazing

[@Netwrk72]

more like common sense lol

[@travelntrading7919]

many lack that mr professor@@Netwrk72

[@darlawrence9295]

This video reminds me of an old joke... I'm going to marry a homely girl. -Why? A pretty girl might leave me. -A homely girl might leave you too. Who cares, she's homely.

[@nw6860]

That joke was horrible

[@darlawrence9295]

@@nw6860 kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZnah4GBp7-kobc

[@easterislandhead9579]

woman at supermarket checkout says to her workmate she can tell who’s single just from serving them. Guy comes up buys 1 toilet roll, 1 toothbrush, one packet of crisps, 1 microwave meal for one.. she says you’re single aren’t you. Him: yeah how can you tell? Her: cos you’re an ugly bastard

[@darlawrence9295]

@@easterislandhead9579 your joke literally made me laugh out loud!

[@rallwest]

After listening to Sadia I can see how this guy reveals his own insecurities which are expressed through his statements of what he believes to be facts. As he says something about "rejection is so hard" (paraphrased) and he doesn't even know he is doing it. Listening to her has me confronting my own sense of self.

[@katherinechase3674]

Well one thing is also often true. We only have so much time. If a guy clearly spends lots of time at the gym, he may skimp in other areas, like intellectual pursuits. If you do get to speaking with him, and he is not balanced, sure on the surface he looks good, but he may likely be a few beats behind upstairs. If a woman is going to university, and / or graduate school, her lifestyle shapes her to be a thinking person. Listening to how many reps he does at the gym, or what type of protein he consumes, only goes so far. If he's a good guy, that's another draw, but it won't make up for it if he just doesn't truly have tons to say. And then there is the spiritual aspect. Is he practicing Zen, or is he just empty / sweet, but dull. Intellect, and spiritual development, get better as we age, muscles eventually age and droop, same as a pretty face. And if he is trying to get you to come along to participate at the gym, and it's not her thing, what else does he offer to do? A physical sport with more strategy, that she is good at, might surprise him! Tennis, golf etc. Are all those muscles useful, rather than simply for show?

[@mrw9216]

Not even close to true, majority of the people with the best physiques are also intelligent and successful because it takes discipline and work ethic to achieve a good physique. Strengthening the body, also strengthens the mind.

[@johnre5342]

​@@mrw9216not all the time does it strengthen the mind. You can have a strong mind and use it for evil.

[@sanjaysanj5603]

"practising zen" lmfao

[@sanjaysanj5603]

@@johnre5342 and what is wrong with that? doesnt mean you are stupid or unintelligent.

[@Reacher8]

Regarding what was said at the 10:40 minute mark, I understand if you are someone who actually works and makes a living from social media. However, if you are in a relationship that you truly care about, I strongly suggest closing your personal profiles. My girlfriend and I did this at the beginning of our relationship over three years ago, and it worked wonderfully for us in this regard. Although our story has now ended, it was for entirely different reasons. A relationship is WAY BETTER and HEALTHIER WITHOUT social media, and it is not mandatory to have them!

[@arbaizac11]

im loving every second of this