How to let go of the past FOR GOOD

Many of us spend years trying to figure out how to let go of the past. In this video, I teach you the one key skill you must master before you can truly let anything go.
Sometimes, spiritual teachers don’t help either because they present the concept of “letting go” as something easy.
“Just let it go”, says the guru. Yet for so many of us, letting go seems like a herculean effort.
This has been true in my own life and also in the lives of hundreds of clients. And over the years, I’ve come to understand why.
The truth is, you can’t simply let go of the past without first mastering one key skill.
And no matter how hard you try, the past will keep haunting you, as long as you’re focused only on the “letting go” part.
That’s why I shot this video for you. By the end of this video, you’ll know exactly what needs to be done first, before you can genuinely let go of anything.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
1. Why “letting go” is hard for so many of us [12:00].
2. The one key skill you must master before you can let go of anything [15:33].
3. My 4-step process to healing the past that makes “letting go” easy [19:00].
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[@ChristinaLopes]

I wanna hear from you! What exactly are you still struggling to let go of in your life? Let me know in the comments below!

[@dominic6055]

6 years stuck with unrequited love for a woman...

[@titaniumwallace3361]

My father not loving me and tried to strangle me to death at 15 finally walked away from him last year and I’m 58 years old. I allowed him for years to continue his cruel verbal abuse till my awakening then I said no more. Trying so hard to heal from it all..

[@healthylife750]

Dear Christiana as always I like your ways of solving spiritual problems.been letting go of a soulmate (twin flame)after 3years,the moment I decided to REPLACE that with new people attracting to me i was able to see a lot of energy attachments that came out of not being able to create and attract because of being rejected,because our mind CAN'T accept LACK but acceos REPLACE ing.

[@healthylife750]

Dear Christiana as always I like your ways of solving spiritual problems.been letting go of a soulmate (twin flame)after 3years,the moment I decided to REPLACE that with new people attracting to me i was able to see a lot of energy attachments that came out of not being able to create and attract because of being rejected,because our mind CAN'T accept LACK but acceos REPLACE ing.

[@rebeccalorick9982]

Christina, you’re the best. I’m struggling with pain after many years of toxic, abusive relationships. I am now sitting with my pain and leaning into it instead of pushing it away. Thank you. 🙏🏻

[@felinamarie]

Dear Christina, I cried like a baby watching this. You opened my eyes and heart to what roughly 21 years of therapy and Zoloft couldn’t fix. As much as I want to say I wish I had you in my life at 11, I am beyond grateful for finding you now. And this, this gift and your educational background, you give us this for free. 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ There is no way I could ever repay you for what I leaned in this video.

[@traleenaanthes7347]

I hope you're doing well beautiful brought tears to my eyes when I just read your response. I hope life is treating you well and all good things are coming your way blessings and all the best to you sweetheart.xo💚🕊🌞🙏🍓

[@merncat75]

@Lina Marie - If I could make a suggestion because I swear I could have written your comment word for word about myself.. Rewatch this video from time to time and look up as many other videos as you can about these topics.. it's easy for our brains to forget and fall back into old patterns but I learned so much more on my own self-help journey than decades of therapy, thousands of dollars in searching for "help", so many different medication with horrible side effects that made me almost take my life and zero support.. I have also lived alone since I was 19 and could not afford to not work otherwise I would have lost my apartment so it's been a difficult journey to say the least but even though I might not be exactly where I would like to be and I still have a long way to go, I'm so grateful for access to things like KZbin videos. Look up healing vibrational frequencies and people like Eckhart Tolle, Abraham Hicks and Bruce Lipton. Good luck 💞

[@NicoleSmith116]

I was psychiatricly medicated for 20 years too! We went through it for a reason. To gather together and educate others!

[@ctmorian9274]

Ditto! 💕

[@DaphneMaine]

I don't know you but I so LOVE YOU...

[@rodneyjohnson7851]

I just want to say you're a really good spiritual teacher and you've brought me a long way

[@marileighava03]

Yes I agree!! I found one of her videos and I’ve watched 5 on a binge now 😳 very well explained and helped me find things that I can do on my journey to my new life🥰🥰🥰

[@kearaallbee5644]

Same I've watched her since she was doing the live activations on Saturdays during the lockedown (meant to spell it that way, just like I spell plandemic

[@octembertemmi2198]

Thank you I love you.

[@krisrider26]

Me too! She is just wonderful!

[@LeethL]

Ditto

[@Wolfstyle71]

“To learn to accept death is to be liberated from it.” - Bruce Lee - Thank you for this video

[@mandolaa]

👏

[@jassimins4484]

I guess my spirit guides listened carefully today when I decided that I am fed up with all the pain and sadness and I needed my life to change because I found your channel ❤️☺️

[@AG-iy9md]

I have a narc mother. Trying to accept that she is not capable of love and doesn't want help. I have to make peace with all that. Thanks for what you do.

[@tonymaxwell1478]

Self love . Tuff love. when a narc is left empty for some time there is no choice but to create a spark. Wait for the spark and then help build the fire, but only then. the only way to teach love is self love ,. Heal you. behind every narc,sociopath, psychopath is a empath

[@wrtootsie]

the drug abuse is to calm her pain. You are worthy of love!!!

[@8MillProductionsTV]

That I've struggled with as well.

[@QuestionEverything555]

@@tonymaxwell1478 I am curious where did you get this philosophy from? Can you please point me to it?

[@victoriasofitel]

Me too. Peace IS possible!

[@CatDevald]

30 years ago, I gave my daughter up for adoption and closed myself off to any and all grief relating to that experience (although I didn't realize it). 2 years ago we reunited and all the pain and grief came back harder than I ever thought it ever would. I have sat with that pain and grieved the loss of raising my baby for the last 2 years. I instinctively knew I had to. I still have some very dark days where I feel absolutely drained and was beginning to get worried that I would remain stuck here forever. Your video made me realize I still have a bit of work to do to finally heal this past trauma. Thank you so much for creating it.

[@kellidottridge2599]

❤️

[@musicalmomentsbyhollytate1444]

Prayers for your healing❤️🙏 That must have been a very hard decision. May you be blessed with peace on your path forward. 🦋

[@ConnietheVirgo]

I always felt like I was alone in my suffering so I stuffed my emotions, and I never healed I guess. I thought I was strong, and that was the answer for me. I guess that wasnt true. Now honestly I have a hard time feeling emotion, and learning I was an Empath I decided to hide and just stay away from people. My guides have been telling me that I have to fix that.

[@Onthehighland]

You can't let to until you have healed. It is such a relief to hear someone say this. To let go is often pushed on you from others when you are sharing something very painful. To learn to sit with one's pain in meditation is really powerful. That has helped me a lot. However when I have given this advice to others, they repulse the idea. They think they can’t do it.

[@namastewellness]

The ego is the Rottweiler (aka Outer Child) guarding your wounded inner child.

[@CherryBerryFashion]

Oooooh, i love this!!

[@complexjanedoe]

That is amazing

[@nazmusmahmood8736]

I love the part that you explain everything in so much depth that it becomes so much easy. This video was published 2 years ago but for me i found this at the perfect time. Thank you. God bless you..

[@usewisdom2]

Wow I just pretty much said same thing. Good to know were not alone. Namaste

[@jameshayes8479]

Tonight i was thinking about past friendships and doing so made me depressed because they are not in my life anymore and it makes me feel unwanted and discarded like Im nothing to people who once mattered to me

[@samanthajane11.11]

I understand this. It's especially hard when it's your parents

[@Hissage]

james hayes , when I left my country many years ago I left all my friends and family and here in USA I was not able to connect and create true friendships. Sometimes I feel very sad and lonely because of that . This is something I need to accept and practice healing. Only then I will be open to new friendships. ❤️

[@sandbar3000]

I am grieving a past relationship. I thought this relationship was a friendship and it wasn't. And this person led me to believe that this relationship was a deep Long friendship. And it wasn't. And the Death part is so true. Not only does this person have cancer. Not only is it staged for but even without the cancer guess what? Everyone dies. And this person will die someday. And Christina you are so right. Everything dies. Pretty much every relationship is temporary. And I am not comfortable with death trade and I'm not comfortable with this person's death and you hit the nail on the head oh my God. I want to reconcile this relationship. So bad. Did I just send lighten loved this person over and over again. I'm on step four and I'm going to do it tonight 27th of January 2020

[@johnjohn3849]

Hi If you do the WORK you will discover that those friends did not let you go like an unimportant person. Dig , dig , dig deeper Could it be YOU are not ONE , WHOLE , COMPLETE with Yourself? I too was abandon by those who I thought was my friends when I got sick I saw none of them. I was so full of anger, rage , jealousy. Doing the WORK , I discovered my problem was Fear of abandonment So , I give off myself to my friends , for my friends. I neglected my children , spouse , family for my friends. In so doing I suffocated those poor people today I can say this with a smile on my face but it's true I truly suffocated them so they had to die they had to leave , did you suffocate them if perhaps that's why they left? Two words that has become a part of my own self repair Truthful & Honesty Please research those words in the dictionary , as common as they are , as much as we use them in our everyday vocabulary you will be surprise how much actually seeing and saying the meaning and also too look up even the synonyms for these words can help us tremendously to make strides to make great effort and to be successful in healing ourself from the core. Those people who you thought was friends is your friends Are you your friend? Have you abandoned yourself? Have you discarded YOURSELF? Find YOU Love

[@toriambrr]

i was also just thinking about how i don’t cope with the loss of friendships well. we’ll get through this! 💛✨

[@charissepassannante7603]

So much childhood trauma and just finding out I'm an Empath...struggling being a childless step-mom and I don't know that I will ever be a bio mom or should... husband doesn't want anymore. My spiritual awakening came as a shock on June 8th, 2020! 💟

[@louisehogan8192]

💜

[@kimcrowder5907]

I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate the work you are doing. I grew up in a foster home and went through a lot of abusive situations. The life I chose to incarnate was not easy, and there are a lot of things I'm healing and working through. My husband and I don't have a lot of money, so my healing process is through KZbin, and your videos have been such a blessing to me. Thank you so much for the detailed explanations, examples, and energy you put in your videos. You mean a lot to me and help me to be a better person every day I look into your videos. Thank you so much for your time and dedication. I know how valuable it is. I have three boys I've been raising on the process of healing my past, and the goal is to be a shining example to my children that no matter what you go through in life nothing is too big to overcome and heal from. I went through a LOT OF abuse from sextual, emotional, and physical, so there is a lot of work to be done, but the journey has been underway for a while. I recently found your channel, and you have helped my perspective to change. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. You are an angel for me. I appreciate you.

[@inneralignmenteducation]

My dad always got frustrated with me and commanded me to "just let it go and move on" bypassing my pain, so that was always a trigger to hold onto it! It's mine, it's real, it matters.. now I see the way it's supposed to be soothed and released with honor and respect. 🙏💚🙌

[@starscott22]

“Ah yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it.” -Rafiki

[@nesrinmarshmallow3137]

I can't believe this only has 10k likes :/ I watched a lot of videos before this one but they were so unhelpful. Mostly because they completely disregard the step of healing and just tell you to focus on the present. This video made me subscribe and made me change the way I see myself and the healing process. Thank you. I needed to hear ALL of this.

[@catherinealvizo7928]

As Rafiki says: "Yes, the past can hurt but you can either run from it or learn from it." Our experiences make us who we are.

[@gracehouse3662]

While listening I cried for so many reasons but at the center is body image... the fat fight that has consumed my life since early childhood now I’m 65 yrs. what would my life choices have been if I had loved myself all this time? It’s so overwhelming I can’t breathe when I think of it.

[@Maadthreads]

This really resonates with me. Thank you so much for sharing this, and I hope your journey is going well! Sending my love ❤️

[@Jana-zp4to]

🙏❤❤ Thank you ! Story is too long.Been mad, sad etc since i was a child. Also been an adult since I'm 7 to keep peace and make sure everybody was happy. Generalized anxiety since I'm 20. I'm 43. I'm gonna do this, i can and i will heal others. Forgiving or sending light doesnt work. Always comes back to the surface Again, thank you so much.... Love and light! 🌟💖🌟

[@wrtootsie]

Jana know you are not alone. love to you

[@adelitao3701]

May I suggest a book? The disappearance of the universe by Gary Renard. It actually does deal with forgiveness, but not our idea of forgiveness. More of a healing kind of forgiveness, forgiveness of the self. It's been an eye opener for me. Namaste 🙏

[@menee_zay]

Thank you Christina. I’ve been carrying mental verbal emotional childhood trauma/wounds for most of my life not even knowing it and it has caused me lots of suffering and sorrow. I have committed to healing. This video has shined a lot of light to healing. I started crying in the middle of watching the video. Thank you so much. I know healing is a journey, days weeks months I have no idea but I’m committed to healing. 💚

[@shelbymerrill8311]

I struggle with letting go of my false twin flame. We had a very intense relationship and I loved him so so so dearly, but it was very unhealthy. To both of us. And I have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that we went from being so connected and so good for each other to being so toxic for each other and negative/hateful towards each other. Thank you so much for this video. I took notes the entire time and I plan on using this to finally heal myself the way I truly need to almost a year later.

[@tesssqueri8071]

Every you said here, is my story today; I so intend to do this (sitting in the pain ... uhh, but I know it is necessary); would love to hear how you are doing now. I hope your healing journey was a very positive one.

[@main2333]

Thank you. My family, children and boyfriend thinks i live in my past. I’m just working out what went wrong and not repeat.

[@jacquelinehunt159]

Yes, this is what I have been doing too. So MUCH BETRAYAL thats just with family, that went on to become communal. I kept asking what went wrong. Who, What and Why? Everyone treated me BRUTALLY and would never answer me Why? The scenarios, conversations are some days ruminated or relived mostly. I never would believ MY HEART could HARBOR such hate and anger. Use to be so timid and kind. No longer have these feelings.

[@herathanytmaretamati1824]

I use to think he was my soulmate but I find it easier to not hang onto the whole soul mate and twin flame thing I’ve learned to fill my own soul with happiness and joy and not rely on anyone else to complete me or my soul I’m whole on my own I’ve been healing for year and feeling stronger I’ll continue to keep working on myself and I am thankful for your videos thank you much appreciated love and light to everyone hope you all heal well and get to become the best version of yourself xxoo

[@ceilhall8626]

Christina, I discovered your videos on April 7th, and they - and you - have been lifesaving for me! You are providing information that places my suffering in an entirely new, broader context; and that has been like air coming into a de-oxygenated room! Thank you!

[@ChristinaLopes]

So glad the videos have helped!

[@lindamacgregor8039]

Wow - I'm 71 - when I was 6, my baby sister died (SIDS). My mom came unglued and I don't think anyone ever talked to us kids. She was very special to me as I had so wanted a sister (I have 4 brothers). I don't recall grieving. When a 'Havening' therapist asked me about any major life events, I 'forgot' to mention this, as well as 'forgetting' the many other traumatic events that involved growing up in an alcoholic home. I think I was still protecting my family (at my own expense). Listening to you, has me weeping with a sadness/pain that feels limitless. I will follow the healing process you've shared.

[@ruthiemergerson9922]

Hi, My is Ruthie Mergerson, My Ancestor led me to you, so i have been watching you on u-tube. you are the answer to everything i need. let me tell you a little about myself I'm a 58 years old Black woman that never have anybody to understand me . even when i was a little girl i alway seem spirit but if i tell my parents i got beaten so i have to keep everything to myself. I seen and been in a lots of spiritual rein and been touch my god I have a lot of these story, i donot understand i need somebody help! could you help me! I

[@toniannebarry9831]

Hello Ruthie, I am 58 as well. It’s a tough life you have had too. Sure can’t get better than coming here! I know that Christina will guide us both in the right direction. I am also here as a friend.

[@toniannebarry9831]

Hey Ruthie, It has been a little while since I last sent you a reply, haven’t heard from you, doesn’t time fly so fast? I do hope this means that you are keeping well? Keeping you in my thoughts and wondering if you were happy with the recent result of your current Voting over there in America? We were voting here too for our local area’s election yes I am happy with our result. I look forward to your reply if you are able to, no worries if not, I will try again as I would like to let you know, that we are all here for you, no matter what. Take Care Ruthie. Xx

[@briandonovan5687]

Yes ur right on point with this. I tried for so long to let go of that stuff. It wasn't until I learned what I got out of it that it just melted away. Years of pain gone in 5mins when I realized what it did for me

[@kritisabharwal7138]

Thank you my guardian angel... you appeared right in time to get me through my painful time... ur video popped exactly with the topic i needed to listen the most about! Sending you much love and good wishes for your life... i wish i cud see you sometime in this lifetime! Stay blessed!

[@ChristinaLopes]

Thanks so much!

[@mollylima6477]

I just finished listening to it twice, I felt the pain of abandonment n understand why the ego I have for many years which was self protection from my early childhood, as 5 years old, being alone on streets n sleep with a fearful feeling of potential hurt by uncle, I had to pretend I am still awake, ... I finally had some unwinding, saw Christal shinny birds flying n bring love to other souls have similar experiences like me, now my whole body is tickling, wave of new energy is flowing, what a great self healing experience, I love it! Thank you Christina! You are a true healer too!

[@JiKimm]

Wow. Christina. I woke up from a nightmare and wondering why these past demons are still in my dreams. And not only did you answer my question but gave me solid steps to work through it- the universe never stops to amaze me! I have to heal all of the above- past relationship, childhood trauma and an incident with someone that i considered family that had left me in extreme pain. Thank you, i fully commit to healing 🙏💛

[@mirnatje10]

When I was mentally abused at my parents home. I had my two little sweet guinea pigs. They were everything to me. They made me feel so much better. They gave me unconditional love. But when I did get out of there to live on my own. I couldn't take them with me. My parents didn't care for them and that hurt me so bad. They were getting way to fat and nobody clipped their nails or something like that. So eventually I made the decision to bring them to a beautiful day care. And I miss them so much. This video let me go through the healing right away. I have cried so hard. And because of this video I embraced it, instead of pushing it away. So really thank you for that

[@kristinaburkhardtzakariase4722]

I'm currently healing my wounds with my deceased father who stopped all contact with us when my twin sister and I were just toddlers... I know he loved us and was dealing (or not dealing) with his own wounds and challenges... this doesn't excuse his abandonment and just allowing myself to feel the feelings and let my emotions be without changing them or dismissing them is helping big time. I've been going through waves of intense anger this last week, sadness and peace all weaving into one another. I loved that you say that Letting Go is a bi-product of healing... this is so good... thank you!

[@barefootbeachgirl4299]

I'm so glad I found your videos. I was also molested as a child, but by my biological father. I was smoking weed with my ex boyfriend and the memory came back. It's been over a year since my memory came back and now I will no longer bypass healing. I am committed to healing now. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. You are very inspirational. Much love and blessings. 💕😊

[@timeaftertony5247]

When you talked about the double E's, I cried. I don't know what my trauma is yet, I've pushed it down and out for so long but the way you talk about grieving sounds so beautifully inviting. I commit to engaging and embracing what comes up for me to heal. My deepest thanks Christiana

[@donnaspicer8829]

Christina I was born an empath and experienced the terrifying effects of a pedafile when really young then later was raped as a teenager and in the midst of my turmoil and shutting down, my father reached out to help me but I could not tell him of my pain, then days later he died. I quietly grieved many years, as an adult ( a broken empath) became involved with a bipolar narcasist and had 3 children, I lost my oldest daughter Nisha from brain damage bipolar and drug abuse, also lost my eldest son Jazieal to suicide, I have blamed my self for years as I was not evolved ( unbroken enough) enough to raise them and help them more all the while am a nurse and helping others and can't even help the ones I love the most, I have seen my father after physical death and my son, my dreams at times are all that help me, your videos have been helpful in my quest for spiritual enlightenment , their are so many of us that are empathic. And hurting out here I would love to connect with some so I know I am not alone, thank you so much for what you are doing...Donna

[@NateLance1L1L]

Gah, ridiculously broken Empath here >_< I'm going THROUGH the healing though, I am accepting the pain, and feeling it most deeply

[@LandofOzOfficial]

2 years later, & still every single video of yours I watch cause the type of tears that only ones soul can create. Quit making my soul cry Christina!😉🤧❤️‍🩹

[@julietavolta]

I really want to hug you right now. I’m crying and processing everything you said on this video. Change is good, death is good, endings are good. I’ve lived all my life thinking of them as my enemy but now I realized that they should be my alley to something better. Thank you so so much! ❤️

[@jerryredmon9838]

Growing up, we didn't live in the greatest of neighborhoods and I spent a good bit of time at home..alone. I can remember as far back as 8 or 9 and jt being pitch black outside and all I want is for someone to come home. Now..when someone I want to spend time with..in order to get to know them, understand them and love them. I take it more personal than I should. Awareness, meditation and YOU! Young lady..have helped. Thank you!

[@theself5738]

What an incredibly deep video. This SO resonated with me. In an ayahuasca ceremony this year after my spiritual awakening, I found out that my mother tried to kill me when I was an infant of around 2-3 months of age. I went to peru and did a lot of work with San Pedro. My family was completely unsupportive of me and basically turned on me like I was the traitor to the family for exposing this family secret (which was also ancestral). But there was evidence and my mom had admitted it to my sister. Now, my family has gone back on their usual track of forcing me to get married and I tried to hurry up the healing process so that I wouldn’t attract narcissists anymore. But now I realize that I have been abusing myself and forcing myself to get over it because that’s what my family told me to do. That’s not compassionate at all! I need to slow down and truly focus on my healing, and to hell with my family if they don’t understand

[@adrianaluiza3466]

Hi Bubba where can we find Sand Pedro please 🙏😇 thank you very much ❤

[@usewisdom2]

Great for you. Thank God your mother was unsuccessful in her intentions. You are healing. Stick with Christina lots of learning and healing. Blessings and lots of love to you. Namaste

[@teddyboef2821]

Thank you so much❤ I have been emotionally bypassing without knowing it. I labeled my childhoodtrauma as drama from the ego not deserving of love and understanding. I have not been grieving my past. Now I have been living more from my heart space I understand the ego is just my wounded inner child who was trying to protect itself. This video is very helpful for my healing proces. Thank you❤

[@bibiurri]

You're amazing and I love that every time I'm struggling with something the universe answers my cry for help with your videos. It blows my mind every time. Thank you for all your help! Obrigada!

[@ChristinaLopes]

Thanks so much! So glad the video resonated!

[@karensheridan924]

Exactly me too!!

[@indiracamotim2858]

bibiurri - é verdade. Your comment is exactly what I thought of this morning when I thought of Christina and her work.

[@bibiurri]

Few months ago I watched this video and learned a lot from it, but healing is not done in one day, at least at the stage I’m in, so the universe reminded of it. I’m still struggling to “let go” of the situation that brought me here in the first place and I’m finally understanding that it still has many lessons for me to learn and that I learn them as I’m ready for them. Once again, thank you so much for your teachings! You’re truly inspiring. Beijinhos!

[@Alfieruben-j1l]

So much nonsense on the internet, so to listen to refreshing genuine sincerity and real help here is a joy to behold. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you 🌺

[@klairef983]

Just the words Let it go brings up resistance & sadness in us...As it means loss of some kind...That is why we hold on to emotions & people & clutter...It gives us comfort love safety security in Life....

[@lauraveselovsky1177]

I am still deep in the healing process from severe and chronic childhood sexual abuse. I want so much to just move on and get back into the world and do work and earn money, that I get frustrated. Your videos have taught me so much and make so much sense - they speak to me from a truth place - that I am less frustrated and more hopeful that I can heal this and move into my spiritual work. Thank you!

[@her4959]

before even watching your video I want to tell you something .. I loooooooooove you beautiful soul 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@ChristinaLopes]

Thanks so much!

[@minakshirajpoot2009]

You are gift for us who is struggling . God bless you .

[@Fearless3581]

My whole heart says thank you. Your videos are everything right now. I am struggling to let go of sexual and physical abuse.

[@rosiesbitsandbobs4085]

Spot on, as a child I have physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and religious abuse and I’ve been doing similar to what your saying for over five years now. Lots of the sexual abuse was repressed from 3 years old, and no memory, only nightmares flashbacks, depression, you name, I suffered it until I was 57 years old, and left my birth country away from triggers. I leaned to meditate at 37 years old, and I did 33 years of meditation, it didn’t stop the yearly depressions, but I awaken to my truth, and I thought my past is behind me. How wrong was I. Ascension happened took over my life, took away my work as a therapist and I purged for a year and a half daily, walking by the beautiful meditaranisn sea, and at home I started finding out about my inner child, by writing at first who I saw in a dungeon covered in an army blanket. Over the 18 months I got to know a little girl, who hated her persecutors, wanted revenge, by carrying on suffering to pay her persecutors back although deceased. This brought me authenticity, self love and respect and the determination never to neglect my feelings again. Married to a Narc, (all I’ve ever known from childhood) I stood my ground, and gained respect, although my Narc hubby found other ways to pay me back, still does. Lol. I’ve been trying to get people to see we have to heal, by parenting ourselves, and feeling the feelings, crying the tears, and supporting our inner child as you are doing this. I have conversations with my inner child daily which I call Rosie and ask her how are you feeling. I worked on my process over five years now, as I said and I maintain it, and any sad, fearful, feelings etc, I stop what I’m doing lie down, and give her 100% of my attention, as you would a three year old who’s hurting. I did one yesterday, it was so painful, I felt suicidal, but I kept supporting, holding, rocking her, telling her I love her.I purged for over an hour and a half, heaving my gut up. Today I feel so much better, like you said you did, full of energy. I know there will be more, I’m 73 now authentic, and self loving. After doing this work I can’t help have the same love and compassion for anyone suffering, so I love what you call Tonlin. Love is the answer. Thank you for this! It’s a Wonderful video and I will be sharing it!

[@dpurplepalm]

This has been SO insightful. I commit to the process of grieving and truly healing. Pray for me y'all because this is so difficult but I know I can do it. Thank you. Ill pray for you too.🌹

[@ericarand496]

I started watching your video on synchronicities. I stopped halfway because I thought I never get synchronicities. Then I saw this video in the sidebar and the title called out to me as I’ve been battling letting go of a twin flame relationship. Ironic? Haha.... Two lessons learned! I DO receive synchronicities (being led to this video) and I need to grieve!!! Thank you so much!!!

[@mariiannamoon5027]

You are amazing!❤️ So well explained... healing is crucial....I totally agree👍 During my spiritual awakening (3 years now) I’ve worked on trauma and childhood abuse, and many times I thought I actually did let go. But no... after a while similar feelings and thoughts came up again. A shaman told me that healing can work like an onion. We peel off layer after layer, and we heal what we are able to (ego) in the moment. We get awareness and heal again. That is my experience. I’m thankful every time🙏 I also liked your death and birth explaination. I resonate again... however I don’t think it is easy😬 For me this would suggest that I would choose a lot of new ways of living. It is still scary (ego), but I’m working on it. I argue with my ego and calm it down. This works for me as well... and I need to do this slowly, because I’m an empath and my sensitivity react promptly if I try to rush it. Do this in your own time and in your own way, and listen to your body and thoughts. I’m still not done.... still healing. And I have intuitively done healing in many of these ways you mentioned. Thank you for reassuring me❤️❤️❤️ THANK YOU🌹🌹🌹

[@usewisdom2]

Great message

[@maggieroberts3450]

YOU ARE AWESOME . I have been through alot of different kinds of abuse . childhood sex assault when I was 5 . I feel quilty because my gut was telling me it didnot feel right and I could havenot been there .Iwas born with health issues and I have hated and hurt myself and let others hurt me too .I didnot want to be a sick kids that people looked at and treated me differently .I have worked at jobs that were too hard for the body I have .I am now 56 , off work due to mental AND physical breakdown . I am mentally afraid on the mental disabilities and the injuries that I have from doing jobs that were hard on the body because I wanted to show myself , I could do it . I have to forgive myself for hating me and heal because other people her me but I should have not let them treat me so bad. I look forward to learning alot from your teaching. I am learning to love me and be my own best friend . thank you

[@PottieMar]

Thank you for putting my experiences and what I try to teach others about loss and grief into words. I did not know how to explain what I did to heal after the loss of my child, yet I knew it was possible to get to a good place once again and not to live forever in that painful state. I befriended my emotions and sat with it on many occasions. Grateful to know that I instinctively did the very thing that pulled me through it all.

[@ChristinaLopes]

I'm sending you so much love on your journey. All will be well.

[@macinamariejohnsonstanfill2714]

Christina I started to cry as soon as you started to talk about the grieve of the past to start anew life. I guess this is what is supposed to happen I've been with my twin flame soul mate for 100 + years we were soul mates in our past lives and IV been with him this July 19 years in this physical life. We are currently going through a growth period. It must be. We are separated I needed to find myself n find my perpous in this life. Little did I know I'm a light worker a health coach a sensitive. Maybe more. I didn't even know that's what I was one day presently a younger kid came to me n said he was drawn to me he could feel my energy from my drive way. I had no idea who he was but by the time he left he shook my hand 7 times n hugged me for the conversation . I helped him heal some of the deep trauma he had been carrying with him for a long time. That felt AMAZING. It came natural to me to do this you should always follow your heart. I suppose half the journey is to heal yourself along the way. This is exactly what I'm doing. GOD BLESS YOU n All you do for humanity. I know you've done an AMAZING job on me through you teachings. Again THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE to the world 🌎. AMEN

[@user-cq5mr4vn5f]

This really resonated with me. Thanks so much for this video♥️♥️I am sitting in the healing process of trust/jealousy already for 3-4 years. I had the dark nights part, I had seizures, I closed myself in the cabet crying, shaking (seriously😅... so childish). But now I am like: "Let's get this mess clean. Let's get this done. Let's go. Let's do this. The sooner I commit the sooner it is behind. Let's get through it, so in the furute this pattern will not be in my way anymore." And it is sh*tty, and it feels like bahh, 🤮 but I have to do it, I have to get it done so I can serve in my purpose, finally!"♥️

[@pure-pisces9470]

Thankyou so much! I wish that people who have had not been through trauma or have no idea are so quick to say "oh let it go" Especially when it is in your body, chakras & as you say deep inner wounds - Especially unconcious!

[@indiracamotim2858]

Christina, I really don’t know how to thank you for your guidance. I really feel like crying for finally having found someone who is actually talking directly to my life journey. Thank you so much for showing me what I have to do, in order to heal. So much gratitude for what you do. 🙏🏽🌹♥️🌹♥️🌹🙏🏽

[@KonSICKwence]

Thank you. I needed to hear this today. I clicked on this video because 44 is a number my guides use. I love you, beautiful soul.

[@belindamokgethi1546]

Dear Christina, thank you so much for sharing this. Coming from a childhood with an abusive mother who took out her frustrations that my father inflicted on her on me, I could not be happy unless she was. This made me shut off my vulnerability completely, to the point where I strictly gave myself two seconds to cry even when she bruised me. Along the line she realized on her own what she was doing to me and changed completely, and so I forgave her long before she verbally apologized. I've just had a huge fight with my soulmate, and I think we're in separation right now. Our relationship has been triggering for the both of us especially in recent months. This is particularly because of how we've both had to be vulnerable in order to make the relationship work, and now that vulnerability has opened a can of worms that was bypassed instead of being faced healthily like you've advised in this video. I Thank my spirit guides for leading me to this message. God bless

[@janelle9493]

Yes we can't jump over things, we must go through them. Its not about the destination it is about the journey.

[@omnilawrence5792]

This helped me so much. I had no idea how many emotions I had built up inside me. I always had friends telling me that "it was okay to let go" and I was like "I am, I am. I let it all go" but really I was just pushing it away until I couldn't see it anymore but they knew because I would get so emotionally over the littlest things. Which I think was a mixture of being an empath and having those repressed emotions slipping out. I watched other videos on how to heal yourself but this one was so much more effective. I liked that you put your personal experience in there that's what really triggered me to be able to face my own experiences.

[@bridgetgray7863]

Omg Christina I’m 52 years old and I’ve never known how to do that thank you so so much you helped me so so much

[@paoferreyros8956]

I recognized watching you that the Tonglen teaching was amazing in my healing work, I just forgot it. I take it as a sign to start to practicing again, is a lot of pain in the world right now to transmut. Thank you beautiful Christina

[@jonnanilsson5303]

Years of searching, a couple therapists, reading and not even ONE really good advise, a sort of explanation or how to. And all that was needed was a video here! Thanks, this was the best i've heard! Noticed that just change the word 'Let go' gave a great relif. Dysfunctional parents, abuse, was a lot but I think I solved that years ago.But not everything apparently, must been something left to learn. Recently, abusive relationship with a narcissist

[@gefiltefish2000]

One of the most amazing , compassionate , insightful and practical video on healing past trauma ! Thanks Christina for everything you do 🙏🏽

[@skyebrackpool147]

My brother, my only sibling, died of cancer when he was 23 (20 years ago). It's often been a painful road, but your explanation here is the best I've heard. Such powerful words, it finally feels like healing is possible. I can't thank you enough.

[@verrandaambs9492]

This touched my soul...that soul that I discovered through this worst most transformative year of my life! Wow. Thank you Christina, thank you universe, thank you angels, and spirit guides, thank you God!!! 🌟 I have awoken, and what a beautiful, complex, powerful place this is!!

[@grandgigs]

Observe, accept, heal, forgive, release and repeat until you can love yourself. I did this every day and It took me five months to heal myself and imprint a new way of thinking. I cured a skin condition I had since a teenager.

[@carlasingalongsongsjackson6331]

I am learning to heal from a very narcissistic mother thank you for your loving advice I needed to hear that I am a very empathetic person lol haven't watched TV in 4 years .

[@kellygrayson2374]

Thank you, my Angels and guides led me to you last night as I couldn’t keep my head off the pillow, still stopped n took your test, downloaded all the meditations and activations, yes, I’m an empath, 53, I have been going thru spiritual healing for 13 years 😮 ever since, can’t stand the term, twin flame, Kindred soul to this ancient soul. I’m out of work, accounting since 17; my career n relationships are connected I have learned, and work has been brutal since the 2008 crash, thus, can’t take your course at the moment, but it’s my time, need to get this stuff I thought I had healed, actually healed, of course childhood stuff as well, but want to work with my gifts for me and for whoever I can help, so, when I am able, I will be taking that course, sorry for the book, Scorpio too, open book❤ Thank you, God Bless, and my pleasure. Love and light. Kelly

[@AG-iy9md]

Thank you for this video! I listened to it while doing dishes and immediately started crying and sitting with it. God bless your work for the good of all! ❤

[@AwakenedHeart111]

Really like how you break everything down with instructions and don't sugar coat it ! Thank you so much ❤😊

[@kylewebster7236]

Hi Christina. After watching this video and taking as much information as I could, I know that what I have issues of grieving and letting go of are: the emotional and physical abuse I got from my mom in childhood, the deaths of my cousin, my grandfather who I was a caretaker for, and my best friend of 15 years. I also have not dealt with the grief of the emotional abuse and pain of my last relationship and now I am dealing with the loss of my current relationship. So, to listen to you and hear how I have not GRIEVED for any of these things is eye opening and I am going to work on this the best I can. Thank you for this video and I look forward to seeing more

[@adelitao3701]

I'm so sorry for your losses. May you be blessed on your path. And know that they are not lost, they are more free than we can imagine. And their only wish for you is to see you living your life in joy and peace. Wishing you strength on your journey. 🙏

[@dorinazebrapaw]

This is really pretty. You posted this video here on my birthday:) I am 17 years old now. I suffered six years of bulling at school just because the way i looked, from the time i was nine years old to fifteen years old. At the same time i had really big problems with my family and really big physical issues. I hated myself allso... Childhood was like a hell for me from the nine years old to the fifteen-sixteen years. Now i feel better because i started spiritually awaken much faster after losing my twin flame that i have met few months ago. I am empath so i allways feel everything so deep. Thanks to your videos i realized that iam lightworker.. :) I think i was going through spiritual path since the nine years old but just few months ago it really speed up thanks to my twin flame and it opened my eyes so much and i actually looking on things so much different now and feel much better but i still feel that i need to heal what i was going through so this video is really helpfull. Thank you so much for doing this 💚

[@passionflower0820]

As always, I'm amazed at the wisdom I find here. I wish I could explain just how much this has helped today. Thank you so much!

[@freebird6331]

So much gratitude to you

[@edithschachinger8342]

I have been bingewatching your videos lately and can connect to everything you say, explain and experienced. You're helping me so much! Thank you for the amazing work you do! It is so important and highly appreciated!

[@karenroark2942]

I don't know if I could ever heal without your guidance I've been trying to "release" for over two years and I could not figure out how to actually release Now my life can make a turn for the better thank you so much

[@susanahamed8039]

I tried the 2 e's last night. Amazing! Where have you been all my life!

[@nicemomasmr]

Well... I read the title and started to cry so... here I am watching!

[@Twinflameshome]

OMG, you know what? You’re a treasure 😍 I am so lucky to be finding a soul like yours.. I swear you just get me, I just feel that you know what is inside of me. You really don’t how much I am happy to find you on KZbin.. I really can’t express my feelings enough. Beyond words, thank you so much and keep it up.. all the best❤️

[@usewisdom2]

So happy for you. Blessings

[@landline516]

I'm tapping my chest in tears as I fully commit to healing the pain I have knowingly or unknowingly inflicted upon any sentient being or the planet.

[@ZERO-vq3ys]

I've dealt with a similar situation as you. Also unfortunately recently letting a toxic relationship go. I was manipulated with this trauma, and they too dealt with a similar situation. I thought I could trust them with this past, as in a relationship I want to be completely open. I wasn't expecting them to allow such manipulation but an understanding. I chose spirituality at this time, to heal all traumas and ever since this "Karmic" relationship ended, I'm having to forgive and heal the trust that was lost. Accepting it wasn't my fault, I should not blame myself nor others to make room to forgive. Thank you! Do you have a video about Karmic relationships? If not that would be a wonderful video :) thank you!

[@lindsaywegman227]

Watching this video just hours after I've let my twin flame go. And I've watched so many other of your videos and 99% of them don't talk about twin flames. So the fact that I came to this video because I wanted direction on letting go of my twin flame, and you mention twin flames, it's no coincidence that this is where I was meant to be.

[@marinelalarsen3768]

Thank you Christina :) I realised, on very brutal way, that the past is a story in our mind. We keep it alive, it doesn't exist in present moment. As long as we are identify with that story, we can not let go. Most of us are firmly identified and we can not let go, who are we without our past? Secret is to be present, there is no past in present moment, and no future. And that's a relief. I learned this on brutal way, after my husband died and I was left alone with two small children. Looking back, to the past was so painful, because my love was still alive and my children had a father, looking forward, to the future was the same painful - I will be single mother and I have to face all challenges and problems. So past was giving me sadness, future was giving me fear. I didn't have choice, I had to stay in now. And I realised, both of it, past and future, are stories which my mind was telling me.

[@turawolfe2841]

When you said, you must grieve tears flooded down my face. I have been trying to forgive myself and others for years. I have never really understood how to not be so hard on myself. This is the second video of yours that I have watched. I have made pages of notes on both. I am going to follow your advice daily to heal. I deeply need to heal as I am plagued everyday about my past. My past has left me hurt in my heart. Thank you.

[@MichaelRyanEpley]

Say Ho'oponopono. "I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you." Say, "I am sorry," while holding the image of the one who hurt you in mind and speaking to her or him. Apologize for your part in that pain because nothing happens in a vacuum. They did what they did for a reason. That reason is something you did and, in effect, are still doing. This is not victim blaming. I say this as a deeply wounded empath and it is reality. Both members of a relationship are equally responsible for the state of that relationship. Ho'oponopono makes this fact very clear indeed. Then say, "I forgive you." Be specific and forgive them for what they did, what you felt then, and what you still feel now. "Thank you," is said because even hard experiences teach lessons. We must be grateful for all parts of ourselves, even the hurts. That hurt is a gift. Accept that and give thanks for it. "I love you," brings us back to our natural state. This is the exclamation on the conclusive nature of this prayer. End it properly. Next, become the one who hurt you and go through this exercise again while speaking to yourself. Their healing is just as important to you as your own Lastly, say this prayer each day until it no longer hurts. Healing has then been achieved. The wounded ego Christina speaks of eventually becomes silent when sufficiently bathed in the acceptance and subsequent forgiveness Ho'oponopono offers.

[@confessionsofadivinefemini5978]

Wow, Christina! You are such a gift for all of us! Sending immense gratitude and love.

[@deannaspringer5340]

Thank you for mentioning the twin flame pain. I let my twin go 14 years ago and have been repressing that pain since. I am working to let go of the regret of leaving him and work through the grief. We are in contact and may reconcile in the future as new improved souls but not until I let that pain of that past GO! He also is working through the issuss of forgiveness and trust. Thank you. 🥰

[@poeticjustice9649]

As soon as the video started, I knew you cried the day before and felt the immense pain. Your eyes and mellow energy snitched on you 😂 thank you for this inspiring and beneficial video once again🙏🏾 Sending Prayer, Blessings and Light your way and to everyone who is going through it, because we all are experiencing pain believe it or not in various magnitudes.

[@magdalenadelgado4035]

One of the hard of the hardest things to go through is the separation of a twin flame. I am grateful for the beautiful love I experienced in that relationship and your fourth step has helped me process it all.

[@andrewmcfarlane3274]

How are you going now a year later? This is me exactly

[@mesmer6499]

Thank you so much Christina! You're giving me so much inspiration with your videos! As I started to wake up, I realised that I carried so much pain in me, and that there is so so much to heal. Realizing all of that lead me to a defensive position. I felt like it was so much for me to handle, but there are also moments when I realize that I must go through all of this to heal. I'm starting to feel a power in me that I've never felt. I'm beginning to have faith in myself and in a superior entity and energy. Thank you for always reminding me all of that! Much love from Italy!

[@jayasurya938]

Thank you my guardian angel... you appeared right in time 🛐 thankyou so much for your contents.

[@MsBeautylove1]

Wow right on time.... Healing is so important!!! Thank you 💙

[@dhuhaal243]

I love you Christina you are gifted my ego says where were you before and my soul says when the student is ready the teacher appears , big thanks 🙏🏼🦋

[@soulfulflowersoulfulflower]

🧡 everything you said is absolutely right. I've been on this healing journey but I'm looking forward to incorporating no.4. I'm sure I will listen to this again so I make sure I stay on track. Also make sure I don't get stuck. Thank you 🙂

[@vladarodic9683]

i just wanted to say i can feel Allan watts speaking through you. Like eternal fight for the masses

[@moniquecamirand9202]

I’m struggling with letting go my 22 year relationship with my wife who left me and replaced me like I was nothing. Found herself some new supply.

[@69Faith]

Monique Camirand 💔🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@christi8488]

It's hard to understand when something like this happens to us. However, think about all the great things that the universe has for you. This door has closed for you because another one is being open at this moment. Great things are waiting for you out there. Dont waste a minute more in the past start enjoying your new journey. ♥️

[@wendyvoye3110]

That was the key word "new supply". The fact that they moved on so quick shows they haven't dealt with the things in their life. I used to be that person. I am finally realizing I need to work on me.❤

[@andreasmith5632]

Next morning after watching this video the past started to surface up and I was grieving for two days , thinks what I’ve forgotten or didn’t even remember as a toddler, uf that was something, maybe the most intensive was the one where my parents attempted to get rid of me when I was just an embro , I knew about it cos my mum told me when I was teenager , and now I see what a huge impact it had on my life till now . Thank you so so much for this video 🙏🙏🙏💗