How to Let Go of What You Can’t Control & Redirect Your Energy

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Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins

Күн бұрын

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@karensanchez-corea8994
@karensanchez-corea8994 Ай бұрын
My new mantra is “You can do hard things” Continue to remind myself this when things get tough.
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
Love this!
@LaFlame-5
@LaFlame-5 Ай бұрын
Doing a reset on my life was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I simplified everything diet, routine, and mindset. I picked it all up from the book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
@eat_pray_love.
@eat_pray_love. Ай бұрын
Who is the author?
@barboliveros
@barboliveros Ай бұрын
Bruce Thornwood
@anitaparker9831
@anitaparker9831 11 сағат бұрын
Thank you 😊
@nicolepetosa3967
@nicolepetosa3967 Ай бұрын
Worrying is praying for things you don’t want to happen !
@gina0481
@gina0481 Ай бұрын
Oh my God never thought or heard of that. You are so hundred percent right. Thank you so much for saying that I needed that realization.
@amateurnatural1573
@amateurnatural1573 Ай бұрын
WOW. Deep. I will remember this
@motivationblvd5747
@motivationblvd5747 Ай бұрын
Amen!
@kiveynen
@kiveynen Ай бұрын
Makes sense. Now I feel even more stupid for worrying at all. Might as well stop doing it, now that I think about it.
@internaltuning9914
@internaltuning9914 Ай бұрын
😮
@paulaolds361
@paulaolds361 Ай бұрын
Yesterday I had the words "let them" tattooed on my wrist as a constant reminder. I have learned about the power of letting go of things outside of my control but you made it so simple for my autistic brain.
@CharlotteGol
@CharlotteGol Ай бұрын
Love this, thank you. That does help. Funny, my brother told me this on the phone right before reading your comment
@crystalmorrison1539
@crystalmorrison1539 7 күн бұрын
My thought exactly 😂😂
@kayjay-kreations
@kayjay-kreations 2 күн бұрын
Same and thinking of tattooing it too.. got the book comming soon and also autistic
@Joannadana
@Joannadana Ай бұрын
Love you, Mel!! I'm in North Texas, where a tornado outbreak is predicted for us today, and I am on the verge of losing it. A weather forecast finished playing on YT, and this one automatically came on next. It was a God moment! Doing box breathing as I type this out.❤
@petvet1990
@petvet1990 Ай бұрын
This is what I use now when I start to worry. Instead of “what if…” I replace with “even if…”.
@chayakaufmann-Dayka
@chayakaufmann-Dayka Ай бұрын
I love these glasses! And seeing your eyes!
@Awakeningoflilith
@Awakeningoflilith Ай бұрын
Yes, Mel looks beautiful
@droy589
@droy589 Ай бұрын
Yes! She looks different ❤
@sabineuhlig5128
@sabineuhlig5128 Ай бұрын
This! ❤ Stunning, love it!
@karenflynn147
@karenflynn147 Ай бұрын
Love the new glasses but still love the black signature ones more! ❤
@notxasj
@notxasj Ай бұрын
She can be like Clark Kent and do incognito mode just by not wearing the big black glasses
@nickijack365
@nickijack365 Ай бұрын
I absolutely needed this! I now know I can give my notice at work due to toxic environment. I deserve better. I am worth more than my temporary situation. Good things are coming my way. 💗
@dedestaggs5093
@dedestaggs5093 Ай бұрын
💯
@costumej121
@costumej121 12 күн бұрын
Am in the same situation. My boss is a textbook narcissist. I have tried to get on with him but the abuse is too much. I resigned ( I have interviews booked) because I don't need the stress. Good luck 😊
@laurieclemmer3932
@laurieclemmer3932 Ай бұрын
Mel for president!!!
@felicialohnes7836
@felicialohnes7836 Ай бұрын
Agreed 💯 🎉Love this women💖🥰🙏
@williamcunningham6141
@williamcunningham6141 Ай бұрын
This lady has been a exceptional help people who are facing dangerous situations. 😅
@LUBOSLAVA111
@LUBOSLAVA111 Ай бұрын
My brother had a brain surgery and it is amazing how skilled neurosurgents are and how quickly patients recover. He was back on his feet in couple of days. Results were not good though Started treatment yesterday .So I've been in fight and flight state for way too long. Iam exhausted. Crashed today with headache. Thank you so much for this podcast.
@d-etoile5596
@d-etoile5596 Ай бұрын
Your 5 second rule is a treasure👏 Phil: happy that your dad is good🙏
@kelleyfrances490
@kelleyfrances490 Ай бұрын
A friend panics during earthquakes and her daughter emulates her because that's what she witnessed growing up. I was with them during a strong quake and simply walked outside and calmly sat until the quake was over. I showed her daughter she can use alternative ways to respond to something no human has control over. Another friend has an earthquake app on his phone that dings when there's an earthquake anywhere in the world. The dang thing dings ALL the time. It just reminds us that the Earth is shifting and moving every minute of every day and to panic about it is a waste of unnecessary energy and anxiety.
@pearlrichardson4179
@pearlrichardson4179 Ай бұрын
I am halfway through the podcast but I can definitely relate to what you are saying Mel. 10 days ago there was an accidental fire from my neighbor that lives above me in a senior citizen bldg. Instincts kicked in before the smoke alarms even went off as I smelled smoke. I was remaining calm before the chaos began, because mostly female tenants carry the drama & theatrics in the bldg. I have been on workplace safety/disaster committees so I pretty much know what to do for me. All that learning & instruction has paid off on what to transfers into the personal home life experience & I know what to do. 👍
@aema5124
@aema5124 Ай бұрын
I agree with you & others who tell yourselves “You can do hard things”. It is true! I have done it, I take deep calming breaths and I pray. Have a great day everyone! 🫶🏼🙏😉
@GBEZ
@GBEZ Ай бұрын
New GLASSES! That took me forever to figure out! lol! This was a fantastic interview, partly because it was with someone who isn't a professional you're interviewing. There is no state of authority happening, just a meeting of minds. LOVE IT.
@lidijakitanovic7853
@lidijakitanovic7853 Ай бұрын
Thank you, Mel. I needed this so much as a reminder that there are so many things we can do for ourselves instead of dreading them! Big hug for your team and you! 🤗
@CindyBennett13
@CindyBennett13 Ай бұрын
Good job Mel! I love your talks ! Keep them coming and your hair and glasses look great ! I also love Chris :)
@pamelajoy67
@pamelajoy67 Ай бұрын
A classic - and fantastic - book by Dale Carnegie: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. Originally published in 1948, I first read it in 1990, shortly after college graduation. Timeless wisdom that goes perfectly with this conversation.
@paigereynolds4235
@paigereynolds4235 Ай бұрын
Great topic! I have an illness that dr’s can’t figure out & dread each day as I don’t know how I’m going to feel. Can anyone relate? This brace & dread cycle is draining. Excellent podcast Mel! Thank you!
@WendyValles-Mercado
@WendyValles-Mercado Ай бұрын
I hope everything will turn out okay for you and your health ❤🙏🏼
@roxysheehan
@roxysheehan Ай бұрын
Thank you Mel. yesss hard time with past mistakes and not revealing the pain it cost me for the past 45 years. now turning 68 and have done wonderful things with my life, just the past abuse hits you when you see manipulative men succeed.
@ausflygirl3430
@ausflygirl3430 Ай бұрын
Another significant discussion with open, honest stories and advice, guidance. Thank you, Mel
@vinyltopia8989
@vinyltopia8989 Ай бұрын
Happened this year in may. Was at work. My mom called me and told me. Am I sat down? I said yes. She goes your dad is at the hospital at the va where he works. He had a t.i.a. , which is a mini stroke. Fast forward to now he has a blockage and they have to get a cardiac cath done to remove the blockage. And it's been very hard and trying to keep a level mind and be focused at work. When your worrying about how , what when and why. But I've been meditation and Journaling and it's been helping. Thankyou for this video, Mel.
@innerworker
@innerworker Ай бұрын
The turbulence experience resonates SO MUCH with me, Mel 🙏🏻
@joannagarrod3100
@joannagarrod3100 Ай бұрын
Thank you Mel this is just what I needed to hear this week 💕
@ClosetLady
@ClosetLady Ай бұрын
Laughing out loud Mel at your experience on the plane. I can soooo relate! I am a meditator for over fifteen years, yet I don’t think I could maintain calm like Chris. I revert to the terror of flying that I try so hard to overcome. Thanks for this episode. Good teaching points as I also have had cancer and gone through that rollercoaster again and again every time a scan or test is needed. It is good practice to realize we have no control ultimately and to rest in that in peace is the lesson and challenge. Watching our breath. Or reactions. And truly tuning into that is the zen thing. Not pushing it away. Not trying to control the breath etc.,watching it brings awareness. Watching our reactions brings awareness.
@SummerYT69420
@SummerYT69420 Ай бұрын
I did box breathing on a turbulent flight, it was amazing. Remember the pilot's rule is 1. Aviate (keep plane in air), 2. Navigate (stay on course), 3. Communicate. Sorry Mel, we don't want them to throw out the first two in favour of the third!
@vanomadcyclist3474
@vanomadcyclist3474 Күн бұрын
Thank you Mel!! I needed this today and look forward to your book arriving at my doorstep!!
@marymoeller4742
@marymoeller4742 Ай бұрын
So excited about your new book! I try to say to myself, "what can I do with what I have." Instead of focusing on what I don't have. That helps me a lot.
@beneath.the.rosesluciddrea8470
@beneath.the.rosesluciddrea8470 Ай бұрын
I just made a HUGE mistake. I'm sick to my stomach right now... so when I saw the title of this, it was like it was meant for me at this exact moment. The mistake I made was sending a very custom $280 art order to a different customer that had made a $100 order. I haven't moved from the kitchen floor yet. But I came on here to get something to listen to while I work on making a replacement. I make what I call bath bomb sculptures or treasure bombs, they are all bespoke and cannot be recreated. The one I accidentally swapped the shipping label of had sterling silver jewelry in it that was custom made for that particular customer. I feel like such a failure. I'm only 10 seconds in, but I just wanted to say how grateful I am this is what popped up. I feel so sick and I'm trying not to tear myself down, I'm sure this will help. Thank you, Mel.
@DottieStanley
@DottieStanley Ай бұрын
Thank you! Such a perfect video for me to watch today. I refuse to allow anyone to make me dread living the rest of my lifetime in a state of misery. I choose hope and faith and charity.
@d-etoile5596
@d-etoile5596 Ай бұрын
Sorry about your dad 😢 praying for his fast recovery 🙏🧠❤️
@pamelalinthompson
@pamelalinthompson 21 күн бұрын
Aging parent worries!! It can be overwhelming and so scary trying to maneuvering there all the possibilities, choices, medical concerns and the time ending with them. Where to move my mindset to do that I don’t miss all the last moments either them is so hard. Thanks much for your conversation and tips! I appreciate you!!
@erinmcdonald9020
@erinmcdonald9020 Ай бұрын
Thank you so much Mel!!! my family is going through a difficult time right now and I got so much out of this discussion and I shared it.
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
Hearing this means so much to me. Sending you all lots of love!
@kharitasnd2695
@kharitasnd2695 Ай бұрын
I'm Happy to hear my home country was mentioned and Bali, the beautiful island. Thank you for the inspiration. I happy that you enjoy your time in Bali.
@DominionAnako-bb7ry
@DominionAnako-bb7ry Ай бұрын
I appreciate it very much Mel Robbins
@PEC9905
@PEC9905 Ай бұрын
Thank you for this, I’m going to focus on what I can do and look at the next few years with uncertainty instead of dread. We don’t know how things will actually play out.
@cmaclin1
@cmaclin1 Ай бұрын
Same!
@mhegland3271
@mhegland3271 Ай бұрын
I don’t like flying over water. We just went through that coming back from Hawaii. Pilot did say it would be turbulent for about an hour and a half. I still try to not panic. Think all the things you did. I always think it’s just me so thank you for advice! The flight attendants are so great at being able to do their job. I couldn’t do it. 😊
@joancole2094
@joancole2094 Ай бұрын
Thank you for all of this. Tears in my eyes. I am a complete stranger to you, but it oddly means a lot for you to say you love us. ❤😊
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
I appreciate you so much!
@veronicatoth1855
@veronicatoth1855 5 күн бұрын
This is a very impactful and important topic. Thank you for all of your insight. I learned a great deal and have taken away messages that I will share with my closest people, my family. I typically don't add comments to podcasts. I don't mean to sound judgy but I just can't help but feel bad for your co-host Phil. He could have left the room and you would not have noticed (maybe he should have). I was very interested to hear more about his experience and insight but you didn't give him a chance to talk. I thought it was interesting that he started to interview you. I'm also pleased to know that you had a good experience during a flight where the pilot did care enough to 1. Appolgize 2. Tell you the game plan going forward. Information is golden!
@JesseCastillo-r6h
@JesseCastillo-r6h Ай бұрын
Great!! content Mel, came at a great time. May God continue to bless you.
@paulamontana9970
@paulamontana9970 29 күн бұрын
I love your chats , podcasts , etc . I listen most every night to a session ! Helpful , enjoyable , so learning - for sure ! Can you let me know about your new , blue eyeglasses ? Brand , etc. you need a colorful lipstick , something bright , with your beautiful blonde hair , and fair skin ! Thanks for all of the teaching , and my learning - it’s greatly appreciated dear Mel☮️💟❌✨🌞🌙👋🅿️
@djicebreaker80
@djicebreaker80 Ай бұрын
Thank you Mel , glad you are safe and well ❤ sending love, thank you for your tips & 5 second rule and everything you have helped me with,
@margielapresle8049
@margielapresle8049 27 күн бұрын
I so listening to her! She is so real! Rare these days !
@darnitthelma4247
@darnitthelma4247 Ай бұрын
I need this. I can’t control that I’ve broken my shoulder 😢I can’t control that the housework is not to my standard or chores are done when I would do them or that I cannot visit my gym which i do for my mental health but hey Ho there will come a time and I will get myself strong again ❤
@ambseyyy
@ambseyyy 27 күн бұрын
Wishing you a speedy recovery with your shoulder 💜 take it easy and rest up!
@darnitthelma4247
@darnitthelma4247 27 күн бұрын
@ thank you my lovely ☺️
@dedestaggs5093
@dedestaggs5093 Ай бұрын
Mel, I LOVE your new glasses! They're very flattering on you ❤
@mamaveeYT
@mamaveeYT Ай бұрын
I love how you tell a story so animated and lively ❤
@donnaevans9894
@donnaevans9894 Ай бұрын
Like the glasses Mel! They look great on you!
@katherineveras1577
@katherineveras1577 Ай бұрын
I love her even more when she speaks minion!! 💛💛💛💛💛💛🌻🌻🌻
@jamaicanqueenjamaicanqueen6615
@jamaicanqueenjamaicanqueen6615 Ай бұрын
I need this Mel, thank you,am happy you got hope safe
@erinchampagne6425
@erinchampagne6425 Ай бұрын
This was perfect for today, exactly what I needed to hear right down to the darkness here in New England. Thank you!
@phoenixdani1111
@phoenixdani1111 Ай бұрын
Phiiiiil bro, tx for sharing your story Sending healing vibes to your dad 🙏🏼
@crystalmorrison1539
@crystalmorrison1539 7 күн бұрын
Thank you, Love you and love the new glasses 😊❤❤
@danapavia-dunn55
@danapavia-dunn55 Ай бұрын
Mel - you are so spot on, so freaking hilarious and so real and oh so helpful!
@WeeCeeCee
@WeeCeeCee Ай бұрын
Mel does it again 💖 it’s like you read my soul covering this topic 💖🫶🏻🥰 Thank You 🙏🏻
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed this episode!
@nermeengeorge6221
@nermeengeorge6221 Ай бұрын
Thank you for the most inspirational person who makes me internally changing and the friend who supports me in my hardships.MEL ROBBIN❤
@lisaandmatthieu4570
@lisaandmatthieu4570 Ай бұрын
On any Canadian flight I feel like they do give you a heads up. What helped me is to learn about turbulence. Thinking of a bird on a windy day - they correct themselves like the plane. It’s scary but it’s also part of the process for the planes ✈️ I had a panic attack once because of turbulence. Then I learned about it and the next time - it was much better. I was actually helping others around me stay calm by educating them on turbulence and making them laugh a bit.
@cindiegrace4211
@cindiegrace4211 Ай бұрын
Love the show!! I think you LOVE daylight savings time for the light later in the day, and dislike standard time. We are coming off Daylight Saving Time and going back to standard time now. 😊
@trishd8373
@trishd8373 Ай бұрын
I believe. No coincidences....right ??? I will study this one word for word. Thank you Mel Robbins!!! And, those glasses are super cool on you!!!
@donnagilbert1039
@donnagilbert1039 Ай бұрын
Amazing, thank you so much, your podcasts are insightful, and very much needed😊
@moonlightash5012
@moonlightash5012 Ай бұрын
Another insightful episode! ♥Appreciate the point about requesting the Pilots to give the passengers a heads up! Also, loveddddd how Mel mimicked the pilot's distorted voice-over😂
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
haha happy to hear you liked it!
@terrysanchez5205
@terrysanchez5205 Ай бұрын
❤ I love this topic. Thanks for bringing it up
@minailz09
@minailz09 Ай бұрын
Thank God I clicked on this thankful to GOD she posted this.
@Jennafur0309
@Jennafur0309 Ай бұрын
This was an absolutely great podcast! It was exactly what I needed to hear! Also, I LOVE the glasses! ❤
@TheCuddlyme
@TheCuddlyme 28 күн бұрын
Hello, my grandson sent this to me! I'm hear to listen.
@staciarn01
@staciarn01 Ай бұрын
I just listened to the opening of this and it resonated immediately. What if the issue is that I cannot control is this body of mine not lining up with having a child? I've been through so much due to my "unexplained infertility" and I'm in the process of egg donor IVF and my monthly is late 😢. I need to start to proceed to the next steps... Praying I can listen to this and maybe it can help me line up with this intention of having a family finally ...🙏🏼
@MariaSigridLleva
@MariaSigridLleva Ай бұрын
I knew you flew Emirates, Ms. Mel 🥰 I am a proud alumni !! World’s Best !! ❤
@d-etoile5596
@d-etoile5596 Ай бұрын
Comment #2: no matter how much one can say they can go to the “box” breathing, facing an unexpected situation will make you go Gaga 🙊🙈 - The reason why Chris was stable is simply bcs he mastered his mind to react with calm in n any situation 😇👏
@dodalton1
@dodalton1 Ай бұрын
I'm so glad I found this.
@susanmacmaster5804
@susanmacmaster5804 Ай бұрын
I've had pilots give the turbulence warning on JetBlue, so I spend the flight tensed up because of it. 😂 Love the glasses!
@merin797
@merin797 Ай бұрын
Mel, the rules are: 1. Aviate 2. Navigate 3. Communicate. If they’re not talking, it’s because they’re busy working the problem.
@yvettebennett6170
@yvettebennett6170 Ай бұрын
These new glasses look amazing on you Mel. You can see your beautiful eyes. Great podcast as well. ❤
@d-etoile5596
@d-etoile5596 Ай бұрын
Your fervent listener here😇😂 I’ll be commenting on some parts of this podcast👏 Double Decker is amazing 🤩 I flew to Paris last March on one and oh.. the excitement 👏 2: yes! Please captains: let the people know what’s coming up. No one likes surprises 👀😀
@3GRC
@3GRC Ай бұрын
Thank you Mel!!!
@shinytime
@shinytime Ай бұрын
This was just what I needed , seasonal depression is real in northern Vermont! ❤❤❤ this episode, the end was so helpful!
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed this episode!
@mehmetemincelik1220
@mehmetemincelik1220 Ай бұрын
Your sincerity really hit me 😂😂 while imitating the fart sound
@Kate-ul6bf
@Kate-ul6bf Ай бұрын
The dali lama quote reminds me of the the "lords prayer" actually. Its a very similar sentiment. I quote this to myself all the time when I'm panicking. :)
@Sambhajialdar
@Sambhajialdar Ай бұрын
good video yet again, thank you love ❤️
@ladylake4026
@ladylake4026 Ай бұрын
Thanks so much. Very helpful. Like your new glasses too Mel. :)
@Iamkaylaskai
@Iamkaylaskai Ай бұрын
This is honestly amazing, with impecable timing ❤
@melrobbins
@melrobbins Ай бұрын
Love to hear that!
@regcrowder9010
@regcrowder9010 4 күн бұрын
🎉 Hi Mel! 🎉
@Ashley-nk3we
@Ashley-nk3we Ай бұрын
Love the glasses 😍
@khainguyen5076
@khainguyen5076 Ай бұрын
❤❤❤I’m here to learn English ❤❤❤
@carolgeorge6409
@carolgeorge6409 19 күн бұрын
Love your glasses Mel
@kristine4038
@kristine4038 Ай бұрын
That’s international flight for you Mel !
@patriciamurillo5448
@patriciamurillo5448 Ай бұрын
I love your new glasses
@vestaalegria
@vestaalegria Ай бұрын
“I am what I choose to become”
@crystalmorrison1539
@crystalmorrison1539 7 күн бұрын
Tatoo idea, thank you
@marymckenna7816
@marymckenna7816 Ай бұрын
You are glowing today in your podcast. 😘😘😘
@karenwhalen5651
@karenwhalen5651 Ай бұрын
That was a great episode ❤
@donnagallant1234
@donnagallant1234 Ай бұрын
Holy crap! I am on that plane just from listening to you tell this story!
@still_becoming
@still_becoming Ай бұрын
Your new glasses suit you so much better ❤
@gretchenbillings1402
@gretchenbillings1402 Ай бұрын
I generally dread winters in Montana..but this year I made a plan and I know I can leave and drive south if I do it right..
@bentleysfunwildworld8982
@bentleysfunwildworld8982 Ай бұрын
You are bringing back the aviator - Elvis, glasses!!
@Nancy-v5f
@Nancy-v5f Ай бұрын
Your new glasses 😊look grate thanks for your help 👍 🙏
@sylvia_qigong_enthusiast
@sylvia_qigong_enthusiast Ай бұрын
Extremely useful advice
@GoFishOffice
@GoFishOffice Ай бұрын
Thank you
@gretchenbillings1402
@gretchenbillings1402 Ай бұрын
I drove home in the dark last night..I'm terrified getting home after dark..my anxiety kept me in breathing hell..I had to lay down when I got home and do breathing exercises.
@KathyJamesRinker2913
@KathyJamesRinker2913 Ай бұрын
Listening to this on Election Day and trying to remove the word dread.
@LaFlame-5
@LaFlame-5 Ай бұрын
If you want to build aura, confidence and charisma, I suggest reading an e-book called 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential'. Ever since I read this masterpiece, people started respecting me a lot more. Of course, you will need to put in some hard work while applying everything author mentions in these books, but I guarantee it's going to be worth while.
@sallybartholomew5945
@sallybartholomew5945 9 күн бұрын
If you worry why pray, if you pray why worry
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