Focus on Yourself: 3 Signs You’re Giving Too Much & What to Do About It Right Now

[@findmeallways4422]

I don't expect a ' thank you ' but I deserve it. So I create a boundary towards people who don't appreciate my efforts and don't give back!

[@jessienyoni195]

Very powerful statement

[@jessienyoni195]

Very powerful statement

[@KeishaKiger]

Just make sure that before you get too upset with them that you’re not doing stuff for them that they never asked for

[@chris1806]

what if thats your boss

[@mylifemychoice_Sahithi]

Wonderful lines 👏❤️

[@Lpike64]

My light bulb moment: I studied and passed the test to hold a certain position in my state. The pass rate is less than 20% but I could have my own practice. I did it, first try! I was excited-proud- for about a month. The realized the real reason I did it was to prove to the community that I could. That im not the dumb kid they thought I was in school (40 years ago btw) Not sure what I expected but obviously no one said “wow you are not dumb!” No one thinks that, no one else remembers. Yes, I still have work to do on the childhood trauma thing. But being conscious of the why I’m doing things is a key.

[@susiecervantes4691]

Im 45. I became a mom at 17. And, since then I never paused. I didn't rest . Thus is the first year where my boundries became my priority. Thank you Mel. You literally teach me something every day

[@rlp861]

🙌🙌

[@SarahShipe]

Yesss with you here. ❤

[@ilovesketching1]

I like that Real self care is Not about a bubble bath 🛀 it’s the principles, and perspective

[@amawoobey]

Exactly

[@vanessaandrade2218]

Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care 🙌🏼

[@prasanthiganti3254]

Trust me it happens with me and many time to time

[@abarber30]

I am a recovering high functioning codependent. Was doing everything for everyone but myself. Check out Terri Cole new book Too Much. She also has great KZbin

[@ananyaaiyer5290]

It's sad and I go through this so frequently.

[@miladabravenec14]

@@ananyaaiyer5290same here 😢

[@justbeingme2t300]

I go through this also and yes, no one asked me to do all of this, but I feel all of this needs to be done. And sometimes, yes, I want a thank you or I appreciated that or some type of acknowledgement. Now, why I need the thank you or acknowledgement? I haven't figured that out yet.

[@Gregoria_80]

I couldn't agree more, that self-care is more about emotional self-care, than about bathes, face masks and other beauty routine .

[@grammylor9544]

How on earth can I explain how MUCH your podcast helps me?!?!?!? Mel this was a HOMERUN...I needed this soooooooo desperately!! Thank you and Pooja with all my heart! Every time I think, Mel cant possibly top this podcast, you do another one like this! I am truly blessed that you do what you do, we all are! XOXO MEL

[@carolewatkins1171]

Would like to heard the next step with boundaries, with family members. The tough decisions to refuse to take phone calls that upset your days, or being drawn into the role of fixing other’s mistakes. I really enjoyed this video about boundaries, keep them coming.

[@nettadebeer9936]

Oh wow…I am the one with no boundaries….i want to go to a quiet place..far in the woods and live a simple life..always wanted to do this ..eye opening..thank you so much 🙏🏻

[@snehasneha2153]

Really , I think the same way

[@mollypinto4666]

Ditto ❤

[@Tomasinasworld]

One day I just did it! ❤

[@successway6789]

Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care

[@lorenny7440]

I just found your video at 4 AM while doing some home cleaning and organizing-and I’m so happy I did. As I reflect on everything that was presented, I couldn’t be more pleased that I chose 2024 as my sabbatical year to rest, reconnect with myself, and set boundaries. There’s so much to continue doing on this journey of self-care, but I couldn’t agree more with the doctor’s statements about guilt. In my case, I sometimes have to shut out those whispers, or they overpower my ability to decide what is best for me!

[@whowearereally6494]

I have been treated like shit my whole life was nice to people who are just crappy I can’t take it anymore!

[@patriciafox9688]

Concentrate on yourself from now on You were not put on this earth to serve everyone. Be kind to yourself you are worth it. Strive to be happy❤

[@TravelMemories1410]

I understand I go through the same at times.Hang in there ❤

[@SKMakingRoom]

I’m so glad to hear the way boundaries were redefined and explored here. I feel like it’s become a way of just blocking, canceling, opting out anything that’s uncomfortable or inconvenient for us, and I think there’s so much more to it than that. I love the idea of understanding where these feelings of guilt and responsibility or obligation are coming from so that the decisions we make to do something or not come more from exploring our intentions and being conscious of why we’re doing these things in the first place. So helpful.

[@heathercrain6066]

Beautiful episode. I wish I had it 20 years ago! My 15 year marriage contributed to my Hashimotos Thyroiditis and now I struggle daily with energy and now guilt. This episode has shown me that whether it is my teaching career, my personal life, etc... I need to establish boundaries for myself and my future self! Thank you Mel for all you do and to bring health and wellness to all of us easily and seamlessly! Your podcast got me through my divorce and I so look forward to my 5:00 am walks with Henry (my golden retriever) every Monday and Thursday to listen to you drop some knowledge! You are the best!

[@chris1806]

what if thats your boss

[@brandymaas3283]

Hey there. What do you mean by your marriage contributed to your hosimotos? I also have this and am curious. I really don't know anything about it. I was diagnosed about 10 years ago

[@Tracy_3176]

It comes down to self identity. Seeing yourself as worthy and that your needs are just as important as everyone else. That self sacrifice is not a badge of honour if it goes on for longer than a season ❤And guess what? Nobody died from guilt. You’ll get over it

[@whatlifeisabout]

Great podcast. Taking 15 minutes outside of any work to walk or have lunch is not a small risk. It is a right. We only perform better when we feel better. If no one does that in a company, that cannot be called a risk that you do it. That is a default right and basic need and someone has to start. If you become fearful of your work environment or what you might loose in case you take care of your self and your health, you have lost your sense of freedom.

[@Meraba-y2n]

It's hard when we feel guilted into helping out a family member we truly love. I have mother issues and as much as I have tried to set healthy boundaries and to have the courage to say No, my heart just breaks and I give in. I am an empath and I hurt when I see people who need help. But, nobody helps me and that is unfair.

[@notnow7973]

Praying for you.

[@MKpurplequeennl]

I've struggled with boundaries & understanding what they are & how to create them & this talk simplified it & made it totally doable.

[@anitawimpissinger]

Oh god, it feels just SO GOOD, to hear, that we have to redefine our boundaries again and again. I thought it will stop, but obviously it does not. I thought, once I am „there“, they will just be there.

[@ThePurposeWeb_3]

Wow, this is so timely! It's easy to lose ourselves in caring for others, but recognizing the signs of overextending is crucial. Remember, self-care isn't selfish-it's essential.

[@virginiaglubisz5627]

I completely lost myself....in thinking that my boyfriend was more important than I was....A wake-up call! ❤

[@ThePurposeWeb_3]

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[@melindab5585]

My takeaway is all about following your intuition and feeling what is right for YOU. The yoga is such a great example. I try new things and find what truly feeds me ❤

[@kathrynenns8297]

Well Mel, just as common as others are saying your timing in my life is impeccable. I'm working through a very difficult situation with my daughter and definitely need the Pause before trying to find solutions.

[@itsmyvalentino1010]

This resonates with my current situation. I am a single mom, taking care of my 78 year old single aunt, and supporting my 70 year old parents. I am grateful I learned a lot from you Mel! ❤ We all need to set boundaries. I love watching your episodes. ❤❤ ❤

[@JLTravels]

Wow, hope you care for you too! I discovered that being superwomen leads to illness. When cancer struck I retired!

[@enough425]

Mel, I feel like I could be your best friend. I love how open and honest you are about your own life in all of your interviews. It’s always shocking to hear you because we look at people like you who are successful as not having these feelings. Thank you for always being so real and asking the real questions

[@bethdezember5796]

What a blessing this podcast is. Thank you so much❤

[@KCno4]

I went into therapy expecting that it would teach me how to NOT get triggered. I was so naive. The greatest gift I have been given from therapy is to feel my feelings, allow them, find out where they are coming from, and that I can trust myself. Mel PLEASE have Richard Schwartz on your podcast and learn about Internal Family Systems (IFS.) All the answers you need are inside you and IFS-your parts- will give you the answers. He’s written several amazing books but “No Bad Parts” is the best one to start with.

[@LoremIpsumPeach]

I love how she went deep and talked past the "doing" part. Thank you Dr Puja!

[@Tsuki7786]

43:28 Man..."the guilt is not ours" theory sounds spot on

[@donsvalencia1243]

Mel, I just got my boundary/pause when I watched this video. I think I even exceed 20mins. (1:20:02). Omg! This is my first time just sitting and drinking my coffee while listening to this podcast. AMAZING! I feel so calm like I'm having my vacation "that moment" is so special to me. I don't even think of anything else aside from me listening and enjoying my coffee. I love watching your show. I'm an ofw, I been 2 years away from my family I been depress on and off. Your show is such a blessing to me. Thank you for all the kind words and for giving us (listener) a good mindset to keep going. MORE POWER TO YOUR SHOW and to your FAMILY ❤❤❤

[@PaulDunn-y6m]

I’ve never had this topic explained so clearly before!

[@expandingpossibilities]

Dr. Pooja is amazing! Great guest❤

[@paiger.billings7351]

Super helpful questions: Do I feel motivated to tackle my tasks, or am I overwhelmed or apathetic? 19:33 Are there any situations that are constantly draining me? Do I make time for rest or am I always pushing through and gritting my teeth? Do I ask for help and actually receive it? Am I making time for things that truly matter to me, not to society or boyfriend but me, or am I constantly caught up in things that don’t serve me?

[@CoachBetsySeybolt]

Thank you for this awesome podcast! True Self care helps you move forward with your desired outcome. It’s when you make choices that help you attain your goals.

[@catherine5351]

Mel, I adore you… I feel like you are talking about me. Everything that you are touching on, I do the same .. husband in bed… doing everything BUT what I intended to do . Thank you for being you and transparent and real. I listen to you most days when I’m getting ready for my work day. God bless you. Having boundaries is important and this pod cast is helping me so much. You are not alone. Trust me I tell the truth, I was thinking that I was the only one that thought that way.. space and learning how to create it.. we can do this Mel❤❤❤

[@carlawilkinson4591]

Really enjoyed this episode. I'm definitely struggling with feelings of guilt since my perimenopause as left me with crippling symptoms that mean I can't drive or go many places with my kids. And then there is my relationship with my new partner which has been under a lot of strain and stress because of this, but also because his ex wife is horrible and wont let me be around their daughter. Not exactly sure what I did wrong, but that is one of those 'situations' that is constantly draining me. I'm going to take some time this weekend (while my kids are with their dad) to really reflect and see where I can draw some boundaries and start to work on more self care.

[@DebbysWitchyVlog]

This was terrific Mel (and team) & Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. I have just realized that I have very few boundaries. I'm always in servant mode, trying to make everyones life as waveless as possible to the detriment of my own waves. I love your podcasts, I'd love to have you on the show. We are just starting out here on YT. @ConsultingCrones is the channel, we are a small eclectic group of middle aged spiritual practitioners chatting once a week about making changes for the betterment of our second half of life. All changes. Your show is amazing! I appreciate you!

[@Liviania70]

Tack!

[@matthewthompson0]

Just read "Hidden Manifestation" by Oliver Mercer and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. Methods in this book are next level, it needs more attention!

[@AEKarys]

Que?

[@varshasharma4260]

Pdf ?

[@dawledivya9978]

Where can I find this book???

[@zeekay3205]

286 likes but this is what I found on 2 minutes of Google 🤔: "After exposing the scam surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever marketers or scammers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both KZbin and TikTok. They’re using a more […]"

[@zeekay3205]

After exposing the sc@m surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever m@rketers or sc@mmers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both KZbin and TikTok. They’re using a more […]

[@PriyankaBaranwal]

Thank you for this amazing episode, Mel! Dr. Pooja has opened new portals of thinking and self care. Love her for saying that you doing everything for your family and expecting a thank you for it is an unrealistic expectation. They didn't ask you to do that. This and many mire points she mentioned that has helped me understand self care on a deep level. And yes, the biggest take away is the WHY of self care. Thank you. Xoxo

[@ncoburn23]

This episode hit home to me in so many ways. I am a TA in the Kindergarten at an International school who is going through perimenopause while I have an 8 and 6 year old, the first of which is in a crucial academic stage in our primary school system while I still work part time remotely for my old job also while this weekend I tried to restart the Montessori toddler program that I used to have before covid by offering a pop up class while having deadlines for: my second job, anecdotal notes for my lead teacher's reports, an assignment for a literacy course that I am enrolled in as a part of PD and I have to help my 8 year old complete homework and it's already 1pm on Sunday with the work week ahead right on my heels. I am SUPER guilty of constantly seeking the escape - every week I say I am going to sell all of my possessions and live on a remote island in the Outer Hebrides and sell Caribbean delicacies to the local fishermen 😄 I definitely need to "take the pause" so I will be finding those 20mins today to read my book - as simple as that. Thank you for this episode

[@firmaforex]

The highest principle is love and you are the source of love.

[@randbhauptt]

It sounds like you have met me! Mel, we are so much alike! Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one! I did this with my kids and now I am doing this with my parents. My husband always says "this was my choice". I don't see it this way. I grew up Catholic and certain things seem like the right things to do.I feel like If I am in the position to help, It is my purpose to do it. I have tried to back off but now my parents are dependant on me. My parents are divorced, my mom has dementia and lives with me and my dad is also in need and has been since they divorced. Don't suggest therapy, already doing it.

[@ritaowens7378]

This soooooo applies to my life. Being overwhelmed can make you do something devastating. Just a few days ago i was thinking that trying to do my best, be best, and give my best is NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER AND THAT MAYBE ENDINF MY LIFE IS REALLY THE ONLY "PAUSE" IM GOING TO GET. Im a 65 year old grandmother, mom, wife, sister and past caregiver to my Mom and i just feel as if im just at the end if the Rope and i dont have the strength, the ability or energy left to climb back up the rope, so therefore letting go and dying is the Only thing left. Yes i need Help but No one hears ir listens 😪😪😪😪😪😪❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@kerriehamilton5084]

Get help you deserve it talk to someone who will listen 🙏

[@kerriehamilton5084]

We do this because we don't feel good enough and then we burn out. Please get help 🙏

[@catcolb11]

@@ritaowens7378 I hear you. Please talk to a social worker or counselor. Sending love❤

[@lindad6351]

We've created a prison of our own making via self-expectations as well as our perceptions of the expectations of others and our unrealistic perceptions of what constitutes a good Christian, grandmother, mother, wife, sister, aunt, employee, etc. And then we feel that death is our only out because we haven't offered ourselves balance and we've taught people to expect this level of self- sacrifice

[@brendaorlando1857]

I love the yes, no, negotiate options when you don't answer the phone or whatever.

[@irinaroudenko4786]

The sushi tray comparison was da bomb! I don’t have to take and reject it the feeling, I can just let it pass…

[@cynthiaericson6978]

this was FREAKING AMAZING. i am always working on learning boundaries. the definition was so helpful and Pause.

[@bestversion7953]

Those were some really great insights Pooja. It definitely changed the way we interpret situations. It made me think on a deeper level. This video came at the right time when I wanted to learn about setting boundaries or more like prioritise myself.

[@Jasmineeee-yy3ym]

I loveee that Mel was actually lowkey having a therapy session and we saw how she was aware of things she felt about .

[@Marisela-c6n]

Those last words at the end of the podcast “I love you” really make a difference ❤❤❤

[@GBEZ]

Damn. She was powerful straight out the gate. I'm so impressed with her conviction and presence. What a great interview!

[@coachnezhaa]

Wow love this episode so much! And it’s coming at the right time as I’ve noticed so many people are understanding self care wrong. I was the one lying down on the yoga mat feeling guilty that I said no to more work or not cleaning the house! Real Self care is being aligned with the action we decided to take to look after our mental and physical wellbeing. If taking a bubble bath and going back to working until late, you simply void the bubble bath effect.

[@BA-fe6nl]

Wow I love how you reflected and voiced that reflection about time you go to sleep. I followed that thought processed and resonate with it. Thank you 🙏

[@jessicag.2553]

23 minutes into the video she's talking about the reset with the rubber band example that mel talked about on a short I watched on linkedin which is totally something I need to focus on and the craziest thing is 23 is my fav number its the number for end and change in numerology and i just feel like all this is too meant to be. I love you Mel you have changed my life in so many ways in just a few weeks you are a great role model and your motivational videos are so inspiring and I thank God you have been brought into my life I love you!! Seriously and not in a weird way but in a kind spiritually healthy way lol

[@stephaniewallace4564]

As always, THANK YOU Mel and guest! I love tuning in and growing!

[@paino162]

wish i knew this info sooner cause then i wouldn't be burnt out for the past 2 years. Thank you both for educating us all in 2024. ❤

[@Emotionaldirction]

This lady explains in way ! She is super nervous ! And she wants to inspire!

[@christineclark2479]

I’ve been “doing “ yoga consistently for 24 years. It took me 20 years to actually start taking the class. When I see newbies that start at age 50-60, I fear they will never actually attend a yoga class. Quite a journey. We call it “monkey brain” Our brains jump from limb to limb with zero focus on what we are doing. This is in and out of yoga. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is be still and present.

[@annagolden]

This is great! There's a lot of good reasons why Mel Robbins is getting so much appreciation and recognition. So glad to witness these conversations and recognize how relevant they can be as an aid to understanding my own human struggles and use as a tool to help me learn and grow. Thank you Mel Robbins.💜

[@yossipovalaev5946]

This was exactly what I needed to hear. The biggest benefit for me was gaining an understanding of the emotional aspect, as I wasn’t sure how to feel or if it was okay to feel the way I did when saying no to someone or setting other boundaries.

[@ivoryhunter3734]

For all of you people telling Mel how to host. Get your own podcast or stop listening

[@GretalS]

Thank you Mel Robbins for your podcast. I saw this post yesterday but went by it. Saw it again today in my feed and knew I needed to listen. I really needed to hear this. Boundaries are a big issue for me and helped me alot. Thank you!! Have an amazing day and weekend!! ❤

[@JasonAshe-n1u]

I’ve never understood this topic so well before, thanks!

[@costelladenisegreen1231]

Excellent discussion and guest. Thank you for sharing resources and tools to improve our lives.

[@elisiaharbright3977]

Thank you Mel. I really appreciate your podcast. I will sometimes put my spiritual meaning instead of evolution is all. But you are very knowledgeable and it helps me out tremendously 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤

[@staceybicetrodriguez8522]

Wow what an amazing listen this morning!!! This is so powerful and life changing as someone who has been on a self healing journey. Thank you for this perspective that I needed to help me in the places I was stuck which is doing all the things that are supposed to make me feel well and just make me feel guilty and bad when I don’t do them and really are not helping when I do. Everyone should listen to this!

[@corinnefisher166]

27:56 Wow! The truth of that hit me hard, yet lifted so much unrealized weight at the same time! Thank you, sincerely!

[@marartful]

Since the very beginning I knew she would say interesting and worth hearing words!Thank you for proving what self care really means. Not today's world but for ever's world if we want to live well for no matter how long.Thank you Mel for thinking ahead and bring such amazing people in your podcast!

[@crocadoodle7101]

I really liked hearing her say that self care is not just taking a bubble bath…..so true. It is so much bigger than that, and so much more challenging at times as well.♥️

[@sarahjmorelli]

All the idea of self care has done has made people selfish. Not everyone is able to do all things. As a society we need to work with each other and share our gifts and strengths. Some people need help in society and we are abandoning them with this ideology. This trend needs to go. It's over. I am so tired of hearing about influencers and all their self care rituals. In order for society to evolve and for humanity to become more conscious we need to focus instead on things like selflessness and humility. In this day age people who have these traits are the real superheroes.

[@minotianand]

Mel is cute witty honest n brilliant Thanku

[@srijitamajumdar1459]

One of the best episodes so far!😇 Mind-blowing!

[@SHRee_Sh]

Bubble bath is self care of your body and mind as you experience relaxation. It is self care but there is more to self care. It is about body, mind, soul and heart, all of them.

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

I've been all about that self-improvement grind! Setting goals, staying motivated, and pushing myself to be the best version I can be. It's all about that positive mindset and drive to achieve those dreams.

[@DrNassimAhmadi]

Beautiful! As always🙏 Appreciate all your endeavors.

[@aysha.humayun]

One of your best Mel ❤ Wow you are now above the three million mark in subscribers, congratulations to you and your team.🎉

[@elizabethcabrera5718]

This was so what I needed Mel 😊❤ I love you too sweet lady 😍

[@kathyhamilton5911]

I work in a healthcare office setting and we have to use our PTO for major holidays that we are closed to keep our hours for our benefits. This means no personal days or paid holidays at all and it takes years to earn any vacation time.

[@janeg7264]

Wow! This is so awesome. Everything was explained in detail. Thank you dr and Mel. Didn’t think this applied to me at all, but it did. Can’t wait to take my 15 minute breaks and a few other things!

[@ilzewhiteman2845]

Mel, your amazing! Thank you so much for everything you do for us. Question: what is true rest? What do we need, how do we really rest? Xx

[@Reactswithwater]

This is really taking back your power and stop being a control freak.

[@Thewiredhuman-rt4bs]

Well as a 18 year old girl.. when i was 11 .. my mother had a brain tumour, i was taking care of my family and then 15 when my mom pass away, my world was fallen off.. and every one without a reason where ruling me and lock me a house alone.. and it all lead to me so many things and trauma ... and i started thinking i don't deserves thing. And ppl use to say i'm so strong i can handle everything, and bocz of that i was not able tell my struggle to my own family and it all lead me to an un healed girl. With no boundaries, selfless and all.

[@kirstenvzumba9246]

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with all of this as a child and young teen. 😢😢 It must have been so hard and so painful..my heart goes out to you.❤❤❤ I hope you will receive help and be able to find healing from this trauma. I wish you the best

[@Renata-4love]

Today is the day, start to make small changes, do something you like, take sun, no matter what! This is the first boundary and it's for yourself. Much love 🙏💐

[@vidhyais]

I sometimes ditch the physical self care just because of this, because I know I will still be the same person after the massage, nails etc. 😀 But it also has its merits even if just at the physical level.

[@patatkinson826]

Perfect Spa Day listen...just in the nick of time....THANK YOU....ESCAPING AND SHARING WITH MY PEEPS!!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😂

[@arelijordan4148]

Omg I was trying to watch this yesterday I didn't get around to and I was in the shed working on something and venting to the talk and I looked at him and was like so what do you think and he just looked at me and was like wow mom you need a chill pill. And that is what I learned from this is to pause and take a minute listen to myself and dig dipper and just breath. Great episode.

[@learning2cme207]

Mel another download episode Pudja is a well source of inspiration.

[@venijanardhanan537]

This was amazing Mel, love this episode, could associate with my day.

[@BubblyST]

People without kids are suffering too. And having kids needs to be a financial decision too- too many people complain about the cost of kids who did not consider the finances carefully before doing so

[@Create-Explore-Discover]

The timing my god, i am little affected and sponges it and ruminate it and i was like, i need to break this pattern, and it's an opportunity to really grow.

[@krishnadebyadav5733]

Absolutely good, Nutrition food is things that our body needs, such vitamins, minerals and fibre. Good Afternoon to you all 🎉

[@ethaatiempo7281]

Thanks to both you for giving your best and helping us.

[@aliyah12233]

This really brought a lot of value to me, thank you so much for sharing this, I took out my journal and wrote out some tips and tools I took from this when I’m defining my boundaries. ❤ amazing, this was so clearly explained

[@Tkpets]

Im 3/4 into this podcast just wanted to say thank you both of you for this meaningful conversation 🙏 i am so needing this im sure other as well! ❤

[@mikegainer8288]

Thank you so much! This New Year 's Eve weekend I'm going to start practicing your method 🙂

[@Mechellemybelle.]

“The boundary is the pause” yes, no or negotiate “

[@traceygale]

I really liked the information on guilt and the sushi con conveyor belt. Acknowledge the feeling but let it go by. So often I would be told don’t feel guilty but guilt is a feeling. Acknowledging and letting it go. I’m hoping this will help. A lot of good info here with this podcast.

[@EmanH-sm2cv]

Love this podcast, learned so much and subscribed too ❤

[@MamaLisa_Reads]

Mel I always think each video is the best! I swear each one hits me in a spot I really need it. Kudos to you and Pooja. I love love love you both! I will need to watch this again and again. Wow!!!

[@DP_can_ind]

Thank you for existing! Love the make you impact on so many lives. Thank you! I'm struggling with, and I'm sure many wood be struggling too, dealing with in-laws. My mother-in-law and sister in law are very manipulative, overly sensitive and like any in laws, they go beyond the set boundaries and just it becomes difficult to deal with them because they are family. I hope you make a video to deal with in laws specifically. What are the boundaries, what are some ways to coexist because I'm have to live with them coming from different cultur.

[@TheSmithXIII]

Thank you both for this insightful and helpful conversation as well as for the practical tips! I see boundaries and self-care in a new and balanced way and as acts of personal responsibility to self.

[@tracyalberts3856]

How does one navigate the response from others when you start setting boundaries of : A) you are being “defensive “ (this when you stand up for yourselfabout a decision you made or action you took rather than apologizing for it as you did in the past even when you weren’t wrong B) that they don’t need you to explain your reasons for your actions inspite the fact that they asked you why you did something. I walk away from both scenarios feeling like my boundary has been totally ignored and feeling worse because I left feeling totally unseen and feel stupid because I could not have any agency over either how I could respond nor over the outcome. It’s very demoralizing and destroys my self respect and self esteem. Is there another way I can approach these situations or another way I should respond that can give me some sense of agency? I always want to be teachable and don’t ever want to assume I’m always right but on the other hand don’t want to have to never stand up for myself if I want

[@mollypinto4666]

I'm 64 and still not able to set boundaries 🙈